A look at the growing trend of women becoming single parents by choice
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- Опубликовано: 21 сен 2024
- There is a growing trend of women in the U.S. having babies alone because they're tired of waiting for "the one," or because they simply want to parent solo. Nikki Battiste has the story.
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But they say women who are child free by choice are selfish 🤯
I know! Always hitting women over the head for everything!
Yes it seems like the media supports women choosing to be single moms but don’t support childfree women and call them selfish. I think it’s a woman’s choice whether she wants children or not. I am a 40 year old male with autism and will be 41 on May 25th. I work part time at Walmart, don’t drive, and still live with my parents. I would like to live on my own and get married one day but don’t want any children. Part of the reason why I don’t want children is because raising children will be a lot for me with my autism.
@@ronaldjoseph9055 Yes. You are very right. It should be a woman's choice if she wants a kid for the rest of the life or not. Or if she doesn't want to take care of the kid then drop the baby at his/hers father's house and the father should take care of HIS kid.
They are selfish…
@@kingd-lite3674 No they are not selfish, same as men who don't want any kids, they are not selfish either.
I want to have kids but I really don’t want a partner, I really do want to be a single mother
I agree with you. I’m male version I’d use artificial womb to have son and daughter for myself, I want be single father for eternity
I know three women in my circle who are single moms by choice. 2 adopted children, and the other got a friend sperm donor like the woman featured (and had twins). They are all amazing mothers and their kids are thriving. What I notice about these women is that they put a lot of thought into how they would provide for these children-- not just financially (however, they are all making good money), but also socially and emotionally. They all reached out to their circle of friends and family and asked us to be a village that surrounds and supports them and their children. No one can really raise children alone (or with just one other person/spouse). You need the support of your community.
@@vbrown6445 All the data shows those children are at a HUGE disadvantage no matter how much you claim it’s so appealing. You all are so selfish at this point I think men need to avoid marriage and having family with you all. It’s not worth it.
No you can raise a child all alone...what if your family are toxic people?
People CAN raise a child alone. If I became a single mother by choice, I certainly wouldn't allow all kinds of random third parties to make decisions about my child's upbringing.
Happy Loving Mother's Day🌹
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2 parents are not enough adults to raise a child well in most cases. It takes a village. It is very expensive and exhausting. It is much better for the kid(s) and parent(s) to at least have extended family to rely on.
For thousands of years it always took a tribe despite the propaganda. So if these moms have extensive family & friend support, I say go for it!
We should've never gotten rid of the village.
@@everythingisfine9988 Statistics disagree with you.
I was once raised by two adults, so I strongly disagree with this statement.
The implication of this story is that these women don’t have a supportive community around them. They probably have family and friends supporting them.
Not my testimony(childless by choice) but blessings to them.
And yet child free women by choice are called selfish.🤔😂
I call them smart!!!!
I agree, please please please don’t have kids!
Only by people with their own issues.
The bottom line in all this is choice. Women who choose to be single without any children have a right to do so.
Just like women who make a decision to go to a clinic to have a child because they want to be parents whether or not they are married.
The bottom line is the right for a woman to make a decision on her own without anyone interfering.
So what's so funny about that ?
@@sardonumspa8113... That's not your decision to make. Did they make the decision to have children on their own and raise them on their own, then that's the right to do so.
And you shouldn't stigmatize them for it.
I was a single mom after i got divorced. The love these women have for their kids is wonderful. Just because you have 2 parents in the household doesn't mean it's a good thing for the kids. All they need is a village and in today's society anything is possible.
So explain why 90% of the wests prison population way brought up by single mothers and broken homes.
I'll wait!
Great! You don’t need a man then you don’t need child support either then right? You didn’t collect child support because you are independent right?
Yes but on average 2 parents are a much better circumstance for a kid in every way. Who do you think fills up the prisons?
@@timflelter5566 They don’t care about that. They don’t care about their kids or their future. Just read the comments. Guys are opting out of marriage and family for this very reason among others. They are not worth it.
@@sardonumspa8113 disagree with that. Married man are on average happier than single men. They may not be happy married with western women but then you can passport bro it.
I commend these women. As someone who was raised by two awful parents, i’d rather be brought into this world by a single mother who actually wanted to have me, is financially secure, mentally stable and has a good support system around her *RATHER* than 2 parents who never planned on having me in the first place, who wernt ready for kids & who hated each other throughout my entire life.
Most Men can be in the home and the Woman will STILL be a Single Parent bc the Man will not lift one finger to help. You'll be doing it alone anyway, so do what works for you! ❤
Amen
It’s better to have a single competent parent than two dysfunctional ones or one competent parent + her parasitical spouse.
