I personally don't see the problem. I have a friend who ended up dating one of my exes a few years after we broke up. I've seen them together, and my ex is happy with my friend in a way they NEVER were with me. And my friend is happy with my ex in a way that he wasn't with any of his exes. It's obvious that the two of them were meant for each other. Why should my friend miss out on his soulmate just because I got to them first?
It honestly depends on why they broke up. Like if the ex was a jerk and was being disrespectful, then I would be very concerned if my friend was dating them
I see so many women saying "it's not okay"; But, if you truly loved this individual you'd either make it work or set them free to be with whoever they wanted.
For ppl who say its ok to date a friends ex are the snakes who laying in the grass and waiting...The typical excuses "stopping a good relationship" ," Being stingy and possesive", MAN GET TFOH WITH THAT....They said your "friend" why the hell wld u want to date some 1 they been with tht f'd up boundaries all around for the friend who dont mine and for the who think its ok...All I knw stay the hell away from me...Thsese ppl are dishonorable ppl...
what if y’all were friends after the relationship and your ex and friend had met coincidentally/outside of you, would you still stop being friends if you found out?
I had a friend who dated my chased my x husband while we were still living together but not together. But she has 4 daughters by 4 baby daddies. She a hoe.
Theri4444 How many exes are you willing to keep in your life... since they will be as they date your friends. And are you okay with your friend crushing on your partner. Because these feeling a don't develop out of thin air...
I'm on my husband's account. If I dated a guy in the past and we didn't work out if I thought that he and one of my girlfriends would be a good fit for one another I would encourage them to date. Why would that be a problem? The person is an ex for a reason. I want everyone to find happiness even if it is with one of my exes and my close friend.
I wouldn't mind if the ex was a good person who just wasn't compatible with me or with my friend. If the ex is a bust, I'd be concerned for the whole group of friends, who are about to get in some mess. Other than that, I'm 100% unbothered.
It depends on the circumstances. In my case, it was definitely a no because me and my ex of 2 1/2 years just broke up and two weeks later, he’s dating my best friend so yes, unacceptable. However, if it’s been months or years, then it should be fine but definitely not days
Yeah this happened to me as well, it hurts because they were getting close before we even broke up and then they got together after we broke up (we were together for a year and a half) so I feel you girl, hope you’re okay after it
I don't understand why you would be so mad about a friend dating someone you used to date. If you broke up and you're over that person, then why would you even care. You don't own that person, you have no claim on them. The only instance I think it would be wrong is if that ex treated you badly and were abusive.
illenessOne it's not only sexual. Someone can be emotionally tied to another and it does not work out for them. At this point the next person will get the left overs because their heart, time, emotions were invested elsewhere. They might even start comparing. Leftovers don't start and end with sex.
Some women and men have no shame in dating their friends’ exes. I’m not into awkwardness and unnecessary fighting, and fighting over a man and principle is unnecessary. No thank you.
@@nonameneeded2943 nothing just ppl thinking they own their exes and can control their choices even after they aren't together (of course not after a fresh wound but after 2 weeks I wouldn't say it's bad ffs) just like how neither ex/friend is obligated to tell about the realishonship cause it doesn't concern you anymore (unless you have children but thats a different story) also why can't these people learn to move on and find someone new instead of hanging on what their exes are doing like what?
if they were dating for like 3 months and they’re just a classmate it’s okay because they’re not the persons property, you’re free to fall in love with whoever you want.
ray kings tell me how the hell that's different!! Because it's the same! If you comfortable with dating your friends ex, then you'll be comfortable with dating one of your family members ex as well! What's wrong with y'all people! I see what you believe in! No morals or respect at all!
Mz Kayla You know your family members all your life, or they know you all of theres. You can say the same thing for your friends. But none of my friends are on the level of where I call them family. Your anology only works if the friend in question is so close to you, you would call them family. So its in some cases that your anology works.
Thank you... most of them are probably thinking about it too... it's a complete no no... I would like for any of them to have a boyfriend/girlfriend they are crazy about break up with them and a few months later date their friend.... then come back to the comment section and have something good to say. I don't understand how this would work unless you had ZERO feelings for ex in the first place.
Nikira Carter no, nothing wrong with us. I have about 6 exes and I'd only have a problem with my friend dating only 1 of them (my first love) the others i really don't care. Just communicate with your people and if they're the type of people that don't want you dating they ex , then don't but for me I don't really care, if I'm over you I don't care what you're doing with your life.
It's honestly not that deep, if my friend was developing feelings for someone I won't stand in the way of them finding love. You just have to have enough respect to talk to them about it first, don't be sneaky about it.
