Reading YOUR Toxic Ex Stories! Part 2 | Skincare
HTML-код
- Опубликовано: 3 окт 2024
- don't forget to show some love by hitting that sub button!
leave a like and comment too ;)
FABFITFUN: fff.me/SOPHIEL...
CODE: SOPHIELEE20
#fabfitfunpartner
Socials:
instagram: / s0hyuna
Twitch: / sophurrito
music:
/ marshmallow
Music by Nico Anuch - Good Vibes - thmatc.co/?l=0...
Music by Breathing Piano - Spot on the Hill - thmatc.co/?l=3...
![BabyChiefDoit - Too Slow (feat. STAR BANDZ) [Official Music Video]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/zayaxws7RPg/mqdefault.jpg)
Thanks so much Sophie! The first story is mine and I really didn't think you would get to read it, especially not actually put it in a video! I really hope my story can help other people, especially young women, see that behavior isn't normal and not something we should ever put up with. When you feel worthless, you let other people treat you like you are worthless. My heart goes out to the girl in the second story, I hope she's doing well and regaining her own autonomy and self worth. I love you Sophie! I hope you're doing well too. Healing from trauma is a life long process but I believe we can become stronger and realize our own self worth in the process ❤❤
sending you all the love ❤️❤️
@@s0hyunahey Sophie will you be doing more I got a super toxic one to share 😅
@@zoom410 yes! send it to my email!
You should give yourself grace as well! You’re not dumb, you were manipulated. I hope you are doing much better now💕💕💕
Hey, I just wanna say that I hope you do better. I relate to your story so much.
I hope that you are happy rn! SEndng you love
Crying for another person's misery is something that makes us kinder and stronger💖.
Also my toxic ex told me that nobody is going to love me except him because everyone else will go for my body and not me. I was 16-17 at that time, and i am 24 now, I still can't get intimate properly with another man , I haven't been able to fall in love Or date anyone. But I'm doing better relearning everyday.
@@aparnabiswas7812 yeah fuck that dude. im happy for you💗 it'll take a while but we'll get there 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
She is kind and strong af ikr:)💗✨
just bcz u don’t cry for another person doesn’t mean ur not kind or strong?
@@hyunjinlvr Don't take it out of context, I never said that if you don't cry then you are not kind and strong. Everyone's response to grief/trauma/emotions is different.
It's so sad people have to go through all that. But these videos actually helped me steer away from relationships like this...
Same here 😭
Honestly I think I broke down when you broke down. Seeing how affected you were by some of these stories and reflecting on my own hurt. Thank you for telling people's stories, it's important to bring awarness to this and hopefully helps people feel less alone. I hope you're ok and everyone else!❤
This video was so healing to watch and especially hear your perspective. Its so hard to find a community where you can talk about toxic relationships like this, cause there's so more judgement. I left a toxic relationship and I've been spending time with myself. It's lonely, and boring but peaceful as it should be. Relearning what healthy is and should look like on your own and in a relationship is hard. But, I'm grateful for your videos.
stay strong burritos!! don’t ever forget your worth! YOU DESERVE EVERYTHING YOU DREAM OF AND MORE!!!
thank you burritos for sharing your stories, always know you are not alone and you are very loved!!
These videos feel like I'm in a support group. Thank you Sophie, thank you girls for sharing. Hope someday I can send you my story. ❤
thank you for posting these videos. it’s helping me truly understand that my most recent relationship was more toxic than i actually thought. hearing other people’s stories and finding myself relating to them makes me feel less alone and it truly opens my eyes to how bad it truly was
Honestly thank you so much for making these videos, they really do make a difference, i was in a toxic relationship a couple months ago and didn’t even realize it till i got out and reflected so spreading this awareness is super important and very helpful in preventing a situation like that happening again, love you and your videos!
it takes a lot of strength to be able to share something so personal and taumatic, and this goes both to the people who shared their stories anonymously and to Sophie. thank you for this video sm
You feel like a big sister
YES NEW VIDEOOO. I MISSED YOU SO MUCH SOPHIE. YOU HELP ME THROUGH ALL MY MENTAL BREAKDOWNS AND HARD TIMES TYY ❤
❤️❤️❤️
Okay so I've been seeing her videos since quite few months now and her being so vocal about her toxic ex and other's exes is kinda supportive. I understood how naive i was, still am. Toxicity is not always about relationship, sometimes friendships could be toxic too.
So, the story's about my toxic guy best friend. That dude was such a fucker. Just like any teenage friend ship it all started with a phone text. And as every idiot teen girl, I was happy about it cuz of that ' male validation' shit. We used to talk till midnight and all. But when we were in school, he pays no attention. As if I don't even exist. I asked him about it and he was like ' oh if my friends would know they'll tease me and that' like dude wtf. Why would they tease u. Not like I'm ur gf, we are just talking. Not even at 'friendship' stage. I should have guessed that he's a red flag but was too blinded. Then came the final year of high school. He become much friendly not only over texts but also in school. And I thought finally everything's great. I've got a perfect guy best friend, but the fact is people hide their true self over texts. But they are unable to hide it when they are talking physically to you. I started to notice few things about him. He was always making fun of me and my interests. And my dumb ass thought it was okay. Like best friends do make fun of each other. But no! They do joke sometimes but they'll never make fun of u in front of others just to seek other's validation. And that's what this guy used to do. We've got into many arguments because of this very same topic and in the end he's always like ' okay i won't disturb u anymore, if u think i don't worth ur friendship, i won't bother u from now on '... Idk why but my dumb brain thought he is innocent, he didn't do anything, i might be having some pre, post or on menstrual symptoms, that's why I'm making such a huge deal out of it. Always i was the one apologizing in the end tho it was never my fault.
