Wow! This, for me is by far the best video you’ve ever made. I found myself constantly either agreeing with what you’re saying or being mind blown by something I hadn’t seen. The stuff about Trevor Noah’s reactions were incredible, there’s no unseeing it! This is also a great example of why you rise above your peers on RUclips. The research you provide, the interdisciplinary knowledge you have (persuasion and communication in this case) and above all the real world experience, you’re out there practicing what you preach every day. That Steve Harvey clip was incredible! Just one question: I love the way you handled that Apollo crowd, I watched that season of Showtime at The Apollo and noticed how performers’ demeanour towards the crowd made a huge difference. My question is, what do I do if I have nothing to compliment someone on early in the conversation. How does labeling work if there’s nothing to label? And also, is there such a thing as too much labelling? Thanks so much for this amazing video.
Thanks so much, glad you enjoyed it. And I love that question so much. Regarding labelling there is a method I teach in my seminars which is simply this. In most conversations our focus is inwards, how we’re coming off, what we should say, what we should do etc… by simply shifting the focus outwards, or towards the person we’re talking to, miracles can happen. I wouldn’t say keep flattering them constantly that’s really not the goal but whenever there’s an opportunity to sincerely show specific appreciation for something, take it. I’m very often saying things like “that’s a really great point” “thanks for showing me that, I can see how much work you put into it” “that’s so thoughtful of you, not everyone would do that and I appreciate it.” Sincere, specific and personal are very key! As for early labelling, don’t stress over it, if there’s nothing, don’t force it. The goal of labelling is not to look for things to label, it’s to point out things we appreciate when they do come up. This distinction is very important for me and makes the difference between the used car salesman vibe and authentic charisma.
I'm no expert whatsoever but in dealing with my very challenging teen I was trying to find something every day to give a compliment or positive feedback. It was often extremely difficult but I took it as a challenge to look more deeply into actions I'd think should be a given but might be something that was a stretch for them.
That’s the thing that puts people off or loses them in conversations ! If you take you out of the conversation and put them in it’s place conversations become a pleasure and interchange of thought or encouragement 😮!!
@@TheBehavioralArts and @Thomas Rios I tried challenging myself to think of what I would say to a coworker I don't like and have no respect for. I thought about their desk covered in the little trinkets they make and realized I could say something like, "You are clearly creative," motion to things on desk, "I bet we could brainstorm some interesting ways to (solve xyz problem)." No butt kissing, just open to job focused collaboration. Spidey, your videos extend beyond entertainment and make the world a better place. 😊
@@TheBehavioralArts i love this response , Spidey. It's so true sometimes we need to take focus off ourselves and put our focus outwards. This is wonderful secret for introverts !! It is helpful to take your own ego out of the picture and acknowledge the other persons contributions.
Will Smith just has to say this "I messed up. I let my emotions got the best of me. I was going through stuff inside, but that should in no way excuse me from that terrible act I did. I was 100% wrong and there's no way around that. end of story."
@@ivonned32 I think the real problem is that he’s not brave enough to own up to HIMSELF. I think there’s a deep-seated fear of “being his father’s son”. Will’s father had anger issues which sometimes manifested themselves through physical violence. I think that Will inherited some part of that behaviour but is disgusted by it and ashamed of it. Will hated and resented the way his father was and probably the fact that he has it in himself too. I think it just slipped out of him at the Oscars. It seems to me that instead of dealing with those impulses in a healthy manner, Will just pushed them down and bottled them up until the damn burst and the floodgates opened. Chris Rock’s joke was just the last straw. Will snapped and I don’t think he’s been able to put himself back together ever since because he’s still looking for someone else to take up the responsibility.
Yep. Had he unreservedly apologised we’d all have moved on by now, but in constantly trying to justify himself it still lives on. Like a Band-Aid - straight off!
If he did that the night it happened…..hell even when he released his video, I think people would have forgiven and moved on. He didn’t truly own up to his actions, which says a lot.
Very guarded guy. Pretty much his entire career he was Tom Hanks-level untouchable in the likeability department. Then his bizarre marriage and family life, the affairs, etc., started coming to light. Then the slap. I'd be interested in seeing you do an analysis of his wife, and maybe her interactions with Will and their kids. What little I've been able to stomach of her "red table" show, she is incredibly domineering and Will seems almost afraid of her. The kids do, too.
I get a strange feeling regarding Tom Hanks.. When Ricky Gervais was making jokes at the golden globes regarding Hollywood and all the weird stuff they do.. Tom made strange faces, rolled his eyes and not once laughed.
@@aa.4639 Yes, I get the impression Tom's squeaky clean images is a front. For what, I don't know. He has a really wierd instagram account, or he used to, where he liked to post photos of single gloves, single shoes, etc. that supposedly he keeps finding lying around in the streets everywhere.
When I heard the "I flew 36 hours just to see you," it took me back to a guy I was interested in dating who told me "I took time out of my very busy day just to call you." What was I supposed to say to that? "OMG! Thank you so much! I'm so honoured!" Not playing that game.
Huge reason why I don't believe in and am quite against "If he/she wanted to, they would". No one should be entitled to how others manage their time, all we can do is be grateful to be chosen to being made time for.
You're completely taking it the wrong way. People will say something like that to show you how important you are to them. Its Not at all that they're doing you a favor
@@SmokingDragon100 I agree w this. Like I said in my previous comment, we should be grateful to be chosen, but if we werent that doesnt mean we should be selfish and think that only we are their priority.
“That was a horrific night!!!” So much that you still went up and accepted your award, got a standing ovation, laughed, joked and danced at parties afterward.
I’ll never get over that reaction from the audience 🙄 The same clowns who constantly lecture the masses about doing what’s right, saying no to violence & all the other cheap virtue signals they throw out, had the audacity to give that man a standing ovation after he physically assaulted a coworker. Beyond pathetic.
Security should have instantly escorted him out and the police called for an assault. Chris Rock had a crime committed against him on live TV before millions of witnesses, and he was completely ignored while Will Smith was celebrated.
Chris should have brought a charge against him. Everyone is afraid in Tinsel Town. If Will was a man of character he would have then went straight to his bank manager and giving Chris a few million dollars. .privately of course with a contract that he will never reveal it. Will is sick and his wife too,.... and been good with people and in front of the camera does not make you a balanced human. Will is entitled man, no matter how nice he seems or comes across. The world centres around him, hes big on the screen and he thinks hes big in real life too. . He's a manipulater... dangerous if one has power and money. Everyone is nice to him. Noone should listen to what he has to say. He's an abuser and has the entitlement to abuse someone in public. Noone is saying what they feel about him in case it rebounds on them. There is no honesty.
@@Poolberi88Chris should have definitely brought up charges but the sad thing is that due to the toxic masculinity idea within the African American community he will never. He would be made fun of and would lose all respect for bringing charges over a “slap”. Not to mention the power that Will Smith has in the industry.
Chris Rock showed why he is a GOAT. He took it and stood strong. I don't know many men that would have just stood there and kept quiet. Chris you are the MAN. 💯
Lawyer here. Being kind and accommodating is one of the best negotiation tactics to use in many disputes. It shows our humanity and what our needs are, and this often 'softens' the other party and they will respond to our vulnerability and humanity.
I've always wondered how detectives, police officers, lawyers, can be as calm as they are while listening to a murderer lie. So only the kind ones can do that? :)
@@anamatovic5719 it's not about kindness in that situation, it's patience and training to hide your real feelings until you get the information you need.
He seemed terrified. He was extremely guarded, verbally and physically. I think he was afraid he'd slip and say something that would make him vulnerable to public criticism, so he was tiptoeing in his head instead of freely saying what was on his mind. He got brutally dragged on social media after the Oscars. It must have really shaken him because his ego is built on his good-guy persona. I think he desperately wanted to avoid saying anything "wrong" to the point he was totally inhibited.
@@marshawalker5273 you are entitled to your opinion but all he’s ever done outside of this one incident in public is being a kind and patient person. His family attests to the same as do fans and his current and ex staff. Just because he is famous, doesn’t mean we should feel we know him personally enough to insult his entire being. He’s a real human with flaws and strengths. If you cant be compassionate to everything he has been through and the psychological effects of that, just wish him health. I don’t understand the need to comment negatively tearing someone down
I think Will Smith isn't sorry for his actions that night, he seems to justify it. But, I think he is very upset about the back lash. Will is a great communicator and the "kind Sir" struck me straight away as "be kind here with this situation, you're great and let's make this so nice and easy"
I totally agree Nicola. That was my first thought - I don't think he's really sorry for what he did. I think he's sorry for loss of work or the bad press he received because of his actions. He IS a good actor and maybe he didn't have a 'script' for interviews, but I think he had possibly made notes on how to get sympathy from the crowd and answers to dodge direct questions. Maybe it is like a cookout to him, but it was a cookout attended by a world audience. He knew that getting dressed for the event, he knew that when he slapped Chris Rock, and he knew that when he 'cried' in his acceptance speech. Imho
@@nancywenn1093 Absolutely agree! He put his life in the spotlight, he chose that. I think he was prepared and maybe coached for this type of interview. I turned the acceptance speech off. His acting in life makes him a good manipulator to draw people in.
Thank you for showing exactly why that interview felt off. I don’t think Will Smith will be able to repair his image until he gets honest with himself. I hope he’s in therapy. He also has a lot of entanglements - Jada & Will mirror each other. It’s amazing how much they try to protect themselves by using professionals, then put out an image of being people to be emulated, and still are unable to be authentic with themselves.
I think the reason why will's movements seem awkward is because for the first time in his life he feels he is now an outsider, he is no longer in total control of every situation. He probably thinks every place is hostile to him. It's like how you feel when you are invited to hang out with your friends even after you talked crap about them and you know they are upset with you.
Is it possible that Will Smith is in denial about his anger that night? It's like he knows he messed up, but somehow, if he takes personal responsibility for it, then he has to acknowledge the source of the anger, and he doesn't want to. Or perhaps he doesn't know how to? Just a thought..
My ex would do that! And actually truly seemed to believe his own innocence…even if he had already acknowledged apologized, even if there was record, even if there were witnesses. Interesting for sure!
Yes the source of his anger is his wife. It's so clear to me that he was trying to protect her and then she didn't even appreciate it! When he looked at her she was disgusted and he went up and smacked Chris Rock then when he got back to the seat she was like what the f*** did you do and he was just trying to stand up for her.
This was great! My concern with the situation is that I still don't see any remorse for Chris! It's all remorse relative to the backlash Will is getting, and the lack of respect he's gained. But nowhere in there do I see remorse or sadness because of how he hurts someone else. It's more so sadness because of how it's tainted his own reputation.
@@Spinko7128 Right until Jada looked very angry about the situation! She never had alopécica it was just plastic surgery or surgeries the scar on her head is liner straight across her head not alopécica at all just a lying narcissist for absolutely no reason at all except to be right and control all situations in her life.
