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  • Опубликовано: 22 окт 2024

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  • @IMTortillaMoon
    @IMTortillaMoon 2 года назад +1624

    When I came out to my friend as genderfluid, they said, " How cold does it need to be to become gendersolid? "

    • @Skye1421
      @Skye1421 2 года назад +121

      Lmfaooo😭😭 I want friends like yours😭

    • @I_love_jesus_1211
      @I_love_jesus_1211 2 года назад +95

      *slams head down on table and laughs till death*
      YESSSSSSSSS

    • @TheAdidasKnifer
      @TheAdidasKnifer 2 года назад +35

      I told 3 of my friends and they was like oh my god slayy and I be like thank you glad I got the monkey off my back to tell them just scared to tell my family members

    • @I_love_jesus_1211
      @I_love_jesus_1211 2 года назад +4

      @@lu544 it's a joke dude

    • @gailwaters814
      @gailwaters814 2 года назад +33

      As a gender scientist, I'm tremendously excited about the idea that there may be even more "exotic" genders that we haven't yet discovered. It's theorized that, if these genders exist, they'll have half-lives measures in fractions of a second. Think about that: a man could become a woman and then flip back to being a man, all in less than a hundredth of a second. Exciting times!

  • @sieben4382
    @sieben4382 2 года назад +1505

    reminder that you don’t need to switch between femme and masc looks to be genderfluid! it’s really up to you how you express yourself and feel comfortable

    • @80s90s_Living
      @80s90s_Living 2 года назад +14

      True!

    • @draalttom844
      @draalttom844 2 года назад +25

      Definitly not i switch between man, demi boy and agender, no fem ever

    • @TheaterCryptid
      @TheaterCryptid 2 года назад +14

      @@draalttom844
      No offence at all, but wouldn’t that be closer to Genderfaun? Genuine question, being genderfaun myself, sorry if that’s uncomfortable!

    • @draalttom844
      @draalttom844 2 года назад +33

      @@TheaterCryptid That's the most precise word gender fluid and non binary are still completely valid words for that

    • @TheaterCryptid
      @TheaterCryptid 2 года назад +4

      @@draalttom844
      Oh I know completely, I was simply asking^^

  • @s4l3m_d4rl1ng
    @s4l3m_d4rl1ng 2 года назад +1319

    The one who was like “the Christian mom find out your genderfluid” made me so happy cause my mom refuses to listen when I say I’m not a girl and hate my deadname

    • @elliotangie381
      @elliotangie381 2 года назад +18

      Same my friend)
      And, hey, I know it’s hard, but remember there is always someone who loves you the way you are) I still haven’t found them, but I write myself some cheering notes when I’m sad…we all deserve love, at least to ourselves, and people like this person make our days better. Wish them, everyone and especially you love and support mate)

    • @TheJosephayal
      @TheJosephayal 2 года назад +5

      Bcoz Christianity and homosexuality are two different worlds

    • @samvanos4687
      @samvanos4687 2 года назад +12

      I cried

    • @Hayden_Cat
      @Hayden_Cat 2 года назад

      Why Salem tho that screams lesbian

    • @itstotesmelirn1725
      @itstotesmelirn1725 2 года назад +8

      yeah that one was so healing to my inner child 😭

  • @happytortoisee
    @happytortoisee 2 года назад +929

    As a genderfluid person I hate that a lot of the community really comes off as sexist. Like to be a man you dress masc and to be a girl you dress fem. Don't get me wrong I dress fluidly but sometimes I love being fem when I feel like a boy. When I realized I was genderfluid I watched these kinda of tiktoks and was confused because I loved being masc or fem whatever time I wanted and I didn't feel discomfort. Well now I usually don't dress fem when I'm a boy because it does give me a little Dysphoria sometimes but I mostly just wear whatever I want to. Also if you're feeling female and still don't like your female parts or you're feeling male and still don't like your male parts that's fine I do that too for me they make me feel like I'm not genderfluid enough which is not true so I'm working on it. THERE IS NO ONE WAY TO BE GENDERFLUID OR ANY GENDER

    • @Cries_In_Vampire
      @Cries_In_Vampire 2 года назад +45

      THANK YOU YES

    • @marion.saturn
      @marion.saturn 2 года назад +63

      Yes, I agree! I think this has to do with how society sees gender. I'm bigender (Neutrois and demiboy) and I like "fem" things but it makes me feel bad sometimes because this society is like: "fEm iS fOr WoMen AnD mAsC iS fOr MeN". So I then try to look as masc as I can (I'm pre transition, so everyone thinks I'm a woman :,( ).
      I think if this society wasn't so obsessed with looks, we would link our gender less to it.

    • @Abyssal2808
      @Abyssal2808 2 года назад +25

      This is why I didn't think I was genderfluid! Thanks so much for saying this!

    • @Dino_Skull
      @Dino_Skull 2 года назад +4

      Thank you so much! I feel the exact same way!

    • @alexisn1358
      @alexisn1358 2 года назад +5

      Thank you so much for the final bit of your comment, I've been questioning for so long and felt like I wasn't "fluid enough" for that label

  • @RIOTlilimaniaX
    @RIOTlilimaniaX 2 года назад +235

    2:28 that person is so sweet! Now I’m gonna cry because I felt like they were taking directly to me.

    • @kao6234
      @kao6234 2 года назад +7

      I agree !!!! It made me so happy pfft jddjs

  • @charlottemorrissey161
    @charlottemorrissey161 2 года назад +710

    2:59 I am convinced she was sent to earth by God to tell all the LGBTQ+ community that god loves them. Seriously this woman is an angel.

