3:34 my older brother instead for years that he wasn't good looking. One day I had enough and yelled "do you think I'M ugly?" He said no, I replied "then why do you think you are? We have the same fucking face." Yeah our faces aren't exactly the same, but we're very similar. It's obvious we're related. He hasn't complained since. My sister didn't like her nose but I pointed out she has the same nose as Mum. She hasn't complained since. It's hard for people to love themselves, it's easier to love others. So if you have family you're related to who you love, look at them, see yourself and learn to love yourself though that.
When you want a partner, be open, non-judmental, interested, honest, authentic. Talk to people, listen, take your time in getting to know the person. You don't manifest by just wishing for someone. You need to be actively interested in people!
@JPcommunicates well yes this is good advice but I’m a teenager at a catholic school 💀 there’s 5 gays including me 💀 I think imma Keep manifesting (also I just wanna say I’m not being a hater right now your advice was good)
@@Blaze-xm8xe Oh my god I remember being a queer kid in a small school in the middle of nowhere! I know it doesn't feel like it but it does get better! I feel like the worse part was the feeling of absolute isolation!
@@LilFeralGangrel thx so much I don’t think u even understand that this means so much to me thankfully I have another gay friend lol but ya it can be tuff sometimes:)
The guy who "went ahead to check the lay of the land" ... Um... ok, if you were "worried" there would be no room for you on the beach, ask your pregnant wife to wait in the (hopefully) air conditioned car, you run ahead and make sure it is worth her effort to go... then come back and walk her to the beach, hrck you're 6'4" carry her if she asks you to.
Funny that you try to educate others on how they choose to live their lives. What about your own life? Do you treat others with respect, accept them as they are as a person and let them decide how to live? Or do you run around and feel called to tell everyone what to do? Do you take account for your own choices as well, or do you blame others and bully around when you feel mistreated?
@JPcommunicates Weird question. But I take full responsibility for my life. I'm far from perfect. If "He" (or Brianne) had not asked AITA on the internet I would not have said a word. "He" asked. My reply was less "yes, you are TA" than Brianne's. When I'm with someone I may not be able to fully mask impatience if they are "slow", but I don't leave them. I "tried" to understand why he'd go ahead, and came up with the beach might be busy. then tried to compromise, go check it out while not leaving wife walking alone. Do you usually assume people commenting on a YT video are trying to tell people (not in the video mind you) how to live their life? My reply was not "deep" and I don't see it as telling him how to live his life... as he will never see my reply to Brianne's video. I never tell people how to live their lives, and I never intend to bully or blame others, I've been on the receiving end. As mentioned I'm not perfect and a casual reply online could be taken wrong, but it is never my intent.
Good Lord the second story😟 At that point, CPS needs to be involved because this has gone way past neglect and toxicity, but I'd argue borderline abuse
@@katelynhuff4754 I know you think that was a good response but that doesn't actually explain anything. It does confirm you're a sexist though, so well done.
@@katelynhuff4754 mansplaining is a term made up by feminists to sh*t on men anytime they talk. Majority of the time when men are explaining something is because they are trying to be helpful or trying to get their own viewpoint across, men are not mind readers, so they do not know if the person they are talking to already know this information in this case they had a difference of opinion and he was trying to get his viewpoint across by referencing her published work. I think she did a dick move trying to humiliate him though because she did it only with the intention of humiliating him (i do not mean his ego) when at the end of the night she said he was wrong simply because he understood her work differently from how she intended it to mean. Again, he is not a mind reader simply because she intended her work to mean a specific way does not mean that when he read the actual words and how she wrote it mean that anyone would understand it the specific way she had intended it to mean.
That PTO story is like when someone (also in the US of course) is upset about that they didn't get as much (or any) tips as they should (read: they feel entitled to). You live in a broken system, you shouldn't get (and more importantly shouldn't rely on) any tips at all, what you should get is - surprise, surprise - a proper wage. Similarly, that nurse shouldn't rely on donated PTO, the healthcare system should cover that, not you, the individual.
(Speaks in ‘Union Member’) ‘Donate my Paid time off?’ To me my answer would be: No, the reason why it’s being asked for doesn’t matter, if I like or dislike the person I’m being asked to donate my PTO for it doesn’t matter.’ The Manager is paid to ensure the staffing levels are adequate. ‘If you’re short staffed due to illness (or any other reason) then hire another member of staff (either permanently or on a temporary basis). Either way not my problem’. But that’s coming from a country with a historically strong Union culture which fought for a better level of rights and protections for employees (although it’s slowly been eroded and chipped away at over the years).
And where was the statement about how much ADDITIONAL PTO was being paid by the employer? Surely they should be 'donating' before other staff members are 'expected' to? Totally f'd up system.
God I hate when someone’s an asshole and people back them for some reason as if anything they possibly said or did was ok and act as if the “victim” in the situation is somehow in the wrong. Thanks for your videos as always !
I would say ESH for the Laundry story. OP is 1,000% worse, but the roommate is being a bit of an AH too. There is no need for her constant judgment on how she spends her money (or her parent's money). I personally would do my own laundry, but if someone else has the resources to get it done... It's like people who complain that other people have cleaners while they have to clean themselves. Yeah, I wish I had the money to pay for a cleaner, but constantly complaining about it seems like a waste of time and effort and just kind of makes you look bad.