Well, let’s be honest, no matter what Will Smith does or says, for the rest of his life, he’ll be known as the man who slapped Chris Rock. Will said “I flew 30 hours to be here with you.” He was indirectly saying, I went to a lot of trouble to be here, be nice to me & take me seriously. It was obvious when Will addressed Noah as ”Kind Sir” Will was planting a seed almost asking Noah to be kind and not rake him over the coals in regards to the slap and he used the word Sir to imply, I’m respecting you, so please respect me. I think every word Will said when he first sat down was 100% planned to make sure he received as little friction & embarrassment as possible.
The slap was scripted. Fake. They all did same skit in 1999. Watch. “ wAyans predict Chris slap 1999. Will Jada. P diddy front row. At awards. But pdiddy walked up same way and slapped. Exa ctly
@@godbyone ?? The slap/hit wasn’t fake. Not a skit. You can tell from the way Will Smith has acted since then, and the embarrassed look in his eyes over time, that he will regret that night for the rest of his life. The whole world watched Will make the biggest mistake of his life which is kind of like punishment in itself. I’m sure Will has done a lot of soul-searching since he hit Chris and will never physically assault anyone again. You live and you learn.
@@sunnyday3327 it was 100 percent. Staged. I can easily prove it. Look up it’s in you tube. “”” wAyans predicted Chris slap 1999”””. In 1999 they did a skit. Same 4 people. In1999 Will Jada p diddy front row. At a awards show. Chris tells joke but p sdiddy walks up exactly like will. From the front row slaps Chris same exact way. Then 20 years later. Will Jada front row. Will slaps and p diddy hand s Will the award. Same 4 people same exact skit
Just want to say this was amazing to watch. I’ve seen other people try to break down body language and none of them come close to you. Thank you for doing what you do!
Spidey is always on point with his analysis! Will was definitely advised on how to speak in this interview with Trevor to get it as much of a positive outcome as possible. But it’s just very hard if not impossible to teach someone to develop a new baseline.
Yeah "I'm going through some stuff you wouldn't understand" isn't a good excuse. Even less so when you don't even clarify "the stuff" or show clear empathy about the damage you've caused. Trevor Noah should have called him out on this.
@@FlorianCalmer why do you feel the need that he needs to dive into the “stuff” he’s dealing with? If he’s going to therapy or getting help from professionals then he doesn’t need to go into detail especially if that’s not what he’s there for and ready to unpack. He’s already apologized to Chris in public more than once, so this interview is not for a hundredth apology that Chris is not gonna acknowledge.
She has Alopecia which is hair loss, and he made a joke about that. On the street this would be a slap, and Will thought it be okay to do this in front of the world. Clearly he's doesn't think things through
If you were doing a skit, would be a reason. He can't just come out and say it though. So there is zero amount of justifying it and I don't think he wants to come out and apologize because that would make him guilty, and psychologically, he knows he's not ACTUALLY guilty, so he has to create a reason
Reciprocity and respect ... I've understood these principles since childhood but have never heard them articulated so well. The way your videos show how you navigate the world is outstanding. You are bringing something so valuable and life changing to the world without a hint of ego, preaching or pomposity. I love what you do!!!!!
Not only does Spidey travel for his profession, but he does these elaborate videos, links all of the sources he mentions and keeps us all posted on what's going on via the community tab. I am impressed. Most creators don't bother with the community tab and their followers are left wondering what is going on when there's no uploads for a long period of time.
I've followed him for decades and always found him to be charming, funny, and a genuinely nice guy. The Jada years, however, threw a wrench into things. I think she's an extremely problematic individual, and I have no doubt that their marriage is an unhealthy one. However, as much as I liked Will before, violence is where I draw the line. I hope he can get out of the toxic situation he's in.
There are no "nuances" to assaulting Chris Rock. No doubt his adulterous wife caused him some stress and embarrassment but there's no excuse for his violent behaviour. Any nuanced explanation, excuse or apology is wrong by default.
I would not judge a person who has publicly admitted to have trauma and that he's working on it. We're humans that make mistakes. I don't justify the slap.
How can you say apologies are wrong??? Hitting someone is wrong. Full stop. Apologies are right. Full stop. They are necessary for us to move on and grow.
I agree with you, Cool Cat. I feel the same way. I no longer respect Will Smith, and I think he is a phony person. He is F.O.S. He is fake. His wife has made him less of a man. Neva Nyx, you can't tell someone what not to say and how to feel. Who are you? You dont know what has happened in Cool Cats' life to tell Cat how to feel and what to say. I know Nyx, you never thought badly about someone, and said anything negative about a persons comment. Because I am sure that you are doing that about me right now because of my comments. I like Spidey. I respect him. He knows his craft. He tells us a lot of things about what he notices in people.
The first thing I noticed was, “Kind Sir.” And I instantly realized that Will Smith is still in survival mode. The first thing he does is try to control his environment. I am shocked at how painful it is to watch Will Smith be in pain. I grew up watching his show and his movies and I love what he has created. It saddens me to see him in this much pain all the time. Even the fake laughter seems painful.
@@grantc61 first of all, you’re being incredibly rude. Secondly, you have no idea what it is like to be him and you don’t know what else he is going through. I didn’t excuse his behavior I said it pains me to see him this broken. I will remind you that far too many famous men have taken their life recently (i.e. Twitch, Aaron Carter, Jason David Frank). By all means hold people accountable but don’t dismiss their pain.
Yes, it's really sad. He did something awful, and will most likely never be able to fix his reputation. It's clear he has been through a lot, and has hurt more than a slap ever will. It's been a year, so I feel like it's time to forgive and move on. I miss the happy he has always shared with all of us.
Thank you for being one of the few who recognise this man as being a victim. He has been a victim for far too long and its going to take him a lifetime, to find who he is again, if he ever does. He may never figure out what part of the way he has acted in his life, was from himself and or the puppet he became. It has broken my heart to see and hear the way he is being talked about. Yet some of those same people saw through scamber, to see what she had done to JD. Jada is on a whole higher level of evil. Her monster is not in your face for all to see, she is cold and calculated like a snake. I would even go as far as to say she may be a psychopath. Even their own kids knew she did not love their dad.
As a person who has watched tones of Will Smith interviews, he says "You know" a lot. Its part of him, everytime he gives philosophical advice and sometimes even in normal conversation, its just something he does as Will Smith. He says "you know" and when you watch all his interviews, you will see him say it. You know? 😂
Love your content!!! Thank you for sharing this. Will knows he’s broken, but it seems like he doesn’t want to put the blame on himself and his so-called wife-he doesn’t want to look weak by saying: yes it’s my fault for letting my wife define how our marriage is going to be, yes I don’t like her arrangement, and yes my anger was deflected toward someone who I knew isn’t gonna fight back.
Good point.. if he’s actually been emotionally abused/degraded, him saying that his emotions got the best of him and owning up to that, would also mean him saying something against his abusive wife publicly, admitting that he wasn’t okay with it, admitting weakness, and admitting that he’s been faking being okay with the “entanglements” and everything else. He’d be admitting something a lot deeper and more vulnerable about himself and his circumstances.. so it’s easier to hide the truth from yourself and dance around the issue. Kind of sad really.
I’ve noticed pretty much every member of the Smith family presents with a surface level charisma but no real accountability for much of anything. They all seem really self absorbed and present a carefully crafted image. They seem to be living in their private version of reality a bit.
That would be in line with narcissistic family dynamics. Kids do as they see not as they are told by others. The arrogance, entitlement, gaslighting and never taking accountability will have been taught via the narcissistic mother and codependent doormat will. Will Smith just lost all my respect for him, he enables an abuser and abused a comedian and took no accountability with no genuine, authentic shame or regard for what he did. He embarrassed himself more by hitting Chris now continues to be a pathetic ass hole about it. Actors, practised liars.
Will Smith using slavery to save himself. Sorry you brought it on yourself. Don't use people who did suffer, blacks and whites and other races, to cover for your disgraceful behavior. Disgusting. Your disgusting.
Personally, I think he reacted solely in response to Jada's reaction to the joke. He initially laughed, she scowled, and he launched himself up onto the stage. I think he doesn't want to acknowledge or address that whole dynamic, and so is in 100% deflection and double-speak mode whenever that subject gets brought up.
I agree. There's something in his relationship with Jada that drive him up there. He was relaxed and laughing, while she's unhappy, and next thing you know he's charging up on stage. We know there's tense history with her infidelity that she reclassified as an "entanglement", but I definitely get the feeling she has a lot of manipulative behaviors.
I LOVE that snippit at the end about the Apollow experience! Such an amazing example of mutual respect and genuine kindness being benificial to everyone involved. Love love love that!
I suspect the reason why Will Smith didn’t give a reason for slapping Chris Rock is he doesn’t want to throw Jada under the bus. He was initially laughing at the joke but, after seeing her rolling her eyes, he reacted and to explain that to the crowd would make people blame her and then he’d have to hear it from her when he gets home.
Great video!! I was messing around with Chat GPT while watching this video and decided to ask the A.I. about this Will Smith situation and the answer really says it all. The A.I. program isn't aware of events after 2021 so I asked it in this way and the response says IT ALL 😂: "Why would an actor slap the host at the Oscar's after the host who is a comedian made a joke about the actor's wife?" "Such an incident would be highly unusual and likely result in significant public controversy and backlash. Physical violence or threats of violence are never appropriate responses to a joke, even if the joke is about someone close to you. In a professional setting, such as the Oscars, actors and other public figures are expected to maintain a high level of decorum and professionalism, even in the face of difficult or offensive situations. Responding with violence would likely result in serious consequences for the actor, including damage to their reputation, potential legal trouble, and harm to their career. It's important to remember that humor, especially in a public setting, can be subjective and often hits close to home for someone. However, it's always better to handle these situations with grace and diplomacy, and to avoid responding with violence. If someone is making jokes that are personally hurtful, it may be best to address the situation through private channels or to simply ignore it." WOW
About that face he made when he mentions the stage, I’ve caught myself doing that while I remember an unpleasant memory, or a bad behavior from my part, or a come-back that could have been better. I felt he was on that exact same feeling, it’s a very unpleasant memory for him which he has had to go through so many times and it doesn’t get better, he clearly hasn’t gotten over it, so I think that’s that. Btw I love this channel, I found it recently and I can’t stop watching your videos! Extremely interesting, gotta say!
Yes, the Oscars might not be as big a deal for Will as for us watching, but THIS Oscars he was up for a major award. To Will it was just as big deal as it was for those watching. This was no cookout!
I think for a large number of Americans, me being one of them, the Oscars are of zero importance, so I am pretty sure they are a much bigger deal to Will than many of us. Because of Will’s slap that is the first Oscar in 20 years that I know anything about what happened other than occasional hearing what movie won best picture.
@@anamatovic5719 yeah, I think actors are becoming more and more irrelevant to the masses. They continue to hype themselves and within their clic think they are important, but I wonder if they are starting to feel the shift to irrelevancy also.