Nontombi BNCL but why can't they date that one ex who is your first love... still an ex to me... you cannot say it's okay to date my exes but not that one... that means you too have a problem with it... is it because you weren't emotionally involved with the other exes ...you were just not in love maybe... an ex you loved should always be off limits because you broke up for a reason and don't want them in your life. That's how I see it... if we went on 1 or 2 dates and we didn't click then go ahead but if I was in love with him and it was hard for me to get over him after a break up then please don't bring him back into my life... or you can go and be happy.
My ex is dating a chick we invited to our engagement party and went to several other events with. It’s disgusting but just confirms again, why he’s an ex
Did that once...it resulted in a dent in my friendship with her (she was his ex-fiance). I met him at her house party, we hit it off right then and there. Come to find out he was in the early stages of divorce #2, plus she felt uncomfortable. We almost fell-out, but we still talk from time to time. After we broke up, he's since gone through two more divorces. Bottom line...dating a friend's ex-...use extreme caution ⚠️.
I feel like this, at the end of the day if I'm over someone I'm over them. If my homegirl dates him and I told her everything about what happens between us then I would already know she was up to no good and I would just let her go along with my ex.
Absolutely not ok. If I removed someone from my life and you bring him back into my life by dating him you are not a friend. If I've moved on why would I constantly want to see my ex? If you feel like he is your soulmate go ahead and pursue the relationship but understand we will not be friends anymore. I will have to cut you off just to get him back out of my life.
Come on. When the person gets a man that man becomes a part of your life too. You won't be friends with your friend and not expect to not see their spouse or boyfriend @@asill.6668
If youre in the same friend group as before and they get brought back in by another member youre inevitably going to get invited to the same events gatherings etc. @asill.6668
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Exactly. My best friend dated my crush then he broke up with her because he now hates my guts. and then she started having crushes on my crushes even tho she doesn't even know who they are. and then she decided to date my ex boyfriend and now me and her aren't best friends anymore and now whenever she tells me personal stuff I tell my real best friends and then she complains that I'm not trust worthy its like k girllllll you date my crushes and exes like its your job. Please tell me that that isn't breaking my trust... Holy
This topic really gets to me. I have been there. My absolute best friend decided to take my crush and date him kept it secret and then he broke up with her and now she hates him its like k we are best friends if I hate a guy you should understand that I don't want that guy in my life so don't take the same guy into your life its as simple as that. The same friend decided to date my ex boyfriend about a year later. Its like okay I broke up with him because he wasn't good for me. If we are best friends and very similar then he is no good for you. I'm sorry but its the truth. By you bringing my ex into our lives you are making me not trust you because everything I say will get to him one way or another. I have taught myself to date guys that hate my best friend because I am insecure of loosing them to her. There are over 1000 kids at our school but she decides to date either guys I like or guys I love or guys I dated. that isn't what best friends do to each other. Best friends support their best friends no matter what. I am trying hard not to get depressed because I don't want to lose my best friend but honestly I need to lose her before it becomes too much.
It depends on how serious their relationship was ,whether or not they've moved on and how serious you are about this person. That ex that wasn't right for them might be the man you've been waiting for and if so are you supposed to pass that up? Would a real friend want you to miss out on an opportunity to experience love???? Now if your willing to risk your friendship over a casual interest in her ex, that's questionable.
That is an absolute NO. I would never even think to date an ex of a friend. There should always be a line drawn in the sand with a high understanding that you just do not cross it. How incredibly awkward that would be to be sitting together with a friend of whom's ex you're dating having a conversation about your relationship with that ex. Crossing boundaries is an understatement.
Yes a friend is someone you can confide in so if your female and you have a female friend or best friend you're going to talk to her about the problems and issues that you've had in this relationship with this man why you guys didn't work out why you guys didn't break up and then you look up and she's with that man this man that may have treated you wrong or done some wrong things to hurt you or your family members whatever the reason was for you guys break up you can find in this chick and then look up and find out that she's with this dude that's just a no no
That's a closed minded old way of thinking. I've never dated a friend's ex because I've never had that type of connection with any of them but, who's to say a friend's ex can't turn out to be your person? We limit ourselves by not exploring ALL of the opportunities that come before us. I firmly believe that once something is over it's over, and that it's not only selfish but unfair to still lay "claim" to someone once your time with them is over. We're open enough to embrace the unconventional beauty of online dating. We've also embraced Interracial and same sex relationships in kind, but we'll allow ourselvez to be held back by the boxed in thinking set forth by some fictitious girl/guy code?? I say once it over, move on. Live and let live and just try to be HAPPY for whomever is able to share and/or find happiness with another. #GrownWomanTalk
Randy Perkins it's no longer their man once the relationship is over hence the term "ex" and God allowed David to have someone else's wife and many others soooo yeah ...
marques powell and you must be that closed minded friend or relative that has abandonment issues that simply refuses to let go and move on once a relationship is over 🤔🤔🤔 sad sad sad smh & LOL 😉... As I mentioned in my post, I've never done if but I am not opposed to the idea. By the wzy, there is no breach of trust once the relationship is over. Have a great day 😁
It don't mean they wanted the person all along. But if they are a match and both are happy let it be. Who cares what happens when you are done. Unless you still want them.
