Dating Women in Ecuador | A Candid Exploration.
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- Опубликовано: 8 сен 2024
- Navigating Love and Relationships Abroad: Dating Women in Ecuador | A Candid Exploration.
Join me on a captivating journey as I delve into the world of dating and relationships in Ecuador! In this video, I shed light on the subject of international romance and provide valuable insights for those interested in forming connections with women from different cultures, including Ecuador.
As a RUclips creator sharing my experiences living in Ecuador and specializing in retirement, I understand that dating and relationships can be a fascinating aspect of life abroad. While it's true that some North American men are drawn to South American countries in search of relationships, it's important to approach this topic with an open mind and respect for cultural differences.
Join me on this captivating journey as I navigate the intricacies of dating women in Ecuador. By approaching this topic with sensitivity, respect, and a genuine desire for connection, I hope to inspire and empower individuals seeking meaningful relationships across borders.
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A country might look good on paper, or on a RUclips video, but what about the “Chemistry” between you, the individual and the country and culture as a whole?
This is something we can’t know in advance. We can only make our move, dive in and test the waters…….and see how it goes.
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The views expressed in this video are in no way intended to be taken as advice on retirement, migrating to Ecuador, investing, buying insurance, or getting your immigration documentation.
I am not responsible for any decision you make after watching my videos.
I don't give advice and I don't recommend anything unless it is based on my own personal, verifiable experience.
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Remember this folks.
A country might look good on paper, or on a RUclips video, but what about the “Chemistry” between you, the individual and the country and culture as a whole?
This is something we can’t know in advance. We can only make our move, dive in and test the waters…….and see how it goes.
If you can't walk on water, freeze it
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The views expressed in this video are in no way intended to be taken as advice on retirement, migrating to Ecuador, investing, buying insurance, or getting your immigration documentation.
I am not responsible for any decision you make after watching my videos.
I don't give advice and I don't recommend anything unless it is based on my own personal, verifiable experience.
I want to be sure that the information I provide is accurate information and I don't want people to make a poor choice based on anything I say.
If one person comes here based on my influence and doesn't like it at all, then has to return to start all over again, I have failed.
#DatingInEcuador #InternationalRomance #LoveAcrossBorders
I came to Ecuador waiting for a work visa for Colombia and I never went back, I met this wonderful Ecuadorian woman and we have been together for 12 years.
I fell in love with an Ecuadorian women in the US at a city bus stop in West Palm Beach. I didn't speak Spanish more did she spoke English. We made it work (the language barrier), we fell in love, and we've been inseparable ever since. I'm never going to be with another race. Ecuadorian woman are where its at!
I was not expecting this video today. 😂
Based on my own experience, it hasn’t been the easiest to meet people BUT that’s primarily my fault because I don’t go out very much and I don’t have Don’s skill of seeing someone I want to talk to and just talking to them. Don and my dad seem to be really good at talking to people like that, I can only do it when it’s for a video. 😅
Add to that the fact that I’m looking for a girl who’s serious (and a bunch of other factors that wouldn’t make sense until you’re here long enough) and it just makes more sense to be single.
If I had to give anyone coming here a suggestion, especially if you’re looking for true love, it would be to come to Ecuador and just be happy and live your life. Enjoy your time here without actively looking for someone. Why? One reason is because a person who wants to be with you seriously will show they want to be with you SERIOUSLY. Also because when people see that you’re happy and having a good time, they’ll want to be a part of that so there’s no point in being desperate or sad that you’re alone. Enjoy it and the right person will notice.
Or download Tinder and see what happens. 😂
Great video brother! 😁
I don't think anything is wrong in actively looking for a special someone, but I much prefer taking the approach you advocate GM - namely to just go about living your life and then to allow a relationship to emerge organically therefrom.
Having said that, I would not advise people to be passive or to place the onus always on others to initiate contact or to make overtures. Instead, as you go about your weekly routines, you will naturally encounter a variety of people, and against that backdrop you can give friendly greetings and perhaps strike up conversations - even if it's about something as inconsequential as the weather of the day.