    • @jellyelf6399
      @jellyelf6399 2 года назад +60

      As a genderfluid Christian I’m having a breakdown to this at 1am

    • @jellyelf6399
      @jellyelf6399 2 года назад +28

      @@envviro this magically made me straight-

    • @rectangle8883
      @rectangle8883 2 года назад +12

      @@envviro 💀

    • @spilledgenderfluid35
      @spilledgenderfluid35 2 года назад +1

      ​@@envviro The Bible never says anything about trans people, and it has been proven that the word "homosexual" didn't appear in the Bible until sometime in between the 19th and 20th century when a homophobic Christian group allowed a european translator to put it in. Let's also talk about how these are only selected off of specific versions of the Bible; different versions of these passages say something different (mostly talking about pedophilia).
      Also, if we are supposed to follow the Bible word-for-word, you also should be cool with incest, since there is a shit ton of writing about it. You are allowed to not agree with some passages in the Bible.
      And y'all say we're cherry picking :/

    • @Chloe-xg2un
      @Chloe-xg2un 2 года назад +6

      I would love a parent like this

  • @mossman397
    @mossman397 2 года назад +642

    As a fluid person, I really relate to the binding bit cause I'm afab and I also relate to the hair thing cause
    It's like a neutral shoulder length but it still feels too long because I want alt fluffy hair(to my phobic family's disappointment) 😃👏
    edit: so omg ive gotten a lot of comments on this, anywhos, i got it cut and now its short and fluffy but not too short or long, its perfect and i feel so much better in myself now :3

    • @Schnort
      @Schnort 2 года назад +19

      Hair is such an issue for me. I'm afab, too. I think I have a bit of dysmorphia on top of my gender dysphoria, mainly centered in my hair. At this point, I'm going to get it shaved off. I know it will make me look really femme but I just can't handle having haie anymore.

    • @mossman397
      @mossman397 2 года назад +8

      @@Schnort well whatever makes you more comfortable in yourself right? I hope it goes well for you!
      My family has made it clear that they don't want my hair cut too short cause it'll "make my face look big"?? And then my cousin keeps wanting me to grow it out even tho I don't want to and it makes me really stressed out..

    • @Schnort
      @Schnort 2 года назад +12

      Nvm, gender just changed, I feel good now
      Thanks, gender. My male and female identities are obsessed with the look of my hair, but it seems that my enby self is cool with looking like a piece of garbage.

    • @mossman397
      @mossman397 2 года назад +10

      @@Schnort omg I've never related to that more in my life 😂

    • @intend_o_switch402
      @intend_o_switch402 2 года назад +3

      i fricking know right

  • @BlueberryBunny11037
    @BlueberryBunny11037 2 года назад +154

    3:07 that actually made me cry. As someone who was called a disappointment and disgusting from my mom this made me feel like I have a reason to live, thank you 💖

    • @christianbethany
      @christianbethany 2 года назад +6

      It made me super emotional too! I'm very, very sorry that happened to you. You deserve love, respect and care and I hope you find people who treat you well. I'm glad you're here.

    • @BlueberryBunny11037
      @BlueberryBunny11037 2 года назад +4

      @@christianbethany Thank you so much you made my day, god bless you

    • @christianbethany
      @christianbethany 2 года назад +4

      Much love to you!!

  • @ASMRziggy
    @ASMRziggy 2 года назад +106

    13:09 relatable lol, I told my gf, who's lesbian, that I'm genderflyid and one time someone asked what her sexuality was and she said, "Pan? Idk, my partner is every gender so..."

  • @virgilstorm9822
    @virgilstorm9822 2 года назад +149

    2:28 im crying i wish my family were like this

    • @ellabella001
      @ellabella001  2 года назад +20

      I hope you're doing okay! I support you

    • @virgilstorm9822
      @virgilstorm9822 2 года назад +14

      @@ellabella001 im doing alright, i just wont come out to them, its okay :)

    • @kao6234
      @kao6234 2 года назад +8

      It made me cry too :")

    • @ordinaryperson817
      @ordinaryperson817 2 года назад +6

      Same, I cried too. My parents are Christians but they will never support me if I came out as genderfluid

    • @virgilstorm9822
      @virgilstorm9822 2 года назад +4

      @@ordinaryperson817 yeah... i hope youre chosen family/friends will support you

  • @reptile-freak1922
    @reptile-freak1922 2 года назад +41

    Hey hun, I'm a genderfluid non binary and I would like to say everyone is valid, it doesn't matter what your race is or your sexuality or your gender. Just remember someone out there cares about you!
    -From a Reptile Parent

  • @YourMom-l6l
    @YourMom-l6l 2 года назад +149

    The one about coming out to my Christian parents hit me so hard! I’m genderfluid and bisexual and my parents are *very* Christian (nice way of saying homophobic). The woman in that video was so sweet!

    • @ravenalexandria9303
      @ravenalexandria9303 2 года назад +2

      She was so sweet! We have the same pronouns

    • @panabefamily4432
      @panabefamily4432 2 года назад +2

      OMG IM BISEXUAL AND GENDERFLUID TOO! ( and I got Christian parents but I haven’t came out to them yet because I’m scared to but I’ll tell them when I am ready )

    • @TheAdidasKnifer
      @TheAdidasKnifer 2 года назад

      @@panabefamily4432 I'm the same way

    • @federicolautarohohmann9035
      @federicolautarohohmann9035 Год назад +1

      I am bisexual and Genderfluid too!

    • @panabefamily4432
      @panabefamily4432 Год назад

      @@sevilliane The meaning of Gender fluidity is that it refers to change over time in a person's gender expression or gender identity, or both. That change might be in expression, but not identity, or in identity, but not expression. Or both expression and identity might change together. So in short basically our gender identity or expressions can change over time not by choice but by what you feel on a certain day. Like today I feel like I’m non-binary today so I’m going by they/them.

  • @Maria-ob7ii
    @Maria-ob7ii 2 года назад +31

    i recently started questioning my gender identity so i’m watching this to help. it’s weighing a lot on my mind so i really hope to resolve this and finally understand myself and who i am

  • @b3nnefits
    @b3nnefits 2 года назад +70

    0:05 I roll a dice and decide what I’m gonna put on the forum.

  • @rainbow_fox_
    @rainbow_fox_ 2 года назад +57

    that last one is GOALS, i wish i could look that fem and masc whenever i want to :(

  • @RayngoMango
    @RayngoMango 2 года назад +346

    It’s really cool being genderfluid cuz I can know what it feels like to be EVERY gender, and I can even feel the obvious differences between non-binary and agender. It’s actually really amazing.
    Edit: I now identify as genderfaunet:)
    (It's like gender-fluid but I barely ever feel like a girl or partially girl)

    • @emilierekdal5118
      @emilierekdal5118 2 года назад +8

      Oh that’s cool! Now I’m curious, what is the difference in feeling between a gender an non-binary?