100% agree with you about the laundry story. OP kept acting like it was "her money" being spent on the service, when it is definitely her parents'. The entitlement is so extreme. Then calling her poor, that is so horrible rude. Unless OP continues to go about her life only surrounded by rich people, you can't just act this way as an adult and not expect to be the villain. She is so out of touch with the reality of most people, and it sounds like college is probably the first time she is interacting with someone from a different economic level, so of course there'll be clashes. I lived in a residence in first year where I befriended a girl who I gradually found out was very rich (why she was in our residence I don't know, maybe she decided to see how the other half lives). I eventually had to end our friendship because her entitlement was so extreme, she had never met someone from my economic background and clearly didn't know how the world worked, everything had been done for her and it was exhausting being around her and trying to explain to her why she was out of touch.
On the first one: I think the mom was on the right track with poor delivery. She should be encouraging her kid that looks aren't everything, that looking different makes people special, that her value doesn't hinge on her looks, and that people should live each other for what's inside. Body neutrality baybee. But you can't start with body neutrality after years of "lying" to you kid then saying "okay look, you're average and that's okay"
My dad always wanted a boy, but he had my sister first. And growing up it honestly still felt like he loved my sister more because he always wanted his boy to be this big, tough, stereotypical chad of a man and I'm more of a nerdy, pudgy kind of guy that hates getting his hands dirty. He always used to have worried conversations with my step-mum about "what if he turns out to be gay?" and he'd often reprimand me for doing stuff because it was "gay" or "only girls do that, mate". As the tears went on, he became less accusatory about thinking I was gay, but he just started becoming more aggressive and toxic of an alcoholic and would instead do stuff like take me to bars and try to get me drunk in order to loosen my tongue so I would share more than I was comfortable with and he would call it "bonding". Or calling me up out of the blue to tell me I wasn't "doing good enough" with my mental health and he was "sick of hearing about" how my step-mum had been a cruel, emotionally abusive person to me when I was growing up, despite the fact that my mental health issues are largely in as bad as they are because she had been abusive for over a decade. To this day she still won't even acknowledge it, and dad seems to have backtracked on his acknowledgement as well since he's apparently still in love with her (they got divorced also surprise surprise), or at least cares more about defending her honour than he does about not calling me when he's drunk and telling me nothing I ever do is good enough for him (like I want to make him happy any more lol). So I don't talk to my dad, now. He wanted a son that is a person who I will never be, and despite having 35+ years to come to terms with that, he's still kind of an ass about it and I'm sure the fear never left him. And in the end, I'm not gay but I almost wish I had been just cause of how much he would have freaked out about it.
“Common sense is not common.”-Sir Oscar Wilde But truly I think most people need to be taught how to be considerate because it involves empathy and people are so emotionally stunted and self involved that they need to be taught how to be empathetic.
I agree that a lot of people are "emotionally stunted and self involved", but I think that it's because the adults that are supposed to set an exemple are themselves "emotionally stunted and self involved" so they are "teaching" to be exactly that to children who, for the vast majority would naturally be empathetic.
Being a parent of a teen is almost as hard as being a teen, but come one, you can be honest and kind, surely you are aware that with social media, influencers, filters, AI ,etc. etc. there's so much more pressure on teens to look a certain way than we had. You explain to your kid that there are very few people in the world who everyone thinks is beautiful. Beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder, and there will be people out there who will think that you are gorgeous, it doesn't matter if everyone else does. And nearly everyone goes through the awkward stage and it's usually when you are a teen as aspects of your features mature at different rates you don't always look harmonious, but things will settle, and nature makes us go through the ugly duckling stage so that we develop decent personalities. People who don't go through an awkward stage end up like the laundry service girl; entitled jerks. And just a note that I wonder if gender disappointment mum went through some sort of SA or had historical issues with men along those lines and she internalised this into hatred against men? That wouldn't make it okay, as you need to get therapy and sort that sort of thing out before you bring children into this world, but I like to try to figure out why someone might behave the way they do and with the mum's family taking her side I just wonder what the underlying issue because if that was my nephew or cousin I'd be backing them up and trying to support them.
I probably would've said that their beauty standards are rooted in antisemitic, anti-Black, European standards of beauty, and that yeah, like you said, beauty is subjective. I've met lots of people who specifically love large noses. Beauty is a social construct, just like any other. I would've said that because it would empower me to hear that and it wouldn't be a lie. Plus it gives her something to clap back at the idiots she's stuck going to school with.
"nature makes us go through the ugly duckling stage so that we develop decent personalities. People who don't go through an awkward stage end up like the laundry service girl; entitled jerks", not sure it works that way, but I agree with the rest of your comment.
Do you have kids??😂😂 What teenager kept paying attention throughout that whole conversation you would try to have with them. Lmfao. I could barely keep my eyes focused these teens will not listen to you nothing you say during that incredibly meaningful conversation will be heard unless you have magical children that I have never heard of 😂😂
@@beatyz2 Of course I have kids. I have a teen, which is why I made the comment about being the parent of a teen, because I am literally a parent of a teen. It's not rocket science. Have you parented a teen? I guess call my kid a Unicorn, because you think they are magical, and I guess I agree, sometimes... I'd use an emoji to respond, but I'm not 12... or a douchebag, so...
I love these videos a lot, so I wouldn't mind more of these. 🤩 It'd be nice if you could include some other people's take on the posts of the OP, you're reading and reacting too, if you catch what I'm getting at. 💁♀😅
That second story makes me so mad. My dad always wanted this really macho son who would plough the fields and wrangle the cattle or whatever. I'm more of a nerdy, chubby guy (almost like him actually) and he never could quite get over this fear he had that I'd turn out to be gay. Even 35yrs later, he's more concerned with defending the honour of his ex 2nd wife (who had been an abusive step mother to me for over 12yrs) than he is with trying to understand how I struggle with my mental health even now because of them both. We last spoke when he called me out of nowhere (drunk I think) and yelled at me for not "getting better" fast enough (regarding mental health) and to tell me he was "sick of hearing about" how my ex step mother had emotionally abused me and that this was WHY I struggle so much with it now. So I told him to go f___ himself and go get married to that b____ again if he loves her so much, hung up on him and will go to the grave without forgiving him. Enough is enough. I'm not even gay, either. Never was, but I wish I had been only because of how much of a problem he made out of it.
