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So good and so true the f bombs 💣are great they add passion to what you're conveying. I swear you're a God send. Your videos are REALLY educational, entertaining, empowering and overall inspirational. I truly enjoy them all. Thank you Mark for being so wonderful!!
Great points and very true for marriage also. you helped me reflect on what i may have done to cause my hubby to miss me. he would text me and tell me how much he misses me. Watching your video helpme me to try to remember what i did to cause him to miss me. The positive emotional experiences are key. i am a fun loving woman and he enjoys my company. so after 20 years of marriage, he still chases and misses me.
Hey mark I completely agree with Nisa's comment that you truly are God send,I really badly need your help,how can I communicate with you in person,my problem is hugely complicated,please let me know as soon as possible
I have been dating a guy for 3 months. He asked me to go on a ski trip with two single women and a married couple. I had to work so I told him I couldn't go but I didn't this exact thing. I told him to have a fucking amazing time and to send snowy mountain pics. I didn't text him a lot... but enough. He had a great time. I gave him total freedom. Was positive and happy and supportive. He came back more in love with me than ever. :)))). Great advice! I also believe that if you take care of yourself (go to the gym, keep a solid social life, and killing it financially (working hard in your career) will always make you feel great and you can project that into your partner! Love all of this!
Hahahaha. I need to post less videos. Too much to absorb! I think my channel TL;DR byline needs to be. "Work on yourself, have boundaries". Pretty much all encompassing
MEYOUUS60 we didn't grow up the way our parents and grandparents did. Sadly now there are too many choices because of the internet, and we are an instant gratification society and do not want to put in the work like they did. Also most people never went more than 50 miles outside of their hometown
This is true. I find as I encourage my new boyfriend to hang out with his friends and to have fun, he tends to miss my company and texts "I miss you" and kisses.
Mark, this works like a charm. I gave him space, went out with my friends and the next morning I got a frantic text from him asking me if I was alright and why didn't I answer my text so that he could say goodnight and asking me to please NEVER do that again because he thought he was losing me. Amazing! Thanks Mark. I've followed you for a long time and will continue to follow you. I hope you are well. Thank you so very much.
Mark, you start to freak me out. Every time I come across a problem in my new relationship, you post a video about it. I'm leaving for three weeks to france. But my relationship is so new. This is super helpful.. Thank you as always
Eun, a little bit of insecure is being human. Since, it is also negative if it is constant then try to take control and not letting it control you. If you are that quality woman in a man's life and yet he messes up, sweetie, you are not the problem, he is. Be strong and do not give up yet, Eun. There is a man out there for you who will embrace the real you.
Mark this is spot on. The man I've been seeing just came back from a trip without me and I handled the time away very close to your advice(I just watched your video) and I hadn't expected to hear from him much due to phone expenses. But he texted me several times each day. I was particularly happy when he went out of his way to share his experience with me so far away. He took this trip with a female friend. By not being insecure and needy I believe it brought him to wanting to share with me even more. Before he left he asked if I wanted to chain him I put my palm out to him open and said no I want to hold to lightly like this its your choice to stay or go but my hand is here.
This is what I need right now. Been battling with major depression and anxiety lately and it's affecting our relationship. My boyfriend is out of the country and I am always anxious about him being away from me. I'm drowning in my own thoughts and insecurities. Thank you for this video, Mark.
Mark Rosenfeld I really appreciate that your major message to us ladies is to work on ourselves and be high quality with solid boundaries. I can personally attest that when I create a great life for myself, the ex's always want back. Everyone can feel that energy. When you are either chasing or trying to rope your man closer, he feels it and pulls away. Keep the great videos coming. I've shared them with girlfriends here in Chicago.
One reason I value your videos is that you encourage self-improvement. I also appreciate that you don't advocate the advice that seems like head games to me. The positive experiences really rings true with me. When I was married, I encouraged him to do some things with his buddies. I also told him he should go visit a high-school girlfriend who had called to let him know she had cancer. My current boyfriend, I encourage him to have a good time with his golf buddies. They both had my trust.
Thank you Matk for .. 1. Your honesty 2. Explaining what men are thinking on a women's intellectual level. Men and women are so different. You are the bridge I need.
There is no way that I am going to stand by and let my BF go off and sleep in a tent with another woman and him still be my BF.If he feels the need to want to do that then I will take my ASSets and look for a better man.
I agree Ann, to a point. Men have women friends just as women have male friends. The part I would take issue with this if he was sleeping in a tent with a woman that was into him. Sort of like 'choose your battles'.
Love this video!! I have done some serious practicing of this way of life in the last couple years and was single for most of that. In my previous relationships, I didn't give men space to miss me, and I smothered them with my Love, and I was insecure. All the pitfalls! I've spent probably 5 years being intentionally single and 2-3 more on top of that, all the time trying to get better at self Love, becoming a person I am proud of, improving my thought patterns and beliefs, changing my habits, and changing how I behave in relationships. So much of what you advocate for! I have been listing to your videos and a few other dating coaches for a few years now. Now I am in a new relationship with a wonderful man, and we've only been dating for two months and I can already tell he sees me as the one and only! He says he misses me immediately after I leave. It's so wonderful. It's easy, we love eachother.. we accept imperfections and places we don't agree when it's not important.. we give and take and take turns. I know how to say what I want and I know what I want! I give him space, I appreciate him, I'm proud of him, Lots of positive feedback, and when I give constructive feedback I've managed to learn how to make it either like a teasing joke or a "would be" compliment, or I'm able to say how something makes me feel, or how I'd prefer x, or that x would be awesome, or that I need x to feel y.. I'm able to stick up for myself, stand tall, be proud, and therefore hold my stance and not waver into insecurity. I no longer need constant attention; I can accept that love isn't 100% constant love, that there is an ebb and flow, different moods, situations, and that he needs space to go away so he can come back again.. I can accept now that there are times during the day that our love feels more like friendship or maybe we arent attached to the hip or hes busy or not affectionate.. and it's fine!! All because I am secure in myself. On top of all that, I have had lyme disease this whole time. Dating with a disease is such a struggle, and previously it was a big sore spot for relastionships to go awry. This is because I'm not busy enough, or I have too many symptoms, I need too much help, or I'm too much in self pity victim mode. But I have finally overcome this! I still have the illness (although it's a bit better) but what's changed most is my ability to handle a relationship during illness and not have the illness swallow it up or dominate it. I believe strongly that this is because I now come across as high value, and before I came across as a low value woman because of all those insecurities and therefore neediness. I also accomplished the "when to tell him I'm sick" strategy, finally, with success. Before I may have said it on a first date or even on a dating profile! Just because it's in my mind a lot. But no, that was wrong; I need to treat it like more of a secret so that my other life and personality things are at the top of our connection..leaving occasiobal breadcrumbs about individual, normalized symptoms here and there (ex. Small headache or stomach ache or foot cramp or eye twitching or my leg hurts or a food allergy or tiredness, etc), so its not too huge of a surprise.. and then my illness becomes something I can share when the connection is strong enough that I can be vulnerable and it is then an act of trust to share my secret struggle. Amazing! You Mark Rosenfeld, as well as Clayton Olsen, Matt Boggs, Matthew Hussey, and shein wade media /the feminine woman.. You have ALL helped. Thank you so much for what you do! One other youtube video that's helped me over and over is by actualized.org where the bald guy (whose name I forgot) talks about masculinity and femininity. How most issues are because we treat dogs like they're cats and we want cats to act like dogs. Boyfriend and I agreed that the "ten years ago" versions of us would not have liked eachother. I am so glad I have taken control of my life and rededigned my mind. This stuff works!! I hope lots of people continue getting your anazing advice Mark! May all the women reading this be inspired and have hope that they too can change.. it happens by changing you into someone you will love and respect for 70 years, then changing how you see yourself, and then everyone else sees it too. Have a great day ⚘
I think my man friend can have plenty of fun without sleeping in a woman’s tent... that is not insecure ... that is wisdom. ... that cannot be an example you really stand by. The ONLY reason these slew of women do not call you on this ... is because you are good looking ... and they want to appear a certain way to you. You know this as well. Have fun ... yes ... boundaries also... yes ...
This is one Of the best advice I have ever heard about relationships. It's hard but what is hardest is usually the best. Thank you for your great videos
So smart! This exactly how it is working. My mom said: don't ever let him to feel like in a trap. Wait until he is calling just let him feel that you have fun and he should start to chaise you and miss you otherwise you will be gone. It always works. Make man likes you and then leave him space that he can realize what he wants.
This video is GOLDEN.. nothing but truth.💯 I recently watched a video (another dating channel) encouraging the "hot/cold" method and honestly, it didn't vibe with me at all...i have too much going on in my life to remember whether I'm supposed to be playing hot today and cold tomorrow 😂 I seriously can't keep up with the psychotic shenanigans of that method LBVS 😂 BUT YOUR advice is pure gold 💯and it resonates with me Every. Single. video of yours that I watch ...thanks for bringing truth 🤗
i never been able to keep a relationship this helped me realize as a woman with adhd realize you needs to be happy i will try this and hope it nots to late to re-build the relationship
Awesome video Mark! I have struggled with this many times, having a good female friend to unload your crap onto during these times is paramount. It saved me from this torrid path of self destruction and allowed me to build a solid foundation with my guy. His security and validation came in due course and without coercion. Love your work 😍
Hi Mark! I'm a new subscriber. I found you because I randomly started thinking a lot about a guy I thought I was over. You helped me realize it was more about my neurotransmitters. I just finished a project that had me fulfilled and preoccupied and I have a lot of romantic associations with this time of year (summer in the US). Understanding all if this, I feel less victimized by these feelings. I have to tell you though, what's kept me watching is seeing an amazing emotionally intelligent guy putting himself in service to others the way that you are. It reminds me not to lower my standards because there are really amazing men out there that I can reach the level of connection and intimacy that I'm capable of with.