More lies. Good luck with this ladies. Remember you don’t need us so don’t ask for any help. It’s the govt’s job to protect and help you not us guys!
I want guys to read these comments. Most of them think like this. Do what you have been doing fellas which is saying “No” to marrying and having children with them. It’s not worth it here. Get your passport…..
@@sardonumspa8113Many guys can't even take care of themselves.😏
Single mom by choice but that child didnt ask to be raised by one parent!
No but if it’s a stable adult who planned well for it, I don’t think the child will suffer as many consequences than if it was an unplanned pregnancy by a couple who end up in divorce or child abandonment by one of the parents. Could be a lot worse than a parent who wanted to be a mom so bad that they went through it all to make it happen. Having said that, not every single mom by choice is necessarily doing it with full consideration for the child’s well-being. I do know of women who are rather older and who aren’t financially stable who have tried to become single moms and I don’t think that would’ve been good for the child. Although they did have a very strong tight knit family including brothers who would’ve stepped up as uncles and father figures.
I didn't ask for my two parents lolc
@@SL-lz9jrAccording to statistics, this does NOT benefit children.
@@davidortiz3094that is false. First of all there has never been statistics on single mothers by choice. There is statistics about single parents in general, particularly mothers, and this is a complicated issue for many reasons. Most obvious being: most single parent households before and now are not single mothers by accident or by choice, but rather through divorce, the reasons can vary but usually include abuse, cheating, financial and addiction issues, so not only those would be traumatizing during the most essential years for the child's psyche, they're also unplanned which adds a whole other level of burden and stress to it, including not being able to spend enough time with the child because suddenly you have to take on more roles and make more efforts providing for your child and that while possibly being traumatized yourself. The next thing is this statistics does not accurately represent the class and race issue. Among single mothers by circumstances, there are more people of color and more people beyond poverty line, so those class and wealth differences also contribute to the bad statistical outcomes. So obviously people who are rich and privileged and white are less likely to experience bad outcomes later in life but they are also more likely to come from a 2 parent household. And since correlation doesn't imply causation, you can't make a fair argument that their outcomes in life or even the fact they are more likely to have 2 parents only comes from the latter and in no way influenced by other circumstances including historical differences and wealth and class and race. If you take Afghanistan for example, it has the lowest single family percentage in the world and yet doesnt make outcomes for the kids better. So context matters and other determinants are way more important. And of course, societal norms and expectations matter, as single parenting becomes more acceptable, these kids going to feel less pressure and judgment to have let's say a father in the family to be like other kids. There are other things at play but most important ones I think I highlighted.
@@davidortiz3094where’s that statistic at?
What my Mom did fifty years ago is now a trend.
its a broken trend
@@hellobot67We have a lot of broken trends. Men not being there for their children has just caught on a lot more recently.
@@LordBrittish you act like I'm not aware of this 🙄 obviously I know.
@@LordBrittishToo bad data from Pew Research and the CDC prove you wrong.
It's not a trend. It's a progression. Women are deciding now to be mothers if they so choose to or not.
So, with that said and done is more women can afford to be able to go to fertility clinics and have artificial insemination done, then so be it.
Just like if they choose to be celibate and not want to get married or have kids. It's all about choice. And if you as a man don't like it, that's your problem.
Being raised by a single responsible parent is far better than being raised in a household with two dysfunctional parents.
Far too many use the situations that turned out bad with single mothers and ignore the ones that turned out fine. They blame the mothers as to why the child ended up as a delinquent while ignoring that the father who had partial custody but just as much influence as the mother and who was a terrible influence, they ignore that society and churches stigmatized women for being single and make it difficult to even exist, or that society pressures a women into a relationship with a man who could turn into another bad influence, all because “a child needs a dad.” A child doesn’t need a dad if he’s just an irresponsible pos.
Women can be bad parents too obviously but so can men, yet somehow it’s the mother’s fault if it doesn’t work out.
Exactly
Data from Pew Research and the CDC prove you wrong. Fathers get on average every other weekend via the for profit family courts so your claim that they have just as much influence is not true.
One of the few comments that make sense here. People love to judge appearances but never care to hear the whole story.
Why does the other option have to be 2 bad parents? Is it possible to have 2 good parents?
@@aguy9071 nothing has to be one way or another, but people aren’t guaranteed a fairytale relationship just because they want it and wether their partner turns out to be a reliable competent human being or a toxic pos is entirely beyond their control, or are you unaware that individuals have agency and that we can’t determine someone else’s behavior, personality, or actions?
