Your mistake is thinking this is his natural vooce. No. He is conversationally running hypnosis on the listeners. No wonder you feel like in trance . Thats the whole idea.
He was really something, what a guide - No one, absolutely no one can make you feel small without your permission, so follow Milton's advice and don't give it.
Im so glad I heard about this brilliant mind today. What he said just blows my mind. You know how many couples divorce over the stupidest insult but imagine if everybody did that? The divorce rate would drop and ppl wouldnt be in conflict. They would just laugh and remain in love. "Love is not easily angered." Its in the Bible. Milton Erickson is a genius. Misundertand insults on purpose and reinterpret them as jokes.
Watched this video after a couple of years again, and it amuses me how this idea is so CONSTANT, of baffling others in therapy, to help them assume their bettet vesions.
Tyrion from Game of Thrones said something similar to this. "Let them see that their words can cut you, and you'll never be free of the mockery. If they want to give you a name, take it, make it your own. Then they can't hurt you with it anymore." - Tyrion "Song of Fire and Ice" Very true statements. Milton Erickson likely taught the author this. :)
Actually I thought many time that Georges R.R. Martin was inspired by Milton Erickson too. When you think about Bran, unlocking capabilities by being crippled, and the wisdom of some characters
“And my wildest admiration to Dr. Milton Erickson, though I have never met him personally. He was to my mind a bone fide wide ranging genius of his time. His brilliant seminal work makes him the almost single-handed grandfather of modern hypnotism, including a large portion of my own work. Following in his footsteps, (my little footprints inside his huge ones), has lead me to the understanding of the processes of consciousness, and how to mold them for their owner's benefit. This pathway appears to unfold endlessly. His dedicated freedom to use any asset, whether it be humor, poetry, profanity or shock, for example, to better assist his clients, has expanded my own freedom and enlarged my horizons, realizing with even greater confidence than before, that if it does the job, for the client, "anything goes."” Nuff said. This is taken from the “Acknowledgements” page of my hypnosis manual, “Mind-bending For Mind-mending, Wizard Ways With Words.” (Available on www.mindmagic123.com/id66.html )
3:18 This is so true! I experienced this with someone recently who I was trying to understand their reasons for partaking in some activity. They kept giving me an unsatisfying response and I refused to be satisfied. And then right near the end as they got up to walk away, they made one last defense of what they didn't want to say, by accusing me of insulting them (which obviously made no sense with what they had told me so far, so it was obvious they had other reasons and that they knew I knew that), and then as we were 20 or so yards apart, walking away, it came out. I also realized from this, that sometimes people won't say what is hidden in them until they are seconds from disappearing--they need that safety.
It's not enough to reframe an insult from someone ......you have to understand the insult is an attempt to put you in the victim role...which you can and must avoid for your own sake. When someone of some importance to me insults me, I ask them "what does that belief of yours (the insult) say about you? Bullies dont like to look at things they do.
It's really hard not to fall asleep one night and wake back up into the world of language and masked drives. I want to hold onto this line of thought, remembering where all the information truly lies in communication, rather than getting tied up again in the surface world. Everything seems to try to reinforce the more deceptive channels of our communication.
gia b how did you come here if you even dont know about the legend of 20th century? he was so unique that he didnt ever write anything...ok than some greetings from russia
My personal favorites are Uncommon therapy: The psychiatric techniques written by Jay Haley and Teaching seminar with Milton H. Ericsson by Jeffrey Zeig
I tried this a few times in my life. Didn't work, really. Even if I made the insults mine, and didn't react emotionally to them any longer, (very challenging), the person (multiple people in my life), found other words and worse phrases to carry on... trying to belittle me... Not, possible tho. Coz, when too much is too much, I scream loud at them. And send insults back. (Although that goes against my beliefs) That.. yes, that, does make them stop! Just how it is, alas.
@WESLEY ROLLINS Well, yes, in some way. Although, I don't specifically need to win. But just be respected. They usually get truely lost on what to say or do next...to hurt me. But, they hurt themselves, the most. So sad...