    • @sophiathefurbst
      @sophiathefurbst 2 года назад +14

      @@emilierekdal5118 I’m not agender, but to my understanding the difference non-binary is an umbrella term for anyone who isn’t strictly one of the binary genders, and agender is the lack of a gender. So, like, non-binary is to agender what a sandwich is to a grilled cheese. A grilled cheese is a sandwich, but a sandwich isn’t inherently grilled cheese. So, like, I think I’m non-binary, but that does not mean I’m agender.

    • @RayngoMango
      @RayngoMango 2 года назад +21

      @@emilierekdal5118 The way I use the terms and feel them. When I feel non-binary I feel like I have a gender but it’s not quite boy or girl. When I feel agender it feels like I just don’t have a gender. Hope that makes sense.

    • @emilierekdal5118
      @emilierekdal5118 2 года назад +3

      Alright! Thank you guys so much for explaining! c:

    • @RayngoMango
      @RayngoMango 2 года назад +2

      @@emilierekdal5118 ofc! I appreciate your will to learn:D

  • @crazylilmonsta7923
    @crazylilmonsta7923 2 года назад +55

    for me being genderfluid is confusing, for example for the longest time i thought i was just trans (ftm) and i was happy with that and whenever i talked about getting top surgery i felt happy too, but then there was some days where i was like "you know, i kinda like these what if i regret getting rid of them..." so i started thinking im genderfluid, but it was still confusing to me since i never really had days where i felt more masc or more fem other than how i felt about my chest, i dont know if thats maybe because i see myself as more androgynous or what, its very hard for me to understand how i feel about myself, i have been thinking at least about the chest thing that i will get my very large chest reduced so atleast i might feel more comfortable like that and if i need to ill have an easier time binding since i dont think i can with my size...

    • @TheAdidasKnifer
      @TheAdidasKnifer 2 года назад +3

      Dang wow I thought I was trans too by wearing girl clothing and I'm a guy but yours is way different

    • @Acacia22C
      @Acacia22C 2 года назад +3

      This is the same for me I only recently got clarity on my genderfluidity and it's been on my mind for a while to get breast reduction because one they're big and cause me lower back pain 2 gender dysphoria I love them they are just annoying sometimes and it can be really uncomfortable wearing bras 3 I get self conscious when running because they bounce and it makes me want to hide them so I feel like I'm not going to be sexulised because of it like it's such a cause of discomfort...
      That's why reduction is my best bet I can reduce the discomfort whilst keeping them and if I do decide to I can get binding that will help me feel more at ease
      I'm so glad I finally decided to express my thoughts down on paper then shared them with my mum who helped me feel confident about myself and now she's aware that I would like breast reduction. She's totally on board with me being genderfluid which I knew she would be she's married to a woman my 2nd mum and has been taking me to pride ever since I can remember. When I came home 4 or 5 years ago and told her "mum I think I'm into men and women" she said in response "that makes a lot of sense" It's pretty clear she supports me no matter what and I'm so lucky to have that I definitely have one of the coolest lgbt+ origin story ever

    • @crazylilmonsta7923
      @crazylilmonsta7923 2 года назад +1

      @@Acacia22C first your parents sound wonderful and im happy to find someone who feels the same as me, if we lived close youd probably be my best friend lmao, and yeah we have the exact same reason for wanting a reduction even the bouncing part, my dad isnt as open to my identity, like awhile ago i told him i am trans and he doesnt have anything wrong with it but also we dont talk about it and i never minded that cause i didnt mind him calling me my birth name or gender, hence one of the reasons why i think im genderfluid, but he is still slightly supportive, when i was going to a new primary doctor for the first time i found out the doctors office had pins with pronouns on them but i was too nervous to go grab any, so he went with me and grabbed a he/him pin for me, while i grabbed a she/her pin and a they/them pin to be safe, so hes kinda supportive in a way, and he doesnt mind me getting a chest reduction since it will help with my back pain which is why he thinks i want it, im just kinda scared of surgery so i keep putting the thought away until later

    • @beepbow8444
      @beepbow8444 Год назад +2

      Genderfluidity cam look and feel a lot of ways. It doesn't have to be a palpable switch from masc to fem. Sometimes it's just a little thing, a little thing that still matters. I hope you feel more confident in whatever label you're using now!

    • @AmeowaCat
      @AmeowaCat Год назад

      i am a bit like this

  • @kiri_simp_rocky130
    @kiri_simp_rocky130 2 года назад +28

    2:28 i started crying because ik my mom and dad could never be so accepting ind hearing that was so bitter sweet for me

    • @jenifernadeau
      @jenifernadeau 4 месяца назад

      We are powerful Sovereign Spiritual Beings that choose our Human Experience here as well as our names and our bodies before we incarnate here , for whatever lessons we decided to learn as are karmic journeys.. Sounds like that you chose your parents in this lifetime to teach you self-acceptance and validation that can only come from within..❤... but as children we need to survive within a family unit that was toxic or dysfunctional because they haven't done their own healing from their childhood in order to accept their true authentic selves. To unconditionally love all of the parts of them that they were told by their parents were unlovable..
      When we stopp seeking for things in the external world, there's only one place left to look... within😊
      .