Once he randomly asked for my Instagram password and i was not at all comfortable with sharing my password. There's this thing called privacy. Some chats which are not meant to be read by a third person. So i denied. Like a straight no. And people need to understand, no means no. He again started with his emotional drama of ' u don't trust me, can't u do this much for ur best friend blah blah ' but that's enough of his shit. I just totally confronted him telling i will never share my password. And then he started to ghost me. He'll leave my msg on read, never replies on time. And this all left me in a guilt trap. I started to question myself, ' was i not good enough' , ' where am i wrong' ' was it my fault ? '. I become too desperate to talk to him that even after him ghosting me for days and saying ' i was busy ' , i used to just reply in seconds.
One day, he just suddenly texted a huge paragraph saying, ' stop wearing those skirts. You knows guys stare. I don't want boys to look at u that way , they were saying that shit and that that that ' and that just pisses me off. I don't like anyone to comment on my clothes. I mostly cover myself up properly cuz of many insecurities - body hairs , tans, body acne scars. But the only time i wore a dress, which wasn't even that short, a dude who was ghosting me since days just started to lecture me that i shouldn't wear it. Why? Cuz guys stare. So what? It is my fault that they stare? But I'm now happy that I decided to wore that dress . Cuz of that huge paragraph in which all he have written was shit, i finally saw the worst of him. I decided to just ignore him now. And that might be the best decision of my life.
Last day of my high school, i decided to finally talk to him and give him a proper goodbye, like a proper one solving all that issue. We were in a garden. I, my female best friend and him. But I noticed he was just ignoring me. He was talking to my bestie and that hurts for sure. No matter how toxic he was, at least he was a friend. At last he said something which just made me hate him even more. He commented on my biggest insecurity. My teeth were crooked. That is something very natural like it's no one's fault. But he asked me ' what is wrong with ur teeth? ' He was so chill about it but for me, this was like someone stabbed my heart 100 times. I was already so sick of my relatives commenting on my teeth. They made me feel so insecure that I used to laugh covering my mouth. I used to talk less so people won't notice my crooked teeth. And he knew it. He fucking knew it. how much i hate my teeth. I much i hate when people talk about them. How much i hate when someone make fun of them. And he did the exact same thing. I thought we could sort things out but turned out he hurt me to that extend that I got braces the exact next week after this shit happened. Braces were painful , alot. It was hard to eat properly at first. He made me so insecure that I just need to get rid of my crooked teeth tho there was nothing wrong with having them.
And here's the plot, like something which just made me realise how stupid i was. Which made me curse my existence. My best friend, female best friend, she told me after like 5 or 6 month after all this was finally over that, that guy, that ass hole was her ex. They dated in middle school's final year. I wanted to just kill myself at that point. I do feel betrayed that she told me this after like so long. But that thing was , some things become clear to me. He was hanging out with me cuz he knew my bestie would be there. He talks to me bcz she used to sit with me. He texted me in first place because i was best friend of his ex. He was such an ass hole such a jerk. Like I really want to kill myself now thinking how stupid, how naive i was. This whole thing just gave me trust issues. Half of my high school life was a lie.
I just feel like i need to share this shit with someone idk why
I've had something similar happen, but I'm sorry that happened to you.
People can really be a piece of shit when all you try to do is be nice, they make you feel like something is wrong with you but nothing is wrong with you.
I know this will give you trust issues like Sophie said you need to reflect on it, please don't kill yourself they're not worth it. I know it will be hard to think positively but you have to not for anyone but for you because you f**king deserve better.
Thank you for being vulnerable with us. I personally have not been through relationship trauma so I don't understand how it is and I do have a friend that's been in back to back traumatic relationships and I admit it is easy for me to say get out of it or why are you still with that guy. And what you said is right, I have no idea how to be in that mindset and it's not as easy as it sounds. Thank you for helping me be more understanding. I hope you're doing okay and will get better everyday ❤
You don’t understand how much I love these videos Sophie! Seriously, they’ve helped me so much. I hate that women have experienced this but not feeling alone has helped me. Seeing you cry made me cry and I needed that cry. I hope you know how loved you are and how much you’re doing for us! ❤️🫶🏾 not many RUclipsrs give this kind of safe space.
Don't say sorry girl, you're so sweet dear Sophie! I was kinda teary too. Crying for others shows how much you care for them. ❤️
Sophie glad to have you back hope you are doing well and staying cool since it’s summer time and also I’m just enjoying these few weeks that I have of summer vacation but I’ll be watching your videos to keep me entertained while I do my college assignments
im loving summer, hope you're doing okay with school too
Hearing these stories is very healing for me… made me realize what I’ve been through.
Today randomly found your channel.......even though i have never been in a relationship but getting to know how people can be so manipulation and toxic by these stories just gave me chills...... Thanks for making these videos, keep making them...❤❤
I remember one time when i was in a relationship with this one guy . We were in my car driving him home (he cant drive & dont own one), i told him that i was having a bad cramp and he looked at me and said “let me put my hand in your skirt” i was so shocked and uncomfortable so i said no . He went quiet the whole ride and left my car not saying a single word & never texted me if i got back home safe that day. Weeks later I graduated while still in a relationship with him & never got any type of Congratulations text or wtvr & while the guy i was working with at a coffee shop who i barely talked to, were congratulating me with a video of him seeing the graduation live event of me walking on the stage . Fast foward now im happily married with the coffee guy for almost 2 years now and currently expecting a baby 😊 so i learnt that you never settle for less. I also hope wonderful things and miracles happens to all of you who went through tough relationships…
Thank you to the strong women submitting their stories to be told and thank you Sophie for telling their (and your) stories. I hope everybody will be able to fully heal ❤️ sending love and strength
Hii Sophie u should do a similar video about toxic friendships.
as teenagers we really struggle with these stuff also.
