Dr Nuefeld is remarkable at explaining such a complex subject. The tree and fruit analogy is very profound to help people understand and overstand. The deeper the roots it doesn’t matter how windy it gets. Attachment. Is the root of the plant and adaptation is the fruit of the tree. 🙏🏽❤️
I work with children and am concerned about the deliberate push on women and families to outsource their child's care. The state knows what they are doing is wrong but they have the power and the control to keep doing this wrong. Families feel helpless and parents are denigrated by the community lead by the states...Jugendamt...social services workers, mothers lose their confidence in their intuition and submit to the state's demands. Any other woman they see who acts on her intuition as I did and still do is denigrated by the very mothers who weakened under the state's demands and lost the deep connection to their own children in a vicious circle of loss and jealousy. In my work with children, I can only reach a small number of families, I try to strengthen the mother's trust in herself, educate the parents about attachment and I provide a home environment for the children offering the same values they know from mum and dad. Because I am open about my view against daycare centres and ever younger under 3's being encouraged for enrollment I have been for the most part not accepted but tolerated by the social services and other women in daycare who see it as a source of income without a care about the effects of daycare on the children. It is as though they are all brainwashed to keep their jobs, for surely they can't otherwise, be so destructive?
Oh my goodness, I was going to write similar words as yours. I am a mother of two boys one is 17yrs old, I stayed at home with him until he was 2yrs old. And now my nearly 3yrs old, and I am much older and kind of understand how the system wants to help mess up or kids mental health. I am trying my best to hold on to my litte one until he's 3yrs old. But my god there is an enormous pressure in society for us woman with children to put them in nursery as soon as they are born. I hage been ask by many people even family when is your child going to nursery? Sometimes I feel like I'm not a good mother because my child isn't in nursery as yet. At home I try my very best to make sure he gets all his needs met, he's learing so much and is very happy, caring, very helpful, way too friendly lol and drives us crazy at the same time. But I wouldn't change him for the world.
This may be of interest: How Liberal Feminism and Patriarchy Work Together to Create the Detached Mother My favourite quote from the article: “How little value do we put on mothering if we’re saying that poorly paid strangers are better off raising our children than we are? Yet this is the idea that runs rampant on our playground. Patriarchy relegated women to “mothers only” because it doesn’t value the role of mother - and even includes a male overseeing his wife in this role because she can’t be trusted to it. Liberal feminism hasn’t fully changed this mindset, instead continuing to devalue mothering as something to be passed off to others as women reach their masculine potential in the work force. But if they don’t pass it off, they’d better prove their worth by being the perfect mother - one without flaws, whose children conform to what our cultural ideal is of children (no matter how far from their biology it is), and who will compete as mothers just as we compete in the workforce. If you aren’t being productive, at least you can pretend you are. HOW DID WE GET HERE?” ~ Tracy Cassels evolutionaryparenting.com/liberal-feminism-patriarchy-detached-mother/ ~*~
This video is quite long, but has such important messages. Thank you, Dr Neufeld. As a primary school teacher, I somehow learned to do much of this, through work with good psychologists, and could see that children with “behaviour problems” did not have healthy attachments. When I took time to talk and to really listen to them, especially when they were upset, even angry, they would calm down and I could feel that they trusted me not to judge them.
This may be of interest: How Liberal Feminism and Patriarchy Work Together to Create the Detached Mother My favourite quote from the article: “How little value do we put on mothering if we’re saying that poorly paid strangers are better off raising our children than we are? Yet this is the idea that runs rampant on our playground. Patriarchy relegated women to “mothers only” because it doesn’t value the role of mother - and even includes a male overseeing his wife in this role because she can’t be trusted to it. Liberal feminism hasn’t fully changed this mindset, instead continuing to devalue mothering as something to be passed off to others as women reach their masculine potential in the work force. But if they don’t pass it off, they’d better prove their worth by being the perfect mother - one without flaws, whose children conform to what our cultural ideal is of children (no matter how far from their biology it is), and who will compete as mothers just as we compete in the workforce. If you aren’t being productive, at least you can pretend you are. HOW DID WE GET HERE?” ~ Tracy Cassels evolutionaryparenting.com/liberal-feminism-patriarchy-detached-mother/ ~*~
Dr Nuefeld is remarkable at explaining such a complex subject.
The tree and fruit analogy is very profound to help people understand and overstand.
The deeper the roots it doesn’t matter how windy it gets.
Attachment. Is the root of the plant and adaptation is the fruit of the tree. 🙏🏽❤️
Sad how few views in 6 yrs, compared to how many “baby shark” has in 6 months. Thank you for the insight
1:4:11 what shields children in a wounding environment is a strong emotional connection with a caring adult.