  • @sillygoofykinnie
    @sillygoofykinnie 2 года назад +117

    Sometimes I doubt I'm genderfluid because I dont often feel dysphoria.
    I heavily stand by body/presentation/pronouns don't equal gender, and I think that might be why? I've only been considering/trying being genderfluid for a few weeks.
    Edit: I think it was harder for me to identify what was and what wasn’t dysphoria at the time of writing this- but I think I understand it better now! Thank all of you for the lovely replies ❤️

    • @draalttom844
      @draalttom844 2 года назад +10

      If you fell is slightly sometimes, it's still dysphoria. No one wishes to have the depression worthy typw

    • @snoww9347
      @snoww9347 2 года назад +2

      @Jo Lilly Yup! I feel the same too 👍

    • @iceecreme
      @iceecreme 2 года назад +11

      i know this is from a long time ago but genderfluid people dont need to feel dysphoria! youre still valid

    • @TheAdidasKnifer
      @TheAdidasKnifer 2 года назад +2

      I'm scared to tell my family members that but I told my friends whos not gender fluid but they was in my shoes

  • @hiwhale
    @hiwhale 2 года назад +46

    ngl I mainly watch these compilations bc I find genderfluid people insanely attractive. It's like how some bisexual ppl are attracted more to men than women and vice versa, I'm attracted to all genders but nonbinary and genderfluid people take up the highest percentage for me.
    Like the fact that one day I could be dating a girl and then the next day I could be dating a guy??? But it's the same person??? That's so hot idk

    • @intend_o_switch402
      @intend_o_switch402 2 года назад +3

      ikrr

    • @ceo6160
      @ceo6160 2 года назад +3

      never related to a comment more 🧎‍♂️

    • @Potatoes654
      @Potatoes654 2 года назад +4

      Abrosexual maybe?

    • @ceo6160
      @ceo6160 2 года назад +1

      @@Potatoes654 i’ve never actually heard about abrosexuality before- but I searched & its hitting home a bit

    • @intend_o_switch402
      @intend_o_switch402 2 года назад +1

      also maybe polysexual or omnisexual

  • @lucid3944
    @lucid3944 2 года назад +28

    I’m gender fluid but male at birth and I find myself really struggling lately with the fem side XD these tiktoks are giving me serotonin

  • @intend_o_switch402
    @intend_o_switch402 2 года назад +246

    im demifluid :) so i do partly identify with genderfluid and non binary but its thx to u ella that i was able to figure that out tysm

    • @silly_goofy_human
      @silly_goofy_human 2 года назад +23

      Same! It's really nice meeting someone like me, because I rarely meet someone demifluid :D

    • @intend_o_switch402
      @intend_o_switch402 2 года назад +8

      @@silly_goofy_human ur demifluid that amazing i never rlly find anyone who's demifluid just woww

    • @silly_goofy_human
      @silly_goofy_human 2 года назад +8

      @@intend_o_switch402 Oh god same...

    • @intend_o_switch402
      @intend_o_switch402 2 года назад +2

      @@silly_goofy_human so where are u on the demifluid spetrummm (if ur comfortable saying)

    • @ellabella001
      @ellabella001  2 года назад +6

      Np!!!

  • @storm6447
    @storm6447 2 года назад +31

    I really can relate to the short/long hair thing 😭 I cut my hair short and 80% of the time im super comfortable with it. But the other 20%!!!! Ive been thinking about getting a wig though!

    • @emmess6419
      @emmess6419 2 года назад +1

      Wigs are sooooo fun! They’re great because you can try out different styles/colours without committing 😅 10/10 recommend

    • @storm6447
      @storm6447 2 года назад +2

      @@emmess6419 I actually got one! Its black/turquoise its so great! I just love it!!!

  • @bananaflavoredpringles4709
    @bananaflavoredpringles4709 2 года назад +54

    im genderfluid and you were the one who helped me figure that out! thank you so much (still closted btw, might give updates)
    pansexual, any pronouns

    • @ellabella001
      @ellabella001  2 года назад +5

      Ahh I love you 💗💛💙 Congrats!!

    • @bananaflavoredpringles4709
      @bananaflavoredpringles4709 2 года назад +3

      @@ellabella001 thank you so much!

    • @Marcos_Hat
      @Marcos_Hat 2 года назад +7

      Sorry to bother, could I be lesbian aligned but genderfluid?
      ( I'm almost always agender with a very very strong connection to womanhood)

    • @ellabella001
      @ellabella001  2 года назад +6

      @@Marcos_Hat Lesbian = non-men loving non-men! If you like to use the term lesbian thats up to you 💗

  • @laraelizabetharaujopinheir5362
    @laraelizabetharaujopinheir5362 10 месяцев назад +5

    10:13 As a lesbian who is questioning genderfluidity, it makes me so happy ♡♡♡♡♡
    Story Time : A few days I just read a lot of TERF' lesbians making "study" posts basically saying that "enbys can't be lesbians bc that label belongs to woman and that's apropiation", wich had make me really bad, guilty and angry.... seeing this video made me feel more confident

  • @djsunset_jb
    @djsunset_jb Год назад +4

    the satisfaction when you answer "male" on your school survey as a questioning female

  • @bridgettfisher
    @bridgettfisher 2 года назад +7

    I really wanted to share this. When I first came out to my mom she was really struggling with pronouns bc of the fluctuation. So we made gemder pins together so that it was easier for her to support me, and honestly I am so proud to have her as my mom. I hope you all have support like that, and if not then im here to be your support now. You are all loved.

  • @kukicatt89
    @kukicatt89 2 года назад +27

    I'm genderfluid and most of this is so true and sweet thank you for making the video '3' ❤

  • @liminal.7731
    @liminal.7731 2 года назад +7

    Genderfluid people are so nice looking like how
    Y'ALL HAVE SUCH NICE OUTFITS

  • @auggie_on_paws
    @auggie_on_paws 2 года назад +40

    I found my sexuality easily, was fine, and then my brain randomly decided to tackle gender. So for the past few months I've been trying to figure everything out. I've gone from cis, to nonbinary, to demigirl. I'm starting to think I'm gender fluid just based of researching it a bit more- *im so confused*

    • @caspergotlost
      @caspergotlost 2 года назад +6

      I felt that
      Good luck! I'd like to say there's light at the end of the tunnel but I haven't found it yet. I'm pretty sure I'll find it one day though

    • @samira7577
      @samira7577 2 года назад +3

      Same here. Sometimes I feel like I'm going crazy or even forcing myself to be confused af about my gender

    • @noxvardeen6978
      @noxvardeen6978 2 года назад +1

      Honestly, its just a label. Be yourself and just let others know how you wanna be called (pronouns). Good luck out there

    • @caspergotlost
      @caspergotlost 2 года назад

      @Test are you being sarcastic?