That sucks. Some of these women have never met Mr. Right and their clock is ticking. I get it.
mr right is whomever the woman is willing to be a wife to. how about they build some teamwork skills?
@@kreativeforce532 No, Mr. Right is the man of their dreams. Some women settle too, you know.
You sound presumptuous. Everyone never truly accomplishes things alone.
I know right? When one of them told the camera man that she was 39, I was like WTH?! Why did you wait until you was in your late 30's to have a kid? It just doesn't make sense to me.🤦🏽♂️
I think the pathway to single parenthood makes a difference in the quality of life for the child. Women who want to be mothers but don’t have a partner I would think are better equipped and more stable than those who fell into single parenthood because their relationship ended
Good point
Both paths still lead to sub optimal outcomes. There’s still a child missing a whole parent
@@aguy9071This is a lie. What evidence can you point to that proves that this path has a sub optimal outcome?
It looks like I'm either going to have to freeze my eggs once I've saved up the money, or I'm going to have to go the route of these ladies. There is nothing you can do when you can't find anyone. Why miss your chance to be a mom? I don't blame them; it's not easy out here to find someone you're compatible with or someone that's attracted to you. Love and blessings to these women. I wish them well!
My mother did the same at the age of 30. And I’m glad she did because by the time she met my step-father she could no longer have kids. I am now 30, living a fulfilled life, travelling the world with my husband full time. A lot of my friends who did have a father, grew up with and still have a lot of daddy issues (and trauma). I know this may not be the norm, but where I’m from, it’s common because the father is usual the person who disciplines. And in my country where it’s legal to beat your kids, it’s no surprise most people with fathers don’t have good relationships with them and have a lot of trauma. While this may not work for everyone, I’m happy my mother decided to do it. The reality is a lot of people end up being single mothers after separations, fathers don’t step up to the plate, or just leave all the child rearing to the mother anyway so at the end of the day, she is still functioning as a single mother but while married 🤷🏽♀️. These days, this isn’t much different than what ends up happening in a lot of cases anyway. One loving parent who can provide in a happy home is way better than two dysfunctional parents or one parent who loathes the other for not helping with taking care of the kids. When I look at my life vs. the life of everyone I grew up with, I am glad my mother made the decision she did.
As someone who has a horrible father your story is incredible
Please don't use the word 'daddy issues' as it is offensive to those of us who had abusive fathers. Apart from that I agree with you
Your step father lost😂
As long as they are loved, protected, and guided, there is nothing wrong. Most of the time, women become single moms involuntarily, so..hey it is what it is.
That’s a nice sounding idea. But statistics don’t back this up
Now you a single mom
Um That was the whole point did you not realize they wanted sperm donors?
@@ReinaAfricana now you a single mom
“You didn’t have seconds thoughts!” - Brandon Jamal…..
That’s why the police unaliving the men that look like the dusty that made that song and now y’all want us to March cuz the cops shot you down … now you a hash tag trending in twitter now
@@ReinaAfricanathey can’t take the reality that women don’t want them so they try to taunt women for not keeping them 😂 hobosegguals
It's hard raise a child without both parents. This isn't a "trend" that is best for the child.
Huh? I thought it was harder to raise as a single mom.
I think you mean "without two parents" and no, this isn't a trend that would benefit the kids. Talk to the children of single moms and I bet you they'll tell you they wish their mom had help whether it was from their dad, the village, etc.
@@Neesha242 harder does not = better. this is an ignorant misconception often implied in the black community and it needs to be corrected.
@@kreativeforce532 I never said it was better. I obviously misread the comment.
It is very difficult to raise a child without another parent! However, this family estrangement where adult children abandon their loving parents is trendy, and a cruel thing to break up families. Statistics for known estrangement have never been so high.
We're in an era where people don't know how to stay together and people are too casual, so guys just dip and skip. At least this way women who want to be a parent, already know that they will be single mothers and hopefully properly planned for it instead of being shocked by it. It sad that this is what it has come to.I hope that they have a male figure to assist whether its a family member or a good guy friend. Kids benefit from both, but I get it if you haven't found the right one.
Unless they are adopting kids that's very different. There's no benefit from not having a dad when you could have had one. These kids are made to be fatherless to fulfill a desire that someone wants to be a mom. That's completely selfish. If you never get married and spend $25 dollars on a seed for a child who legally can't see their father until after 18 (happened in England with someone who was like 24 25) is sad.