@@GeoRedtick I hope they do :) That's why I think this was staged, they had to do something, so that people could talk about. Even after this Body language analyses, that makes sense, I still think it's staged. People say: "Why would they stage that, what's the point?" The point is that nobody would even talk about the Oscars, at least not how they used to.
As a Canadian, I am so proud that you represent us, Spidey. You are so good and kind and I hope you never change.❤️ I believe WS lost who he was a long time ago. Sadly, that often happens when people throw money and adoration at you. Trevor Noah is a soft and easy interview and tries to get Will to make sense of what happened for Will’s sake, but just can’t lead him there. He also tries to soften the severity of what Will did by the “cook out” comment. I’m sorry, but I have gone to church every Sunday since I was born. No matter how “familiar” people become with taking the Sacrament, it does not become a “cook-out” with friends. Certain things have meaning and are sacred. If these celebrities want to continue to be worshipped, they will have to treat these events with the respect and reverence they want us to believe they deserve.
@@anamatovic5719: Like the US, people from different parts of Canada have different accents. Sometimes the accents are subtle, but there if you listen carefully. My husband's family in Alberta speak slightly different than my family in BC. Not something most people will notice, but it's there in the speech pattern and accent.
@@anamatovic5719 He has a slight French Canadian accent (not the stereo typical Canadian accent you’d assume we all speak because of T.V. Shows that make fun of us.)😉
I'm obsessed with your channel but this is my first time commenting. I absolutely loved this analysis. I was watching with my husband and found myself guessing all the behaviors right before you would state them. Kind of pop quizzing myself on what I've learned so far. 😆 It jumped out at me after a few of my guesses that I have indeed learned so much from you in the short time I've been watching, it's shocking. On top of the knowledge you share with us, you're so kind and caring and I feel like you share that with us as well. Almost like you're spreading your kindness and light through your videos and really touching all of us. It's wonderful and I felt it was worth mentioning. Thank you for all you do and all you share with us! I can't wait for the next one!
Some people are thankful for your kind comment, some people are glad you enjoyed the video, some people are happy you like that observation…. …. K bye 😆
Thanks Spidey for an informative reaction to this unique interview. Going forward always stick to your plan and discuss what you want on your channel. We’re here for you!! Keep up the amazing work Sir! ❤️
Wow, Spidey! You got to perform at the Apollo! What an accomplishment! I'm always happy to see you pop up everywhere. I also want to thank you, decoding behavior has really helped me for the last few months to get out of a bad relationship before it got really, really bad. You are my hero.
Travis Walton recently did an interview on The Joe Rogan Experience podcast. He also formerly did an interview a long time ago on Larry King. I would love to see a body language analysis on him during his interviews.
Oh man!! I have missed watching your body language videos so much. It’s been a while for me. I always learn so much; I feel like I’m back in university class, where I really love the subject and the teacher. Thoroughly enjoyed watching and learning! Thank you! 😊
His non-answers to the Oscar night are a lot like the non-nswers Jada gave when they had that question session (when Will and Jada sat opposite each other) when she spoke of her affair. Just no accountability and lots of sympathy-by-whatever s/he could muster. Thank you Spidey for this and the other uploads!
Look at Trevor from 28:16 as Will turns to the audience and begins his "you never know what someone is going through" speech. Just like Will is an effective communicator, Trevor is a great listener.. Look at Trevor's face! He knows we are being "conned" by Will. And like you say, I don't know if Will is being purposeful, but he has not come to grips with what he has done to Chris, and so he is still doing his "Will Smith show". The audience also seems super quiet and I think they realize that Will is not being honest with them or himself. Edited to add that you addressed this in your video!
I'm in no way a behavior specialist, but I am a communications professor. No matter how communicative we perceive a person to be, sometimes it's a lack of vocabulary. Not that he didn't think he did anything horrific. In many instances people believe they have communicated a thought effectively when they have not. The same goes for his use of the words complex and nuanced. It's something to consider.
I don't understand why it's so difficult for him to take ownership of this instead of dancing around it. Even if he doesn't want to talk about exactly what was going though his head at the time, or even if he doesn't necessarily understand himself why he acted like that in that particular moment; he could still say something 'I was experiencing a lot of personal pain, and the stress led to me acting in a way I wish I hadn't, but I take full responsibility and I'm sorry I acted so I inappropriately'. And even if he's not particularly sorry that he hit Chris Rock (idk why maybe he just doesn't like him) he should still be sorry for physically attacking him AND in the middle of him (Chris Rock) doing his job! Definitely the 'horrific' night thing was extremely off-putting. He won an Oscar. It wasn't a horrific night for him.
Yeah I agree. Outwardly it wasn’t a horrific night for him-he slapped somebody on stage and STILL got a standing ovation when he received an Oscar! So that’s either BS or he had some really horrific stuff going on mentally/personally.
For someone so good at talking he just can’t seem to say the right thing. He can say he was going through stuff without elaborating, that’s fine. But then just apologize for the actions you took based on your emotions. Why do you think he can’t bring himself to admit he messed up? I feel like people would have more respect. I’m a fan and always have been and I do believe we saw a good guy do a bad thing. I just wish he would own it.
Awesome recap as usual, Spidey! I disagree with Trevor's analogy of the cookout (which are typically of all known buddies, who are often equal in rank) and think that's aiming too low to reduce the importance. It would be more accurate to compare it to a company picnic or a corporate holiday party where you have vice presidents, president, etc. The presence of directors, producers, etc. that are all capable of hiring him / advancing his career would create more significance. It's called "Hollywood's biggest night" and the fact that his own wife wore a couture gown then and other actors have spent up to $4M on one gown for that night in the past - that's not just a cookout.
I've been waiting for this one since I saw the interview. Thank you for your work, Spidey. (By the way, I was made aware of you through Chris Ramsay's content a couple years back.)
I’ve always liked Will Smith. The way I saw the whole Oscar debacle was he was laughing, then he saw Jada’s face. Then he reacted. It seems to me she has some kind of control over him. He wants to please her so badly and she just dismisses every effort he makes. She enjoys making him feel ill at ease. It’s like he felt he had to do some gallant gesture just to get her to notice him, but nothing works. I honestly think for his own mental health he needs to leave. She is a tormentor.
Yes but he won't. He says he'll never ever do it. He says he'll stand up and show up for Jada for his entire life, that she is his best friend and that there is absolutely nothing she can ever do that will make him stop loving her. He's a simp.
Quick suggestion, your videos are AMAZING, here’s the but. But maybe consider adding a sub-window with the body language you are referring to. It’s a bit difficult to relate to each instance of the subject’s body language when you’re breaking down a 5 second clip for several minutes. Love your content. Excited to see more!
Not sure I agree with the “cook out” idea. This was WS big career affirming moment, Spidey. He had never won the Best Actor Oscar before and it’s THE award that seals you as a legend and affirms your position forever. Being nominated and having your name read out is a fantastic glorious achievement but WINNING this award is what stars aim for. He knew he was going to get it, he had probably been preparing his speech for a long time, and speaking his acceptance would be in front of the world. Turned into a shitshow for him. When I saw him give his acceptance speech, saw the state he was in, saw how he couldn’t keep his face clean let alone composed this to me that looked like a man in a mental health crisis. He was utterly devastated. If he had regained some composure and had some good advice the speech should have been his dignified apology to everyone. He should have been statesmanlike, he should have been standing in the moment of the pinnacle of the highest accolade for his craft. Instead he destroyed himself in temper and continued to wallow in it because he has never admitted he was wrong. And for all the devoted WS fans, they can never move on either, they are stuck in there with him. Shame: in every sense.
This is something I hadn’t really thought of until now. (Background: multiple family members and one ex are narcissists so I have plenty of experience with them.) One of the things these types of people love to do is ruin other people’s big days: in my own personal experience, both my HS and college graduations and my wedding day were impacted by their shenanigans. I think this is what was happening here…like you said, Will and Jada surely knew he would win, he was practicing his speech, etc., but when the moment came, she couldn’t let him have it. When you said he was “in a mental health crisis” wow I’ve absolutely Been there. And while I never smacked anyone, you DO freeze and you don’t know how to react and you can’t believe the person who’s supposed to be supporting you is actually ruining the moment you’ve been waiting for all your life.
I have a theory about what those nuances and complexities are. It wasn't just the one joke or all about Jada. This isn't the first joke Chris Rock ever made about them, and it isn't the harshest. He has made several digs at them over the years, particularly at the Oscars. A lot of the jokes are aimed at Will's sense of self importance and imply that he sees through his facade. He mocked their decision to boycott the Oscars. He pointed out that he still makes a lot of money doing silly, lightweight movies while complaining that his more serious movies don't get the same recognition. Will's humor is more of a social tool. He laughs and makes jokes to make people like him. Chris Rock makes jokes like a comedian and expresses himself with brutal honesty. That cutting humor had been working on his insecurities for a long time. That rather lame joke that he reacted to violently was the last straw, because it caught him off guard. Notice that right before the GI Joke, Chris said something that sounded like the beginning of another dig but ended up being a compliment to Will. Will had braced himself for another cutting joke, was relieved and thinking maybe Chris was going to be nice to him after all, and was blindsided by the joke at Jada's expense. Also, remember that he said during his speech that in the business you have to take abuse and smile and act like everything is ok. I suspect that was how he perceived his interaction with Chris Rock for quite some time. *I want to clarify that I mean this is Will's perception, not Chris's intention or objective reality.
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To me his face of disgust was bc he knows that his audience thought his actions were disgusting and he's trying to show his agreement and thus get approval.