    • @caspergotlost
      @caspergotlost 2 года назад +1

      @Test Personally, I figured out I was genderfluid by logging a lot of feelings, before I knew different genders existed. I have very protective parents, and had no exposure to social media, including yt, tiktok, instagram, etc, before starting this journal. Later, the internet helped me find a label and community that shared my experiences. But I had no exposure to media, so you can't blame it.
      And it isn't an issue to try to learn about yourself.
      Occasionally, and I mean very occasionally, queer communities pressure people into finding a label, but more often, the communities help worried, confused people who are struggling with self-identity discover who they are, and many times this is simply encouraging them to accept themselves and not need labels.
      I was obsessed with my identity before I found a label, because it seemed so different from my friends'. Media didn't push me to that point, it helped me accept myself and gave me the room to focus on other things.

  • @nightdust6953
    @nightdust6953 2 года назад +9

    The Christian mom one had me legit crying

  • @jilliandittrich8810
    @jilliandittrich8810 2 года назад +3

    I dunno if anyone else feels like this, but when I am feeling feminine, and then start thinking of being masculine, I get SO dysphoric. It’s like my brain tricks me into feeling another way.

  • @steliiaa
    @steliiaa 2 года назад +24

    Omg thxxxx for this maybe I am genderfluid after all 😂😂😂 I literally can’t figure it out it’s annoying

  • @Luna11280
    @Luna11280 2 года назад +1

    I've been going through some pretty severe depression for years and it's like weird because I'll look at myself in the mirror and be utterly disgusted for days but then I'll look at myself again and cheer myself up and motivate myself to keep going

  • @celestewoodworth5627
    @celestewoodworth5627 2 года назад +6

    Personally, for the hair thing, I cut mine to a bit less than shoulder length and got an undercut. You can do some small things with it, and for me it helps a bit with dysphoria because it's just enough to look femme or masc at a moment's notice. Hope this helps for anyone struggling with this!

  • @rkaexe
    @rkaexe 2 года назад +28

    i came out to my family the other day!
    got hit with the 'youre a girl' and 'its just a pahse'
    like no, its not stfu 🤨

    • @intend_o_switch402
      @intend_o_switch402 2 года назад +2

      yea this is why im afraid of coming out u got any tips maybee...

    • @rkaexe
      @rkaexe 2 года назад +3

      ​@@intend_o_switch402 well for tips, I havent got that many but here's a few-
      Make it obvious before coming out, like occasionally saying"I wish I were*insert whatever gender ur feeling*"
      When you come out, instead of doing it out of nowhere, try asking your family to play truth or dare or 21 questions, then come out when iits ur turn.
      And finally, mentally prepare yourself for whats coming. You might get hit with what I did, so prepare yourself by saying "its okay, they'll understand sooner or later, and if they don't it doesn't matter."
      Good luck!

    • @intend_o_switch402
      @intend_o_switch402 2 года назад +2

      @@rkaexe ok thank u i'll come out to my parents when ima alittle older and i'll use this to come out to my friends tomorrrow tysm

    • @rkaexe
      @rkaexe 2 года назад +3

      @@intend_o_switch402 alrght! tell me how it goes :)
      and no problem

    • @snoww9347
      @snoww9347 2 года назад +1

      Yeah I was hit with “It’s just a phase! I went through it too when I was your age.” But the thing is she’s thinking I’m just a tomboy but it’s literally different.

  • @Trash_Bunni
    @Trash_Bunni 2 года назад +17

    2:29 anyone wish they’re parents were like this
    *i do*

  • @kenji_is_bored
    @kenji_is_bored 2 года назад +7

    about the hair thing
    i keep my hair bob-ish or apple cut-ish long because
    bisexual bob duh
    and when it's down i can feel femme and when it's half-up half-down i can feel masc :)
    plus all my favorite marvel/not-marvel characters that are canonically/non-canonically bisexual and/or genderfluid have the same hair cut so :D
    edit: this was months ago, i identify as non-binary now :D the hair thing still is amazing for dysphoric days

    • @kenji_is_bored
      @kenji_is_bored 2 года назад

      @@sv24m66 "the hair tuck" god that's clever

  • @morganestewart
    @morganestewart 2 года назад +6

    my best friend is genderfluid so thank you for making this comp so i can understand more about him

  • @jessy7843
    @jessy7843 2 года назад +3

    I love watching these vids as a closested, it makes me feel a lot more alive :)

  • @natejones4311
    @natejones4311 2 года назад +19

    I LOVE MAMA JILL

  • @lemur_2055
    @lemur_2055 2 года назад +10

    I recently figured out I'm pangender and I have a Genderfluid friend we love joking that I'm just Genderfluid but...
    all at once 💅✨

  • @zoomiezo
    @zoomiezo 2 года назад +5

    As someone with depression, it's difficult to understand what exactly you're feeling and how to dress

  • @phoenyxknight7441
    @phoenyxknight7441 2 года назад +5

    12:52 you know what they say about toxic relationships, cut them off.

  • @AtBurgerKingWithMyBurgerQueen
    @AtBurgerKingWithMyBurgerQueen 2 года назад +4

    2:30 I love this woman she single handedly fixed my life long mommy issues and she doesn't even know I exist

  • @mikoesjay
    @mikoesjay 2 года назад +2

    thank you for including me!!💘 i rlly love my ppl!

  • @phonecharger9958
    @phonecharger9958 2 года назад +5

    hopefully my wifi doesn’t cut out cause of the storm, i have to watch this

  • @adrian_the_angel
    @adrian_the_angel 2 года назад +5

    TikTok at 1:40 was so accurate I can’t-

  • @loonatheverse
    @loonatheverse 2 года назад +5

    1:48 lemme hang out with this person

  • @browncat6990
    @browncat6990 2 года назад +4

    2:21
    “Don’t waste any time bro just turn into a vegetable.”

  • @pako7272
    @pako7272 2 года назад +13

    chicken nugget

  • @MadMusic2454
    @MadMusic2454 2 года назад

    Tatchi’s video is absolutely amazing, I just love them so much! ❤️

  • @loonatheverse
    @loonatheverse 2 года назад +4

    As a gender fluid person, I wait until I go into a masc feeling because it lasts longer than I get ready.

