David Kessler: The Decision to Live Again

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  • Опубликовано: 7 мар 2023
  • David Kessler is a grief specialist, speaker, and author of six books, including his latest bestselling book, Finding Meaning. He co-authored two books with Elisabeth Kübler Ross. His first book received praise from Saint (Mother) Teresa.
    He facilitates a new model of online grief groups that are attended by people worldwide and leads one of the most respected online grief certificate programs. He is the founder of Grief.com which has over five million visits yearly from 167 countries.

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  • @sunriseschubert4391
    @sunriseschubert4391 Год назад +33

    Losing my mom was like losing my life.

    • @joannedobkin3363
      @joannedobkin3363 Год назад +8

      I agree it’s the death of an identity

    • @hothaze1493
      @hothaze1493 4 месяца назад +1

      💔⚘️

    • @zylelap2543
      @zylelap2543 2 месяца назад +3

      I feel the same concerning my dad.

  • @Sunny_Day1111
    @Sunny_Day1111 10 месяцев назад +15

    “Every breath hurts”. My daughter passed away. She was 16. I have been trying to catch my breath ever since. So grateful for this this video, for David. I finally feel heard, understood. Sending love and compassion to everyone who is grieving ❤️🌻

    • @hothaze1493
      @hothaze1493 4 месяца назад +2

      ⚘️sending compassion to You too 🌻

    • @Amarideout
      @Amarideout Месяц назад +2

      God bless you❤ I pray you are breathing easier now, day by day. One day at a time.

    • @rebeccashady8465
      @rebeccashady8465 21 день назад

      So tired of hiding the grief and pretending everything is fine. I am alone in this world with no friends and family walked away. My therapist is tired of hearing my grief. She switched therapy days. I pretend to talk to someone by talking into my phone. May everyone who is struggling find ✌️ peace..May your struggles lessen, and you be acknowledged.

    • @Sunny_Day1111
      @Sunny_Day1111 21 день назад

      Sending you love and compassion and the biggest hug.

  • @mangisty1007
    @mangisty1007 7 месяцев назад +8

    That is one of the things that bothers me what people say, when they say I look good or sound good…I don’t know how grief is supposed to look? But that is the face I put on to do my job or be I public, but inside, like David said it hurts to breathe.

  • @BelieveAndLive668
    @BelieveAndLive668 2 месяца назад +7

    Having to grieve before people are actually gone is definitely a struggle

  • @carol2070
    @carol2070 5 месяцев назад +5

    I am so glad nobody understands. I wouldn't wish loss of my child on anyone. It's the worst thing that can ever happen. I am now bullet proof, living in Israel, by the sea, so I can see Gd's sunset, every night. He is real and with me. With Gd, I am a majority of One!❤

  • @mariederice1260
    @mariederice1260 Год назад +7

    I agree, since my mom passed 12 yrs. ago it hasn't been the same. I've accepted it, but I miss her so much. We lived in a 2 family house for 50 yrs. It's still very hard! I'm in counseling & thank God my healing journey is not going as fast as I would like it to. Hopefully, God has given me many miracles to help me. Good friends & family.

  • @susanbusby46
    @susanbusby46 Год назад +11

    My beloved husband died 15 months ago and we were married for 57 years. Your words resonate exactly what I am feeling and give me some hope, thank you.

    • @whitneysmith6752
      @whitneysmith6752 Год назад +1

      My dad died 4 weeks ago and am totally in a space I have dreaded my whole life -and it’s just impossible to accept I will never see him again. Meanwhile my mom like you lost her husband of 65 Yrs. He passed 3 weeks before their 65th anni. She is so numb what can her purpose be ? She and my dad were like binary stars. They each needed each other and were very similar and opposites very much complemented each other. I have longer years to be without my dad but my mom doesn’t want to be unhappy in her remaining years but how can she not be numb till the end. ? I don’t know. I am so sorry for your recent loss and your sorrow. ❤I am trying to get my mom to watch David’s videos but my mom seems to just not want to confront /meditate /dwell. That’s her grief mode. She is trying to stay grateful and positive. My dad would have wanted her to. But I don’t know how this will all resolve -or never. It’s a road I have not traveled with a parent. It’s just so awful. Loss. Alters everything -literally everything.

  • @TheMisssy2
    @TheMisssy2 26 дней назад +3

    I'm so sad for your loss. The story hit me about being the guy the neighbors and kids feared. As a woman I have been turning into that woman....I need to start the gym as soon as my car is fixed...2 years of grief right now...and hiding it.....thank God for therapist. And I am liking your videos, thank you.

  • @Amarideout
    @Amarideout Месяц назад +1

    It has gotten now where I'm not sure which loss started it. Most of what I recall is.the sorrow and sadness on days like today.

  • @mrstoner2udude799
    @mrstoner2udude799 4 месяца назад +5

    I love this man.

  • @indychoate8350
    @indychoate8350 3 месяца назад +4

    Your life David is a great example of a survivor, and an overcomer. Love cannot die! You said that, and I will never forget it! Thank you.

    • @suek.k788
      @suek.k788 3 месяца назад

      It resonates with my grief, I appreciate your tips of dealing with loss of a loved one.

    • @suek.k788
      @suek.k788 3 месяца назад

      Very encouraging. I like the fact that we learn to live with the loss, anr eventually some light comes through the darkness. Grateful.

