As a French it’s the same here about the hug, it’s considered too invasive and weird. I was really surprised that nordics hug so much because usually we think of them as more « introverts » than southerners.
It sounds crazy to me that a cheek to cheek touch is more of an invasion of personal space than a hug, when you are literally just as close to the other person, it makes no sense.
I noticed there is a divide between Latin and Germanic cultures when it comes to greeting. Latins tend to kiss on the cheeks, and Germanics tend to hug or shake hands. Same thing happens in Latin America vs Anglo America. In Argentina, where I was born, you kiss anyone (your teacher, your pastor, your grandma, your aunt, your cousin, etc.), including strangers when you first meet them. Even guy to guy is common to kiss on the cheek. We kiss on one side, though, not two, unlike Europe. In the US, where I now live, kissing does exist, but more among elderly and middle aged white women, or unless you come from a Latino household. But its not common, as it is reserved more within family and friends, and rarely strangers (unless that were the mom of your friend, etc). Normally people here meet by hugging or doing a handshake or fist bump (the latter more common between guys). Hugging is common even when meeting new people, such as your friend's friend or family. You can just hug them. It's funny how each culture has a different take on what is considered too intimate. I remember when my cousin from Argentina came to visit me in the US after 16 years of not seeing each other. He reached out for a kiss on the cheek, and I felt so awkward and strange. It's almost as if I was scared to be tickled by his kiss and his face was physically too close to my face.
In Arab world, cheek to cheek and hug is Arab cultures. Woman Will do cheek to cheek to other woman and Men Will hug other Men. Men can't touch woman and vice versa. I think this spread to europe at the time of al andalus and ottoman era. The only Arab group that do shake hand is yemen. Many West people didn't know about Muslim at that time period, that Part of history were deleted intentionally because crusaders hates islam so much
Same here in reverse, we always think of Romanic people as being touchy so it's quite weird to me that hugging isn't a thing in southern Europe and France
For the people that don't listen to the audio: 13:59 in Germany, it's considered rude to NOT look the other person in the eyes that you are cheering with.
And it is really important to them. I am from Austria and visited some German friends and they actually got a little mad, that I did not look them in the eyes.
German here and I'd like to strongly object to what the german lady said about hugging as a first time greeting. That's something women of her generation are now starting to do, but the majority in Germany certainly does not hug at first meeting. The first hug is reserved for the goodbye when that first meeting is over. And guys don't hug unless they are brothers or really close friends. And may I add that your censoring is ridiculous. First you blurt out what they actually said and then you change the subtitles. They did not say "7 years of bad things" or "7 years of bad luck" it's "7 years of bad Sex" and that is what they said. Stop censoring yourself.
3:13 When the fork and the knife are almost crossing it means you haven't finished your plate and are just taking a little break, the correct way when you have finished is to put the knife and fork together oriented towards one edge of the plate to make it easier for the server to pick up.
The Italian girl is lovely. Not only is she quite beautiful and has a very positive and nice vibe in all her videos, but she displays a lot of common sense every time she shares her thoughts.
Julia is naturally classy! I don’t think she’s cold but rather elegant! - not to disrespect any girls in the video but I love her vibe the most, she’s soo beautiful and has an elegant vibe! I love seeing her there! Besos!❤
As an Italian, I do not kiss or hug in general (unless they are close friends) but i think it depends on the people. The further south you go, the more people kiss when they meet.
About the hug thing , as a German, you would just hug if the people are close. If it is friends from friends i only would hug if I recognize it is okay if not it is rude
3:06 in Belgium when you cross the cutlery it means you are waiting/pausing for a 2nd serving (to eat more) we only put the cutlery together on the quarter when finished.
In France it we don't really cross them but it's pretty much the same it's to say you are just taking a little break, and the correct way when you have finished is to put the knife and fork together oriented towards one edge of the plate to make it easier for the server to pick up.
Middle aged north american man here. This is really fascinating... I love learning about these cultural differences. I grew up learning a lot about my European roots... both of my parents, though born in the US are very proud of their European heritage and instilled that in me. I can't wait to visit many of these countries and I appreciate learning these cultural norms from these videos. I want to be a good guest so these discussions help out greatly!
@valentina_melethiel I'm Moroccan and Mediterranean countries are the best, honest and direct! The brits are just cold, don't have a sense of communication between strangers..
I'm half English half Polish, born and always lived in the UK. I can't stand the passive English communication style, it makes no sense to me. I don't understand how if you like or don't like something it's rude to say so. For example, I've heard countless times people complain about not liking food or drink they were given at someone's house but had it anyway. Even people with intolerances making themselves unwell in order to not be impolite. How is faking or lying about liking something/not minding something polite? I find people lying & faking offensive. Maybe being around my Polish grandparents as a child had a bigger effect on me than I realised, or maybe my Polish genes coming through strong.
The lady from France is TOTALLY wrong about the confrontation part. The french, on the contrary, are very confrontational and everywhere in France, not just in Paris. We tend to be quite direct and frank. And quite frankly in the confrontation. Not only in words unfortunately especially for men.... Which can be perceived as "rude". The french are famous for that. 😂 So I don't understand his reasoning. Talking behind people's backs is more common among french women maybe . But not at all for men (I'm a woman). The french men are very clearly in the confrontation. Sorry....
I will ad that I've heard from an american woman that we are "brutally" frank. And I agree with you, that's partly reason why we have a "rude" reputation (not only obviously). Perhaps is she surrounding by hypocrites in France, generally they like to hang out in band to diss. If she had grown up in a such environnement that would explained that odd comment.
French are famous for complaining a lot, always being so cynical and pessimistic (talking about the negatives more than the positives, and never easily giving free compliments, much like the Germans), and are super sarcastic with their double entendre (ironic how the French are named after the Franks, when they are anything but frank, a lot of times). They are certainly more direct than polite cultures like Britain and Japan, but definitely not as direct as the Dutch and Germans, who have a zero tolerance attitude for nonesense. The French are also more impatient than Germans, and less politically correct.
French Lady is wrong about crossing the fork and the knife. Crossing mean you're taking a break, and going to resume eating. If you are done, put fork and knife together on the plate. Imagine the plate as a clock: make 12:00 with the fork and the knife, If you thought the meal was excellent, do 3:15.
I loved the Spanish girl, she's another level of classiness and maturity, even her gestures are just soo attractive. The Italian was very fiiiiine too.
@@Augurium_DavidAt least she is not a stereotype. She may look like the stereotypical Spanish girl with her Mediterranean features, but she is shy, introverted, and quiet, and there's nothing wrong with that. Also, I wouldn't call her cold. Most shy people get mistaken for being cold and distant, when reality is they are just cautious and fragile, that's why they are more careful about being superficially friendly, bubbly, and cheerful. They value more quality relationships than quantity relationships.
The girl from italy come acrose so aggressive and rude to me because she has opinions about everything and everyone. So loud and even in other videos were commenting other girls alot
@@Perfectproposalswedenwe are just very direct and opinionated 😂 I always get mistaken for that, we are not rude guys is just the mindset of our country!
Nobody’s going to address the fact that the US is a country of immigrants. Lots of Italians in the Northeast, Germans in the Midwest, Hispanics in the Southwest and Florida, French in the Delta region, NY founded by the Dutch. Where you might shake someone’s hand in the Deep South, a kiss on the cheek is customary in South Florida, New Yorkers are super direct, and people on the west coast can seem super nice. Interesting still, but essentially the US has commonalities with Europe as a whole rather than specific countries.
Italian here living in America: in Italy it’s rude to ask people how much money they make or how much they pay for things, while in the USA it’s a bonding practice to brag how little you paid for something of value.
Many western Europeans and Nordics are very strict in their countries but abroad they don't respect anything or anyone, specially British Germans and Nordics. Even the nordic companies are very much engaged with ecology in their countries but not abroad
@@johnmurphy7674 I worded it badly, sorry. What I mean is that they ignore the rules outside their country the same way, there is no one who is better or worst. You, on the other hand, are implying that there it could be someone worst, so you better look at your comment first
16:15 I kiss my siblings, parents, grandparents and some of the other closer relatives on the cheek, but I think for the most German families it's unusual... I have seen some friends doing that to... When I'm greeting someone unknown I usually shake their hands or wave 👋. When it's a female friend of a friend I guess hugging is more common (as a women myself), when it is a male friend of a friend I usually shake their hands for hallo and huge them (if we understand each other well) for goodbye. I might be different on a blind date...
3:15 NO, we must put knife and fork in parallel, in the plate!!!!! Like in Italy... If we put the extremity of knife and fork on each side of the plate, or if you put them inside and it's almost crossing, it means we take a break.
I think she is very shy, about the rules in Spain if some people don't follow a little rule nobody will say something, but something like driving yeah we are very strict
You can tell she's quite an introvert. When they were talking about looking at people's eyes when talking to them the look on her face was quite funny, since I think I've seen her quite a lot not looking to much into people's eyes hehe Quite uncommon here in Spain. She totally reminds me of a friend from Málaga, not only in her behaviour (although the one in the video is more shy), but her accent and voice are exactly the same.
We have the same thing called Janteloven (Jante's Law) in Norway too (and in Denmark). It's not an actual law, just a social practice. It's about being humble and not thinking you are better than everyone else. Some people argue this idea is too strict and keeps us (Nordic people) from being more proud of our accomplishments and realising our dreams, and others say it's a good thing to be humble and recognise that everyone has flaws and we're not perfect. I would say I can see both sides but I think that in this age of narcissism on social media we can all use a healthy dose of humility.
That and Janteloven creates funny jokes as well. Like do you remember the whole "we can buy sweeden if we want" song and a whole bunch of other songs that just boast about how great we are. Like its comedy, but without Janteloven it would not be.
For me, the jante law is just about being humble. It's pretty obvious that some people are very good at things and pretending that everyone is as good as the successful person is just idiotic. You don't tell what you are good at, you instead show that you are good at it.
Well, originally its from Denmark, and also not a social practice, it was written as comedy as a criticism of society, to mock the way people tend to actually behave. It is not written as a guideline of how to behave... almost the opposite.
We don't have Jante law in the Netherlands, but a similar norm. We don't like it when people try to stand out and be special. You should be as everyone else. Bragging or showing off is frowned upon.
@@oestergaard141 The author of Janteloven, Aksel Sandemose, had a Norwegian mother and lived much of his life in Norway so it's more accurate to say Janteloven, like its auther, is originally both Danish and Norwegian. Despite its original intent, Janteloven describes a Nordic phenomenon even in our current times, where people strive to not brag or seem too egotistical or loud.
Where in Germany is it customary to hug someone when you first meet? I only know something like that in the south and only from good friends. (I come from the northern half and find hugging rather uncomfortable, even with friends!)
