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Hi Mark, I really appreciate your videos. Thank you! I tried searching for the video you mentioned at the end of your video on unemotionally available men. Can you please send me the link? 🌻
It's great how you take us back to Evolution & History... and the transitioning between the two sides of the brain. I took note of the fact that men are goal-driven; and women process-driven. Thank you ☺.
Mark Rosenfeld Mark i need help!!! My boyfriend dosent share his feelings at all with me and dosent wanna talk to me hardly like ever. And it upsets me and such and idk what to do or say at all. But at times i feel like when i watch these videos they help cause my boyfriend acts like this all the time. But idk if this relationship is even going to be ok or its just going to end cause i been with him for 4 years and thats a long time for me, and now its like he acts like this and such and we hardly have sex like ever and it makes me sad. Cause idk why... :( dose he not find me attractive or what but idk cause he never talks to me about anything. :( i feel like the relationship iam in isnt going to work out and its hard for me but deep down i know its true. Cause i really do love him but he tells me but he dosent show it like he used too before. :( Help me Mark Rosenfeld.
Mark, what about the guy who comes home and keeps saying things that he knows will make you hurt and angry and you know he's just trying to start a fight and no matter what you try to say or do things just keep going downhill?
It's really hard when your partner is emotionally unavailable most of the time. You're always there physically. Trying to understand him always but as humans, our patience has its limits. Better to look for a mature guy that knows how to communicate.
I usually do the 2nd way of the communication with my boyfriend just like you showed on the video. I give him a little massage in back of his head. He loves it very much and feels relax after works day. As the result, he gives me his ears and full of attention to responds all of my question. Thank you for sharing Mark! I think i am in the right path.
Throw the whole man away and find one who gives a crap about you. Been through this so many times, you can't make him care and when men act like this it's a sign they don't care. I was told by a VERY wise MAN that if a man truly cares about you, you won't have to ask, you won't have the situations like the beginning of this video. A man who cares is a man who is there, who stays, and who tries to resolve any situation.
I can't speak for all emotionally detached men - but for many of us it's not that we don't care or are not trying hard enough. It's that we genuinly don't know what to do or what to say. There is no 'just do it'. Our outlook and perception of life and relationships is completely and utterly different from other people and it is almost impossible to put in to words our deepest feelings.
And...I also hope people realise what a nightmare the woman in the first scene was. Yes, I understand that she is deeply frustrated - but imagine coming home from work and having this kind of thing thrown at you? And would you be comfortable in opening up to someone who speaks to you like that?
And lastly, when you speak of an emotionally available man, what do you actually mean by that? Are you sure that is what you want? I can't imagine how any woman can fall for such a soppy, smug and self absorbed man that is 'in touch' with his feelings.
@@HL-yb6jt However he doesn't seem commited as a husband. I heard a lot of women saying just what you are saying, and they used to put themselves in the last priority. You must value yourselves or no one else will do. Xo
The problem is that they promise you they will get back to you and they never do. If you have a recepie for that beyond "be ready to walk away", I'd love to hear.
thats what i feel, they just want to avoid talking about this stuff so they employee many a tactic to do so. "lets talk about it later' with no intention of doing so is just one.
Holy shit, i had that first conversation (more pitiful, less angry) so many times. Tried the final example and it worked with almost a word for word reply... what the heck man
Dude that helped a lot. I was finding myself frustrated because I talked about deep subjects really late at night like past midnight. And I knew he was super tired because we had been talking every night. And he’s super tired from work and seem disinterested. Kind of hurt my feelings and I started overthinking about it. But now I get it. It was just too much info being discussed late at night lol.
Okay, I’m not sure if he specifically mentioned this, but I LOVE that she patiently waits for his response while he processes what he wants to say. I love that.
Not sure if I really am up to a lot discussions about feelings and such with a man. I spent 18 years discussing problems/emotions in totally unhealthy ways and in healthy ways and I am pretty much toast on it. I like the logical thinking aspect of men and I want men to be open emotionally. If a man cries I know most likely he is at the breaking point. But right now if I can't have an open discussion and wrap it up either right then or in a couple days I just don't have the patience. Maybe it's the realization that at 56, if I am lucky, I have 20 more years. I don't want to waste time fiddle faddling around.
So sorry to hear about your negative experience Life. It does sound like you have some well firmed beliefs and negative experiences from those shitty 18 years that are definitely at risk of sabotaging your future connections with men, so make sure you be aware of what those are and let this man taint your future like he's tainted your past xx
Yes, i am the same age and I agree up to a point. I like to give my partner head space, and talk when ready, as i need that too. At this age it’s a bit different and think both sexes move towards a more unified friendship, more real and somehow more independent. But maybe as mine is a long distance relationship! This video was excellent by the way, spot on how men and women respond to each other and the way they process emotions.
This is SO helpful!! My long term boyfriend is having doubts about our future, it all came out in an emotional rush and I was initially very hurt. I’m staying at my parents to give him some space to think and I’m struggling but your videos are so insightful. So glad I found this video, I’m feeling more prepared to talk to him when he’s ready and know how I should approach the conversation. Going in with an objective and taking a rain check on solving the whole issue I think will really REALLY help! Thanks!
I’ve done all these things. Wait for the right time practice the right way to say thing to him. Develop a strategy to get him talking and the whole nine and I’m left drained and feeling like I don’t matter. It’s his world and I’m just living in it....
And even after all that she only gets 30 minutes of couple time! Does that mean after those 30 minutes he gets to ignore her for the rest of the evening? I know this is just acting, but if this was real, no wonder the poor girl feels so disconnected during sex! If this was real, I would tell her to dump his ass and find a man that actually wants to spend time with her!
Obviously we've pulled these numbers out of the air, but I actually think *truly* present time is becoming so uncommon that most of us don't get 30 minutes a week, let alone 30 minutes a day (especially couples at 2 years+). By present time, I don't mean time talking to your partner while you're waiting for your turn to speak about your own stuff, which is the way a lot of us communicate. I don't mean sex. I don't mean time doing things like watching TV together. I mean actually 'seeing' one another and being truly present. Listening, instead of waiting for your turn to speak. Feelings your partners emotions and 'relating' to them. Phone on airplane mode. No distractions. Really, truly, present time. I think most women (and men) get so little of this, that you'd be surprised at what 30 minutes per day on amazing present, quality time would do a relationship.
It's not sad. People deserve space when they need it and if he needs peace and quiet after work then she should respect his needs instead of making it all about herself.
OK you just described the last three years of my marriage in the first minute of this video! Sadly after eight years and three children my marriage has ended. My husband could never drop the stonewalling and the silent treatment and the non-communicative behavior until our relationship completely collapsed. I gave him space, I engaged him, I encouraged him, I nagged, I did everything but stand on my head, actually I think I did stand on my head once. What I’m trying to say is what was going on with my ex husband was in between his ears. that’s something I could never help him or fix or do about. and it showed a lot during our separation and divorce. he actually divorced me on text if that tells you the level of his inability to communicate. It was incredibly painful I’m still reeling from the experience and it’s been six months.
