Vlogmas 2020 | Day 4 | Christmas Declutter
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- Decluttering some of my holiday decor and such today and thought I’d bring you along with me. I hope you enjoy tagging along with me this holiday season! Thanks for watching ☺
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As a former women's shelter employee I can tell you this kind of stuff is in HIGH demand every year, can really bring a lot of holiday cheer to many families this year with a donation ❤
My parents separated when I was 4 years old, and now I am getting all the Christmas decor from my mum. Most of it was stuff they acquired in their married life, some was even wedding gifts. I really appreciate having those things even if they aren't together anymore. They have more meaning than that to me. I could see your kids in the future loving to have some of those sentimental things from you.
Yes! And as Cici gets older she would probably love to go through all that stuff like the Martha Steward things and star cookie cutters, I would have thought it was a gold mine at like 8 years old, all these bins of Christmas stuff to go through and be creative with.
I wouldn't keep all the things. As someone whose family keeps all things that have sentimental value, I would like a curated box of the most important special things from family. Instead of a house full. I think keeping the mickey tree for CC and maybe like those crystal ornaments Don got Jen every year is something I would keep for my child to have someday but the snoopy or anything not VERY special - nah
@@morganpoff4237 agree! Keeping everything can be overwhelming for both of them. I imagine this stuff figuratively weights on Jen as she explained she was sorta avoiding going though all the holiday boxes. Having this declutting process is something she needs as she continues to redefine her life after marriage. Also for CC it may be enough to have the really important things like the tree that was a symbol of her parents then love and marriage- which she was born out of, and maybe the yearly holiday cards.
It is not wasteful at all to donate it, I completely agree with you! Think off the blessings you are passing along, someone is going to be so glad to find that at a thrift store!
I had to pause the video and comment. From personal experience, as memories fade, so will the attachment to items attached to that marriage and holidays spent in that marriage. It’s not been that long since you’ve been separated. This is normal process of grieving which can come in many forms and it comes in waves. Give yourself time and perhaps hold onto one item from snoopy collection and revisit it in a couple months or after Christmas and see how you feel then.
Well said... ❤️
Was also going to say the same. She has a basement and space. Keep everything and wait another year. If you have to think about it, you are not ready. This year has been emotional for all of us. Wait until next Christmas. You are still moving in, Covid. Wait one year until you are more settled and things are generally more normal.
I was thinking the same. Put Snoopy back in the box and revisit in a year or so.
It doesn't have to be important to anyone but you. If it doesn't bring you joy and make you smile, it's OK to part with it. It's never easy to go through these kinds of things.
I listened to your singing on Instagram last night, Jen. You really have a beautiful voice. I’ve been watching you for a decade and it’s so nice to see you come out of your shell in different ways.
Makes total sense to have emotional attachments to “things” especially during the holidays. I think the kids would love the snoopy tree!!
I believe objects collect energy and emotion so it makes it difficult to get rid of some things. You could always get a new snoopy collectible that reminds you of your fresh new start. 🎄
Save them for Charlotte. I have so many memories of Christmas decor that I wish my mom saved for me. But she got rid of everything when my parents divorced. What I would give for them now.
I agree!
Thats a lot of stuff to foist onto your daughters future. One or two memorable items, sure. But not all of it. Plus most of this stuff Charlotte hasn’t even seen, let alone created memories about.
I attach memories to things. I had to get rid of some things from some people that is no longer in my life because of the feelings attached to them.
You made a comment about this being a “downer” and I just wanted to say how much I appreciate the range and depth of emotions and human experience you have been willing to share lately. You can find 100 vlogmas videos with perfectly curated backdrops, expertly choreographed family activities with airbrushed smiles and matching jammies. It’s all very lovely but it sure isn’t the whole story. Right now...we need shared experience, empathy, and growth. What you do highlights all of this and more. Thank you and I hope you have a truly wonderful holiday season, whatever it may bring.
The kids might like some of the stuff. Its part of the journey. Kinda like a wedding album.
Just stick in the garage and label dont look at till 2025.
You’re cleansing your Christmas stuff and I’m beginning my hoarding phase of it lol. I want to deck my house out. I love watching your relaxing vlogs.
You are comfortable sharing your raw side with the world,that itself means huge progress.Cheers. Keep up the spirit.
I always loved that gingerbread spoon rest!
I have to pause because I wish I could talk back to you. Lol. Get rid of the Snoopy. I completely understand what you’re saying. While you love it and it’s adorable-it’s time to create new memories with new things. Okay....back to vlog.
I think you can pass some things on to your children. My mom passed many things down to me from when my parents were still together and I appreciate that.
This is true for me too!
