The worst backhanded compliment is when someone says you’re pretty for the nationality you are, like you’re really trying to tell me my people are ugly and I’m an exception & you expect me to take that as a compliment how cheeky 🥴😅
Taylor Haddley I do ask that at times. But it’s not to be rude I’m just curious. A lot of woman now a days use wigs, extensions, clip in extensions and so on. So it is rare to see woman out grow their hair anymore to be honest. And if it is real that is very inspiring
C Bell okay you sound ignorant. A lot of my “females” don’t wear fake hair and get accused of it. Why would you go up to someone and ask that but if you don’t see the issue with that question then you are apart of the problem
Angie Babe but it’s the fact that because in african american, people assume that my hair is not real. It is just a question that I, personally, feel is rude.
I've actually gotten one about hair too. "I like ya hair, but blank and blank has just beautiful natural hair" (The people they were talking about has curly long hair, but my hair is wavy and short.)
Omg! I get you look prettier with straight hair.. i’m like for real? I started saying you are biased because telling my best friend he is an asshole is not very friend-like
OurLittleSecretYT that’s a nice compliment actually. In my 28 years I have met maybe a handful of black people who are well spoken. So good for you! I’m pretty sure there is a lot more but not in my area anyway
Someone said something similar to me too..... It was along the lines of “You’re not from around here are you? You sound educated and not like these other black girls around here”. Had to think about that one 😕
According to some people, I have some Asian accent. I had friends or random people ask where I was born. I was born here, in USA! It doesn't bother me anymore.
Staph ! My grandma told me once (i live abroad) ‘hey.. you aren’t as fat as your sister’ and my sister was also in the room.. in one sentence she burnT us all
@@bookbag6432 22 is young but is definitely not too young to be married and have a child. I got married at 22 and we had our child a week before my 24th birthday. I'm in my late 20s now and look back with happiness about my decision. You can be mature, financially responsible, and intelligent at 22 years of age. You do not have to wait until you are 35 or 40 to live responsibly and maturely.
Jessi M. I graduated college at 21, being 22 and married with a child I wonder if you ever lived by yourself? Paid your own bills alone. Went to vacation by yourself. Experienced the world by yourself. I’m now 25 and I believe everyone needs to experience alone before being tied down by kids and a husband and having to tell them your every move and life for your family. Sometimes a girl just has to book a trip to Europe alone for the hell of it instead of worrying about a babysitter or letting your husband know but to each their own.
This is old. I felt like I was losing my mind or that it was deja Vu when I was watching this. Only to realize that I've seen it before, they just reuploaded it again.
V Lloyd You’re wron on this one cause u saying your fat implies that being fat is bad and if your friends call you beautiful it is because they believe that your body and face is beautiful
That's not a backhanded compliment. You are being disingenuous by calling yourself "fat", you are trying to trick your friends into saying "No, you are not fat." It is unfair for you to do that to people. People can be fat and beautiful or skinny and ugly or vice versa. If a person is skinny, fat, tall, short, pink, purple or whatever, I am not going to lie to them and say they are the opposite just to make them feel better. Love yourself as is or change what you can SAFELY!!
Jelena Jeanine I love my mother in law to death but the first time I met her she asked if my hair was all mine and started feeling it. I’m white just have thick ass hair.
I swear whenever I hear “ you look... for a ... “ it’s literally the dumbest thing ever because that person is giving what they think is a compliment without even realizing the “back-handnesses” of their choice of words which to me doesn’t make it a compliment ! But I give it a pass if they have good intentions !
what do the "..." represent? I am asking because i have never hear that phrase used any other way other than in reference to black / dark skin. i don't see it used in a variety of ways. personally speaking. you with healthy for a fat girl? idk lol how else that would it be used?
J. Jo oh there’s many of ways it can be used... I hate when people say “ you got s lot a junk in the trunk for a white girl “ like based off stereotypes is how they generally perceive all people and when they see all people of that “ certain type of race ” aren’t ... they genuinely are shocked and give a compliment ( in their head which sounds good but sounds bad when you hear it ) and genuinely feel it’s ok
"Your so pretty for a big girl" so because someone is overweight they're automatically ugly? Like I am an exception or something lol. Stood with me my whole life.