@Smile Cymond And, what if the other person doesn't listen?! Then, there's only a monologue... and I hate monologues... People with personal unsolved issues, often make life hell... So sad.
Too simplistic. It depends on a whole bunch of other variables within the relationship between the "insulter" and the insulted. Roles, responsibilities, expectations, work ethic, relationship ethic, mental illness, drug abuse... these are the building blocks of a good or bad interaction with others. Sometimes when someone is talking about these things, it comes across as an insult, and if a person doesn't acknowledge their part, they will feel insulted. The "insulter" may or may not be trying to hurt their feelings, but it's easier to feel hurt than to try to do better and be better. To say everyone is whole and perfect just the way they are is a stretch, and it would take a much better person than me to completely embrace that mantra, which has become so prevalent in recent years. Sorry, I know it's not a popular opinion, but some people are, in fact, broken, and relationships suffer, spouses and children suffer, and society in general suffers. Pure insult is never the best approach, but broken people are often unable to acknowledge that their own behavior causes pain to those around them.
What a sweet man, I wish I had known him. This video didn't feel long enough. I could listen to him forever.
My God, his natural voice is already in hypnotic mode. You feel mesmerized just by hearing talk.
Your mistake is thinking this is his natural vooce. No. He is conversationally running hypnosis on the listeners. No wonder you feel like in trance . Thats the whole idea.
He reminds me of my grandfather ❤️ He used to speak in a similar manner while narrating stories of his younger days... Slow, calm, sweet ❤️
He was really something, what a guide - No one, absolutely no one can make you feel small without your permission, so follow Milton's advice and don't give it.
Im so glad I heard about this brilliant mind today. What he said just blows my mind. You know how many couples divorce over the stupidest insult but imagine if everybody did that? The divorce rate would drop and ppl wouldnt be in conflict. They would just laugh and remain in love. "Love is not easily angered." Its in the Bible. Milton Erickson is a genius. Misundertand insults on purpose and reinterpret them as jokes.
Watched this video after a couple of years again, and it amuses me how this idea is so CONSTANT, of baffling others in therapy, to help them assume their bettet vesions.
Tyrion from Game of Thrones said something similar to this.
"Let them see that their words can cut you, and you'll never be free of the mockery. If they want to give you a name, take it, make it your own. Then they can't hurt you with it anymore."
- Tyrion
"Song of Fire and Ice"
Very true statements. Milton Erickson likely taught the author this. :)
Actually I thought many time that Georges R.R. Martin was inspired by Milton Erickson too. When you think about Bran, unlocking capabilities by being crippled, and the wisdom of some characters
Amazing!
This channel is much better than the other one with his videos. You don't give a pointless intro and just let the master speak. Thank you.
amazed by his stare after he makes his point, to make sure you accept his helpful suggestion. the penetrating genius of milton erickson.
This is awesome advice✨powerful message powerful presence 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Thank you beyond words for these videos they are beyond Golden.
“And my wildest admiration to Dr. Milton Erickson, though I have never met him personally. He was to my mind a bone fide wide ranging genius of his time. His brilliant seminal work makes him the almost single-handed grandfather of modern hypnotism, including a large portion of my own work.
Following in his footsteps, (my little footprints inside his huge ones), has lead me to the understanding of the processes of consciousness, and how to mold them for their owner's benefit. This pathway appears to unfold endlessly. His
dedicated freedom to use any asset, whether it be humor, poetry, profanity or shock, for example, to better assist his clients, has expanded my own freedom and enlarged my horizons, realizing with even greater confidence than before,
that if it does the job, for the client, "anything goes."” Nuff said. This is taken from the “Acknowledgements” page
of my hypnosis manual, “Mind-bending For Mind-mending, Wizard Ways With Words.” (Available on www.mindmagic123.com/id66.html )
This guy has shaped humanity
Thank you for uploading these videos!
This is genius!
One Word: Awesome!
