Clay Gravesande On AD's Finances , 'Love Is Blind,' Not Getting Married + More
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"i broke bro code with my dad" is so sad & terrible..😢 Clay was a CHILD. to have a grown man who is ur FATHER make u keep his secrets against ur own MOTHER is CRAZY & DEEPLY TRAUMATIZING! even as an adult Clay is STILL taking responsibility for HIS FATHER'S ACTIONS! just sad & unfortunate! i hope that family can HEAL!! 😕
They’re telling women where their loyalties lie.
Get out of here with this misused "healing" nonsense. Everything is therapy and heal, we created a society of snowflakes and victims always complaining and crying for pitty.
@@kojoboateng6755 sounds like u need some healing too 🤣🤣😭
@@kojoboateng6755nah I feel you. People do need healing from certain psychological damage but it’s hella annoying how everything is therapy therapy therapy. Like it’s basically a buzz word now and people say it with a sense of pride, like “look at me, I’m trying to be better”, when in reality many many people do therapy half assed to check something off the list and document it as a credential. I know so many people
Who assume they went to therapy and instead of getting better they got better at covering things up. They learned all the right things to say but inwardly still jacked up af. Like therapy is not Jesus. Some of yall need Jesus, not therapy.
@@terrycrews1760clay 100% needs Jesus
Clay: I need to go and find a wife. I’m a provider
AD: Starts wifing
Clay: Nah you wifing too hard
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🤣😂
He wants a “strong, hardworking” woman like his mom.
Lmaooooo
Exactly.
😂😂
He’s done 75 interviews. He couldn’t come home to AD at night, yet he can do a press tour.
Interesting
They were suppose to live a “normal life”, not on holidays.
He was living a double life, his ex-girlfriend said they were in contact the entire time....and she had no clue he was filming. She found out when the show dropped.
The main cast has all have done multiple interviews. He must be the only one you’re paying attention too
@@rosannag7778where did she speak? I hadn't heard this
"My mom's been married for 23 years. That's an amazing accomplishment. You wish..."
Sir, being in a bad marriage with heavy infidelity for 23 years is *NOT* a flex.
Being in a *healthy* marriage for 23 years is.
Also, much love to Clay's mom, but if she wants to be mad and take offense at anyone, she should do that with her son for airing her personal business out to the world. AD (nor us) wouldn't have known any of that if Clay didn't blabbed it all.
AD didn't disrespect his mom.
Clay's Mom is a pick me and that's who clay has been raised to want. Women who want a healthy, nor al relationship should steer clear of him and his toxic family.
I don't understand how AD disrespected his mom.
And this is why I can’t buy the whole I’m in therapy bit. He hasn’t learned a damn thing
@@beatsventura8813 she didn't, but to some people telling the truth about how you don't want to end up can be too honest for some to accept.
I’m just
He bragging on his mom being married for 23 years but she was getting cheated on the whole time. 🙄
Exactly. What woman in their right mind would WANT to be in that position?! He and his family are all weird to me. And everything that Clay and his people have been doing after has them looking very shady. The whole outing AD as a sugarbaby is nasty and unnecessary. It's giving bitter that she had a better edit and want to use her to prop Clay's image. He already sacrifice AD for his own healing, why also sacrifice her for his image too?! He's foul
Exactly! That’s why any woman who marries him is a fool.
I agree I felt that while watching the show, I felt she was just as much as at fault as his father for causing his trauma about relationships
It’s his mom, get over it.
That. 👀
Being married for over 20yrs and being cheated on for more than half of the time to still end up divorced and to find ur husband was bring ur child to see his mistresses is not an accomplishment . Clay is a smooth talker if u are naive u will eat that shit up. Ad clearly was speaking objectively and was not being malicious . Grow up .
I caught that too. It’s just like when his Dad tried to “compliment” his Mom by saying Clay should find someone like her, and she politely reminded him that he had her and treated her badly. You can’t put sugar on sh*t. Call a spade, a spade.
Seems like majority of Black woman think the accomplishments is being single for 20 years 😂😂😂.
@@tmoore04ify yea but some of yall naive thinking that her comment to the husband meant “you found me but you weren’t good to me EVER” and that’s not what she was saying either. So either she was another AD ignoring the red flags or he actually was good to her and made some mistakes as EVERY single person does. None of us are exclusive of error. How do we not know she wasn’t ignoring his needs, gas lighting him during difficult conversations, stonewalling him when he wanted to talk? Too many variables that lead to this to want to sit here and try and place all the blame on one person.