4:25 As a German I learned to cross the 🍴 fork and knife in a specific way to show, that you aren't finished with the meal, but you take a small brake (for example when you go to the toilet). If you put those parallel (in a specific way) it means that you finished with the plated...
How I (Dutch) learned it (from parents): both fork and knife horizontally on opposite sites = not finished current dish. Fork and knife horizontally together with knife edge towards yourself = finished. Fork and knife horizontally together with knife edge away from yourself = want to have/ order more.
We have these customs, though I'd say they are eithe routdated or only used in upper class restaursnt etc. I think her mentioning were the arms are placed was more universal rule.
8:00 so swiss people come to germany to break the law. (I live at the swiss border and here swiss people are famous for going too fast, parking in wrong places and so on.
I'm from Spain, I've lived in Germany for a long time and I speak the language well, but some things still seem a bit strange to me. At a meeting with work colleagues (after work), a female colleague I was meeting for the first time (I'm a man) wanted to hug me to say goodbye and I instinctively refused (I hug her but it was obvious I didn´t want to), and I could see my colleague's expression of aggravation on her face. I found this very strange, because in Spain such a hug is very intimate and is only done in a romantic context. But as I hardly knew the woman, it felt uncomfortable for me to hug her. Afterwards I felt bad and I thought I was rude to her because I didn´t hug her like she was expecting, but watching this video now I understand more.
I think I understand you more than your German colleagues. As a German myself, I don't hug people that I just met. Never. It feels just weird to me. I know somebody that I have never hugged even though I know her for some years already. But we're both fine with it. I think I can hug somebody goodbye after a first meeting if a friend introduced me to them and we got along quite well. But it also happened that they tried to initiate a goodbye hug and I was more like "do I need to?". So I don't think that you should have felt bad about it and I also don't think that you were rude. In certain social circles it's just normal to give a hug so they might have been slightly confused. And especially if they were colleagues and not really friends (yet) I'd feel weird to give them a hug. Even though I got along quite well with my colleagues before I entered uni, I never hugged them. We had fun, had lunch together, had some parties together but I never hugged them and everyone was fine with it. So I guess it really depends. Most of the time I'm like "don't invade my personal space" 😅
I can understand you, not only as a man but as a Nordic person (Norwegian). I would personally be careful about hugging or touching (aside from a handshake) a woman I didn't know well, partly for my own sake but also partly for her sake. You never know what kind of accusations can happen. I find it a bit ironic, by the way, that as a Spaniard you mentioned hugging, because don't Spanish people kiss each other on the cheek as a greeting? Maybe it's only between two women or two men, but not between men and women? We don't typically kiss as a greeting in Norway (or Nordic countries in general), but some female friends will do the "fake kiss" greeting (make a kissing noise and lightly touch the cheek).
@@OnnarashiI'm from Spain as well and yeah men usually give 2 kisses (cheek to cheek, no lip) to women but in a formal context (like at work) there are more chances of a handshake happening than a hug between men and women. A hug is seen as much more intimate than a kiss greeting. I guess it's just a cultural thing 😅.
I get that you found that weird. Personally, I always feel strange when Italian or Spanish people kiss on the cheek, like, I always get so flustered and don't know what to do 😅 the first time it happened it was an Italian guy and I'm a Swedish woman, and it was so awkward to me. I'd rather do a handshake, tbh. And I'd leave hugs for when you know the person more.
@@Onnarashi Hi! Spaniard here. The thing about the Sanish two-kisses greeting is that, firstly, it's not even an actual kiss at the end of the day (just both persons' cheeks slightly touching), and, secondly, If you think of it, you only approach your heads during that action, whereas when you hug someone both your bodies are fully touching, so it is quite more invasive than the "kiss".
Greeting in the Netherlands you have several variants. 1. Handshake - More formal, this is for the work environment and school mostly. However if you meet someone for the first time this can count as well. 2. Hug - Often between friends 3. 3 Kisses - Very close friends (often no further then aunt/uncle level and it's usually the ladies that do it) 4. Hug + 3 kisses - Family and your lover usually, although the lover part is recently changed a lot from what I can tell. * It really also depends on the family and how individual people think about things. Specially the younger generations seem to be going off the beaten path thanks to social media. And not in a good way. For the Netherlands, you don't eat everything except bread with fork and knife. We got plenty of food that you eat with your hands actually, go to the famous Dutch snackbar for example and you only get finger food. Pizza you might need to cut, but aside from that use your hands. Fish from the market you can either eat with your hands or use a fork (often wood or plastic) So it really is depending on what type of food it is. Posh people might overly use fork and knife to the level of insanity. The Dutch girl in this video gives those vibes that she indeed is a bit too posh to really understand what normal people do (or she's covering herself) Dutch people are very direct to the level that others may perceive it as being rude. We just like to get to the point and don't beat around the bush. Tell it as it is. To the Dutch, if you are not honest and direct it's often perceived as being rude and dishonest instead. You will end up with that Dutch person trusting you less because of it. Netherlands and rules are pretty much follow the rules, although not as strict as Germany for example. Just make sure you don't walk too long in the cycle lanes where it's too busy, you likely get run over and shouted at. Specially in big cities like Amsterdam, Rotterdam and Den Haag. While in Friesland for example you need to be very aware of having less cycle infrastructure so you end up often sharing the road with other traffic. Where it's all too common to see people racing on the narrow roads, specially if their parents are farmers, they tend to ignore set rules. This doesn't limit to cars and mopeds/scooters only, but also tractors. So be very aware and to be safe regarding tractors, get in the grass and wait for them to pass. Littering in smaller towns in Friesland is a 100% no-no. You will get called out and in some cases they might even get physical to force you to pick your junk up. Do it on the land of a farmer and the farmer might decide to destroy your car, trust me I seen it several times. And yes Germans, in all cases it were German tourists that got their karma points exchanged. The younger generations often tend to ignore rules a lot more, which shows a degradation in morals and common sense. Ordering in the Netherlands, yeah you just wait until the waiter comes to your table. If you think you can call them, specially if it's too often, you might end up getting words directed at you if not thrown out. It's very rude to the staff who are working as hard as they can as it is, they will come to you asap. Chill, take it easy. If you wanted food fast, go find a snackbar or a typical American franchise instead. Bragging about money in the Netherlands is not done, you do NOT EVER ask someone about that. Even talking about your own income is frowned upon. It gets people annoyed easily. And yes, after social media came in people started to brag about things, both in "look at me being this good/rich" and the other way around. I seen the rise of social media and I honestly fear for the future, specially with so many airheaded people that have no clue at all how to actually have a decent life on their own. The near future will become a mess with that generation, things only just started to escalate. As soon as my generation is too old to work, which is in about 25-30 years from now, you will see a huge problem as none of these social media garden tools will be able to fill any of the gaps needed. Not a single one has the know-how or drive to do anything. A toast in the Netherlands you must look others in the eyes, I however never heard anyone speak about 7 years of bad luck. Perhaps this is something more local (or as the Dutch girl mentioned, more about young people), i don't know. However regardless, you must look the ones you toast with in the eyes, and indeed look around to everyone there before starting to drink. You don't want to exclude anyone as this is very rude and condescending. A toast is considered a matter of honor.
You're very negative about how the younger generation is influenced by social media. Growing up I never liked the three kisses. It's something I've only ever done with aunts and other older female family members. I've heard older generations complain about the mandatory three kisses too, and also don't really see older generations do it anymore, except maybe 70+. Social distancing during covid was the final nail in the coffin, and I have not heard a single person complain about it. I don't see how socal media played a role. It's becoming more common to talk about money. It's not about bragging, rather just talk about prices and things like that. It's becoming more and more acceptable to ask people about things like their budget, their income, their rent etc. "What are you making per month that you can afford to buy a house?" That's at least my experience with people in the age range 18 to early 40s. And what's the rant about young people not being able to do anything? You're just regurgitating the same centuries old complaints about younger people. There's tons of examples in every generation. There were even similar complaints about the young folks who would eventually go on and fight in WWII. The lads who stormed the beaches of Normandy were called lazy and good for nothing a few years earlier.
Story: I am German , as you might or not know we use the right side to “drive”, once I was abt 8 years old I was still eligible to drive with my bike on the side walk and I did that on the right side of the side walk but a old man drove by with his bike and harshly screamed at me “YOU NEED TO DRIVE ON THE OTHER SIDE WALK,NOTE THAT! 😡”, he drove on the bicycle way on the street so not on the side walk but yeah ever since then I had a fear of driving on the opposite side walk, it’s not illegal but I guess I was wrong? over the years I developed a phobia of bicycles anyway like not screaming at the sight of seeing one, riding one in the sense. Children in Germany get teached to ride a bicycle the correct way ON THE STREET in elementary school which is sorta an exam but the side walk “rule” was never mentioned to me in any sort of way just “drive on the side walk to be alright “ - my parents. But that man scared the hell out of me and I must say I remember from an diary entry that I cried because of that, that day 😅
I still don't really understand what is the purpose of Instagram, except doing "secred" ads for products. Most of people go there just to fap and they don't care what product that girl holds, so it's everything really ridiculous and perverse. There is no real content, just girls showing some products. I am there only because of few people who deny to use Facebook and other sites, which doesn't make any sense after all when Instagram is owned by Facebook anyway. 😀
for France, I a do not agree, I am still telling to people if something is wrong - in general we are frank - and me, I hate the fact people says something in my back rather to my face directly if something is wrong. but maybe it's because I am from the West (Brittany) or because it s like that with my entourage :D and us Breton, we are more 'rough' on the edges ;-) But I value this quality in others too. Of course, I will not say that maybe to someone I do not know at all, and it does not matter that much to me. It can depends on the situation I guess.
It was always very fascinating to me that we in europe have like very minor things that are INCREDBLY common throughout the majority of europe like the toasting thing and 7 years of bad sex, like that's crazily specific right? But then you have all these neighbouring countries and every single one has very own specific norms when it comes to greeting and what's considered personal space and whatnot. I have had some spanish friends and they insisted on the whole kissing thing when we first met and even after (while IN germany) and it was insanely weird to me. Still is, to this day. Kissing or even the motion of kissing to me is something intimate that should only be shared with a significant other or smooching your kids or parents/grandparents. For me, wether you hug or shake someones hand when you meet them for the first time always changes depending on the people and it can get quite awkward. Like even if your best friend or whatever presents their new partner to you or a friend of him, it's ALWAYS different from person to person, because some people wanna feel out the other ones first before hugging them. I personally would always go for a hug in the mentioned scenarios, because there's like a feeling of proxy-trust that I get from my friend that I want to put forward to their friend/partner in that situation, even if it turns out that person turns out to be bad. It's also a sign of welcoming the person in a more friendly way if it's a hug instead of a handshake. Like you're actually welcoming them on an emotional level into the circle if that makes sense. But yeah this thing is VERY different for each individual even within the country which is why greeting people in these specific situations can be very awkward.