Happy New Year Brianne & I can’t wait to see what you & the highly acclaimed Low Budget Shit Show bring us in 2025 ❤️🤗❤️. All the best for the coming year 🌅🌅🌅
I just found your channel from this video but I’m glad I did and I hope you don’t mind if I go through your other videos on your channel and see what else you have to offer 😊
12:01 Pregnant woman story. I would make a defense for the husband in a foreign country even I as just a random person I would like to know what the environment is like and to see if who is present and what people are doing. This is in the progress of keeping the venerable person out of potentially harmful environments. I would make the assumption if the op was military, police, or in personal protection this would be the expected action in this environment.
I almost see what the mum in the first story was trying to say hut guessing from her tone of writing, I bet it came out much worse than we are imagining. There was a way to pass on the "most human beings are average" thing, but she most likely failed spectacularly at it. Also, speaking from experience, her daughter can probably tell that her mum is tired of her having issues. Parents will claim to care for her children but then wish that their kids will just snap out of it.
Yeah. But Absolute opposite of benefit of the doubt. And that's fine, but giving nobody any good will means that you're someone who's likely a pessimist. So if you think the pessimistic view is the appropriate line for what is to be assumed...... Sure, decide she's a villain. everyone would be 🙄
As an autistic person, mom is definitely on the spectrum. Her daughter's feelings are important, but it's difficult for a parent to be perfect through and through, especially when you don't understand what your child is feeling because it doesn't make any sense for you. Daughter needs to see a therapist and hopefully when she's older and less reliant on external validation they can mend those scars.
Regarding story 1: I don't think the mom was the a-hole. She acted with good intentions, trying to normalize beauty standards and encourage therapy, but her response lacked the emotional sensitivity her daughter needed in that vulnerable moment. While honesty can be important, it’s hard for parents to balance being truthful with offering comfort, especially in sudden, emotionally charged situations. I feel mom’s approach missed the mark, but her actions weren’t malicious, just a misstep in a tough parenting moment.
Not sure if I agree about the laundry one 100%, to have someone you dont get on with normally, to CONSTANTLY go on about how you're spendinig youre money, is beyond assholey, its downright rude. Look make one or two general comments about the program, dont direct them at the person using it, shes obviously not the only one, if she can afford it, it shouldnt be on her to stop using it because one person is complaining about it. ESH
Why did the "poor" kid feel she was entitled to voice her opinion on whether someone uses a laundry service or not, what business is it of hers what other people do with their own money or was she just jealous that she was not in a position to do the same? I am sure we all have things we waste money on like buying coffee or bottled water instead of bringing one from home, buying a $100,000 car instead of a $30,000 one, paying someone to mow your lawn/clean your pool instead of doing it yourself. If you can afford to do it and it does not effect or harm anyone else then go right ahead. Other ppl do not get a say in what you do
I don't disagree that she probably didn't need to continue voicing her opinion on the matter despite probably being told by OP that they find it useful and it's their money to spend but OP is the asshole for how they went about their response. Really both people in this post are assholes in their own right but Brianne hit the nail in the coffin in that OP had no right to comment on their friend's financial situation, state that it's her parents' responsibility to support her when we don't know the situation whether that be her parents can't or won't for whatever reason, and act entitled in their update by hating on people that are probably telling them that they're not acknowledging that being able to pay for a service like that is a privilege even if many others at the school do utilize it
Trusty fund baby or and here's just a thought she has a job and unlike most young people is financially savvy and don't go out drinking and partying 24/7. Her friend could also just be one of those typical college kids wasting money getting drunk and partying 24/7. We just don't know heres another thought it could be made up for attention it is reddit after all.
The laundry service one, they both suck. Op could have handled it much better but the friend was being annoying always mentioning it. Op sucked more though
I think youre wrong about the laundry story cause i don't understand why someone would constantly be belittling someone else for how they choose to spend their money i think it was rude to call her poor. But i also think it's bad manners to constantly complain about someone else paying for a service and im not rich by any means and i do my laundry myself
this is funny as an ugly person because average-looking isn't an insult? it's fucked up to tell her she's average-looking after you've been telling her she's beautiful, but it seems like there are larger problems with her upbringing that make her feel like it's so important for her to be beautiful, especially given that it sounds like she is average by the beauty standards of her society
I agree with you, is important to teach people to accept their looks and everyone elses. A lot of times parent lack parenting skills, don't usually sit down to explain things, but it's really hard to do when you're young, specially nowadays, nowadays if you tell someone you're not pretty the first thing they tell you is: "don't say that, don't be mean to yourself" I always find that amusing. That mother was in an impossible situation, if she lied and say she was pretty the daughter would know she was lying and the truth we know how it went. if someone tells you to be totally truthful about their looks, they really don't want you to be truthful 🤣
When you are young and female beauty is the most important currency. That's what society teaches women. Being told you are average means you are deprived of that currency, which can cause a great deal of grief. Never the less I think the mother wasn't at fault. There was no good answer to give : lying and telling her daughter she is beautiful would have either kept her in an endless cycle of seeking external validation, or shattered her trust because she would have known her mother was incapable of being honest with her.