I once got told from a man while I worked in infants at my store too “ You’re so beautiful how far along are you in the pregnancy”? His wife who was expecting died from embarrassment!
When I was 18, I went on a camping trip with my then boyfriend and all his friends. When he introduced me to one of his friends, before he even shook my hand, he waved his hand kind of gesturing at my whole body and said "I'll never forget you, your just so...so...umm....so unique looking. Yeah that's it. Your unique looking". I had on normal clothes, purple sunglasses and I had bright red hair. I wasn't even the most "unique looking" person when I graduated. Lol
I had a t-shirt that said melanin queen with a black woman and beautiful curl hair. Mind you im natural. And a white woman looked at me and said i love your shirt it's so funny and she started laughing! I was so offended, i felt like that was low key racist
I get the “oh you have long hair for a black woman is that real or weave?” I’m like it’s my real hair in my head I’m like u never seen a black woman with natural long hair lol
Ally Celeste right 🙄👀 a whole lie. The word “Latina” holds a title of sexiness and beauty regardless of if you are actually that, or not. What a weird fad / trend.
Aliyah ‘ They are but there are different types of Latinos. Puerto Ricans, Dominicans, etc. They come from different countries and don’t all look the same...
I overheard this back when I was in high school “what are you mixed with” “I’m just black” “then how can your hair be so long” I was so mad for the girl...
I just started working in a small town and it turns out that people have been mistaking me with two other prominent black women in the community. I choose to take it as a compliment because although we look nothing alike, they’re doing great things.
Lashanda Mills I hate that people always associate confidence or lack of, with bigger people. “I wish I could have that confidence” or “oh my goodness you have so much confidence” okay and? 🙄😒. Why can’t people just be confident haha.
Lashanda Mills that’s a nice compliment tho. I am a little heavy and I also dress neat and actually buy clothes that fit me. A lot of heavy woman wear clothes 4 sizes smaller and all their rolls are so popping out and the leggings they use are up their butt. And they think they look fabulous. I would love that compliment lol
Lashanda Mills well that’s because many heavy set woman dress really inappropriate and look like slobs. I have seen maybe 2 or 3 heavy set woman that actually look nice and put together.
I had a pic of me with some lemonade braids I posted on Facebook before. Someone commented and said “your hair is cute but it’s not done all the way” (because my hair wasn’t braided all the way to the end)
“What are you mixed with? You’re too pretty to just be black.”
All the time 🙄
Yhoooo
Mine is...are you from the islands because you don't look like a regular black girl 🤨
I get that alot!! 😑
Yes I hate that! I’m like you’ve never seen a beautiful black woman?
The worst backhanded compliment is when someone says you’re pretty for the nationality you are, like you’re really trying to tell me my people are ugly and I’m an exception & you expect me to take that as a compliment how cheeky 🥴😅
Dee x ikr, stupid ass people
Dee x literally this white guy said I didn’t have black features I was very offended
@@daughteroftheking7617 I get that too and I'm dark skinned smh
Saadet yeah some white boys have a weird way of trying to tell you they find you attractive
I know right, the other day someone told me I was pretty for a Nigerian. I felt so insulted.
“you’re hair is so long....is it real” 😂🤦🏾♀️it never fails
Taylor Haddley how is that rude? To many of your females be having ten pounds of fake hair on your head. 😂
Taylor Haddley I do ask that at times. But it’s not to be rude I’m just curious. A lot of woman now a days use wigs, extensions, clip in extensions and so on. So it is rare to see woman out grow their hair anymore to be honest. And if it is real that is very inspiring
C Bell okay you sound ignorant. A lot of my “females” don’t wear fake hair and get accused of it. Why would you go up to someone and ask that but if you don’t see the issue with that question then you are apart of the problem
Angie Babe but it’s the fact that because in african american, people assume that my hair is not real. It is just a question that I, personally, feel is rude.
C Bell and also it’s too not to.
“Your lil hair is cute n whatever but have you ever thought about straightening it?” Eternal 🙄
Right! But whenever they throw that "little" in front, they being shady 🤦🏾♀️
I've actually gotten one about hair too. "I like ya hair, but blank and blank has just beautiful natural hair" (The people they were talking about has curly long hair, but my hair is wavy and short.)