Personally I dealt and still are dealing with it.
Being controlled by ur friends and being attached to them while they destroy ur self-esteem is a pretty miserable thing but u can't leave it no matter how hard u try especially if u see these people everyday.
I have a bsf that I tell these stuff to her but it's been diff lately yk.
She's the gf of one of my friends that treats me like shit.
She used to treat me so so good and still do from time to time but she's hurting me sm recently and idk how to act about it I don't even know if she knows what she's doing I've told her how much upset I get she only apologies with "sorry' after making me cry the whole night because she was mad ?
Idk what to do
These stories are so similar yet a bit different to mine but still feel really comforting to watch knowing that I wasn’t crazy or alone and that are many like me who were manipulated into thinking we were the ones in the wrong all the time, thank u for making this video, it means alot to me❤️
The moment you started crying, I cried too 😭, I'm 17 and I can never imagine going through something like that, I love you much Sophie 💋, you are my inspiration, you are such an amazing person, and also do you mind sharing your red flags and green flags in a relationship that teenagers should know. I've heard it from other influencers but I think I really trust you more and ye that's it, ilysm
LMAOO THE VAPE COMMENTT
I WAS FIGHTING WITH THAT PERSON
LOOOL I SAW💀
LISTEN
please don't cry like you've come a long long way Sophie like even I cried during the second story but honestly I just wish that anyone ANYONE who is in a toxic relationship is able to gather the courage to walk out of it asap because you don't deserve to be made feel insecure or told that you're unlivable please I LOVE YOU ALL GUYS and Sophie too like please don't let a loser define your worth or tell you what you deserve🩷
that's right!!! ❤️
Crying is what is make us strong, but holding in is rather deteriorating yourself.
I have never faced toxic relationship but what I can say is that
y'all hella strong, let alone the fact that no one was there to help you out.
everyone out there and sophie I just want to say that you all are stronger than you know, you guys are beautiful and the kindest souls, and yes If you need a person to help you beat someone's ass, count me in :D
have a good day and remember you all are beautiful the way you are, and just amzaing
and *I am proud of you*
girl yesss this is why people are into skincare. they kill the fucking packaging... it's so nice to touch use and see!!!! i've had a mini or the laneige thing u got and they GOT me! i HAD to buy a full one!
yep babes hurt is absolutely NOT a competition. it stays with the person for longer than you can even imagine and words do hurt a whole fking lot even when you dont mean them to be hurtful, that might also be one of the reasons why overthinking could compleatly destroy someone because you interpret every word in the worst way possible
whatever stay positive yall
Hey guys
I wanted to vent .
Trigger warning sexual assault.
When I was 8 years old we just got a new home so there was a watch man for safety of our house he would come home and talk to us when there were no one near us he would put me on his lap and groupe my private parts and I did not know it was wrong but it felt bad and painful. Only I did become aware of it in 7th grade from bad touch good touch . The assault went for months I escaped so many times and also he would stop when mom came around I shared my story with my mom she was angry and supportive of me. He died only some years after the incident due to old age his granddaughter is my senior .
It nearly been decade but I can't heal at all
I am going to tell my father some years later I know he also going to be supportive.
Sorry for the Grammer and long comment
To all the people going through you are not alone.
Watching these videos makes me so greatful for my best friend. She saw how toxic and emotionally abusive my ex girlfriend was and basically gave me an altomatum between her and my then gf . Its like i couldn't think. It's how we're both female and she made me feel like shit about my body like i don't already get that from everyone else ( I'm fat btw) . All i wanted was for her to love me like i loved her ( still do , stupid ik ) i hope everyone heals and chooses themselves everyday. Like my bestie says "be selfish about your life i mean it's yours " and sending love ❤
I'm South African🇿🇦 btw and i love your videos
nah you ain't stupid. we all deserve someone that loves us inside out. love you, welcome to the fam 🌯💗
Love you Sophie ❤️ thank you for being the big sister we need
I just wanna say, I was SHOOK that this video was posted the exact same day I completely cut off my best friend who I used to date on and off with in the past after having a big argument that abruptly happened. I saved this video on my top playlist for another day because I knew I’d completely break down watching it right when I ended a toxic relationship myself. So, I watched it today and oofff- these stories are some really heavy stuff people have gone through. On God, ideally I wish that no one else would go through these kinds of stuff because no one deserves to be mistreated this way.
And watching this today after being emotionally prepared made me realize that I probably made a good decision to not talk to that person again because, for the past 2 days, I felt very uncertain if I did the right thing mostly because I am emotionally attached to them even now. But when I fought with them this week, I saw a newer side of them that I didn’t get to see before even when we argued in the past where I felt that, if I decided to continue on with our relationship, it would’ve turned straight up abusive not just emotionally or verbally, but even physically as well. What’s even crazy is that we weren’t even dating anymore, so even as friends I’m no longer feeling safe around them (which is such a huge sign to leave).
This video just reminded me that once again by giving me a “wake up” slap to the face lmaooo
(That guy is also a decade older than me, so what you said about your experience on that was sooo spot on)
You're so strong for going through all that dude.. 🫂 please take care of yourself and stay strong..
Hearing these stories is so heartbreaking... it must’ve been so hard for u girls ❤ ur all so strong for getting through these hard things!