Natasha T. 1 foot in front of the other day by day. That’s all I can describe. Some days are better than others. I bought a house and moved into it yesterday. So now I’m back to my home state and I am feeling better about the distance between us now. Feelings of anger and bitterness I’m still struggling with. I just don’t feel like I was treated fairly at the end but a lot of people feel that way
This is cracking me up. I 100% agree with it & can see where I have been overwhelming him, but to me it's like reasoning with my 2 year old. "Honey, I know you really, really, REALLY, want to buy this toy, but mommy said no. It is okay if you feel upset, but we're here for groceries today." My husband's mother was a narcissist so I truly believe he was never allowed to have feelings. It also may be why he hates focusing on absolutely any of my needs, because everything was about his mother growing up. I've asked nice, calmly and been understanding, made excuses for him, I've asked late at night, during the day, I've yelled...I've done it all. I've given him time, and the next day he scoots on to work without a word about what I asked him to share. He ignores everything. I've learned that when he wants to come home and go straight to bed, to just say, "Okay, goodnight." I don't try to keep him engaged until I've worked things out. I love kayaking, biking, hiking, camping, riding my horse/ driving her with a cart, playing with our child, going to movies, playing with our dogs, I love doing woodworking, working out, working on my truck, sewing, reading, 4 wheeling, baseball, basket ball. He just only wants to do what he likes, and won't make time for me. Last week he said he wanted to spend time with me, I was secretly excited, but didn't let on because he says it a lot without investing any time. On his day off he didn't mention any plans for a date night, or anything during the day, so I scooped up my cat and read a book. The second I find something to do, he asked, "what do you want to do?" I've come to the conclusion he wants me to BEG for his time like I used to. Me: "I'd love to spend time with you, what did you have in mind?" Him: "Idk, didn't you have anything you wanted to do?" Me: I'll just read my book & snuggle the cat until you can come up with something. I'm really not sure what to do. For clarification, he always does this. He will ask what I want to do, then he ends up coming up with something completely different that I really didn't want to do, and we do that. So even if I had something planned I know his game. He picks up our child, and says, "well I'm not wasting my day off, I'll take (son's name) and we're going to find something fun to do." With that he stormed towards the door. I said, "Okay, have fun honey." After he left and I'd read a chapter of my book, I loaded up my kayak and made the hour drive to the lake. I was riding the wake of a few speed boats giggling when he called me. "Hey babe, I have a date night planned for us. Babysitter and everything, are you on your way home?" I just LAUGHED inside. 1.5 hours earlier he said he was just going to leave me at home and go do something with our son. I said, "That sounds great, but I'm kayaking and won't be back until late." He acted all sad on the phone, but I'm not going to wait for him, and I'm certainly not going to cancel my plans when he didn't make any for the two of us & deliberately left the house to be hurtful. The past few nights he's come home and went straight to bed with a man cold. No biggie, I get that. But I still felt down because he said earlier we'd watch a movie, and said all on his own "He'd make time 2 hours after he gets off work every night to spend with me." I asked, "Oh I thought we were going to watch a movie?" He went into "well not all the time, because things come up." I decided I wasn't going to let it get me down last night and followed up with the increasingly normal response, "Ok goodnight babe." But last night I took it a step further because I felt like poop and wanted to shake it off. I turned on some music, not super loud, and was dancing around the kitchen while I waited for some hand cream ingredients to melt together (I make my own). Normally when he goes off to bed he doesn't come out again. But last night he came out & started talking to me about little things nothing deep of course; just studying me while I sang along with the songs and danced. My first thought was maybe if I talk to him and I'm super engaging, he will stay up. But I quickly decided nope, he's made it clear he's going to bed and the moment I get into a good conversation with him sharing, he'll go to bed. I refuse to invest anymore than he does at this point. So my responses were friendly, but I didn't put anything into the conversation and kept my answers short. He said, "I'm going to bed." & I nodded (still dancing) he hesitated, then disappeared into the bedroom. It really seems to bother him when I'm happy. & he seems to convey the situation like, "how can I get her to be upset and chase me?" No more dude, I choose to dance. I also got a full-time job despite his protests, and him telling me I'd be paying for all of the childcare. I'm saving up to get my own place which could be soon, as I have plenty saved to do so. I found my strength in deciding for myself that I'm no longer waiting for him, I lost my mom, who was my best friend, grandma, and grandpa all within 7 months. Life is too short to waste or be upset on someone who has better things to do with their time than invest in me. That was probably the darkest time for me, and when he didn't step up to be supportive, I realized I don't want to be married to someone who isn't there for me. After all, it says, "for better or worse." What if I was the one with cancer? Their would be no one to support me. I've learned to dance in the rain, and melt away the hurt of it all. I am getting myself financially stable and moving on, everyday that is my goal. In fact I bought a bar necklace to ground myself when I feel like crap, it says, "persevere." I hold that necklace and it reminds me everyday I am enough; to keep pressing forward. That's why I let him walk away without becoming anxious. That & I don't want to be the reason our relationship drags on if I'm not happy and the only one making it work. It should be mutual, and I'm excited at the prospect of a guy who can do that for me, even if it isn't him. I want to clarify that I'm looking into this info to prepare myself for the next man. I'll be ready.
This was like empowering. Makes me want to do the same. Good for you. You are going to find someone so much better. Someone willing to be open and honest. No more childish games 👏🏽
If he has a narcissistic mother, it's more likely he will have major abandonment issues when you leave him. {Worse case after-effects are: stalking, depression, even suicide.} Please do not conclude that just because he's not into discussing feelings/things that he does not love you still. Men like that, like my husband, need a little "extra loving care" to bring out the best in them. Of course, I loathed my mother-in-law for abandoning him in a sense as a child, but glad she lives in a diff. continent... I had to do my research {read books & listened to marriage podcasts} and have had A LOT of patience & prayers to make our marriage work ~ also for the sake of our children then ~ they're adults now. No one is perfect anyway? If your husband is not emotionally abusive to you and your son, do reconsider everything. He obviously loves your child together as well. Classic Narc Victim request is for you NOT to work full time... again, it shows "abandonment" issue. I experienced the same. ✅ There are 5 Love Languages... basically 🔹 Words 🔹 Touch 🔹 Actions (acts of service) 🔹 Time 🔹 Gifts... What is your primary language is more likely different than your partner's, and it could change in time. Acts of Service is our primary expression for each other at this point, secondary is Time spent together. However, I don't like all those outdoor activities while my husband prefers running 5k or half-marathon... We are ALL different, wouldn't you agree? Find out which is YOUR partner's primary ♥️ language and possibly improve your relationship. 😊
Wow. Just in time. I was about to give up on our relationship today because he really is emotionally unavailable-always so busy, never talks about his feelings or opens up to me, initiating a conversation but never carries it out and whenever I brought it up we didn't actually talk about it. I'll try everything you said, thank you ❤
I think this is really great advice and it's good to see it acted out. Sadly in my experience some men (emotionally unhealthy ones) aren't going to take in anything you say and will immediately get defensive, regardless of whether you use these methods or not. In my last relationship, it became clear that no amount of strategic communication was going to overcome his issues and his inability to take ownership of his behavior and to properly empathize.