WOAH in France crossing the fork and the knife means you're finished eating but here in Croatia it means "I'm not done yet" or "I'm just using the restroom, I'll finish/order more after"
i have lived in the us for over a decade and it is definitely normal to hug. i wouldn’t say it’s the norm, but definitely not weird at all to be introduced to a friend or relative or a friend/relative. it might vary by state though
The swiss and german girls say rules are respected in their countries. True, but this doesn't Apple when they are abroad as tourists. I am italian, a country where rules are often broken, and i would like to point out how little respect tourists from all over the world pay to the wonderful works of art of my country. Respectful only at home.
Swiss are famous for going like double of the sipped limit everywhere on the Italian roads, since in Switzerland they get like 500 euros fine if the go 5km/h above limits.
@@panter82 doesn't quite sound like the ethnically Swiss population of Switzerland, but rather like the portion of the inhabitants that speed in Switzerland also, which statistically (and proportionally), as bigoted as it may sound, are mainly immigrants from the Balkans, but who knows. One needs to keep in mind that about 25% of Switzerland's population are nationals from all over the world not even holding Swiss citizenship yet, and then, many of those that do go on to acquire a Swiss passport, still make no effort whatsoever to integrate into Swiss society and abide by the rules, neither within the country nor abroad
@@Tackself I can assure you that these are Swiss people. Mostly from Ticino, so they are technically ethnic Italian, but still. As soon as they cross the border they forget all rules. Then start complaining how Italy sucks
Another german perspective on hugs, i would not hug friends of a friend when i first say hello. I dont really like it and i know a lot of people who dont like it as well here. I dont wanna invade a personal space that much before checking how comfortable the person seems with touchiness. Sometimes people do that tho, so if you are uncomfortable, you should reach out your hand first quickly haha But yeah its definitely suuper common to hug them goodbye after meeting them for the first time :)
I think its also a Gender thing. Girls in germany tend to be huggers, but the boys? They either just go along when someone hugs them or they just never do that. I think I have hugged more girls back in a greeting than I have most of my male friends. And if its your friend you hug as a guy its often more in a comedic way, like trying to crush your friend in a hug competition etc. And thlate ris mor eof a yputh thing... I totally agree with you that germany isn't a coountry full of huggers
Confrontation goes both ways. If you approach a complete stranger and demand they pick up litter, you shouldn't be surprised if you get punched in the face.
@@axwleurope9519 yes I saw it. Eeehhh... we Italians are like that!... We are more "physical", we need to establish contact when we communicate. The peoples of the north, however, as we know, are very different in this.
Interesting that the Swedish like to hug just as much as us Germans and the rest doesn't. Wonder if there is some shared Germanic cultural background reason for it
Except perhaps for hugging/kissing, I don't believe any single person's experience can really convey the vast range of habits of one culture or another. In my experience, it is more about the type of people you're around than the country. I've been to Britain, France, Italy, Germany, Austria, Nederlands, Greece, Chech rep., Poland, Belgium, Croatia, Serbia, Bosnia, Hungary... and really didn't see much of what is talked about here at all. On the other hand, in my country, in Europe, I've seen the whole spectrum of people, habits, dos and dont's, manners, ..
Here in Brazil on my pov it's really rude keep looking someone in the eyes if it's an unknown person... I think it's probable to keep looking in the eyes of your close friends.. If you stare at a stranger, it's gonna be really rude and some people even fight... We have a saying like "você é de ouro?" (Are you made of golden?) That's usually asked when the one is getting upset of being stared 😂
The most stereotypical sentence associated with Muslim immigrants in Germany is a very aggressive out of the blue "Was guckst du?!" (What are you looking?!) for the longest time I actually just believed that to be a poorly translated sentence of aggression/ insult from Turkish until I started to see more and more "expat" videos on RUclips of people complaining about feeling like they are getting constantly starred at in Germany. For us it's the total opposite, not looking someone in the eye is seen as mischievous and insulting to the point of dishonouring and looking at people, regardless of wether they are strangers or not, is just perfectly normal to us
@@TimeToSingChannel we look everyone in the eyes when talking, or greeting while crossing paths with strangers, when there is no interaction we might still just look at them (hard to describe, we are not truly looking at them specifically with any intention from our perspective but just looking, which is normal and not provocative in our culture). To give you some examples of how engrained it is: "To risk your face" is if you do something risky/ controversial that might result in people averting their eyes from your face as if something was wrong with it. "Der/die kann mir nicht mal direkt in die Augen gucken" - s/he can't even look me straight in the eyes. An explanation given on why you refuse to interact with someone unpleasant/ untrustworthy/ arrogant or with a very guilty conscience. "Schau mir in die Augen" - Look into my eyes. - tell the truth and nothing but the truth. "Den Blick von jemandem abwenden" - to divert ones gaze from someone. To turn your back on someone for doing something you strongly disagree with breaking off contact. "Sich aus den Augen verlieren" - to lose eachother out of the eyes. A contact/ friendship that has gone away without an active decision due to lifepaths diverting ways. (And the opposite, nicht aus den Augen verlieren, as a promise to keep in touch) "Nicht dem Blick standhalten können" - incapable of withstanding the look - to have a very guilty conscience "Auf jemanden/ etwas ein Auge werfen" - to throw an eye on someone/thing. To fancy someone/thing "Keines Blickes würdigen" - not valuing with gaze - to treat someone as if they were air, either because you've decided to shun them (the highest form of showing someone that you truly despise them in Germanic cultures, you are acting as if they were dead and refuse to acknowledge their presence) or as a complaint about an arrogant person that didn't even acknowledge your presence (e.g. someone at work who only smears honey around the mouths of higher ups) And so on and so on
Naaaaah I'm sorry but in France people will tell you directly if somethings wrong. If you talk about someone in their back you are un faux-cul. We are also very confrontational. I guess it really depends who you are with but I personally don't tend to talk/stay with people who talks shit behind others back P.S. : Oh she is from Paris, nvm must be normal in her social circle then :/ Also, maybe a difference between north and south in that regards
Ça se voit qu'elle est parisienne 😂 Sans méchanceté parce qu'elle a pas l'air hautaine non plus mais le style vestimentaire un peu chic fait très parisien tu vois pas ça en campagne
For everyone's information... if you walk on the bikelane in the Netherlands, you get óne bell-ring as a warning. That is the final warning and they will not pump the brakes. Especially not if there are people behind them. In the kindest scenario, they will belt out a sweary warcry to scare you onto the pedestrian-pavement and in the worst scenario (for you) they will drive against you, breaking at least a few of your bones in the process.
And we don’t ride into the pedestrians just because we want to, but because we are going faster than they expect (so we can’t brake that fast) and they are in our way. In NL we learn from a young age to consider the bike lane. In other countries bike lanes are not that common, so the attention to it is less.
@@masclem One thing I didn't understand when I visited Amsterdam, and I'm not talking about the very touristic centre, but "zone 2-3" (where I was staying), is that they wouldn't stop even when you where about to use a zebra crossing that passed over their bike lane. In my country (Spain) even cyclists have to allow pedestrians use the zebra crossing, since they've got the priority if they're already waiting. I was very surprised since it seemed the opposite of being civic, and Dutch people are famous for being super civic and polite haha
@@thespankmyfrank Argumentum ad personam concerning a imaginary weak sexual experience of an opponent that cannot be contradicted : typical low IQ female reaction in desperate need of coitus. 😘 I bet you live with a lot of cats
hey, Marina! sorry to disagree but.. kisses for greeting are fairly normal (albeit admittedly still not the standard) here in Munich. probably something that came over from Italy, but still.
I'm currently living in London and they are becoming quite common now. I guess they feel is trendy to act more "European". The funny thing is I'm Spanish and every time I meet an Italian or Spanish girl here I feel socially weird to greet them with two kisses as I would normally do in my country.
3:40 - It's exactly the same here in Portugal. Many people instinctively do that, so most, if not all, waiters know when the customer has finish eating the main course just by looking at the fork and knife. When they're in any other position, they usually approach the table and ask if the person has already finished eating or not. Unless they see that the customer's plate is empty, then it's obvious that they have finished eating. 🙂
In Czech Republic, you have to always wait until waiter returns to you, if you don't wait and start calling him or something, it will be really bad for you. But when I was in Croatia for vacation, I noticed that it's completely different there, you sit there and nobody cares, you have to call a waiter or you will be sitting there another 2 days and nobody asks if you need something, which is kind of unnatural for us because we are really afraid to talk to waiter before he asks first what we need. I visited Portugal in 2019, but I don't remember how it was there, only thing I remember and it was weird for us was when I was paying, waiter just walked of with my money and I didn't know what it means, so we were still siting there and it took him few minutes before he returned with change back, that would never happened here, ofcourse you give some tip, but they always return your change immediately in front of you and after they find coins back, then they hide your bigger bill, so you still see that while their are looking for change, I think there are even some laws about that. In other countries it mostly work like that you put money into some book and let it on the table and waiter takes it, I still don't understand how it works, but it was like that even in Poland and Latvia which surprised me, I expected they will be more similar to us, but it's totaly different.
@@Pidalin In Portugal, the waiter usually is waiting for you far away or is paying attention to see if the person is ready to order (if the client looks at you and do the hand gesture to call you or have already closed the menu or something) or they can come directly to the table and ask if you are ready. If the waiter don't care at all would be considered bad service. Also, when you enter the restaurant is expected for you to wait for the waiter to seat, if the client just come and sit down would be considered impatient / upset. About the bill, you need to ask for it and we usually do it when we are ready to leave, which happens after coffee and a little chat (sometimes longer). In some countries they bring the bill without asking for it, which would be considered very rude in Portugal, like they want to expel you or are worried you will leave without paying the bill.
@@inesdesousamartins6313 Waiting to be seated is weird bizarr for us here in Czechia, especially when restaurant is almost empty. There are such places now, but for example my father would never go there because he consider it rude from them that you can't just sit immediately where you want and you have to wait there to be seated, in our culture, it just feels weird, it's like in some noble restaurant, but you really don't expect it in some ordinary pub. When there is no reservé on the table, I don't understand why waiting for waiter who will allow me to sit there, this american system is just weird.
@@Pidalin I don't know if that is an american system as I always remember being a very common system in portuguese restaurants, even in low key tradicional ones (I know the formal way with a stop sign, but is not the same thing). For us is considered nice the waiter come to the door when we enter the restaurant and we greet each other. That way the waiter will be aware we are there too and can help to seat and bring the menu. If the restaurant is empty he / she will just say we can choose where to seat. Also is a very tradicional way to say "the dishes of the day" or the ones the waiter recommends (usually very good options). I don't see as an american thing, but as a warmer latin relationship thing, maybe.