He is right on point: Will is an actor and employed a lot of tactics to sell the audience. 1.The excessive eye wipe, may have been from Menthol tear sticks/spray applied before going on to the interview to evoke the audience to empathize with him. Hence the excessive eye wiping to cry on command to sway the audience. 2. He used psychological manipulation to compliment and structure the conversation to disarm the well known nice-guy interviewer Trevor Noah to ensure he wouldn't go harshly in line of questioning. Then did endless mirroring with Trevor to show camaraderie with him to gain his "allegiance" in what he is saying. 3. Starts by denying recollection, distancing himself from accountability and diminishing the severity of his actions while expressing "growth" and self reflection to gain favor of humanizing his error in the eyes of the audience. Classic disassociation and in-accountability. 4. Will is calculated, so sure he had coaching on script/what to say to ensure best reactive outcome and positive feedback to his interview. 5. Tried to rationalize with the audience by sympathizing with the audience giving mundane examples to rally their emotional responses, Generalized sympathetic references. Very manipulative. 6. Truth be told, if there was true remorse in this interview, he would have involved Chris Rock and named him if it was truly an apologetic interview. Truly repentant people don't distance themselves in the acts by saying that place, that situation, that moment with subjective details. You own up to the rawness of the action and speak through the facts even if its painful, when its sincere. But in this case, Will is very distanced, he uses a lot of falsities to gain favor and victimization instead of owning the error and admitting wrong. Partly could be to avoid legal retribution...but still. Highly scripted interview. 7. Heavy involuntary/subconscious driven eye blinking is normally indicative of lying or exaggerations. Sorry, but this is what the facts lead to. Great review. This is the similar assessment I had and I have a degree in psychology. Very accurate assessment albeit a bit more cautious and tame, I'm more blunt. Bravo
Your video gave me alot to think about. When I originally watched the interview with Will and Trevor, I really wanted an answer as to why? I adore Trevor and thought he was a great choice to break his silence. I felt he had enough time to digest it away from the media. I would have easily accepted if he had just came out and said "I screwed up, and it was unacceptable." As I watched the interview I also felt something didn't flush.. In any case it probably is none of my business. Will Smith has always been a great source of brightness and talent to me and to much of the world. I really wanted him to be above it. I wonder if the same labeling goes for written communication as well. Do people respond to that sort of respect in written communication as much as verbal or much less? I subscribed and look forward to more videos from you. Normally I would never click on body language videos, I assume they are click bait for gossipy content. Your video gave great insight into my own communication with others. Thanks
Unfortunately unless Will completely goes rogue and goes off script, we will never truly get complete honesty. In Hollywood image is everything and we must keep in mind that Will has an entire PR team who work feverishly to keep Will's well established reputation intact as best as possible. Finally given the well known fact that Will is a very adept actor who has honed his craft to an absolute near perfection, we should not be so naive that even his body language is absolutely pre-meditated, rehearsed, scripted etc.
There's no doubt the man has a lot going on in his life. Doesn't take a genius to see that. However, no matter what you have going on nothing justifies physical violence against another human being. I'm not sure there's anything he could say that would change my mind about his character at this point in time. I'm certainly appalled at the way the academy handled his behavior. Definitely not interested in any future movies/shows he's involved with. He crashed his career. There are consequences for behavior. People generally don't understand this. Will is still making excuses instead of owning his mistakes. Every time he says, "you know," he loses credibility. There's a lot of anger here.
I couldn’t agree more. I am unable to watch anything Will is in now. Not only because of the assault but because of how he had reacted to it (or not reacted). No sincere apology, no explanation, no nothing. He’s shown himself to be a thug! I used to enjoy his movies but his behaviour is reprehensible. Shame on you Will Smith!
I agree. I wonder what the statute of limitations is on filing an assault charge... Because if I were the victim and hoped to see some remorse from my aggressor and not seeing it - still - after this interview, I'd be checking the law.
Lol “crashed his career”. It’ll be fine. He’s already owned his mistakes in more than one apology and even in this interview he did. So what are you talking about? He’s already banned for 10 years and no longer a member of the academy. What more do you want? Y’all are so quick to crucify a man who’s shown that he’s a nice guy for over 30 years. But one slap cause all y’all to act like he stabbed someone. Give him a break and relax.
I think that he’s afraid of being truly vulnerable; probably thinks it makes him look weak or that people will turn their backs on him if he were to expose the real reasons. I think that it’s possible that he’s being emotionally abused/gaslighted into remaining silent on the truth. I believe that if he were to get outside help, remove himself from the abuse, and receive a strong support system…that the truth would come out. But, this is just what I think. I don’t really know him or Jada up close and personal. I do hope that they all get the help and the healing they need, though.
There's also a key difference in language that demonstrates Will's subtle narcisissm: "I flew for thirty hours", as opposed to "I was on a plane for thirty hours". Since we can assume that Smith didn't fly the plane himself, his unconcious choice to make himself the active actor (pardon the pun) in the sentence shows just how he thinks of himself.
I have lost so much respect for him after all this. Not necessarily for the slap, I mean that's obviously bad but everyone makes mistakes. If he apologised for it, it would have ended there. What he's doing by calling it nuanced etc is refusing to apologise or acknowledge that he's even wrong. He should have been arrested, not given an award and a speech. I bet the guy that tried to slap the other comedian a few weeks later was arrested.
To me, Will Smith always seems like he has deep-rooted insecurities and is always seeking validation. That would explain why he is constantly acquiescing to his domineering wife and may even be why he chose a wife who's hard to please. My guess is that he had a parent (or both) who he couldn't please and so he became adept at winning people over and entertaining; anything for acceptance. He's still trying to please that person from his early years in his relationships with other people. Often times we become comfortable with the dysfunction of our childhoods so that, even if it's a negative thing, we seek it out because it's familiar. I think that's the case with him. I can't imagine any other reason why a guy as successful, attractive, and charismatic as Will Smith would allow himself to be humiliated by a woman like Jada without leaving her.
It's so important to be kind and respectful, to try always to be part of the solution, not part of the problem. Will Smith is talented and charismatic, not stupid, and has the resources to get help/therapy/mentoring. Yet for whatever reason, he is evasive, manipulative, less than transparent, brazen enough to strike another person in full view of the world and not evince any authentic remorse nor offer any authentic apology, nor be candid about what he thinks and feels about such behavior. Instead he tries to use all his people skills to win sympathy, approval, and forgiveness. This kind of slippery refusal to deal with it like an adult leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
I was wondering as watching if one who knows all of this as well as you is able to alter what your own body language shows and then you included the clip of yourself and answered my question. Well done.
The real Will Smith was the guy who slapped Chris Rock. Dude assumed the persona of the studio's dream for so long, his mask had to finally crack. This breakdown was a challenge to watch because I've never been a Will Smith fan, but Spidey is a champ and I wanted to see his educated take. Will Smith still gives me the narcissist phony vibe.
I am not sure. People do very stupid thinks when they are influenced by others, and I don't like Jada one bit. Her influence on him must be great, if he couldn't leave her after her "entanglement" and above that, it was made public and made him look like a fool.
There were NO nuances or complexities about that night at the Oscars. WS deliberately stalked onto the stage and assaulted another human being for having told a joke involving his wife - in what to me was actually somewhat flattering to her! It’s simple and clear, IMO.
Spidey, I admire your ability to remain unbiased and objective throughout these videos. It must be difficult, but it's very important and I just had to say how much I appreciate that about you!
WOW!! Dude... I find your evaluations spot on! Really interesting studies on Sociology body language! Very insightful! Thank you! I watch your channel not because of what the topics are because I don't really care that much about themes like Will Smith and Jada, but I find the studies thermselves fascinating in dissecting all the communication web!
Definitely the best video you've made so far! I've watched many of your videos and always learn something new regarding human behavior, soooo interesting to study ourselves😉 The thing about this video is that you were so genuine when you talk about giving respect and kindness and receiving it back. It is a simple statement and at the same time so profound! I've always told my children and hopefully set a good example that kindness costs us nothing, but benefits everyone surrounding that act of kindness. The person giving the kindness, the person/s receiving the kindness and the people witnessing kindness are all impacted in a positive way. I've been in all the places of giving, receiving and witnessing kindness and it is a powerful reminder that we are all equal in our humaness?, if you will. We all have a need for kindness and respect. Thank you again, Spidey!
Your clip and explanation of your experience at the Apollo at the end was the highlight of the whole video for me. You know what I saw? I saw humility i in the way you greeted Steve Harvey and I think we all see that humility in all your videos. You can't fake it. Humility draws others in. That's why it came natural to you to address him so respectfully. Thanks for sharing that with us, Spidey!
Wow! This, for me is by far the best video you’ve ever made. I found myself constantly either agreeing with what you’re saying or being mind blown by something I hadn’t seen. The stuff about Trevor Noah’s reactions were incredible, there’s no unseeing it! This is also a great example of why you rise above your peers on RUclips. The research you provide, the interdisciplinary knowledge you have (persuasion and communication in this case) and above all the real world experience, you’re out there practicing what you preach every day. That Steve Harvey clip was incredible!
Just one question: I love the way you handled that Apollo crowd, I watched that season of Showtime at The Apollo and noticed how performers’ demeanour towards the crowd made a huge difference. My question is, what do I do if I have nothing to compliment someone on early in the conversation. How does labeling work if there’s nothing to label? And also, is there such a thing as too much labelling? Thanks so much for this amazing video.
Thanks so much, glad you enjoyed it. And I love that question so much.
Regarding labelling there is a method I teach in my seminars which is simply this. In most conversations our focus is inwards, how we’re coming off, what we should say, what we should do etc… by simply shifting the focus outwards, or towards the person we’re talking to, miracles can happen. I wouldn’t say keep flattering them constantly that’s really not the goal but whenever there’s an opportunity to sincerely show specific appreciation for something, take it. I’m very often saying things like “that’s a really great point” “thanks for showing me that, I can see how much work you put into it” “that’s so thoughtful of you, not everyone would do that and I appreciate it.”
Sincere, specific and personal are very key!
As for early labelling, don’t stress over it, if there’s nothing, don’t force it. The goal of labelling is not to look for things to label, it’s to point out things we appreciate when they do come up. This distinction is very important for me and makes the difference between the used car salesman vibe and authentic charisma.
I'm no expert whatsoever but in dealing with my very challenging teen I was trying to find something every day to give a compliment or positive feedback. It was often extremely difficult but I took it as a challenge to look more deeply into actions I'd think should be a given but might be something that was a stretch for them.
That’s the thing that puts people off or loses them in conversations ! If you take you out of the conversation and put them in it’s place conversations become a pleasure and interchange of thought or encouragement 😮!!
@@TheBehavioralArts and @Thomas Rios I tried challenging myself to think of what I would say to a coworker I don't like and have no respect for. I thought about their desk covered in the little trinkets they make and realized I could say something like, "You are clearly creative," motion to things on desk, "I bet we could brainstorm some interesting ways to (solve xyz problem)." No butt kissing, just open to job focused collaboration.
Spidey, your videos extend beyond entertainment and make the world a better place. 😊
@@TheBehavioralArts i love this response , Spidey. It's so true sometimes we need to take focus off ourselves and put our focus outwards. This is wonderful secret for introverts !! It is helpful to take your own ego out of the picture and acknowledge the other persons contributions.
Will Smith just has to say this "I messed up. I let my emotions got the best of me. I was going through stuff inside, but that should in no way excuse me from that terrible act I did. I was 100% wrong and there's no way around that. end of story."
Exactly!
He is showing he is not brave enough to come clean to his fans. He thinks we are dumb and we dont see how much his wife controls him. 😢😅
@@ivonned32 I think the real problem is that he’s not brave enough to own up to HIMSELF. I think there’s a deep-seated fear of “being his father’s son”. Will’s father had anger issues which sometimes manifested themselves through physical violence. I think that Will inherited some part of that behaviour but is disgusted by it and ashamed of it. Will hated and resented the way his father was and probably the fact that he has it in himself too. I think it just slipped out of him at the Oscars. It seems to me that instead of dealing with those impulses in a healthy manner, Will just pushed them down and bottled them up until the damn burst and the floodgates opened. Chris Rock’s joke was just the last straw. Will snapped and I don’t think he’s been able to put himself back together ever since because he’s still looking for someone else to take up the responsibility.