Thanks for posting these videos, Sophie. These videos do really make me feel heard. Im 21 now & after experiencing a toxic relationship im so worried about the younger kids. Its soo important to spread awareness & protect our kids from this trauma.. Keep going! ♡♡♡
As a person who has a grandpa and a dad who smokes, also friends who use nicotine packs and vape shit heavier than that, vaping in videos hasn’t been a problem for me also you crying made me cry I hope you’re okay after this video Sophie ❤
Let’s start calling these people abusive and abusers and not toxic…. Toxic is when you gossip about your friend, this is something completely different
WELCOME BACK SOPHIEEEE🫶🫶🫶
THANK YOUS HAI
You have so kind and open and beautiful heart ❤❤, please don't listen or engage to any toxic message orpeople. I think you are so so cool and deserve applause , you are inspiration to all girls that lo e to hear from you.
its good that we talk bout such experiences online esp since there are younger immature audiences out there on internet who can actually learn something out of these anonymous personal experiences! LOVE YOUR VIDEOS
Hey Sophie! It's been a couple of days since I discovered you and since then I've been hooked by your videos. The things you share are not just straight cut real life stories, they are literally stories of survival. Surviving through manipulation and years of abuse. I know how hard it is to take the first step. Even if you know it's not "Good for you" You can't just convince yourself to leave that shit behind. People who finally did are real inspirations and yes it's a necessity to alarm the younger people around us about it as they are the most vulnerable to toxic relationships. Take tons of love for your good work Girl!❤❤
thank you!! welcome to the burrito club 🌯💗🫶🏻
@@s0hyuna OMG! Can't believe you replied!😭😭
The text anxiety is soo spot on.
Girl, when you start crying ,I feel my tears falling :(
This video is like a healing therapy. Went you started crying it literally broke me. You deserve so much in this world. ❤
Damn… this honestly really helped me realize how toxic my past relationship was. The way I felt everything you said so personally, I’ve never felt more heard and understood in my life. Maybe I’ll write a submission soon too hahahhaha.
always try to take out some time because I’ve been pretty busy lately just to watch your videos sophie and honestly seeing your cry broke my heart :( tho I appreciate you empathising with all these toxic ex stories , you’re definitely a great person , big hugs 💕
I really will give u hug cause the heart u carrying is so warm 🤍
Sophie you and everyone who has gone through a toxic relationship are so strong! You are an amazing person, I send you a big virtual hug 🫂
These stories absolutely break my heart for these poor young girls. I've definitely had my own experiences with guys making me feel inadequate and ugly, but to have someone actually be this level of evil to you? Especially as a 15, 16 year old girl? Y'all were babies! I cannot imagine. I'll never understand why people feel the need to bring another human being down so much, it's disgusting. You know, they say that hurt people hurt other people but I'm learning it's no excuse. I'm sending all the young girls going through a relationship like this big hugs, and I truly hope we all leave these nasty mfkers and live our best lives. We were all crying together for this one, and that's okay. ❤❤
Thank you to you guys who're sharing these stories, thanks Soph for reading these stories. We're all healing together❤️🫂
I’ve never been in a relationship or am sexual active in my 21 years of life. Even though I have never felt these emotions, I know pain in other ways.
About my love life I had 3 dates in 2019 when I was 17, one in July, October and December. The first two were pretty chill I enjoyed them we were in open space and outside with other ppl around. The third one me 17 him 23 we started with texting on social media. For the first date with him, I went to meet him at a train station I don’t know a lot of and is remote and not a lot going on. His car is at the car park at the station so I thought we would drive somewhere to go and eat something. Well he switched up he started kissing me forcefully, I remember my teeth being shut and he tried shove his tongue inside. He grabs my cute little b cubs and touches my upper body whilst trying to eat me up. He took my tiny cute hands and placed it on his crotch then I quickly snapped out of it and said no, he got started and I left. I got the train back home I did have to wait in the cold for the next train. My dad who knew I was going on a date wondered why I’m back so soon and I just said I didn’t like him and it wasn’t for me. Me and my watched tv and I pretended like it never even happened. But it broke me inside but I’m happy it didn’t escalate to much.
So about me I have always fantasised about first love, holding hands kissing cuddling doing lovey dovey stuff with my firsts boyfriend and him eventually being my first. But ever since that happened, I’m afraid to meet new ppl (men). Since then I have never been on a date. Every now and then there are ppl trying to get to know me but I never keep them bc my standards have become even higher. I want to meet a man who will value my first just as much as I do. You might think of it as cringe or naive but I’ll rather be that than being active in this hyper sexualised society.
thank you so so much for sharing these vulnerable stories sophie!! love your channel and personality bc everything feels so raw and from the heart. i hope you as well as everyone featured can heal from these instances!! 🫶
all I wanna do right now is give you a big hug .To be honest this is the first time i have met such a person who is so pure and honest and only after watching one video i feel so connected ansd somehow consoled, i could actually realte so welll how randomly she comes up with all these stuff and becomes that one person whom we try to find in our whole day when we are going through some s**t.Thank you so much for sharing these stuffs. May you always be happy and I will be always rooting for you.🤗🤗🤗
Thank you for not editing this video!! I absolutely love you, and I'm just on my second video of you.