@lise7538 society teaches us that, but parents can and should teach us, especially girls who aren't conventionally beautiful, that we have value and worth for who we are, not defined by how we look. I don't think the mother was wrong to be honest, but I think it reflects that the mother hasn't built a foundation for her daughter to have self-esteem even if the world doesn't find her beautiful
@@ArtichokeHunter I see your point, and I'm not saying it's iot important but do you realize his difficult it is to raise a human being ? No one is ready to be a parent, and most of the time parents have to try and teach their children things they didn't even master themselves. This mom probably didn't have THIS conversation with her mom either (also there's a dad involved, it's not always the mom's fault when girls have issues with their self-image). Not to mention mom sounds like she is on the spectrum, and if that's the case she probably doesn't have the tool to understand what her daughter is going through because she is driven by logic and lacks empathy.
Story one: NTA. The daughter did ask for honesty. She should have been willing to accept it. The mom should offer solutions forhow the daughter could be more attractive or eye catching. But she's NTA for actually giving her the truth. Story two: NTA. Are you me? But seriously, I know this kid's struggle. There's also a lady I know, she's got two kids, but if you look at her social media, you'd think she only had her daughter. Her son is about 4 years older than the daughter, but he shows up in pictures so rarely, you'd think he was just another of her friends. People have the nerve to call her a good mother, my rebuttal was "what's her son's name?" Most of them don't know she has one. They live in the same house. Story three: YTA. You aren't storming the beaches of Normandy. Unless there's something you forgot to write, it sounds like you're more excited to be at the beach, than being with your pregnant wife. That is a whole other issue to deal with. Story four: YTA. Resign. You clearly forget why you're there. Do no harm, or if you have to, do the least harm. Will having time off cure her? Probably not. But it'll probably make things easier on her. So do it. You don't have to like someone, to be considerate. Story five: ESH. You both judge each other. You see her as poor, she sees you as spoiled. You could both be right. But it doesn't matter. She envies what you take for granted, and you look down on her for it. You aren't offering to help her, so you aren't better than her. Story six: NAH/ESH. Sounds like a misunderstanding that you both reacted terribly to. You both suck.
I'm sorry, that first story 😂😂😂 OP is not an AH! I really don't see how she can be. It's true. It's like if she came home every day saying she's being told to use for being too tall and then you tell her she's average height like most people are because that's what average helps people decide.
Ruining your daughter's confidence is terrible parenting. Especially when it's an already insecure teen. You're ignoring how much words, especially when it's their parents, can affect ppls mental health.
@awkwarduck Telling her daughter she is beautiful is not helping her daughter's confidence at all. It's keeping her in a vicious cycle where she associates her self-worth with her external appearance. It's the opposite of teaching confidence AND bad parenting.
Agree with all of those - safe for the first one. Maybe "average looking" is not a nice term and it could have been phrased better, but really think of the alternatives here, i. e. lying to the child. You think that would have stopped the bullying? You think that would have not come back to bite you (and her) in the ass? You think that would have made *anything* better? Honesty has a reputation for being the best court of action in most cases (even if it hurts) for a reason.
Yeah, I think there are larger issues through probably the kid's whole upbringing here, but also just a lack of diplomacy and overall empathy with the mom moreso than the actual "average looking" comment. I think the mom could reasonably have sat the kid down and talked about beauty standards, how subjective beauty is, and how bullies are poking at her insecurity just to be mean more so than actually reflecting how she looks. She could say that her daughter is beautiful to her for all sorts of reasons based on what she knows about her, but also acknowledge that that doesn't means that other people aren't also beautiful, or that everyone will see her as beautiful. (Personally, I think most women are pretty so really "average" is pretty, but who knows if the mom thinks that.) She could talk to her daughter about her self-image, what she likes about herself, what she does or wears that make her feel good about herself, etc. (Depending on the kid and how she responds, they could look at changes to hair, fashion, or other aspects of her appearance that could improve her feelings about her appearance, and maybe make a pinterest board together if there are actual changes she wants to express herself better and not just to submit to social pressure.) And she could talk to her kid about therapy, since this body image stuff seems pretty serious and impactful to her life at this point.
3:34 my older brother instead for years that he wasn't good looking. One day I had enough and yelled "do you think I'M ugly?" He said no, I replied "then why do you think you are? We have the same fucking face."
Yeah our faces aren't exactly the same, but we're very similar. It's obvious we're related. He hasn't complained since.
My sister didn't like her nose but I pointed out she has the same nose as Mum. She hasn't complained since.
It's hard for people to love themselves, it's easier to love others. So if you have family you're related to who you love, look at them, see yourself and learn to love yourself though that.
Happy new year lesbians/everyone manifesting us all girlfriends in 2025🕯️
doing the lords work ✨
When you want a partner, be open, non-judmental, interested, honest, authentic. Talk to people, listen, take your time in getting to know the person. You don't manifest by just wishing for someone. You need to be actively interested in people!
@JPcommunicates well yes this is good advice but I’m a teenager at a catholic school 💀 there’s 5 gays including me 💀 I think imma Keep manifesting (also I just wanna say I’m not being a hater right now your advice was good)
@@Blaze-xm8xe Oh my god I remember being a queer kid in a small school in the middle of nowhere! I know it doesn't feel like it but it does get better! I feel like the worse part was the feeling of absolute isolation!
@@LilFeralGangrel thx so much I don’t think u even understand that this means so much to me thankfully I have another gay friend lol but ya it can be tuff sometimes:)
The guy who "went ahead to check the lay of the land" ... Um... ok, if you were "worried" there would be no room for you on the beach, ask your pregnant wife to wait in the (hopefully) air conditioned car, you run ahead and make sure it is worth her effort to go... then come back and walk her to the beach, hrck you're 6'4" carry her if she asks you to.