That intro clip is EXACTLY what he does whether I talk nice or flip out! Thank you, this was very helpful. Not sure about the end example, but will give it a go!
haha I think I found out why it's hard for me to find a guy I like (reallly like). Many men are not used to opening up their emotions and usually egos come along with that. When I feel like a man cannot admit feeling vulnerable, I am immediately turned off :p :p
Hi Mark! Can u pls pls make a video on - signs a guy is fighting against his own feelings towards someone? Whether its because she's taken, or lives too far or trying not to get hurt..etc.? Would love to hear your take on this...thank you!! 💛
I know I’m not his helper, but I’m super into him. I know even I work hard, if he didn’t have awareness of improving, nothing will change. I’m lost now, he will have time to talk to me tomorrow. I really hope my words can reach him.
Hi Mark! An emotionally unavaleble man is neither ready nor suitable for a relationship. What women are very good at, because they have learned this from generation to generation, .. is to adjust themselves, knowing that they cant change there man. Many women keep this off for a long time and forget themselfs. If not.. she can become a drama queen because she cant reache him (scene 1) Or she walks on eggshells and loses herself by rationally guiding and surpressing her real feelings (scene 2 ) for the sake of her relationship.. Question remains, what effort does he actually take in this scenes ...? I just want to point out that it is never good for women to bend into turns when they're far from the same lavel with an emotionally. unavalable man. At the end women feel eroded by them, wich is the case mostly with emotinal unavalable men.. Maybe the topic isn't right i suggest.. because you are showing a very NEEDY woman (scene 1) .. and of course I understand this makes men run away...Needy women are emotional toxic (and also unavalable) for a man.. So i'm confused a bit..
I've experienced something like that but I was you Mark in the situation. But I was actually open emotionally from the beginning, but the relationship was really bad so I guess I closed myself off to protect myself.
Hi, i think your videos are really useful and i also like the fact that you're not demonising men or women, but instead focus on what's best for each and every person. :) i could definitely spot myself in both situations, sometimes craving time for my own, other times impatiently craving answers from others that make me feel unappreciated. So i think i gained a better understanding on how to ease communication and how to handle different ways of expression. I would also be really interested and grateful for some advice on social anxiety and online dating, if you would like to get to that at some point or have time for it. I seem to struggle a lot with getting to meet men and sadly, i often cancel plans, which lets people down and makes them to rely on texts exclusively, to talk to me. I don't wanna waste anyone's time, but it's really difficult to get out of this pattern. :( thank you and keep up the good work!
Hey Not so Special. Thankyou! And good awareness there. It sounds like your actions are the result of deeper underlying fear(s). Working through many of these anxieties will be about stretching your comfort zone, and certainly that's something I'd help you do, as well as understand the fears, if we were to ever work together. In the meantime, I'd aim to become consciously aware of how and when they block you so you can work on dealing with them x
This give an take only works if there are only two people in the equation. Once the man has children alone time goes out the window. Even going to the bathroom alone is a luxury and even that is not a given. One time I really wanted to be alone in the bath. I locked the door and a little while I heard this noise. My 4 year old daughter had figured out how to unlock my bathroom door using a cheap metal key that comes with those diary books. It is important for the man and the women to have alone time. I didn't give myself enough of that or fun time but the reality is as adults we don't always get want we want. We women just want some adaption from men too.
(1) your advice is delivered in such a way it's helping get relief from my grief. (2)when you mention what to do and not do I have yet not find the sinarios in my marriage and not focussing on his dying. (3)Thank You.
This is on point! Thanks for the good information. I think as a girl I need to slow down on bombarding him with questions. I don't like the awkward silence so, I started asking him questions about his day. I got a little over excited and forgot that he needs some time off for himself :-(
Really helpful video. I am lucky in that my guy will tell me what he wants most times. Lol! We have a ritual where he comes home, gets his shower and then we drink tea together and relax. Then he likes to check his Facebook but he knows not to stay on it too long and does not exclude me. He is the first guy in my life that I can actually talk things through with. I used to make ALL the 'mistakes' and thank goodness for great coaches like you and Esther Perel! Cheers Mark!
Woman and I’m watching this for myself because I have no idea how to deal with my emotions 😂. My boyfriend is actually very good at opening up and I’m the polar opposites.
I appreciate the tips and consider the solution so plastic and one-sided. It makes me feel so sad that the only way to get connected to a man is to disconnect from him for much longer time. How hopeless it is...
Sorry darling 🥰, I had a similar problem. I was depressed and traumatized. I came along a spiritual spell caster who helped me bring the man of my heart to me without stress. The spell caster casted a spell and after 24 hours my man called me begging 🙏 me that he was sorry for giving me lesser attention. Now he does whatsoever I tells him and he is so in love with me. You can contact the spell caster as well.🥰
Karen Tan that’s horrible and completely untrue.. have you ever thought about how your treating him. If you treat him like a “stupid son” then he’ll probably act that way. But if you empower and respect him he will be the best thing in your life
Great advice, thanks! Some guys are more "receptive" to this than others...I think it really depends on who he is and where he is in his personal journey. Some men are sooo so so not ready for even the slightest guidance towards becoming more emotionally open...But there ARE those who are willing and ready. Just wanted to throw in my two cents as well and reassure women that some guys are definitely worth the patience, but you have to listen to your inner voice and determine if they are right for YOU before putting in all this work! Some people have that potential, others don't...Doesn't make them bad people, just maybe bad for you :) Thanks again for this vid!
Thanks Mark for this video . In general I am very peaceful person and try to understand others . I exactly did whatever you suggested in the video but it didn’t work and I think it depends on your partner personality as well . Some people are so selfish .
When you tell a guy he seems this disinterested then he’s going to believe that he is not interested Hypnosis .. You tell someone that they are something and I believe that they are something. You tell someone hey you don’t seem like you’re as interested in me and I want to talk about it. Then they’re going to think yeah maybe I’m not interested then. I think there’s another way to communicate your feelings then saying this to someone that way. If you tell someone, I know you like me then they’re going to think yeah I do like her. Or if you say you don’t like me I don’t think you like me to think yeah maybe I don’t like you.
Really like the concept and visualization. Also, how eventhough she is good at expressing how she feels in words in the first scene, which in itself can be difficult for women, it´s no use when it is thrown at him non-stop like this. Here is one thing I´d love your opinion about. You answer people, I really appreciate it, so I am writing it here: There is one moment, where as an observer i could sense a "dangerous" moment in the suggested dialogue. When he says, he needs half an hour, she says: I give you an hour. - Clear moment of trying to keep in charge (for all the good little girl´s reasons). A more feminine way could be: I feel already more relaxed. When you tell me what to do, I can stop second-guessing so much about these tricky situations. How about, we´d make it an hour for you? This would make it so much easier for me to immerse myself into something else as well and not just be sitting on my hands waiting for you... Now he can give something to her while she really heals that little girl who wants to please even more, particularly after the affirmation, so actually she is still running the same pattern trying to micromanage the situation and can not really be with herself to sense what that does for her, that it was safe to ask her man the way she did
Wow these tips are so amazing I have really learned something new today . Thank you for being so awesome and teaching us women who never had fatherly examples like myself I appreciate you so much 😀🙏
Thanks mark i love your videos help me so much. It was very funny the begining and yes that way never works..... what u say opens understanding. The evolutionary backgrownd is so important
This video is literally 4 hours too late lol but what I did was step up when I usually don't and made one statement. He knew it was unusual for me to do that, and he reciprocated appropriately. All is well:)
an hour after work to himself to relax? Great, looks like Ill be doing all the cooking, cleaning, organizing, child rearing etc. Poor didums is tired from his day at work. Grow up and pull yourself together. Learn some relaxation exercises/switch offs for on y our way home. Learn delayed relaxation till certain duties around the house have been taken care of.