We appreciate your honesty and completely understand it. How about putting sentimental items away for the kiddos to enjoy as adults?
Are you will to sell.any cookie related items? I will buy them from you
Everything you were processing in regards to keeping items or letting them go made a lot of sense! Thank you for sharing :)
I don't know. The "juvenile" things or the child-like things, or even the most sentimental, I might tuck away in a box again. Remaining out of sight and mind for you. The kids have been heavily introduced to Disney and all of those similar things. It would be nice for them to have a chance to have those things one day. Especially because it came from a different time for their parents. Whenever that is, you'd have more distance from these "things" but it could bring joy to the kids.
I come from divorced parents when I was only 7. But I know that they were once very much in love. She passed away when I was 25 and I have absolutely nothing from the time that my parents were together and I feel like I'd love a part of their happy history, not just the one I grew up knowing. I know that if I saw videos like these of my mom purging, I'd want my hands on some of these things that once meant so much - like it's a piece of her/their history given to me.
Just a different perspective before it's too late.
I wholeheartedly agree. So much. I get it. Hide things away for finds for the kids. God forbid, anything happens to you or your ex or whatever, these will be great treasures for CC or Donnie. Once you let them go, they can never come back. If you have the ability to keep them out of sight and mind for you, do so. They will never have memories of the two of you as a couple, but in their hearts "things" might tell them a story. What brings you pain now might help them or bring them joy one day. Tuck it away for yourself...but think 6 times before you toss things that might benefit the kids one day. All the best!
This! YES! ALL THE YES.
Really great advice.
This is my first holiday season divorced too. I'm getting rid of my department 56 village set. So many hard memories attached to those houses my ex gave me each year. I totally get it and validate those feelings you're having.
The older i get the more i realize its just "stuff" - made in some factory far far away....your memories are still there if you have the object or not...do what makes you feel happy. I've been super purging for years now and for me i haven't felt like i've lost anything but i can relate to the other side of the coin also. thanks Jen for keeping it real.
Just because others have it worse, doesn't mean it's not hard for you. Don't apologize. It's not silly.
I think sorting through your holiday things is just part of the process. Part of your growth.
❤ Wishing a beautiful & peaceful holiday for you and yours, Jen! ❤
I totally understand. These items have memories attached and especially holiday things! You are not alone and you
make perfect sense.
You are so strong Jen and I love your perspective I’m talking through things.... no matter what stage in life you are in- everyone has so many of the same feelings and thoughts you have! Love your videos so much
Jen glad to hear you're feeling better! Cardio works every time, takes about a week to come back. so happy to hear!
Get rid of all of it. I finally decided to get rid of every single bit of my Christmas decorations and start new. I'm so happy I did. I don't miss any of them and neither do my kids. I got all blue and silver stuff to use for a couple years then I'm going to donate it all and get black and white. No sentiment involved and it makes my life a lot easier.
110% relate to the moving out of things. They can carry significant memories. My whole year has brought so much change and I’ve disconnected with quite a few things to move forward more fully in my new life. You are growing. It’s a beautiful thing.
I have been following you for years and it is wild to see you come full circle with these items and memories. You have made so many emotional changes. Thank you for sharing. I know there are so many people who are going through the same experiences and can relate. A new world awaits
So glad you're doing vlog'mas again! And doing a great job too! Keep smiling and carry on Jen! The best is yet to come for you!
Really enjoying vlogmas sweetie. Onward and upwards as they say. Have a wonderful day. 👋👍🇨🇦
I think you’ve really done “the work”. It is totally understandable and “cleansing” to rid yourself from your “past life”. When you were first married, you were all about “homemaking” for your family of 2. It was just the 2 of you for a long time. A lot of these things that bring memories are part of that time in your life and that time is over. I think you’ve got the right idea to put some things aside and sleep on it. And you will make new memories for the kids now and savor those memories. No worries. I got a lot out of your discussion. I think you are very emotionally intelligent! Thanks for sharing!!!
Jen - random question... you used to save a roll of your favourite wrapping paper every year. Do you still do that? They would be fun to see!
I totally understand. Sometimes it's best to give away so your heart can heal. And even though your feeling great, it's just a reminder and holidays are tough sometimes and filled with new and past emotions. And things are attached to that time frame.
If I were you I would use the Mickey Tree/Snoopy Tree in the kids rooms. The kids came out of the love that those tree represented regardless of whether Mom and Dad are together. Plus its Mickey/Snoopy you know they will love it :)
Jen, you will party and celebrate again! So much of what you are unboxing is the you that me and my girls started watching you for!!