@@terrycrews1760 Calling folks “naive” is a bit much. This response highlighted only ONE angle of the situation, a situation that was heavily edited for tv purposes. As someone with a psychology background, it doesn’t escape my attention that there are may be other factors that are more covert and that, more than one thing could be occuring at once. Humans are complex and so are the situations surrounding them. Based on what we SAW and what they SAID, these are our opinions. And let’s say she played a part in this, which no one said she didn’t, it doesn’t absolve him of how HE handled or responded in their marriage. HE controls how he responds. She’s not meeting his needs? LEAVE. He wants to see other women? Divorce her or at the minimum, don’t bring your son around your infidelity.
@@inblackamericaradio5409 Is it being “single” or being in relationships that are healthy and fulfilling? The latter could be an option as well.
I’m not sure if it’s a badge of honor to be married, played and broken for 23 years. They make it way too much value on a ring when the vows are voided. Loving yourself is more of an abundance!
Exactly. I don't think he gets it. AD meant she doesn't want to get cheated on for 15 years.
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You don’t think AD been cheated on 😂😂😂😂😂 she “works” for her ex
I caught that too, and he was hella heated about it
@@inblackamericaradio5409 so, you think because a woman was cheated on my a boyfriend then she should want to be cheated on for decades by a husband. That was a ridiculous comment.
Ad didn’t say she didn’t want to be like your mom she said she don’t want to be YOUR mom meaning nvm, go to therapy bro
And him saying his mom was offended, but his mom sat on Tamron hall and said she wasn't offended and understood. His family all seem like they the type to play nice in your face then throw you under the bus later. It's very evident in the way they all smiled in AD face and now bashing her publicly says a lot
That part made him across not genuine to me. He talks well but he knew how she meant it when it was said. She said it very clear.
@@perdybirdie💯
Tht sister of his didn't smile one bit. @@perdybirdie
but if he wouldve said yes, she would've definitely ended up like his mom...so he should've said no if he wasnt ready...he should've said it sooner than the altar and left the show
I did not like how Clay said AD was ready to be a wife and support him and have his back when he was constantly asking for her assurance in supporting him. This guy is full of it.
Exactly. He's acting like we didn't see him ONLY praising for that. He sucks.
I'm a fan of both Love is Blind and Married at First Sight. If his mom really meant for him to go on MAFS, he should be glad there was a mix-up. On Love is Blind, you speak to your person, get to know them, build a rapport, see each other AND live together before you decide whether to marry. On MAFS they just throw you in a marriage with no context. He would've done terrible on that show 😂😂😂😂😂
Whew chile!!!! I’m a fan of both and I couldn’t agree more!😂😂😂😂
@@precioussimoneinspires it would've been GREAT tv though! Lord knows this current season of MAFS is trash 🗑 🤣
@@I_BE_NMYHEAD definitely would of made great tv! 😂😂😂😂 Chile I used to be invested in MAF, before, during and after the pandemic! 😷 after Chris & Paige, I gave it up. I have to circle back with them!
@@precioussimoneinspires I think I just got triggered from you even mentioning Chris and Paige😂
Being married for 23 years and being cheated on and your husband taking your son with him is not an accomplishment. His mom stayed way too long and was disrespected in that marriage. I like his mom but not leaving when you’re disrespected is NOT IT and AD was not wrong for saying that. Nobody that gets married wants that.
This guy is a fast talking salesman. So much should've been challenged in that interview.
Angela is a pick me, you know she's not debating nothing. And Candice is...something else
They let him slide with tooo many things.
Have you seen AD’s interviews 🥴
@@VanshayMurdock yess🥰
Agreed it’s giving rehearsed and prepared he’s a lil passive too and I never said this but a lot of ppl say he sassy
Clay: AD dedicated her time to being fully invested into being a wife.
Also Clay: Thats not good enough go to work.
She is not a wife yet. Working as a promoter and a night club where her ex boyfriend is the boss. You don’t find wife’s at the club.
@@user-co5iq8oj8x clay knew that information in the pods and still chose to propose. And she said she would quit the night club once she got engaged for obvious reasons.
@@user-co5iq8oj8xbeing a wife is subjective.
@@toyac.7523 I’m not defending clay at all. I just don’t want people to think AD was so ready for marriage either. Plus, now she is reportedly back with her ex who owned the club. Shows that was never done and probably still hooked up every now and then. Hence, him telling the recruiter that she was in a relationship.