It's fine for others to initiate too, of course. I don't mean to imply otherwise. I just don't like the idea of leaving my prospects for a relationship entirely in the hands of random happenstance. Once in a while I want to take the helm of fate and steer it in directions which are good for me (as opposed to just living by default).
Don is absolutely right to say that whether a given country qualifies as good or bad for relationships depends in large part on one's own personality. In my twenties I was an off-the-scale introvert. I didn't tumble out of the womb with an abundance of social skills. But over time, I became comfortable in my own skin and I developed some fluency in the ever mysterious world of socializing with women.
Today I qualify as an ambivert (midway between introvert and extrovert). In other words, I'm very comfortable in (and I can take energy from) my time alone as well as from my time with people. I feel at home in both milieus and orientations.
One thing I suggest (if you have a hard time knowing how to open a conversation with women) is to act as if it's neither here nor there whether anything comes of it. In other words, take the pressure off. Act as if it's your sister and you are just interested in how her day is going.
And don't try to be anyone but who you are. Don't mimic your favorite male celebrity. I guarantee that you have your own innate style, and plenty of women will be enchanted by your genuine self. Just make sure you show an interest in them and ask safe, non-personal questions about them. And then be sure to listen to what they have to say. It's fine to talk about your life too of course - your work and your passions - but don't talk only about yourself.
I'm sure women the world over, regardless of culture, will find a self-absorbed man a huge turn-off.
Good luck!
Ace, you are 100% correct. Love your videos too!
Thanks Brother. I can't believe you don't have a personal security guard just to keep the women from climbing all over you.
I like your advice. It's solid and makes sense to me.
There ARE expat men that come here and immediately go on the prowl for a woman and they don't care anything about their lives or their history. I've seen this personally. I could write a book about it, believe me.
These guys creep me out and they make it very difficult for us other expats that have a different mindset and motivation for meeting women.
Thank you for sharing Don
I read somewhere it is 51% women to 49% men
Good vídeo as always Don. I definitely agree about the attitude. Makes a lot of difference with all the wonderful friendly and helpful people you'll meet there.
Excellent topic, Don. No one likes to be alone; we all want companionship. Being in a foreign country alone must be lonely. Like always, excellent information! Thanks for sharing.
Hello pretty lady
I've been occasionally visiting Ecuador since the late 90s. I've found the vast majority of Ecuadorian women to be stunningly attractive. Unfortunately, American influence in the fast food and processed food industries is slowly tipping the scales in the opposite direction.
It's a popular belief here in Ecuador that the relation of the number of women to men is 7 to 1 but the truth is, according to the last census, 51% women to 49% men.
Hi, it’s Catherine from Mesa. Stella is very sweet and a lucky woman to have you!!
I lived in New York City for 25 years and had a ton of friends, quality ones at that. Also friends in Denver, Salt Lake City but here in Arizona it is difficult to make friends for some reason and I am certainly NOT shy about striking up a conversation with anyone. I have heard this from several area people-weird and sad. Tell your reader a special expat will be moving to Cuenca in 4/2025, alittle ways off however.
Thanks Don on the topic.
As mentioned before, the Ecuador breakdown is 50.4% women and 49.6% men.
The US, by comparison, has slightly more women for every man.
Starting to like you Don. I was in Ecuador for 3 months recently and just fell in love with the place. One thing I didn't want was to hang with expats. Generally found them, especially in Vilcabamba, to be just kind of hanging around and complaining. Yuck. But the locals...Oh man, such wonderful people.
In one of your walking to the Manta Beach videos, you encountered a fat woman and said under your breath that you didn't know whales walked on land. Don, really? Still, I appreciate you because you don't give watered-down or disingenuous information about life as an expat in Ecuador.
What? Not blessed? Don still rocks it! Thanks for the content!