O God please save our innocent children 🙏
Seriously considering homeschooling after this
Thank you Dr. Gordon Neufeld 🙏🏻
I work with children and am concerned about the deliberate push on women and families to outsource their child's care. The state knows what they are doing is wrong but they have the power and the control to keep doing this wrong. Families feel helpless and parents are denigrated by the community lead by the states...Jugendamt...social services workers, mothers lose their confidence in their intuition and submit to the state's demands. Any other woman they see who acts on her intuition as I did and still do is denigrated by the very mothers who weakened under the state's demands and lost the deep connection to their own children in a vicious circle of loss and jealousy. In my work with children, I can only reach a small number of families, I try to strengthen the mother's trust in herself, educate the parents about attachment and I provide a home environment for the children offering the same values they know from mum and dad. Because I am open about my view against daycare centres and ever younger under 3's being encouraged for enrollment I have been for the most part not accepted but tolerated by the social services and other women in daycare who see it as a source of income without a care about the effects of daycare on the children. It is as though they are all brainwashed to keep their jobs, for surely they can't otherwise, be so destructive?
Oh my goodness, I was going to write similar words as yours. I am a mother of two boys one is 17yrs old, I stayed at home with him until he was 2yrs old. And now my nearly 3yrs old, and I am much older and kind of understand how the system wants to help mess up or kids mental health. I am trying my best to hold on to my litte one until he's 3yrs old. But my god there is an enormous pressure in society for us woman with children to put them in nursery as soon as they are born. I hage been ask by many people even family when is your child going to nursery? Sometimes I feel like I'm not a good mother because my child isn't in nursery as yet. At home I try my very best to make sure he gets all his needs met, he's learing so much and is very happy, caring, very helpful, way too friendly lol and drives us crazy at the same time. But I wouldn't change him for the world.
This may be of interest:
How Liberal Feminism and Patriarchy Work Together to Create the Detached Mother
My favourite quote from the article:
“How little value do we put on mothering if we’re saying that poorly paid strangers are better off raising our children than we are? Yet this is the idea that runs rampant on our playground. Patriarchy relegated women to “mothers only” because it doesn’t value the role of mother - and even includes a male overseeing his wife in this role because she can’t be trusted to it. Liberal feminism hasn’t fully changed this mindset, instead continuing to devalue mothering as something to be passed off to others as women reach their masculine potential in the work force. But if they don’t pass it off, they’d better prove their worth by being the perfect mother - one without flaws, whose children conform to what our cultural ideal is of children (no matter how far from their biology it is), and who will compete as mothers just as we compete in the workforce. If you aren’t being productive, at least you can pretend you are.
HOW DID WE GET HERE?”
~ Tracy Cassels
evolutionaryparenting.com/liberal-feminism-patriarchy-detached-mother/
~*~
@@dragonlady2264 Thank you.
I agree!! thank God for people like Dr Neufeld may his work reach Sweden better especially the goverment
This is excellent. Thankful for Dr. Neufeld.
This video is quite long, but has such important messages. Thank you, Dr Neufeld.
As a primary school teacher, I somehow learned to do much of this, through work with good psychologists, and could see that children with “behaviour problems” did not have healthy attachments. When I took time to talk and to really listen to them, especially when they were upset, even angry, they would calm down and I could feel that they trusted me not to judge them.
thank you, very helpful information.
00:03:45 the comment about caring; exactly!
What if the family is narcissistic and toxic?
no swedish model pls! Loof down - do not let the state parent our children enough with snowflakes
This may be of interest:
How Liberal Feminism and Patriarchy Work Together to Create the Detached Mother
My favourite quote from the article:
“How little value do we put on mothering if we’re saying that poorly paid strangers are better off raising our children than we are? Yet this is the idea that runs rampant on our playground. Patriarchy relegated women to “mothers only” because it doesn’t value the role of mother - and even includes a male overseeing his wife in this role because she can’t be trusted to it. Liberal feminism hasn’t fully changed this mindset, instead continuing to devalue mothering as something to be passed off to others as women reach their masculine potential in the work force. But if they don’t pass it off, they’d better prove their worth by being the perfect mother - one without flaws, whose children conform to what our cultural ideal is of children (no matter how far from their biology it is), and who will compete as mothers just as we compete in the workforce. If you aren’t being productive, at least you can pretend you are.
HOW DID WE GET HERE?”
~ Tracy Cassels
evolutionaryparenting.com/liberal-feminism-patriarchy-detached-mother/
~*~
Has nothing to do with feminism.