It’s so hard going through materials attached with memories. My dad loves Snoopy. When I saw that beautiful figurine, it reminds me of him :)
Not every little thing during the holidays is happy and that's okay. Thanks for keeping it real. I'm in need of inspiration for the storage and organization of my seasonal items and am hoping you'll share with us when you get yours situated. Always glad to see your face--happy, somber, etc.😏
I TOTALLY understand your feelings about your Mickey tree and your Snoopy collectibles - holiday items ESPECIALLY touch my heart, sometimes in a lovely way, and sometimes it hurts. ❤️
I understand what you mean about emotional attachment to “things.” When my mom moved in with my sister after my dad died I was the one who cleared out most of the stuff in her house. I took some things but most of it I gave away. It was hard at the time and I second guessed myself but at the same time it felt good to move on from it.
I have the good memories in my head and not cluttering my house.
Thank you for being so raw and sharing this vulnerable part of your life with us! Lots of us have watched you since the beginning, and care about you and your family so much! ♥️
Jen, I've hoped to see this video from you (both the purging of your seasonal decorations and hearing more from you about the changes in your life). Thanks for sharing - it was genuinely touching.
It’s an honor to be part of your daily life during this season. Thank you for taking us on your journey with you. It’s not a trivial thing to have to pack up a dead dream, or a dead memory. You do it with grace and honesty. ❤️
I used to be poor in my 20s, always looking forward to be able to buy me lovely things. Then in my 30s I did it and quite enjoyed it, I did the the decorating thing, the hosting thing, the crafting and gardening... in my 40s I realised I spent too much time organising, cleaning and caring for my stuff. Now I have only 1 seasonal decoration only in my living room! That's it! Sooooo good! Try it
Passing it along is the Christmas spirit!! Great job Jen!
It can feel so freeing to let go of items that no longer serve you - I commend you for taking that step!
I soooo get what you're talking about about things that you just can't have anymore or revisit because its just not part of the present.
I definitely have memories attached to "things". This is the first year without my mother in law. Bringing out Christmas decorations and items she bought us was really hard for me. I can't imagine what you are going through. I remember the Mickey tree. I also remember a vlog way back when you were showing your Snoopy Christmas cookie jar and said it would be for your future children to have as an heirloom.
Jen, I completely hear what you are saying. I too am recently divorced and so many "things" trigger my emotions. I connect with the "things" too and we have a heart and it hurts sometimes. Keep the things that make you happy or the kids. I got a new tree this year with new ornament to celebrate a new beginning for the kids and I. I love how you express and relate your emotions to us! Thank you!! Your helping me at least.
Jenn, I understand all too well about the emotional attachments in our lives.
It takes time to be strong. You are doing so incredible well, I am so proud of you.
You have a wonderful day!
100 percent agree that hanging onto items you won't use is more wastful than donating. Someone will be excited to find those items. Decluttering is good for the soul.
I totally get what you are talking about. I call it negative emotional clutter. I have talked about it several times on my channel. Anything that brings back something hurtful, depressing, negative, or just doesn't make me happy anymore, I let it go. It was SO HARD in the beginning. But, when those things walk out of my house and get a new home, it is so freeing. It brings me joy to know that they will get a home where people will love them.
I too had to pause the video to comment. I FEEL this. I feel you. It's hard. I remember feeling exactly what you seem to be expressing when I went though my divorce. I had no interest in being back in that marriage but the stuff brought back feelings...really hard to describe feelings. I think for me it was the fact that those things were like moments frozen in time and in those times I was happy exactly where I was. Things change, people change and, looking back, those happy times are the things that sting the heart the hardest. Maybe allow those tangible reminders to help guide you through processing the feelings you're having and then decide if they should stay or go. My heart is with you. I hope this year brings you nothing but happiness.
We love you Jennifer! If your vlogs are fun, we are with you! If they are emotional, also we are with you!! Great job on the decluttering!! Loved it.
I love that you call your piano room the “ballroom” because it has no furniture and you dance in it! I love dancing at home and children love dancing! Great sense of humor and outlook.
I have a hard week emotionally! You want us to be real!
Your Vlogmas is helping to brighten my day! I think you look nice!
Thank you for being real!
