Korean Adoption Story - Episode 5 Levi's Grieving Process / Coronavirus separates Levi & Daddy 한국 입양
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- Опубликовано: 10 сен 2024
- This video is the story of our international adoption of our son Levi during the Coronavirus Covid-19 pandemic. He was 16 months old at the time of the adoption. This episode covers the difficult adjustment period of Levi's grieving and also how David's coronavirus testing at his office leads to the temporary separation of the family.
Awww big brother is so selfless. Getting his milk last making sure his brothers got theirs first. My brother is like that too! He gave me everything first growing up and still does :,D brings a happy tear to my eye
Awww; that s so sweet. My sister did the same for me to a degree
Aw I wish I had a sibling QwQ being an only child is just so lonely and boring. Having close friends is awesome but sometimes I just want a sibling whom I can take care of, bicker with, who can support and be there for each other on a familial level.
You are so lucky to have him as your brother.
Ma sha Allah ❤
@@zoi7871 I'm very lucky. God bless you too :)
I really appreciate that you are acknowledging and making space for Levi's grief. I don't see enough of this in these kind of adoption videos - any adoption, however positive and loving, means loss and rupture for a tiny child. I've never seen adoptive parents take a moment to appreciate the foster parent who cared for their child as you have. Thank you for doing that, I hope you can continue to raise Levi with this grace and compassion, and keep making space for him to feel however he feels.
My own biological child is 16 months old and it hurts my heart to imagine her taken from everything she knows: I think if she were in Levi's situation she'd be a hot mess too. It's emotionally draining as a parent to deal with a demanding, ornery, grizzling toddler you have raised from birth, but to be headfirst in this intense situation with a child you barely know yet is huge. Please keep showing him and yourselves kindness. Please continue to accept his unhappiness. And do remind yourself, when things get rough, that typical babies of his age also cry and whine, and that it is not necessarily because of something you did, or something really wrong with him. Just keep working on building that secure attachment with him.
I hope you guys are all doing OK. Since watching your first video I think of you and how you're getting on very often. You seem like wise, kind, loving and compassionate parents: I was going to say that Levi is lucky to have you, but actually this is the sort of parent every child deserves, but doesn't always get. Good luck x
Thank you so much for your kind words, I really appreciate it!
I totally agree . Toddlers have their own way of displaying grief and it can last a long time . When my daughter was 15 months , she grieved because we moved house and country . Her dad took her and her older brother for a swim while I was dealing with packers thinking this would help .
When she returned and saw her bare bedroom she burst into tears . Unlike her brother who was three, she was too young to understand that all her toys and what she knew as her room had gone to storage for the summer while we prepared to move to another country . I kept telling her she would see them in another house but she did not understand the concept .
Instead of binging on food she lost her appetite and would cry if we got out of her sight thinking we were going " to disappear " too . This lasted all summer in our home country . I was worried and had to eventually take her to the doctor's on our arrival to the new country who looked at me very suspiciously
" Your daughter is underweight by Western standards ". I had to explain to her the background . She only half believed me .
My daughter was overjoyed to see her toys when they finally arrived . Her appetite returned to normal . She was no longer withdrawn and resumed life as before .
With an uprooting as traumatic as Levi's , things are bound to take longer and require a lot of patience I wish Levi and his family well in the future .
He's close to his Daddy. This might be one of the reasons. Another is, he is longing for his foster mom who loves him much. Cuddling & hugging constantly is needed. Specially from Esther
I feel Esther has not bonded with this child
The effort you are putting into the filming technique and quality makes for a really wonderful viewing experience~ Thank you for all your hard work and again I am touched by how precious and sweet your whole family is, lots of love and God bless! xx
Myka Stauffer could learn a lot from you and your loving family.....God Bless you and keep you all safe
She's a narcissist. There's no learning for her. She has sociopathic tendencies too. She should be spayed.
Myka and James! People keep forgetting that James was a big part of it!
And the fact that james' yt channel is still running. 💀💀
Every time I watch adoption videos of you tubers.. I always think to myself 'plz don't let this be another Huxley story' 😭
It's really easy to judge people from afar and based on partial info.
“There is no way to be a perfect mother/father but a million ways to be a good one.”