This!! C’mon people, if YOU were the one to break things off with your (now) ex, or even worse- if you *cheated* on them before you left them, then you don’t have any grounds to feel any type of way about your friend dating them. You didn’t want them until someone else started showing an interest in them, and that says way more about you than it does your friend. Facts.
I don't see the problem, and nobody should be made to feel less than who they are because of the person they love. Sorry it's not my problem that you broke up and we liked each other and a lot of people are gonna get mad but it's not my fault of the person I am attracted to is your ex. Nobody should tell anyone who and who not to love.
yeah steve is right! if your boy ends up with your ex, he was scheming the whole time and she isn't any better if she dates him! both of em can kick rocks with sandals on!
People in the comments are too much. I get that a friend dating an ex can be weird, uncomfortable, embarrassing, etc... but at the same, that's your EX. They are not your possession. I've seen a couple cases where two people get into a relationship and it was train wreck but then the guy dates his ex's friend and it developed into a happy marriage. Fact was, the guy and his ex's friend were just better together, understood each other and treated each other better. I personally could care less who dates my ex because if she is my ex, that means we weren't good together. She's the past and I'm looking towards the future.
Naw gotta disagree no offense. guess what when ur friend is having sex wit ur x she will be thinkin of u and same wit the opposite se he will also do same ...
Issa no for me. Why date someone your friend was in love with or could still be in love with? Why go for that ex and not some other person? I don’t care if it’s been 10 years since I broke up with someone (especially someone I loved dearly) that doesn’t give you the right to date them. I feel like If a person dates their friends ex they are also capable of trying to mess with the new boyfriend or girlfriend their friend is with. Usually those friends that end up dating their friends exes, most likely was eyeing them and even messing around with them behind the friends back 🤷🏾♀️
@@asill.6668 they most definitely do. But that doesn’t mean I have to accept it or tolerate it nor does it make it right. Do what you want but don’t expect the same respect, or people to remain friends with you. It’s weird.
Idc what anyone says, that's grimey. All of the men in the world and you have to go for mine, girl no. Steve's right, if they do that, they've been checking for them for a while.
If you date a friend's ex you better know he is not Yours- so don't trip when your" friend" wants to catch up on old times, there is NOTHING you can say -just sit back and let Karma keep you company.
Why is this even a question?? Of course it's absolutely disrespectful, I mean come on, even if you are over the person, and have a new relationship partner, its still not a good look to be dating your friends Ex, and also you won't be able to trust them either, because you started out as their friend, and now the 2 of you are dating, also even if your friend and the person broke up, the feelings are still there, regardless of them saying there aren't.
I don't see how it's not a good look. That's entirely your perception. And unless they got together the moment you broke up, I don't see why there would be a trust issue. And if your feelings are still there then that's a you problem that you have to internally solve
@@nonameneeded2943you’re pathetic. Without realizing what you just said was if my friend breaks up with their gf/bf, but still has feelings for them I’m going to pursue it anyway since “that’s their problem”. And that’s precisely what makes you dishonourable and worthless.
I feel like that’s just part of girl code. I agree with Evelyn and Kimberly! Don’t ever date a friends ex that’s out of line. I would never disrespect any of my friends like that trying to go after their ex and I know none of them would go after mine either. Find out who your real friends are
I disagree. 1) girl code? I'm pretty sure there are many girls that wouldn't care at all, so i don't see how it's an u written rule 2)how is it out of line? How is it disrespectful? Sure, if you went after the ex just after they broke up or of the ex did the friend dirty or something then I can understand. However if the friend and the person broke up on good terms and it's been years after, I fail to see the problem of dating them if you like them and they like u
it's called boundaries its called morals it's of plenty fish in the sea and more dogs to be groomed I'm just saying get yo own and don't date yo bestfriend ex never was your friend your enemy it's unworthy and it does happen but it shouldn't curiosity killed the cat a long time ago u get what I'm sayin
No, it’s not OK to date one of your friend’s exes. I speak from experience. My ex dumped me, then dated others in school, then dated my friend. I still had feelings for him, so I was hurt. I thought my feelings about it didn’t matter because people can do what they want, so I dealt with it and stayed friends with both of them and they would confide in me their relationship experiences, sexual and otherwise. (We were young and dumb.) Later, I met and made new friends who said dating a friend’s ex is a no-no, and I felt so relieved to hear it. That’s how I came to that conclusion.
Why is my ex stalking me two weeks after she broke it off? She knows I’m dating someone else. She’s been stalking me since she broke up with me even tho we don’t follow each other.