You work at home, he works outside. It's normal to need just a little while to chill before being dragged into house chores. Then he can do some stuff and you can relax in return. Compromise. If you tell your man right at the door, hey take your shoes off and help me with cleaning right now, I feel sorry for him.
katy Doe...that's my life! And I do work outside the home, actually took on a 2nd job and I'm still treated like the maid. I bring it up and get told my attitude sucks. He gets to sit around after work and barks orders. What the heck is going on, I don't know who my guy is anymore. After 5 years it's gone down hill so much more after marriage.
Only when you women pay the bills, mortgage, car insurance, house and contents, fix the car, then the PC, then sort out the will and legal affairs of the deeds, oh didums you feel disconnected during pathetically shite sex, oh did the nasty man hurt your feels? Oh dear never mind I'm sure you'll be a big strong daddy's girl and learn how to live on your own and deal with the burglar intruder at 3AM all on your own, learn some technical analytical skills, on your way to the bank, learn mechanical engineering and mathematics, till certain legal affairs and financial matters have been taken care of.
@@dantaylor7344 whoa.... who hurt you man lol It's 2018 my dude, women are equally as capable at doing all of those things as a man is, sure men are protectors and women are nurturing but nowadays there's equal responsibility and capability for nearly all the things you listed above.
Tunning in from Quebec, Canada. Wow, nice mise en scene! It was intense, but somehow feels how I felt before in a relationship years ago. Although it was hard for me to confront him and the relationship suffered because I shut up.
This is great information. My guy is a bit introverted, so this is how I try to communicate with him. Any further information on connecting and communicating with an introvert? Much appreciated.
Funny when I am just a confidante of my male friends I gave the same advice but now that I am in relationship I couldn't practice what I preach. Hahaha! But thanks Mark for reminding me how to deal with my partner. Hahaha
Absolutely....Men don’t show or share feelings because they don’t want to look or feel less manly they probably think it’s not attractive. Actually it’s very attractive and refreshing for a guy to show feelings/ vulnerability!!!!!! It’s called being human not being a robot
Mark...amazing examples you Give Advice Do. your Friend she is so good in doing Examples Plays. Keep her in your Videos That Really Helps and is Taken up to The Next Level. Is very Intersting In Learning patterns of Diferrent Senarios of Reality of Life what Relashionships are. The 5 W's Why What Where When We...of How should be could be would be. Keep Up The High Standards of Relashionships not Situashionships. Humans are not made with a Manuel. No perfections come to play cause then it wouldn't Be Fair or Right. Just Be Authentic Yourself. Be Simple Humble & Special to someone out there. Love Respect Trust and show Your Real Emotions. nothing wrong to be Vulnerable Comprehensive understanding it's just Life and challenges are will be there overcome them Positively and forgive yourself and others.
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Does it drag him away and wouldn’t want to be with me when i confront him with a lot of issues?? Pls help thanks☺️
Hi Mark, I really appreciate your videos. Thank you! I tried searching for the video you mentioned at the end of your video on unemotionally available men. Can you please send me the link? 🌻
It's great how you take us back to Evolution & History... and the transitioning between the two sides of the brain. I took note of the fact that men are goal-driven; and women process-driven. Thank you ☺.
Mark Rosenfeld Mark i need help!!!
My boyfriend dosent share his feelings at all with me and dosent wanna talk to me hardly like ever. And it upsets me and such and idk what to do or say at all. But at times i feel like when i watch these videos they help cause my boyfriend acts like this all the time.
But idk if this relationship is even going to be ok or its just going to end cause i been with him for 4 years and thats a long time for me, and now its like he acts like this and such and we hardly have sex like ever and it makes me sad. Cause idk why... :( dose he not find me attractive or what but idk cause he never talks to me about anything. :( i feel like the relationship iam in isnt going to work out and its hard for me but deep down i know its true. Cause i really do love him but he tells me but he dosent show it like he used too before. :( Help me Mark Rosenfeld.
Mark, what about the guy who comes home and keeps saying things that he knows will make you hurt and angry and you know he's just trying to start a fight and no matter what you try to say or do things just keep going downhill?
Ah man. The beginning clip has literally been me sooooo many times. Guess that's why I'm here on this video lol
It's really hard when your partner is emotionally unavailable most of the time. You're always there physically. Trying to understand him always but as humans, our patience has its limits. Better to look for a mature guy that knows how to communicate.
Women aren't attracted to emotionally vulnerable men. Those guys are in your friend zones 99% of the time
@@66kaisersoza Unfortunately, you are generalizing...not all women are the same or want the same things.
@@seapearltoo1 yes they are the same
I usually do the 2nd way of the communication with my boyfriend just like you showed on the video. I give him a little massage in back of his head. He loves it very much and feels relax after works day. As the result, he gives me his ears and full of attention to responds all of my question.
Thank you for sharing Mark! I think i am in the right path.
That's so beautiful Trisna :)
Yes, cool, but I might be also tired after work and need a massage. The effort to connect shouldn't be only on one side.
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Throw the whole man away and find one who gives a crap about you. Been through this so many times, you can't make him care and when men act like this it's a sign they don't care. I was told by a VERY wise MAN that if a man truly cares about you, you won't have to ask, you won't have the situations like the beginning of this video. A man who cares is a man who is there, who stays, and who tries to resolve any situation.
Nice comment Krystal - thanks for leaving it
Thank you for saying this! I needed to hear it
I can't speak for all emotionally detached men - but for many of us it's not that we don't care or are not trying hard enough. It's that we genuinly don't know what to do or what to say. There is no 'just do it'. Our outlook and perception of life and relationships is completely and utterly different from other people and it is almost impossible to put in to words our deepest feelings.
And...I also hope people realise what a nightmare the woman in the first scene was. Yes, I understand that she is deeply frustrated - but imagine coming home from work and having this kind of thing thrown at you? And would you be comfortable in opening up to someone who speaks to you like that?
And lastly, when you speak of an emotionally available man, what do you actually mean by that? Are you sure that is what you want? I can't imagine how any woman can fall for such a soppy, smug and self absorbed man that is 'in touch' with his feelings.
Run when you see the emotionally disconnected man. You are not his therapist and not responsible for fixing him.
Definitely is he's not taking major action to work on in Lotus
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My husband of 18y is this way..😔 it sometimes can be frustrating..but I kn he is worth bc He is very good man!! n a wonderful father....
@@HL-yb6jt However he doesn't seem commited as a husband. I heard a lot of women saying just what you are saying, and they used to put themselves in the last priority. You must value yourselves or no one else will do. Xo
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The problem is that they promise you they will get back to you and they never do. If you have a recepie for that beyond "be ready to walk away", I'd love to hear.
thats what i feel, they just want to avoid talking about this stuff so they employee many a tactic to do so. "lets talk about it later' with no intention of doing so is just one.