You and your husband are exactly the kind of parents every child needs.
When he cries, pick him up and comfort him. He’s so young and needs affection ❤️
Aray Rocks - Maybe you’re right, but he seems to like affection.
Sometimes this isn't the case, my daughter has high separation anxiety, and when she was his age, she did not want hugs AT ALL, she'd hit and punch, so it was more about sitting down at her level and letting her understand that she's okay with her emotions and that I won't leave her and just reassuring her with a calm voice. Sometimes she'd scream at me other times she'd just lay across the floor. It took about till she was 2 and a half to understand that I will come back, so he just needs to probably understand this and will be able to cope with his emotions a bit better. Every child is different (some want hugs some do not), and I'm sure they're doing everything they can.
@@lLustfulness Thanks for sharing this.
Yes I agree ❤️😢
Treat him as an infant. Wear him as much as possible when you are doing activities. Lots of holding.
Yes the foster carer used to carry him on her back. He can hear a d feel her heartbeat which is calming.
David, I said it in the last video and I'll say it again. THANK YOU. Thank you for your dedication. It sucks you had to choose between the fight with covid vs your family. I'm so incredibly humbled to be able to watch your families journey.
Wow, that was beautifully said. They’re such great parents and David is so patient
Using Trust based parenting techniques like time-in, redos, and redirecting are helpful for children who are experiencing trauma. The over eating is also normal, because he doesn’t trust enough yet to know he will always have food.. He doesn’t do that on purpose. I’m glad you called the social worker. His trauma will take at least a year to recover from and he will need lots of reassurance and verbal explaining about what is happening so he feels secure and knows what to expect
He's a baby adjusting to a brand new world with brand new people. He's doing an amazing job. If a short period of isolation is difficult for you, imagine what Levi is feeling.
Maybe Levi internal clock is wrong. That is why he can't sleep at night.
That and maybe sing to him
Takes me more than a week to adjust to US time when I come back from visiting Asia. Must be hard for the poor little to readjust his sleeping times.
maybe some time. but when ppl cannot sleep it's often cause they miss someone. so his grief may cause it. I pray for him to heal and adjust good to his new family. ❤️
Lots of kids have night terrors after they are placed with a new family. Both my son at 2 and my daughter at 7. It took almost a year with my daughter and we got up every night for 45 minutes to an hour before she could go back to sleep.
It could also be something the foster mother was doing that they dont know about (nothing bad). My youngest wouldn't be able to fall asleep at all unless I was rubbing his hair and singing silent night to him. It is something I started when he was newborn. One night I was so tired I didn't realize that I wasn't doing what he was used to so he grabbed my hand and put it on his head and started to sing.
In rearing a child, if you shower him with love, he will reciprocate. About Levi, he is still adjusting emotionally. LOVE is all he needs. Hugs and kisses too! He's longing for his daddy, and foster parents love! Waiting for next episode
Yes!! Love is the only answer! Please refrain from time-outs and other things that could make him feel abandoned again. Just shower him with love and explain his unique situation to your other sons. You can still say a firm "no", when he hits someone, but please don't let him alone in a time-out (in Europe that ist not a common practice in loving families). Just put yourself in his position. He must feel so alone and insecure. You seem so lovely, just love him as much as you can!
No, they're right. It can look hard because he's adapting, and of course love is important, but you can't let kids get away with bad behaviours. You give them an inch and they take a mile.
I had a little cousin with my aunt move with my family for a while They had problems, so my cousin being upset was understandable but my aunt never did anything to stop him because she didn't want him to upset him further or hurt his feelings. My cousin was 4 at the moment but he used to hit and bit me and throw me things just because he felt like it and my aunt never did anything to correct him. My point: It's wrong to teach children that they are allowed to hurt others just because they are in pain.
@@zoraschumacher8965 in Europe, time outs are extremely common as is discipline. Grief, anxiety and frustration is very hard for an adult not to mention a child but allowing hitting, biting etc is doing more harm- it actually makes them more anxious, more upset and more frustrated. Yes, it's a unique situation and they obviously shower him with love but they are also teaching him what to do when he gets upset, frustrated etc and acting out is certainly not what to do.