There really ain’t a problem cuz at the end of the day they still ur ex n they still finna date someone else🤷🏾♀️ so tbh if I like u n u like me then y not
Sad to say it but their are some of us (MEN) out there that would do that with your ex which is part of the reason why some of us hate on each other alot because you want what others have instead of just go get your own instead of mine
Jeff Simmons I am speaking for myself jeff because whether you think it so are not I want say 50% of men will do it but some will and some have because i've experienced it first hand by a friend and a family member
Thats some Evelyn Lazondo ish. She got the trademark on that one. Friend and family is completely off limits. Evelyn talking like she got morals and girl code but sleep with married men, uh they are off limits too!
The blond lady is all over the place. She said on the other episode "When I'm done with someone I'm done"!!! Now it's not ok for her friend to date her ex.🤔🤔🤔
my best friend left me recently to date my only ex girlfriend and he is currently still dating her. plus they go to my work to try and make me jealous and it really sucks.
You're gonna have leftovers regardless. It becomes a dead issue unless you're not over that person. If you're moving stop looking back, cause that hinders your progress
What that Kimberly said didn’t make sense, because that’s how you miss out on love ,closing people off. And if it doesn’t work out with so and so that has nothing to do with you. Doesn’t matter how close you are she’s your friend not your twin.
Unless your friend is okay with you dating someone they know. I'd advise against it. Not only that. But, if you have a falling out (which is quite likely). You could lose more than just the partner you had. But, also your friend/s.
Once I know ur gf, even if she not my friend, immediately I start seeing them like my brother. I've never understood this, it just happens automatically. Not to talk of my friend. Hell no. I won't even feel nothing
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How can they refer to a person as someone's leftover. A human will always be a human and all these technical perspective to dating is silly.
I personally don't see the problem. I have a friend who ended up dating one of my exes a few years after we broke up. I've seen them together, and my ex is happy with my friend in a way they NEVER were with me. And my friend is happy with my ex in a way that he wasn't with any of his exes. It's obvious that the two of them were meant for each other. Why should my friend miss out on his soulmate just because I got to them first?
it depends on how long were you two in relationship and whether there was real love..
I agree 100%
I was friend with this guy since 1st grade and he went with my ex I’m only 13
100% true
@@ricex4292 and my best guy friend is dating my only ex girlfriend and now she’s having a baby. With him. Which is what I wanted with her oh well
Steve is right, you have been desiring your friends lover, it didn't just happen when you broke up
golayla69 . Ok
Humans are territorial; There's a reason why we show pictures of are significant other to friends.
thank you! LMBO Don't know why folks acting like this is ok
Depends on the friends chemistry with the ex. If you see that they actually might be the one for your friend. Then let it happen.
I agee to 100%
"left overes?" News flash. We all are someones ex!!
Totally correct.✌🏿
But you aren't friends with everyone.
Not really 😕
@@MrScans1 leftovers is a really bad term. Exes aren't food they're people and they can do whatever they want
Not true
I wouldn’t date my friends ex, but if my friend finds true love with my ex I wouldn’t care.
me too
Yeah I’m kind of like that too if we aren’t close.
It honestly depends on why they broke up. Like if the ex was a jerk and was being disrespectful, then I would be very concerned if my friend was dating them
The EXACT SAME reason ya'll gonna break-up... but if you are the hard-headed type... do what you do just don't say you didn't knew... #ijs
Never date your friend's ex. Find someone fresh and they'll make you forget all about your friend's ex
I see so many women saying "it's not okay"; But, if you truly loved this individual you'd either make it work or set them free to be with whoever they wanted.
Absolutely true
Depends of the circumstances.
For ppl who say its ok to date a friends ex are the snakes who laying in the grass and waiting...The typical excuses "stopping a good relationship" ," Being stingy and possesive", MAN GET TFOH WITH THAT....They said your "friend" why the hell wld u want to date some 1 they been with tht f'd up boundaries all around for the friend who dont mine and for the who think its ok...All I knw stay the hell away from me...Thsese ppl are dishonorable ppl...
OceaniaMonarch yes yes yes!!👏👏👏😋
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Big facts stay far. Away frm me
Yea that’s messed up, me an my friend wouldn’t be friends anymore. #IJS what kind of friend are you anyway if you do that!🤨🤨
what if y’all were friends after the relationship and your ex and friend had met coincidentally/outside of you, would you still stop being friends if you found out?
there is absolutely nothing wrong with dating a friends ex because you should not care what so ever what your friend and ex does
I had a friend who dated my chased my x husband while we were still living together but not together. But she has 4 daughters by 4 baby daddies. She a hoe.
Lena Excatly I agree with you on that 👏👏👏👏👏👏
Theri4444 How many exes are you willing to keep in your life... since they will be as they date your friends. And are you okay with your friend crushing on your partner. Because these feeling a don't develop out of thin air...