Love this Mark. I have 2 years more in a long distance relationship. These tips are so helpful. I know I give it my all and treat this man like gold. If he leaves I know it's the best I had to give. We have a blast during every visit. Thank you Mark, you help so many people. ♡♡♡♡
I think if you tell a girl that she can have fun. Done ... you lose her. I would think that you don’t even care and maybe start looking for another option. It’s better not to say anything or just say that you gonna miss her, than to be crazy jealous or to tell her to have fun.
I can say my experience what he is saying is on point. I did everything wrong. When I started doing these things he speaks about naturally, he misses me and now wants to marry me. These videos are confirmation. I started doing these things before I saw these videos. It is so true.
when it's real you will know. There is no room for games and trying to make someone miss, respect when both of you are for real with your feelings. I know this because I found the man that I am meant to be with forever. we just had a connection to each other from day one. He missed me and I missed him when we were apart.
I have binge-watched soooo many of your videos the past hour.. and I gotta say you are the best dating coach I've ever stumbled upon! Keep the good work up! You are truly amazing!
that is sooo true Mark. I am evidence of this. I had for some time a long distance relatioship ,,,we only saw each other every 9 months as we lived on different continents . and everybody thought this will not last more than a month! we met for only 20 wonderful days once a year.. It lasted amazingly long because I never showed my insecurities...even though of course I sometimes had some, who doesnt? I always was enthusiastic about his going out with friends, wished him a great time and never ever whined.or pestered him: w/ " who are you going out with ?: etc." then I also told him that I'm going out with friends or a friend to party or dinner or weeekend so he would know I'm also enjoying my social life and am possibly treasured by "others" as well, and that has kept him on his toes!. he could not take me for granted either!. He knew I was attractive and that there would always b a danger. I often noted some hidden jealousies and it pleased me to know he was worried about losing me .I often brought up good memories of the past that we did together into the present, to refresh our realationship. that worked as we laughed while reliving our good or funny times together. He kept texting or calling me every day, so I KNOW I was always on his mind. We lasted several years which is amazing to me..
serious. real. genuine. you take it out of emotions and insecurities and bring logic, thinking, and presence. thank you for keeping it real. this summer was excruciating. I almost lost the most important person in my life. I know I have to keep my daily mental health self care routine so that I can do all the other things I need to. maria
When he feels that you trust him, he will miss you even more. When you show him that you trust him and believe in him, you are creating more positive experiences for him and you are being a high value woman.
hi mark! i have been following you for a year now..i love all ur videos and i learned a lot from them..thumbs up for you!! the only thing i can hardly deal with now is that my bf has so much negativity in life but i keep on inspiring him by giving some messages because we're having an LDR now..he's in France and i am in Thailand..he thinks all of the world's problems and he's so much concern about what is happening around us and that sometimes makes me sad but i keep on pursuing him by being so positive in life and telling him that i am his number one supporter in everything he does and that i will stand right beside him no matter what it takes.. :-) because of that i don't know if he really misses me or not..but i never oppose him yet i keep on being positive on him..every time, we chat, he always says about the problems in the environment..and that i reply him by giving some positive messages..
Hey Lihzie - thanks for supporting my channel for all this time. Sounds like you're being a pretty fcking awesome long distance girlfriend to me. I sure as hell would miss you if I was him. Though it does sound like he might be a drain on you?
yeah sometimes..but i keep on thinking the happy things we have encountered so i keep going on with our relationship..thanks for the reply, mark!! goodluck and please keep on uploading some..i love ur videos... :-)
This is the best advice that I have heard. I am 62, and I was raised in a poor neighborhood so the choice I made to marry was bad. He cheated on me several times. Now that I have a quality guy I wanted to hang on to him so bad that I almost destroyed this relationship. Actually, he is having me go away for a month to find out if he wans to continue this relationship. He loves me, and says that I am his best friend, but didn't know if he could continue to be in a relationship with me because of my fear of other woman hitting on him and loosing him. Thank you. I have 2 weeks before I go so I will apply what you said. Heis a very goo looking man, nd a wet heart.
This is helpful with regular guys. I just recently realized mine is a narcissist and it’s a completely different way I have to deal with him. We are more entwined with each other than either of us realized. It’s different tactics each day. I have to gage his attitude because it will change in a HEARTBEAT. It took me years to realize he is a narcissist and just recently saw just how far he push for total control. researching narcissism now and dealing with our relationship keeps me on my toes now that I know what I am up against. But otherwise, mark’s advice is sound and worth trying! I have watched a lot of mark’s videos and tried to apply the teachings, but my narcissist plays by his own rules...some things work and some don’t so I am going thru ALOT of trial and error with mine. And it’s easier said, than done...to just up and leave him. We are deeply entwined. Thank you mark
I've come back to these older videos today for a refresher course on Mark's healthy, common sense approach to relationships. He's never steered me wrong!
Wauuu! Congratulations Mark! I can say, without of doubt, that you really are one of the best expert in this matter of relationships. You are very subtile, imparcial, tactile, and tremendous center hearted - minded. I really appreciate your excellent work and I'm sure women will be grateful to you. Thank you!
Hello Mr Rosenfield. Thank you very much for the video. I think it is very informative and helpful. I have to say I agree and also disagree with your points here: 1) It's true that we should trust our partner and we want them to have fun also. Don't appear too needy is so on point :)) 2) However, our partner should be more considerate and do not put our trust on the test. Like sleeping in a tent with the guy who is also into her is NOT acceptable. If one night was fine, there would be another night and so on. That kind of person will attract drama and problem will arise later on. I'm in a long distance relationship and I have never done anything like that to make my partner feel insecure or worried. It takes 2 strong and sensitive minds to make a relationship work. Strong enough to be the source of your own happiness and reassurance. Sensitive enough not to put the other person in doubt and worrisome. 3) Anyway, I'm sorry if I'm being rude but it's good that you are not with that gf any more. You deserve a stronger woman. Thank you again for your efforts to help women! Keep up with the great work!
Incredible video as always ✌ I have worked hard on myself for a long time now and I 100% agree with you. I think it boils down to recognising that inner mean girl will always be there, but acknowledging her in your own time is what's needed, not letting her out in public. Thanks again Mark, your a romantic genius.
Hi Mark.. you are so correct.. I tried the same method...the trust factor works very well..and I encourage him to go and be with his friends and enjoy his time...he was so happy and he told me when he was back you are the best companion and great girlfriend,and literally I had seen some of my friends suffering with their girls unpleasant way of dealing the situations and make the unhappy while they are away..
You are right; I'll try to see this video again and again to remember... because I have made this mistake over and over... matter of fact people that really loved me couldn't stand me anymore because of so much insecurities, control and reassurance seeking... I hope I could change completely one day. Thank you for this real teaching video, I really appreciate your honesty and advices. I admire your job, I'll fight my emotions to act as I should.
Sounds like it's okay to be attached to the one you love but not to the point of being dependent because then, it spoils everything, thank you again for your videos Mark.
Actually we meet in my work but we just know for 3 weeks only am always happy wid him maybe thats why he misses me and cant forget me.. the way i show him kindness and thats true mark..Thanks🙂🙂
I’m living in Aus and learning English. I watch your channel for English listening practice because you speak little bit Aussie English and put subtitle :) it’s great that I can learn about relationship at the and time! Thank you!
My guy has clinical depression and he tends to cave in once in a while. I should apply this on him when he caves in. But I am a very insecure person which keeps making me go crazy missing him and wondering how much he values the relationship. Thanks Mark, I always put your advice to use and find great results from it.
No sane guy would ever date a devious woman. Never bring another guy to provoke jealousy, we will see you as being devious and untrustworthy and will not hesitate to look for someone with more self integrity.
I'm afraid that my boyfriend thinks I did this but he's wrong. There's this creep that has been harassing and stalking me off and on for over 4 years now (from out of state). I mentioned it to my boyfriend a couple months ago just once. The creep has tried to contact me since I was in the relationship but I ignored it (as i always do) and didnt tell my bf so I didnt upset him. Well last week the guy moved near my home and left a note on my car. I'm pretty freaked out now. I told my bf calmly on the phone about the note and he totally blew up at me, said I was drama, that I should've had a tro on the guy (not easy to do) and he broke up with me in anger. I'm devastated, I just don't understand this. I don't see that I did anything wrong. Now not only do I have to worry about a stalker but also a broken heart. If any guys have any advice for me I would really appreciate it. This guy seemed great up until this happened.