You need to teach kids how to deal with their emotions and that actions have reactions and consequences. If they are not taught early that there are boundaries and consequences for their actions then it will take Soo much longer as they get older. Also, when they're are other kids watching one child being treated so differently it can have an negative effect on them and they will start acting out. There can be a domino effect. As I said this is a unique situation (not uncommon as there are more adoptions now than there were years ago), so you might need to look at situations a bit differently but the outcome you want will always be the same. Teaching and encouraging a child to verbalise how they are feeling instead of allowing them to act out is Soo much more beneficial and will help them as they grow up.
Honestly, looking at some of the next generations, you can definitely see those that never had boundaries or new there were consequences for their actions.
@@mirandadelaviska he's still too young, but if he reaches the age of 2, that's the right time to discipline, he would already understand why he is scolded.
We brought our little boy, 8, home from China last summer. The grief, anger, heartache and fear our little adopted kiddos have is so heartbreaking. But after 10.5 months, our son is a whole different child. He has learned compassion (there was never any space for that in the orphanage), he’s learned patience, what love means, and even to express his new emotions. He’s been able to ask “I’m so happy but I don’t know why my heart wants to cry.” We have talked about tears of joy and what that is. He has just been allowed to be a kid for the last 10.5 months and that has been so healing. His bursts of animalistic rage have reduced dramatically. Keep going mamas and papas of adoptive kids. It’s not an easy road but such a worthy and amazing road.
What a testimony! Thank you so much for sharing that with us!
My experience with adopted kids which I have done 11 times is that if you rush through grieving or don’t allow it at all (we didn’t know about it in the “olden times”), the price you pay later is overwhelming for all concerned. Congrats, mamacita, for your wisdom and knowledge at such a young age! Lucky boys!
Both of my kids cried one month straight when I dropped them off at daycare. I can only imagine Levi is going through something similar. Also, my daughter would gorge food like that too and throw things at her big brother. Hang in there.
my son cried for hours at daycare-- for months! I had to pivot and change how would depart. I would stay for at least 30 mins reading and playing with the toys with him. After a few months doing this, he would just run to the daycare center door not even saying goodbye to me. Kids adapt
@@marig9236 my son just started day care 2 weeks ago. He is 23 months old and has been with me all the time. It’s just me and my husband living in Japan. (We are not Japanese) my heart aches and I cry every day after dropping my son at the day care. I’m not allowed to go in at least because of the Covid situation. He is kept for just three hours still and he refuse to eat only drinks his fluids. After starting day care my son feels so angry easily and growls at me. But he feels bad and soon kisses me. I don’t know what to do but I need to work also and at the same time I feel so guilty.
My son was like that it’s because he was starved before I adopted him n ur doing a great job with him God bless y’all it will get better
Does he have Pica? As far as I know it is common to the children at adoption centers? Not sure. I hope your son is well now.
I cried so hard watching him cry. He's just so scared, please don't give up on him ever. If he hits another kid, it is probably because he was hit himself and just doesn't understand. please don't give up on him.
Hitting is so common in small children. It's a way to communicate when toddlers can't talk or express themselves. It would be wrong to believe kids do it for attention (like cough the stauffers said in the adoption vlog i was like wtf that kid is grieving)... Anything small kids do is always for them, not against anyone. It hurts my heart when people think toddlers are crying because they are being stubborn or attention seeking or manipulative.
Please don't give up on him like that other youtuber.
@@Sky2Mina well said!
@@Sky2Mina Yes, some children hit for attention. It doesn't mean they hit for purpose of hurting someone. Working in childcare I can tell that some children as u said cannot communicate their needs, but they figure out that hitting someone and making other kid cry will bring carer's attention very quickly. Some of children also enjoy intense reactions of children who they hit or bite, because itself it may be an interesting sensory experience. Everything else what u said is completly right :)
@@kamucha1993 I think you hit the nail on the head...small children cannot always communicate with their words and it can be attention seeking behavior. Biting can occur when the child is SO frustrated, he/she just doesn't know what else to do. With proper intervention, adults can absolutely help minimize these behaviors over time, but it can be so challenging to go through this! Levi's parents seem incredibly patient and well -informed and clearly have reached out to an adoption counselor for help, so I hope they get some relief soon. This little guy is so very loved and soon he will come to trust that.