    • @TheAdidasKnifer
      @TheAdidasKnifer 2 года назад +1

      I'm just like u I haven't told nobody but my friends not family members

  • @ThatOneAvain
    @ThatOneAvain Год назад +2

    im trying to fully accept and gain confidence in my being gender-fluid and seeing people out there with the same feelings as me has been so helpful i just wish i could be out publicly bc god i am sick of being dead named lmao

  • @julianatheis5556
    @julianatheis5556 2 года назад +3

    I’m not even genderfluid (i’m a writer and one of my character’s are, so i watched for experience. and memes.) but oh man the Christian parents one made me cry

  • @Acacia22C
    @Acacia22C 2 года назад +2

    Oh my... I finally wrote down all that I was feeling about my gender identity and spoke to my mum about how I'm feeling and how I feel like I'm genderfluid and this comp totally just provided clarity for me 0:48 is exactly how I feel I was assigned female at birth and prefer She her Pronouns but I totally feel masculine and non conforming every so often. Like one of my favourite Jumpers is a mens one in purple and It gives me so much joy to wear. This has definitely helped me understand and come closer to clarity of who I am and I'm so happy plus I have figured out the perfect way to let people know what gender and Pronouns I'm feeling my first name "Acacia" feels very feminine and so I will associate it with She/Her my middle name is a unisex name "Jordan" that when I'm non conforming and using They/Them & then my surname "Chase" feels more Masculine so it will be He/Him Pronouns, which is great because I love my name! It's just perfect plus my Nickname that I would let younger kids call me if they struggle to say my name would either be Ace or A which are also unisex 😭 I'm actually so overwhelmed rn these are happy tears
    I'm a genderfluid pansexual (who prefers the label bisexual), that and I am definitely open to polyamorous relationships
    Thank you for helping me find out who I am ~♡
    Edit
    Not to mention but like makeup is such an important point I love it sometimes and want to make an effort and hate it others like I just don't want anything to do with it, realising I'm genderfluid makes so much sense and because I want King/Queen energy I could rock it on both masculine feminine and non conforming days because yeah slay 💅

  • @onions.have.beauty8049
    @onions.have.beauty8049 2 года назад +3

    3:41 is the most relatable thing I've seen all week 😭

  • @fae1046
    @fae1046 2 года назад +3

    As someone who is genderfluid I always wanna cut my hair short but then I’m like “no I don’t wanna do that I love having long hair!”

  • @chaoticpeace8932
    @chaoticpeace8932 2 года назад +3

    Hairstyle for gender fluids who don’t either to have short of long:
    Undercut with long hair over lapping it. On masc days I would tie my hair up and have a man bun thing going on. Femme doesn’t change but your hair is thinner and doesn’t weigh as much.

  • @madeleinerawlins5911
    @madeleinerawlins5911 2 года назад +1

    2:27
    This… I am crying. Actually crying. I wish my mom had responded like this when I told her I was genderfluid. She didn’t react badly or anything, but I feel like she kind of brushed it off.

  • @KaraokeMoonClub
    @KaraokeMoonClub 2 года назад +5

    EVERY SINGLE COMPILATION THAtS GENDERFLUID HAS MY EX IN IT AS ANOTHER GENDERFLUID PERSON IM DYING A LITTLE.

  • @bow865
    @bow865 2 года назад

    I love the fact that there able to wear different outfits and look good in them it makes me happy that there having fun while doing it lol

  • @Isabeltiful_da_bel
    @Isabeltiful_da_bel 2 года назад +3

    I'm going through a LOT of confusion. It's been probably almost 1 years since I've been questioning my gender identity and I know for sure I'm not cis (AMAB), but I can't really pin point where I actually fit in. Already thought I was a Demiboy but then I realized I don't feel that comfortable with the label "boy or man", then it was Agender, but after a while I do somehow have a feeling that I have a gender and now ig I'm experimenting Genderfluid of Genderflux. I do know discovering your gender as an Enby or Trans person is HARD AF cause im living through it, I just want to really fit in something and feel ok in that ""label"". (Everything goes more confusing when I don't really feel dysphoria at a certain level)

  • @joko8395
    @joko8395 Год назад +1

    Guys
    GUYS
    I just had like 5 "God I wish that were me" moments holy shit?????

  • @mamafirebug6569
    @mamafirebug6569 2 года назад +6

    my friends keep deadnaming me and they dont even try and correct themselves. they only use my real name online and even then they dont ever rlly talk to me. they'll say shit like "yeah *deadname* uses he/him and her name is kai or smth" and im so fucking tired of it because im too scared to tell them .

    • @scampfire2.0
      @scampfire2.0 2 года назад +3

      I'm sorry for you :c
      Hope they'll get it and call you what you want

    • @mamafirebug6569
      @mamafirebug6569 2 года назад +2

      @@scampfire2.0 awe ty! its sort of the same as it was before but the name thing is getting better!

    • @intend_o_switch402
      @intend_o_switch402 2 года назад +1

      tell them to please ur right name and right pronouns and if they dont frick them bc thats not a true friend don't fail fake ppl :> okii

    • @tokuko9027
      @tokuko9027 2 года назад +2

      My friends don't accidentally misgender me, they PURPOSELY misgender me.

    • @intend_o_switch402
      @intend_o_switch402 2 года назад +1

      @@tokuko9027 there not friendss

  • @Ezra_they-them
    @Ezra_they-them Год назад +1

    I recently came out to my first person. It was a really close friend. She then asked, and I quote: "So is it a Slay queen day, a Slay king day or a pop off my liege day" this is so funny and sweet at the same time XD🥺

  • @jannafreudenberg1878
    @jannafreudenberg1878 Год назад +3

    I find it cute when the partner changes their pronouns and sexuality for their gendeefluid partners

  • @Beetle-l7i
    @Beetle-l7i 2 года назад +1

    2:27 So i don't cry so easily but this made me SERIOUSLY tear up.