And he won't.
Yep. Had he unreservedly apologised we’d all have moved on by now, but in constantly trying to justify himself it still lives on.
Like a Band-Aid - straight off!
If he did that the night it happened…..hell even when he released his video, I think people would have forgiven and moved on. He didn’t truly own up to his actions, which says a lot.
Very guarded guy. Pretty much his entire career he was Tom Hanks-level untouchable in the likeability department. Then his bizarre marriage and family life, the affairs, etc., started coming to light. Then the slap. I'd be interested in seeing you do an analysis of his wife, and maybe her interactions with Will and their kids. What little I've been able to stomach of her "red table" show, she is incredibly domineering and Will seems almost afraid of her. The kids do, too.
I’m going to start sleeping with my sons friend and u are going to like it if u love me
Will is dealing with being a cuckold.
I get a strange feeling regarding Tom Hanks.. When Ricky Gervais was making jokes at the golden globes regarding Hollywood and all the weird stuff they do.. Tom made strange faces, rolled his eyes and not once laughed.
@@aa.4639 Yes, I get the impression Tom's squeaky clean images is a front. For what, I don't know. He has a really wierd instagram account, or he used to, where he liked to post photos of single gloves, single shoes, etc. that supposedly he keeps finding lying around in the streets everywhere.
If I could talk to Will, and explain that if he got slapped for every fat joke he made over his career... he wouldn't have a face!
When I heard the "I flew 36 hours just to see you," it took me back to a guy I was interested in dating who told me "I took time out of my very busy day just to call you." What was I supposed to say to that? "OMG! Thank you so much! I'm so honoured!" Not playing that game.
What a terrific example of reciprocity used in an atrocious way lol. Like thanks Mr. President 😂
I agree with you. That comment can come across as "I'm doing you a favor by merely paying attention to you." Gross.
Huge reason why I don't believe in and am quite against "If he/she wanted to, they would". No one should be entitled to how others manage their time, all we can do is be grateful to be chosen to being made time for.
You're completely taking it the wrong way. People will say something like that to show you how important you are to them. Its Not at all that they're doing you a favor
@@SmokingDragon100 I agree w this. Like I said in my previous comment, we should be grateful to be chosen, but if we werent that doesnt mean we should be selfish and think that only we are their priority.
“That was a horrific night!!!”
So much that you still went up and accepted your award, got a standing ovation, laughed, joked and danced at parties afterward.
I’ll never get over that reaction from the audience 🙄 The same clowns who constantly lecture the masses about doing what’s right, saying no to violence & all the other cheap virtue signals they throw out, had the audacity to give that man a standing ovation after he physically assaulted a coworker. Beyond pathetic.
Security should have instantly escorted him out and the police called for an assault. Chris Rock had a crime committed against him on live TV before millions of witnesses, and he was completely ignored while Will Smith was celebrated.
Chris should have brought a charge against him. Everyone is afraid in Tinsel Town. If Will was a man of character he would have then went straight to his bank manager and giving Chris a few million dollars. .privately of course with a contract that he will never reveal it. Will is sick and his wife too,.... and been good with people and in front of the camera does not make you a balanced human. Will is entitled man, no matter how nice he seems or comes across. The world centres around him, hes big on the screen and he thinks hes big in real life too. . He's a manipulater... dangerous if one has power and money. Everyone is nice to him. Noone should listen to what he has to say. He's an abuser and has the entitlement to abuse someone in public. Noone is saying what they feel about him in case it rebounds on them. There is no honesty.
@@Poolberi88Chris should have definitely brought up charges but the sad thing is that due to the toxic masculinity idea within the African American community he will never. He would be made fun of and would lose all respect for bringing charges over a “slap”. Not to mention the power that Will Smith has in the industry.
Yeah if he lost his Oscar, would that not be more justified?
Chris Rock showed why he is a GOAT. He took it and stood strong. I don't know many men that would have just stood there and kept quiet. Chris you are the MAN. 💯
You are a Good man sir!!
Lawyer here.
Being kind and accommodating is one of the best negotiation tactics to use in many disputes. It shows our humanity and what our needs are, and this often 'softens' the other party and they will respond to our vulnerability and humanity.
Absolutely agreed! Always love hearing from the pros
@@TheBehavioralArts I don't know about being a pro, but thanks Spidey! Really enjoyed this one.
I've always wondered how detectives, police officers, lawyers, can be as calm as they are while listening to a murderer lie. So only the kind ones can do that? :)
@@anamatovic5719 it's not about kindness in that situation, it's patience and training to hide your real feelings until you get the information you need.
@@yvettebasson1243 Yeah, I know, I was just kidding :) But still, I could never do that. I would kill the killer while he's lying to me :)
He seemed terrified. He was extremely guarded, verbally and physically. I think he was afraid he'd slip and say something that would make him vulnerable to public criticism, so he was tiptoeing in his head instead of freely saying what was on his mind. He got brutally dragged on social media after the Oscars. It must have really shaken him because his ego is built on his good-guy persona. I think he desperately wanted to avoid saying anything "wrong" to the point he was totally inhibited.
in total agreement
I think ur giving him 2 much credit. He is all bloated ego & no morals
I don’t see any real remorse there, only self preservation
I agree with everything except persona. He’s a good guy who did a bad thing. Calling it a persona makes it seem put on and fake
@@marshawalker5273 you are entitled to your opinion but all he’s ever done outside of this one incident in public is being a kind and patient person. His family attests to the same as do fans and his current and ex staff. Just because he is famous, doesn’t mean we should feel we know him personally enough to insult his entire being. He’s a real human with flaws and strengths. If you cant be compassionate to everything he has been through and the psychological effects of that, just wish him health. I don’t understand the need to comment negatively tearing someone down
I think Will Smith isn't sorry for his actions that night, he seems to justify it. But, I think he is very upset about the back lash. Will is a great communicator and the "kind Sir" struck me straight away as "be kind here with this situation, you're great and let's make this so nice and easy"
I totally agree Nicola. That was my first thought - I don't think he's really sorry for what he did. I think he's sorry for loss of work or the bad press he received because of his actions. He IS a good actor and maybe he didn't have a 'script' for interviews, but I think he had possibly made notes on how to get sympathy from the crowd and answers to dodge direct questions. Maybe it is like a cookout to him, but it was a cookout attended by a world audience. He knew that getting dressed for the event, he knew that when he slapped Chris Rock, and he knew that when he 'cried' in his acceptance speech. Imho
@Mike I actually agree, it's a great way to influence people but I think he is a great manipulator which is not someone I'd want in my life.
You people are evil in its finest form.
@@nancywenn1093 Absolutely agree! He put his life in the spotlight, he chose that. I think he was prepared and maybe coached for this type of interview. I turned the acceptance speech off. His acting in life makes him a good manipulator to draw people in.
I agree!
Thank you for showing exactly why that interview felt off. I don’t think Will Smith will be able to repair his image until he gets honest with himself. I hope he’s in therapy. He also has a lot of entanglements - Jada & Will mirror each other. It’s amazing how much they try to protect themselves by using professionals, then put out an image of being people to be emulated, and still are unable to be authentic with themselves.
I think the reason why will's movements seem awkward is because for the first time in his life he feels he is now an outsider, he is no longer in total control of every situation. He probably thinks every place is hostile to him. It's like how you feel when you are invited to hang out with your friends even after you talked crap about them and you know they are upset with you.
More like he does not have any control over his life anymore. He is controlled by a crazy woman day to day. He can't tell us because he is a hostage.
@@Bevrastthat’s nothing new tho. Jada has always been toxic & controlling….this isn’t something new that’s popped up outta nowhere.
Jada is toxic, Will did a bitch move. She has total control over him, that's probably the sadness part.
Is it possible that Will Smith is in denial about his anger that night? It's like he knows he messed up, but somehow, if he takes personal responsibility for it, then he has to acknowledge the source of the anger, and he doesn't want to. Or perhaps he doesn't know how to? Just a thought..
My ex would do that! And actually truly seemed to believe his own innocence…even if he had already acknowledged apologized, even if there was record, even if there were witnesses. Interesting for sure!
Yes, I think it’s complete narcissistic behaviour.
Yes the source of his anger is his wife. It's so clear to me that he was trying to protect her and then she didn't even appreciate it! When he looked at her she was disgusted and he went up and smacked Chris Rock then when he got back to the seat she was like what the f*** did you do and he was just trying to stand up for her.
Yes. Good point.
It was scripted 100 percent. Same skit was done inn1999 on wAyans show. It’s on RUclips “”” wAyans predict Chris slsp1999””.
This was great! My concern with the situation is that I still don't see any remorse for Chris! It's all remorse relative to the backlash Will is getting, and the lack of respect he's gained. But nowhere in there do I see remorse or sadness because of how he hurts someone else. It's more so sadness because of how it's tainted his own reputation.
Great point!
Exactly
Any apology was pathetic on will s part
@@bmonster did u not see him laughing his head off at the joke initially?
@@Spinko7128 Right until Jada looked very angry about the situation! She never had alopécica it was just plastic surgery or surgeries the scar on her head is liner straight across her head not alopécica at all just a lying narcissist for absolutely no reason at all except to be right and control all situations in her life.
@@bmonster r u seriously justifying his a actions?!?!?!
Well, let’s be honest, no matter what Will Smith does or says, for the rest of his life, he’ll be known as the man who slapped Chris Rock. Will said “I flew 30 hours to be here with you.” He was indirectly saying, I went to a lot of trouble to be here, be nice to me & take me seriously. It was obvious when Will addressed Noah as ”Kind Sir” Will was planting a seed almost asking Noah to be kind and not rake him over the coals in regards to the slap and he used the word Sir to imply, I’m respecting you, so please respect me. I think every word Will said when he first sat down was 100% planned to make sure he received as little friction & embarrassment as possible.
You couldn’t have said it any better.
I think he emphasised on flying 30 hours because his eyes are constantly watering.. he didn’t want people to get the wrong idea.
The slap was scripted. Fake. They all did same skit in 1999. Watch. “ wAyans predict Chris slap 1999. Will Jada. P diddy front row. At awards. But pdiddy walked up same way and slapped. Exa ctly
@@godbyone ??
The slap/hit wasn’t fake. Not a skit. You can tell from the way Will Smith has acted since then, and the embarrassed look in his eyes over time, that he will regret that night for the rest of his life. The whole world watched Will make the biggest mistake of his life which is kind of like punishment in itself. I’m sure Will has done a lot of soul-searching since he hit Chris and will never physically assault anyone again. You live and you learn.
@@sunnyday3327 it was 100 percent. Staged. I can easily prove it. Look up it’s in you tube. “”” wAyans predicted Chris slap 1999”””. In 1999 they did a skit. Same 4 people. In1999 Will Jada p diddy front row. At a awards show. Chris tells joke but p sdiddy walks up exactly like will. From the front row slaps Chris same exact way. Then 20 years later. Will Jada front row. Will slaps and p diddy hand s Will the award. Same 4 people same exact skit
Just want to say this was amazing to watch. I’ve seen other people try to break down body language and none of them come close to you. Thank you for doing what you do!