"He adopts us for eternity" im not crying you are
I believe it's common for orphaned children to hoard food and some of the hitting, biting, etc. Another you tube family experienced this after they had a new baby and they "rehomed" him which was the worst thing. It will pass and yes, you must discipline because it will create domino effect. I'm so sorry you are feeling stressed . This too shall pass. I'm glad you reached out instead of giving up on him. He needs you. You two are best family for him.
The Stauffers can't measure up with this family. . .they are as greedy and self-serving as can be
Agree "it is normal" part but not so much with rest. Of course you don't let kids hit or hurt anyone. Please check out Parenting junkie, she is amazing!!
@@maryw1778 I was trying not to say their name lol. Yes. This family are true believers and practice their faith.
Myka Stauffers is vile and used and abused her adopted son to make money and disposed of him when it became inconvenient to her lifestyle. This family is amazing.
Evil Stauffers
We had a foster placement of a 2 year old boy and 4 year old girl for 11 months. Pretty much 6 months on the dot they started to realize they were safe, that following the rules wasn't giving up the last shred of control they had. It was a tough 6 months but the turn around was mind blowing. Keep at it, you two are doing great!
I hope Levi can adjust soon and grow closer to you guys. It's always refreshing to see the all aspects of adoption. This doesn't take away of the beautiful act you have done but it just gives a glimpse of the whole picture.
I had to watch the video again because I think that Levi is absolutely precious. If you are familiar with The Little Couple, Dr. Jennifer and Mr. Bill Klein, you will recall that their daughter Zoey cried for 3 MONTHS I believe. Levi will be fine soon enough but the separation from his dad at this time may prolong his settling into the family. Your faith is strong. You will all be fine in God's time.
This video made me cry. I am so glad you and your husband are grounded in your faith and not afraid to speak up about the challenges with adoption. I was adopted and I do not think my parents, esp my Mom had this kind of support and encouragement. It must have been difficult for her to feel so alone in parenting adopted children.
Yes. Internet can be a harsh place and of course people still judge, but we wanted to be as transparent as we could be for the future parents considering adoption.
He just really needs hugs and kisses. Just like us adults, when we are in grief, we want to be either hugged and kissed.
Thank you for the words from Ephesians 1.... I needed that reminder-- that God predestined us for adoption into His family, and He's in it for the long haul.
We also adopted our son from Korea and after watching your video I realized we had the same foster mom! The grieving is so tough but it’s all worth it!!!
What???????? No way!!!!!! What is your son’s korean name? I just contacted the foster mom and told her and she’s so excited! She wants to know! I keep in touch with her and her account she has a picture of every baby she fostered.
Korean Family Adventures Wow, that is so awesome!! Do you have a private message I can contact to share more? I would love to get in touch with her via her account as we have been mailing letters and pictures for the past few years.
I sent you a message on FB
am i the only one who comes back to this channel everyday to see if they've uploaded a new video, regardless if i have the bell notification on?
omg saaaaaaaaaaaaaame i'm can't wait for the next one!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sorry for the long wait, my husband was super busy and didn’t have time to edit videos. But I am happy to say episode 6 is online now!
quality is better than quantity. with two boys at home it must be a challenge and hectic at times. Keep up the great work! :)
You both are great parents; very patient. May God bless you and your family.
Thank you for showing the good times and the difficult times. It's easy to forget that there is both loss and not just joy surrounding adoption. Love to see your updates! Thank you David for your work and also he could not do what he does without a great women like Esther behind him!
ive been waiting for an update!! i appreciate that you guys are open about the more difficult aspects of the adoption, it was really educational to learn about levi's grieving behaviors. it sounds really tough and hard to experience, but you guys seem to be handling it beyond well. its also so inspiring to see david take matters into his own hands and test his patients even with the huge sacrifices that requires. hope you all stay healthy and safe, cant wait for the next video!