Funny that you try to educate others on how they choose to live their lives. What about your own life? Do you treat others with respect, accept them as they are as a person and let them decide how to live? Or do you run around and feel called to tell everyone what to do? Do you take account for your own choices as well, or do you blame others and bully around when you feel mistreated?
@JPcommunicatesWTF idiot? They can express their opinion and you can shut the hell up.
You must be an American
@JPcommunicates Weird question. But I take full responsibility for my life. I'm far from perfect. If "He" (or Brianne) had not asked AITA on the internet I would not have said a word. "He" asked. My reply was less "yes, you are TA" than Brianne's. When I'm with someone I may not be able to fully mask impatience if they are "slow", but I don't leave them. I "tried" to understand why he'd go ahead, and came up with the beach might be busy. then tried to compromise, go check it out while not leaving wife walking alone.
Do you usually assume people commenting on a YT video are trying to tell people (not in the video mind you) how to live their life? My reply was not "deep" and I don't see it as telling him how to live his life... as he will never see my reply to Brianne's video.
I never tell people how to live their lives, and I never intend to bully or blame others, I've been on the receiving end. As mentioned I'm not perfect and a casual reply online could be taken wrong, but it is never my intent.
Good Lord the second story😟
At that point, CPS needs to be involved because this has gone way past neglect and toxicity, but I'd argue borderline abuse
Neglect is considered abuse.
sippin' tea and watching this vid ✨immaculate vibes✨
same!!! doing just the same!! lol
It was worth watching that for the last story alone
Made it all worth it 🤌🏽
The mansplaining title is idiotic though and is usually used by sexist women.
@@sopronunciareglignocchi7255mansplaining was used in the title because you guessed it, he was mansplaining😊
@@katelynhuff4754
I know you think that was a good response but that doesn't actually explain anything. It does confirm you're a sexist though, so well done.
@@katelynhuff4754 mansplaining is a term made up by feminists to sh*t on men anytime they talk. Majority of the time when men are explaining something is because they are trying to be helpful or trying to get their own viewpoint across, men are not mind readers, so they do not know if the person they are talking to already know this information in this case they had a difference of opinion and he was trying to get his viewpoint across by referencing her published work. I think she did a dick move trying to humiliate him though because she did it only with the intention of humiliating him (i do not mean his ego) when at the end of the night she said he was wrong simply because he understood her work differently from how she intended it to mean.
Again, he is not a mind reader simply because she intended her work to mean a specific way does not mean that when he read the actual words and how she wrote it mean that anyone would understand it the specific way she had intended it to mean.
That PTO story is like when someone (also in the US of course) is upset about that they didn't get as much (or any) tips as they should (read: they feel entitled to). You live in a broken system, you shouldn't get (and more importantly shouldn't rely on) any tips at all, what you should get is - surprise, surprise - a proper wage. Similarly, that nurse shouldn't rely on donated PTO, the healthcare system should cover that, not you, the individual.
YES FINALLY WEVE BEEN FED
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(Speaks in ‘Union Member’) ‘Donate my Paid time off?’ To me my answer would be: No, the reason why it’s being asked for doesn’t matter, if I like or dislike the person I’m being asked to donate my PTO for it doesn’t matter.’
The Manager is paid to ensure the staffing levels are adequate.
‘If you’re short staffed due to illness (or any other reason) then hire another member of staff (either permanently or on a temporary basis).
Either way not my problem’.
But that’s coming from a country with a historically strong Union culture which fought for a better level of rights and protections for employees (although it’s slowly been eroded and chipped away at over the years).
And where was the statement about how much ADDITIONAL PTO was being paid by the employer? Surely they should be 'donating' before other staff members are 'expected' to? Totally f'd up system.
God I hate when someone’s an asshole and people back them for some reason as if anything they possibly said or did was ok and act as if the “victim” in the situation is somehow in the wrong. Thanks for your videos as always !
I would say ESH for the Laundry story. OP is 1,000% worse, but the roommate is being a bit of an AH too. There is no need for her constant judgment on how she spends her money (or her parent's money). I personally would do my own laundry, but if someone else has the resources to get it done... It's like people who complain that other people have cleaners while they have to clean themselves. Yeah, I wish I had the money to pay for a cleaner, but constantly complaining about it seems like a waste of time and effort and just kind of makes you look bad.
Yeah the incessant comments (if OP is being truthful) are unnecessary. But OP’s attitude and entitlement suckkkks
100% agree with you about the laundry story. OP kept acting like it was "her money" being spent on the service, when it is definitely her parents'. The entitlement is so extreme. Then calling her poor, that is so horrible rude. Unless OP continues to go about her life only surrounded by rich people, you can't just act this way as an adult and not expect to be the villain. She is so out of touch with the reality of most people, and it sounds like college is probably the first time she is interacting with someone from a different economic level, so of course there'll be clashes. I lived in a residence in first year where I befriended a girl who I gradually found out was very rich (why she was in our residence I don't know, maybe she decided to see how the other half lives). I eventually had to end our friendship because her entitlement was so extreme, she had never met someone from my economic background and clearly didn't know how the world worked, everything had been done for her and it was exhausting being around her and trying to explain to her why she was out of touch.
On the first one: I think the mom was on the right track with poor delivery. She should be encouraging her kid that looks aren't everything, that looking different makes people special, that her value doesn't hinge on her looks, and that people should live each other for what's inside. Body neutrality baybee.