She also told him she’s a successful real estate agent and she hasn’t sold one house in at least two years so that’s deceptive. If roles were reversed and the guy was saying he’s ready to be a husband and be home and not bring any money to the table, y’all would be saying “don’t settle girl! He’s a bum!”
This man is a whole 🚩
“I didn’t get a favorable edit” 😂😂 CLAY PLEASE!!
I mean it’s possible Chealsea thought that Jimmy would have a bad edit because he was not the greatest to her. But it was actually the opposite. We never know with these LIB producers
@@joyceng7075 exactly. I just listened to that interview where she talked about that. With every cast member, the show is telling a story, so they put that together based on the footage that they have and leave out what doesn’t fit with the story they are telling. It’s what keeps us invested as viewers.
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I get he thinks his mom is great for putting up with his Dad's crap. But when he said AD wish she could be like his mom and have a cheating husband for 24 years...that made me sad that he thinks that her most likely being unhappy for 2+ decades is some sort of accomplishment.
But her being cheated on and lied to is not her fault.
And ppl keep trying to say it in an insulting way, and his mom’s been too real to get shaded.
He’s honestly a bit of an airhead. You want people to give you and your family so much grace. But can’t understand why AD wouldn’t want to go in your mother’s footsteps 🙄
You miss the point . She basically used his transparency about his mom situation and throw it his face .
@@Jamcore2008 YALL missing the point on purpose but ok lol
@@Jamcore2008she said that she realized she didn’t want that to be her story. Clay also said multiple times during the taping of show that he didn’t want to recreate his parents’ story. So again why is it so offensive for AD to say it, when she’s really only mirroring things Clay’s already said?
He started gaslighting as soon as I clicked😂😂😂😂 lordttt Bring AD ON!
Immediately!!!!! I was wondering if it was just me. I mean this guy speaks as if he is reading from a book. I could be wrong but he comes off as so disingenuous. Uggghhhh!!!!
@@PrincessTsue he is a liaarrrr bad, then to sit there and say he told his mom then to back paddle and say he think 🤔 he told his brother smh 🤦♀️
How?
Is Jessie Woo the only person who sees through clays bs? Like why is the black community giving this dude a platform?
Babyyy they falling for it so bad! He got hella options now and he still wont get married or treat black women correctly. We are so easily fooled by these men & he is not that cute!
For views and likes😅
@AshaHassell he's not cute at all. Talks fast like and unintelligent adolescent. I NEVER liked. And the only thing that really made him propose I think is the competition AD had in Matthew. Smh
He not tryna get AD back he’s just doing damage control 😤😩🙄
He tried to get her back and she declined. He can't make her be with him.
@@chiquitahodges why would she want him. He has way too much baggage.
@@melissagreye8445 I didn't say she should want him back. I was replying to the original comment stating that he's not trying to get AD back.
7:39 - Clay talks about AD’s finances . Your welcome
😂😂😂😂
Thank you😂
Thank you cause there's no way I was gonna listen to all of that
Clay is full of sh$$, he is a fast, smooth talking ninja. As for his mom and him being upset about that statement, it was not against his mother character, AD said RESPECTFULLY, she does not want to be in his mother’s position down the road, which is a FACT.
People are crazy!!! I cannot believe people stoop so low to send death threats to people and give bad reviews to their business! Those people are traaaash. Much love to Clay I wish him nothing but the best for sharing his story.
That’s wild 😅
I agree with part A of this comment 😅
If u purposefully leave bad reviews and didn't actually get poor service in order to tear someone down, over something such as this, you deserve the karma that comes behind it. Why mess with someone's lively hood over a TV show? Defending that behavior is insane.
@@c0cobr0wn504 exactly!!!
I don't like him as a man he did AD dirty but that's something different
AD did not throw anything in your mother’s face. We did not take it that way.
I can see how his mom probably took it a kind of way…. I’m sure AD adores his mom & didn’t mean any harm but just imagine if someone said they didn’t want to be like you on national television 🫠
If anything it was more a diss to dad and Clay.
Right. I see how the mom could have been offended, but clay made his mom look bad here because the mom herself said on Tamron hall she wasn't offended and understood AD. So was she lying when she said that? He and his family seem the type to smile in your face and dog you behind your back. His friends publicly bashing AD as well lends to that. Clay is bad news, but some desperate pick mes will still lime up for him.
Oh glad you didn’t take something that wasn’t addressed to you “that way” 😂. Yall really think this is about you lol
I knew he was going to take it that way. Didn't y'all see his face? AD should just let him go
He keeps talking about breaking “bro code” with his father like are you ok sir? You knew your mother was getting cheated on and worried more about protecting your dog ass daddy. Therapy is clearly not helping this man.