Big mood
Omg! I get you look prettier with straight hair.. i’m like for real? I started saying you are biased because telling my best friend he is an asshole is not very friend-like
Please don't. I love your natural hair. I messed up my hair with straightening so I try to warn everyone. Have a nice day!
“You can’t be all black” “you’re so well spoken” “keep that hairstyle”
yup
CHIIILLLLDD the “I didn’t think you were black, you’re so well spoken” is too close to home
Sof BX they couldn’t tell for me smh
Sof BX Yeah if we allow you to. We can turn on the Caucasian voice but don’t always feel like it 🤷🏽♀️
OurLittleSecretYT that’s a nice compliment actually. In my 28 years I have met maybe a handful of black people who are well spoken. So good for you! I’m pretty sure there is a lot more but not in my area anyway
Tam and Adrienne do look alike..
If you tilt your head, squint, close one eye then close the other one
I'm fed up of yt😂😂😂
Girl I actually tried doing that😂😂🤦🏾♀️
😂😂
Nope
😂🙃
one time someone told me they liked how i don't have "that black accent"
😒
Someone said something similar to me too..... It was along the lines of “You’re not from around here are you? You sound educated and not like these other black girls around here”. Had to think about that one 😕
According to some people, I have some Asian accent. I had friends or random people ask where I was born. I was born here, in USA! It doesn't bother me anymore.
@@needzmotivation Yes! Some Middle Eastern girl in high school told me, "You're not like the other black girls." Ugh.
the ghetto
You pretty for a Blackgirl. U pretty for a darkskin girl
Lordpraisethe literally the #1 I get smh ... I started calling them
Out 🤷🏾♀️🤣
Lordpraisethe i get this one all the time “ You’re so pretty for a black girl “
Mane365 Mrtnz lol awww u must be a kid troll ... doesn’t hurt my feelings boo 😘❤️
i don’t know what you look like personally but just know that you are beautiful 😌
The story of a lot of black women's life!
“Today you don’t look so bad” my grandma
Leticia Shimizu lmao.... my grandma
Staph ! My grandma told me once (i live abroad) ‘hey.. you aren’t as fat as your sister’ and my sister was also in the room.. in one sentence she burnT us all
@@vsatromp5358
LMFAOOOO! She gathered you all at once.
TheDominiquePinkPrint i knoowwww i mean come on you haven’t seen me in half a year and that is one of the first things you tell me?
“Wow... i ain’t know u cld ever get so pretty.”- my grandpa
Them: " You're pretty...for a darkskin"
Loni (also every darkskin in the world): "...Uh huh..."
Tamera is a whole comedian and she doesn’t even know it !! 😩😭😭.
A lady at my church told me "For a girl with dyslexia you're really smart"
Cogco 45 🤦🏻♀️
The ignorance. 🤦🏽♀️
Cogco 45 must be a boomer jeez
🤦🏽♀️
🤦♂️
"You're pretty for a big girl" no dude I'm just pretty now walk away
Yess Queen!! 😍😍
Announcing your pregnant to your family, and their response is... "Congratulations, but we wish you would have waited."
I was 22 and married!
😂😂😂😂😂😂🤗 WOW!!!!! LOL
Is that a back handed compliment? Feels like a straight to your face insult .. sorry
22 is VERY YOUNG
@@bookbag6432 22 is young but is definitely not too young to be married and have a child. I got married at 22 and we had our child a week before my 24th birthday. I'm in my late 20s now and look back with happiness about my decision. You can be mature, financially responsible, and intelligent at 22 years of age. You do not have to wait until you are 35 or 40 to live responsibly and maturely.
Jessi M. I graduated college at 21, being 22 and married with a child I wonder if you ever lived by yourself? Paid your own bills alone. Went to vacation by yourself. Experienced the world by yourself. I’m now 25 and I believe everyone needs to experience alone before being tied down by kids and a husband and having to tell them your every move and life for your family. Sometimes a girl just has to book a trip to Europe alone for the hell of it instead of worrying about a babysitter or letting your husband know but to each their own.
Sometimes, you don’t even know it’s a “backhanded” compliment until later?