I'm on my husband's account. If I dated a guy in the past and we didn't work out if I thought that he and one of my girlfriends would be a good fit for one another I would encourage them to date. Why would that be a problem? The person is an ex for a reason. I want everyone to find happiness even if it is with one of my exes and my close friend.
Friends exes are off limits, just like Steve said, you must have been checking them out.
I wouldn't mind if the ex was a good person who just wasn't compatible with me or with my friend. If the ex is a bust, I'd be concerned for the whole group of friends, who are about to get in some mess. Other than that, I'm 100% unbothered.
If a "friend" got with my ex, they wouldn't be my friend for long. That's just disrespectful.
am sorry but its a big NO !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
MzKYRA Deniz why. If u have feelings for them and they feel the same then why tf not
When leftovers have problems with leftovers
Key Atm 😂😂😂 I don’t think too many people caught that shade
That's disrespectful to your friend though...you're telling me you can't find another man on this earth apart from your friend's ex?
True story 👍
My friend was talking up my ex boyfriend while I was dating him
sorry that the person somebody loves is a friend's ex. I think people should not be called disrespectful of the person they love.
LoloThank you! LMBO people know this. I don't know why folks acting like this just happens. That person been wanting them
You are always getting somebody's left-overs girl get real.
Good info
There is difference between a stranger and a friend.
bee Green true, never go there.
At least they’re not my friends left-overs so what’s the point?
@@bgreen5234 friends become strangers real quick
It depends on the circumstances. In my case, it was definitely a no because me and my ex of 2 1/2 years just broke up and two weeks later, he’s dating my best friend so yes, unacceptable. However, if it’s been months or years, then it should be fine but definitely not days
Yeah this happened to me as well, it hurts because they were getting close before we even broke up and then they got together after we broke up (we were together for a year and a half) so I feel you girl, hope you’re okay after it
If I am over him and there is no longer any attraction I don't care.
I don't understand why you would be so mad about a friend dating someone you used to date. If you broke up and you're over that person, then why would you even care. You don't own that person, you have no claim on them. The only instance I think it would be wrong is if that ex treated you badly and were abusive.
Well no duh we don't own anybody . I see u condone this u snake
Exactly
Exactly! No one owns anyone!!!!
Everybody is someone left over, unless a person is a Virgin.
illenessOne it's not only sexual. Someone can be emotionally tied to another and it does not work out for them. At this point the next person will get the left overs because their heart, time, emotions were invested elsewhere. They might even start comparing. Leftovers don't start and end with sex.
#facts
butterliz876 you’re absolutely right.
A virgin is still leftover because they've been kissing and doing other things without penetration
Are you friends with everyone? No.
Did Evlyne forget who tami was? 😂
Evelyn and tami aren’t friends
to be fair, she didn't know Tami when she slept with her ex husband lol
You are petty as hell for that 😂🤣😂
1douglagyal they were building a friendship back then though
1douglagyal I know. I’m saint that they were building a friendship. That’s all
A friend and an associate are two different things.
Some women and men have no shame in dating their friends’ exes. I’m not into awkwardness and unnecessary fighting, and fighting over a man and principle is unnecessary.
No thank you.
Exactlyy
Explain what's wrong with dating your friends ex besides if the ex did them dirty or if they just broke up
@@nonameneeded2943 nothing just ppl thinking they own their exes and can control their choices even after they aren't together (of course not after a fresh wound but after 2 weeks I wouldn't say it's bad ffs) just like how neither ex/friend is obligated to tell about the realishonship cause it doesn't concern you anymore (unless you have children but thats a different story) also why can't these people learn to move on and find someone new instead of hanging on what their exes are doing like what?
if they were dating for like 3 months and they’re just a classmate it’s okay because they’re not the persons property, you’re free to fall in love with whoever you want.
I swear some of y'all are sick in the head! If you enjoy dating your friends ex, mind as well date one of your family members ex to! #NoMorals 👎👎👎
Mz Kayla yes oh my god thank you!! Reading comments shows you exactly how messed up people really are!!!
Gypsy Spirit yes. I was so shocked reading these comments on here.
Mz Kayla Thats totally different.
ray kings tell me how the hell that's different!! Because it's the same! If you comfortable with dating your friends ex, then you'll be comfortable with dating one of your family members ex as well! What's wrong with y'all people! I see what you believe in! No morals or respect at all!
Mz Kayla You know your family members all your life, or they know you all of theres. You can say the same thing for your friends. But none of my friends are on the level of where I call them family. Your anology only works if the friend in question is so close to you, you would call them family. So its in some cases that your anology works.
im actually concerned about the people in the comments condoning getting with your friends ex?
Thank you... most of them are probably thinking about it too... it's a complete no no... I would like for any of them to have a boyfriend/girlfriend they are crazy about break up with them and a few months later date their friend.... then come back to the comment section and have something good to say. I don't understand how this would work unless you had ZERO feelings for ex in the first place.