Mindy Montague Hi Mindy. I hope you feel much better now. It's been 7 mnths ago. But I just had to reply to your comment! So sad. I really don't think your bf had the right reaction. Not mature at all. If only that made him go so mad, and break up, well he is very impulsive indeed. I hope he grew up since, if you got back together, or you feel better off alone or with a better guy. Wish you well! 🤗
Omg!..thankx a lot for this video mark..I really love to hear how you explained being a high and uninsecure women..Unbelievable .I and my partner HAVING LDR but before he goes somewhere else..I always remind him..that I do alwaya TRUST him despite of everything..I do care but I dont compete..thanx a lot mark😙
The guy I’m dating went away for 4 days to the Dominican Republic just 2 weeks into us dating, and it killed me with worry that he would meet someone else. But I told him to have fun. Today, a month and a half later, I told him I loved him (a week after he said it to me) 🥰 We’ve been through our ups and downs trying to figure us out, and it is finally looking up!
He will definitely help you he have solutions to all problems.He helped me not quite long and I got my husband who left me over two years ago within 48 hour's .
Thank's Mark again for your advices, I'm always grateful for that. I think "trust" and freedom are in that issue the big words, because with trust you never get insecurities. And by the way you don't own your partner. So if he is going away let him. If he's coming back it'll be forever!
Bettina when you trust you can still have insecurities sometimes. I've always trusted my partners, but we all have moments where we find ourselves being insecure for some dumb reasons (even if it's just having a bad) - and that's normal. It's the fact that you own those insecurities as YOURS and your responsibility (not his) and take actions which reflect your trust for him, rather than your insecurities that makes the difference.
Mark Rosenfeld Mark, yes, that's true. I made also those experiences a thousand times....But as you say this identification with your own insecurities is the problem. If we see this - and that is much work on yourself - then you can understand and can let go. I mean it is difficult, but step by step we can go further. And yes of course not everybody has the chance to get his twinflame, then it's much more difficult to go on....
This is sooo true!! My ldr boyfriend will go on a holiday next week with his friend, i told him “enjoy, you will have a great time blah blah” and i mean it because even before i met him i was a solo traveler and very independent he told me after that “i don’t care without you love” lolol 😊
Thank you Mark I am so blessed for the man in my life he's a real true loving man! I want to be the best for him as well. I'm always watching and reading. We both deserve the best life for each other.
He will definitely help you he have solutions to all problems.He helped me not quite long and I got my husband who left me over two years ago within 48 hour's .
I love this video. I'm currently in a long distance 'situation' with a guy. We've had mutual feelings for one another for years and years and we're finally doing something about it. He lives in the same town as my parents, who I'm currently visiting. I live 200 miles away, but planning on moving back in the next few months. I thought we might spend some time together while I'm here and wanted to create the exact conditions you advised for when I return back to my current home. We've seen one another twice in 3 weeks and it's been a couple of weeks since we've spent time together, but he's in touch every day. He reached out over the weekend and said his depression is acting up and he is taking it out on people around him. He said he doesn't want to do that to me as I'm too important to him, but this also means we're not spending time together so that we can create the conditions for missing one another in a healthy way when I return home! He's asked me to please bear with him. This communication felt very authentic and heartfelt, but I feel stuck. Very tricky situation...
He will definitely help you he have solutions to all problems.He helped me not quite long and I got my husband who left me over two years ago within 48 hour's .
Unfortunately I did this to my boyfriend when he went away recently. I was cheated on in the past by another guy and struggle massively with anxiety and have been putting all the pressure on him even though we have been together for nearly 6 years and he's never given me any reason not to trust him. But that's not his fault and I hate myself for it! I found no happiness in reassurance, I just ended up apologising and feeling terrible for pushing all my insecurities on him. I think I'm at a point where I need professional help for anxiety but until then I'm going to try so hard to do what all your videos say so that he feels appreciated because he sure as hell deserves it.
I understand why the games can work. But I am so happy to have come across your work Mark. For a long time I was feeling like a negative Nancy reading dating advice about the games of the chase. Like it was something you needed to get comfortable with to date successfully. Good advice isn't all easy but at least it sits well with me ... much more comfortable with the genuine honest version of myself than playing a foolish game. More well received advice. Thank you.
How about when he said "go have fun, enjoy your time with your family ( I went to visit my family in California) and I got back two months after, he told me that he got someone pregnant while I was away...
Wow youre spot on with that. Ironically, theres a coworker of mine who I actually dug in the beginning, you know, when i first met, but over the course of six months, Im now the one getting pushed the opposite direction because of the hovering and PAINFULLY obvious insecurities that He has been showing..and the funny thing is....we havent been more than friends, but now, for me, it Will never be more than that BECAUSE of his grip...Life and matters of the heart are much more fragile than people realize, right? Thanks for youre video!!!!
I just missing your channel Damn am in love with this (Hii!! My 5years Xman he back saying he missed me but ..he madè me hate men when we break up how can I start making up with him
Great to have you on my channel Dianaah. Why would you want to make up with him if he made you hate him (btw, he doesn't have to MAKE you hate men - you control your thoughts and what you focus on, which means you can take your power and love of men back)
Thanks so much for your great advice can you pliz update something about loving again bcoz trust am just fucking gal I just hate men with passion bcoz of my Devil so called X (😭😭I have been single 5years know but I lost my feeling
A lot of good advice in your videos Mark! Being in the dating scene again, it takes a lot of patience.. and courage putting yourself out there. And I'm 61 makes it tougher, for competition out there. I haven't found someone yet, but I give myself a pat on the back for putting myself out there, going on dates, and having faith that someone that I truly connect with will come along. Ladies don't give up! I would say, that I've learned- Don't be in your head too much, and be enslaved by your expectations- Don't wait by the phone, wonder when or if he'll call- keep your own life. Nurture, love and focus on you in the meantime. If you're interested in him & he calls back-great. If he doesn't- don't text him back, he has your # is he is into you. And don't be impatient about instant results.. it's all a process, and it takes time. Just keep a positive frame of mind, and faith that eventually the right man will come into your life..
YOU, my sir..are the TRUTH!!!! You are affirming everything I'm experiencing right now....good vibes only!!! so glad I came across your channel! you are confirming and giving me life!!
Absolutely true. I have the opposite problem. When we first got together he encouraged me to go and enjoy myself. Now we're married he projects massive insecurity every time im out of his sight. Result is I can't wait to get away!
My bf is so negative and threatened me for not coming and not living where I live, now I see that it takes time to know a person.. I live and learn, so ladies don't rush into a relationship! Just relax and you will be OK..
I was insecure and this really ruins my relationship. Now I am putting back the pieces together. Thank you Mark for great videos, this helps me to be a better partner and a better person. And see things from another point of view.
Thank you for taking the time to make these videos. I feel like a weight came off of my shoulders after listening to your words, the theory is clear but the practice is a bit hard sometimes, but listening to your words have made me feel like I'm on the right path, I don't feel like I'm exaggerating with the trust I give my boyfriend during our time apart, as a couple women around me have stated. Happiness comes from within and real love doesn't hold on a leash, quite the opposite, if you truly love a person, you want them to be happy and to reach their goals. A most sincere thank you.
What kind of f...k relation is this where partners are happy only with other people? B.S....Happiness must be shared together, as a couple.....otherwise, cheatings appear...often guys are saying... "I found at her, what you didn't give me" ...or "I realized that I had more fun with her"... or " I wanted to try something new"...If a guy is in a casual relationship, as you mentioned... Sky is the limit of his betrayal because he knows he has at home a girl that swallows all his crap in order for him to be happy and in a so called relation with him....
Hey Christina - thanks for watching and commenting. Basically, it's very important that you're not reliant on your relationship for your happiness, otherwise you're going to become dependant on it and start putting the weight of expectation on HIM (or her) for your happiness. You wouldn't do that at the start of the relationship when that person was so attracted to you, so why start doing it later on? :)
Mark Rosenfeld well...I learned through all my life not to expect anything from no one....You guys are changeable as the weather... So, please don't tell me about reliability...What reliability can you have with a person that runs from his feelings that " it's too much, too serious, too complicated "?! Horse shit...Main and absolute important things are.....LIFE, LOVE...Excuse me, if I have soo f...king big " expectation " regarding the fact that I want my (so called) boyfriend to be near me, to offer physical comfort( by hugging me) and mental support by staying with me, to calm me down with his presence... as I would do if the case would of been reversed...:( It's not about asking him to resolve my problems is about him being there for me when I have bad days, when I'm moody as I would be, also for him... It's not that I am insecure... It's just about care, words and actions....Things that you guys don't give a f...k!!!
All your advices really does help... I had a long distance relationship and day to day i feel so loved and missed .and i do feel same way towards him..
I could be totally wrong but I'm just thinking out loud Sounds like you're not in an open relationship but more like a relationship where he said he wants to sleep with other people and you don't want to lose him... your situation sounds painful and possibly not the most suitable for someone like yourself maybe try talking to your partner and see if they actually care about your feelings about the topic.
Hi Mark, Your videos are very informational and most of your advice already applies to my personality. However, I've had all negative experiences in relationships. Therefore, I will admit I am probably the most jaded person on this planet and completely anti-dating (very very very long stories). Now, a problem I've always had (and still currently have).....is they my ex's are constantly missing me for sex.....and new guys, who ask me out are also looking for sex (I can tell). So, it's a constant battle fighting these perverts off....which has resulted with myself refusing to date and living out my life solo. My question.....How do I get guys to leave me alone?