Kindness & respect! Yes!! Thank you.
Spidey is always on point with his analysis! Will was definitely advised on how to speak in this interview with Trevor to get it as much of a positive outcome as possible. But it’s just very hard if not impossible to teach someone to develop a new baseline.
Agree. That visit to Trevor Noah was planned. I don't think he would be as comfortable as he was with Trevor Noah.
Trevor's interview w.Smith will go down w. Oprah's of the Sussex's. It was a kiss-up , not worthy.
There’s absolutely 0 excuse for physically assaulting someone for joking on stage.
Rocks monologue was not degrading to narcissist Jada.
Yeah "I'm going through some stuff you wouldn't understand" isn't a good excuse. Even less so when you don't even clarify "the stuff" or show clear empathy about the damage you've caused. Trevor Noah should have called him out on this.
@@FlorianCalmer why do you feel the need that he needs to dive into the “stuff” he’s dealing with? If he’s going to therapy or getting help from professionals then he doesn’t need to go into detail especially if that’s not what he’s there for and ready to unpack. He’s already apologized to Chris in public more than once, so this interview is not for a hundredth apology that Chris is not gonna acknowledge.
Rock has said "worse" things on stage and at his other Oscars appearances. For a society that measures what's worse than other things said anyway.
She has Alopecia which is hair loss, and he made a joke about that. On the street this would be a slap, and Will thought it be okay to do this in front of the world. Clearly he's doesn't think things through
If you were doing a skit, would be a reason. He can't just come out and say it though. So there is zero amount of justifying it and I don't think he wants to come out and apologize because that would make him guilty, and psychologically, he knows he's not ACTUALLY guilty, so he has to create a reason
Just finished the video! That moment with Steve Harvey was absolutely amazing!
Yeah lol. I fully believe that I would have been bludgeoned by that audience before I even got to my act if he wasn’t on my side. Lol
Reciprocity and respect ... I've understood these principles since childhood but have never heard them articulated so well.
The way your videos show how you navigate the world is outstanding. You are bringing something so valuable and life changing to the world without a hint of ego, preaching or pomposity. I love what you do!!!!!
Pretty sure Trevor’s just trying to not get slapped
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as long as he doesn't mention jada hinting that she is not good as will is hipnotized to believe...
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Not only does Spidey travel for his profession, but he does these elaborate videos, links all of the sources he mentions and keeps us all posted on what's going on via the community tab. I am impressed. Most creators don't bother with the community tab and their followers are left wondering what is going on when there's no uploads for a long period of time.
I've always found Will an affectacious and repellent character. I'm not sure anything could convince me he's a genuine man.
I've followed him for decades and always found him to be charming, funny, and a genuinely nice guy. The Jada years, however, threw a wrench into things. I think she's an extremely problematic individual, and I have no doubt that their marriage is an unhealthy one. However, as much as I liked Will before, violence is where I draw the line. I hope he can get out of the toxic situation he's in.
There are no "nuances" to assaulting Chris Rock. No doubt his adulterous wife caused him some stress and embarrassment but there's no excuse for his violent behaviour. Any nuanced explanation, excuse or apology is wrong by default.
There's no need to call Jada names. What they do in their marriage is their business and we don't get to judge.
I would not judge a person who has publicly admitted to have trauma and that he's working on it. We're humans that make mistakes. I don't justify the slap.
People have "nuances".
A lot.
I have no trust in people who never make a mistake.
How can you say apologies are wrong???
Hitting someone is wrong. Full stop.
Apologies are right. Full stop. They are necessary for us to move on and grow.
I agree with you, Cool Cat.
I feel the same way.
I no longer respect Will Smith, and I think he is a phony person. He is F.O.S. He is fake. His wife has made him less of a man. Neva Nyx, you can't tell someone what not to say and how to feel. Who are you? You dont know what has happened in Cool Cats' life to tell Cat how to feel and what to say. I know Nyx, you never thought badly about someone, and said anything negative about a persons comment. Because I am sure that you are doing that about me right now because of my comments.
I like Spidey. I respect him. He knows his craft.
He tells us a lot of things about what he notices in people.
The first thing I noticed was, “Kind Sir.” And I instantly realized that Will Smith is still in survival mode. The first thing he does is try to control his environment.
I am shocked at how painful it is to watch Will Smith be in pain. I grew up watching his show and his movies and I love what he has created. It saddens me to see him in this much pain all the time. Even the fake laughter seems painful.
He has easier access to better care than most. Save your tears for the powerless.
@@grantc61 first of all, you’re being incredibly rude. Secondly, you have no idea what it is like to be him and you don’t know what else he is going through. I didn’t excuse his behavior I said it pains me to see him this broken. I will remind you that far too many famous men have taken their life recently (i.e. Twitch, Aaron Carter, Jason David Frank). By all means hold people accountable but don’t dismiss their pain.
Yes, it's really sad. He did something awful, and will most likely never be able to fix his reputation. It's clear he has been through a lot, and has hurt more than a slap ever will. It's been a year, so I feel like it's time to forgive and move on. I miss the happy he has always shared with all of us.
Thank you for being one of the few who recognise this man as being a victim. He has been a victim for far too long and its going to take him a lifetime, to find who he is again, if he ever does. He may never figure out what part of the way he has acted in his life, was from himself and or the puppet he became. It has broken my heart to see and hear the way he is being talked about. Yet some of those same people saw through scamber, to see what she had done to JD. Jada is on a whole higher level of evil. Her monster is not in your face for all to see, she is cold and calculated like a snake. I would even go as far as to say she may be a psychopath. Even their own kids knew she did not love their dad.
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As a person who has watched tones of Will Smith interviews, he says "You know" a lot. Its part of him, everytime he gives philosophical advice and sometimes even in normal conversation, its just something he does as Will Smith. He says "you know" and when you watch all his interviews, you will see him say it. You know? 😂
I ykyk
Yes! I came here to say that. That is definitely his signature. His oldest son even does the same.
Love your content!!! Thank you for sharing this. Will knows he’s broken, but it seems like he doesn’t want to put the blame on himself and his so-called wife-he doesn’t want to look weak by saying: yes it’s my fault for letting my wife define how our marriage is going to be, yes I don’t like her arrangement, and yes my anger was deflected toward someone who I knew isn’t gonna fight back.
Spot on
Good point.. if he’s actually been emotionally abused/degraded, him saying that his emotions got the best of him and owning up to that, would also mean him saying something against his abusive wife publicly, admitting that he wasn’t okay with it, admitting weakness, and admitting that he’s been faking being okay with the “entanglements” and everything else. He’d be admitting something a lot deeper and more vulnerable about himself and his circumstances.. so it’s easier to hide the truth from yourself and dance around the issue. Kind of sad really.
I’ve noticed pretty much every member of the Smith family presents with a surface level charisma but no real accountability for much of anything. They all seem really self absorbed and present a carefully crafted image. They seem to be living in their private version of reality a bit.
That would be in line with narcissistic family dynamics. Kids do as they see not as they are told by others. The arrogance, entitlement, gaslighting and never taking accountability will have been taught via the narcissistic mother and codependent doormat will. Will Smith just lost all my respect for him, he enables an abuser and abused a comedian and took no accountability with no genuine, authentic shame or regard for what he did. He embarrassed himself more by hitting Chris now continues to be a pathetic ass hole about it. Actors, practised liars.
They are all in a cult, never forget that.
I'm so glad you make these videos, Spidey. Most of this stuff goes right over my head until you point it out. This is a needed education.
Yeah. There were so so so many things in this video that made me go 😮😮😮.
Will Smith using slavery to save himself. Sorry you brought it on yourself. Don't use people who did suffer, blacks and whites and other races, to cover for your disgraceful behavior. Disgusting. Your disgusting.
Personally, I think he reacted solely in response to Jada's reaction to the joke. He initially laughed, she scowled, and he launched himself up onto the stage. I think he doesn't want to acknowledge or address that whole dynamic, and so is in 100% deflection and double-speak mode whenever that subject gets brought up.
I agree. There's something in his relationship with Jada that drive him up there. He was relaxed and laughing, while she's unhappy, and next thing you know he's charging up on stage. We know there's tense history with her infidelity that she reclassified as an "entanglement", but I definitely get the feeling she has a lot of manipulative behaviors.
Agree
You got a subscription from me. Your moments at the Apollo won me over. Thank you, can’t wait to see more great content from you.
I LOVE that snippit at the end about the Apollow experience! Such an amazing example of mutual respect and genuine kindness being benificial to everyone involved. Love love love that!
I suspect the reason why Will Smith didn’t give a reason for slapping Chris Rock is he doesn’t want to throw Jada under the bus. He was initially laughing at the joke but, after seeing her rolling her eyes, he reacted and to explain that to the crowd would make people blame her and then he’d have to hear it from her when he gets home.
I think so I too
@@allergictostupidpeople7893 I don’t know who you’re referring to nor do I see how that’s relevant.
Great video!! I was messing around with Chat GPT while watching this video and decided to ask the A.I. about this Will Smith situation and the answer really says it all. The A.I. program isn't aware of events after 2021 so I asked it in this way and the response says IT ALL 😂:
"Why would an actor slap the host at the Oscar's after the host who is a comedian made a joke about the actor's wife?"
"Such an incident would be highly unusual and likely result in significant public controversy and backlash. Physical violence or threats of violence are never appropriate responses to a joke, even if the joke is about someone close to you.
In a professional setting, such as the Oscars, actors and other public figures are expected to maintain a high level of decorum and professionalism, even in the face of difficult or offensive situations. Responding with violence would likely result in serious consequences for the actor, including damage to their reputation, potential legal trouble, and harm to their career.
It's important to remember that humor, especially in a public setting, can be subjective and often hits close to home for someone. However, it's always better to handle these situations with grace and diplomacy, and to avoid responding with violence. If someone is making jokes that are personally hurtful, it may be best to address the situation through private channels or to simply ignore it."
WOW
NO SUPER WOW. I just used Chat GPT to help me write some ad copy and that thing is scary amazing
About that face he made when he mentions the stage, I’ve caught myself doing that while I remember an unpleasant memory, or a bad behavior from my part, or a come-back that could have been better. I felt he was on that exact same feeling, it’s a very unpleasant memory for him which he has had to go through so many times and it doesn’t get better, he clearly hasn’t gotten over it, so I think that’s that.
Btw I love this channel, I found it recently and I can’t stop watching your videos! Extremely interesting, gotta say!
I will never see Will the same guy as before. I think this was the true self. He is so full of with himself.
Yes, the Oscars might not be as big a deal for Will as for us watching, but THIS Oscars he was up for a major award. To Will it was just as big deal as it was for those watching. This was no cookout!
If that hadn't happened, I wouldn't even have known that there was an Oscar ceremony.