But you can't start with body neutrality after years of "lying" to you kid then saying "okay look, you're average and that's okay"
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Hey Brianne, I love these videos of yours and I love how invested you get in the story. It’s probably the Aussie way you talk about it.
7:56 This is supervillain backstory type-shit 🫣🫡
Make your bed, that made me laugh so much 😂❤
My dad always wanted a boy, but he had my sister first. And growing up it honestly still felt like he loved my sister more because he always wanted his boy to be this big, tough, stereotypical chad of a man and I'm more of a nerdy, pudgy kind of guy that hates getting his hands dirty. He always used to have worried conversations with my step-mum about "what if he turns out to be gay?" and he'd often reprimand me for doing stuff because it was "gay" or "only girls do that, mate". As the tears went on, he became less accusatory about thinking I was gay, but he just started becoming more aggressive and toxic of an alcoholic and would instead do stuff like take me to bars and try to get me drunk in order to loosen my tongue so I would share more than I was comfortable with and he would call it "bonding". Or calling me up out of the blue to tell me I wasn't "doing good enough" with my mental health and he was "sick of hearing about" how my step-mum had been a cruel, emotionally abusive person to me when I was growing up, despite the fact that my mental health issues are largely in as bad as they are because she had been abusive for over a decade. To this day she still won't even acknowledge it, and dad seems to have backtracked on his acknowledgement as well since he's apparently still in love with her (they got divorced also surprise surprise), or at least cares more about defending her honour than he does about not calling me when he's drunk and telling me nothing I ever do is good enough for him (like I want to make him happy any more lol).
So I don't talk to my dad, now. He wanted a son that is a person who I will never be, and despite having 35+ years to come to terms with that, he's still kind of an ass about it and I'm sure the fear never left him. And in the end, I'm not gay but I almost wish I had been just cause of how much he would have freaked out about it.
thanks for feeding into my need for aita/reddit videos in the background constantly while i write my ao3 fics
“Common sense is not common.”-Sir Oscar Wilde
But truly I think most people need to be taught how to be considerate because it involves empathy and people are so emotionally stunted and self involved that they need to be taught how to be empathetic.
I agree that a lot of people are "emotionally stunted and self involved", but I think that it's because the adults that are supposed to set an exemple are themselves "emotionally stunted and self involved" so they are "teaching" to be exactly that to children who, for the vast majority would naturally be empathetic.
@ I’ve seen kids know right and wrong more than adults. Adults tend to make up excuses. It’s why the term cherry picking applies to the bible🤷🏾♀️
Being a parent of a teen is almost as hard as being a teen, but come one, you can be honest and kind, surely you are aware that with social media, influencers, filters, AI ,etc. etc. there's so much more pressure on teens to look a certain way than we had. You explain to your kid that there are very few people in the world who everyone thinks is beautiful. Beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder, and there will be people out there who will think that you are gorgeous, it doesn't matter if everyone else does. And nearly everyone goes through the awkward stage and it's usually when you are a teen as aspects of your features mature at different rates you don't always look harmonious, but things will settle, and nature makes us go through the ugly duckling stage so that we develop decent personalities. People who don't go through an awkward stage end up like the laundry service girl; entitled jerks. And just a note that I wonder if gender disappointment mum went through some sort of SA or had historical issues with men along those lines and she internalised this into hatred against men? That wouldn't make it okay, as you need to get therapy and sort that sort of thing out before you bring children into this world, but I like to try to figure out why someone might behave the way they do and with the mum's family taking her side I just wonder what the underlying issue because if that was my nephew or cousin I'd be backing them up and trying to support them.
I probably would've said that their beauty standards are rooted in antisemitic, anti-Black, European standards of beauty, and that yeah, like you said, beauty is subjective. I've met lots of people who specifically love large noses. Beauty is a social construct, just like any other.
I would've said that because it would empower me to hear that and it wouldn't be a lie. Plus it gives her something to clap back at the idiots she's stuck going to school with.
"nature makes us go through the ugly duckling stage so that we develop decent personalities. People who don't go through an awkward stage end up like the laundry service girl; entitled jerks", not sure it works that way, but I agree with the rest of your comment.
Do you have kids??😂😂 What teenager kept paying attention throughout that whole conversation you would try to have with them. Lmfao. I could barely keep my eyes focused these teens will not listen to you nothing you say during that incredibly meaningful conversation will be heard unless you have magical children that I have never heard of 😂😂
@@beatyz2 Of course I have kids. I have a teen, which is why I made the comment about being the parent of a teen, because I am literally a parent of a teen. It's not rocket science. Have you parented a teen? I guess call my kid a Unicorn, because you think they are magical, and I guess I agree, sometimes... I'd use an emoji to respond, but I'm not 12... or a douchebag, so...
I love these videos a lot, so I wouldn't mind more of these. 🤩
It'd be nice if you could include some other people's take on the posts of the OP, you're reading and reacting too, if you catch what I'm getting at. 💁♀😅
oooh yes! good idea
God, the first one sounds like my mom. "I'm just honest". Yet when you are "honest" to them, they lose their shit.
That second story makes me so mad. My dad always wanted this really macho son who would plough the fields and wrangle the cattle or whatever. I'm more of a nerdy, chubby guy (almost like him actually) and he never could quite get over this fear he had that I'd turn out to be gay. Even 35yrs later, he's more concerned with defending the honour of his ex 2nd wife (who had been an abusive step mother to me for over 12yrs) than he is with trying to understand how I struggle with my mental health even now because of them both.