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Holy shit, i had that first conversation (more pitiful, less angry) so many times. Tried the final example and it worked with almost a word for word reply... what the heck man
Dude that helped a lot. I was finding myself frustrated because I talked about deep subjects really late at night like past midnight. And I knew he was super tired because we had been talking every night. And he’s super tired from work and seem disinterested. Kind of hurt my feelings and I started overthinking about it. But now I get it. It was just too much info being discussed late at night lol.
Girl, same
Okay, I’m not sure if he specifically mentioned this, but I LOVE that she patiently waits for his response while he processes what he wants to say. I love that.
This is sooo good. haha. You two should are going to be the next Hollywood sensations.
Agree
Not sure if I really am up to a lot discussions about feelings and such with a man. I spent 18 years discussing problems/emotions in totally unhealthy ways and in healthy ways and I am pretty much toast on it. I like the logical thinking aspect of men and I want men to be open emotionally. If a man cries I know most likely he is at the breaking point. But right now if I can't have an open discussion and wrap it up either right then or in a couple days I just don't have the patience. Maybe it's the realization that at 56, if I am lucky, I have 20 more years. I don't want to waste time fiddle faddling around.
So sorry to hear about your negative experience Life. It does sound like you have some well firmed beliefs and negative experiences from those shitty 18 years that are definitely at risk of sabotaging your future connections with men, so make sure you be aware of what those are and let this man taint your future like he's tainted your past xx
Yes, i am the same age and I agree up to a point. I like to give my partner head space, and talk when ready, as i need that too. At this age it’s a bit different and think both sexes move towards a more unified friendship, more real and somehow more independent. But maybe as mine is a long distance relationship! This video was excellent by the way, spot on how men and women respond to each other and the way they process emotions.
This is SO helpful!! My long term boyfriend is having doubts about our future, it all came out in an emotional rush and I was initially very hurt. I’m staying at my parents to give him some space to think and I’m struggling but your videos are so insightful.
So glad I found this video, I’m feeling more prepared to talk to him when he’s ready and know how I should approach the conversation. Going in with an objective and taking a rain check on solving the whole issue I think will really REALLY help!
Thanks!
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I’ve done all these things. Wait for the right time practice the right way to say thing to him. Develop a strategy to get him talking and the whole nine and I’m left drained and feeling like I don’t matter. It’s his world and I’m just living in it....
It's so sad that she has to negotiate with him so that he gives her attention when he gets home
And even after all that she only gets 30 minutes of couple time! Does that mean after those 30 minutes he gets to ignore her for the rest of the evening? I know this is just acting, but if this was real, no wonder the poor girl feels so disconnected during sex! If this was real, I would tell her to dump his ass and find a man that actually wants to spend time with her!
The man has to be giving enough attention other times to make the not greet at the door ok.
Obviously we've pulled these numbers out of the air, but I actually think *truly* present time is becoming so uncommon that most of us don't get 30 minutes a week, let alone 30 minutes a day (especially couples at 2 years+). By present time, I don't mean time talking to your partner while you're waiting for your turn to speak about your own stuff, which is the way a lot of us communicate. I don't mean sex. I don't mean time doing things like watching TV together. I mean actually 'seeing' one another and being truly present. Listening, instead of waiting for your turn to speak. Feelings your partners emotions and 'relating' to them. Phone on airplane mode. No distractions. Really, truly, present time. I think most women (and men) get so little of this, that you'd be surprised at what 30 minutes per day on amazing present, quality time would do a relationship.
It's not sad. People deserve space when they need it and if he needs peace and quiet after work then she should respect his needs instead of making it all about herself.
Awww lol we just love yall thts all lol
Thanks for the role playing. Allows me to really understand ur points & how to approach w/o stressing or making it awkward.
Thanks aquarius - yeh I definitely want to do more video like this!
OK you just described the last three years of my marriage in the first minute of this video! Sadly after eight years and three children my marriage has ended. My husband could never drop the stonewalling and the silent treatment and the non-communicative behavior until our relationship completely collapsed. I gave him space, I engaged him, I encouraged him, I nagged, I did everything but stand on my head, actually I think I did stand on my head once. What I’m trying to say is what was going on with my ex husband was in between his ears. that’s something I could never help him or fix or do about. and it showed a lot during our separation and divorce. he actually divorced me on text if that tells you the level of his inability to communicate. It was incredibly painful I’m still reeling from the experience and it’s been six months.
How are things?
Natasha T. 1 foot in front of the other day by day. That’s all I can describe. Some days are better than others. I bought a house and moved into it yesterday. So now I’m back to my home state and I am feeling better about the distance between us now. Feelings of anger and bitterness I’m still struggling with. I just don’t feel like I was treated fairly at the end but a lot of people feel that way
This is cracking me up. I 100% agree with it & can see where I have been overwhelming him, but to me it's like reasoning with my 2 year old. "Honey, I know you really, really, REALLY, want to buy this toy, but mommy said no. It is okay if you feel upset, but we're here for groceries today." My husband's mother was a narcissist so I truly believe he was never allowed to have feelings. It also may be why he hates focusing on absolutely any of my needs, because everything was about his mother growing up. I've asked nice, calmly and been understanding, made excuses for him, I've asked late at night, during the day, I've yelled...I've done it all. I've given him time, and the next day he scoots on to work without a word about what I asked him to share.
He ignores everything. I've learned that when he wants to come home and go straight to bed, to just say, "Okay, goodnight." I don't try to keep him engaged until I've worked things out. I love kayaking, biking, hiking, camping, riding my horse/ driving her with a cart, playing with our child, going to movies, playing with our dogs, I love doing woodworking, working out, working on my truck, sewing, reading, 4 wheeling, baseball, basket ball. He just only wants to do what he likes, and won't make time for me.
Last week he said he wanted to spend time with me, I was secretly excited, but didn't let on because he says it a lot without investing any time. On his day off he didn't mention any plans for a date night, or anything during the day, so I scooped up my cat and read a book. The second I find something to do, he asked, "what do you want to do?" I've come to the conclusion he wants me to BEG for his time like I used to.
Me: "I'd love to spend time with you, what did you have in mind?"
Him: "Idk, didn't you have anything you wanted to do?"
Me: I'll just read my book & snuggle the cat until you can come up with something. I'm really not sure what to do.
For clarification, he always does this. He will ask what I want to do, then he ends up coming up with something completely different that I really didn't want to do, and we do that. So even if I had something planned I know his game. He picks up our child, and says, "well I'm not wasting my day off, I'll take (son's name) and we're going to find something fun to do." With that he stormed towards the door. I said, "Okay, have fun honey."
After he left and I'd read a chapter of my book, I loaded up my kayak and made the hour drive to the lake. I was riding the wake of a few speed boats giggling when he called me. "Hey babe, I have a date night planned for us. Babysitter and everything, are you on your way home?" I just LAUGHED inside. 1.5 hours earlier he said he was just going to leave me at home and go do something with our son.
I said, "That sounds great, but I'm kayaking and won't be back until late." He acted all sad on the phone, but I'm not going to wait for him, and I'm certainly not going to cancel my plans when he didn't make any for the two of us & deliberately left the house to be hurtful.