He should’ve kept it 100 with her regardless.
“I’m big on marriage” “I didn’t know if I had the tools to be a husband” “I dedicated my time to my job but I stood my fiancé up because I was too tired”. “I don’t understand how she could commit 100% and set herself up for this experience, while I wasn’t even ready to meet her halfway” but “I’m big on marriage”.
People are wrong as hell, calling this man’s personal phone and leaving bad reviews on his business. That is just CRAZY!
Ppl take it too far. Like that ain’t your man or your girl. Relax lol
I agree
Yeah that’s extra af
Wow that's crazy
Nope. He deserves it. Karma
Clay is a player! Plain and simple!
He speaks very well, but i still see something very off with him. His friends publicly bashing AD online is also a huge red flag.
Why was he professing his love to AD post show yet his friends calling her a golddigger and such? And why did he tell AD he had the house all she had to do was move in, then say he didnt want a housewife? He's a slick talker just like his dad, and something is very off with both he and AD.
And neither of these women did a good job interviewing amd digging deep or with follow up questions. Not only that, why not ask him about the multiple women saying they dated him recently but he said he's not available?
It looks like they filmed this before that news dropped. They made a video kind of addressing it yesterday, but this interview was done with by then.
I think he may have respect for AD and won't publicly bash her. That doesn't mean his friends won't. And a woman can move in, not pay bills, and still work. He could pay the bills and she could work and do the investing. He articulated he didn't see that hustler mindset that he was looking for. I saw a clip where AD said her ex boyfriend was the owner of the club too. So its not like he was throwing her under the bus.
And you're assuming that the interviewers heard all of those Tik Tok rumors you brought up. They did a good job of keeping most of the questions within the frame of the show. Alot of people just watch the show and don't know about some of the conspiracy theories
Good observation, Clay is just full of shit. He never wanted AD!
I agree something about him just doesn’t seem genuine but he’s charismatic so it makes it easier for people to want to believe what he saying. Super finesse.
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Like most men he gets to emotionally grow on the back of a woman’s hurt. It’s always putting us under the bus for their growth!!!
the worlds see's it.
People treat you the way you let them treat you. Accountability is life changing.
I respectfully disagree. I’ve never experienced that. It’s all about what you allow. Gotta have boundaries.
@@MoonGirlThoughts Well I’m happy for you- but yes I learned the hard way! Some of us didn’t have people in our lives to teach us things. I’d rather go through it and learn though then never learn at all, so it can be a blessing in disguise.
AD willingly signed up for it tho and chose to move forward knowing his issues.
Why didnt yall ask him about his friends going on social media bashing AD?! And if his parents have been married and he was in a friends wedding, why didnt he learn more about marriage and the wedding process? Typical pick mes not asking him real questions bc hes an attractive black man with a slick mouth
Probably because it was filmed before it happened. Why does the man need an FBI interrogation. He said he should’ve prepared better. What do you want as someone who isn’t abt to be in a relationship with this man? He didn’t get married. It’s not the end of the world lol
@@rrac04Um why do you think we’re watching the interview? For our health? It’s not an FBI interrogation but they could’ve asked better questions. He shouldn’t have went on the show if he knew he wasn’t ready.
@@sydneythompson9053 you’re probably hate watching, because you clearly weren’t watching to understand. He addressed what you brought up in this interview and others. They dove into a lot on this interview. If you don’t like him cool, but acting like it wasn’t addressed is 🧢
Clay no damn well AD Didn’t mean no harm when saying she don’t wanna be like ur mom in the long run. This whole time he was saying I don’t wanna be like my dad I don’t wanna follow his footsteps but as soon as ad say I don’t wanna be cheated on now she wrong. He’s the one that kept bringing up his family past and why he acts the way he acts. Look how his mother feel yeah they been married but she was not happy for majority of the marriage
Definitely a man that was viewing AD as a narcissistic supply. He saw her as a business opportunity, someone to build him up and take care of him. He never speaks about her as a romantic interest. He’s definitely a salesman. He clearly was never ready for marriage and he could’ve said that from the start. Also the comment “my mother was married 23 years, AD wish”. Weren’t you the guy who was going to marry AD? Clearly, he thinks he’s the prize and he values women who get married, even if they are mistreated. “Bro code” as a reference to your dad. Also, AD’s comment about not wanting to be his mother was misconstrued. She meant, she doesn’t want to be mommy to a man. That’s my interpretation
Say it louder!!!! That's exactly what it is. I love AD
He don’t want her to take care of him financially just mentally and emotionally that’s how Virgo men are they need a woman who takes away the mental chaos but he definitely didn’t want her for no money lmao
He’s doing his press tour. I bet this is what he wanted
at 18:00 "My mom was married for years like, you wish.." that was shady, knowing what Ad expressed on the show about wanting love
So basically he wanted a mule to help him with HIS lack of finances!