Adopt your 12 disciples. Adopt that 17 year old about to age out. Adopt that kid with health issues that could have a longer life if they had a parent. My cousin is adopted and only has a mom. She got her. 3 days old. The woman who had her pick my aunt. She wanted a baby yes but she didn't make a kid be fatherless she helped a kid NOT be in the system. That's very very different.
No it is an era where people don't have sexual discipline and don't practice safe sex
I wish I could even just meet a guy. I can’t even get matched online. Half the accounts are total scams. It’s crazy out here.
@@SL-lz9jrlook away from your phone for an hour you can meet plenty.
...Or women are taking control of their own lives and making decisions to start a family without having to deal with a husband.
So, with all that said there needs to be less stigma on single parents. And more in the way of progressive thought.
So babies out of wedlock is now mothers by choice
I hope this becomes the norm. Too many traumatized children from neglectful fathers.
My dad is a horrible person this woman done the right thing
It's already the norm among African-Americans (it became the norm in the 80s). There is ample evidence today that _it doesn't work out for children._
@rdkirk3834 thats a huge difference about a dusty guy going around collecting baby mommas and a single person CHOOSING having a child on their own.
The first one is usually the product of ignorance, failed relationships and abandonment.
The second is someone wanting and preparing for the child and usually an older and stable person.
@@joiceraiana In the 1980s, what I began hearing for the first time was many young black women (with good jobs), saying that they _intended_ to be unwed mothers because "I don't need a man to help me raise my child." That became such a sudden epidemic that the vice-president of the United States actually held a press conference about it in 1989. What might have started among "older and stable" women became the ethic for women who were not "older and stable." If wealthier women were doing it, poorer women figured it must be a good thing to do.
@@rdkirk3834 there's no evidence of that being a trend, ivf and single parenting BY CHOICE and not by mistake, is a vary rare occurrence especially in lower income areas. Do you know how expensive those procedures are?
Oh how sweet.... What a mess. Speaking from experience, let the women be Black or Brownor Native, and we would be a disgrace, loathsome, loose, oversexed and the list of terms would go on. Having a child, any child without benifit of a father is a disservice to the child. A single mom will try and perform both parents functions but it is impossible. Your wants and needs should come secondary to creating a lopsided child. I wonder what the Most High God thinks when this is occuring? This crap makes me sick.
Plenty of ppl raised by a single mom and are doing well.
@@JadedJassy21All the data and stats prove you wrong. The way you are trying to make it seem like good outcomes with single moms are the norm is laughable….
My Mom was a single parent as well she Didi a phenomenal job and us kids came out great but I would strongly advised against it only if it's necessary to be a single parent. Life has way too many hardships not to have a very good support system. Or if their isn't the biological father you have men In your life like Grandparents Brothers Uncles and friends that will step up to help out. But they have to be able to also give their time and unconditional love which is rare.
it doesn't look good at all
@@sardonumspa8113 I think those stats are about singles moms in poverty. These women choosing to be single moms are not in that boat. More women than ever are educated with careers. We don't need a man in this day and age to be a mother and raise stable kids.
A lot of women end up being a single mother due to absent fathers anyways so I don't really see this as a negative thing and an easier pathway to becoming a mom. My biological father abandoned around 10 kids from numerous women.
Yea honestly your better off . Sometimes the opposite gender isn’t all there .
Growing trend? It’s been a part of our culture for decades.
There needs to be positive male influence in a child's life. A child who doesn't get both male and female influence never feels whole and often doesn't learn how to have healthy relationships with that missing gender
🌟 TRUTH
I mean honestly it's hard to find out these days. Just check out the comment section under any red pill video and you'll see all these guys just bashing women
Ok. That positive male influence doesn't need to be a father, of course.
And yet that doesn't mean it needs to be a father.
@@katenoke1571 no one said that it needed to be the father
When black women did it y’all judged but when others do it it’s celebrated !
Ummmm ..... really ??? 👎
When there are thousands of children ALREADY HERE to adopt ???
Easy to say. That’s the logical choice but when it comes to people who truly desire having kids, it’s anything but logical 😅. It’s more emotional at that point, to grow the baby in your belly yourself, the body releasing all these hormones to get you to bond with the baby you desire so much, to watch baby grow from moment you give birth.
Adoption is necessary and really good thing to do for everyone but for these people, biology trumps reason and it’s human nature to spread their genes and would want to put your own blood as priority. Also adopting is not so easy. A lot of those kids are abandoned by parents who were not healthy mentally, emotionally. Yes there’s some strictly financially not ready but most were given up because they had issues from biological parents. Adopted kids need extra care and attention. It’s a bit complicated too and often single people are turned down because adoption centers want two parents stable household with good income.