Jeannie : "Nope, not at all." 😂😂😂
This is old. I felt like I was losing my mind or that it was deja Vu when I was watching this. Only to realize that I've seen it before, they just reuploaded it again.
Barbra Edumanichukwu I thought so too. I was like...hmm this sounds hella familiar. I thought I was bugging
Lol thank god someone said it I felt like I was going crazy
Barbra Edumanichukwu this is an old video
I knew I wasn't tripping, I checked the date and everything
Same lol
This is an old clip. But I still laughed when Tamara brought up the daughter thing and they all started dying 😂😂
Tamera is the real comedian of the show 💀💀😭
Someone told my husband, "You sure are handsome for a brown man." He sure is handsome, period.
Island_Mommy stop lying
@@goldey3000 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Me: “I’m so fat.”
Friends: “Stop it. You’re beautiful.”
Me: “I never said I was ugly though” 🤔 lol
V Lloyd You’re wron on this one cause u saying your fat implies that being fat is bad and if your friends call you beautiful it is because they believe that your body and face is beautiful
🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂
R Lloyd they mean that your body is beautiful no matter your weight
That's not a backhanded compliment. You are being disingenuous by calling yourself "fat", you are trying to trick your friends into saying "No, you are not fat." It is unfair for you to do that to people. People can be fat and beautiful or skinny and ugly or vice versa. If a person is skinny, fat, tall, short, pink, purple or whatever, I am not going to lie to them and say they are the opposite just to make them feel better. Love yourself as is or change what you can SAFELY!!
R Lloyd yea this comment just makes no sense
I see that they kinda look alike. But, I feel like Essence Atkins, the girl that played Tahj's sister in Smart Guy looks a lot like Tia and Tamera.
iloveu85 I agree
Yeah she definitely reminds me of Tia
Doja cat kinda resembles tamera
I've always thought that Essence resembles Tia and Tamera. Even her voice and mannerisms. She was perfect to play Tahj's sister.
I think that's why they picked Essence to play Tahj's sister.
Never forget the: "is that all your hair?" So rude.
Jelena Jeanine I love my mother in law to death but the first time I met her she asked if my hair was all mine and started feeling it. I’m white just have thick ass hair.
“I see you’ve lost a few pounds! But you’ve still got a few more to go!”
“And low key, they don’t be cute” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I swear whenever I hear “ you look... for a ... “ it’s literally the dumbest thing ever because that person is giving what they think is a compliment without even realizing the “back-handnesses” of their choice of words which to me doesn’t make it a compliment ! But I give it a pass if they have good intentions !
what do the "..." represent? I am asking because i have never hear that phrase used any other way other than in reference to black / dark skin. i don't see it used in a variety of ways. personally speaking. you with healthy for a fat girl? idk lol how else that would it be used?
J. Jo oh there’s many of ways it can be used... I hate when people say “ you got s lot a junk in the trunk for a white girl “ like based off stereotypes is how they generally perceive all people and when they see all people of that “ certain type of race ” aren’t ... they genuinely are shocked and give a compliment ( in their head which sounds good but sounds bad when you hear it ) and genuinely feel it’s ok
“If it ain’t cute.. keep it mute” lol
Edit: Wait a minute, Tamera & Adrienne look NOTHING alike I don’t see it either 😝
stephanie belyavskaya I don't either, really ,(except maybe round faces), but hey, at least they're both cute lol.
When I have my natural hair out:
When I wear a wig: “Oh I love your hair, you should always wear it like that” 🙄
Oof
Random auntie: Oh your sisters are so pretty! You...you're so tall and funny.
Me: .... Thank you ???
LMAO I felt that!!! 😂😭🙌🏾
@@GoodOlAllisonHarvard Right?? Like did I need to know this, auntie?
No. Not really.
"Your so pretty for a big girl" so because someone is overweight they're automatically ugly? Like I am an exception or something lol. Stood with me my whole life.
Loni, keeps it 💯. “ I don’t see it”!😂😂😂
“You have such long hair for a black girl...is it real?”
2:37 had me dying "you look just like my daughter, and then you see her and your like💀" 😂😂
Worst I've had is "I really like the suit you're wearing. I wouldn't wear it or choose it but you make it work" 😂😂😂😂
‘We could be cousins’ anybody could be cousins lmao. I don’t see the resemblance
True true. I have zero recemblence with my cousins.
