My #1 Narc Rule = I give zero personal information to these people. No opinions about anything. No reactions/no emotions. They weaponize everything against you. Everything is "wrong" with everybody else. I've found that even giving your address is a mistake. Because then your house is too small or too big. Or you're too poor or too rich. Or there's something wrong with the city you live. Or so-and-so has this house/stuff, etc etc... Sick of the BS.
But, how do you get to know each other at all if you share NO opinions, or any other things about you? Seems like all relationships would have to remain superficial...fake. Even, "How's the weather?", asks for an opinion after all.
The thought of being a piece of furniture . That is disgusting . But also true . They use only for whatever is for their own convenience as much as possible . Never caring . Only phoniness ,lies . ♥️😇🕊️
Narcissists are so weird. They often mirror and parrot others around them in their actions and communications but they also project their thoughts and understandings onto those same individuals in which they mimic. It’s crazy. They judge people as if they are you criticizing them. This is my experience anyway.
@@Zatanna22 Yep, the projection is totally insane. The other day my covert narc mom randomly mused that "Your dad would be overcome with anxiety instead of dealing with the problem directly." Like lady... this is you exactly. Though I say nothing of course. All of her toxic relational, communication, and behavioral patterns are projected onto everybody else.
... & help understanding what we may be dealing with & what they think/feel. Plus, biggest help might be ability to recognize them when you meet them & can ..."Run!" Run fast & far! Do not look back, lest you be turned to stone. 🌞
The furniture thing, omg, its true! I visualize him as a 5 y/o girl, with a doll house full of tiny furniture and tiny dolls. His mind has the depth of a 5 y/o girl, too. And he's a medical professional. Scarey, right? These ppl could be your doctor, your pharmacist, your child's teacher and you have no idea, so watch out and THINK first, before getting too close to anyone.
Including some therapists too. The last medical doctor I visited just did not care and had no empathy. I looked him up online and other people were saying similar things in their reviews. They supposedly want to "help other people" but many of them are status-oriented people.
An individual who has a narcissistic personality style is a HOLLOW human whose whole purpose in life is to TAKE~ from us. That is THEIR Supply used to "appear" Healthy. That's a losing battle! Appearing Healthy is good from far, but far from good Ain't nothing like the REAL thing, baby! Healthy is as Healthy does. Stay Healthy!!
Doctor Carter, I've been with you on Team Healthy for over 3 years now. This little short session is such a tightly packed nugget, full of wisdoms. I love cracking open the wonder of your learned words. Pure gold! You've helped me so much, Dr. C., Thank you.
I’m going to tell him why doesn’t he work on himself instead of complaining about what I’m doing ! I told him to quit try to steal my brother self-esteem and get his own because every day after work he would come home and complain about my brother just out of the blue we weren’t talking about my brother we hadn’t talked about him in months but every day after work he would talk about what a loser. My brother was he was an alcoholic and he was mentally ill so I finally just told him one day why don’t you stop trying to steal my brother’s self-esteem and get your own and he shut up and he never talked about him again
The part he said about furniture needing to be arranged . Lately when my boyfriend picks me up we been together I've 13 yrs I didn't know in the beginning I was with a narcissist now I know it's gotten a lot worse and a comment he started making to me see he picks me up and takes me home until I lost my car I didn't need a ride but I have no car now anyways he says. I'm Sick of hauling you around.. and I thought am I a piece of furniture . But the way he said it makes me feel like a piece of junk . Ok I'm done now peace. One day I'll open my eyes I hope...
That was worded on point especially with the arranged part. I prefer to be who I am and make my own decisions about what I want to change about myself instead of so called officials who think they have the right to decide who should undergo behavioral modification. Those individuals can just kmass 👍👍👍
The most frustrating is the Christian narcist. Imagine a believer not believing the word, and getting defensive with someone who try's to encourage them with the word. I dusted off my sandals on that one.
Still doesn't make sense to me. I don't know how they feel better about themselves by spreading judgmental slander. And how they feel sorry for themselves when they break down families and stir up strife.
wow so they distract themselfs from thier own problems by obsessing over other people & what thier doing.gosh.insights welcome to help us understand them,could they heal past,give up addictions & then grow fully into thier full potential? hope they can .josh 😊
It's ALL ABOUT CONTROL AND THATS IT
My #1 Narc Rule = I give zero personal information to these people. No opinions about anything. No reactions/no emotions. They weaponize everything against you.
Everything is "wrong" with everybody else. I've found that even giving your address is a mistake. Because then your house is too small or too big. Or you're too poor or too rich. Or there's something wrong with the city you live. Or so-and-so has this house/stuff, etc etc... Sick of the BS.
But, how do you get to know each other at all if you share NO opinions, or any other things about you? Seems like all relationships would have to remain superficial...fake. Even, "How's the weather?", asks for an opinion after all.
Maybe seek out less critical & argumentative people?
@ I mean people you already know to be toxic. For people you don't know, ease into it. For emotionally healthy people, you can be more open.
You've effectively described my mother
Their internal superiority, just like satan did to God......
Yes
Yep
Perfectly said. Sadly, too true.
piece of furniture that needs to be arranged💥🦅🐐
The thought of being a piece of furniture .