Your energy is just infectious, and I look forward to seeing more of your content!! Thank you, Darling 😊❤❤❤
ik this is besides the point of the video but watching her vape is so satisfying for some reason 🫠
New subscriber here! The moment you read the second story, I broke down into tears at the exact time you did...I am glad RUclips recommend your video, WHICH I really needed to see. As my life is not so good, I sense and feel others' emotions even if it is through texts, or calls...Hearing your perspectives on these toxic exes stories, is very open for me, Not that I want to just listen, I actually just relate so much with the second story but it was not really with exes, but it was with family's family sides relative (toxic) Thank you for still reading it thru... It is hards to read and I relate so much, Sad to see many of us are silent in reality, but One fact is true, There is always someone who would understand you so much, and Actually relate to their story, and I just wanna say, I am proud of where you are these days. Just a reminder, You are not always alone. And speaking up and taking action against something which is mentally or physically torturing you is not an weakness, It is a special ability, you have. Stay strong!
your so kind like an angel QUEEN these stories help me so much thank you so much .
Ayeeee you're back!❤❤ I love watching ur videos☺
Thank you for doing these videos Sophie! You are so strong and by doing these videos, I feel like alot of people can relate and are able to open up to you as an anonymous. Just saw your toxic ex video (your first video) and i am hooked! That's why i am here on this video. I am so happy that you are doing better now and out of those toxic relationships. Also, keep vaping in your vids cause I vape whenever you do! 😅 Its Those stressful moments/ stories.. Big Hugs to everyone who are going through a tough time ❤ Just know that you are enough!
on the ping of the texts you receive creating an immediate anxious spike: look up Pavlov’s reflex. Pavlov was this scientist that proved that if a certain stimulus (like a sound) is repeatedly followed by an event (receiving an angry text for example, but it can be anything), the brain starts associating the initial stimulus with the anticipated/expected mental/physiological response (here: stress, tension, need to flee, idk)
I love this content
I did my whole skincare and make up routine while listening to it
I wish it was longer though ❤
Why?
Because you had a toxic boyfriend too?
Funny how all of you loser's ex boyfriends are toxic.
All sorts lies and bs
hi sophie! first of all, i LOVE your videos and they give me a lot of comfort. i would love to tell you about my stories as well, but they’re not about toxic exes. because i’ve had none before. i’d rather want to give you a story time about my toxic parental/family. do you think you could start a series for toxic parents?
Thanks for showing us the vulnerable and empathetic side of you ❤ (I’ve been watching all your vids but decided to comment instead of lurk this time 😂)
speaking of ex stories… my (also korean) ex broke up with me to move to vancouver (we were LDR but i guess it was too much for him) and im pretty sure he cheated on me too lol… if u see him can u fight him for me 😭 you’re doing great work, thanks for always sharing such authentic content!
email me his photo ;)
@@s0hyuna omg you replied to me!! hehe ty, truly made my whole ass day! just watching your videos brings me joy :D
8:34 - "This is not a vibrator." - sophie, 2023
OMG MOMMY POSTED!!
OH MY I BROKE DOWN TOO THAT WAS DEPRESSING. HOPE YOU'RE AND THAT PERSON IS OKAY
I just accidentally came across your channel and im so glad i did love how you talk about something so important but so little talked about ily sm just based of this vid man and i hope you can feel better🩷 it breaks my heart that you aren’t feeling too well, hope you ❤️🩹
Welcome back SOPHIEE :)
HAII
lol i read the title as "reading your toxic skin care stories" 😭😭
To the second girl “ you are the most patient person I’ve ever heard of “ Cus what??😒😒
thank you for this video i have been having some anxiety today and my mind is running wild and i just randomly found this video thank you🦄
I just wan to say thank you for making this video I had 2 ex boyfriends who excatly like those exs in the story I've come a long way from how I used to be but what they did and said to me is still with me to this day.
Honestly these stories are heartbreaking i hope each and every single one of you happiness...true true happiness cause you deserve it omg and SOPHIE 😆You're doing so well I'm so proud of you man keep going, i don't know what's stressing you out but i hope you know I'm rooting for you ✊. Also just wanted to touch on the whole difficulty leaving toxic relationships thing, its really...really fucking difficult don't let anybody tell you any different and speaking as someone who has a toxic relationship with a family member (i.e. Family drama) it can be really hard to just take a breath and walk away so give yourself a pat on the back if you do because that shits fucking awesome. so yeah thanks for reading this bye 😁
thank you sophie for this video actually this my first time watching your video but i really love it bc i had that feeling but it wasn't from a ex bf and it was in a worse way but i hope you girls take care of yourself and end any toxic relationship that you get tired of love you guys💗💗
Hello, Sophie, I want to say this I am so sorry to hear your life story and other people's stories too. I saw your video of Ex-story time. i listened and learned about it and I hope you healing yourself because sh*t it is hard out there dating other people and trying again is painful, sucks. But hey, we all learned from mistakes every time thing fu*k happens. The last thing is again I hope you doing alright and staying a positive vibe, love comfort, and grouping each other. That makes any kind of general stronger and better you know what I mean?
💜❤♥
that's what this is all about ʰᵉʰᵉ💗
I had a crush on this boy for my entire A' levels, which is 9 months. At that point people would argue it's love. Anyway, i finally ballzied up and told him about it. He rejected me. That's not the issue though.
We became friends fast at the beginning, but he was quicker friends with this other girl. She was great, I'd never deny that. At so.e point she relocated and honestly i saw that as an opportunity to take, to make him fall as hard for me as i had for him. It didnt work, and i joined the two pieces together, the ones that were right in my face the whole time, that he just liked the other girl more. So yes, i know what it feels like to not feel good enough. He never reciprocated my feelings, and we arguably became best friends at one point during thee A' levels. But all those happy times we had, those physically close times (like this time at the movies where i rested my head on his shoulder and he cradled it), he never saw it the same way i did.