Carmen SanDiego said with love and only the best intentions: maybe the reason you're feeling negative about men and relationships is because you choose to view men who want to have sex with you as perverts. Just because a man is sexually attracted to you doesn't mean he's a "pervert." It means he's a man and he thinks you're beautiful. It's up to you to set boundaries and let men know if you're interested or not. There's nothing wrong with stating that you're not interested in general or even being as blunt as saying "I like you but I'm not looking for sex unless I'm in a committed relationship." Men usually lead with their physical attraction to us...and that's great! But it's up to us to keep them in check by respecting ourselves. If you're not interested in a man, it's literally as simple as saying "I'm just not on the same page as you." And if he won't respect your feelings, block him. There are so many amazing men out there and I'm sorry you've had bad experiences with some that weren't the best match for you. Keep the faith. I know it's hard. Best wishes to you!
Mark Rosenfeld Thanks for the input....but some guys are very persistent....and being nice doesn't work....which unfortunately, results with me having to be mean. 😡
LEIGHTON ....Thanks for your opinion. However, i disagree. Myself being jaded and not interested in dating....does not hold a "negative" connotation. I didn't elaborate on my life or experiences....but the fact is.....I absolutely, positively, love, love, love my life. I'm not looking for a man to enhance my life....because I'm already happy and content. Constant dating and relationships require too much work.....and I have better things to do with my life. In my "jaded" world.....dating/relationships shouldn't take any work at all. I believe it should be simple, honest, exciting, adventurous, and fun....and that should come natural between those two individuals....not all these steps, tips, advice, etc... Dating/relationships seems like it's all a mind-fuck....and it won't work in the end, cause all of your insecurities, personality, and true colors will all come out eventually. No thanks to all that drama and bull shit. I love me and my happy place. ❤️❤️❤️ Kind regards.
Carmen SanDiego not sure what you were disagreeing with and I'm not the one who called you jaded - you said that. And I completely agree with and understand everything you said. In fact, I'm very much in the same place in life. And it's a fabulous place to be. I feel like it should be that way. Anyone that comes into my life has to be able to fit in with my life as it is. My life is amazing and I'm 100% happy without a parter and not looking for anyone either. But...none of your response to me really addressed anything I said initially. I was just responding to your comment about men who want to have sex with you all being perverts.
I agree with almost everything that you’ve said. With all due respect to your advice about trusting, such situations where the guy has to share a tent with a girl are a bit uncommon, at least here in India, because there’ll be so many other guys on the trip whom he can share a tent with but God forbid if the guy was forced to do so just to protect the female companion, I would really really salute a guy who would rather sleep outside the tent still keeping a watch over the girl than share a tent with her even though he was doing nothing wrong with her. That’s the mark of a real gentleman. For the simple reason of not wanting to give room for any kind of suspicion or even the slightest doubt against him to arise in anyone’s mind. At the end of the day we are all human and one small side of us would definitely have at least a teeny-weeny negative spark about such matters. Prevention is always better than cure. So being a girl my personal humble advice to guys would be to avoid such situations as far as possible, and when you do that and your girl accidentally finds out that you refused to share close space with another woman, she will vouch for you in every matter and you’ll be her crown. She’ll trust you with her life. And if that does nothing for you, at least you’ll be proud of yourself that you exercised your decision power in a righteous way.
I was "the best f****g girlfrnd he's ever had", (He so often said so. Without the "f****g" in his words!). But alas that didn't make him stay...he ran off... To come back, be a nice/angry person again and again... No true reason concerning me. But deep unworked issues in youth. He jst found it too difficult to be polite to me after a nice day of work together.... Hyper sad no? After having been in the lonely desert for 6 f****g yrs, prior to meeting him, we were so glad that at long last we had 'found' each other. So happy. So in love... But his terrible anger issues and his controlling habits (at few strange times), made the relationship into a calvary for me. I just wish he wld've worked on his issues before meeting me. Or at least showing his will to want to work on them (in therapy) whilst together. I pray God works miracles. Either that he comes back a much better person to me, (because, besides the anger isdues, he was soooo good and a great man to me), or I am blessed w/ a fantastic superbe new man! Pray for me plse! Thank you, thank you, thank you.
I'm in the same boat. Best gf one could have but he has serious anger issues from traumatic childhood. Luckily he's due to start therapy for real. Fingers crossed it yields results. Otherwise it's adios.
Wow, your advice is incredibly helpful! Long story very short, I had straight-up given-up and was diving into bushes to avoid men (who were "all the same" and "wanted only one thing"). Buuutttt, I found Marks videos and started listening during work; took notes and applied them to a situation I was working out with a dude who I adore but was not into me -except for the obvious). Once I applied the techniques, ESPECIALLY the respect video and worked on my degrading/past habits, within moments of me respecting myself, he is now interested. Pretty genius! I feel completely different within two days of heavy listening and have had normal/non-toxic, kind and interesting men approach me and actually succeed at getting my number. No dick-pics or drama from these guys! Amazing! Thank you! I am beyond-words grateful for your awesome advice!
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So good and so true the f bombs 💣are great they add passion to what you're conveying. I swear you're a God send. Your videos are REALLY educational, entertaining, empowering and overall inspirational. I truly enjoy them all. Thank you Mark for being so wonderful!!
Funny you mentioned this... at 58 just learned this and actually doing it. It work!!
Great points and very true for marriage also. you helped me reflect on what i may have done to cause my hubby to miss me. he would text me and tell me how much he misses me. Watching your video helpme me to try to remember what i did to cause him to miss me. The positive emotional experiences are key. i am a fun loving woman and he enjoys my company. so after 20 years of marriage, he still chases and misses me.
Hey mark I completely agree with Nisa's comment that you truly are God send,I really badly need your help,how can I communicate with you in person,my problem is hugely complicated,please let me know as soon as possible
Nice mark
1. He has to associate you with POSITIVE emotional experiences,
2. Space to appreciate those experiences (freedom)
Aahhh you're so kind thanks! 💘
I learned to give him space lol. It works. Makes the meeting times more memorable
I have been dating a guy for 3 months. He asked me to go on a ski trip with two single women and a married couple. I had to work so I told him I couldn't go but I didn't this exact thing. I told him to have a fucking amazing time and to send snowy mountain pics. I didn't text him a lot... but enough. He had a great time. I gave him total freedom. Was positive and happy and supportive. He came back more in love with me than ever. :)))). Great advice! I also believe that if you take care of yourself (go to the gym, keep a solid social life, and killing it financially (working hard in your career) will always make you feel great and you can project that into your partner! Love all of this!
Boom that's amazing!! Great job and so good to hear the advice helped you.
The more I watch these videos, the more I think relationships and dating are way too complicated, so daunting - how do people even get married?! uh
Hahahaha. I need to post less videos. Too much to absorb!
I think my channel TL;DR byline needs to be. "Work on yourself, have boundaries". Pretty much all encompassing
MEYOUUS60 Amen to that!!! lol... relationships are for the birds haha!!
On the other hand, birds of a feather do flock together. ;)
MEYOUUS60 we didn't grow up the way our parents and grandparents did. Sadly now there are too many choices because of the internet, and we are an instant gratification society and do not want to put in the work like they did. Also most people never went more than 50 miles outside of their hometown
Don't give up
This is true. I find as I encourage my new boyfriend to hang out with his friends and to have fun, he tends to miss my company and texts "I miss you" and kisses.
YES. THIS.
Maria Macias 💖💖💖
Does it still work, just curious.
Mark, this works like a charm. I gave him space, went out with my friends and the next morning I got a frantic text from him asking me if I was alright and why didn't I answer my text so that he could say goodnight and asking me to please NEVER do that again because he thought he was losing me. Amazing! Thanks Mark. I've followed you for a long time and will continue to follow you. I hope you are well. Thank you so very much.
Mark, you start to freak me out. Every time I come across a problem in my new relationship, you post a video about it. I'm leaving for three weeks to france. But my relationship is so new. This is super helpful.. Thank you as always
Ahahahaha Sanne immaculate timing for you! Don't forget to transition over to the long distance video once he has left town :)
Yep, you nailed it.
Remember to be the person he fell for in the first place, don't shift, don't project your insecurities.
Suuuuuuper important Judy
My insecurities had ruined every relationship in my life. Now I will never ever show or let my insecurities on someone. Thanks!
Insecurities are normal Eun - just make sure you take responsibility for them :)
Mark Rosenfeld , hi Mark, that's very true & it's make relationship & marriages to be perfect 😍😍😍, you are talented guy, from Norway
Eun, a little bit of insecure is being human. Since, it is also negative if it is constant then try to take control and not letting it control you. If you are that quality woman in a man's life and yet he messes up, sweetie, you are not the problem, he is. Be strong and do not give up yet, Eun. There is a man out there for you who will embrace the real you.
Mark, are your services only available in Australia? Or do you already have international clients?
mescis Thank you so much. Thank you for your kind words. I'm still learning a lot of things in life.
Mark this is spot on. The man I've been seeing just came back from a trip without me and I handled the time away very close to your advice(I just watched your video) and I hadn't expected to hear from him much due to phone expenses. But he texted me several times each day. I was particularly happy when he went out of his way to share his experience with me so far away. He took this trip with a female friend. By not being insecure and needy I believe it brought him to wanting to share with me even more. Before he left he asked if I wanted to chain him I put my palm out to him open and said no I want to hold to lightly like this its your choice to stay or go but my hand is here.