Nikira Carter right, something is definitely wrong with these people!! All the men around town and you want what I've had, eww!!
Nikira Carter no, nothing wrong with us. I have about 6 exes and I'd only have a problem with my friend dating only 1 of them (my first love) the others i really don't care. Just communicate with your people and if they're the type of people that don't want you dating they ex , then don't but for me I don't really care, if I'm over you I don't care what you're doing with your life.
It's honestly not that deep, if my friend was developing feelings for someone I won't stand in the way of them finding love. You just have to have enough respect to talk to them about it first, don't be sneaky about it.
Nontombi BNCL but why can't they date that one ex who is your first love... still an ex to me... you cannot say it's okay to date my exes but not that one... that means you too have a problem with it... is it because you weren't emotionally involved with the other exes ...you were just not in love maybe... an ex you loved should always be off limits because you broke up for a reason and don't want them in your life. That's how I see it... if we went on 1 or 2 dates and we didn't click then go ahead but if I was in love with him and it was hard for me to get over him after a break up then please don't bring him back into my life... or you can go and be happy.
My ex is dating a chick we invited to our engagement party and went to several other events with. It’s disgusting but just confirms again, why he’s an ex
Did that once...it resulted in a dent in my friendship with her (she was his ex-fiance). I met him at her house party, we hit it off right then and there. Come to find out he was in the early stages of divorce #2, plus she felt uncomfortable. We almost fell-out, but we still talk from time to time. After we broke up, he's since gone through two more divorces.
Bottom line...dating a friend's ex-...use extreme caution ⚠️.
I feel like this, at the end of the day if I'm over someone I'm over them. If my homegirl dates him and I told her everything about what happens between us then I would already know she was up to no good and I would just let her go along with my ex.
Absolutely not ok. If I removed someone from my life and you bring him back into my life by dating him you are not a friend. If I've moved on why would I constantly want to see my ex? If you feel like he is your soulmate go ahead and pursue the relationship but understand we will not be friends anymore. I will have to cut you off just to get him back out of my life.
You don't have to see them nor do they have to be in your life
What makes you think you would see them?
@@asill.6668 If we are friends we like hang out together. I would not want to do a double date with my husband and Ex.
Come on. When the person gets a man that man becomes a part of your life too. You won't be friends with your friend and not expect to not see their spouse or boyfriend @@asill.6668
If youre in the same friend group as before and they get brought back in by another member youre inevitably going to get invited to the same events gatherings etc. @asill.6668
Everybody please tag steve so me & my family could come on to the show & share our story how I stepped up to the responsibility of triplets that look just like me & being a father to 6 kids at the age of 21
UsPlus Four 😂
Write a book, write in a blog, create a RUclips or Facebook to put your story out there. Blessings to you and your family.
Christa Is Joy,
They have a UTube channel alrdy. 😯
Evelyn’s outfit honey!! 🔥🔥🔥❤️
Never ever ever date a friends ex. 1. There are too many people in the world. That’s just lazy. 2. Why would you take leftovers?? Why. That’s crazy.
Exactly. My best friend dated my crush then he broke up with her because he now hates my guts. and then she started having crushes on my crushes even tho she doesn't even know who they are. and then she decided to date my ex boyfriend and now me and her aren't best friends anymore and now whenever she tells me personal stuff I tell my real best friends and then she complains that I'm not trust worthy its like k girllllll you date my crushes and exes like its your job. Please tell me that that isn't breaking my trust... Holy
That makes no sense, what if the left overs are exactly the thing u want in a person.
DreamAngel123 PFW . It,s sure is evelyn just nasty
DreamAngel123 PFW #2
mariela luisa Then you probably need higher standards.
Hahaha my cousin tried getting at my ex right after I fought a dude over her. Don't trust these snakes
This topic really gets to me. I have been there. My absolute best friend decided to take my crush and date him kept it secret and then he broke up with her and now she hates him its like k we are best friends if I hate a guy you should understand that I don't want that guy in my life so don't take the same guy into your life its as simple as that. The same friend decided to date my ex boyfriend about a year later. Its like okay I broke up with him because he wasn't good for me. If we are best friends and very similar then he is no good for you. I'm sorry but its the truth. By you bringing my ex into our lives you are making me not trust you because everything I say will get to him one way or another. I have taught myself to date guys that hate my best friend because I am insecure of loosing them to her. There are over 1000 kids at our school but she decides to date either guys I like or guys I love or guys I dated. that isn't what best friends do to each other. Best friends support their best friends no matter what. I am trying hard not to get depressed because I don't want to lose my best friend but honestly I need to lose her before it becomes too much.
It depends on how serious their relationship was ,whether or not they've moved on and how serious you are about this person.