The past few nights he's come home and went straight to bed with a man cold. No biggie, I get that. But I still felt down because he said earlier we'd watch a movie, and said all on his own "He'd make time 2 hours after he gets off work every night to spend with me." I asked, "Oh I thought we were going to watch a movie?" He went into "well not all the time, because things come up." I decided I wasn't going to let it get me down last night and followed up with the increasingly normal response, "Ok goodnight babe." But last night I took it a step further because I felt like poop and wanted to shake it off. I turned on some music, not super loud, and was dancing around the kitchen while I waited for some hand cream ingredients to melt together (I make my own). Normally when he goes off to bed he doesn't come out again. But last night he came out & started talking to me about little things nothing deep of course; just studying me while I sang along with the songs and danced. My first thought was maybe if I talk to him and I'm super engaging, he will stay up. But I quickly decided nope, he's made it clear he's going to bed and the moment I get into a good conversation with him sharing, he'll go to bed. I refuse to invest anymore than he does at this point. So my responses were friendly, but I didn't put anything into the conversation and kept my answers short. He said, "I'm going to bed." & I nodded (still dancing) he hesitated, then disappeared into the bedroom.
It really seems to bother him when I'm happy. & he seems to convey the situation like, "how can I get her to be upset and chase me?" No more dude, I choose to dance. I also got a full-time job despite his protests, and him telling me I'd be paying for all of the childcare. I'm saving up to get my own place which could be soon, as I have plenty saved to do so. I found my strength in deciding for myself that I'm no longer waiting for him, I lost my mom, who was my best friend, grandma, and grandpa all within 7 months. Life is too short to waste or be upset on someone who has better things to do with their time than invest in me. That was probably the darkest time for me, and when he didn't step up to be supportive, I realized I don't want to be married to someone who isn't there for me. After all, it says, "for better or worse." What if I was the one with cancer? Their would be no one to support me. I've learned to dance in the rain, and melt away the hurt of it all. I am getting myself financially stable and moving on, everyday that is my goal. In fact I bought a bar necklace to ground myself when I feel like crap, it says, "persevere." I hold that necklace and it reminds me everyday I am enough; to keep pressing forward. That's why I let him walk away without becoming anxious. That & I don't want to be the reason our relationship drags on if I'm not happy and the only one making it work. It should be mutual, and I'm excited at the prospect of a guy who can do that for me, even if it isn't him. I want to clarify that I'm looking into this info to prepare myself for the next man. I'll be ready.
Jesse James it sounds like you’re moving in the right direction. Best of luck to you. Keep your head up. Somebody worthy of you will come along ❤️.
Jesse James yes!!!
This was like empowering. Makes me want to do the same. Good for you. You are going to find someone so much better. Someone willing to be open and honest. No more childish games 👏🏽
Did you move on yet? I am happy for you.
If he has a narcissistic mother, it's more likely he will have major abandonment issues when you leave him. {Worse case after-effects are: stalking, depression, even suicide.} Please do not conclude that just because he's not into discussing feelings/things that he does not love you still. Men like that, like my husband, need a little "extra loving care" to bring out the best in them.
Of course, I loathed my mother-in-law for abandoning him in a sense as a child, but glad she lives in a diff. continent... I had to do my research {read books & listened to marriage podcasts} and have had A LOT of patience & prayers to make our marriage work ~ also for the sake of our children then ~ they're adults now. No one is perfect anyway? If your husband is not emotionally abusive to you and your son, do reconsider everything. He obviously loves your child together as well.
Classic Narc Victim request is for you NOT to work full time... again, it shows "abandonment" issue. I experienced the same.
✅ There are 5 Love Languages... basically 🔹 Words 🔹 Touch 🔹 Actions (acts of service) 🔹 Time 🔹 Gifts...
What is your primary language is more likely different than your partner's, and it could change in time. Acts of Service is our primary expression for each other at this point, secondary is Time spent together. However, I don't like all those outdoor activities while my husband prefers running 5k or half-marathon... We are ALL different, wouldn't you agree?
Find out which is YOUR partner's primary ♥️ language and possibly improve your relationship. 😊
Mark all of your advices are great! But I have to admit.. it looks like men are so less developed than women 😂
Hahahah Leticia. Perhaps in the area described in this video, yes. In other areas, perhaps not!
Enlighten us, Mark.. can't think of one
Rehaan Aamir So very mature and gentlemanly !!
I watch this as a man cause my woman partner is like this. Don’t think It’s all about gender.
Miguel Deer You're very welcome, big girl... Facts or not, his style of speech is gentlemanly 😉
You are amazing, Mark. That's exactly what is needed. Little scripts with dos and don'ts. Thank you. X
Thanks Andreas - really hope it helps you :)
Wow. Just in time.
I was about to give up on our relationship today because he really is emotionally unavailable-always so busy, never talks about his feelings or opens up to me, initiating a conversation but never carries it out and whenever I brought it up we didn't actually talk about it.
I'll try everything you said, thank you ❤
I really hope it help Koren - can you let me know how you go??
Mark Rosenfeld Well, turns out he met a girl when he was abroad, who, ''stole his heart'', and he was talking to her for weeks without me knowing..
@@user-kp4sz8hl2i in other words, he was cheating
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Dude this stuff looks good and sound. Communication is so fucking important.
Yep very true zack Vandermude xx
Holy crap, I think this video just saved all my future relationships. Thank you for expressing this so clearly!
I think this is really great advice and it's good to see it acted out. Sadly in my experience some men (emotionally unhealthy ones) aren't going to take in anything you say and will immediately get defensive, regardless of whether you use these methods or not. In my last relationship, it became clear that no amount of strategic communication was going to overcome his issues and his inability to take ownership of his behavior and to properly empathize.
That intro clip is EXACTLY what he does whether I talk nice or flip out! Thank you, this was very helpful. Not sure about the end example, but will give it a go!
You are extremely self confident, honest, and we'll balanced. Super attractive qualities and extremely rare ones as well! Thanks Mark.
haha I think I found out why it's hard for me to find a guy I like (reallly like). Many men are not used to opening up their emotions and usually egos come along with that. When I feel like a man cannot admit feeling vulnerable, I am immediately turned off :p :p
I have to admit, I find women who can't be vulnerable a turn off too Move!
Mark Rosenfeld I guess it goes both ways! Thank you for interacting with your audience. I wasn't expecting a reply to be honest :)
Because guys know the moment we open up it kills the attraction.
Plenty of guys get dumped soon after opening up
This was actually super useful! and it can be used not just with boyfriends/spouses but in some ways with any male friend/colleague/family member.
I'm extremely jealous of your backyard. The weather and greenery is gorgeous !!!
Isn't it beautiful! We're sooo lucky to be able to film in such a incredible location!
Great video as always. It also doesn't help when one doesn't have good self esteem. It hurts and makes it worse.
Yeh Marly, and in the end, you can't always help these situations. But these strategies are certainly worth a solid shot.
I'm a girl,and I'm having a trouble showing my emotions 😔
Well don't beat yourself up for it Alya. This is something you can improve on starting right now :)
try showing emotions about some random stuff....feeling about movie, or painting etc....gradually you will stretch that muscle
Me too...