We last spoke when he called me out of nowhere (drunk I think) and yelled at me for not "getting better" fast enough (regarding mental health) and to tell me he was "sick of hearing about" how my ex step mother had emotionally abused me and that this was WHY I struggle so much with it now. So I told him to go f___ himself and go get married to that b____ again if he loves her so much, hung up on him and will go to the grave without forgiving him. Enough is enough.
I'm not even gay, either. Never was, but I wish I had been only because of how much of a problem he made out of it.
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I just found your channel from this video but I’m glad I did and I hope you don’t mind if I go through your other videos on your channel and see what else you have to offer 😊
Nah literally set up my phone and watched the video while changing my sheets. I felt so called out
The way I felt like a pavlov dog when my ears pricked up to you saying "sit down, strap in"...way too gay over here
That last one was hilarious. Made up for the rest being pretty infuriating.
The poster was def the a-hole for calling their friend poor, but I don't think you need to be a "trust fund baby" to afford a laundry service.
It's not the laundry service that gave off trust fund baby, its the entitlement
12:01 Pregnant woman story. I would make a defense for the husband in a foreign country even I as just a random person I would like to know what the environment is like and to see if who is present and what people are doing. This is in the progress of keeping the venerable person out of potentially harmful environments. I would make the assumption if the op was military, police, or in personal protection this would be the expected action in this environment.
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Maybe think about bringing back the dashcam series again?!!!?!
RUclips nukes those kinds of videos almost immediately unfortunately.
You're looking particularly good in this vid Brianne if I say so myself
I almost see what the mum in the first story was trying to say hut guessing from her tone of writing, I bet it came out much worse than we are imagining.
There was a way to pass on the "most human beings are average" thing, but she most likely failed spectacularly at it.
Also, speaking from experience, her daughter can probably tell that her mum is tired of her having issues. Parents will claim to care for her children but then wish that their kids will just snap out of it.
Yeah. But Absolute opposite of benefit of the doubt. And that's fine, but giving nobody any good will means that you're someone who's likely a pessimist. So if you think the pessimistic view is the appropriate line for what is to be assumed...... Sure, decide she's a villain. everyone would be 🙄
As an autistic person, mom is definitely on the spectrum. Her daughter's feelings are important, but it's difficult for a parent to be perfect through and through, especially when you don't understand what your child is feeling because it doesn't make any sense for you.
Daughter needs to see a therapist and hopefully when she's older and less reliant on external validation they can mend those scars.
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Thankyou lovely 🥰
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Am I going crazy or is this a re-upload?! 😂 (could have just watched Brianne for too many years and can now predict her sentences though....)
Literally wondering the exact same thing!! 😅
Definitely not a reupload - probably just repeating myself 😂
@@ruckuslike tehehe sorry Brianne! I've just watched too many of your vids 😅 Thanks so much for letting me know so I know what flavour of mad I am
Regarding story 1:
I don't think the mom was the a-hole. She acted with good intentions, trying to normalize beauty standards and encourage therapy, but her response lacked the emotional sensitivity her daughter needed in that vulnerable moment. While honesty can be important, it’s hard for parents to balance being truthful with offering comfort, especially in sudden, emotionally charged situations. I feel mom’s approach missed the mark, but her actions weren’t malicious, just a misstep in a tough parenting moment.
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Funny BUT I realy wish you would look again at those story in 20 year to see how your opinion would change or not... Happy New Year 😀
i was just like the boy from the gender disappointment except mom dindt even love the daughter... so i left her home at like 16 and never came back
I don't know, man
Some people need humbling
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Not sure if I agree about the laundry one 100%, to have someone you dont get on with normally, to CONSTANTLY go on about how you're spendinig youre money, is beyond assholey, its downright rude. Look make one or two general comments about the program, dont direct them at the person using it, shes obviously not the only one, if she can afford it, it shouldnt be on her to stop using it because one person is complaining about it.
ESH
btw you learning to solve a rubic cube?
Why did the "poor" kid feel she was entitled to voice her opinion on whether someone uses a laundry service or not, what business is it of hers what other people do with their own money or was she just jealous that she was not in a position to do the same? I am sure we all have things we waste money on like buying coffee or bottled water instead of bringing one from home, buying a $100,000 car instead of a $30,000 one, paying someone to mow your lawn/clean your pool instead of doing it yourself. If you can afford to do it and it does not effect or harm anyone else then go right ahead. Other ppl do not get a say in what you do
I don't disagree that she probably didn't need to continue voicing her opinion on the matter despite probably being told by OP that they find it useful and it's their money to spend but OP is the asshole for how they went about their response. Really both people in this post are assholes in their own right but Brianne hit the nail in the coffin in that OP had no right to comment on their friend's financial situation, state that it's her parents' responsibility to support her when we don't know the situation whether that be her parents can't or won't for whatever reason, and act entitled in their update by hating on people that are probably telling them that they're not acknowledging that being able to pay for a service like that is a privilege even if many others at the school do utilize it
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Trusty fund baby or and here's just a thought she has a job and unlike most young people is financially savvy and don't go out drinking and partying 24/7.
Her friend could also just be one of those typical college kids wasting money getting drunk and partying 24/7.
We just don't know heres another thought it could be made up for attention it is reddit after all.
The laundry service one, they both suck. Op could have handled it much better but the friend was being annoying always mentioning it. Op sucked more though
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@@sopronunciareglignocchi7255 No one asked for your comment either.