That ex that wasn't right for them might be the man you've been waiting for and if so are you supposed to pass that up?
Would a real friend want you to miss out on an opportunity to experience love????
Now if your willing to risk your friendship over a casual interest in her ex, that's questionable.
Right! And you never know what God will do in this situation. You two could be soulmates!
That is an absolute NO. I would never even think to date an ex of a friend. There should always be a line drawn in the sand with a high understanding that you just do not cross it. How incredibly awkward that would be to be sitting together with a friend of whom's ex you're dating having a conversation about your relationship with that ex. Crossing boundaries is an understatement.
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Yes a friend is someone you can confide in so if your female and you have a female friend or best friend you're going to talk to her about the problems and issues that you've had in this relationship with this man why you guys didn't work out why you guys didn't break up and then you look up and she's with that man this man that may have treated you wrong or done some wrong things to hurt you or your family members whatever the reason was for you guys break up you can find in this chick and then look up and find out that she's with this dude that's just a no no
I don’t think Evelyn should be asked questions relating to relationships... They never seem to work out for her🤷🏽♀️
That's a closed minded old way of thinking. I've never dated a friend's ex because I've never had that type of connection with any of them but, who's to say a friend's ex can't turn out to be your person? We limit ourselves by not exploring ALL of the opportunities that come before us. I firmly believe that once something is over it's over, and that it's not only selfish but unfair to still lay "claim" to someone once your time with them is over. We're open enough to embrace the unconventional beauty of online dating. We've also embraced Interracial and same sex relationships in kind, but we'll allow ourselvez to be held back by the boxed in thinking set forth by some fictitious girl/guy code?? I say once it over, move on. Live and let live and just try to be HAPPY for whomever is able to share and/or find happiness with another. #GrownWomanTalk
Davine Hill
First of God will not give you someone else man..
Randy Perkins it's no longer their man once the relationship is over hence the term "ex" and God allowed David to have someone else's wife and many others soooo yeah ...
Randy Perkins don't even know why you brought God into the situation but since you did ...
So you are that friend or relative that cant be trusted.sad sad sad smh.....
marques powell and you must be that closed minded friend or relative that has abandonment issues that simply refuses to let go and move on once a relationship is over 🤔🤔🤔 sad sad sad smh & LOL 😉... As I mentioned in my post, I've never done if but I am not opposed to the idea. By the wzy, there is no breach of trust once the relationship is over. Have a great day 😁
It don't mean they wanted the person all along. But if they are a match and both are happy let it be. Who cares what happens when you are done. Unless you still want them.
This!! C’mon people, if YOU were the one to break things off with your (now) ex, or even worse- if you *cheated* on them before you left them, then you don’t have any grounds to feel any type of way about your friend dating them. You didn’t want them until someone else started showing an interest in them, and that says way more about you than it does your friend. Facts.
@@maggiegeeee ...I agree. You broke it off with them so move on.
I don't see the problem, and nobody should be made to feel less than who they are because of the person they love. Sorry it's not my problem that you broke up and we liked each other and a lot of people are gonna get mad but it's not my fault of the person I am attracted to is your ex. Nobody should tell anyone who and who not to love.
yeah steve is right! if your boy ends up with your ex, he was scheming the whole time and she isn't any better if she dates him! both of em can kick rocks with sandals on!
People in the comments are too much. I get that a friend dating an ex can be weird, uncomfortable, embarrassing, etc... but at the same, that's your EX. They are not your possession.
I've seen a couple cases where two people get into a relationship and it was train wreck but then the guy dates his ex's friend and it developed into a happy marriage. Fact was, the guy and his ex's friend were just better together, understood each other and treated each other better.
I personally could care less who dates my ex because if she is my ex, that means we weren't good together. She's the past and I'm looking towards the future.
Naw gotta disagree no offense. guess what when ur friend is having sex wit ur x she will be thinkin of u and same wit the opposite se he will also do same ...
PongN I totally agree with you and I still don't understand why people get mad about it.
@@leogetz31ify how would you know, are you like some omnipresent being with telekinesis or something?...
Issa no for me. Why date someone your friend was in love with or could still be in love with? Why go for that ex and not some other person? I don’t care if it’s been 10 years since I broke up with someone (especially someone I loved dearly) that doesn’t give you the right to date them. I feel like If a person dates their friends ex they are also capable of trying to mess with the new boyfriend or girlfriend their friend is with.
Usually those friends that end up dating their friends exes, most likely was eyeing them and even messing around with them behind the friends back 🤷🏾♀️
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AyJayKay . I agree with that u are right.
People actually do have the RIGHT to do what they want, regardless of how you feel or what you think. None of us are possessions of one another!
@@asill.6668 they most definitely do. But that doesn’t mean I have to accept it or tolerate it nor does it make it right. Do what you want but don’t expect the same respect, or people to remain friends with you. It’s weird.