@@inesdesousamartins6313 Maybe you got it from UK, I am not sure if they have this too. For us Czechs, it's kind of rude or annoying when you are trying to give not needed help, like I don't need help with putting my ass on the chair, so don't bother me. 😀 And ofcourse waiter will bring menu even here and they are also aware, they always check if someone arrived. But some restaurants can be pretty bussy, you see waiter running around, he noticed you and will arrive to you, it can take few minutes before they actually come to you, so you want to stand in the door for several minutes and waiting for them to be seated? No Czech would do it, we would just leave. I visited Portugal in 2018 and I was kind of shocked by your culture of waiting in lines, in really long lines. Waiting lines for us means communism, when Czech sees longer waiting line, we just leave and go to other place. And if there is a restaurant with this system that you have to be seated, it works in a way that you go there and they tell you "just sit where you want" so it's completely pointless system. It's just weird for us. And if you have some special worker just for seating people then it's a difference in our economies, becuase we have very low unemployment and there are no people, you can't find anyone who would do such low paid work. Even supermarkets are switching to self-checkout service because there are no people and those who sit behind cash desk have a lot of other work, they have to run away every few minutes, so it happens that there is noone and you have to wait for them. I think that
I, as a Dutchie myself, don't agree with the Dutch girl about following the rules just like Swiss and German people. Here in the Netherlands we are so much less uptight about the rules compared to Germans. I even got annoyed when I heard about following the rules in Switzerland, because I know I will deffinitely not abide to them if they don't make sense. But maybe it is also because I live in the North of the Netherlands, where people are more free spirited.
As someone who lives in the Randstad and also lived for a year in Gelderland, we definitely lack some manner and are less strict compared to some other countries.
@@N3v3r_S3ttl3 I don't agree it is a matter of manners. We just don't like to be told what and what not to do. We just use common sense instead of abiding to fixed rules. For example cycling through a red light when there is no other traffic around.
In the south it’s just so. In NL we have a lot of rules and standards, just to make sure everything is arranged in a good way. But also most of us like to bend the rules in our own little benefits. Because we all want to decide for ourselves what works for us. Indeed like biking or walking through red light.
6:05 N'IMPORTE QUOI... RIDICULE!!!!! 🤡🤦🏼♂ She really doesn't French people at all. French people are very direct, like Dutch and German. And we are known for that!!! American people even say we are "rude", and we say they are "hypocrites"...
Swedes being non-confrontational is so true. We once had a project for a Swedish customer, and it was so annoying. We would have big meetings to decide things, and the only outcome was that everyone was in a good mood, but nothing got decided because everyone would just agree with everything that was said. Even the British are better---they won't tell you they want something else directly either, but they will at least hint at it in a way you can learn to read.
Hugs are only for closer friends and family members in Germany. At least I don't hug a friend's friend I don't really know so well. It's also not true, that we don't give cheeck kisses. Actually it's often combined with a hug.
To me this is all just neurotypical customs and stuff. I’m starting to see why my thai friend always ask me why I’m not Swedish in any way even though as far as nationality goes I am exclusively Swedish. My best reply is adding to the confusion I’m afraid. But I tell him ”maybe it’s Maybelline, maybe it’s autism”
For the hundredth(?) time: Swiss is an adjective, not a noun. The country is called Switzerland. Also, it's Germany, not German. Please hire someone else to write the titles and subtitles.
My English is pretty bad, but this also bothers me, not exactly here, but in many other videos or comments. They make these videos in Korea, I think that Koreans maybe don't understand how these things like adjectives vs nouns work in european languages, I have some understanding for that, but when europeans are not able to distinguish these two, I don't really understand it. I am Czech and it's really annoying how half of people call my country "Czech" which is adjective or name of language or a person. It's even weirder with Slovaks, I was told several times, that correct adjective is Slovak, not Slovakian, but still, I hear even native English speakers using Slovakian, so I am really confused.
@@Pidalin I know English pretty well and I'm usually good with geography and country names but I actually had no idea the demonym was Slovak instead of Slovakian! I guess it all depends on the exposure you've had regarding the country? I'm northern European so I don't really have a connection to Slovakia... I do know the difference between Czech and Czechia though... so idk. I guess the same could be said for the Korean translations for these videos, they're just so far from Europe that they keep getting it wrong. They really should get a proper translator though.
@@Pidalin Yeah, Czech is another one that really makes me mad :D Saying "Czech" as a short form of "Czech Republic", is like saying "Argentine", "Mexican", "Russian" as short form for "Argentine Republic", "United Mexican States" and "Russian Federation" 😂 Like no, the short forms are obviously Argentina, Mexico and Russia. And in the same sense it's Czechia, not Czech. How native speakers don't realize that it's an adjective is completely beyond me :D As for Slovak (from Slovakia), I can understand why people say "Slovakian". Some demonyms are irregular and unpredictable, e.g. for Slovenia it's Slovene, for Montenegro it's Montenegrin. Lots of people say "Slovenian" and "Montenegrian" because that would be the logical regular prediction. There's no way to know it unless you heard it before. But at least those people aren't using Slovakian, Slovenian and Montenegrian as country names 😂😂😂
So as an autistic person I know now that I can't order at a restorant or bar by myselft in some country because I can't make eye contact and say "sorry" an astronomicaly amount of time 😅
@@reesofraft4166 well Canada have sat on the same side as Europe with US on the other side. Or when the had US, UK and Korea, US was on one side and UK and Korea on the other. UK and Korea are not close on the map.
@@axwleurope9519 That definitely depends on your culture though. As a socially anxious Swede, I'll rarely hug strangers, but when people have hugged me it's okay. A bit awkward, but fine. It's just a platonic embrace, whatever. However, when a southern European have done the kiss greeting, I always get so flustered. We are not used to having strangers' faces that close to ours. It is very awkward and feels way too invasive for me. But that's just my culture, just like yours is the opposite.
What Mehtap said about Swiss people being rule conforming to the point of ridiculousness is very true haha, the sad part is that there really are a surprising amount of old people watching you through their curtains
The toast thing is really weird, here in Latin america is called `Brindis` , and nobody cares if you are looking someone or not. thats really a euro superstition
Actually in Spain, for what I know (maybe it's different in other areas), we try to touch everyone's 🥂 during the brindis, but nothing happens if you miss someone. Never I have heard anything about bad luck if you don't look to the eyes, it's more if you don't put the glass on the table before drinking from it.
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As a French it’s the same here about the hug, it’s considered too invasive and weird. I was really surprised that nordics hug so much because usually we think of them as more « introverts » than southerners.
It sounds crazy to me that a cheek to cheek touch is more of an invasion of personal space than a hug, when you are literally just as close to the other person, it makes no sense.
I noticed there is a divide between Latin and Germanic cultures when it comes to greeting. Latins tend to kiss on the cheeks, and Germanics tend to hug or shake hands. Same thing happens in Latin America vs Anglo America. In Argentina, where I was born, you kiss anyone (your teacher, your pastor, your grandma, your aunt, your cousin, etc.), including strangers when you first meet them. Even guy to guy is common to kiss on the cheek. We kiss on one side, though, not two, unlike Europe. In the US, where I now live, kissing does exist, but more among elderly and middle aged white women, or unless you come from a Latino household. But its not common, as it is reserved more within family and friends, and rarely strangers (unless that were the mom of your friend, etc). Normally people here meet by hugging or doing a handshake or fist bump (the latter more common between guys). Hugging is common even when meeting new people, such as your friend's friend or family. You can just hug them. It's funny how each culture has a different take on what is considered too intimate. I remember when my cousin from Argentina came to visit me in the US after 16 years of not seeing each other. He reached out for a kiss on the cheek, and I felt so awkward and strange. It's almost as if I was scared to be tickled by his kiss and his face was physically too close to my face.
In Arab world, cheek to cheek and hug is Arab cultures. Woman Will do cheek to cheek to other woman and Men Will hug other Men. Men can't touch woman and vice versa. I think this spread to europe at the time of al andalus and ottoman era. The only Arab group that do shake hand is yemen.
Many West people didn't know about Muslim at that time period, that Part of history were deleted intentionally because crusaders hates islam so much
Same here in reverse, we always think of Romanic people as being touchy so it's quite weird to me that hugging isn't a thing in southern Europe and France
@@alfrreddI know right, I don’t understand either. And 80% of the time (at least for me) when I kiss it’s not even real I just make fake noises
For the people that don't listen to the audio:
13:59 in Germany, it's considered rude to NOT look the other person in the eyes that you are cheering with.
And it is really important to them. I am from Austria and visited some German friends and they actually got a little mad, that I did not look them in the eyes.
German here and I'd like to strongly object to what the german lady said about hugging as a first time greeting. That's something women of her generation are now starting to do, but the majority in Germany certainly does not hug at first meeting. The first hug is reserved for the goodbye when that first meeting is over. And guys don't hug unless they are brothers or really close friends.
And may I add that your censoring is ridiculous. First you blurt out what they actually said and then you change the subtitles. They did not say "7 years of bad things" or "7 years of bad luck" it's "7 years of bad Sex" and that is what they said.
Stop censoring yourself.
Prob to avoid getting demonitized
As if the algorithm checks the subtitles...@@garretglasbergen5395
3:13 When the fork and the knife are almost crossing it means you haven't finished your plate and are just taking a little break, the correct way when you have finished is to put the knife and fork together oriented towards one edge of the plate to make it easier for the server to pick up.
I've been french all my life, never heard about any code/rule/manner with fork and knife. Probably an upper class thing.
@@iansmirna5183 I'm not upper class (by a long shot), but maybe that kind of code of conduct or what we call etiquette tends to get lost.
@@synkaan2167 I think it got lost like 70 years ago tbh ;)
Can we please get the American girl closer to the others? I feel so bad seeing her sitting in the distance and just nodding instead of participating 😔
The Italian girl is lovely. Not only is she quite beautiful and has a very positive and nice vibe in all her videos, but she displays a lot of common sense every time she shares her thoughts.
Totaly agree i be vibing with her
Julia is naturally classy! I don’t think she’s cold but rather elegant! - not to disrespect any girls in the video but I love her vibe the most, she’s soo beautiful and has an elegant vibe! I love seeing her there! Besos!❤
As an Italian, I do not kiss or hug in general (unless they are close friends) but i think it depends on the people. The further south you go, the more people kiss when they meet.
Julia gives off such a classy vibe, she's extremely pretty.