That is disgusting . But also true . They use only for whatever is for their own convenience as much as possible . Never caring . Only phoniness ,lies . ♥️😇🕊️
Narcissists are so weird. They often mirror and parrot others around them in their actions and communications but they also project their thoughts and understandings onto those same individuals in which they mimic. It’s crazy. They judge people as if they are you criticizing them. This is my experience anyway.
You said that very well. The critical things they say to you seem to actually be what you should be saying to them.
@@Zatanna22 VERY true!
@@martininsf mind blowing. Leaves you feeling extremely confused if you've never met someone like this.
@@Zatanna22 Yep, the projection is totally insane. The other day my covert narc mom randomly mused that "Your dad would be overcome with anxiety instead of dealing with the problem directly." Like lady... this is you exactly. Though I say nothing of course. All of her toxic relational, communication, and behavioral patterns are projected onto everybody else.
They need you to be "less than" why they need to be " more than "
No one will be sticking around too long...
Yes, exactly! I've noticed that. It's rather infuriating! 🤨
we love Dr. C around💛
thank you, your knowledge & words are so healing. be blessed.❣️
... & help understanding what we may be dealing with & what they think/feel.
Plus, biggest help might be ability to recognize them when you meet them & can ..."Run!" Run fast & far! Do not look back, lest you be turned to stone. 🌞
The furniture thing, omg, its true! I visualize him as a 5 y/o girl, with a doll house full of tiny furniture and tiny dolls. His mind has the depth of a 5 y/o girl, too. And he's a medical professional. Scarey, right? These ppl could be your doctor, your pharmacist, your child's teacher and you have no idea, so watch out and THINK first, before getting too close to anyone.
I dated a doctor just like this. He's a hospitalist in Pittsburgh.
Including some therapists too. The last medical doctor I visited just did not care and had no empathy. I looked him up online and other people were saying similar things in their reviews. They supposedly want to "help other people" but many of them are status-oriented people.
An individual who has a narcissistic personality style is a HOLLOW human whose whole purpose in life is to TAKE~ from us. That is THEIR Supply used to "appear" Healthy. That's a losing battle!
Appearing Healthy is good from far, but far from good
Ain't nothing like the REAL thing, baby!
Healthy is as Healthy does.
Stay Healthy!!
Yes
Yes
Lot's of psychological businesss they haven't come to terms with. That's one way to put it.
SPOT ON 🎉🎉🎉🎉❤
Doctor Carter, I've been with you on Team Healthy for over 3 years now. This little short session is such a tightly packed nugget, full of wisdoms. I love cracking open the wonder of your learned words. Pure gold! You've helped me so much, Dr. C., Thank you.
Thanks, Nancy! #TeamHealthy
He really is amazing! A real gem, wouldn't you agree?
I’m going to tell him why doesn’t he work on himself instead of complaining about what I’m doing ! I told him to quit try to steal my brother self-esteem and get his own because every day after work he would come home and complain about my brother just out of the blue we weren’t talking about my brother we hadn’t talked about him in months but every day after work he would talk about what a loser. My brother was he was an alcoholic and he was mentally ill so I finally just told him one day why don’t you stop trying to steal my brother’s self-esteem and get your own and he shut up and he never talked about him again
The part he said about furniture needing to be arranged . Lately when my boyfriend picks me up we been together I've 13 yrs I didn't know in the beginning I was with a narcissist now I know it's gotten a lot worse and a comment he started making to me see he picks me up and takes me home until I lost my car I didn't need a ride but I have no car now anyways he says. I'm Sick of hauling you around.. and I thought am I a piece of furniture . But the way he said it makes me feel like a piece of junk . Ok I'm done now peace. One day I'll open my eyes I hope...
Truth. Thank you , Dr C. Bless you.
That was worded on point especially with the arranged part. I prefer to be who I am and make my own decisions about what I want to change about myself instead of so called officials who think they have the right to decide who should undergo behavioral modification. Those individuals can just kmass 👍👍👍
...so very insightful indeed, many thanks Dr. C and please be safe and take care Dr. C., Gus and Team Healthy🙏🌷🕊💝🤗
They are the porcupine of the animal world.
LOL... 🦔... Good 1...!
Thank you ❤
Piece of property
EXACTLY. Perfectly stated.
They are so judgemental for people the relationships family I mean I mean this is what they do you know cuz they hate themselves
Ha! Talk about being objectified. 🤨
Thank You
The most frustrating is the Christian narcist. Imagine a believer not believing the word, and getting defensive with someone who try's to encourage them with the word. I dusted off my sandals on that one.
General loathing of other people.
Thanks, that was very insightful. Well done!!!
Still doesn't make sense to me. I don't know how they feel better about themselves by spreading judgmental slander. And how they feel sorry for themselves when they break down families and stir up strife.
What an insightful post!
That describes my mom!
I can't stand jealousy.
Oh wow, this is good🤌💞🫂🪽🙌✝️✅✊
wow so they distract themselfs from thier own problems by obsessing over other people & what thier doing.gosh.insights welcome to help us understand them,could they heal past,give up addictions & then grow fully into thier full potential? hope they can .josh 😊
Wow! Just wow. I always wondered ...
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