21:47 I CAN'T STRESS THIS ENOUGH
if comfort was a person it definitely would be you
Ngl this made me realise all the shit that happened in my last toxic relationship and what that mf did to me it was so fucked up honestly ifstg i realised how i used to stay on my phone all the fucking day and doing nothing else except texting him and solving his shits like DAMN- but anyway, I'm so glad that i got the fuck outta that shit last year and started to prioritize myself instead of these shitass relationships plus sophie ilysm girly
Watching her is like free therapy
ur hair is so pretty omg
the first story makes me so sad. i went through something similar.
graphic stuff ahead, and sorry if some parts are difficult to read, writing is not my strong suit.
i was groomed by my ex from early 2021 to mid/late 2022 (for the timeline, i was 15/16 years old when i met my ex and he was 17), and my ex even ADMITTED to having groomed me. but now that i've gained the courage to talk about what he's done to me and attempt to warn others about it, he claims that everything he'd done was from "when he was younger and stupid" (i only knew him from very early 2021 - late 2022 and dated him from mid 2021 - mid 2022) and that he can't actually be held accountable for anything he's said and done to me because "i cropped the screenshots" and "didn't include what i said in response to the horrible things he's said to me".
for some background on my mental state (this is not current, aside from the BPD), i was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder in late 2020/early 2021. i had to go to therapy weekly because i was so depressed, suicidal, and partook in a lot of self harm in multiple different ways (cutting and starvation, which developed into anorexia later due to my ex's comments, were the main ones), and because of being assaulted by multiple family members from as young as 4 years old up until i was 15, you can probably guess just how insanely fucked up i was mentally. i craved male attention desperately, and saw myself as nothing but an object for men, regardless their age. because of my trauma, i would often mentally age regress to a younger age (usually 5-6 years old) whenever i would get too stressed out. my ex took advantage of this, and sexualized both my coping mechanism (age regressing to a mentality that is quite literally that of a child's) and my trauma, even forcing me to reenact one of my traumatic experiences with him in detail even though i had told him that i did not want to. he demanded that i'd call him by one of my abuser's name even after i'd started crying from the nausea. keep this in mind, because it'll be brought up again later.
our relationship was mostly sexual. he treated me like an object and a trophy, and would often force me to roleplay nonconsensual scenes and occasionally would have me pretend to be dead so he could "fuck my corpse". i couldn't even watch scream 5 with him without him getting horny and wanting to roleplay a scene between ghostface and a teenage girl home alone. yes, it was a nonconsensual scene. outside of our raunchy encounters (most of which weren't at all consensual) and even after we broke up, he would threaten to r word me daily. in front of friends, he would say degrading and embarrassing things about me and how i was in bed as if he had just won the olympics and i was the gold first place medal. my close friends have always thought of this as weird, but didn't reach out to me to ask me about it in what i assume was out of fear of him. i honestly don't blame them in the slightest, as he's sent people to my house in a vain attempt to silence me when i spoke up about the abuse i had endured for a little over a year.
(1/?)
in late june 2022, i had attempted to end my life for reasons i don't remember, but i do know that they were mostly unrelated to him. he came back to me the day after while i was recovering and told me straight up that i was "exhausting him" and that all of his friends think i'm just doing this to "manipulate him". the day after i had just tried to end my life. this devastated me, and resulted in a period where i gained flat affect. if you don't know what emotional blunting (aka "flat affect") is: "Emotional blunting is a term sometimes used to describe a person’s limited emotional reactivity. They may not even be experiencing any emotions to feel, and people with emotional blunting may report feeling an unpleasant numbness instead of emotions."
i broke up with him mid/late july 2022 due to both my own personal mental health being too poor to "healthily" maintain the relationship, but also because of the neglect i had been receiving at this point on top of him being too pushy with me and my recovery. every other day, he would be messaging me saying things like "why do i feel like i'm the only one that's even trying anymore in this relationship? do you even love me anymore?" some of the other things he said to me was just him demanding that i force myself to be okay after having JUST ATTEMPTING TO TAKE MY LIFE 2 WEEKS PRIOR. i had focused all of my affection and attention 24/7 prior to getting flat affect. it was not that i "did not love him anymore" or that i "wasn't trying", i was just so emotionally exhausted and of course, experiencing flat affect, and flat affect is not something you can just get rid of in the blink of an eye. it took me roughly 2-3 months before i got rid of it. somewhere in the argument, i broke up with him on the spot. he didn't like this, and started talking about how i had been "emotionally neglectful" towards him and that i was "a bad influence on him" all throughout the relationship.
now for some background on how i was in the relationship:
i constantly gave him all my attention. quite literally 24/7. i would stay up a lot of nights just to be with him and i couldn't sleep without him. early on in the relationship, he quite literally groomed me into hating doing things that did not involve him. he often spoke negatively of the activities i had been doing without him, disproved of my friends (even at some point saying that he just wanted to lock me away somewhere so that he would be the only one i could hangout with and talk to). he also demanded earlier in our relationship in 2021 that i become "dependent on him", and despite me telling him no and that it wouldn't at all be healthy for either of us, he did not let up until i inevitably caved. i should probably mention now that i never even wanted to be in a relationship with my ex in the first place, i was quite literally forced into it, groomed into thinking that i did want to be in the relationship, and then manipulated so much throughout the first few months that i had indeed become dependent on him (which later developed into stockholm syndrome).