  • @personamusicintensifies6341
    @personamusicintensifies6341 2 года назад +7

    I don't personally like those tiktoks that are like someone talking to you, idk why

    • @ellabella001
      @ellabella001  2 года назад +3

      Yeah i understand, but using all audio ones will give me alot of copyright...

  • @editsbylainey5016
    @editsbylainey5016 Год назад +2

    2:27 this made my heart happy, my Christian parents are unsupportive and I wish I had a parent like this.

  • @_me_1990
    @_me_1990 2 года назад +5

    I’m late :( but yayyy a new vid

  • @jjgbf
    @jjgbf 2 года назад +1

    I've had a really rough day today and even if I've already watched the Christian lady so many times, I really needed to hear that today. I got my hair cut today but it ended up looking a lot more feminine than I wanted and it just made me feel pretty awful :( i really don't want to be stuck with it for much longer. there was more to my day too but that was the start of it all

  • @shawnashives
    @shawnashives 2 года назад +7

    Can you please do a neptunic video? I'm neptunic and I don't feel many people know about that sexuuality

    • @ellabella001
      @ellabella001  2 года назад +4

      I could try! It's all about how many tiktoks it has and how good they are, but I will include it in my next special!

    • @_me_1990
      @_me_1990 2 года назад +5

      Actually What is neptunic?
      Sorry if it’s annoying that I’m asking just curious

    • @logancrawford2506
      @logancrawford2506 2 года назад +2

      @@_me_1990 It means attraction to women, woman-/fem-alligned enbies and feminine/neutral presenting enbies. Also called nomascsexual.
      The opposite is Uranic.

  • @Dino_Skull
    @Dino_Skull 2 года назад

    2:38 this made me cry so hard, I'm Christian and I have Christian parents, but I don't think they would ever understand, I'm genuinely terrified of coming out to them. But that message gave me a tiny bit of hope, and I really needed that today. Thank you 🥺💕

  • @jellymoon2550
    @jellymoon2550 2 года назад +4

    6:20 I mean there are plenty of times I'm able to answer that, just add "at the moment?" Unless you're any other gender than boy or girl ofcourse, or if you're fluidity doesn't encompass one or both of those

  • @tatertot4457
    @tatertot4457 Год назад +1

    The Christian mom one has me ugly crying…
    I grew up in a religious conservative family, like hard “right wing” family. I’ve heard so many awful things said about LGBTQ+ people in my own home.
    I came out to my parents as asexual when I was seventeen and they laughed at me. Found out I was actually aroace and told them again. They laughed at first, then they got angry. They tried to set me up with boys. My mother even had a plan involving someone’s brother, which failed miserably and now he will never speak to me again.
    Then I realized at nineteen that I’m genderfluid. It took an hour long facetime call with a bestfriend, she was the one who told me I was genderfluid.
    I nervously told her how my gender identity felt for me. Sometimes I’m fem, sometimes I’m masc. Sometimes I’m in between and sometimes I’m nothing at all. I was confused and terrified because I knew that if I identified as anything under the trans umbrella, my entire family (extended family included) would disown me.
    I remember having an argument with my mother as a child about being a tomboy or a girly-girl. She said I couldn’t be both and I told her she was wrong. She asked, “Okay then, what are you?” I answered proudly, “A tom-girl!!”
    I honestly should have known.
    I’m twenty-two now. I done a lot of learning and listening to my body. I’m aroace, queer and genderfluid.
    My family doesn’t know a thing.

  • @vcrxiwqs
    @vcrxiwqs 2 года назад +3

    0:08 Today I just so happened to run into the same problem! So my genderfluid ass just left it blank-

  • @arrwstrt8238
    @arrwstrt8238 2 года назад +2

    one of my really heartbreaking genderfluid experiences is when people call me "emo" because I wear a lot of black sweaters and ripped jeans but also a lot of skirts and band shirts. like bestie its not sadness its gender dysphoria get it right

  • @absolute_ZER0
    @absolute_ZER0 2 года назад +7

    you guys are gender-liquid?

    • @ren_cool_guy
      @ren_cool_guy 2 года назад

      me, a genderfluid person: o c e o n

  • @stayviz
    @stayviz 2 года назад +1

    I'm done. I'M FUCKING DONE.
    how do they all manage to look so fucking fabulous while I can't even figure my freakin hair out?!

  • @beefairy8620
    @beefairy8620 2 года назад +4

    I think I’m fluid but I don’t feel dysphoria it’s so hard to telllll

    • @draalttom844
      @draalttom844 2 года назад

      Dysphoria can a suddle do you feel any disconfort with your name sometimes, a tiny pinch with a pronoun? Feeling weird in front of a miror ?all dysphoria

  • @jordanrayne4779
    @jordanrayne4779 2 года назад +1

    My fluidity is kinda different then im seeing in these. I go through cycles that vary in length, during these cycles i have considered surgery to better align but i always have to remind myself no matter how i feel it will change at some point so there is only so far i should go in changing myself.

  • @S0nnyDoesStuff7
    @S0nnyDoesStuff7 2 года назад +6

    This is amazing!!!!!! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈 PRIDE FOR EVERYONE WHO LIKES THIS COMMENT!

  • @captainshiro1301
    @captainshiro1301 2 года назад

    3:00 I just simply broke down crying. My mum is like half-supportive - she told me that she still loves me, but in her eyes I am like a lost sheep, and it doesn't hit me on the daily basis, but in moments like that I just really wish that she could understand me. I don't know if I'll be never ending disappointment for her, so that TikTok really hit me in the feels TvT

  • @lidpotter1655
    @lidpotter1655 2 года назад +4

    Ayo It is me Jaydie aka the leader of our government.

  • @Soupdippedinbread-jt9gq
    @Soupdippedinbread-jt9gq Месяц назад +1

    6:33 I'm definitely gonna get bracelets because I mostly only switch between they/them and she/her and my outfits look very similar

  • @thecatinthecloset5871
    @thecatinthecloset5871 2 года назад +6

    Could you try making a demifluid compilation? I understand if you can’t ❤️
    But even if you can’t find enough for a long vid, maybe mixing them with gender fluid?