Omg this family is so healthy and loving! Please adopt me 😭
Finally another episode. The kids are so cute and i hope everything will be okay soon in God’s grace. ❤️❤️❤️
Just wondering why u eat so many soya bean and milk and what nutritional value u get from it.,thanks..Ur family are beautiful..ur wee man is grieving and ok don't always believe it's fair to take children away from there own country but u are both lovely parents..you can just be hugging him when he crys from sadness ☹️
He is badly missing his sourroundings his foster family... his eyes his whinning shows how badly he miss her foster mother
A child who is either crying or laughing, just like adults, is expressing what he feels. If Levi cries, ask him why, and hug him afterwards
A lovely video and I know how draining a child can be away from home as I used to work in a childrens orphanage in UK. The behaviour that Levi is demonstrating is difficult to deal with and fairly normal, it's a good if painful sign. The good thing about it is that he is showing posiitive attachment behaviour , attached to his former care giver. This is very very helpful and a good thing. Some children in this situation are very emotionless. They haven't attached to the former care giver and have shut down. They are easy to manage initially, but may rock and self comfort, to deal internally with the feelings This is easier in the short term, but is very much harder long term to deal with. A locked down chld is usually unable to bond with the new parents as he has never experienced or given love, he is too afraid of the loss. So Levi has been well cared for and loved and will bit by bit grow to love you all too, it just takes a while. I will enjoy your story and am fulll of praise for your insight and love for all your children.
Precious moments~ I"ts wonderful Levi found such patient, caring parents.
You are correct on aggressive testing to flatten the curve, unfortunately the government didn't realize this until later! I'm an adult but I would love you for my parents or my Dr! Absolutely wonderful people and family!! Bless you always!
Through this adjustment period I am very happy that your family still remains spiritually grounded in the Lord. And this too shall pass and the move was the best decision for the young ones including Levi the Mighty!
Hang in there mom, and dad, I think that you’re great parents, and are doing a fantastic job!
God bless your precious family.🙏🏻✝️❤️
You both have the right temperament in your hearts to see you through this time. When you were talking to him about time out my heart felt your connection. He was listening dad, each day is a new day. I will hold you in my prayers. Thank you for caring for your families and community.
Thank you for your honesty Esther. Your videos are so refreshing as you tell it as it is. You are such a sweetheart.Wishing continued good health for your entire family at this difficult time. May God give you the patience needed to give Levi all the love and support he requires during the difficult grieving process.Take care sweetie.
Forget the 'Karen' types, trying to tell you how to raise your children ♡ you guys are doing great ♡
just binged all levi’s journey videos yesterday! so glad to get an update. you are all in my prayers!
I love your honesty. So refreshing to see you being transparent about his struggles.
Poor baby. He doesn't understand & is confused & scared...i hope he's began to understand what a beautiful family he gets to be apart of now.
You guys are awesome parents. It’s so important to set boundaries early on. Same with teaching how to pray. Unconditional love and feeling safe are the two most important things to a child! You have those things mastered.
This is truly eye opening. Heart breaking for Levi, but also for you Esther. How completely exhausting & physically heart wrenching for you. I also really feel for your older children. To have such chaos & stress in their house.
thank you for being so honest with what you are experiencing and share this time with so many people, it really is amazing how you are so patient and understanding during this time and i hope that you get back home soon.
I just love david's thoughts.
I just love this!! I’m an adoptive mom through foster care and o remember the adjustment period of crying going to bed, so sad!! Bless you!!❤️
I love how you decided to discipline him. He has to learn from the start that no matter how hurt he feels, it's never ok to take it out on others.
Nonsense
Thank you for being transparent about your adoption of Levi. Know that this grieving process happens in many different scenarios even for children as they enter the school/learning environment for the first time. From observing the patience and how you both take the time to analyse patterns of behaviour in Levi, he definitely is with his family. You all are blessed to have each other. Keep doing what you are doing, you all will benefit 🙏🏽
Someday when become a parent, I hope to be as patient as you guys
Korean Family Adventures - I remember watching some of the adoption episodes of The Little Couple. Their daughter literally SCREAMED at the top of her lungs for months. Thankfully - She is now a happy, calm little girl. If you can find the episode, I would HIGHLY recommend watching it. I think it will encourage you and let you know there is an end to this challenging time.
I remember what they went through.
Thank you for all what you are doing! Your family is like the light and the salt! May our God bless this family!