@@quelodequeloas a Belgian I also love the Spanish girl
@@klausbriesma9050😅I see my mistake Julia-Giulia damn
About the hug thing , as a German, you would just hug if the people are close. If it is friends from friends i only would hug if I recognize it is okay if not it is rude
3:06 in Belgium when you cross the cutlery it means you are waiting/pausing for a 2nd serving (to eat more) we only put the cutlery together on the quarter when finished.
same in the netherlands
In France it we don't really cross them but it's pretty much the same it's to say you are just taking a little break, and the correct way when you have finished is to put the knife and fork together oriented towards one edge of the plate to make it easier for the server to pick up.
Middle aged north american man here. This is really fascinating... I love learning about these cultural differences. I grew up learning a lot about my European roots... both of my parents, though born in the US are very proud of their European heritage and instilled that in me. I can't wait to visit many of these countries and I appreciate learning these cultural norms from these videos. I want to be a good guest so these discussions help out greatly!
I’m Italian in the UK and I miss so much the directness of my compatriots the British communication drives me bonkers! 😭
Then go back to Italy! Don't live in a country where you don't like the cultures!
How is britsh communication?
@@eltrem2708 very indirect with a lot of miscommunication for the sake of being ‘’polite ‘’
@valentina_melethiel I'm Moroccan and Mediterranean countries are the best, honest and direct! The brits are just cold, don't have a sense of communication between strangers..
I'm half English half Polish, born and always lived in the UK. I can't stand the passive English communication style, it makes no sense to me. I don't understand how if you like or don't like something it's rude to say so. For example, I've heard countless times people complain about not liking food or drink they were given at someone's house but had it anyway. Even people with intolerances making themselves unwell in order to not be impolite. How is faking or lying about liking something/not minding something polite? I find people lying & faking offensive. Maybe being around my Polish grandparents as a child had a bigger effect on me than I realised, or maybe my Polish genes coming through strong.
as a swede I have to say that we do not hug everyone, but family, friends and people you have known for more than a year, oh dear the hugs never end!
The lady from France is TOTALLY wrong about the confrontation part. The french, on the contrary, are very confrontational and everywhere in France, not just in Paris. We tend to be quite direct and frank. And quite frankly in the confrontation. Not only in words unfortunately especially for men.... Which can be perceived as "rude".
The french are famous for that. 😂 So I don't understand his reasoning. Talking behind people's backs is more common among french women maybe . But not at all for men (I'm a woman). The french men are very clearly in the confrontation. Sorry....
I will ad that I've heard from an american woman that we are "brutally" frank. And I agree with you, that's partly reason why we have a "rude" reputation (not only obviously).
Perhaps is she surrounding by hypocrites in France, generally they like to hang out in band to diss. If she had grown up in a such environnement that would explained that odd comment.
Wouldn't it be a pleonasm to say that the French are frank?
French are famous for complaining a lot, always being so cynical and pessimistic (talking about the negatives more than the positives, and never easily giving free compliments, much like the Germans), and are super sarcastic with their double entendre (ironic how the French are named after the Franks, when they are anything but frank, a lot of times). They are certainly more direct than polite cultures like Britain and Japan, but definitely not as direct as the Dutch and Germans, who have a zero tolerance attitude for nonesense. The French are also more impatient than Germans, and less politically correct.
Well as a french i strongly agree with that commentary, maybe she's from a specific region where people are like that
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French Lady is wrong about crossing the fork and the knife. Crossing mean you're taking a break, and going to resume eating. If you are done, put fork and knife together on the plate.
Imagine the plate as a clock: make 12:00 with the fork and the knife, If you thought the meal was excellent, do 3:15.
Everything you say here we were also taught growing up in the UK.
Both Italian and French women are probably so fun to hangout with. They give out such a friendly vibe 😊
I loved the Spanish girl, she's another level of classiness and maturity, even her gestures are just soo attractive. The Italian was very fiiiiine too.
From Spain... Spanish Girl is very cold
@@Augurium_DavidAt least she is not a stereotype. She may look like the stereotypical Spanish girl with her Mediterranean features, but she is shy, introverted, and quiet, and there's nothing wrong with that. Also, I wouldn't call her cold. Most shy people get mistaken for being cold and distant, when reality is they are just cautious and fragile, that's why they are more careful about being superficially friendly, bubbly, and cheerful. They value more quality relationships than quantity relationships.
She is too quiet. in WF you need to talk more
The girl from italy come acrose so aggressive and rude to me because she has opinions about everything and everyone. So loud and even in other videos were commenting other girls alot
@@Perfectproposalswedenwe are just very direct and opinionated 😂 I always get mistaken for that, we are not rude guys is just the mindset of our country!
Nobody’s going to address the fact that the US is a country of immigrants. Lots of Italians in the Northeast, Germans in the Midwest, Hispanics in the Southwest and Florida, French in the Delta region, NY founded by the Dutch. Where you might shake someone’s hand in the Deep South, a kiss on the cheek is customary in South Florida, New Yorkers are super direct, and people on the west coast can seem super nice. Interesting still, but essentially the US has commonalities with Europe as a whole rather than specific countries.
Great comment
4:30 My parents would tell me this and i often have my hands or one hand under the table
Giulia and the lady from France were my favorite ones among this group , The lady from France is funny and cute
Italian here living in America: in Italy it’s rude to ask people how much money they make or how much they pay for things, while in the USA it’s a bonding practice to brag how little you paid for something of value.
It's also rude in the US to ask others how much they make. People just don't do it at all.
Waaa my friend Julia! keep shining snuppa 💜
Switzerland don’t break the Rule! True, but when they crossed the Swiss-Italian border they start driving like crazy.
Many western Europeans and Nordics are very strict in their countries but abroad they don't respect anything or anyone, specially British Germans and Nordics. Even the nordic companies are very much engaged with ecology in their countries but not abroad
I don't know Ticinesi but other Swiss don't break the rules
@@johnmurphy7674 for mine experience, they are all the same, maybe the german speakers are the worst
@@bexyr "They're all the same" are you crazy for having that kind of mentality or what?
@@johnmurphy7674 I worded it badly, sorry. What I mean is that they ignore the rules outside their country the same way, there is no one who is better or worst. You, on the other hand, are implying that there it could be someone worst, so you better look at your comment first
16:15 I kiss my siblings, parents, grandparents and some of the other closer relatives on the cheek, but I think for the most German families it's unusual...
I have seen some friends doing that to...
When I'm greeting someone unknown I usually shake their hands or wave 👋. When it's a female friend of a friend I guess hugging is more common (as a women myself), when it is a male friend of a friend I usually shake their hands for hallo and huge them (if we understand each other well) for goodbye.
I might be different on a blind date...
3:15 NO, we must put knife and fork in parallel, in the plate!!!!! Like in Italy... If we put the extremity of knife and fork on each side of the plate, or if you put them inside and it's almost crossing, it means we take a break.
Spain needs to talk more! I was interested in her POVs 😉
I think she is very shy, about the rules in Spain if some people don't follow a little rule nobody will say something, but something like driving yeah we are very strict
You can tell she's quite an introvert. When they were talking about looking at people's eyes when talking to them the look on her face was quite funny, since I think I've seen her quite a lot not looking to much into people's eyes hehe Quite uncommon here in Spain. She totally reminds me of a friend from Málaga, not only in her behaviour (although the one in the video is more shy), but her accent and voice are exactly the same.
We have the same thing called Janteloven (Jante's Law) in Norway too (and in Denmark). It's not an actual law, just a social practice. It's about being humble and not thinking you are better than everyone else. Some people argue this idea is too strict and keeps us (Nordic people) from being more proud of our accomplishments and realising our dreams, and others say it's a good thing to be humble and recognise that everyone has flaws and we're not perfect. I would say I can see both sides but I think that in this age of narcissism on social media we can all use a healthy dose of humility.
That and Janteloven creates funny jokes as well. Like do you remember the whole "we can buy sweeden if we want" song and a whole bunch of other songs that just boast about how great we are. Like its comedy, but without Janteloven it would not be.
For me, the jante law is just about being humble. It's pretty obvious that some people are very good at things and pretending that everyone is as good as the successful person is just idiotic. You don't tell what you are good at, you instead show that you are good at it.
Well, originally its from Denmark, and also not a social practice, it was written as comedy as a criticism of society, to mock the way people tend to actually behave. It is not written as a guideline of how to behave... almost the opposite.
We don't have Jante law in the Netherlands, but a similar norm. We don't like it when people try to stand out and be special. You should be as everyone else. Bragging or showing off is frowned upon.
@@oestergaard141 The author of Janteloven, Aksel Sandemose, had a Norwegian mother and lived much of his life in Norway so it's more accurate to say Janteloven, like its auther, is originally both Danish and Norwegian.
Despite its original intent, Janteloven describes a Nordic phenomenon even in our current times, where people strive to not brag or seem too egotistical or loud.
Where in Germany is it customary to hug someone when you first meet? I only know something like that in the south and only from good friends. (I come from the northern half and find hugging rather uncomfortable, even with friends!)
4:25 As a German I learned to cross the 🍴 fork and knife in a specific way to show, that you aren't finished with the meal, but you take a small brake (for example when you go to the toilet). If you put those parallel (in a specific way) it means that you finished with the plated...
How I (Dutch) learned it (from parents): both fork and knife horizontally on opposite sites = not finished current dish. Fork and knife horizontally together with knife edge towards yourself = finished. Fork and knife horizontally together with knife edge away from yourself = want to have/ order more.
We have these customs, though I'd say they are eithe routdated or only used in upper class restaursnt etc. I think her mentioning were the arms are placed was more universal rule.
8:00 so swiss people come to germany to break the law.
(I live at the swiss border and here swiss people are famous for going too fast, parking in wrong places and so on.
The Swedish girl has amazing copper hair.
Copper hair is closer to ginger, she is more to the blonde.
As an italian i only hug people im really close too
wow everybody is so well spoken in their 2nd language! Very impressive.
I'm from Spain, I've lived in Germany for a long time and I speak the language well, but some things still seem a bit strange to me. At a meeting with work colleagues (after work), a female colleague I was meeting for the first time (I'm a man) wanted to hug me to say goodbye and I instinctively refused (I hug her but it was obvious I didn´t want to), and I could see my colleague's expression of aggravation on her face. I found this very strange, because in Spain such a hug is very intimate and is only done in a romantic context. But as I hardly knew the woman, it felt uncomfortable for me to hug her. Afterwards I felt bad and I thought I was rude to her because I didn´t hug her like she was expecting, but watching this video now I understand more.