I think for a large number of Americans, me being one of them, the Oscars are of zero importance, so I am pretty sure they are a much bigger deal to Will than many of us. Because of Will’s slap that is the first Oscar in 20 years that I know anything about what happened other than occasional hearing what movie won best picture.
@@GeoRedtick Yeah, but not just Americans, I'm from Serbia and we don't care about the Oscars anymore.
@@anamatovic5719 yeah, I think actors are becoming more and more irrelevant to the masses. They continue to hype themselves and within their clic think they are important, but I wonder if they are starting to feel the shift to irrelevancy also.
@@GeoRedtick I hope they do :) That's why I think this was staged, they had to do something, so that people could talk about. Even after this Body language analyses, that makes sense, I still think it's staged. People say: "Why would they stage that, what's the point?" The point is that nobody would even talk about the Oscars, at least not how they used to.
As a Canadian, I am so proud that you represent us, Spidey. You are so good and kind and I hope you never change.❤️ I believe WS lost who he was a long time ago. Sadly, that often happens when people throw money and adoration at you. Trevor Noah is a soft and easy interview and tries to get Will to make sense of what happened for Will’s sake, but just can’t lead him there. He also tries to soften the severity of what Will did by the “cook out” comment. I’m sorry, but I have gone to church every Sunday since I was born. No matter how “familiar” people become with taking the Sacrament, it does not become a “cook-out” with friends. Certain things have meaning and are sacred. If these celebrities want to continue to be worshipped, they will have to treat these events with the respect and reverence they want us to believe they deserve.
Spidey is Canadian? Me too. That's so cool to know he's from Canada, too. 😊🇨🇦
@@saratonnan I would never thought he's Canadian ahahahah He doesn't sound like that. But I guess that's why he is so nice :)
Yep he is Canadian ♥️
@@anamatovic5719: Like the US, people from different parts of Canada have different accents. Sometimes the accents are subtle, but there if you listen carefully. My husband's family in Alberta speak slightly different than my family in BC. Not something most people will notice, but it's there in the speech pattern and accent.
@@anamatovic5719 He has a slight French Canadian accent (not the stereo typical Canadian accent you’d assume we all speak because of T.V. Shows that make fun of us.)😉
If you watch his face touching. He was wiping tears from his eyes. You can see the tears in his eyes
This was great! Just found ya and I’m glad I did
I'm obsessed with your channel but this is my first time commenting.
I absolutely loved this analysis. I was watching with my husband and found myself guessing all the behaviors right before you would state them. Kind of pop quizzing myself on what I've learned so far. 😆 It jumped out at me after a few of my guesses that I have indeed learned so much from you in the short time I've been watching, it's shocking. On top of the knowledge you share with us, you're so kind and caring and I feel like you share that with us as well. Almost like you're spreading your kindness and light through your videos and really touching all of us. It's wonderful and I felt it was worth mentioning.
Thank you for all you do and all you share with us! I can't wait for the next one!
Loved your, “what are you doing Friday?” And the Will word salad answer. LOL! Spot on. 👏
Some people are thankful for your kind comment, some people are glad you enjoyed the video, some people are happy you like that observation…. …. K bye 😆
@@TheBehavioralArts Yes!!!Appreciation by Proxy 😃
Thanks Spidey for an informative reaction to this unique interview. Going forward always stick to your plan and discuss what you want on your channel. We’re here for you!! Keep up the amazing work Sir! ❤️
Wow, Spidey! You got to perform at the Apollo! What an accomplishment! I'm always happy to see you pop up everywhere. I also want to thank you, decoding behavior has really helped me for the last few months to get out of a bad relationship before it got really, really bad. You are my hero.
Travis Walton recently did an interview on The Joe Rogan Experience podcast. He also formerly did an interview a long time ago on Larry King. I would love to see a body language analysis on him during his interviews.
It`s fun for me how Behavior panel got infected with "you know" on this video, and now Spidey got infected too.
It was hilarious ya know
Horrific night? I saw pictures of him partying at an after party. If it was horrific you wouldn’t have wanted to go party after.
He’s only sorry when his fans showed their disgust
Pretty horrific for Chris Rock and his family I should imagine
It was scripted Chris and Will were all in on it. They did same skit in 1999. It’s in RUclips. “” “wAyans predict Chris slap 1999””
Oh man!! I have missed watching your body language videos so much. It’s been a while for me. I always learn so much; I feel like I’m back in university class, where I really love the subject and the teacher. Thoroughly enjoyed watching and learning! Thank you! 😊
His non-answers to the Oscar night are a lot like the non-nswers Jada gave when they had that question session (when Will and Jada sat opposite each other) when she spoke of her affair. Just no accountability and lots of sympathy-by-whatever s/he could muster.
Thank you Spidey for this and the other uploads!
Look at Trevor from 28:16 as Will turns to the audience and begins his "you never know what someone is going through" speech. Just like Will is an effective communicator, Trevor is a great listener..
Look at Trevor's face! He knows we are being "conned" by Will. And like you say, I don't know if Will is being purposeful, but he has not come to grips with what he has done to Chris, and so he is still doing his "Will Smith show". The audience also seems super quiet and I think they realize that Will is not being honest with them or himself.
Edited to add that you addressed this in your video!
Gaslighting himself.
I'm in no way a behavior specialist, but I am a communications professor. No matter how communicative we perceive a person to be, sometimes it's a lack of vocabulary. Not that he didn't think he did anything horrific. In many instances people believe they have communicated a thought effectively when they have not. The same goes for his use of the words complex and nuanced. It's something to consider.
Love you sharing everything with us. Of others and of yourself. Thanks Spidey!
I don't understand why it's so difficult for him to take ownership of this instead of dancing around it. Even if he doesn't want to talk about exactly what was going though his head at the time, or even if he doesn't necessarily understand himself why he acted like that in that particular moment; he could still say something 'I was experiencing a lot of personal pain, and the stress led to me acting in a way I wish I hadn't, but I take full responsibility and I'm sorry I acted so I inappropriately'. And even if he's not particularly sorry that he hit Chris Rock (idk why maybe he just doesn't like him) he should still be sorry for physically attacking him AND in the middle of him (Chris Rock) doing his job!
Definitely the 'horrific' night thing was extremely off-putting. He won an Oscar. It wasn't a horrific night for him.
He did so he was trying not to repeat himself again unnecessarily
Yeah I agree. Outwardly it wasn’t a horrific night for him-he slapped somebody on stage and STILL got a standing ovation when he received an Oscar! So that’s either BS or he had some really horrific stuff going on mentally/personally.
@@greatsm2videl agree. I think he meant horrific for.him persinally/internally
Wow, you are amazing 🤩. I'm going to use the be nice and respectful, it's something most people deserve. Thank you for all your knowledge.
I think will greeted Trevor I saw it as him subtly begging for mercy and feeling super grateful for the opportunity to do the interview.
For someone so good at talking he just can’t seem to say the right thing. He can say he was going through stuff without elaborating, that’s fine. But then just apologize for the actions you took based on your emotions. Why do you think he can’t bring himself to admit he messed up? I feel like people would have more respect.
I’m a fan and always have been and I do believe we saw a good guy do a bad thing. I just wish he would own it.
Awesome recap as usual, Spidey! I disagree with Trevor's analogy of the cookout (which are typically of all known buddies, who are often equal in rank) and think that's aiming too low to reduce the importance. It would be more accurate to compare it to a company picnic or a corporate holiday party where you have vice presidents, president, etc. The presence of directors, producers, etc. that are all capable of hiring him / advancing his career would create more significance. It's called "Hollywood's biggest night" and the fact that his own wife wore a couture gown then and other actors have spent up to $4M on one gown for that night in the past - that's not just a cookout.
"That was a horrific night"
While having a smirk on his face 🥴
You are brilliant. Love your work. Fascinating ❤❤❤
Loved all this and the stories you delved into. Really informative. I usually forget to leave comments... But I remembered now! X
I've been waiting for this one since I saw the interview. Thank you for your work, Spidey. (By the way, I was made aware of you through Chris Ramsay's content a couple years back.)
I’ve always liked Will Smith. The way I saw the whole Oscar debacle was he was laughing, then he saw Jada’s face. Then he reacted. It seems to me she has some kind of control over him. He wants to please her so badly and she just dismisses every effort he makes. She enjoys making him feel ill at ease. It’s like he felt he had to do some gallant gesture just to get her to notice him, but nothing works. I honestly think for his own mental health he needs to leave. She is a tormentor.
You nailed it .
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Yes but he won't. He says he'll never ever do it. He says he'll stand up and show up for Jada for his entire life, that she is his best friend and that there is absolutely nothing she can ever do that will make him stop loving her. He's a simp.
Quick suggestion, your videos are AMAZING, here’s the but.
But maybe consider adding a sub-window with the body language you are referring to. It’s a bit difficult to relate to each instance of the subject’s body language when you’re breaking down a 5 second clip for several minutes.
Love your content. Excited to see more!
38:30 Wow, that was very interesting to see him wipe the disgust off his face like that. Almost like hitting a reset button.
Not sure I agree with the “cook out” idea. This was WS big career affirming moment, Spidey. He had never won the Best Actor Oscar before and it’s THE award that seals you as a legend and affirms your position forever. Being nominated and having your name read out is a fantastic glorious achievement but WINNING this award is what stars aim for. He knew he was going to get it, he had probably been preparing his speech for a long time, and speaking his acceptance would be in front of the world. Turned into a shitshow for him. When I saw him give his acceptance speech, saw the state he was in, saw how he couldn’t keep his face clean let alone composed this to me that looked like a man in a mental health crisis. He was utterly devastated. If he had regained some composure and had some good advice the speech should have been his dignified apology to everyone. He should have been statesmanlike, he should have been standing in the moment of the pinnacle of the highest accolade for his craft. Instead he destroyed himself in temper and continued to wallow in it because he has never admitted he was wrong. And for all the devoted WS fans, they can never move on either, they are stuck in there with him. Shame: in every sense.
This is something I hadn’t really thought of until now. (Background: multiple family members and one ex are narcissists so I have plenty of experience with them.) One of the things these types of people love to do is ruin other people’s big days: in my own personal experience, both my HS and college graduations and my wedding day were impacted by their shenanigans. I think this is what was happening here…like you said, Will and Jada surely knew he would win, he was practicing his speech, etc., but when the moment came, she couldn’t let him have it. When you said he was “in a mental health crisis” wow I’ve absolutely Been there. And while I never smacked anyone, you DO freeze and you don’t know how to react and you can’t believe the person who’s supposed to be supporting you is actually ruining the moment you’ve been waiting for all your life.
FASCINATING, great job. Please help us understand the political speeches and debates, THANK YOU.
New subscriber. YOU. ARE. AMAZING omg loving this analysis.