I had a dad. But he was never around. It scarred me deeply. I made sure when I had kids with my wife in my mid 30s we were married for 10 years by then. Strong marriage. Single parents ruins kids. My kids tell me all about it from school.
Statistics tell you that it is a bad idea also.
Is it no because you knew he chose not to be with you...the feeling of abandonment.
Exactly. We are hard wired to crave a mom and a dad. Both have strengths that the children need. How come they don't talk about how it affects these kids long term not having a father? 😢
@@emilyk.w3593 Agreed.
@@emilyk.w3593 because it doesn't. They just benefit from a positive male influence. Doesn't have to be a father.
Wait until the teenage years...
They don’t care. All I see from them is “Me me me and I”
Good. The demographic profile of these women is one that is far more suitable for child rearing than that of typical parents. Half of pregnancies in the U.S. are unintended. A large proportion of marriages end in divorce, and on top of that, the largest proportion of children are born to those with lower incomes/resources to raise them. In other words, if you are a parent it is more likely than not that this is the consequence of irresponsible behavior that results in a child struggling through economic hardship and even if not, there is still a high probability that family disintegration will ultimately ensue.
None of that is good for children, so if we have a conglomerate of women in society who are of means, intentional with their reproductive capacity, and can actually provide, they should very well have those children if they want them bc that is the type of parent we need more of, not less of. And anyway, If there’s no husband, there’s no potential for parental conflict, spousal abuse, divorce, or the disintegration of the family. I know not all marriages end up like that but too many of them do. It’s better for a good woman with means and resources to have a child alone than run the risk of subjecting herself and children to the chaos that too often comes with men/nuclear families.
That's cool as long as the kids are still being taken care of. However, I hope those kids have positive adult male influences in their lives because that makes a difference.
That's kind of shaky, children aren't safe around most men, let's be honest
@@Gingy2002my dad being one of them
@@Squishy-ho7zd I'm so sorry❤🫂
Yes, fathers, grandfathers, pastors, priests, teachers, coaches etc. Men children go to for guidance, these "positive male influences" they take advantage time and time again, we as a society need to take these revelations at face value and be honest about it, I think many women are waking up to it, part of the reason I've decided not to bring life into this world
@@Squishy-ho7zd @Squishy-ho7zd I'm so sorry❤🫂
Yes, fathers, grandfathers, pastors, priests, teachers, coaches etc. Men children go to for guidance, these "positive male influences" we as a society need to take these revelations at face value and be honest about it, I think many women are waking up to it, part of the reason I've decided not to bring life into this world
@@Squishy-ho7zd @Squishy-ho7zd I'm so sorry❤🫂
Yes, fathers, grandfathers, pastors, priests, teachers, coaches etc. Men children go to for guidance, all of these "positive male influences" we as a society need to take these revelations at face value and be honest about it
I had an abortion at 34 (it was 2020 and the baby’s father was the absolute wrong person to be a father, I was pregnant before I realized all of the red flags and there were so many), but now at 37 I think being a single mom by choice may be the way to go. Dating just isn’t working and I don’t want to miss my chance. I have so much love to give and so much wisdom to provide. I’ve always wanted to be a mom since I was a child. I just never imagined life would be this hard. If the man wasn’t a walking red flag, I would have kept the baby, even though I myself was not in any position to be a mother. I would’ve found a way to get my life together to be its mother, but I was so worried what the father might do that I just couldn’t carry it to term and risk it.
My husband left when I was pregnant with our youngest, gone three years then back in the picture, causing more drama than helping. Constantly complains about my parenting but doesn't do anything like doctor visits, homework, school conference etc. Kids are almost grown and he kept insulting me via text so I recently blocked him.. most peaceful last few months of my life and able to enjoy my time more with the kids.
Im planning to be a single mum by choice, i cant wait 😊
So the children don't need a father???? Selfish.
She didnt have anyone to start a family with..
Not everyone is lucky enough to find the right person to marry before they are too old to have kids.
@@shake_shells11not lucky enough or not willing to date a man with in her league 🤔
@@JesusLovesEVERYTHINGshe couldn’t find 1 man that she could cooperate with long enough to raise a family? Sounds like that’s the bigger issue
In general, children who are raised in two parent households have better outcomes in life. That’s an empirical fact. Stop cheering on and encouraging every dysfunctional new trend. Half of our social ills would be cured if we understand the importance of raising children with two parents.