I think I understand you more than your German colleagues. As a German myself, I don't hug people that I just met. Never. It feels just weird to me. I know somebody that I have never hugged even though I know her for some years already. But we're both fine with it. I think I can hug somebody goodbye after a first meeting if a friend introduced me to them and we got along quite well. But it also happened that they tried to initiate a goodbye hug and I was more like "do I need to?". So I don't think that you should have felt bad about it and I also don't think that you were rude. In certain social circles it's just normal to give a hug so they might have been slightly confused. And especially if they were colleagues and not really friends (yet) I'd feel weird to give them a hug. Even though I got along quite well with my colleagues before I entered uni, I never hugged them. We had fun, had lunch together, had some parties together but I never hugged them and everyone was fine with it. So I guess it really depends. Most of the time I'm like "don't invade my personal space" 😅
I can understand you, not only as a man but as a Nordic person (Norwegian). I would personally be careful about hugging or touching (aside from a handshake) a woman I didn't know well, partly for my own sake but also partly for her sake. You never know what kind of accusations can happen.
I find it a bit ironic, by the way, that as a Spaniard you mentioned hugging, because don't Spanish people kiss each other on the cheek as a greeting? Maybe it's only between two women or two men, but not between men and women? We don't typically kiss as a greeting in Norway (or Nordic countries in general), but some female friends will do the "fake kiss" greeting (make a kissing noise and lightly touch the cheek).
@@OnnarashiI'm from Spain as well and yeah men usually give 2 kisses (cheek to cheek, no lip) to women but in a formal context (like at work) there are more chances of a handshake happening than a hug between men and women. A hug is seen as much more intimate than a kiss greeting. I guess it's just a cultural thing 😅.
I get that you found that weird. Personally, I always feel strange when Italian or Spanish people kiss on the cheek, like, I always get so flustered and don't know what to do 😅 the first time it happened it was an Italian guy and I'm a Swedish woman, and it was so awkward to me. I'd rather do a handshake, tbh. And I'd leave hugs for when you know the person more.
@@Onnarashi Hi! Spaniard here. The thing about the Sanish two-kisses greeting is that, firstly, it's not even an actual kiss at the end of the day (just both persons' cheeks slightly touching), and, secondly, If you think of it, you only approach your heads during that action, whereas when you hug someone both your bodies are fully touching, so it is quite more invasive than the "kiss".
That Spanish Girl! 😍
Greeting in the Netherlands you have several variants.
1. Handshake - More formal, this is for the work environment and school mostly. However if you meet someone for the first time this can count as well.
2. Hug - Often between friends
3. 3 Kisses - Very close friends (often no further then aunt/uncle level and it's usually the ladies that do it)
4. Hug + 3 kisses - Family and your lover usually, although the lover part is recently changed a lot from what I can tell.
* It really also depends on the family and how individual people think about things. Specially the younger generations seem to be going off the beaten path thanks to social media. And not in a good way.
For the Netherlands, you don't eat everything except bread with fork and knife. We got plenty of food that you eat with your hands actually, go to the famous Dutch snackbar for example and you only get finger food. Pizza you might need to cut, but aside from that use your hands. Fish from the market you can either eat with your hands or use a fork (often wood or plastic) So it really is depending on what type of food it is. Posh people might overly use fork and knife to the level of insanity. The Dutch girl in this video gives those vibes that she indeed is a bit too posh to really understand what normal people do (or she's covering herself)
Dutch people are very direct to the level that others may perceive it as being rude. We just like to get to the point and don't beat around the bush. Tell it as it is. To the Dutch, if you are not honest and direct it's often perceived as being rude and dishonest instead. You will end up with that Dutch person trusting you less because of it.
Netherlands and rules are pretty much follow the rules, although not as strict as Germany for example. Just make sure you don't walk too long in the cycle lanes where it's too busy, you likely get run over and shouted at. Specially in big cities like Amsterdam, Rotterdam and Den Haag. While in Friesland for example you need to be very aware of having less cycle infrastructure so you end up often sharing the road with other traffic. Where it's all too common to see people racing on the narrow roads, specially if their parents are farmers, they tend to ignore set rules. This doesn't limit to cars and mopeds/scooters only, but also tractors. So be very aware and to be safe regarding tractors, get in the grass and wait for them to pass. Littering in smaller towns in Friesland is a 100% no-no. You will get called out and in some cases they might even get physical to force you to pick your junk up. Do it on the land of a farmer and the farmer might decide to destroy your car, trust me I seen it several times. And yes Germans, in all cases it were German tourists that got their karma points exchanged. The younger generations often tend to ignore rules a lot more, which shows a degradation in morals and common sense.
Ordering in the Netherlands, yeah you just wait until the waiter comes to your table. If you think you can call them, specially if it's too often, you might end up getting words directed at you if not thrown out. It's very rude to the staff who are working as hard as they can as it is, they will come to you asap. Chill, take it easy. If you wanted food fast, go find a snackbar or a typical American franchise instead.
Bragging about money in the Netherlands is not done, you do NOT EVER ask someone about that. Even talking about your own income is frowned upon. It gets people annoyed easily. And yes, after social media came in people started to brag about things, both in "look at me being this good/rich" and the other way around. I seen the rise of social media and I honestly fear for the future, specially with so many airheaded people that have no clue at all how to actually have a decent life on their own. The near future will become a mess with that generation, things only just started to escalate. As soon as my generation is too old to work, which is in about 25-30 years from now, you will see a huge problem as none of these social media garden tools will be able to fill any of the gaps needed. Not a single one has the know-how or drive to do anything.
A toast in the Netherlands you must look others in the eyes, I however never heard anyone speak about 7 years of bad luck. Perhaps this is something more local (or as the Dutch girl mentioned, more about young people), i don't know. However regardless, you must look the ones you toast with in the eyes, and indeed look around to everyone there before starting to drink. You don't want to exclude anyone as this is very rude and condescending. A toast is considered a matter of honor.
in het algemeen heb je wel gelijk in je hele comment, maar waarom ben je zo negatief over de jongere generatie?
You're very negative about how the younger generation is influenced by social media. Growing up I never liked the three kisses. It's something I've only ever done with aunts and other older female family members. I've heard older generations complain about the mandatory three kisses too, and also don't really see older generations do it anymore, except maybe 70+. Social distancing during covid was the final nail in the coffin, and I have not heard a single person complain about it. I don't see how socal media played a role.
It's becoming more common to talk about money. It's not about bragging, rather just talk about prices and things like that. It's becoming more and more acceptable to ask people about things like their budget, their income, their rent etc. "What are you making per month that you can afford to buy a house?" That's at least my experience with people in the age range 18 to early 40s.
And what's the rant about young people not being able to do anything? You're just regurgitating the same centuries old complaints about younger people. There's tons of examples in every generation. There were even similar complaints about the young folks who would eventually go on and fight in WWII. The lads who stormed the beaches of Normandy were called lazy and good for nothing a few years earlier.
You expect people visiting your country to note them paragraphs.😂
Story: I am German , as you might or not know we use the right side to “drive”, once I was abt 8 years old I was still eligible to drive with my bike on the side walk and I did that on the right side of the side walk but a old man drove by with his bike and harshly screamed at me “YOU NEED TO DRIVE ON THE OTHER SIDE WALK,NOTE THAT! 😡”, he drove on the bicycle way on the street so not on the side walk but yeah ever since then I had a fear of driving on the opposite side walk, it’s not illegal but I guess I was wrong? over the years I developed a phobia of bicycles anyway like not screaming at the sight of seeing one, riding one in the sense. Children in Germany get teached to ride a bicycle the correct way ON THE STREET in elementary school which is sorta an exam but the side walk “rule” was never mentioned to me in any sort of way just “drive on the side walk to be alright “ - my parents. But that man scared the hell out of me and I must say I remember from an diary entry that I cried because of that, that day 😅
I 100% agree with the Italian girl… instagram plays a huge part of it
I still don't really understand what is the purpose of Instagram, except doing "secred" ads for products. Most of people go there just to fap and they don't care what product that girl holds, so it's everything really ridiculous and perverse. There is no real content, just girls showing some products. I am there only because of few people who deny to use Facebook and other sites, which doesn't make any sense after all when Instagram is owned by Facebook anyway. 😀
for France, I a do not agree, I am still telling to people if something is wrong - in general we are frank - and me, I hate the fact people says something in my back rather to my face directly if something is wrong. but maybe it's because I am from the West (Brittany) or because it s like that with my entourage :D and us Breton, we are more 'rough' on the edges ;-)
But I value this quality in others too. Of course, I will not say that maybe to someone I do not know at all, and it does not matter that much to me. It can depends on the situation I guess.
It was always very fascinating to me that we in europe have like very minor things that are INCREDBLY common throughout the majority of europe like the toasting thing and 7 years of bad sex, like that's crazily specific right? But then you have all these neighbouring countries and every single one has very own specific norms when it comes to greeting and what's considered personal space and whatnot. I have had some spanish friends and they insisted on the whole kissing thing when we first met and even after (while IN germany) and it was insanely weird to me. Still is, to this day. Kissing or even the motion of kissing to me is something intimate that should only be shared with a significant other or smooching your kids or parents/grandparents.
For me, wether you hug or shake someones hand when you meet them for the first time always changes depending on the people and it can get quite awkward. Like even if your best friend or whatever presents their new partner to you or a friend of him, it's ALWAYS different from person to person, because some people wanna feel out the other ones first before hugging them. I personally would always go for a hug in the mentioned scenarios, because there's like a feeling of proxy-trust that I get from my friend that I want to put forward to their friend/partner in that situation, even if it turns out that person turns out to be bad. It's also a sign of welcoming the person in a more friendly way if it's a hug instead of a handshake. Like you're actually welcoming them on an emotional level into the circle if that makes sense. But yeah this thing is VERY different for each individual even within the country which is why greeting people in these specific situations can be very awkward.
What happened to Christina did she left world friends or something else
I dont agree that we dont say "Thank you" in The Netherlands. I say always "Thank you" to the waitress and everyone I know also.
i think it depends like if you eat at a restaurant yes but if you just order something to go not so much....
WOAH
in France crossing the fork and the knife means you're finished eating
but here in Croatia it means "I'm not done yet" or "I'm just using the restroom, I'll finish/order more after"
Same in France. The lady in the video got it wrong 😅
i have lived in the us for over a decade and it is definitely normal to hug. i wouldn’t say it’s the norm, but definitely not weird at all to be introduced to a friend or relative or a friend/relative. it might vary by state though
4:23 I never heard about the elbow thing, and I do put my elbows on the table sometimes.
It dates back to the time of the knights; only they were allowed to put their elbows on the table.
@@firemainstreet that doesn’t sound true
2:15 but why is it so problematic to give kisses. Been german and knowing the italian colture this seems strange saying
I be vibing with italian girl a lot she so astonishing, but as a portuguese man i also be vibing with the spanish girl she seems so chill and quite
Julia so pretty and smart😊 I already big fan of her🫶🏼🫶🏼
The swiss and german girls say rules are respected in their countries. True, but this doesn't Apple when they are abroad as tourists.
I am italian, a country where rules are often broken, and i would like to point out how little respect tourists from all over the world pay to the wonderful works of art of my country.
Respectful only at home.