I have a theory about what those nuances and complexities are. It wasn't just the one joke or all about Jada. This isn't the first joke Chris Rock ever made about them, and it isn't the harshest. He has made several digs at them over the years, particularly at the Oscars. A lot of the jokes are aimed at Will's sense of self importance and imply that he sees through his facade. He mocked their decision to boycott the Oscars. He pointed out that he still makes a lot of money doing silly, lightweight movies while complaining that his more serious movies don't get the same recognition. Will's humor is more of a social tool. He laughs and makes jokes to make people like him. Chris Rock makes jokes like a comedian and expresses himself with brutal honesty. That cutting humor had been working on his insecurities for a long time. That rather lame joke that he reacted to violently was the last straw, because it caught him off guard. Notice that right before the GI Joke, Chris said something that sounded like the beginning of another dig but ended up being a compliment to Will. Will had braced himself for another cutting joke, was relieved and thinking maybe Chris was going to be nice to him after all, and was blindsided by the joke at Jada's expense. Also, remember that he said during his speech that in the business you have to take abuse and smile and act like everything is ok. I suspect that was how he perceived his interaction with Chris Rock for quite some time. *I want to clarify that I mean this is Will's perception, not Chris's intention or objective reality.
There's some contempt in his smile with the bubble cheeks. He's like, "Here we go... 🙄"
Excellent excellent response. I love your videos as I learn so much about human behaviour. Keep it up!
Your always educate me, I love it. The way you explained the cheeks was awesome. This was another of your excellent work
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To me his face of disgust was bc he knows that his audience thought his actions were disgusting and he's trying to show his agreement and thus get approval.
Amazing analysis! Very interesting.
He is right on point: Will is an actor and employed a lot of tactics to sell the audience.
1.The excessive eye wipe, may have been from Menthol tear sticks/spray applied before going on to the interview to evoke the audience to empathize with him. Hence the excessive eye wiping to cry on command to sway the audience.
2. He used psychological manipulation to compliment and structure the conversation to disarm the well known nice-guy interviewer Trevor Noah to ensure he wouldn't go harshly in line of questioning. Then did endless mirroring with Trevor to show camaraderie with him to gain his "allegiance" in what he is saying.
3. Starts by denying recollection, distancing himself from accountability and diminishing the severity of his actions while expressing "growth" and self reflection to gain favor of humanizing his error in the eyes of the audience. Classic disassociation and in-accountability.
4. Will is calculated, so sure he had coaching on script/what to say to ensure best reactive outcome and positive feedback to his interview.
5. Tried to rationalize with the audience by sympathizing with the audience giving mundane examples to rally their emotional responses, Generalized sympathetic references. Very manipulative.
6. Truth be told, if there was true remorse in this interview, he would have involved Chris Rock and named him if it was truly an apologetic interview. Truly repentant people don't distance themselves in the acts by saying that place, that situation, that moment with subjective details. You own up to the rawness of the action and speak through the facts even if its painful, when its sincere. But in this case, Will is very distanced, he uses a lot of falsities to gain favor and victimization instead of owning the error and admitting wrong. Partly could be to avoid legal retribution...but still. Highly scripted interview.
7. Heavy involuntary/subconscious driven eye blinking is normally indicative of lying or exaggerations.
Sorry, but this is what the facts lead to. Great review. This is the similar assessment I had and I have a degree in psychology. Very accurate assessment albeit a bit more cautious and tame, I'm more blunt. Bravo
Your video gave me alot to think about. When I originally watched the interview with Will and Trevor, I really wanted an answer as to why? I adore Trevor and thought he was a great choice to break his silence. I felt he had enough time to digest it away from the media. I would have easily accepted if he had just came out and said "I screwed up, and it was unacceptable." As I watched the interview I also felt something didn't flush.. In any case it probably is none of my business. Will Smith has always been a great source of brightness and talent to me and to much of the world. I really wanted him to be above it.
I wonder if the same labeling goes for written communication as well. Do people respond to that sort of respect in written communication as much as verbal or much less?
I subscribed and look forward to more videos from you. Normally I would never click on body language videos, I assume they are click bait for gossipy content. Your video gave great insight into my own communication with others. Thanks
14 mins in and it’s a beautiful breakdown :) enjoying the listen
Unfortunately unless Will completely goes rogue and goes off script, we will never truly get complete honesty. In Hollywood image is everything and we must keep in mind that Will has an entire PR team who work feverishly to keep Will's well established reputation intact as best as possible. Finally given the well known fact that Will is a very adept actor who has honed his craft to an absolute near perfection, we should not be so naive that even his body language is absolutely pre-meditated, rehearsed, scripted etc.
Fascinating analysis sir! Very insightful thank you
I would have much preferred a sincere sign that he recognizes he was the horrific one. Absolutely unacceptable behavior.
There's no doubt the man has a lot going on in his life. Doesn't take a genius to see that. However, no matter what you have going on nothing justifies physical violence against another human being. I'm not sure there's anything he could say that would change my mind about his character at this point in time. I'm certainly appalled at the way the academy handled his behavior. Definitely not interested in any future movies/shows he's involved with. He crashed his career. There are consequences for behavior. People generally don't understand this. Will is still making excuses instead of owning his mistakes. Every time he says, "you know," he loses credibility. There's a lot of anger here.
I couldn’t agree more. I am unable to watch anything Will is in now. Not only because of the assault but because of how he had reacted to it (or not reacted). No sincere apology, no explanation, no nothing. He’s shown himself to be a thug! I used to enjoy his movies but his behaviour is reprehensible. Shame on you Will Smith!
I agree. I can't stand him anymore and won't watch any of his movies ever again.
I agree. I wonder what the statute of limitations is on filing an assault charge... Because if I were the victim and hoped to see some remorse from my aggressor and not seeing it - still - after this interview, I'd be checking the law.
Lol “crashed his career”. It’ll be fine. He’s already owned his mistakes in more than one apology and even in this interview he did. So what are you talking about? He’s already banned for 10 years and no longer a member of the academy. What more do you want? Y’all are so quick to crucify a man who’s shown that he’s a nice guy for over 30 years. But one slap cause all y’all to act like he stabbed someone. Give him a break and relax.
@@trehugr4life you won’t watch his movies because he slapped someone? Do you go around defriending everyone in your life for mistakes?
I think that he’s afraid of being truly vulnerable; probably thinks it makes him look weak or that people will turn their backs on him if he were to expose the real reasons. I think that it’s possible that he’s being emotionally abused/gaslighted into remaining silent on the truth. I believe that if he were to get outside help, remove himself from the abuse, and receive a strong support system…that the truth would come out. But, this is just what I think. I don’t really know him or Jada up close and personal. I do hope that they all get the help and the healing they need, though.
There's also a key difference in language that demonstrates Will's subtle narcisissm: "I flew for thirty hours", as opposed to "I was on a plane for thirty hours". Since we can assume that Smith didn't fly the plane himself, his unconcious choice to make himself the active actor (pardon the pun) in the sentence shows just how he thinks of himself.
14mins in and this is so educational for me. Thank you
I have lost so much respect for him after all this. Not necessarily for the slap, I mean that's obviously bad but everyone makes mistakes. If he apologised for it, it would have ended there. What he's doing by calling it nuanced etc is refusing to apologise or acknowledge that he's even wrong. He should have been arrested, not given an award and a speech. I bet the guy that tried to slap the other comedian a few weeks later was arrested.
To me, Will Smith always seems like he has deep-rooted insecurities and is always seeking validation. That would explain why he is constantly acquiescing to his domineering wife and may even be why he chose a wife who's hard to please. My guess is that he had a parent (or both) who he couldn't please and so he became adept at winning people over and entertaining; anything for acceptance. He's still trying to please that person from his early years in his relationships with other people. Often times we become comfortable with the dysfunction of our childhoods so that, even if it's a negative thing, we seek it out because it's familiar. I think that's the case with him. I can't imagine any other reason why a guy as successful, attractive, and charismatic as Will Smith would allow himself to be humiliated by a woman like Jada without leaving her.
Great job and congrats on the performance at the Apollo
It's so important to be kind and respectful, to try always to be part of the solution, not part of the problem. Will Smith is talented and charismatic, not stupid, and has the resources to get help/therapy/mentoring. Yet for whatever reason, he is evasive, manipulative, less than transparent, brazen enough to strike another person in full view of the world and not evince any authentic remorse nor offer any authentic apology, nor be candid about what he thinks and feels about such behavior. Instead he tries to use all his people skills to win sympathy, approval, and forgiveness. This kind of slippery refusal to deal with it like an adult leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
I was wondering as watching if one who knows all of this as well as you is able to alter what your own body language shows and then you included the clip of yourself and answered my question. Well done.
The real Will Smith was the guy who slapped Chris Rock. Dude assumed the persona of the studio's dream for so long, his mask had to finally crack. This breakdown was a challenge to watch because I've never been a Will Smith fan, but Spidey is a champ and I wanted to see his educated take. Will Smith still gives me the narcissist phony vibe.
I am not sure. People do very stupid thinks when they are influenced by others, and I don't like Jada one bit. Her influence on him must be great, if he couldn't leave her after her "entanglement" and above that, it was made public and made him look like a fool.
He flew 30 hours to have the right person interview him cause he really needs help
I'm sorry but if my Mother died last week or my child is sick I'm not in the audience to see Will Smith discuss his problems.
There were NO nuances or complexities about that night at the Oscars. WS deliberately stalked onto the stage and assaulted another human being for having told a joke involving his wife - in what to me was actually somewhat flattering to her! It’s simple and clear, IMO.
Spidey, I admire your ability to remain unbiased and objective throughout these videos. It must be difficult, but it's very important and I just had to say how much I appreciate that about you!
WOW!! Dude... I find your evaluations spot on! Really interesting studies on Sociology body language! Very insightful! Thank you! I watch your channel not because of what the topics are because I don't really care that much about themes like Will Smith and Jada, but I find the studies thermselves fascinating in dissecting all the communication web!
Definitely the best video you've made so far! I've watched many of your videos and always learn something new regarding human behavior, soooo interesting to study ourselves😉 The thing about this video is that you were so genuine when you talk about giving respect and kindness and receiving it back. It is a simple statement and at the same time so profound! I've always told my children and hopefully set a good example that kindness costs us nothing, but benefits everyone surrounding that act of kindness. The person giving the kindness, the person/s receiving the kindness and the people witnessing kindness are all impacted in a positive way. I've been in all the places of giving, receiving and witnessing kindness and it is a powerful reminder that we are all equal in our humaness?, if you will. We all have a need for kindness and respect. Thank you again, Spidey!
I enjoyed this video and immediately subscribed.
Your clip and explanation of your experience at the Apollo at the end was the highlight of the whole video for me. You know what I saw? I saw humility i in the way you greeted Steve Harvey and I think we all see that humility in all your videos. You can't fake it. Humility draws others in. That's why it came natural to you to address him so respectfully. Thanks for sharing that with us, Spidey!
He's not a good actor; that's why you read him on point!
Hey Mr. Spidey, Its an honor commenting on your video. Can you please show your full video of that day at the Apollo? Thank you kind sir!