It is so great to see the 2 older brothers and especially Ezra who could of been jealous showing Levi how to do things and giving him food
All three of your boys are so beautiful! You’re amazing parents. God bless you. Baby Levi is so precious. I just want to snuggle him. 🥰
What a brave mom you are! You both have a calmness that can only help him to adjust.
"Eating everything in sight"
He is trying to fill the emotional hole that is inside him pining for his foster mom and everything he has lost.
he is lucky to have you guys. i know God will bless you and guide u in this journey. love from Aizawl💕
It's So nice to see how well Levi is fitting right into the family, I really admire the interest you take on what you feed your Children (family) I hope other young parents will do the same, it's Very important, to many chemical prepared foods that Cause lot of illnesses, including Cancer, May God Continue to Bless your Family..
Gosh Levi is adorable ❤️ I remember the first few months, it's never easy. All the things you mentioned are very normal. I'm hoping things start to settle to your new normal soon.
Love how y'all film it like a documentary, very cool! 👍🏼👏🏼
This made me cry. May God continue to give you the strength and capacity to shower this little angel with love he has been through a lot. Hopefully the life you are going to give him will help him to forget the pain of losing his parents and the trauma of being in an orphanage. I’m so happy you found him.
The crying and carrying on means he's a bright little boy, knows what's up w adoption and is processing it as best he can.
I am in awe of your family. I have eagerly been waiting this video. Sharing about the scripture in Ephesians really blessed me. May God continue to bless your family and make your paths straight. Thank you so much for sharing.
it is so important to hear you guys say that you will love Levi unconditionally despite the difficulties you face, especially since Myka Stauffer gave up the child she adopted from China after 3 years of having him. Levi is so blessed to have a loving family
Watching this precious little boy go through the morning process truly breaks my heart to watch him cry like that. I pray that the good Lord will bring healing to his heart. May God bless you
See this is what I would have liked to see with Huxley. You saw a problem, you got help, you adjusted to meet his needs, you understood the time he needs. You let him eat, you're teaching him how to pace, you allow him to cry but you reassure him. That's parenting.
Thank you for sharing the truth of grieving process and adjustment experiences. I'm glad that you had an agency contact person for guidance. I'm looking forward to your next video:) Hang in there Esther, we will be praying for your family. I am so happy you have your parents for support.
These five episodes are the most beautiful and heartwarming, telling the story of Levi’s adoption. The faith, love and kindness your family exudes is priceless. Thank you for sharing the honest struggles of adoption, hang in there Esther, my prayers will be for your whole family .
I've been hooked since the first episode. you have such a beautiful family. Esther and DAvid, your love for God and just the way you both are is making me wish I had raised my children like that. I don't know how to explain it but I just feel a sense of calm while watching all of these videos. From my point of view, you both are doing the best you can, Levi will grow out of it and because of you two, your boys will be such wonderful young men. God has really blessed you two and I'm so thankful that you both met and have stuck together and have such great understanding for life and the sacrifices you had to make for the sake of your children and yourselves. YOur love is strong. Your prayers are strong. Your hope is strong. God Bless! Much love from Hawaii.
these people are just so amazing, gentle, understanding, close to god, loving, caring, and everything that a good parent is!! god bless you guys i spend every single second of every video tearing up and trying not to cry. lots of love and respect from madrid💜
Thank you for sharing the hard moments. I am in the process of adopting and have read about grieving and food hoarding. It's nice to see we will not be alone and that you shared this without compromising his dignity, but giving tips and advice and a glimpse into how it may look.
아기가 겪고있을 힘듦과 엄마아빠가 겪고 있는 과정또한 모두 이해가 되는 영상이에요ㅠㅠ... 남일이도 엄마아빠도 시간이 해결해줄것이라 생각됩니다~ 한국에서도 못하는 일을 해내고 계신 두분이 너무 존경스럽고~ 조금만 더 남일이를 위해 벼텨주세요 두분~ 코로나때문에 세아이 육아때문에 힘든 와중에 힘내시라고 한국에서 기도할께요💙 더불어 남일이가 얼른 편안해지길바래봅니다🙏🏻
God is in it “for the long haul” and you are as well. Not all adoptive families feel the same way. Blessings to your beautiful family!