Swiss tourists are among the most respectful tourists on Earth
Never heard of Swiss people breaking any rules here, for Germans it's a different story.
Swiss are famous for going like double of the sipped limit everywhere on the Italian roads, since in Switzerland they get like 500 euros fine if the go 5km/h above limits.
@@panter82 doesn't quite sound like the ethnically Swiss population of Switzerland, but rather like the portion of the inhabitants that speed in Switzerland also, which statistically (and proportionally), as bigoted as it may sound, are mainly immigrants from the Balkans, but who knows. One needs to keep in mind that about 25% of Switzerland's population are nationals from all over the world not even holding Swiss citizenship yet, and then, many of those that do go on to acquire a Swiss passport, still make no effort whatsoever to integrate into Swiss society and abide by the rules, neither within the country nor abroad
@@Tackself I can assure you that these are Swiss people. Mostly from Ticino, so they are technically ethnic Italian, but still. As soon as they cross the border they forget all rules. Then start complaining how Italy sucks
Another german perspective on hugs, i would not hug friends of a friend when i first say hello. I dont really like it and i know a lot of people who dont like it as well here. I dont wanna invade a personal space that much before checking how comfortable the person seems with touchiness.
Sometimes people do that tho, so if you are uncomfortable, you should reach out your hand first quickly haha
But yeah its definitely suuper common to hug them goodbye after meeting them for the first time :)
I think its also a Gender thing. Girls in germany tend to be huggers, but the boys?
They either just go along when someone hugs them or they just never do that. I think I have hugged more girls back in a greeting than I have most of my male friends. And if its your friend you hug as a guy its often more in a comedic way, like trying to crush your friend in a hug competition etc.
And thlate ris mor eof a yputh thing...
I totally agree with you that germany isn't a coountry full of huggers
If I feel comfortable, I'm asking the other person, if I can hug her/him.
The girls are all lovely but, Giulia would you marry me? 😍😍😍
Confrontation goes both ways. If you approach a complete stranger and demand they pick up litter, you shouldn't be surprised if you get punched in the face.
0:46 Untill you hear grunting
Wow that Dutch girl is so cute
Which one??
Karjin is a football players right now ❤❤🔥🔥
Quando Giulia stava quasi abbracciando la ragazza olandese... oddio stavo quasi per svenire! 😍😍😍
She felt uncomfortable
devi fare una scelta però! ahhaha
@@axwleurope9519 yes I saw it. Eeehhh... we Italians are like that!... We are more "physical", we need to establish contact when we communicate. The peoples of the north, however, as we know, are very different in this.
@@ReaperOfSouls83 tenersi aperte più alternative è una delle chiavi del successo!! 😎 😂😂😂😂
@@raffaelefederico5427 hahah secondo te quanti anni hanno?
Interesting that the Swedish like to hug just as much as us Germans and the rest doesn't. Wonder if there is some shared Germanic cultural background reason for it
Its because Germanic are more civilized and romance man are often more dirty (yet not as bad as muslims ofcourse) so the women dont like to hug there.
Talking behind someone's back is definitely a French WOMAN thing. French men are more confrontational, direct and honest.
Except perhaps for hugging/kissing, I don't believe any single person's experience can really convey the vast range of habits of one culture or another. In my experience, it is more about the type of people you're around than the country. I've been to Britain, France, Italy, Germany, Austria, Nederlands, Greece, Chech rep., Poland, Belgium, Croatia, Serbia, Bosnia, Hungary... and really didn't see much of what is talked about here at all. On the other hand, in my country, in Europe, I've seen the whole spectrum of people, habits, dos and dont's, manners, ..
Here in Brazil on my pov it's really rude keep looking someone in the eyes if it's an unknown person... I think it's probable to keep looking in the eyes of your close friends.. If you stare at a stranger, it's gonna be really rude and some people even fight... We have a saying like "você é de ouro?" (Are you made of golden?) That's usually asked when the one is getting upset of being stared 😂
The most stereotypical sentence associated with Muslim immigrants in Germany is a very aggressive out of the blue "Was guckst du?!" (What are you looking?!) for the longest time I actually just believed that to be a poorly translated sentence of aggression/ insult from Turkish until I started to see more and more "expat" videos on RUclips of people complaining about feeling like they are getting constantly starred at in Germany. For us it's the total opposite, not looking someone in the eye is seen as mischievous and insulting to the point of dishonouring and looking at people, regardless of wether they are strangers or not, is just perfectly normal to us
@@hmvollbanane1259 what if they are not friends at all, they argue, never talks to each other, you keep looking in the eyes or divert your look?
@@TimeToSingChannel we look everyone in the eyes when talking, or greeting while crossing paths with strangers, when there is no interaction we might still just look at them (hard to describe, we are not truly looking at them specifically with any intention from our perspective but just looking, which is normal and not provocative in our culture).
To give you some examples of how engrained it is:
"To risk your face" is if you do something risky/ controversial that might result in people averting their eyes from your face as if something was wrong with it.
"Der/die kann mir nicht mal direkt in die Augen gucken" - s/he can't even look me straight in the eyes. An explanation given on why you refuse to interact with someone unpleasant/ untrustworthy/ arrogant or with a very guilty conscience.
"Schau mir in die Augen" - Look into my eyes. - tell the truth and nothing but the truth.
"Den Blick von jemandem abwenden" - to divert ones gaze from someone. To turn your back on someone for doing something you strongly disagree with breaking off contact.
"Sich aus den Augen verlieren" - to lose eachother out of the eyes. A contact/ friendship that has gone away without an active decision due to lifepaths diverting ways. (And the opposite, nicht aus den Augen verlieren, as a promise to keep in touch)
"Nicht dem Blick standhalten können" - incapable of withstanding the look - to have a very guilty conscience
"Auf jemanden/ etwas ein Auge werfen" - to throw an eye on someone/thing. To fancy someone/thing
"Keines Blickes würdigen" - not valuing with gaze - to treat someone as if they were air, either because you've decided to shun them (the highest form of showing someone that you truly despise them in Germanic cultures, you are acting as if they were dead and refuse to acknowledge their presence) or as a complaint about an arrogant person that didn't even acknowledge your presence (e.g. someone at work who only smears honey around the mouths of higher ups)
And so on and so on
@@hmvollbanane1259dont caption the word muslim please. They are a problem.
Now do the same videos with 7 eastern European countries. That would be interesting.
Naaaaah I'm sorry but in France people will tell you directly if somethings wrong. If you talk about someone in their back you are un faux-cul. We are also very confrontational. I guess it really depends who you are with but I personally don't tend to talk/stay with people who talks shit behind others back
P.S. : Oh she is from Paris, nvm must be normal in her social circle then :/ Also, maybe a difference between north and south in that regards
yep, 100% agree with you
That’s what I thought, even us Belgians see French people as being usually more direct and outspoken.
@@oliveranderson7264only if they want to offend you. They love it
From my experience Dutch, French and Nordics are direct just when they have something bad to say and they really want to offend someone.
Ça se voit qu'elle est parisienne 😂
Sans méchanceté parce qu'elle a pas l'air hautaine non plus mais le style vestimentaire un peu chic fait très parisien tu vois pas ça en campagne
Isn't it 5 o'clock where you put your fork and knife when you're finished?
For everyone's information... if you walk on the bikelane in the Netherlands, you get óne bell-ring as a warning.
That is the final warning and they will not pump the brakes. Especially not if there are people behind them.
In the kindest scenario, they will belt out a sweary warcry to scare you onto the pedestrian-pavement and in the worst scenario (for you) they will drive against you, breaking at least a few of your bones in the process.
And we don’t ride into the pedestrians just because we want to, but because we are going faster than they expect (so we can’t brake that fast) and they are in our way.
In NL we learn from a young age to consider the bike lane. In other countries bike lanes are not that common, so the attention to it is less.
@@masclem One thing I didn't understand when I visited Amsterdam, and I'm not talking about the very touristic centre, but "zone 2-3" (where I was staying), is that they wouldn't stop even when you where about to use a zebra crossing that passed over their bike lane. In my country (Spain) even cyclists have to allow pedestrians use the zebra crossing, since they've got the priority if they're already waiting. I was very surprised since it seemed the opposite of being civic, and Dutch people are famous for being super civic and polite haha
6:02 No French people aren't like that. Some women are like that. 😄
has nothing to do with being a woman... it just means you are a mean person... I know plenty of men who behave like that too...
@@hy3na739 🤡
Geez. Have you ever spoken to a woman or do you only know them from high school dramas?
@@thespankmyfrank Argumentum ad personam concerning a imaginary weak sexual experience of an opponent that cannot be contradicted : typical low IQ female reaction in desperate need of coitus. 😘
I bet you live with a lot of cats
@@thespankmyfrank I bet you have many cats 😄
hey, Marina! sorry to disagree but.. kisses for greeting are fairly normal (albeit admittedly still not the standard) here in Munich. probably something that came over from Italy, but still.
Just un gay bars
I've never seen Germans greeting with kisses. It's impossible to make friends in Germany
I'm currently living in London and they are becoming quite common now. I guess they feel is trendy to act more "European". The funny thing is I'm Spanish and every time I meet an Italian or Spanish girl here I feel socially weird to greet them with two kisses as I would normally do in my country.
@axwleurope9519 yes, it's impossible, they are awful
Ah yes, of course, the law abiding Swiss and their car driving manners.....
That was really a good one!
3:40 - It's exactly the same here in Portugal. Many people instinctively do that, so most, if not all, waiters know when the customer has finish eating the main course just by looking at the fork and knife. When they're in any other position, they usually approach the table and ask if the person has already finished eating or not. Unless they see that the customer's plate is empty, then it's obvious that they have finished eating. 🙂
In Czech Republic, you have to always wait until waiter returns to you, if you don't wait and start calling him or something, it will be really bad for you. But when I was in Croatia for vacation, I noticed that it's completely different there, you sit there and nobody cares, you have to call a waiter or you will be sitting there another 2 days and nobody asks if you need something, which is kind of unnatural for us because we are really afraid to talk to waiter before he asks first what we need.
I visited Portugal in 2019, but I don't remember how it was there, only thing I remember and it was weird for us was when I was paying, waiter just walked of with my money and I didn't know what it means, so we were still siting there and it took him few minutes before he returned with change back, that would never happened here, ofcourse you give some tip, but they always return your change immediately in front of you and after they find coins back, then they hide your bigger bill, so you still see that while their are looking for change, I think there are even some laws about that.
In other countries it mostly work like that you put money into some book and let it on the table and waiter takes it, I still don't understand how it works, but it was like that even in Poland and Latvia which surprised me, I expected they will be more similar to us, but it's totaly different.