    • @ellabella001
      @ellabella001  2 года назад +5

      I already did! It is called non binary tiktoks part 2 I think. Maybe 3. I will def include demi genders in the 3K special, but making a video of it alone if just very hard 💗

    • @thecatinthecloset5871
      @thecatinthecloset5871 2 года назад +2

      @@ellabella001 Thank you :]

    • @intend_o_switch402
      @intend_o_switch402 2 года назад +1

      im demifluid tooooooo omggg

    • @intend_o_switch402
      @intend_o_switch402 2 года назад +1

      @@ellabella001 thx that would mean alot (u dont have toooo tho-)

    • @thecatinthecloset5871
      @thecatinthecloset5871 2 года назад +2

      @@intend_o_switch402 ayyy I’ve never met another demifluid person!

  • @tatiannalewis6848
    @tatiannalewis6848 2 года назад +2

    Damn 2:46 really got different cause my parents don’t except the fact that I’m gender fluid but I use they/them pronouns I’m just glad that I didn’t tell them abt me being queer and that there are supportive parents.but sometimes I feel like just a blob of skin and then some days I feel really femme where I can feel comfortable wearing a dress and sometimes I want absolutely nothing with being a female

  • @nizamakhtar7573
    @nizamakhtar7573 2 года назад +3

    Dude they miss the greatest chance to name it gender bender

    • @Queerio_lol
      @Queerio_lol Год назад

      That’s what I call other gender fluid people, my Friend calls me waterfall tho

  • @ItsAzzora
    @ItsAzzora 10 месяцев назад

    My best and favorite way to respond to the question as a gender-fluid person in “My gender is soup “ it makes people VERY confused and I love it sm

  • @intend_o_switch402
    @intend_o_switch402 2 года назад +5

    first btw this is amazing

  • @TheAbsoluteCYNical
    @TheAbsoluteCYNical 2 месяца назад

    0:05 those are the worst- 😭
    1:09 why is this too relatable….

  • @claire9900
    @claire9900 2 года назад +4

    I'm having a gender crisis atm 😃👍 and I think I might be genderfluid, but I always feel like I'm faking it cause some days I'm completely against he/him and they/them pronouns (not that I'm out to anyone so no one uses them anyway), but some days I'll be like 'yeah, I really don't care what pronouns people use', but I never feel fully male/non-binary and I feel like I always/always will have a connection with femininity. However I rarely feel comfortable in skirts/dresses and never in hyper-feminine clothing. For example I never wear heavy makeup, literally just mascara, eyeliner, and lipstick, very rarely. My daily outfit is a hoodie and jeans/leggings, so I'm always questioning myself and feel like I'm faking it and that I'm just a non-femme girl 😭😭😭😭😭😭

    • @claire9900
      @claire9900 2 года назад +2

      Adding onto that I never really experience dysphoria at all, some days I'm just like 'damn, tits are kinda inconvenient. I wish I had a binder.'
      Nothing worse than that. Nothing.
      Btw I'm afab lol
      And also, I never 'feel' a specific way, I'm just like 'I'd be kinda uncomfy if someone referred to me as him', or 'I'd be kinda uncomfy if someone referred to me as they'. It's never that way with she/her, with them it's always either 'yeah, she/her are the only pronouns I'm comfortable with', or 'I really don't mind either way'

    • @sistershook5719
      @sistershook5719 2 года назад

      I feel the exact same way lol but tbh I’m just gonna try and stop worrying it’ll come to us naturally

    • @Anonymous-py1sf
      @Anonymous-py1sf 2 года назад

      Hi, why don't you try to seek professional help? You probably have a dysphoria OR the LGBT propaganda is making you believe that. Humans' brains can be easily tricked depending in the type of content, informations, etc. you consume.
      You started to feel confused before or after having deeper contact with the community? If it was after then you were probably "brainwashed".
      Also, you can just be a girl that prefers to wear the stereotypical male clothes and you can still be a girl, yk...
      (I am not trying to be disrespectful, sorry about anything)

    • @AdrianoTheOne
      @AdrianoTheOne Год назад

      Nah your just a female

    • @claire9900
      @claire9900 Год назад +1

      @@AdrianoTheOne I can't tell whether you're being transphobic or trying to give me advice by saying that

  • @AutisticBearLover
    @AutisticBearLover Год назад +1

    I've been questioning myself for months now and I swear I'm genderfluid at this point.

  • @albarainbow
    @albarainbow 2 года назад +3

    I think it's good to go to therapy and fix personal problems that have nothing to do with gender but may be called gender problems because the person doesn't want to face the real roots of it. :( good luck to you all

  • @Rui-kp4yu
    @Rui-kp4yu 2 года назад +2

    Oh my it should be sooo annoying being always asked f*cking foolish questions can't ppl just shut up and appreciate your company? Anyway dears you look so good in any day 💫

  • @venom.gaming
    @venom.gaming 2 года назад +4

    Tell me that you want attention without telling me that you want it :)

    • @thatonefandomperson7779
      @thatonefandomperson7779 2 года назад +2

      Tell me you didn't get enough attention from your parents that they never showed you how to respect people without telling me that you didn't get enough attention from your parents that they never showed you how to respect people

    • @venom.gaming
      @venom.gaming 2 года назад

      @@thatonefandomperson7779 Respect has to be earned and they've done nothing to earn it yet.

    • @thatonefandomperson7779
      @thatonefandomperson7779 2 года назад

      @@venom.gaming so you just treat everyone without respect until they earn it or what? Yeah, your parents obviously didn't pay enough attention to you to teach you about anything.

  • @-MistytheYT-
    @-MistytheYT- 8 месяцев назад +1

    Genderfluid is confusing and changing my gender feelings....
    Perfect...

  • @lokipond9655
    @lokipond9655 Год назад +3

    2:52, I wish I had this support to be confident enough to come out as genderfluid. But serious question for anyone; if I’m gender-fluidity but only want s-x at certain times or only with a certain someone, what does that make me sexually? Please and thank you

  • @chickenoogy
    @chickenoogy 2 года назад +2

    0:26 OH MY F🤡CKING *GOD* I LOVE THEIR OUTFIT 😭😭😃😃😲😲😟😟😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