Hi Mark! Can u pls pls make a video on - signs a guy is fighting against his own feelings towards someone? Whether its because she's taken, or lives too far or trying not to get hurt..etc.? Would love to hear your take on this...thank you!! 💛
Great one! I'll pencil it in in the future :)
Is this done
I know I’m not his helper, but I’m super into him. I know even I work hard, if he didn’t have awareness of improving, nothing will change.
I’m lost now, he will have time to talk to me tomorrow. I really hope my words can reach him.
This is so amazing!!! I absolutely love it!!! So informative and clear!
Glad it was helpful! Thank you so much! Xx
Hi Mark! An emotionally unavaleble man is neither ready nor suitable for a relationship.
What women are very good at, because they have learned this from generation to generation, .. is to adjust themselves, knowing that they cant change there man. Many women keep this off for a long time and forget themselfs. If not.. she can become a drama queen because she cant reache him (scene 1) Or she walks on eggshells and loses herself by rationally guiding and surpressing her real feelings (scene 2 ) for the sake of her relationship.. Question remains, what effort does he actually take in this scenes ...?
I just want to point out that it is never good for women to bend into turns when they're far from the same lavel with an emotionally. unavalable man. At the end women feel eroded by them, wich is the case mostly with emotinal unavalable men.. Maybe the topic isn't right i suggest.. because you are showing a very NEEDY woman (scene 1) .. and of course I understand this makes men run away...Needy women are emotional toxic (and also unavalable) for a man.. So i'm confused a bit..
I've experienced something like that but I was you Mark in the situation. But I was actually open emotionally from the beginning, but the relationship was really bad so I guess I closed myself off to protect myself.
Hi, i think your videos are really useful and i also like the fact that you're not demonising men or women, but instead focus on what's best for each and every person. :) i could definitely spot myself in both situations, sometimes craving time for my own, other times impatiently craving answers from others that make me feel unappreciated. So i think i gained a better understanding on how to ease communication and how to handle different ways of expression. I would also be really interested and grateful for some advice on social anxiety and online dating, if you would like to get to that at some point or have time for it. I seem to struggle a lot with getting to meet men and sadly, i often cancel plans, which lets people down and makes them to rely on texts exclusively, to talk to me. I don't wanna waste anyone's time, but it's really difficult to get out of this pattern. :( thank you and keep up the good work!
Hey Not so Special. Thankyou! And good awareness there. It sounds like your actions are the result of deeper underlying fear(s). Working through many of these anxieties will be about stretching your comfort zone, and certainly that's something I'd help you do, as well as understand the fears, if we were to ever work together. In the meantime, I'd aim to become consciously aware of how and when they block you so you can work on dealing with them x
*Be honest, brutally honest. That is what's going to maintain relationships.*
*Respectfully Brutally honest. Straight up brutality usually doesn't help people.
This video is incredible, my life has totally changed over the last 3 months. I will never be private again
Omg Stephen - would love to hear what has changed for you?? xx
Did you get dumped when you shared you're feelings
This give an take only works if there are only two people in the equation. Once the man has children alone time goes out the window. Even going to the bathroom alone is a luxury and even that is not a given. One time I really wanted to be alone in the bath. I locked the door and a little while I heard this noise. My 4 year old daughter had figured out how to unlock my bathroom door using a cheap metal key that comes with those diary books. It is important for the man and the women to have alone time. I didn't give myself enough of that or fun time but the reality is as adults we don't always get want we want. We women just want some adaption from men too.
Absolutely Life. It definitely takes two.
(1) your advice is delivered in such a way it's helping get relief from my grief.
(2)when you mention what to do and not do I have yet not find the sinarios in my marriage and not focussing on his dying.
(3)Thank You.
This is on point! Thanks for the good information. I think as a girl I need to slow down on bombarding him with questions. I don't like the awkward silence so, I started asking him questions about his day. I got a little over excited and forgot that he needs some time off for himself :-(
That's great Hajar. Sometimes you gotta slow things down :) Glad it helped x
Excellent presentation
Really helpful video. I am lucky in that my guy will tell me what he wants most times. Lol! We have a ritual where he comes home, gets his shower and then we drink tea together and relax. Then he likes to check his Facebook but he knows not to stay on it too long and does not exclude me. He is the first guy in my life that I can actually talk things through with. I used to make ALL the 'mistakes' and thank goodness for great coaches like you and Esther Perel! Cheers Mark!
Hi Mark you keep getting better in every vid. 😉😍
Arww thankyou Daisy xx
OMG this makes so much sense thankyou so much ! I'm going to try these methods wish me luck :)
Thank you for this. One of the most helpful and detailed unlike other videos i’ve watched.
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Woman and I’m watching this for myself because I have no idea how to deal with my emotions 😂. My boyfriend is actually very good at opening up and I’m the polar opposites.
I appreciate the tips and consider the solution so plastic and one-sided. It makes me feel so sad that the only way to get connected to a man is to disconnect from him for much longer time. How hopeless it is...
Saved this one to my secret playlist hahaha
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Lol I just did that too
Wow! Great channel Mark, with vital information and well communicated. Thanks.
I needed this I've been doing all wrong thank you for sharing
Happy to help, Jamie. Thanks for watching! All the best to you. x
Sorry darling 🥰, I had a similar problem. I was depressed and traumatized. I came along a spiritual spell caster who helped me bring the man of my heart to me without stress. The spell caster casted a spell and after 24 hours my man called me begging 🙏 me that he was sorry for giving me lesser attention. Now he does whatsoever I tells him and he is so in love with me. You can contact the spell caster as well.🥰
Absolutely helpful, thank u 🙏🏾 😊
Thanks for the example!!
Glad they're helpful and you enjoyed them!
Thank you!
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My pleasure Tracy Banks! I'm glad you liked it xx
thank you so much!
this was really helpful and I didn’t even realize in which ways I‘m overwhelming my boyfriend
Very helpful
Having a boyfriend is like having a stupid son
Karen Tan that’s horrible and completely untrue.. have you ever thought about how your treating him. If you treat him like a “stupid son” then he’ll probably act that way. But if you empower and respect him he will be the best thing in your life
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Karen Tan Amen
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I think that's a little generalised - positive vibes to all 🌈☀️🙏
Great advice, thanks! Some guys are more "receptive" to this than others...I think it really depends on who he is and where he is in his personal journey. Some men are sooo so so not ready for even the slightest guidance towards becoming more emotionally open...But there ARE those who are willing and ready. Just wanted to throw in my two cents as well and reassure women that some guys are definitely worth the patience, but you have to listen to your inner voice and determine if they are right for YOU before putting in all this work! Some people have that potential, others don't...Doesn't make them bad people, just maybe bad for you :) Thanks again for this vid!
this was a good one. thanks!
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Thanks again,
Thanks Mark for this video . In general I am very peaceful person and try to understand others . I exactly did whatever you suggested in the video but it didn’t work and I think it depends on your partner personality as well . Some people are so selfish .
Sorry to hear what's going on in your situation sara - thanks for watching and commenting. I appreciate it x
Mark Rosenfeld Thanks Mark for your kind words .
MAKE him?
His choice is his to make.
I really like the role play at the end of the video. I can actually see what you explained.