100% understand the connection of those holiday items to a previous time in your life when things were different and doesn’t feel quite right to bring them forward to a new chapter. Sleeping on it is a wise idea ❤️
It all makes total sense... Dont keep anything that gives you a heavy feeling in your new home... Keep the stuff that gives you happy vibes in your new happy space... It doesn't matter if you keep it all or get rid of it all as long as you are happy and have happy vibes... You have come such a long way threw out the years and yes I have been watching for years! Lol... You are doing great girl take it from a old lady! Lol
I applaud your transparency it is extremely relatable. I have never went through a divorce but I see and understand what you mean with the grief of your past life, memories, and relationships. Grief isn't always sad but its a sense of loss, that perhaps holidays will not look the same, maybe even for the better but it is still a sense of lose that comes with change no matter how good it is. Connecting memories with tangible things is also something I do with songs. I connect songs to certain points in my life and they envoke feelings. I enjoy you so much more Jen this feels like the person you were meant to be, easy on yourself, a free spirit and unapologetically YOU! Happy holidays.
Definitely understand the memories in things. You need new things because you are going to be making wonderful new memories. 💙🎄
I am so proud of you and the way that your vlog is so real. I appreciate your honesty. You are an inspiration!
**raising glass** to new memories.
Completely understand. Purging can be very helpful in moving on, especially with holiday stuff. I’ve been there.
You said it’s wasteful for them not to be enjoyed - well said! You spurred my purging soul - I’m going to really be able to purge the holiday stuff this weekend. My husband died years ago and I still have some things that aren’t doing me any good. Thank you Jen🐘
You are making my day brighter every day I watch your Vlogmas... thank you ..
My attachment is greeting cards. I have boxes of them. I’ll never let them go. Do what you can Jen. I’m proud of you!
You did really well Jen! You have worked through such a huge transition. Everything you said makes sense to me! I also have several of those Martha Stewart treat containers- they are so cute but I think this year might be the year I acknowledge that I’m just not going to use them and set them free!
You will feel so good when you bring out your decor next year and it is all things you love! 💕
Totally normal to feel how you feel! I was widowed 8 years ago and going through stuff is extremely emotional. Especially putting up ornaments. I got rid of some, kept some and bought some new ones. I go through the emotions every year. I'm starting my own traditions now. You will find your way, you already are! Nothing you get rid of cant' be replaced. It's just stuff. Even the most sentimental items at the end of the day are just stuff.
Thank you for your honesty, I too struggle to part with things that have memories attached - even if I want to let them go x
I totally get how hard it is to go through things that have memories attached to them. My husband died six years ago and there are so many memories. I get started and I just can’t go on. So I get this!! You are doing good. Keep looking forward.
I have loved watching your personality really shine through since you have been vlogging after the split. You being raw like this I am sure is helping a lot of women going thru the same thing. 💕
Appreciate you being real. Every day has so much in it & we all need to be mindful of it. It all makes for a fabulous life!
I’ve been watching your videos for a long time. Especially your past vlogmas videos, and I am so proud of you and the evolution you’ve had.
You seemed lost for a while there, and and this video watching you work through the process of letting go in a healthy mature way made me want to say go you 👍🏼
When my sister and I were going through my mom's things, we went through the same emotions. We decided that anything we cried over we would keep. Anything else had to go. Give yourself some time and you will know what to do. It's a journey. Big hugs
Jen, I get it! I am downsizing and it is hard and seems like it shouldn’t be! You are wonderful and thank you for sharing! I remember your RUclips beginning, and you are a fluid human feeling forward and back as the feelings flow. Yeah! Vlogmas! 🤗
I COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU’RE TALKING ABOUT AND HOW YOU’RE FEELING. My opinion is the holiday stuff is hard because the holidays were SUCH a valuable part of your life because it was so many family/dear friends memories. Mainly Don’s family, friends that were his or you met together, his coworkers....etc. Don’t feel bad about having a difficult time with what to do with them. Try not to think so deeply about it. If it calls to you to keep it either for you or kids later in life then keep it. But if it hurts too much then set it free. Be grateful in the moment for what it was but be blessed that you can move on. You have made so much process Jenn!!!! Keep looking forward for all the new things and experiences to come. And stuff lol. 😘😘😘
I am in the same place as far as buying goes. I decluttered stuff I never used in preparation for a move. It made me really think twice before I buy new stuff. I think it’s just part of growing. Also, if an item doesn’t bring you joy sell it or donate it. You have worked hard to move on. You don’t need something bringing you back to a place you chose to move on from. ❤️
I would keep the Lenox Snoopy Tree. You can always give it away, but you can’t necessarily always get it back. You seem hesitant about it. It’s ok to have a couple of items that bring back memories, as long as it doesn’t jeopardize your present-day happiness. This video is cathartic!