Most of the time women are doing it alone anyway.
It's worse being the single married mother.
Where are FATHER'S?!
Why Gisele left Tom Brady.
All she wanted was him to help out.
Men are still mad at that.
Have your own 💰 just in case.
You do need a positive male role model.
Hopefully, they won't mess with your child.
Son or daughter.
It's not fair.
Why do men get a pass though? 🙄🤫
"It's worse being the single married mother. " That's stupid. If nothing else, there's an additional income coming in.
My life long dream was to be a wife and mother, the husband did not happen for me. I did think about fostering to adopt, but I wanted the experience of carrying my own baby. But when I thought about getting a donor and I realized I would be alone in this with no husband or support system behind me then I realized being a mother probably was not gonna happen for me. It breaks my heart everyday because all I want is my own family.
🩷This is Woman Empowerment
Her own house
Her own children
Her own money
I’m child free by choice and
I love this story 🩷
Celebration of broken homes is not empowering ANYONE at all.🤦🏽♂️
@acethefloridianforever the home isn't broken, lmao. Open your mind.
Well, more power to these women. They're making their own decisions and I think it's great.
Whether a woman decides to choose to be a mother & goes to a clinic to get it done or chooses to stay single without having kids, the bottom line is the ability to choose.
It's high time women had more control over their own bodies and lives.
When these kids hit their 30s and 40s they’ll realize how much they missed by not having a father involved in their lives. I did. It really makes a difference for both genders, ladies.
Your not missing out on much some of us were blessed with fathers and don’t have great relationships with them
My mother did it
The skin tones on the single mom and her offspring in the thumbnail are 100% accurate.
I felt so ripped off being raised by a single mother.
You feel ripped off? I was raised by 2x emotionally distant drugged parents. I would take 1x emotionally stable parent over my situation.
@@everythingisfine9988 so sorry for your experience...😢
It looks like you did well being raised by a single mother. I was raised in two parent household. Oh but I just love the anxiety attacks that I had every now and then. Or the fact that I'm still 34 and going to therapy. Or the fact that anytime my father was around me I'll go into panic mode. But yeah having that two parent household was great. Even if it meant getting my head knocked between the washer and dryer. Our accidentally knocking over my father's liquor. I could go on and on annoying. But those lovely little bruises I carry is a daily reminder that a lot of family members of mine ain't s***. Not every two parent household is going to be glorious. People who have children need to be mentally stable before having them. Not just to have them and be selfish. There's plenty of men who impregnate women just so they could have a legacy when it's really a lineage. They don't seem to know the difference.
@everythingisfine9988 ummm why are you assuming that in this persons case tbey were stableaybe they were just as bad if not worse but the real point being its kinda weird of you to assume & project so hard like dont you think
@@ReinaAfricanai can assure you this goes both ways just as often, there are plenty of boys & girls who have the exact same experience but with their mothers & its actually worse sometimes because the child will have a harder time proving to people that their mother is abusing them because women have perfected putting on a mask in polite society & society as a whole plays a role for constantly choosing to give women the benefit of the doubt because 'mama is always right' & 'mama can do no harm'. On the contrary, there is a sizeable percentage of ladies who are just as unfit as some of the fathers you described to be mothers
Children need a father.
Harmony Montgomery would disagree
Do they?
@@yvonneplant9434 Yes!
Maybe go take a look at the prisons. Over 90% of inmates raised by single mothers. Or perhaps just educate yourself in general about all the risks and development problems kids raised by single mothers face. Problems they dont seem to see repeated with single fathers weirdly enough. Kids NEED a father in their lives. Maybe this is why so many Gen Z kids are a mess mentally.
Modern Women keep making terrible decisions that are bad for family and bad for society but you ladies don't need a man right?
@@wendypagonis1398 Yes, this!
@@yvonneplant9434Every stat says yes….
No matter how much money you have it takes a village to help raise their children, and most of it is volunteer work, and a lot of people are opting out of helping women raise their kids for free. Time is money, so you basically have to be rich to pay for all the assistance you need.
I wouldn't want to pay random people to interfere with my child's upbringing.
This is stupid......those kids are going to want to find out who their father is eventually...and thats going to be awkward when that conversation comes up...=/
They don’t care. It’s obvious.
Some can choose open donors.
You "needed" to be a mom. LOLLLLLLLLL. Babies/small humans never ask to be brought into the world... They may not want what YOU want! Why not foster?