If somebody insults me, I say "Do you kiss your mother with those lips?!" Lol
Love that, how useful !! 😁💜🦋
3:18 This is so true! I experienced this with someone recently who I was trying to understand their reasons for partaking in some activity. They kept giving me an unsatisfying response and I refused to be satisfied. And then right near the end as they got up to walk away, they made one last defense of what they didn't want to say, by accusing me of insulting them (which obviously made no sense with what they had told me so far, so it was obvious they had other reasons and that they knew I knew that), and then as we were 20 or so yards apart, walking away, it came out.
I also realized from this, that sometimes people won't say what is hidden in them until they are seconds from disappearing--they need that safety.
Amazing Milton
sweetest sweets
It's not enough to reframe an insult from someone ......you have to understand the insult is an attempt to put you in the victim role...which you can and must avoid for your own sake. When someone of some importance to me insults me, I ask them "what does that belief of yours (the insult) say about you? Bullies dont like to look at things they do.
How do I get MP3 version?
Beautiful human
It's really hard not to fall asleep one night and wake back up into the world of language and masked drives. I want to hold onto this line of thought, remembering where all the information truly lies in communication, rather than getting tied up again in the surface world. Everything seems to try to reinforce the more deceptive channels of our communication.
Image having this grandfather in home
Amazing person 💖💫💚
Brilliant man
great!!!!!
gia b how did you come here if you even dont know about the legend of 20th century?
he was so unique that he didnt ever write anything...ok than some greetings from russia
that's where I want to get
Who Came Here From The Amanation?
This advice only works if you do not care about the person who has insulted you.
are you sure this isn't Foster Brooks?
If i were to buy one of his books, which one should i go for?
My personal favorites are Uncommon therapy: The psychiatric techniques written by Jay Haley and Teaching seminar with Milton H. Ericsson by Jeffrey Zeig
@@honzac81 Thank you sir
This is not meant to be disrespectful in any way but Did he have a stroke in his later life or did he always speak this slowly?
Probably moreso age, but yeah, almost dying is a very important moment in his life.
He had polio twice in his life. That is why he talks so slow.
I wondered the same
Amazing Dad supposed teach your kids n b there lik a friend or a “dad
I tried this a few times in my life. Didn't work, really. Even if I made the insults mine, and didn't react emotionally to them any longer, (very challenging), the person (multiple people in my life), found other words and worse phrases to carry on... trying to belittle me... Not, possible tho. Coz, when too much is too much, I scream loud at them. And send insults back. (Although that goes against my beliefs) That.. yes, that, does make them stop! Just how it is, alas.
@WESLEY ROLLINS
Well, yes, in some way. Although, I don't specifically need to win. But just be respected. They usually get truely lost on what to say or do next...to hurt me. But, they hurt themselves, the most. So sad...
@Smile Cymond
And, what if the other person doesn't listen?! Then, there's only a monologue... and I hate monologues... People with personal unsolved issues, often make life hell... So sad.
Then you are really not understood what he said
One can only do this with relatively healthy minded people... not perverted sick people.
I wish I could. Insults are like a tatoo.
The hell that was not supposed to be hot
"My husband called me an ignorant, incompetent nonentity." That's verbal abuse. Perhaps you should get yourself another husband.
MILTON ERICKSON THE BEST!
Too simplistic. It depends on a whole bunch of other variables within the relationship between the "insulter" and the insulted. Roles, responsibilities, expectations, work ethic, relationship ethic, mental illness, drug abuse... these are the building blocks of a good or bad interaction with others. Sometimes when someone is talking about these things, it comes across as an insult, and if a person doesn't acknowledge their part, they will feel insulted. The "insulter" may or may not be trying to hurt their feelings, but it's easier to feel hurt than to try to do better and be better.
To say everyone is whole and perfect just the way they are is a stretch, and it would take a much better person than me to completely embrace that mantra, which has become so prevalent in recent years. Sorry, I know it's not a popular opinion, but some people are, in fact, broken, and relationships suffer, spouses and children suffer, and society in general suffers. Pure insult is never the best approach, but broken people are often unable to acknowledge that their own behavior causes pain to those around them.