Hahaha soooo true
“I like your type of gay, you’re not a messy one”
Felipé Charming “a messy one”....... 🤣🤣🤣
Guardian of the Galaxy 😂😂😂😂.
I would have been confusion 😱😂😂😂.
Loni took the show today the makeup the jewelry and outfit👏.
*Yeooo, Adrienne was dying wen Tamera spoke 😂*
When I straighten my hair I get: Oh NOW you look pretty!!!
*now,,,😌
@@sweetpeaj1952 what do u mean?
Tam tam got the best one‼️ she aint lying 😂😂
The compliments to me have always been “Omg you’re so pretty. If only you would lose some weight”...
Damn. Adrienne started laughing before Tamera could even finish the joke.
“You must handle your ADHD really well. You don’t seem insane at all!”
All. The. Time!
“You’re not fat you’re beautiful”
Ugh why can’t I be fat AND beautiful?
As someone who hears that all the time I just tell them that I'm happily both thanks for noticing 😁
The way they laugh at what Tamera said has me dying laughing😂😂😂😂
Me without makeup: *crickets*
Me with makeup: "you look so pretty, are you wearing makeup?"
I died at 2:31 omg Tamera always makes my day!! 😂😂😂😂
@1:49 No shade, but it sounded to me like you were talking from experience with someone you used to work with on this show, Miss Jeannie Mai... 👀
That “you're pretty for a dark skin" hits hard especially from a friend 🤷
Then they aren’t your friend
Tam had me weak when she said oh god and starting mouthing @ 2:38 lmaooo
“You’re pretty for a girl with acne” or “your features really make up for the breakouts” -story of my life
Tamara is outta pocket 😂😂😂😂😂
The ways these heffas laughin in this clip, I'm done lmaooo
“You’re so pretty! What are you mixed with?” 🤨😒
Glenn CoCo omg I get that because I'm darkskin with long hair i tell them black and more black lol
riz1738 Lmaoo exactly!
I like to sew so I always get “Did you make that yourself?.. I can tell.” 💀
I once got told from a man while I worked in infants at my store too “ You’re so beautiful how far along are you in the pregnancy”? His wife who was expecting died from embarrassment!
tamera always set me in a very good moods...thank you so much mum...more love from Kenya
“You’re pretty for a fat girl!” “You may not be pretty, but you’re smart and that’s what counts!”
“Wow you look so pretty when you look girly.” I hate being told that. I *HATE* IT!
When they all started laughing was so funny now my face hurt from laughing hard 😂😂😂😭
Mine was " you look like my cousin. But he's a boy." WellGahhhhhdahh... Now I'm offended lol. Carried that with me for twenty years 😂😂
I hate when people tell me. “ it’s a good thing your pretty” growing up family friends would always tell me that.
I once let a lady skip me in line because I thought she was pregnant she looked at me like I'M NOT PREGNANT 😂
Lmao😂
I saw my cousin for the first time in 10+ years and she said "...you look so prosperous ".
"You look like you are gonna be pretty when you are older"
“You’re so pretty....for a big girl” 🙄
All the time.
"your so pretty for a black girl" get it all the time people say it all the time and don't realize how hurtful it is.
-A black girl
Loni you're not alone I always get the "you're so much prettier in person" 🙄
When I was 18, I went on a camping trip with my then boyfriend and all his friends. When he introduced me to one of his friends, before he even shook my hand, he waved his hand kind of gesturing at my whole body and said "I'll never forget you, your just so...so...umm....so unique looking. Yeah that's it. Your unique looking". I had on normal clothes, purple sunglasses and I had bright red hair. I wasn't even the most "unique looking" person when I graduated. Lol
Adrienne had one of those uncontrollable laughes
"Your skin is perfect, but you're wearing makeup though"
... Ouch. Some days I don't wear makeup, they still think I'm wearing makeup. Smh.
“You’re smarter than you look”
"I've dated some beautiful girls I mean they looked like models but I really like you I don't know why it's just something about you" 😒
“Your English is so good, where are you from?” Hate it with a passion
At prom: "that dress is soooo pretty!! It just doesn't look good on you but oh well"
i told a girl her outfit was cute and she said “thanks so much! i wish i wore something like you, you look so comfortable!”