(2/?)
fast forward a month, i meet my current boyfriend, and am slowly overcoming flat affect and coming to terms with the fact that i had been groomed and severely abused. between me breaking up with my ex and blocking him on all of my social media, he had apparently been making comments about my boyfriend and i, saying things like "today is her (my) stupid boyfriend's birthday. i hope he ends his life", "i hate her (me), i want to bash her skull open on the pavement. she's such a whore", "she had bpd and it was so hot", etc and he had even admitted to having cheated on me with a minor who was 14/15 at the time (he's 18 here). i did not learn about this until early may this year.
in december of 2022, i confronted him for having been stalking me for the last 4 months and (regrettably) got into several heated phone calls with him for 3 hours. i had to go out and sit in my car because i did not want my grandmother to hear me cussing out my ex, who had been saying nasty shit to me about my boyfriend in some sort of shitty way to try and get me back (can't believe he seriously thought it would work). in the midst of the argument, i am on the verge of having the worst mental breakdown of my life on the phone with my ex trying to get him to leave me alone for good. he's trying to manipulate me into coming back to him, using pet names that weren't his to use anymore (calling me baby, sweetheart, his angel, etc) despite me telling him not to do that because i was uncomfortable, and he even admitted to my face that he did not once throughout our entire relationship think about my thoughts and feelings on things. he then went on to lie to me about having been receiving help for his behavior (he claims to have narcissistic personality disorder on top of antisocial personality disorder, which is not true in the slightest). i knew he was lying, and from there, i completely lost my cool. i burst into frustrated tears and told him straight forward that if he ever tried to contact me from that point on, i would start putting things together to handle everything legally, whether i had to get a restraining order against him or take him to court. i hung up on him, and took a 2 hour drive to get all my feelings out. while on that drive, i called my mom and talked to her about what happened, which honestly, made me feel a lot better (i love you mom). when i got home, i called my boyfriend and explained to him what had happened, and he spent the rest of the day basically pampering me and making sure i was okay.
unfortunately though, my comments apparently meant nothing to my ex. despite me deleting most of my social media accounts or and creating new ones, he spent a little over 4 months hunting down my new accounts and messaged me at 4 AM, claiming to have been drunk. honestly, waking up at 6am and checking my phone to see messages from him was so awful. i genuinely do not wish that feeling of dread on anyone. in the first 2 paragraphs, my ex was accusing me of being in contact with his "abusive" ex (who is a kid and was also abused and groomed by my ex btw), and demanded to know why i was "betraying him like this", followed up by a classic "i would've never done this to you".
- 1. i don't even like the "abusive" ex mentioned for a multitude of unrelated reasons and make this very clear to all of my friends and anyone that knows me, and 2. said "abusive" ex has me blocked...? how could i have possibly been in contact with them?
in the next 6-7 paragraphs, he goes on to talk about how he "still loves and cherishes me", accuses me of "not letting him move on" (reminder, i blocked him everywhere and deleted my accounts to create new ones where i hoped he wouldn't find me - i was especially careful about handing out my new social media handles out of fear of him harassing me), and has the nerve to say this to me in one of the first paragraphs (this is copied directly from the message): "I know for a damn fact whoever the fuck you’re with doesn't love you like I do and he never will, he doesn’t know you like I know you, he doesn’t know your hopes your dreams the small little things you do not like I do - I know more about you than I could ever wish to know and I wish I could forget. You’re the first thing on my mind when I wake up and the last when I go to sleep and I fucking hate it so much."
and this 3 paragraphs down: "I fucking hate your boyfriend I hate that I can’t even think about you without shutting down. There’s nobody in this world that understands you better than me and I wish you’d fucking understand that. Even through everything you’ve put me through I still forgive you. I still believe there’s something left in you that’d be willing to hear me out if you just fucking tried. There’s no me without you so just fucking hear me out or at the very least let me fucking move on I’m losing my mind every fucking day."
(3/?)
i proceeded to go off on him, writing up 14-15 paragraphs worth of things to say to him in regards to his long, unwanted messages to me. i was rightfully pissed, because the whole reason i had created a brand new account was to get away from him. it was to feel safe. it was not an invitation for my ex to come and chase me down like i'm a fucking wild animal. in response to my going off on him, he started victim-blaming me, saying how i'm just "making shit up" in regards to me saying that he did not once think about my feelings during our relationship (even though i'm just reminding him of what he told me LOL). i told him that i wanted him to leave me alone for good, and his response to this was "i already know what you want but it’s extremely unfair for you to be saying the things you are when it was not just you who was extremely affected by that relationship" (once again, copied and pasted his own message here).
i will note that majority of this conversation eventually spiraled into me literally arguing with a brick wall because at the time, it also turned out he was engaging inappropriately with another minor and he was upset i was calling him a predator for it. eventually, the conversation comes back to just being in regards to our relationship, and at this point, the reality of everything is hitting me like a damn truck. i start having a panic attack mid-argument, and he has the nerve to say to me "i don't know why you're so afraid of me" as if he hasn't threatened to take my life, talked about wanting to be domestically violent with me, r word me, etc. because of the sudden feeling of reality settling in, i reached out to my friends who knew of his behavior for some help and grounding. after talking to my friends, i find out that he quite literally tricked one of my friends into giving him my social media handle, and then tried to gaslight me into thinking that one of my friends had intentionally betrayed me, which honestly, finding this out made everything worse.
now, back to the forementioned "my ex took advantage of my trauma", when i confronted him earlier this year about it a few months after i had broken up with him, he first started trying to lie to my face about it, saying that i was "making things up" and that he was actually the one who was uncomfortable with it and that i had been the one to force him to do it with me. keep in mind, this was only 2 years after i had last been assaulted by this particular abuser, and i frequently had panic attacks during the raunchier encounters because i would get nonstop flashbacks and often throw up because of it. he actually got mad at me one time because i had a panic attack on the phone with him and he hung up on me. to make things worse, i had already been hyperventilating when i had called him seeking comfort. it's still one of my worst panic attacks to this day. after i got pissed at him for trying to lie to my face and say that i was the one who initiated it, a (now ex) friend of his hopped in on the conversation to "mediate", which resulted in him immediately switching up and stopped denying that he was the one who initiated it (but not really admitting to having done it, either). he then proceeded to have a meltdown when i asked him why he was lying to my face minutes before but switched up when his friend started listening to the conversation. i blocked him and deleted my account to make another new one after this.