This is what I need right now. Been battling with major depression and anxiety lately and it's affecting our relationship. My boyfriend is out of the country and I am always anxious about him being away from me. I'm drowning in my own thoughts and insecurities. Thank you for this video, Mark.
Thanks Sher. Make sure you check out this one too if you haven't already :)
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Mark Rosenfeld I really appreciate that your major message to us ladies is to work on ourselves and be high quality with solid boundaries. I can personally attest that when I create a great life for myself, the ex's always want back. Everyone can feel that energy. When you are either chasing or trying to rope your man closer, he feels it and pulls away. Keep the great videos coming. I've shared them with girlfriends here in Chicago.
I'm the same. I'm thinking he might find someone else.
One reason I value your videos is that you encourage self-improvement. I also appreciate that you don't advocate the advice that seems like head games to me. The positive experiences really rings true with me. When I was married, I encouraged him to do some things with his buddies. I also told him he should go visit a high-school girlfriend who had called to let him know she had cancer. My current boyfriend, I encourage him to have a good time with his golf buddies. They both had my trust.
Thank you Matk for ..
1. Your honesty
2. Explaining what men are thinking on a women's intellectual level. Men and women are so different. You are the bridge I need.
There is no way that I am going to stand by and let my BF go off and sleep in a tent with another woman and him still be my BF.If he feels the need to want to do that then I will take my ASSets and look for a better man.
Fair enough Ann. If you consider that disrespectful, it's not something you should be accepting.
That's what I said!!!🤣
I agree Ann, to a point. Men have women friends just as women have male friends. The part I would take issue with this if he was sleeping in a tent with a woman that was into him. Sort of like 'choose your battles'.
exactly and therefore I ditched my ex cause if he is making me going crazy like that, he is not worth it.
That's why that girl is his ex. If you care about someone, it is almost not possible to accept that. He didn't love her at all apparently.
Love this video!!
I have done some serious practicing of this way of life in the last couple years and was single for most of that. In my previous relationships, I didn't give men space to miss me, and I smothered them with my Love, and I was insecure. All the pitfalls!
I've spent probably 5 years being intentionally single and 2-3 more on top of that, all the time trying to get better at self Love, becoming a person I am proud of, improving my thought patterns and beliefs, changing my habits, and changing how I behave in relationships. So much of what you advocate for! I have been listing to your videos and a few other dating coaches for a few years now.
Now I am in a new relationship with a wonderful man, and we've only been dating for two months and I can already tell he sees me as the one and only! He says he misses me immediately after I leave. It's so wonderful.
It's easy, we love eachother.. we accept imperfections and places we don't agree when it's not important.. we give and take and take turns. I know how to say what I want and I know what I want! I give him space, I appreciate him, I'm proud of him, Lots of positive feedback, and when I give constructive feedback I've managed to learn how to make it either like a teasing joke or a "would be" compliment, or I'm able to say how something makes me feel, or how I'd prefer x, or that x would be awesome, or that I need x to feel y.. I'm able to stick up for myself, stand tall, be proud, and therefore hold my stance and not waver into insecurity. I no longer need constant attention; I can accept that love isn't 100% constant love, that there is an ebb and flow, different moods, situations, and that he needs space to go away so he can come back again.. I can accept now that there are times during the day that our love feels more like friendship or maybe we arent attached to the hip or hes busy or not affectionate.. and it's fine!! All because I am secure in myself.
On top of all that, I have had lyme disease this whole time. Dating with a disease is such a struggle, and previously it was a big sore spot for relastionships to go awry. This is because I'm not busy enough, or I have too many symptoms, I need too much help, or I'm too much in self pity victim mode. But I have finally overcome this! I still have the illness (although it's a bit better) but what's changed most is my ability to handle a relationship during illness and not have the illness swallow it up or dominate it. I believe strongly that this is because I now come across as high value, and before I came across as a low value woman because of all those insecurities and therefore neediness. I also accomplished the "when to tell him I'm sick" strategy, finally, with success. Before I may have said it on a first date or even on a dating profile! Just because it's in my mind a lot. But no, that was wrong; I need to treat it like more of a secret so that my other life and personality things are at the top of our connection..leaving occasiobal breadcrumbs about individual, normalized symptoms here and there (ex. Small headache or stomach ache or foot cramp or eye twitching or my leg hurts or a food allergy or tiredness, etc), so its not too huge of a surprise.. and then my illness becomes something I can share when the connection is strong enough that I can be vulnerable and it is then an act of trust to share my secret struggle. Amazing!
You Mark Rosenfeld, as well as Clayton Olsen, Matt Boggs, Matthew Hussey, and shein wade media /the feminine woman.. You have ALL helped. Thank you so much for what you do!
One other youtube video that's helped me over and over is by actualized.org where the bald guy (whose name I forgot) talks about masculinity and femininity. How most issues are because we treat dogs like they're cats and we want cats to act like dogs.
Boyfriend and I agreed that the "ten years ago" versions of us would not have liked eachother.
I am so glad I have taken control of my life and rededigned my mind. This stuff works!! I hope lots of people continue getting your anazing advice Mark! May all the women reading this be inspired and have hope that they too can change.. it happens by changing you into someone you will love and respect for 70 years, then changing how you see yourself, and then everyone else sees it too.
Have a great day ⚘
I think my man friend can have plenty of fun without sleeping in a woman’s tent... that is not insecure ... that is wisdom.
... that cannot be an example you really stand by.
The ONLY reason these slew of women do not call you on this ... is because you are good looking ... and they want to appear a certain way to you. You know this as well.
Have fun ... yes ...
boundaries also... yes ...
I swear you're the only youtube dating guru that actually talks sense and gets straight to the point and provides valuable details.
Arw, thanks so much AJCiti, that is so sweet of you. Thanks so much for supporting my channel xx
This is one Of the best advice I have ever heard about relationships. It's hard but what is hardest is usually the best. Thank you for your great videos
So smart! This exactly how it is working. My mom said: don't ever let him to feel like in a trap. Wait until he is calling just let him feel that you have fun and he should start to chaise you and miss you otherwise you will be gone. It always works. Make man likes you and then leave him space that he can realize what he wants.
This video is GOLDEN.. nothing but truth.💯 I recently watched a video (another dating channel) encouraging the "hot/cold" method and honestly, it didn't vibe with me at all...i have too much going on in my life to remember whether I'm supposed to be playing hot today and cold tomorrow 😂 I seriously can't keep up with the psychotic shenanigans of that method LBVS 😂 BUT YOUR advice is pure gold 💯and it resonates with me Every. Single. video of yours that I watch ...thanks for bringing truth 🤗
Thanks Cyn! That's a super beautiful comment and very inspiring :)
i never been able to keep a relationship this helped me realize as a woman with adhd realize you needs to be happy i will try this and hope it nots to late to re-build the relationship
Awesome video Mark! I have struggled with this many times, having a good female friend to unload your crap onto during these times is paramount. It saved me from this torrid path of self destruction and allowed me to build a solid foundation with my guy. His security and validation came in due course and without coercion. Love your work 😍
That's fantastic Carolyn!
Hi Mark! I'm a new subscriber. I found you because I randomly started thinking a lot about a guy I thought I was over. You helped me realize it was more about my neurotransmitters. I just finished a project that had me fulfilled and preoccupied and I have a lot of romantic associations with this time of year (summer in the US). Understanding all if this, I feel less victimized by these feelings.
I have to tell you though, what's kept me watching is seeing an amazing emotionally intelligent guy putting himself in service to others the way that you are. It reminds me not to lower my standards because there are really amazing men out there that I can reach the level of connection and intimacy that I'm capable of with.
That's really beautiful K LOVE. Certainly inspires me not to let you down
Love this Mark. I have 2 years more in a long distance relationship. These tips are so helpful. I know I give it my all and treat this man like gold. If he leaves I know it's the best I had to give. We have a blast during every visit. Thank you Mark, you help so many people. ♡♡♡♡
Thanks so much Jay - lovely comment :)
I am also a psychologist , I love the way you explain situations and not afraid to use your simple vocabulary ! I do that as well
I think if you tell a girl that she can have fun. Done ... you lose her. I would think that you don’t even care and maybe start looking for another option. It’s better not to say anything or just say that you gonna miss her, than to be crazy jealous or to tell her to have fun.
I can say my experience what he is saying is on point. I did everything wrong. When I started doing these things he speaks about naturally, he misses me and now wants to marry me. These videos are confirmation. I started doing these things before I saw these videos. It is so true.
when it's real you will know. There is no room for games and trying to make someone miss, respect when both of you are for real with your feelings. I know this because I found the man that I am meant to be with forever. we just had a connection to each other from day one. He missed me and I missed him when we were apart.