Bingo!
This is 2024 not 1920. He wants a partner.
we probably watched a different video cause he clearly has his finances together AD doesn’t!!
@@kerib2535he talked around it AD video solidifies this one if you notice where he said he starting a new job. She mentioned he was having trouble with work. He mentioned he didn’t understand how a lot of the cast members were surviving without working.
why should he provide for a buttaface who lied that she's a realtor and hardworking? LOL
Mr. Mush Mouth, saying a lot without saying anything at all
23 years of marriage is NOT a major accomplishment when your spouse is constantly cheating you 🤨
The goal is not only to be married forever, it’s also to be in a healthy marriage. Being married for a long time doesn’t really hold weight if the marriage wasn’t healthy. That’s like saying you survived 23 years with the same pain or wound. Yes you survived, but 23 years is a long time to be in pain. His mom said herself, “you had me, but you weren’t good to me.” They had a marriage, but it wasn’t a good one. It’s okay for AD to say she doesn’t want a bad marriage. I don’t think she meant malice in with her comment.
He also said that he only had 6 weeks to make his Decision BUT HE KNEW WHEN HE WENT ON THE SHOW THAT THAT IS THE RULE.
but it could be yes or no ...
Why did he go on the show if he's not ready for marriage though I wish they asked him that bevause the women went on the show for men who are ready
So your mum is responsible for you going on the show . Stop it now, and take accountability for your own decisions. We're sick of hearing this narrative. You're a big man now. You didn't have to do the LIB show go on survivor bro.
How did you gather that he said he HAD to go on when that’s not what he said? Lol.
Being married for 23 years is not an accomplishment if you were being cheated on throughout your marriage. SMH
Right!!
And in the dark, he still lost but he in therapy so …🤷♀️
Candiace asked some decent questions. All I heard was Clay didn't read his contract😂. Also, Sir, when you DocuSign a contract you can surely download a copy. Lol
Yes but when it's signed. He probably didn't think he would even got that far many of the contestants
@timeme03 During the interview they said a lady had a copy of the contract and said if cast members don't show up at the alter or don't get married, they can be fined $50k. His response was that he doesn't know how a person could've even gotten a copy of the contract because the cast members signed through DocuSign. If they signed through DocuSign, any one of them could've downloaded a copy and shared details with other people.
Thank you!
I was waiting for this comment
@@opalvibration lol
He makes a great point about not needing a hype man or someone having his back. I love hearing from both of them and appreciate their friendship
Yee i took biologu
I love my paper sack skin
My dark hommies like them yellow and red,when i pulled that paper sack out,i turned heads from the east to the west,lol
You have to have a cattle gate if you buy land
If i was to purchase land imma have to have a route for my lil sheeps to spring out on dale ave
What he's saying is fair based on this experiment. In the pods they bonded over entrepreneurship.
She made it seem like she was a hard worker and he never got to see that. She sold herself a certain way and he didn't get to see that once they got out the pods. She took all that time off to film so he never got to see how she moved in real life. That's apart of the experiment. To marry someone in 6 weeks you need to see what the reality of your relationship is gonna look like.
AND something else no one is talking about... AD skated right through the part where we see where they live. We never saw how she was living. They went straight to Clays house and she was pretty much like, yep I can fit right on up in here. You're a real estate agent? Why didn't we see where you live or anything. Maybe she was living with the ex too?
Clocked it! That’s what I picked up too!
You make a great point
So why let her walk down the aisle? Sounds like he knew he wouldn't marry her beforehand.
@@symphonylove1 happens every season. That’s the show
Spot On!
Well we may not agree with him calling things off at the alter...but it may have saved them both some heart ache
So true!
Why are yall making him so relevant.!! He never shoudve came on the show. He shouldve been on Ms Vanzant's Fix my life
And AD's sugar baby self should have done only fans
@@cyes1156And Clay's fake gay self can go do only fans with a white man!