👏🏼👏🏼 Exactly
Ppl who think like that Sound Delusional, Out of Touch with what's going on in the world
And Veryy Selfish
@@EmpressAshe @EmpressAshe yeah, and if these children get older and start demanding a father figure of some sorts, these delusional women will say the children are ungrateful/entitled.
Because when a woman Foster the child does not have her DNA and she can’t experience carrying the baby
@@Gigilovehugs Very ego driven. I want a mini me when there are many kids that need to be fostered or adopted.
This👏🏻👏🏻
What beautiful families! I wish them all the best. Love is the most important thing and their children will have great childhoods because of that without the drama of divorces that are increasing and are hard for everybody
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The second those kids hit puberty they are going to scream “I need help”!
Then they can choose an open donor for when the child turns 18. How do you know the child won't have uncles, grandfathers, a mature step-dad etc?
What most of the people in the comments here seem to have in common is that they're busybodies who are hellbent on controlling how other people live their lives. You have the right to control how you live your life, but you don't get to have a say on how someone else lives their life.
This isn't the case here though. You're bringing another life in your life so others do have a say in it.
Absolutely wonderful. More power to them.
Thank you! And thank you for watching. Have a lovely Mother's Day.
This became the norm for black Americans in the 1980s. Take a look at how well that turned out.
Exactly good point
He first picture of the mud 🦈 is exactly the reason why women will stay single
Just as long as Men don't become Step daddies, more power to them.
This is so selfish.
My mom did this in the 80s and I resented her as a child.
Kids need a father there. It is so unacceptable because they are not even thinking about how the kids feel.
It is sad! A child needs a Dad. I can however understand why they did it. And I wish in a way I had the guts to do it. I am the alternative of not making that decision. Childless!
Many people who have dads have Amy issues including me. Being a single mom by choice would have been better
@Squishy-ho7zd I agree with you. When I say that a child needs a Dad, I don't just mean a man who is there just for the sake of being there. I mean a man who is loving & responsible for his family.
I feel bad for these kids. They're hobbled from day one cause of the selfish decisions these parents made.
You don't really feel bad for anyone except your ego. Be honest.
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Good for you guys! Beautiful children ❤️
😂 they cry and all that but they had the chance to meet the guy that was into them, but they probably turned that guy down because they wanted somebody better looking but the one they wanted did not want them so now they mad they decide to have money and have a baby without a dad I think that’s what it was
Probably, probably not.
This is so selfish and unfair to child. 🤦♀️
Not fair to the children at all. Being raised in a loving TWO-parent stable household does wonders for a child's development. Seeing functioning adult men and women who can role model for children is very important. Some women can parent alone excellently, but most cannot.
I get what you are saying but as somebody who grew up in a two parent household. I had to go to therapy for the majority of my life. Even though my mother can be how can I say narcissistic in a way my father is much worse. So it's not just whether you want to be a single parent or not. Are you mentally capable of taking care and raising a child without damaging them?
By choice??? Sounds like these types of women don't bring anything to the table so men see this and head for the door. Having a child out of desperation is not a good reason to bring a child into this world. Smh.
What a good reason to bring a child into the world? Because the best types of parents are the ones that actually wanted one out of pure desire and nothing else. So what are other good reasons? Backup retirement plan? Legacy? What?
That was never God's intention for family. It is man/husband and woman/wife and then child/children.
You speak for God?
Then tell the men to man-up.
@@ReinaAfricanawomen pick badboys to knock them up. The guys didn't pick the woman
@@emmaramos3315 They all seem to, curiously....
@@emmaramos3315 Yes I do
If you think this is a good thing, think again.
Just as a small warning to those applauding this (and easily verifiable bit of data)\ over 90% of prison inmates in the west where raised by single mothers! There are so many disadvantages and future problems a child will face if raised by a single mother (which they don't face when raised by a single father strangely enough).
This is not a good thing! I am so sick of this Feminist BS that is not only destroying families but destroying society as well.
Furthermore, when it comes to "sperm donors" (and I am talking about literal sperm donors who donated at fertility clinics) why have so many men now been retroactively sued for child support by these empowered "single mothers". And yes, you can look that up as well.
What a joke this all is.
😂 then the dad's should have been there so look at that. Absent fathers played a role huh? Do better and marry your baby mama.
It seems like that is a greater risk if you have a male child so maybe they should only consider this option if they stick to only having female children
Most selfish thing ever. That child will grow up and ask where is my daddy
If they choose open donor at 18, they will find them.
Alot of pros and cons
Similar to those who want a wedding and not the marriage.
You are having children Because you want babies. You want the baby shower. You want the "big ups" that come with being pregnant. You want the extra attention pregnant women or women with small children get. You dont want the full package.