(4/?)
i don't really know where to put this, but he is the main reason why i can no longer enjoy being around groups of people without getting anxious to the point where i feel sick (and occasionally have to excuse myself to the bathroom). during one of my borderline episodes, my ex was saying some rude things to me, and would not stop despite me asking him to (i had asked him to stop because quite frankly, it was annoying and it was starting to cause me to have an episode). as a result, i inevitably snapped at him, and said a lot of hurtful things that i regretted immediately afterwards (and i even texted him after i had calmed down that i was sorry because i knew i had hurt his feelings). he didn't answer my message, which i was okay with. it wasn't and still isn't my place to be upset with him for not acknowledging my apology, i had the intention of letting him acknowledge it when he was ready. i found out a few days later that he had gone to our group chat full of our shared friends and had blown the whole situation entirely out of proportion, leaving out the details where he had been egging me on and (what i found out was) purposefully causing me to have an episode. as a result of this being put in the group chat, almost the ENTIRETY of our shared friend group had shunned me entirely, ignoring me when i would try to join in conversations or when i would join them during the days where we would all hang out and chat. it eventually got so bad to the point where i had just given up on trying to talk to any of them and left the group chat.
this was mid/late june 2022, and probably had contribution to my decision in attempting to take my life, because at that point, i had no friends of my own after having been successfully isolated from everyone but my ex.
i don't know how to end this, so let me just say: ladies (and men), ALWAYS LISTEN TO THE RED FLAGS.
(5/5)
Sophie i love ur content so much whenever im watching ur videos its like im getting advice from my unnie please dont stop what ur doing i think its great! Love you
BAE POSTED 😻🙀
YOU MEAN MOMMY??
im jk ily 😂
@@s0hyunaSORRY MOMMY POSTEDDDD!
My Love posted i just love love sofie with all my heart ❤ although i am late imao but i just feel like you just speaking to me is like therapy
hi new to the channal and seeing this and haven't been in many relationships, but situationship yes, had a guy call me more then 21, times a day, if i didn't answer he would spam my messages, tiktok, insta even ps4 account. days i wanted to work out and jus listen to music. i couldn't be at peace. got to the point i put unactive on everything. he even got his ex to text me and honestly had a gut feeling it was him. He is always doing the stuff saying no one wants him or he's gonna die and hurt himself. he was like i do everything for you, i was like hold no you don't times. When i wasn't so annoy by him and jus wanted someone to play games. he'd go from depress to ho**y.
The first story reminded me one of my exes, good thing I ended our relationship after 2 weeks of dating because I dislike the most;
1. Guilt-tripping
2. Get ignored 1-3 days whenever he is upset and need to comfort him nonstop
3. He keeps talking about the age difference
4. Doesn't want me to hangout with my family or friends
5. etc...
I chose to get a healthy mental health than over a "boy". P.S. He was 27 (also) and I was 19 that time.
OMG I HATE #2 WITH A PASSION
I love your content. You're such a great person who went thru a lot of things. Listening to your and others stories makes me more aware of toxic people. Thank you so muc. I hope you're doing well
8:52 honestly make validation does nothing for me like I’m honestly not lying and I think it has A LOT to do with growing up with all boys like I couldn’t care less abt what a boy has to say 😭
Burritosh!, I missed ya 🌯😊❤. Glad to see that gorgeous face!
ouff the part when the girl was like, I wish I has a friend like you in real life is sooo effing true.
OMG! Thank you Sophie for telling us these stories which really helps me to understand other people who have gone through this even I had a toxic boyfriend but I broke up with him as soon I see more than 5 red flags ( all 5 and more are mentioned in your previous and this video too, like heck this happens for real to everyone broo) I knew I deserve better than this piece of shit, and that mf meet up and message my every friend online to offline, he even met few of them irl and he said all the things he could to make them break their friendship with me and how I cheated him with 2 other guys with fake screenshot and accounts. Almost all my guy friends except one agreed with him and messaged and call me to apologise to him and them because I bad talk them (Thank you my ex piece of shit for removing these guys from my life) without even asking me first, I sent all the real screenshots and videos to them in the group chat and texted "Have fun you all cowards!' and leave the group chat and blocked them all. Sometimes jerks attract jerks and remove them from your life, so some things happen for the best, maybe but no one deserves it
I remember i got reminded of when i was groomed on some kind of platform at the age of 7. Worst experience of my life. I told my friend about it and she told me to block him, that groomer was literally making new accounts and trying to message me. It gave me trauma
I have never been in love, and after seeing y'all feel so much, I kinda feel I'll never open up to any man (might sound sad), but no I'll know if the guy is worth all my time. Thanks to sophie and everyone else for teaching me how to be strong and how to identify a red flag.
SOPHIE!! UR BACK OMG I MISSED U
SAME
Heyyy sopphiiieeeeee.......glad ure backkk😭😭✨
WE MISSED UUUU
YAS ME TOO
YALL SOHPIE UPLOADED LESS GOOOOOO ( love watching your vids ❤️
I love you Sophie and hopefully get past and don't cry ever when you here something like this although it's hard to hear 😢 sending so much love ❤ have a nice day
my heart broke when i saw u crying omg sophie