Don, Cameron and I love the video. It's informative and had places in it that made us laugh.
I'm glad you liked it. Thanks.
Very useful, thanks.
Glad it was helpful!
Your videos are getting better and better and I can relate so much as an Ecuadorian. Is like speaking to a friend, Thanks great video Don.
Glad you like them!
It was very easy to meet women for me during my time in Ecuador. Women there are a lot easier to talk to than in the U.S. they seem to be more down to earth and friendly.
Having been to Ecuador several times I have to agree that they are absolutely stunning. Women both in Ceunca and in Guayaquil are beautiful. I went to visit and was asked by friends if I was single so they could introduce me to someone. The women are very kind and attentive to you and perhaps prefer gringos over locals since they feel that local men have a habit of being womanizers and display too much machismo. (This last part not as much as the guys in Ecuador tend to be fairly nice to their GFs/wives)
Its the money man. Stay from my women.
dating someone 30 years younger than me? I'm exhausted already. Fortunately, I already speak Spanish.
LOL! I don't interact much with expats. Although like you, I just start talking to people. I'm friendly that way. Have had quite a few Ecuadorian men want to connect. Some are married. (No thank you). One single driver could only sincerely repeat over and over how beautiful I am. That was most flattering and good for the ego, I guess. But I'm a different kind of person. Whether expat or local, I'm only interested in connecting with like-minded (values, etc.) folk, no matter who they are, and where they come from. Good response to the question, though maybe male-centered. Maybe it's men who are more vocal about the subject. So, come back and do one from expat women perspective, Don. 😉
Excellent idea to do a similar video from the single expat woman’s perspective!!!! Good topic for an interview, Don!
Great video Don. Muchas gracias.
Good job again Don.
Thanks Don, and take care.
I’m Ecuadorian married to a British man, we being married for 37 years, you have to be careful with some of them.
I hope you realize how young you are [i mean in your head ] i am between Cambodia & Ecuador to choose but i speak Spanish so i have to decide where to retire far ..far from the states .thank you to help people like me.. like us Hope to meet you one day ..who knows ?.que no te pierde tu juventud nunca senior !
Don, you mentioned young Gringas. I think you meant to say young Ecuatorianas?
Yeah what was that
Great topic, and definitely worthy of a video in its own right - and perhaps one or two others down the road. I can't believe I didn't think of this idea myself.
Here are some additional (and random) thoughts I have to contribute.
First, we might be inclined to think that if a male expat is open to dating an Ecuadorian woman, then almost by definition he must not be racist; but in my experience, that's not necessarily true. Some racist men are quite capable of using women of color for their own pleasure, all the while looking down on their ethnicity and heritage.
So if you are an American who thinks immigrants and refugees are lazy, or if you think of Mexicans as thugs and rapists, do Ecuadorian women (and their families) a huge favor and give them a pass. And if you move to Ecuador regardless, leave your racism at the American border.
Another thing - whether you are a man or woman, and no matter your sexual orientation - be honest with the people you date. Of course, I'm sure we all know that this is good advice for relationships in general, but I think it's especially important for expats who may go out with Ecuadorian locals. In this kind of relationship, the potential for misunderstanding (across cultural and generational divides) is great. So open communication is essential. Be genuine. Don't mislead the good people of Ecuador.
Moreover, it's important to honor the culture of your loved one. It doesn't mean you have to agree with all its ways and traditions, but don't mock them, or openly repudiate them. Be kind and respectful. Just as you should not have to abandon your most cherished values for a relationship, don't require that your Ecuadorian partner suddenly abandon the customs they hold dear. Instead, use this as an opportunity to learn from each other and share some new experiences together.
Remember also that Ecuador is overwhelmingly a Catholic country - with some indigenous beliefs included. Not all the locals will actively practice the religion, but it still exerts an influence throughout society. If you get serious about someone who lives there, you will want to talk with them about this BEFORE you dive headlong into a commitment.