The fact Clay thinks he broke “bro code” with his dad says everything anyone needs to hear😬🙃… hopefully his therapist is able to call those things out as they come up
He totally evaded answering what he learned from being in therapy but it's a process 😂
Candice asked some good questions and made him feel comfortable to answer. I think AD said she didn't want to be his mom meaning she doesn't want to have to raise a grown man.
I love the fact that he never belittled nor talked negative about her.
AD was going through the process of getting to know you. That’s what her focus was on, purpose of the show. Period. She was not trying to be no stay home wife. Jesus! That’s my opinion.
Right. He should've joined Sharktank if he was on there to promote his business, which it looks like he wanted to do if he kept bringing it up and they edited it out. Wale called it online.
How do you know she wasn’t trying to be a housewife when he’s speaking from his perspective?
IF it supposed to be like real life, Clay is in a way correct... irl you can't put work on hold for 6 weeks. I would have used that as an opportunity to speak about his fears around money...
@@LovernotafighterFL then he should've let her know before the alter. He clearly knew and wanted the moment and attention he's getting for it now.
@symphonylove1 Ehhh she's clearly loving the attention too. And rumor has it she's gone back to her sugar daddy 🤷🏼♀️
Wow!!! Can we give Clay and AD some grace. No one is perfect alot of judgemental comments on here. I wish Peace and Love to Clay & AD and their entire families. ❤
Clay should have let AD know he wasn't getting married before the altar.
I think everyone forgets that AD could have left Clay. It’s not just on Clay. Everything worked out as it should’ve. They did not need to get married. He was transparent the entire time. She could’ve left at any time.
Thank you!!!!🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯
I kept saying she could have said nooooooo
Exactlyyyy!! She was waiting for him to decide for her to decide and things don’t work like that
@@Sunfl0w33r exactly 🎯🎯
That’s not true,AD was ready to leave the show but Clay kept begging and reassured her that he was ready to go through the whole process.
He's still talking like adultry is nothing. So much so that he missed that completely when discussing AD's comment about not wanting to be his mom.
Yeah I got that. I think some generations and certain mindsets thinking you’re judging them as opposed to highlights or stating “I don’t want to be in the same position she was in or end up having to deal with similar pain and issues.”
But I can see how that generation gets offended because they feel like I was doing everything I could to keep my family together etc, being strong for my family etc and it wasn’t enough. So it feels like a smack in the face when ppl say “I didn’t want to be like your mom/dad.”
@@precioussimoneinspiresYes that's understandable.
I think I saw the whole narrative from his mom a little differently. Of course, we didn't really see everything she said but I felt like when she was speaking to his father at the end was the first time I even really heard her acknowledge that the infidelity was a thing for so long in it.
I want to say here that not being any type of psychologist, we can see that clay definitely deals with anxiety and stuff like that. But there are other things going on there because I noticed that he will often parrot and paraphrase things that other people have said and if someone with greater influence comes along and says something different, all of a sudden that's his new philosophy on that matter. When he was in the room with his dad and discussing his father again, all of a sudden it was minimizing the wrongdoing his dad had done and just saying that he may have picked up a couple of bad things from his father. He would use terms like smooth and suave when really, his dad was self-involved and, at least initially, not even in touch with his wrongdoing. I mean we all saw that.
Now anything he says positive about his parents marriage is pretty much the idea that he grabbed and ran with from AD's mother.
I don't know. I don't really know any of these people of course. LOL.
But yeah feeling like he broke a bro code with his dad and equating reporting that he was subjected to going along with certain things to snitching.
He is pressed between being a people pleaser and floundering to find his own ideals.
He's just learning himself. I hope he really continues to grow. Same for everyone involved with the show and all of us. That's life.
@@rachelle_banks ahhh that’s definitely a lens that we can consider for sure! I think you’re on to something and you’re right we don’t know these ppl!😂😂
But yeah he has a lot going on and needs to continue doing the work.
He’s been in his 30s for 2 years now that’s still two years removed from his 20s. He still having fun while trying to grow and be a grown man while he’s healing his inner child.
*bro code
exactly. but it seems like clay and ad have different values based on how he talks about it and sees his mother for staying and how he sees himself for breaking bro code with his dad... almost as if he feels he should not have told her.@@precioussimoneinspires
Clay can’t understand how AD could go six weeks without working? Has he ever heard of SAVINGS? Sounds like he might be the one who needs to work on his finances, not AD.
I just posted the exact same thing😅
He's implying that she had a sugar daddy (ex-boyfriend) to lean on! He's a real douchebag!