Your hesitation and apprehension of selling your snoopy collectibles is so SO understandable! You spent a lot of years and made a lot of memories with Don. You are normal Jen...this is all normal and it is all very understandable to a reasonable person. I am constantly praying for you as you navigate your new life and you are doing such a great job. I have been a friend of yours since the beginning and to be honest I have grieved the loss of your relationship but I am happy you are doing so well and just know you are allowed to feel all the feelings and it is all ok. Love you. 💕
Love your declutter videos! I'm glad to see you so happy! ❤️
This was such a lovely heart to heart video! Letting go is freeing and part of moving on ♡
I’ve been around since early days and I totally get it. It’s stuff. Letting it go is so freeing. You will feel lighter. Much love. I really enjoyed this video. I think most us can relate on some level even if we haven’t been through a divorce. Thanks for sharing.💕💕
Everything you said about having attachment to holiday stuff & not wasting by donating makes total sense!
Totally agree it's more wasteful to keep stuff you won't use. I have the same mindset and pass things on for others to use/enjoy.
You have some beautiful built-ins in your family room. I would display those Snoopy items on those shelves and see how you feel as the months go. The kids will probably love them and their joy could change the way you view the items. BTW....I am so thrilled that you are doing Vlogmas. I have enjoyed all of your past years of Vlogmas and Vlogidays and it's nice to see a little glimpse into how you are spending this holiday season.
I totally agree with letting go of stuff that we don't need, specially if somebody else can give it a second life ! it's a wonderfull feeling booth ways, as I shop a lot in recicled and second hand shops, I appreciate when I find something perfect and cheaper that it's newer version, and it's better for the environment, so win, win, win.
For us old timers of your channel, those items bring memories!
So glad you are doing this video. I have so much stuff! It’s hard to know what to let go of. I’m always thinking... oh wait! I can use that someday lol. I’m also looking at better ways to organize and store.
Def save the kids a few things I’m sure they will cherish it. Have a wonderful holiday!
Anything that triggers emotion is good to let go off. There will be new memories and items you and your children pick.
The Avon glass set is so cool! Amazing memories!
I think donations are a great way to give! Those things will have a great forever home and other families will get joy from your generosity!
Even though you like them I get the feeling they don't bring you joy when you see or hold them. They're still beautiful, and they're from another time that came with many gifts but I sense they aren't 'relevant' in your new, fresh and joyful home. Best of luck. I attach so much sentiment on holiday items too, so it must be so hard. I hope you find peace with what you choose to keep and let go.
Definitely take the time to sell the Lenox items!!
It pulled my heart strings a little as well as a viewer and lover of your “past life” videos, but I’m so happy for you that you are happy and doing so well at working through all of this.
I’m excited to see what decor you do put out though! 😁🎄
I 100% understand your heaviness on the things your keeping or not keeping.
When I went through my Divorce I could not bring things in my house. Cuz it was my passed! I am so proud of you!! Keep being you.. love seeing you every day!!
Dear Jen. Believe me when I tell you that none of this was a downer. it was a gift. thank you so much. You have helped so many people sharing your story and experiences. God Bless You.
I totally get the attachment to things. I was married only two years when we split & was big on Christmas ornaments the years we were together, special occasions, special places we went. It's still hard to unpack those ornmanents. I can't bring myself to get rid of them. This year I added them to our sons memory box where I put the things like family photos of all three of us that I want him to have one day. Much love and prayer to you!
Hey Jen, while our situations are different, I totally get the bittersweet sentimental attachment to holiday decorations. Holidays are especially tied up in our desire to create a warm loving family and memories, almost akin to the warmth of Thomas Kinkade painting, and I think that's why they are tougher. For over a decade, as I was dreaming of a family, I collected holiday decor thinking what a magical season I could create for my longed for babies. I wasn't able to have those babies, and that's the biggest heartbreak, and so while I still love those decorations, I can't really bring myself to use many of them, almost like I am not worthy of them, since I don't have the family they were purchased for. Anyway, not saying you feel the same, just that these items in particular become enmeshed in our dreams. That said, I think if you can use your items and they still bring you joy, maybe even after another couple of years have passed, you should. Or, another thought, is to save the most special or charming for your kids. They won't have the same bittersweet memories and instead may just love them as keepsakes you gave them. Just a thought anyway. I think what I most want to say is that you don't have to be In a rush to decide when you aren't sure. You could give it a couple of years and see.
It's therapy, going through your past that way. Personally it was very healing for me. Like you said, those things just don't fit in the new chapter.
Love the vlogs!
Happy Holidays ❤
I used to put up holiday decor in every room of my house and now I’m at a point where a tree and some garland (and, maybe a poinsettia) is enough for me. I’m in a less is more phase. Keep it simple. You have kids so that does change things but we all tend to go through a period where we have so much and then one day you think “why do I have all this stuff?”. It used to be hard to get rid of stuff and now I’m the opposite. I’m LOVING, LOVING Vlogmas!💚