That's so beautiful Cheryl. Thankyou for sharing :) xx
I LOVEEE that you got right to the point instead of dragging and wasting 10 minutes of the video like most youtubers do 😩
I have binge-watched soooo many of your videos the past hour.. and I gotta say you are the best dating coach I've ever stumbled upon! Keep the good work up! You are truly amazing!
that is sooo true Mark. I am evidence of this. I had for some time a long distance relatioship ,,,we only saw each other every 9 months as we lived on different continents . and everybody thought this will not last more than a month! we met for only 20 wonderful days once a year.. It lasted amazingly long because I never showed my insecurities...even though of course I sometimes had some, who doesnt? I always was enthusiastic about his going out with friends, wished him a great time and never ever whined.or pestered him: w/ " who are you going out with ?: etc." then I also told him that I'm going out with friends or a friend to party or dinner or weeekend so he would know I'm also enjoying my social life and am possibly treasured by "others" as well, and that has kept him on his toes!. he could not take me for granted either!. He knew I was attractive and that there would always b a danger. I often noted some hidden jealousies and it pleased me to know he was worried about losing me .I often brought up good memories of the past that we did together into the present, to refresh our realationship. that worked as we laughed while reliving our good or funny times together. He kept texting or calling me every day, so I KNOW I was always on his mind. We lasted several years which is amazing to me..
serious. real. genuine. you take it out of emotions and insecurities and bring logic, thinking, and presence. thank you for keeping it real. this summer was excruciating. I almost lost the most important person in my life. I know I have to keep my daily mental health self care routine so that I can do all the other things I need to. maria
Thankyou so much Lisa. That comment means so much to me x
When he feels that you trust him, he will miss you even more. When you show him that you trust him and believe in him, you are creating more positive experiences for him and you are being a high value woman.
Absolutely Rob! Thanks for the comment bro.
hi mark! i have been following you for a year now..i love all ur videos and i learned a lot from them..thumbs up for you!! the only thing i can hardly deal with now is that my bf has so much negativity in life but i keep on inspiring him by giving some messages because we're having an LDR now..he's in France and i am in Thailand..he thinks all of the world's problems and he's so much concern about what is happening around us and that sometimes makes me sad but i keep on pursuing him by being so positive in life and telling him that i am his number one supporter in everything he does and that i will stand right beside him no matter what it takes.. :-) because of that i don't know if he really misses me or not..but i never oppose him yet i keep on being positive on him..every time, we chat, he always says about the problems in the environment..and that i reply him by giving some positive messages..
Hey Lihzie - thanks for supporting my channel for all this time.
Sounds like you're being a pretty fcking awesome long distance girlfriend to me. I sure as hell would miss you if I was him. Though it does sound like he might be a drain on you?
yeah sometimes..but i keep on thinking the happy things we have encountered so i keep going on with our relationship..thanks for the reply, mark!! goodluck and please keep on uploading some..i love ur videos... :-)
This is the best advice that I have heard. I am 62, and I was raised in a poor neighborhood so the choice I made to marry was bad. He cheated on me several times. Now that I have a quality guy I wanted to hang on to him so bad that I almost destroyed this relationship. Actually, he is having me go away for a month to find out if he wans to continue this relationship. He loves me, and says that I am his best friend, but didn't know if he could continue to be in a relationship with me because of my fear of other woman hitting on him and loosing him. Thank you. I have 2 weeks before I go so I will apply what you said. Heis a very goo looking man, nd a wet heart.
This is helpful with regular guys. I just recently realized mine is a narcissist and it’s a completely different way I have to deal with him. We are more entwined with each other than either of us realized. It’s different tactics each day. I have to gage his attitude because it will change in a HEARTBEAT. It took me years to realize he is a narcissist and just recently saw just how far he push for total control. researching narcissism now and dealing with our relationship keeps me on my toes now that I know what I am up against. But otherwise, mark’s advice is sound and worth trying! I have watched a lot of mark’s videos and tried to apply the teachings, but my narcissist plays by his own rules...some things work and some don’t so I am going thru ALOT of trial and error with mine. And it’s easier said, than done...to just up and leave him. We are deeply entwined. Thank you mark
I never ever chased any guy in my life. I believe it's guys job to chase girls
Fair enough Pinky. That's your opinion and you're very much entitled to it!
i agree
Pinky Khan amen to that girlfriend ---😄
Most people only want those they can't or don't have.
Pinky Khan exactly !!!
I've come back to these older videos today for a refresher course on Mark's healthy, common sense approach to relationships. He's never steered me wrong!
Wauuu! Congratulations Mark! I can say, without of doubt, that you really are one of the best expert in this matter of relationships.
You are very subtile, imparcial, tactile, and tremendous center hearted - minded.
I really appreciate your excellent work and I'm sure women will be grateful to you.
Thank you!
Thanks Noemia - that's an absolutely lovely comment. I might just save it :) You honour me x
Hello Mr Rosenfield.
Thank you very much for the video. I think it is very informative and helpful.
I have to say I agree and also disagree with your points here:
1) It's true that we should trust our partner and we want them to have fun also. Don't appear too needy is so on point :))
2) However, our partner should be more considerate and do not put our trust on the test. Like sleeping in a tent with the guy who is also into her is NOT acceptable. If one night was fine, there would be another night and so on. That kind of person will attract drama and problem will arise later on.
I'm in a long distance relationship and I have never done anything like that to make my partner feel insecure or worried.
It takes 2 strong and sensitive minds to make a relationship work. Strong enough to be the source of your own happiness and reassurance. Sensitive enough not to put the other person in doubt and worrisome.
3) Anyway, I'm sorry if I'm being rude but it's good that you are not with that gf any more. You deserve a stronger woman.
Thank you again for your efforts to help women! Keep up with the great work!
Incredible video as always ✌ I have worked hard on myself for a long time now and I 100% agree with you. I think it boils down to recognising that inner mean girl will always be there, but acknowledging her in your own time is what's needed, not letting her out in public. Thanks again Mark, your a romantic genius.
Very powerful :) Thanks Miss M
What about long distance relationships . He doesn't answer my text always. We are both pensioners
Hi Mark.. you are so correct.. I tried the same method...the trust factor works very well..and I encourage him to go and be with his friends and enjoy his time...he was so happy and he told me when he was back you are the best companion and great girlfriend,and literally I had seen some of my friends suffering with their girls unpleasant way of dealing the situations and make the unhappy while they are away..
That's so good Rose garden - really glad it worked for you and thanks for enjoying my content :)
Another beautifully stated video Mark. Your approach in coaching comes from such a positive and loving place. Thank you my friend!
You are right; I'll try to see this video again and again to remember... because I have made this mistake over and over... matter of fact people that really loved me couldn't stand me anymore because of so much insecurities, control and reassurance seeking... I hope I could change completely one day. Thank you for this real teaching video, I really appreciate your honesty and advices. I admire your job, I'll fight my emotions to act as I should.
My pleasure Inoisa - thank-you for watching and commenting.
Sounds like it's okay to be attached to the one you love but not to the point of being dependent because then, it spoils everything, thank you again for your videos Mark.
Thanks Exposer. You never want to depend on someone - they'll sense that they're responsible for your emotional state and will want to pull away
This are things I have done always without knowing about it, till now.
It has worked every time for me and we're almost 30 years together now
Actually we meet in my work but we just know for 3 weeks only am always happy wid him maybe thats why he misses me and cant forget me.. the way i show him kindness and thats true mark..Thanks🙂🙂
Hahaha That's great dmd
I’m living in Aus and learning English. I watch your channel for English listening practice because you speak little bit Aussie English and put subtitle :) it’s great that I can learn about relationship at the and time! Thank you!
Glad you found the video helpful,みさみさ. Hope you liked the content too. 😊 Thanks for watching!
Sure wish I would have watched this a few months ago🤦♀️
My guy has clinical depression and he tends to cave in once in a while. I should apply this on him when he caves in. But I am a very insecure person which keeps making me go crazy missing him and wondering how much he values the relationship. Thanks Mark, I always put your advice to use and find great results from it.
Thanks Maliha - dealing with depression can be very challenging
No sane guy would ever date a devious woman. Never bring another guy to provoke jealousy, we will see you as being devious and untrustworthy and will not hesitate to look for someone with more self integrity.
Yep Isaac - I certainly wouldn't.
I'm afraid that my boyfriend thinks I did this but he's wrong. There's this creep that has been harassing and stalking me off and on for over 4 years now (from out of state). I mentioned it to my boyfriend a couple months ago just once. The creep has tried to contact me since I was in the relationship but I ignored it (as i always do) and didnt tell my bf so I didnt upset him. Well last week the guy moved near my home and left a note on my car. I'm pretty freaked out now. I told my bf calmly on the phone about the note and he totally blew up at me, said I was drama, that I should've had a tro on the guy (not easy to do) and he broke up with me in anger. I'm devastated, I just don't understand this. I don't see that I did anything wrong. Now not only do I have to worry about a stalker but also a broken heart. If any guys have any advice for me I would really appreciate it. This guy seemed great up until this happened.
Oh pls, if two people are dating and not exclusive both parties are free to do whatever they want.
Mindy Montague
Hi Mindy. I hope you feel much better now. It's been 7 mnths ago. But I just had to reply to your comment! So sad. I really don't think your bf had the right reaction. Not mature at all. If only that made him go so mad, and break up, well he is very impulsive indeed. I hope he grew up since, if you got back together, or you feel better off alone or with a better guy. Wish you well! 🤗
Mark you are a godsend love all of your coaching just be sure to love the woman who stands with you behind every good man..