I had a t-shirt that said melanin queen with a black woman and beautiful curl hair. Mind you im natural. And a white woman looked at me and said i love your shirt it's so funny and she started laughing! I was so offended, i felt like that was low key racist
She was throwing shade trust me
Sof BX No, it’s just a sign on insecurity for someone to feel some type of way about someone else’s confidence. 🤷🏽♀️
Sof BX what a stupid comment
"Thanks for dinner, it tastes really good. I was really hungry" - my bf LMAO
“You’re only pretty because you have pretty hair” and guess who cut all their hair off and still gets compliments like crazy 🙋🏾♀️
But sometimes they really do mean it in a good way , it's just that u take it differently
"You're so pretty for a dark skin girl" like damn girl I'm pretty period tf
I get the “oh you have long hair for a black woman is that real or weave?” I’m like it’s my real hair in my head I’m like u never seen a black woman with natural long hair lol
I don’t think anyone says “pretty for a Latina”
Ally Celeste right 🙄👀 a whole lie. The word “Latina” holds a title of sexiness and beauty regardless of if you are actually that, or not. What a weird fad / trend.
I’ve heard people say you’re “pretty for a Mexican” but not “pretty for a Latina”
Jaynah Purter are Mexicans not Latina ??
Aliyah ‘ They are but there are different types of Latinos. Puerto Ricans, Dominicans, etc. They come from different countries and don’t all look the same...
Aliyah ‘ yes, they are. I’m saying I‘ve never heard the exact words “pretty for a Latina”
I overheard this back when I was in high school “what are you mixed with” “I’m just black” “then how can your hair be so long” I was so mad for the girl...
I think Adrienne & Tamera should do a face off and do same hair & clothes and do a side by side 😉
Someone once told me that my friend was wearing my jacket and then my other friend was like : "oh that's yours? I didnt know you own nice things" 😑
Tamera says the funniest things.😂😂😂
Loni is me af! "I dont see it" 😂
“You have a classic face & are pretty for a big girl” those two are the most common.
I always get “you speak so well” and I’ve received “you’re so pretty what r u mixed with” made me confused about myself for years
I swear loni gets jealous sometimes when Tamera and Adrienne be acting close ..
U have a problem deal with it
Backhanded compliment is a front handed insult
loni looks AMAZING in this her team DID THAT😍😍😍💗
I just started working in a small town and it turns out that people have been mistaking me with two other prominent black women in the community. I choose to take it as a compliment because although we look nothing alike, they’re doing great things.
Isn't this old?
That's what i was thinking!
CorneliaTheFifth ya sure is
They uploaded 2 minutes of this clip a couple weeks ago 😒😒
Yeahhh
Yea
“your outfit looks good today” like sis how did it look yesterday. I stay hearing the backhanded comments in my head 🤦🏾♂️😭
“ to be your size” (heavy set), you are so neat and pretty....🤷🏾♀️
Lashanda Mills I hate that people always associate confidence or lack of, with bigger people. “I wish I could have that confidence” or “oh my goodness you have so much confidence” okay and? 🙄😒. Why can’t people just be confident haha.
Lashanda Mills that’s a nice compliment tho. I am a little heavy and I also dress neat and actually buy clothes that fit me. A lot of heavy woman wear clothes 4 sizes smaller and all their rolls are so popping out and the leggings they use are up their butt. And they think they look fabulous. I would love that compliment lol
Angie Babe I don’t like those stereotypical comments, as if heavy set women aren’t cute
Lashanda Mills well that’s because many heavy set woman dress really inappropriate and look like slobs. I have seen maybe 2 or 3 heavy set woman that actually look nice and put together.
The Sweet Forever my thoughts exactly
I had a pic of me with some lemonade braids I posted on Facebook before. Someone commented and said “your hair is cute but it’s not done all the way” (because my hair wasn’t braided all the way to the end)
Omg I thought I was the only one that thought Adrienne and Tamara kinda look alike!! 😂
"That new hair cut looks great on you, plus now you are going to have to start dressing well!"