Also, be sure to ask the person you date for advice on how you can best meet (and interact with) their family. And then LISTEN to them about this. You didn't have all the answers in your home country, and you certainly don't have all the answers in Ecuador. So show some humility and be open to learning new things. Then, be friendly with the family of your new lover. Even if you lack fluency in Spanish, a warm smile will go a long way.
Finally, be careful with public displays of affection in Ecuador. Ask your new date for advice about this.
So much more could be said about this topic, but I will leave it there for now.
Don, thanks for devoting a video to this. Your comments were spot on and I hope people take them to heart.
I agree wholeheartedly and I too want to emphasize the importance of make sure that public displays of affection are acceptable. Very important.
The point about being honest hits hard because I’ve had conversations with girls I was hoping to have something serious where things look to be going well and then have just been ghosted to later find out they were talking to someone else or they were just “pasando el tiempo”. And it’s not like the person will always tell you which makes the situation worse because until you find out (if you ever do find out) you end up feeling like you did something wrong and that’s not a good feeling.
@@GMAceM, yes, for all the things that can go wrong in a relationship, few are more painful than betrayal. True enough. Here's hoping that in Ecuador, you have a bright future ahead and you will find someone that is a great fit for you (and you for her).
You are correct Don, women here are gorgeous. The young indigenous women in their traditional clothing look like princesses; regal. And yes, fb will get you many friend requests from women. My wife is ecuadorian. But we met before I moved here. I think fb is probably the simplest way to meet mature women. There are also online dating sites. I don't know much about them though. There are almost no expats where I live. So, thats not an option here and frankly, like Don says, you are better off making friends with a sweet ecuadorian.
Are Ecuadorian women and Colombian women similar in physical appearance? Is there quite a few Colombian and Venezuelan women in Ecuador!
In my eyes, they are equally just as beautiful and charming.
I’m in American that lives full-time in Medellin Colombia, visiting Ecuador for the past five months. The women are very similar in Colombia and Ecuador. At least as far as Medellin and Quito are concerned. Medellin women tend to dress, maybe a little bit more alluring and primp and pamper themselves more but physically, they are similar. I think the women in Ecuador tend to be a little bit more down to earth. I haven’t met many women from Colombia here in Ecuador, but there are many Venezuelan women due to them migrating here to escape the problems from back home. Similarly, there are tons of Venezuelans in Colombia. Hope that answers your question.
Cried with laughter when you got to the expat community part 😂😂
Very good video.
Glad you liked it.
Great information. Thanks. I wanted to ask you a few questions about obtaining a Ecuadorian Visa. Thanks David Florida
Send me an email. The address is in the About Me section of my channel page.
Good morning, Don. I am a new subscriber. Like your content. Can a single and frugal 63 yr old have a simple life on his $1,000 a month social security in Cuenca?
No. Don't kid yourself. You will need more than that. I would say between $1500 and $2000
Hey great video but take it as a naturalized Ecuadorian citizen for 10 years here, you bet that the women are looking for a meal ticket. As long as you can keep this reality straight in your head, go for it. But also, understand that people in general are very Unfaithful here, so she will be using you as a meal ticket and then having her real boyfriend on the side. I know Ecuador very very well, and hell they do that to each other, but especially with older vulnerable single expats.
Just don't kid yourself. A lot of these people live double lives
Regarding infidelity, your anecdotal impressions - based on hearsay or some random people of your acquaintance - hardly qualify as a valid sociological study. If you can locate a statistical analysis (based on survey data), that's different of course. But absent that, I must find your comment above very prejudicial and unsubstantiated.
As for meal tickets, this is a pejorative characterization of Ecuadorian women, a number of whom live modestly (if not in poverty outright). And, yes, they may indeed be looking for a way out. Who could begrudge them that?
What I don't like is the implication that in Ecuador, for the most part men are angels who are taken advantage of by all the deceitful and maneuvering women.