  • @joannenascimento9213
    @joannenascimento9213 6 месяцев назад +8

    I have no support at all in my grief David. All are dead. Friends have abandoned. I have God. Is that enough?

    • @freescot8035
      @freescot8035 6 месяцев назад +4

      Joanne, God is for you. Who can be against you? God carries you in the palm of His hand.
      And You came here. And here there are people whos' voices you may never hear who support you in your grief.
      Yes, God is enough. May God bless you and keep you. May God lift up His countenance to shine upon you and give you peace.

    • @rosep9866
      @rosep9866 6 месяцев назад +2

      But God doesn't have a telephone,, he doesn't talk back too me... He's very busy.. I have no one ,, no one & that's a damaged life.. even if God loves me,, suffering is overwhelming...

    • @joannenascimento9213
      @joannenascimento9213 23 дня назад

      Freescot. Thankyou.I only now saw your reply. U have helped so much.❤

  • @user-wb3es8hz1d
    @user-wb3es8hz1d 4 месяца назад +2

    Putting one foot in front of the other and just taking a shower ... those things really resonate with me. I remember my first big grief after my father died. The pain from my Dad dying caused me to tell my best friend about earlier assault traumas I had experienced 34 years earlier (I never told anyone before). Like finally pulling out a giant splinter. Ever since that time, I have to check if my shoes and socks match when I leave the house, and I started to misplace my keys -- as if I had just discovered that I was not invincible or bullet proof. During my therapy journey to feel better, my entire perspective and priorities changed on their own ... what I was thinking and "worrying" about, etc. Other losses have occurred since my Dad's death ... and I still have the same great therapist. ❤

  • @jenni9019
    @jenni9019 5 дней назад

    11 months since my mum passed away, still in denial 😢

  • @barryaanhuizen8766
    @barryaanhuizen8766 6 месяцев назад +3

    It’s something underscribable losing my mom who loves unconditionally understand all of me my bastion my pillar if strength and with one call from the hospital everything changes no one can understand that feeling each of us who lost our loved one would probably have a different experience but what’s is the same for all there us a vacum

  • @eileen945
    @eileen945 7 месяцев назад +4

    What a BEAUTIFUL beautiful, teaching. Truly🙏
    I breathe it into my ❤

  • @klanderkal
    @klanderkal 4 месяца назад +1

    🙏... i have grief, i have depression. I am unable to let go/ move on, everyone keeps saying. My loss, is completely devastating ( you know). I also have guilt & regret. I know this loss, .. was my fault. Living is so difficult now for me. Im in prison at home, unable to leave, with absolutely no desire to do, or go anywhere. I have anhedonia, insomnia, anxiety and ..... indescribable pain thats mentally, spiritually and now bodily. How !! Do i live ( not just eat & breath ). I lost my career job, and now have nothing.. no structure, purpose, friends, routine, familiar place to go and be apart of. ... im so devastated.

  • @stillintheheartrebornnurse4072
    @stillintheheartrebornnurse4072 Год назад +2

    I e been watching your videos it's 2:29 in the morning I just found your videos and I need this it's been months since my granddaughter passed she passed Dec 18 2022 now it's April 24 2023. I raised her from a baby my daughter is greiving I understand that she told me my greif was not as bad as hers because she carried her 9 months! The the day treated her like she was the mother gave her chair made sure I felt I had just lost a child and everyone looked at her like she was the mother but she wasn't in her life so I feel guilty greivingespecially if she's around I feel so lost I don't know where I belong in her life she had she was 31 she Dec 18 2022its April 2023. I'm still greiving

    • @julie-annehansen741
      @julie-annehansen741 6 месяцев назад

      you will learn to live with the loss but as a mother ,and grandmother, you will always grieve

    • @carol2070
      @carol2070 5 месяцев назад +1

      You are more like a mother to your grandchild and an exceptionally compassionate mom to both her and her birth mom. Your life is forever changed, even by your daughter "flexing"to minimize your grief. You are the bigger person, but it doesn't help to suffer alone. I know loosing a child is the worst thing. It hurts to have anyone add salt to the wound.

  • @mariacampana6931
    @mariacampana6931 Год назад

    Wonderful speaker, with inspiring words of wisdom. I feel like grief and hope can be somehow shared starting at children’s school age level❤️Thank you. 15:03

  • @rosep9866
    @rosep9866 6 месяцев назад +6

    I don't agree with this man.. grief never ends & those not in grief will not be by your side!!!! After awhile everyone throws you aside...

    • @laheart1957
      @laheart1957 2 месяца назад

      You are 100 percent right. I lost my mom recently and I agree that the pain NEVER GOES AWAY. Also after the brief period, everyone went away, leaving me to grieve by myself.

  • @hothaze1493
    @hothaze1493 4 месяца назад +5

    The Broken Ribs analogy 💔❤️‍🩹.
    I lost someone 3 months ago.. he was the love of my life and soulmate. He died suddenly, out of nowhere...and is still quite unknown what happened to him. We were going through a relationship mess in the moment of his death. This feels like a reset. It's devastating.
    I just said to my friend, that i am going to end up as this spooky elderly woman, who does this crazy reaserch on the unexplained death case of her ex fiancé.
    If I ever get out of the bed.

    • @browneyedgirl1542
      @browneyedgirl1542 2 месяца назад

      I’m so sorry… sending you love from afar. Not that it helps but it’s the most I can do from here