Thank you so much amazing really amazing. Love and thanks from Syria
When you tell a guy he seems this disinterested then he’s going to believe that he is not interested Hypnosis .. You tell someone that they are something and I believe that they are something. You tell someone hey you don’t seem like you’re as interested in me and I want to talk about it. Then they’re going to think yeah maybe I’m not interested then. I think there’s another way to communicate your feelings then saying this to someone that way. If you tell someone, I know you like me then they’re going to think yeah I do like her. Or if you say you don’t like me I don’t think you like me to think yeah maybe I don’t like you.
I love this video! It gave me chills to see them actually communicating! Beautiful! Thank you!
Great video!
Really needed this
Excellent pa.so nice of u to interpret
Thanks for watching, Sharmila Kamath!
Really like the concept and visualization. Also, how eventhough she is good at expressing how she feels in words in the first scene, which in itself can be difficult for women, it´s no use when it is thrown at him non-stop like this. Here is one thing I´d love your opinion about. You answer people, I really appreciate it, so I am writing it here: There is one moment, where as an observer i could sense a "dangerous" moment in the suggested dialogue. When he says, he needs half an hour, she says: I give you an hour. - Clear moment of trying to keep in charge (for all the good little girl´s reasons). A more feminine way could be: I feel already more relaxed. When you tell me what to do, I can stop second-guessing so much about these tricky situations. How about, we´d make it an hour for you? This would make it so much easier for me to immerse myself into something else as well and not just be sitting on my hands waiting for you... Now he can give something to her while she really heals that little girl who wants to please even more, particularly after the affirmation, so actually she is still running the same pattern trying to micromanage the situation and can not really be with herself to sense what that does for her, that it was safe to ask her man the way she did
Yeh I love it. My videos are far from perfect S KJ, so little suggestions like this always help me and grow me as a coach. Thanks!
Phew, your ideas are quite catchy :) Still playing with relaxing into it and trusting... Applauding you for not waiting till the *cows* come home ;)
Wow these tips are so amazing I have really learned something new today . Thank you for being so awesome and teaching us women who never had fatherly examples like myself I appreciate you so much 😀🙏
This made me so happy. Thank you xo
Aww glad to hear that, Traci. Thanks for watching! x
This is great information. Definitely saving this to watch again. Thank you!
Thanks mark i love your videos help me so much. It was very funny the begining and yes that way never works..... what u say opens understanding. The evolutionary backgrownd is so important
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Loved this absolutely informative. Thankyou do put more videos like this.
Glad you loved it, Alison! There's definitely more coming for y'all. Thanks for watching!
You're the 👌 best.
Thanks
This video is literally 4 hours too late lol but what I did was step up when I usually don't and made one statement. He knew it was unusual for me to do that, and he reciprocated appropriately. All is well:)
That's great Tammy! So pleased to hear it went well for you x
an hour after work to himself to relax? Great, looks like Ill be doing all the cooking, cleaning, organizing, child rearing etc. Poor didums is tired from his day at work. Grow up and pull yourself together. Learn some relaxation exercises/switch offs for on y our way home. Learn delayed relaxation till certain duties around the house have been taken care of.
Exactly. And especially when you have kids, things become more difficult.
You work at home, he works outside. It's normal to need just a little while to chill before being dragged into house chores. Then he can do some stuff and you can relax in return. Compromise. If you tell your man right at the door, hey take your shoes off and help me with cleaning right now, I feel sorry for him.
katy Doe...that's my life! And I do work outside the home, actually took on a 2nd job and I'm still treated like the maid. I bring it up and get told my attitude sucks. He gets to sit around after work and barks orders. What the heck is going on, I don't know who my guy is anymore. After 5 years it's gone down hill so much more after marriage.
Only when you women pay the bills, mortgage, car insurance, house and contents, fix the car, then the PC, then sort out the will and legal affairs of the deeds, oh didums you feel disconnected during pathetically shite sex, oh did the nasty man hurt your feels? Oh dear never mind I'm sure you'll be a big strong daddy's girl and learn how to live on your own and deal with the burglar intruder at 3AM all on your own, learn some technical analytical skills, on your way to the bank, learn mechanical engineering and mathematics, till certain legal affairs and financial matters have been taken care of.
@@dantaylor7344 whoa.... who hurt you man lol
It's 2018 my dude, women are equally as capable at doing all of those things as a man is, sure men are protectors and women are nurturing but nowadays there's equal responsibility and capability for nearly all the things you listed above.
This is fabulous and I can relate
Thanks, Tracey Scott! Hope you got heaps from it. x
When you see this sign in the beginning of the relationship then don’t stay move on
Pure gold! Thank you! 😊
I like the way u explain practically.. Keep up on that cuz it's helping me a lot. 🗝️🗝️🗝️♥️♥️♥️♥️
This has been great, where you theorized and applied, no words... thank you am really blessed by this.
Very realistic,I could relate to it 100%
I’m definitely gonna try it.Thank you ❤️
My pleasure! I'm glad you liked it Kezang Dema xx
Another amazing video as always Mark, you and Jermia 🔥🔥 as usual! Xx
Thanks Candy - isn't she great?!?
Thank you for watching!!! xx
VERY TIMELY AND ON POINT! THIS WILL HELP ME SO MUCH! THANKS HUHU
Tunning in from Quebec, Canada. Wow, nice mise en scene! It was intense, but somehow feels how I felt before in a relationship years ago. Although it was hard for me to confront him and the relationship suffered because I shut up.
This is great information. My guy is a bit introverted, so this is how I try to communicate with him. Any further information on connecting and communicating with an introvert? Much appreciated.
Great topic
Thanks for watching Charles- really appreciate it. x
Brilliant as always..
Why thankyou Swati :)
WOAH I love this! Thank you! And the fact you give a practical example is amazing!
Funny when I am just a confidante of my male friends I gave the same advice but now that I am in relationship I couldn't practice what I preach. Hahaha! But thanks Mark for reminding me how to deal with my partner. Hahaha
Absolutely....Men don’t show or share feelings because they don’t want to look or feel less manly they probably think it’s not attractive. Actually it’s very attractive and refreshing for a guy to show feelings/ vulnerability!!!!!! It’s called being human not being a robot
good job!
Thanks, daniel jackson!
Mark...amazing examples you Give Advice Do.
your Friend she is so good in doing Examples Plays. Keep her in your Videos That Really Helps and is Taken up to The Next Level. Is very Intersting In Learning patterns of Diferrent Senarios of Reality of Life what Relashionships are. The 5 W's Why What Where When We...of How should be could be would be. Keep Up The High Standards of Relashionships not Situashionships. Humans are not made with a Manuel. No perfections come to play cause then it wouldn't Be Fair or Right.
Just Be Authentic Yourself. Be Simple Humble & Special to someone out there.
Love Respect Trust and show Your Real Emotions. nothing wrong to be Vulnerable Comprehensive understanding it's just Life and challenges are will be there overcome them Positively and forgive yourself and others.
this is amazing,thanck u so much
Thanks so much ASMR :)
Great vid and content. Great tips and reasons to empathise... leading to a respond and not react type of convo :)
Thanks Luminous. Yeh that's a the goal... no conversation doesn't help anyone.
yea but i tried being super understanding of him but then it made me explode bc he just didn't bother to talk to me at all
Congrats my dear, Mark for this video you have just released.All these are naked truth about men.
Thanks Gabriel - appreciate it mate!
This was perfect!