@@RJMincey Well, those conditions definitely exist in huge numbers. I live full-time in Medellin Colombia and I’ve been visiting Quito Ecuador for the last five months. What the other person described is very accurate in both countries. The Latino culture is riddled with infidelity. It’s just a fact of life. It doesn’t mean that they are bad people. It is just the way that it is. Stop virtue signaling and demonizing others because you feel you need to protect these poor Ecuadorians. It works both ways. Yes, there are some Gringo assholes that take advantage of their position just as there are plenty of scammer locals that take advantage of Gringo’s. It’s a two-way street. Get off the high horse.
What is the best cities to visit in Ecuador?
Cuenca
How does it look for single women from USA? 😊
That depends on what you're looking for. I will go out on a limb and say that it's probably a better deal for women than it is for men.
@@DonShaderI second this.
OMG! that's too funny, Don. i'll be there in a couple of weeks. i'll put that sign on and we can see what happens. Gringo Viejo. Jubilado. Soltero. Buscando una Companera a largo plazo.
I could see myself using a sign like that. Nonetheless, in the name of full disclosure, I'd also have to add "broken-down" to that list "Mucho ROTO" 🤪🤕🤣
7 to 1 sounds way high.. maybe 2 to 1 ??? Even that is probably high.. nevertheless.. it's like that in alot of developing countries.. more women than men. You should try the Philippines.. unreal
You couldn't pay me enough to live in the Philippines.
@@DonShader Why?
@@CassieDavis613 While the Philippines can be an attractive destination for many expats, it may not be the ideal choice for everyone. Especially me. Some reasons why I wouldn't want to live there include:
Like Ecuador, the cultural gap between Americans and the Philippines can be significant. Language barriers, social norms, and customs may take time to adjust to, which could lead to feelings of isolation and frustration. Not good for me.
Compared to developed countries, the Philippines' infrastructure may be lacking in some areas, such as public transportation, healthcare facilities, and utilities. Access to reliable internet services might also be limited in certain regions. Not good enough for me.
While the majority of the Philippines is safe for travelers and expats, certain areas may have higher crime rates, and there could be occasional political unrest or natural disasters, which may be disconcerting for me.
Dealing with government agencies and navigating bureaucratic processes can be time-consuming and frustrating for expats.
All of which I already have here in Ecuador.
Obtaining permits, visas, and other legal documentation may be cumbersome.
Again, I already have that here, so why go there?
The quality of healthcare facilities can vary, especially outside major cities. Expats with specific medical needs might face challenges finding suitable medical care. That's very important to me.
The tropical climate of the Philippines would not be appealing to me. High humidity and frequent typhoons during certain seasons concern me.
While the Philippines is generally more affordable than the United States, certain expenses, such as imported goods, can be costly. Additionally, the price of accommodation in prime areas might be higher than expected.
IMHO, the suitability of living in the Philippines varies from person to person. Some individuals may find the country's unique culture and lifestyle to be a perfect fit, while I may face difficulties adjusting to the differences.
That's about it.
@@DonShader I have heard about the frequent brownouts.
@@CassieDavis613 I have yet to experience a brownout, only complete outages and they happen frequently.
I'd prefer to date men...
Hi Don! I had a great laugh as always. Keep safe and SINGLE
Thanks, will do!
What's the name of the coastal town you live in ? How far from Guayaquil ?
Manta, about 3 1/2 hours from GYE.
Beware of the Lorena Bobbit Syndrome
I recognize the name but I don't remember the story about her.
@@DonShader The Pecker Wacker.....
51% to 49% women to men.
To my knowledge, no one has yet thought to check whether Ecuador has its share of web sites devoted to singles who are looking for a relationship. I've just run a search and there appear to be several such sites. Of course, this is not everyone's cup of tea, but for those in Ecuador who would like to create a profile online and see what kind of matches they would get, you need only use the keywords below in a search engine:
sitios web de citas de ecuador
Care to share the links on the Discord channel?
@@DonShader, ah, good idea. I will do that.