The statistics on children raised by single moms is terrible
Those stats are not single mothers by choice. Not the same level of resources, education, or age. There are new studies about SMBC. Stop quoting old studies that do not apply to these women.
Of course more people support a two parent household, hell, it takes two to raise a baby and that baby needs both parents as well as a village in my opinion. All the single moms I know weren't single by choice and they'll tell you they wish they had a spouse or even just the child's or children's father to properly coparent. It's too much work and too expensive and exhausting for a single mom who doesn't have the money and help.
This is so selfish. A kid needs both parents
“New social norms”….
What’s wrong with the old ones?
Everything. Absolutely everything.
The old ones didn't benefit all everyone.
@@Pro-skie Freedom of Speech,
Right to Self-Defense,
and Property Rights are all ANY group needs to prosper.
If “some people” aren’t prospering,
it’s not the social norms to blame….
@Americansikkunt seems these women seem like they are prospering.
Oh, goody! More dumb stuff.😑
Children from fatherless homes are twice as likely to drop out of high school, more likely to suffer from emotional and behavioral problems, seven times more likely to become pregnant as a teen, twice as likely to suffer childhood obesity, and four times as likely to live in poverty. There is also a clear correlation between fatherless children and the rate they commit crime and go to jail. Presently 85% of the prison population come from fatherless households.
By Choice btw 😂
A male spouse is NOT a partner, but your husband. If you’re a woman who has a mentality that a male spouse is a partner and not your husband then you have the wrong view of who your male spouse is. Some woman like to say partner instead of husband, because a husband is based upon wives being submissive to their husband as unto the Lord in everything as well as husbands leadership authority over their wives, because the husband is the head of the wife. Yes, husband and wife work together as a team, but the wife ultimately submits unto her husband. If a womans’ viewpoint of a male spouse is first a partner above all else and does not view a husband as the head of the wife then those woman have no business getting married, until they decide to be submissive, period.
Exactly bro, I heard her say “PARTNER” and not husband. 👍
Good point. Some woman call a spouse a partner, but they are husbands who are the head of the house.
Haha nope. The husband submits to the wife. It's part of Goddess's plan.
@@XXLady No good strong male leader in his right mind will be a husband that submits unto his wife in which the wife is the head of the husband. The plan you’re talking about is not Gods’ plan, but dis-order. If the husband is not the head of the wife, but the wife is the head of the husband then there is dis-order/chaos. Woman came after man and from man. God took a rib out of Adam and created Eve, so she became known as woman, because she came out of man. Wives are supporters of husbands and not head over their husbands.
@@XXLady What plan? Oh, a false gods plan.
Tag the single mom guy lol
Yes. Tag an immature man to solidify her choice in doing it alone.
Children who do not have their fathers are most likely to feel insecure, have trouble maintaining relationships as adults, are more likely to have mental issues and go to prison, are less likely to graduate rigorous college programs or trades, the girls sexually mature up to 5 years earlier than those who live with their fathers, the boys lose 1-3 inches of maximum height, and their telomeres are shorter which shortens overall lifespan.
Yea that sounds like a recipie for preparing a well-adjusted adult for the world. remember a person will be an adult far longer than being a child, and a child longer than being a baby.
Blessings to both Families!
Of course they are making that choice - they don't have to worry because they can always depend on welfare.
good & happy for them if that's what there goal they wanted in life.
This is raggedy lol
Kids need a dad.
:39 yeah no, you don't NEED to be a mom. You WANT to be a mom. Its understandable, but you should adopt, not create life and deprive the kid of its father. Children are not accessories.
This is cringe lmao
😂😂😂 Or they became baby mama's by a series of bad CHOICES.
I wouldn’t listen to all of this 😂 single mothers by “CHOICE” is already the first lie not to mention what they will do mentally to these children
SMH.. too many thoughts on this one.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 wtf is this?
Now you’re a single mom! 😂
Yes. That's the point. These women are not young women without an education or resources. 2 dofferent playing fields.
This is crazy.
they aren't looking to be a WIFE to a husband. not "they're not looking for a "partner".
The child said it exactly. that woman wanted a child (to control and feed off of) not a complete family with a husband to be accountable to. Because ya know you're not infallible just because you're an adult.
Can't blame the men this time. Women have been doing this for a long time, but at a fraction of the cost.
This is super weird..blame ge barbie movie
That should be child abuse for sure, you cant have a child by yourself and think you are giving your child the best , the BEST is a present father period.
Selfish