He said regardless of how much money you got coming in, I don’t see how you could just pause your life like that because they vibed off being entrepreneurial go-getters and you don’t just hit the off button with a lifestyle like that. I do commercial real estate and I completely get his mentality. She claimed to be a successful real estate agent but hasn’t sold a house in at least two years so that’s just deceptive. He was trying to get an idea of what their actual day-to-day would be like in the real world and if she’s not working (she even said in an interview she was in he said he just wanted to see her work one day to see what her work/lifestyle is like) then either she’s not living her authentic lifestyle or she lied about her entrepreneurial work ethic. I think she’s a great woman, but I’m a hustler myself and I wouldn’t want a man if he lied about what his relationship with work was like and acted to just be a stay-at-home husband at the end of the day. That’s not what you spoke about in the pods and it’s such a double standard because people would have called Clay a bum and told her “don’t settle girl!” if roles were reversed.
I think the comment about not wanting to be his mom is more so about the cheating she endured.
I think Clay is still failing to realize why people are upset with him… Why would you say “No” at the alter? Why embarrass her on national TV? If you loved her how you say you do… you would have told her before the alter and it would have been a better outcome for the both of you.
He was clear about uncertainty with the timeline. Didn’t you watch the show? He mentioned this several times but AD didn’t want that. It’s on film 🎥.
I hate the saying “happy wife, happy life.” It’s so dismissive of men in a marriage. As a woman, the saying I’ve started saying about my marriage is “happy spouse, happy house.”
You’re right. We men and our needs are often disregarded. Need to serve each other, and that phrase reinforces the idea that the man’s life is to please and work for women and get nothing in return
Pick mee, pick meee
A happy wife will often create a happy household in every way. Clearly both people should be happy...it's a cute little saying.
@@user-co5iq8oj8xmost women dedicate their entire lives to their husband and kids
SOME men at most, provide. But most women also work on top of taking care of the household and being there for their partners and kids.
Even AD was CLEARLY so invested in his happiness, all he wanted to do was run lol because he wasn't "deeply in love"
@@Yespls888 this is not true. Most women dedicate their lives to their children maybe, not their husbands. Most women claim to be strong and independent which does not result in commitment to husbands happiness. Men are forced too or get left in divorce like what is currently happening today
The bro code comment is the biggest red flag he’s said on any of the episodes or interviews
In a sense. It's a testament of where he comes from and the culture that groomed him. Hopefully, therapy will break him out of that. It's wild young boys are groomed into that type of thing especially so deep that they conceal this stuff from their mothers. Heartbreaking.
Great interview, he definitely cleared some things up.
I'm here because I know I'm not the only one that cried how he handled the situation but glad she dodged that bullet. He is his fathers child😬
He is crazy lol
AD didn’t say I don’t wanna be “like” his mom. She said I don’t wanna “be” his mom. To me she was just saying she can’t raise a man b/c he wasn’t ready.
This was a good interview. Ye love your sweater.
Clay reminds me of a cross btw Bill Bellamy and Keith Sweat.
I can’t unsee it!!!😂😂
Bill Bellamy for sure!!
Yoooo I said the same thing lol 😂
Clay is low budget Lil Nas X!
@@8mydaydream409😂😂😂😂
it still amazes me that his mom thinks a 23 year marriage is something to be proud of when she was being cheated on the entire. time. I would respect a 2 year faithful marriage more
I’m over him, he gaslighted her the whole time. And it’s coming off light he did the show for clout and to promote his business
Now his mama is offended by AD's statement at the reunion, yet on Tamron Hall she said she didnt take offense to the comment. They seem to be a family of liars that give excuses.
That part. It's very clear that he and his family are gaslighting, lying, passive aggressive people who sweep things under the rug and play nice to your face. That's a dangerous family and I would never want to marry into one like that
@@perdybirdiespot on 🎯🎯🎯
YOU DIDN'T ASK HIM:
1 - WHY WOULD U SAY "OK BODY" WHEN U FIRST SEE UR FIANCEE AT THE ALTAR?
2 - WHAT DID HE THINK OF THE OTHER CAST MEMBERS SEXUALIZING AD'S BODY?
Y’all really had this softball interview w this dude 🙄
I don’t like his presumption that because he didn’t see her working she must be dependent on her ex or the stipend from LIB
His dad is his hero?? No wonder he’s so worried about him cheating still.
Let Candace ask the questions bc she holding him more accountable. Angela asking easy questions….
Candiace is great for this podcast. She comes across really well and asks some great questions.