I wish i had discovered your channel earlier!!! Thx for sharing and this kind of content is what we desperately need in this country now
You pick a song to sing to him when he wakes up and it will become his healing song ...
Levi is so blessed to be part of this family. God bless you all.
I know you aren't showing everything but I am a preschool teacher and I've loved more babies through this heartbreaking, yet heartwarming, period of time. I think you and Levi are doing amazing and yes...time will heal his wounds and before you know it, all of this will just be a memory ❤ Keep up the good work Mama!!! I will keep your beautiful family in my prayers 🙏🏾❤
I am so glad you decided to show all sides to adoption I think it’s so important for ppl to see that. Your family is beautiful. God Bless you all.
Esther, you were meant to be Levi's mom! I appreciate you! Such a good example! Bless you all!
I think hoarding food is levi's coping mechanism to this unfamiliar and new situation which can be really daunting for such a young child. I hope the grieving will get easier for him he is such a lovely child ❤️
According to the ERIK ERIKSON's stages of Psychosocial Development, Baby Levi is on the TRUST versus MISTRUST stage. During this stage, the infant is uncertain about the world in which they live, and looks towards their primary caregiver for stability and consistency of care. If the care the infant receives is consistent, predictable and reliable, they will develop a sense of trust which will carry with them to other relationships, and they will be able to feel secure even when threatened. I believe his new family could give him more than psychosocial care but spiritual leading in consonance with God's love... Thanks for the inspiration, Dr. David and Ma'am Esther... Love from the Philippines, near Mountain View College.. 💝💞❤️
I give you so much credit for giving Levi such a loving home.
Thankyou for sharing! You are courageous for showing also the more difficult sides of the adoption process. Best of luck! 💕
Levi starved a lot before adoption. Please don’t punish him for that. Give him Atleast 1 year. God bless you both according to the goodness of your heart. Always remember you have to discipline him like the other kids. You love him the same like others, you probably will have a tendency to say Levi doesn’t even know, he didn’t even think or compare him with other kids. Levi is Levi. His soul is so precious to God, don’t hurt him because his 1 drop of tear is 1000 drops of our tears. May God bless him and other precious kids of yours.
God adopted all for eternity and you decided to love your adpotee child unconditionally is sooooooo true and very touching. You two got your great loving qualities from God indeed; fantastic adoptees yourselves. Tears tears. And such a wonderful video quality and editing.
Seth, ezra and levi are so cute...Good job eomma and appa... You guy's are amazing... Jesus bless your family 👪 a lot of love from Indonesia 😀😍
I thought Ezra with the dandelion was not only cute but showed that he's a problem solver and very smart too!
I know it breaks your heart and gives you stress when Levi cries or you have to discipline him, but I think you're doing a wonderful job with all of your children. Hang in there. I'm praying for you and your family. God is watching over you and wants to help you. I'm sorry that covid-19 is making it even harder. I agree with the more aggressive testing and I wish everyone would wear masks and take precautions but I feel many people don't care.
Thank you for sharing your family with us. Hang in there.
I am a Korean adoptee from the SDA orphanage who was adopted into an SDA family in 1959. If my parents would have had the knowledge you have, they could have avoided so much sadness during my transition in trying adjusted to a new family, country, culture & language. I am in my early 70’s now & I am so grateful for my blessed life That God gave my adopted family & new
Country. Thank you so much for sharing your adoption story. I subscribe so I can follow your beautiful family.
Your family is such a wonderful healthy example to be on RUclips. My heart goes out to you.