@@Pidalin In Portugal, the waiter usually is waiting for you far away or is paying attention to see if the person is ready to order (if the client looks at you and do the hand gesture to call you or have already closed the menu or something) or they can come directly to the table and ask if you are ready. If the waiter don't care at all would be considered bad service. Also, when you enter the restaurant is expected for you to wait for the waiter to seat, if the client just come and sit down would be considered impatient / upset. About the bill, you need to ask for it and we usually do it when we are ready to leave, which happens after coffee and a little chat (sometimes longer). In some countries they bring the bill without asking for it, which would be considered very rude in Portugal, like they want to expel you or are worried you will leave without paying the bill.
@@inesdesousamartins6313 Waiting to be seated is weird bizarr for us here in Czechia, especially when restaurant is almost empty.
There are such places now, but for example my father would never go there because he consider it rude from them that you can't just sit immediately where you want and you have to wait there to be seated, in our culture, it just feels weird, it's like in some noble restaurant, but you really don't expect it in some ordinary pub.
When there is no reservé on the table, I don't understand why waiting for waiter who will allow me to sit there, this american system is just weird.
@@Pidalin I don't know if that is an american system as I always remember being a very common system in portuguese restaurants, even in low key tradicional ones (I know the formal way with a stop sign, but is not the same thing). For us is considered nice the waiter come to the door when we enter the restaurant and we greet each other. That way the waiter will be aware we are there too and can help to seat and bring the menu. If the restaurant is empty he / she will just say we can choose where to seat. Also is a very tradicional way to say "the dishes of the day" or the ones the waiter recommends (usually very good options). I don't see as an american thing, but as a warmer latin relationship thing, maybe.
@@inesdesousamartins6313 Maybe you got it from UK, I am not sure if they have this too.
For us Czechs, it's kind of rude or annoying when you are trying to give not needed help, like I don't need help with putting my ass on the chair, so don't bother me. 😀 And ofcourse waiter will bring menu even here and they are also aware, they always check if someone arrived. But some restaurants can be pretty bussy, you see waiter running around, he noticed you and will arrive to you, it can take few minutes before they actually come to you, so you want to stand in the door for several minutes and waiting for them to be seated? No Czech would do it, we would just leave.
I visited Portugal in 2018 and I was kind of shocked by your culture of waiting in lines, in really long lines. Waiting lines for us means communism, when Czech sees longer waiting line, we just leave and go to other place. And if there is a restaurant with this system that you have to be seated, it works in a way that you go there and they tell you "just sit where you want" so it's completely pointless system.
It's just weird for us. And if you have some special worker just for seating people then it's a difference in our economies, becuase we have very low unemployment and there are no people, you can't find anyone who would do such low paid work. Even supermarkets are switching to self-checkout service because there are no people and those who sit behind cash desk have a lot of other work, they have to run away every few minutes, so it happens that there is noone and you have to wait for them.
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I, as a Dutchie myself, don't agree with the Dutch girl about following the rules just like Swiss and German people. Here in the Netherlands we are so much less uptight about the rules compared to Germans. I even got annoyed when I heard about following the rules in Switzerland, because I know I will deffinitely not abide to them if they don't make sense. But maybe it is also because I live in the North of the Netherlands, where people are more free spirited.
As someone who lives in the Randstad and also lived for a year in Gelderland, we definitely lack some manner and are less strict compared to some other countries.
@@N3v3r_S3ttl3 I don't agree it is a matter of manners. We just don't like to be told what and what not to do. We just use common sense instead of abiding to fixed rules. For example cycling through a red light when there is no other traffic around.
In the south it’s just so.
In NL we have a lot of rules and standards, just to make sure everything is arranged in a good way. But also most of us like to bend the rules in our own little benefits.
Because we all want to decide for ourselves what works for us.
Indeed like biking or walking through red light.
6:05 N'IMPORTE QUOI... RIDICULE!!!!! 🤡🤦🏼♂ She really doesn't French people at all. French people are very direct, like Dutch and German. And we are known for that!!! American people even say we are "rude", and we say they are "hypocrites"...
Swedes being non-confrontational is so true. We once had a project for a Swedish customer, and it was so annoying. We would have big meetings to decide things, and the only outcome was that everyone was in a good mood, but nothing got decided because everyone would just agree with everything that was said. Even the British are better---they won't tell you they want something else directly either, but they will at least hint at it in a way you can learn to read.
Hi! You forgot to add 'The' before Netherlands, because our country's name is The Netherlands ^-^
Hope this helped! Thanks for the fun videos!
At least they didn't call your country Holland.
Unforgivable!
I mean its helpful to let them know. This channel is by Koreans, maybe they dont know this ;)
Hugs are only for closer friends and family members in Germany. At least I don't hug a friend's friend I don't really know so well.
It's also not true, that we don't give cheeck kisses. Actually it's often combined with a hug.
8:40 Switzerland and Germany kept this from a very bad period of Europe... 🤦🏼♂
AAAaaaagain this specific Europe represented, with same, western countries, and perpetuated stories.
The Spanish girl is very discreet
To me this is all just neurotypical customs and stuff. I’m starting to see why my thai friend always ask me why I’m not Swedish in any way even though as far as nationality goes I am exclusively Swedish.
My best reply is adding to the confusion I’m afraid. But I tell him ”maybe it’s Maybelline, maybe it’s autism”
For the hundredth(?) time: Swiss is an adjective, not a noun. The country is called Switzerland.
Also, it's Germany, not German. Please hire someone else to write the titles and subtitles.
My English is pretty bad, but this also bothers me, not exactly here, but in many other videos or comments. They make these videos in Korea, I think that Koreans maybe don't understand how these things like adjectives vs nouns work in european languages, I have some understanding for that, but when europeans are not able to distinguish these two, I don't really understand it. I am Czech and it's really annoying how half of people call my country "Czech" which is adjective or name of language or a person. It's even weirder with Slovaks, I was told several times, that correct adjective is Slovak, not Slovakian, but still, I hear even native English speakers using Slovakian, so I am really confused.
@@Pidalin I know English pretty well and I'm usually good with geography and country names but I actually had no idea the demonym was Slovak instead of Slovakian! I guess it all depends on the exposure you've had regarding the country? I'm northern European so I don't really have a connection to Slovakia... I do know the difference between Czech and Czechia though... so idk. I guess the same could be said for the Korean translations for these videos, they're just so far from Europe that they keep getting it wrong. They really should get a proper translator though.
@@thespankmyfrank Maybe both variants are correct, grammar nazis sometimes think that they know everything, but they don't. 🙂
@@Pidalin Yeah, Czech is another one that really makes me mad :D Saying "Czech" as a short form of "Czech Republic", is like saying "Argentine", "Mexican", "Russian" as short form for "Argentine Republic", "United Mexican States" and "Russian Federation" 😂 Like no, the short forms are obviously Argentina, Mexico and Russia. And in the same sense it's Czechia, not Czech. How native speakers don't realize that it's an adjective is completely beyond me :D
As for Slovak (from Slovakia), I can understand why people say "Slovakian". Some demonyms are irregular and unpredictable, e.g. for Slovenia it's Slovene, for Montenegro it's Montenegrin. Lots of people say "Slovenian" and "Montenegrian" because that would be the logical regular prediction. There's no way to know it unless you heard it before. But at least those people aren't using Slovakian, Slovenian and Montenegrian as country names 😂😂😂
There are so many typing errors in this video, I lost count
So as an autistic person I know now that I can't order at a restorant or bar by myselft in some country because I can't make eye contact and say "sorry" an astronomicaly amount of time 😅
Nederlands was interesting
Why is the United Staates always alone on the left?
because it's not a european country?...like the others....
@@vaudou74 That may be the case with this topic, but that is almost always the case and it has nothing to do with whether it is America or Europe.
Not a european country and even on the map separated from the rest… :)
@@vaudou74 when they had US Canada and UK, US sat on the left, Canada and UK to the right. Is Canada a European country?
@@reesofraft4166 well Canada have sat on the same side as Europe with US on the other side. Or when the had US, UK and Korea, US was on one side and UK and Korea on the other. UK and Korea are not close on the map.
About manners: you eat pizza with knife and fork. Unless it is pizza al taglio, on the go.
@@flz7056 yep
@@flz7056 not so polite if u are in a restaurant...
Hermosa nuestra española Julia, viva España y nuestras hermosas mujeres 🇪🇸
The Dutch girl could be like Christina's sister, the American
"Kissing is too much, we would prefer a hug or a handshake"
Err, what's wrong with like, "hello"?
A hug is even more invasive than a fake kiss to the air
@@axwleurope9519 fr
@@axwleurope9519 That definitely depends on your culture though. As a socially anxious Swede, I'll rarely hug strangers, but when people have hugged me it's okay. A bit awkward, but fine. It's just a platonic embrace, whatever. However, when a southern European have done the kiss greeting, I always get so flustered. We are not used to having strangers' faces that close to ours. It is very awkward and feels way too invasive for me. But that's just my culture, just like yours is the opposite.
Italian girl was most attractive overall.
Great video! Dutch girl always 🔥
"Swiss" is the name of the inhabitants of "Switzerland", that's not the name of the country ^^
Probably had to shorten the actual name to fit? I agree it's not correct, and I noticed it too.
What Mehtap said about Swiss people being rule conforming to the point of ridiculousness is very true haha, the sad part is that there really are a surprising amount of old people watching you through their curtains
Oh yeah. The Hobbypoliziste. Try to take it with Humour. I usually smile and wave at them :) And most of the Time they smile and wave back :D
@@Donknowww you waving to each other is so cute :)
@@lollylula6399 😘
The Swedish girl resembles that one who says How dare you., esp when she said she was confrontational
Just remember the USA is larger than Europe as a whole and it's as diverse as Europe if not more in certain areas.
You’re wrong. Europe is larger then the US and the US is no where near as diverse as Europe. Remember, Europe is not a country, it’s a continent.
The toast thing is really weird, here in Latin america is called `Brindis` , and nobody cares if you are looking someone or not. thats really a euro superstition
Actually in Spain, for what I know (maybe it's different in other areas), we try to touch everyone's 🥂 during the brindis, but nothing happens if you miss someone. Never I have heard anything about bad luck if you don't look to the eyes, it's more if you don't put the glass on the table before drinking from it.
@@angyML Yeah ! touch the coups, thats the most important, a be happy , enjoy your Brindis 😊
@@angyMLsame thing in Italy
Not very much poepel know netherlends but i am netherlends so i know ent Belgiëm ent netherlend ar close je ❤ent fun fact in te netherlends we see it like Nederland like its weird but okay ent if sombody is on te bike stroke walking joe can just ride tem over lol
They never have any Caribbean representatives
You have to understand that this is changing quickly. Millions of muslims and africans are moving to Europe.
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as a british, confirmed
Love the Swiss girl!
I don't like kisses neither hugs to strangers