I hope Lily comes out as trans guy
I think youre wrong about the laundry story cause i don't understand why someone would constantly be belittling someone else for how they choose to spend their money i think it was rude to call her poor. But i also think it's bad manners to constantly complain about someone else paying for a service and im not rich by any means and i do my laundry myself
So don't be mad but I think the mother in the first story is not the asshole. She needs some diplomacy, but she is not an asshole.
this is funny as an ugly person because average-looking isn't an insult? it's fucked up to tell her she's average-looking after you've been telling her she's beautiful, but it seems like there are larger problems with her upbringing that make her feel like it's so important for her to be beautiful, especially given that it sounds like she is average by the beauty standards of her society
I agree with you, is important to teach people to accept their looks and everyone elses.
A lot of times parent lack parenting skills, don't usually sit down to explain things, but it's really hard to do when you're young, specially nowadays, nowadays if you tell someone you're not pretty the first thing they tell you is: "don't say that, don't be mean to yourself" I always find that amusing.
That mother was in an impossible situation, if she lied and say she was pretty the daughter would know she was lying and the truth we know how it went.
if someone tells you to be totally truthful about their looks, they really don't want you to be truthful 🤣
When you are young and female beauty is the most important currency. That's what society teaches women.
Being told you are average means you are deprived of that currency, which can cause a great deal of grief.
Never the less I think the mother wasn't at fault. There was no good answer to give : lying and telling her daughter she is beautiful would have either kept her in an endless cycle of seeking external validation, or shattered her trust because she would have known her mother was incapable of being honest with her.
@lise7538 society teaches us that, but parents can and should teach us, especially girls who aren't conventionally beautiful, that we have value and worth for who we are, not defined by how we look. I don't think the mother was wrong to be honest, but I think it reflects that the mother hasn't built a foundation for her daughter to have self-esteem even if the world doesn't find her beautiful
@@ArtichokeHunter I see your point, and I'm not saying it's iot important but do you realize his difficult it is to raise a human being ? No one is ready to be a parent, and most of the time parents have to try and teach their children things they didn't even master themselves. This mom probably didn't have THIS conversation with her mom either (also there's a dad involved, it's not always the mom's fault when girls have issues with their self-image).
Not to mention mom sounds like she is on the spectrum, and if that's the case she probably doesn't have the tool to understand what her daughter is going through because she is driven by logic and lacks empathy.
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Story one: NTA. The daughter did ask for honesty. She should have been willing to accept it. The mom should offer solutions forhow the daughter could be more attractive or eye catching. But she's NTA for actually giving her the truth.
Story two: NTA. Are you me? But seriously, I know this kid's struggle. There's also a lady I know, she's got two kids, but if you look at her social media, you'd think she only had her daughter. Her son is about 4 years older than the daughter, but he shows up in pictures so rarely, you'd think he was just another of her friends. People have the nerve to call her a good mother, my rebuttal was "what's her son's name?" Most of them don't know she has one. They live in the same house.
Story three: YTA. You aren't storming the beaches of Normandy. Unless there's something you forgot to write, it sounds like you're more excited to be at the beach, than being with your pregnant wife. That is a whole other issue to deal with.
Story four: YTA. Resign. You clearly forget why you're there. Do no harm, or if you have to, do the least harm. Will having time off cure her? Probably not. But it'll probably make things easier on her. So do it. You don't have to like someone, to be considerate.
Story five: ESH. You both judge each other. You see her as poor, she sees you as spoiled. You could both be right. But it doesn't matter. She envies what you take for granted, and you look down on her for it. You aren't offering to help her, so you aren't better than her.
Story six: NAH/ESH. Sounds like a misunderstanding that you both reacted terribly to. You both suck.
Thank you for the first story, I agree.
I'm sorry, that first story 😂😂😂 OP is not an AH! I really don't see how she can be. It's true. It's like if she came home every day saying she's being told to use for being too tall and then you tell her she's average height like most people are because that's what average helps people decide.
Ruining your daughter's confidence is terrible parenting. Especially when it's an already insecure teen. You're ignoring how much words, especially when it's their parents, can affect ppls mental health.
@awkwarduck
Telling her daughter she is beautiful is not helping her daughter's confidence at all. It's keeping her in a vicious cycle where she associates her self-worth with her external appearance. It's the opposite of teaching confidence AND bad parenting.
I agree. People are confusing what feels "good" with what's healthy.
Ok the pregnant wife is dramatic
Nah
She's pregnant.
Agree with all of those - safe for the first one.
Maybe "average looking" is not a nice term and it could have been phrased better, but really think of the alternatives here, i. e. lying to the child.
You think that would have stopped the bullying?
You think that would have not come back to bite you (and her) in the ass?
You think that would have made *anything* better?
Honesty has a reputation for being the best court of action in most cases (even if it hurts) for a reason.
Yeah, I think there are larger issues through probably the kid's whole upbringing here, but also just a lack of diplomacy and overall empathy with the mom moreso than the actual "average looking" comment. I think the mom could reasonably have sat the kid down and talked about beauty standards, how subjective beauty is, and how bullies are poking at her insecurity just to be mean more so than actually reflecting how she looks. She could say that her daughter is beautiful to her for all sorts of reasons based on what she knows about her, but also acknowledge that that doesn't means that other people aren't also beautiful, or that everyone will see her as beautiful. (Personally, I think most women are pretty so really "average" is pretty, but who knows if the mom thinks that.) She could talk to her daughter about her self-image, what she likes about herself, what she does or wears that make her feel good about herself, etc. (Depending on the kid and how she responds, they could look at changes to hair, fashion, or other aspects of her appearance that could improve her feelings about her appearance, and maybe make a pinterest board together if there are actual changes she wants to express herself better and not just to submit to social pressure.) And she could talk to her kid about therapy, since this body image stuff seems pretty serious and impactful to her life at this point.
@@ArtichokeHunter Those sound like some pretty good ideas - namely therapy, which was mentioned by the mom, IIRC.