Omg!..thankx a lot for this video mark..I really love to hear how you explained being a high and uninsecure women..Unbelievable .I and my partner HAVING LDR but before he goes somewhere else..I always remind him..that I do alwaya TRUST him despite of everything..I do care but I dont compete..thanx a lot mark😙
That's awwwwwesome Cheryl!! Great work :)
I LOVE Mark's emotional and MENTAL maturity! Finally a smart and HOT MAN, who GETS IT!!!🌡🔥
Thank god, women need to hear this!!!!
Thanks Tiffany :)
Mark Rosenfeld trust me it's my pleasure ! If only we could clone you lol
The guy I’m dating went away for 4 days to the Dominican Republic just 2 weeks into us dating, and it killed me with worry that he would meet someone else. But I told him to have fun. Today, a month and a half later, I told him I loved him (a week after he said it to me) 🥰 We’ve been through our ups and downs trying to figure us out, and it is finally looking up!
Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my partner is back to me and we happily together , I go help from a man who brought us back
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He will definitely help you he have solutions to all problems.He helped me not quite long and I got my husband who left me over two years ago within 48 hour's .
Do you feel pressures in your relationships to live up to your coachings
Yeh, I can do.
Thank's Mark again for your advices, I'm always grateful for that. I think "trust" and freedom are in that issue the big words, because with trust you never get insecurities. And by the way you don't own your partner. So if he is going away let him. If he's coming back it'll be forever!
Bettina when you trust you can still have insecurities sometimes. I've always trusted my partners, but we all have moments where we find ourselves being insecure for some dumb reasons (even if it's just having a bad) - and that's normal. It's the fact that you own those insecurities as YOURS and your responsibility (not his) and take actions which reflect your trust for him, rather than your insecurities that makes the difference.
Mark Rosenfeld Mark, yes, that's true. I made also those experiences a thousand times....But as you say this identification with your own insecurities is the problem. If we see this - and that is much work on yourself - then you can understand and can let go. I mean it is difficult, but step by step we can go further. And yes of course not everybody has the chance to get his twinflame, then it's much more difficult to go on....
3rd: the possibility to miss out on these emotions by losing you or having only sporadic contact
Basically... yep!
This is sooo true!! My ldr boyfriend will go on a holiday next week with his friend, i told him “enjoy, you will have a great time blah blah” and i mean it because even before i met him i was a solo traveler and very independent he told me after that “i don’t care without you love” lolol 😊
How can I apply how to make a guy miss you in long distance relationship?
What do you mean Sheila? You mean this vid? ruclips.net/video/BUjIXUM68KU/видео.html
Thank you Mark I am so blessed for the man in my life he's a real true loving man! I want to be the best for him as well. I'm always watching and reading. We both deserve the best life for each other.
Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my partner is back to me and we happily together , I go help from a man who brought us back
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He will definitely help you he have solutions to all problems.He helped me not quite long and I got my husband who left me over two years ago within 48 hour's .
Mark. I'm so glad I found you here. Can you plz share more video about long distance relationship, please? Love u
Try this one Mathilda :)
ruclips.net/video/BUjIXUM68KU/видео.html
I love this video. I'm currently in a long distance 'situation' with a guy. We've had mutual feelings for one another for years and years and we're finally doing something about it. He lives in the same town as my parents, who I'm currently visiting. I live 200 miles away, but planning on moving back in the next few months. I thought we might spend some time together while I'm here and wanted to create the exact conditions you advised for when I return back to my current home. We've seen one another twice in 3 weeks and it's been a couple of weeks since we've spent time together, but he's in touch every day. He reached out over the weekend and said his depression is acting up and he is taking it out on people around him. He said he doesn't want to do that to me as I'm too important to him, but this also means we're not spending time together so that we can create the conditions for missing one another in a healthy way when I return home! He's asked me to please bear with him. This communication felt very authentic and heartfelt, but I feel stuck. Very tricky situation...
Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my partner is back to me and we happily together , I go help from a man who brought us back
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He will definitely help you he have solutions to all problems.He helped me not quite long and I got my husband who left me over two years ago within 48 hour's .
Wow. I watched tons of videos from many different coaches But never heard this before. Thank you mark. You gave me more self confidence on dating ❤️
Unfortunately I did this to my boyfriend when he went away recently. I was cheated on in the past by another guy and struggle massively with anxiety and have been putting all the pressure on him even though we have been together for nearly 6 years and he's never given me any reason not to trust him. But that's not his fault and I hate myself for it! I found no happiness in reassurance, I just ended up apologising and feeling terrible for pushing all my insecurities on him. I think I'm at a point where I need professional help for anxiety but until then I'm going to try so hard to do what all your videos say so that he feels appreciated because he sure as hell deserves it.
This goes for women as well. Men do the same thing with make us want to...leave
Definitely Moni
I understand why the games can work. But I am so happy to have come across your work Mark. For a long time I was feeling like a negative Nancy reading dating advice about the games of the chase. Like it was something you needed to get comfortable with to date successfully. Good advice isn't all easy but at least it sits well with me ... much more comfortable with the genuine honest version of myself than playing a foolish game.
More well received advice. Thank you.
Much love deviant - thankyou for that comment
How about when he said "go have fun, enjoy your time with your family ( I went to visit my family in California) and I got back two months after, he told me that he got someone pregnant while I was away...
He should've answered this comment
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Wow youre spot on with that. Ironically, theres a coworker of mine who I actually dug in the beginning, you know, when i first met, but over the course of six months, Im now the one getting pushed the opposite direction because of the hovering and PAINFULLY obvious insecurities that He has been showing..and the funny thing is....we havent been more than friends, but now, for me, it Will never be more than that BECAUSE of his grip...Life and matters of the heart are much more fragile than people realize, right?
Thanks for youre video!!!!
Wow Gina thanks for sharing. Absolutely. Thanks for sharing!
I just missing your channel Damn am in love with this (Hii!! My 5years Xman he back saying he missed me but ..he madè me hate men when we break up how can I start making up with him
Great to have you on my channel Dianaah. Why would you want to make up with him if he made you hate him (btw, he doesn't have to MAKE you hate men - you control your thoughts and what you focus on, which means you can take your power and love of men back)
Thanks so much for your great advice can you pliz update something about loving again bcoz trust am just fucking gal I just hate men with passion bcoz of my Devil so called X (😭😭I have been single 5years know but I lost my feeling
Hey Dianaah. Sounds like you definitely have to examine some of those beliefs relating to men. This is something I work through a lot with clients x
Thanks #Mark I will be waiting for your next topic k
A lot of good advice in your videos Mark! Being in the dating scene again, it takes a lot of patience.. and courage putting yourself out there. And I'm 61 makes it tougher, for competition out there. I haven't found someone yet, but I give myself a pat on the back for putting myself out there, going on dates, and having faith that someone that I truly connect with will come along. Ladies don't give up! I would say, that I've learned- Don't be in your head too much, and be enslaved by your expectations- Don't wait by the phone, wonder when or if he'll call- keep your own life. Nurture, love and focus on you in the meantime. If you're interested in him & he calls back-great. If he doesn't- don't text him back, he has your # is he is into you. And don't be impatient about instant results.. it's all a process, and it takes time. Just keep a positive frame of mind, and faith that eventually the right man will come into your life..
YOU, my sir..are the TRUTH!!!! You are affirming everything I'm experiencing right now....good vibes only!!! so glad I came across your channel! you are confirming and giving me life!!
Thanks so much Cyn - I love that! It's great to have you on my channel and I've got lots to come for you
Absolutely true. I have the opposite problem. When we first got together he encouraged me to go and enjoy myself. Now we're married he projects massive insecurity every time im out of his sight. Result is I can't wait to get away!
Uggggh that's so frustrating Aimee! Great example though.
You're super smart at this crap! Wish I could listen to your videos all night so it would actually stick in my head!!!
Ahahah thankyou Michelle :)
My bf is so negative and threatened me for not coming and not living where I live, now I see that it takes time to know a person.. I live and learn, so ladies don't rush into a relationship! Just relax and you will be OK..
I just read your are Australian. .. ye ye. love the australian accent 😊
Hahahahah I get that a lot!!
I was insecure and this really ruins my relationship. Now I am putting back the pieces together. Thank you Mark for great videos, this helps me to be a better partner and a better person. And see things from another point of view.
That's SO great to hear damonoch
Love the shirt Mark 😃
Thaaaaaaaankyou Ade
You so right! It sucks, when the your partner puts them on you . Instead of you to him!
Hii Mark!!! Omg this is perfect time for me right now to use these....
Thank you for all these advices....
i love your channel...
Much love to you Harseeta!
Thank you for taking the time to make these videos. I feel like a weight came off of my shoulders after listening to your words, the theory is clear but the practice is a bit hard sometimes, but listening to your words have made me feel like I'm on the right path, I don't feel like I'm exaggerating with the trust I give my boyfriend during our time apart, as a couple women around me have stated. Happiness comes from within and real love doesn't hold on a leash, quite the opposite, if you truly love a person, you want them to be happy and to reach their goals. A most sincere thank you.
What kind of f...k relation is this where partners are happy only with other people? B.S....Happiness must be shared together, as a couple.....otherwise, cheatings appear...often guys are saying... "I found at her, what you didn't give me" ...or "I realized that I had more fun with her"... or " I wanted to try something new"...If a guy is in a casual relationship, as you mentioned... Sky is the limit of his betrayal because he knows he has at home a girl that swallows all his crap in order for him to be happy and in a so called relation with him....