*Clay was stretching w/him being upset over AD saying that she didn’t want to be like his mom. Clay is the one who put her on that platform and embarrassed her every scene telling everything his father did.*
Did none of the pick mes in the comments notice that not only did Clay contradict himself on this interview with the things he told AD on the show, threw her under the bus but ALSO said he likes trevor and jeramy, still hangs with them and go easy on them?! Do birds of a feather not exist to yall when a black man is attractive and financially stable? That is why decetiful dudes like clay can keep going with no teue accountability or change. The community simply wont allow it smh. Its like they are little coddled birds who MUST be taken care of, whereas the women are automatically wrong and need to prove themselves right.
Clays mom should also not want AD to go through what she went through either… and if she does then that’s concerning
Right. My own mom doesn't want me to have the same marriage she had. He's reaching for a reason to try and throw some salt on her...but we're not buying it 😂
Regardless of the cuts and the network not working around your schedule you still knew what the show was about.
Candiace is a great addition! 🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
AD said respectfully so she was not throwing anything in your mother's face.
Respectfully nowadays is a lead up to a read
“Respectfully”….: proceed to disrespect. Get real!
I think AD was well intentioned. We ALL knew what she meant. But I think it just came off as a slight
@@biancha1311Clay said the same thing on the show multiple times about not wanting to have his parents’ story, so was he reading his mother & father too?
@@ngoyboheClay made his father's infidelity (and hinted at his own) his whole storyline. If she said it out of nowhere, it may have been disrespectful. But he brought it up SO much, even his parents had a scene.
So her saying that was fitting and in context...and Clay felt a way, HE should have not made that his talking point throughout the season
I had a friend that resembled Clay in looks and how he carries himself. Fast forward, he has a whole boyfriend....😂😂
In my opinion, those mannerisms were on full display in the pod. I sense he is attracted to both.
Why would you go into a show about Marriage Clay??? If you wasn’t ready???😮
It’s not the fact that she was married for 23 years, but what did she go through with your dad in those 23 years Clay? Is it something that you would want your mum or a loved one to genuinely go through? I don’t think so
24:52 I REALLY wanted to hear them ask the follow up question, “healing FROM what?” Goodness gracious. No one has asked this man, “have you cheated in any of your relationships?”
I think breaking from the drama his father caused by bringing him around the women he was cheating on his mother with and pseudo forced him to keep it a secret. And he was asked if he cheated in past relationships on the reunion episode. He claimed he didn't, but.. 🤷🏾♀️
This man spoke so well. If you can’t ease up your hate for him after this you just want to not like this man.
Just a bunch of bitter women who were wronged dumping it all on him.
He speaks well because he's a salesman. No one is bitter, we see through him.
so..i never understood why people want to protect grown men..let him fend for himself..
@@noneya1238 says a pick me and im a man.
@@perdybirdie them pick me's be ready to line up and start pick me'ing
I thought AD was saying she didn’t want to be a mom figure always having to affirm and help build Clay. I didn’t take it like she was throwing mom under the bus.
Clay is a work in progress. He came to this experiment to EXPERIMENT. Nothing wrong with that. He will marry when he comes across someone he feels is worth the work and sacrifice of being married. Love his confidence and self awareness. ❤️
Exactly I don’t no y everyone thinks different. Whole show is an experiment and he was very transparent.
So ridiculous how AD’s comment about her not wanting to have the same story as his mom. Just fishing for an offence bc of how he came across. She didn’t say it maliciously at all.
Exactly.
He learned every excuse there is to do what he already knew he was gonna do. I can’t wait to see his therapeutic journey he needs help.
I really liked this interview. I see you Clay, I appreciate your ownership and how you embrace your growth. Your family is golden. Much love.
his mother told his father he mistreated her. so for AD to say she didn't want that for her like his mother was not a diss to his mom at all. she was mistreated by her husband and who wants that?
No one wants to waste 23 years of marriage 😢23 years of life if it’s that kind of marriage AD said nothing wrong
Really great interview!!
AD is Clay mom's they both didn't see the signs
I’m glad he did an interview
Clay was just better off saying he wasnt into her or attracted to her enough for marriage.
That was 50% of reason. The other 50% was because he wanted to promote his businesses
Exactly. And he’s not taking accountability, talking about “bro code” . He didn’t learn anything . Of course AD wanted to be a wife- that’s what the show was about 😂
Exactly. Then gets to the reunion and says he made a mistake and she's the love of his life. To now in the media say it's worse to lose a championship than the love of his life. He's a 🌈 clown who is using these women as beards for business promo.
This interview is dopeeee!!!!