oh i wanted to add - its been proven when children have boundaries they feel a lot more secure, so i think not to worry about this with Levi. and from my experience as a Nanny children go off into that naughty moment and don't know how to real themselves in so it def helps to have someone help them. i'd suggest during this time have maybe 2/3 quite or chill times thru the day (quiet reading/chilled music etc) because children really get overstimulated and often that's when the naughty moments arise, best of luck! thank you for sharing
Thank you for sharing the good and the difficult times. This is especially great to hear of how devoted you guys are to your son Levi no matter what. I am sure you are aware of the Myka Stauffer.s story and how I feel she gave up on her adopted son because she did not want to to put in the time anymore since Huxley was difficult and may be at home forever. I have heard children with special need takes a lot of work and there are good and bad days and extremely frustrating days and your whole life changes. No parent asks for their child to have a disability. It is not a choice for children. Anyways, I wish you all the best and I can't imagine how difficult it was to leave David for the time being. I have watched other families where they talk about their adopted son, scarfing their food down and eating it really fast and sometimes even throwing up their food inside their mouth and eating it again. There is a proper term for that however I cannot remember it right now. They were saying the reason why kids do this is sometimes in orphanage there weren't a lot of carers so when feeding time came. The fed each child really fast so that they could get through all the kids during meal time. Also, sometimes kids were not always given a proper meal or enough food so when they saw the food they would stuff themselves on purpose. I hope things get better for you. I am glad you are with your parents. Love to all ️❤️️❤️️❤️️❤️️❤️
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"No parent asks for their child to have a disability" The Stauffers asked for the kid to have a disability and got what they asked for.
Thank you for sharing your story. This video is beautifully edited, I feel like I’m watching a documentary. Every time I used to watch adoption videos I would always see the joyful side, I never even thought about the grieving process for the child. This was very informative & real. Thank you David for being on the front lines during these hard times. Looking forward to more videos from you guys. God bless your family!
Thank you so much for your transparency. I love seeing your family not because it is interesting but because I can see God’s love, goodness, grace, patience and faithfulness in your family. Please don’t stop uploading, it is much deeper than just a video about a family. God bless you all.
This episode is honest, and not sugar coated. Thank you for giving a true sense of what the acclimation period is like. Adopting a young child is really hard work. Poor little Levi is coping, the following 6-months will be a true test to your commitment.
I know this part of your journey can be a very intense & difficult... emotional & at times overwhelmingly confusing & stressfu too. It can ALSO be difficult to share those parts of ourselves & issues involving grief with others.
So THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING THIS PART OF YOURSELVES WITH US.
If God put this in your hearts to share then I am certain there is a reason for it. He is using you in a beautiful way & I thank you for your selfless obedience & the transparent love & education you are sharing with the world too. Way to set the bar ! Keep using your voice & your platform.
Your entire family is in my prayers & I am sending you guys my love & support from Indiana ❤
All the sacrifice and hard work will pay off. You have alot of love to give him and God will give you the energy and patience you need to pull through this time. I see his demeanor and how he listens to you and David and how Lost he feels. My heart aches but we can tell you love him and your children are so sweet to him. Thanks for sharing the good and the bad times! God bless you on this journey!!! He will bless you for your hard work.
Levi is starting to look a bit like Esther... Or it's just me. Love the boys being sweet to baby Levi. You guys did a great job raising these 2 cuties.
To me all the Asian faces are familiar. It is called " the other race" effect. Our brains develop that. I have a problem with telling faces apart in general and to me the three brothers are almost identical and I have to look to their height to tell who is Levi.
@@lienbijs1205 Did u check your eyes?
@@Rosieway01 Yes, every year. What about your eyes? Or do you have more often reading difficulties in understanding text?
I have wanted to adopt since i was a teenager. I just had my first baby and i want to adopt now more than ever. I can't imagine a baby being deprived the love I have for my son. Even though i am happy levi found such a loving family it still breaks my heart to think of what he has endured.
I admire how you selflessly opened your hearts to adoption and made Levi a part of your family. You have wonderful parenting skills. I like how David gently explained to Levi that it’s not ok to hit his brother. You are a wonderful couple and a beautiful family. Praying that God continues to richly bless your family.
David and Esther y'all are doing a phenomenal job considering EVERYTHING else going on in the world...this too shall pass!! The transitional period has to be very tough for everyone...I think especially for Levi. It WILL get better loves❣❣What better place to go than my state of Tennessee!! And on a farm I love it!! I'd love to see y'all post some recipes for seaweed wraps and other foods y'all make...when things settle down of course!! 😀 😉😁 Continued prayers and blessings to y'all 💝☝️💝☝️💝☝️
너무 아름다운 가족이네요💓주 아버지의 사랑과 은혜와 축북이 언제나 늘 함께 하길 기도합니다🙏💓