Hey Christina - thanks for watching and commenting. Basically, it's very important that you're not reliant on your relationship for your happiness, otherwise you're going to become dependant on it and start putting the weight of expectation on HIM (or her) for your happiness. You wouldn't do that at the start of the relationship when that person was so attracted to you, so why start doing it later on? :)
Mark Rosenfeld well...I learned through all my life not to expect anything from no one....You guys are changeable as the weather... So, please don't tell me about reliability...What reliability can you have with a person that runs from his feelings that " it's too much, too serious, too complicated "?! Horse shit...Main and absolute important things are.....LIFE, LOVE...Excuse me, if I have soo f...king big " expectation " regarding the fact that I want my (so called) boyfriend to be near me, to offer physical comfort( by hugging me) and mental support by staying with me, to calm me down with his presence... as I would do if the case would of been reversed...:(
It's not about asking him to resolve my problems is about him being there for me when I have bad days, when I'm moody as I would be, also for him...
It's not that I am insecure... It's just about care, words and actions....Things that you guys don't give a f...k!!!
He has to part-time look after his child. Only just met. Not missing him due to travel. Obviously always wish him the very best of times & fun!
This is so helpful tips. I will surely apply this. Thanks Mark😊
Thanks so much Sha :)
How old are you sister?
sha guadez I don't like this video I don't wanna miss nun but a girl that's weird
You are always so right on advice. We are lucky to have you in the world.
That's a lovely comment, Yami. Thanks so much! x
Lol. How freaky are you mark. This is exactly what i need right now. 👌🏻
Hahahaa you're the second person to say that Tweetie. Must be where the moon is atm.
+Mark Rosenfeld although i dont think this would work on my situation after all. Huhu
Oh that's annoying! Sorry to hear Tweetie
Mark...this was a very positive experience...im not commenting again, therefore making you miss my comments and this positive experience...
u are just to beautiful and handsome to be a youtuber
Hahah get my face off camera Jalisa??
Haha so true
He does resemble some kind of god
All your advices really does help...
I had a long distance relationship and day to day i feel so loved and missed .and i do feel same way towards him..
Really glad to know this, Jolly Ann Valeros! This is what this channel is for. Good to hear it's working for you. x
What about an open relationship? My insecurities are always heightened because he does have the option to sleep with other people.
Rachael it's exactly the same in an open relationship. It's more of a growth exercise so they're for you to deal with.
how do you guys do open relationships? like u need some extreme power to have the guts to be on that position? lol
I could be totally wrong but I'm just thinking out loud Sounds like you're not in an open relationship but more like a relationship where he said he wants to sleep with other people and you don't want to lose him... your situation sounds painful and possibly not the most suitable for someone like yourself maybe try talking to your partner and see if they actually care about your feelings about the topic.
Khloe Strong exactly if you have a problem with it then maybe an open relationship isn’t for you
Ooh I really LOVE that,And Mark's energy As well:)
Hi Mark,
Your videos are very informational and most of your advice already applies to my personality. However, I've had all negative experiences in relationships. Therefore, I will admit I am probably the most jaded person on this planet and completely anti-dating (very very very long stories). Now, a problem I've always had (and still currently have).....is they my ex's are constantly missing me for sex.....and new guys, who ask me out are also looking for sex (I can tell). So, it's a constant battle fighting these perverts off....which has resulted with myself refusing to date and living out my life solo. My question.....How do I get guys to leave me alone?
Errrrmm Carmen. If you don't want them to bother you, let them know you're not interested once, then just never reply to them again.
Carmen SanDiego said with love and only the best intentions: maybe the reason you're feeling negative about men and relationships is because you choose to view men who want to have sex with you as perverts. Just because a man is sexually attracted to you doesn't mean he's a "pervert." It means he's a man and he thinks you're beautiful. It's up to you to set boundaries and let men know if you're interested or not. There's nothing wrong with stating that you're not interested in general or even being as blunt as saying "I like you but I'm not looking for sex unless I'm in a committed relationship." Men usually lead with their physical attraction to us...and that's great! But it's up to us to keep them in check by respecting ourselves. If you're not interested in a man, it's literally as simple as saying "I'm just not on the same page as you." And if he won't respect your feelings, block him. There are so many amazing men out there and I'm sorry you've had bad experiences with some that weren't the best match for you. Keep the faith. I know it's hard. Best wishes to you!
Mark Rosenfeld Thanks for the input....but some guys are very persistent....and being nice doesn't work....which unfortunately, results with me having to be mean. 😡
LEIGHTON ....Thanks for your opinion. However, i disagree. Myself being jaded and not interested in dating....does not hold a "negative" connotation. I didn't elaborate on my life or experiences....but the fact is.....I absolutely, positively, love, love, love my life. I'm not looking for a man to enhance my life....because I'm already happy and content. Constant dating and relationships require too much work.....and I have better things to do with my life. In my "jaded" world.....dating/relationships shouldn't take any work at all. I believe it should be simple, honest, exciting, adventurous, and fun....and that should come natural between those two individuals....not all these steps, tips, advice, etc... Dating/relationships seems like it's all a mind-fuck....and it won't work in the end, cause all of your insecurities, personality, and true colors will all come out eventually. No thanks to all that drama and bull shit. I love me and my happy place. ❤️❤️❤️ Kind regards.
Carmen SanDiego not sure what you were disagreeing with and I'm not the one who called you jaded - you said that. And I completely agree with and understand everything you said. In fact, I'm very much in the same place in life. And it's a fabulous place to be. I feel like it should be that way. Anyone that comes into my life has to be able to fit in with my life as it is. My life is amazing and I'm 100% happy without a parter and not looking for anyone either. But...none of your response to me really addressed anything I said initially. I was just responding to your comment about men who want to have sex with you all being perverts.
Wow, great eye opener! It make me feel so much better to know woman's insecurities and and try to change old habits.. great video thank you Mark!
Thanks Kimberly!
Mark Rosenfield most attractive man alive
HAHAHAHHA you're ridiculous but thankyou xx
I'm on instagram @makehimyours and you can catch me there too
I agree with almost everything that you’ve said. With all due respect to your advice about trusting, such situations where the guy has to share a tent with a girl are a bit uncommon, at least here in India, because there’ll be so many other guys on the trip whom he can share a tent with but God forbid if the guy was forced to do so just to protect the female companion, I would really really salute a guy who would rather sleep outside the tent still keeping a watch over the girl than share a tent with her even though he was doing nothing wrong with her. That’s the mark of a real gentleman. For the simple reason of not wanting to give room for any kind of suspicion or even the slightest doubt against him to arise in anyone’s mind. At the end of the day we are all human and one small side of us would definitely have at least a teeny-weeny negative spark about such matters. Prevention is always better than cure. So being a girl my personal humble advice to guys would be to avoid such situations as far as possible, and when you do that and your girl accidentally finds out that you refused to share close space with another woman, she will vouch for you in every matter and you’ll be her crown. She’ll trust you with her life. And if that does nothing for you, at least you’ll be proud of yourself that you exercised your decision power in a righteous way.
I was "the best f****g girlfrnd he's ever had", (He so often said so. Without the "f****g" in his words!). But alas that didn't make him stay...he ran off... To come back, be a nice/angry person again and again... No true reason concerning me. But deep unworked issues in youth. He jst found it too difficult to be polite to me after a nice day of work together.... Hyper sad no? After having been in the lonely desert for 6 f****g yrs, prior to meeting him, we were so glad that at long last we had 'found' each other. So happy. So in love... But his terrible anger issues and his controlling habits (at few strange times), made the relationship into a calvary for me.
I just wish he wld've worked on his issues before meeting me. Or at least showing his will to want to work on them (in therapy) whilst together. I pray God works miracles. Either that he comes back a much better person to me, (because, besides the anger isdues, he was soooo good and a great man to me), or I am blessed w/ a fantastic superbe new man! Pray for me plse! Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Ambriel Apps pray for me too. Hugs!💞
Lisa McGuire
Ok, just done so! Blessings and love to both of us!
Lisa McGuire
💖 hugs
I'm in the same boat. Best gf one could have but he has serious anger issues from traumatic childhood. Luckily he's due to start therapy for real. Fingers crossed it yields results. Otherwise it's adios.
This was GOLDEN, with only 2 videos I watched you have helped me so much. I can't wait to see the rest
Thankyou Alma - really glad you enjoyed the content!!
such distracting arms along with genius tips. 😅😥
Wow, your advice is incredibly helpful! Long story very short, I had straight-up given-up and was diving into bushes to avoid men (who were "all the same" and "wanted only one thing"). Buuutttt, I found Marks videos and started listening during work; took notes and applied them to a situation I was working out with a dude who I adore but was not into me -except for the obvious). Once I applied the techniques, ESPECIALLY the respect video and worked on my degrading/past habits, within moments of me respecting myself, he is now interested. Pretty genius!
I feel completely different within two days of heavy listening and have had normal/non-toxic, kind and interesting men approach me and actually succeed at getting my number. No dick-pics or drama from these guys! Amazing! Thank you! I am beyond-words grateful for your awesome advice!