Steve & the real are going to keep me sane & a better women ❤️
Evelyn giving advise really 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
We all are someone’s left overs. I had one gf of mine ask me if she can go out with my ex I was totally cool with it. If you’re over it who cares?
Idc what anyone says, that's grimey. All of the men in the world and you have to go for mine, girl no. Steve's right, if they do that, they've been checking for them for a while.
Agreed! They were just waiting on you to move out of the way to get their shot
If you date a friend's ex you better know he is not Yours- so don't trip when your" friend" wants to catch up on old times, there is NOTHING you can say -just sit back and let Karma keep you company.
Your acting as if its a bad thing
it makes no difference that e next one could b the one for u & u gonna past that up just because it's ur friends ex .
that's truth oh.
Evelyn, please 🙄
Why is this even a question?? Of course it's absolutely disrespectful, I mean come on, even if you are over the person, and have a new relationship partner, its still not a good look to be dating your friends Ex, and also you won't be able to trust them either, because you started out as their friend, and now the 2 of you are dating, also even if your friend and the person broke up, the feelings are still there, regardless of them saying there aren't.
I don't see how it's not a good look. That's entirely your perception. And unless they got together the moment you broke up, I don't see why there would be a trust issue.
And if your feelings are still there then that's a you problem that you have to internally solve
@@nonameneeded2943you’re pathetic. Without realizing what you just said was if my friend breaks up with their gf/bf, but still has feelings for them I’m going to pursue it anyway since “that’s their problem”. And that’s precisely what makes you dishonourable and worthless.
I feel like that’s just part of girl code. I agree with Evelyn and Kimberly! Don’t ever date a friends ex that’s out of line. I would never disrespect any of my friends like that trying to go after their ex and I know none of them would go after mine either. Find out who your real friends are
I disagree. 1) girl code? I'm pretty sure there are many girls that wouldn't care at all, so i don't see how it's an u written rule 2)how is it out of line? How is it disrespectful? Sure, if you went after the ex just after they broke up or of the ex did the friend dirty or something then I can understand. However if the friend and the person broke up on good terms and it's been years after, I fail to see the problem of dating them if you like them and they like u
it's called boundaries its called morals it's of plenty fish in the sea and more dogs to be groomed I'm just saying get yo own and don't date yo bestfriend ex never was your friend your enemy it's unworthy and it does happen but it shouldn't curiosity killed the cat a long time ago u get what I'm sayin
Multiple comments about why it's messed up to date your friends ex and yet not one of them can clearly articulate their justification for it.
What's your view on it. Personally, I see no problem with it
No, it’s not OK to date one of your friend’s exes. I speak from experience. My ex dumped me, then dated others in school, then dated my friend. I still had feelings for him, so I was hurt. I thought my feelings about it didn’t matter because people can do what they want, so I dealt with it and stayed friends with both of them and they would confide in me their relationship experiences, sexual and otherwise. (We were young and dumb.) Later, I met and made new friends who said dating a friend’s ex is a no-no, and I felt so relieved to hear it. That’s how I came to that conclusion.
I think its an unwritten rule that you're not supposed to date your friend's ex PERIODT
I disagree, shown by the fact that people like me wouldn't really care
Yuck! Does ths mean U wnted them the whole time?😏
NUNE 242 . Yes
Yup 💅
yes!
Now did y'all just here Evelyn lying she will date your friend man husband she don't care
Why is my ex stalking me two weeks after she broke it off? She knows I’m dating someone else. She’s been stalking me since she broke up with me even tho we don’t follow each other.
❤❤❤ what Steve said!!
come here because i felt guilty
Evelyn just sitting up there lying! Lol
Thank you Kimberly Caldwell-Harvey... SHE WAS THE ONLY ONE WHOM MADE SENSE! yes! 🙌🏾 👏🏾
Evelyn obviously didn't understand?..the Question!.?. SMH 🤷😂🤣
There really ain’t a problem cuz at the end of the day they still ur ex n they still finna date someone else🤷🏾♀️ so tbh if I like u n u like me then y not
That would just make your uncomfortable seeing you too together
Nobody is all bad people just have issues and once we get over them our life will change for the better
Sad to say it but their are some of us (MEN) out there that would do that with your ex which is part of the reason why some of us hate on each other alot because you want what others have instead of just go get your own instead of mine
Keith Jones speak for yourself guy
Jeff Simmons I am speaking for myself jeff because whether you think it so are not I want say 50% of men will do it but some will and some have because i've experienced it first hand by a friend and a family member
Thats some Evelyn Lazondo ish. She got the trademark on that one. Friend and family is completely off limits. Evelyn talking like she got morals and girl code but sleep with married men, uh they are off limits too!
I think Evelyn has had all of her friends exes. Wrong person for this discussion😣😣😣😞😞
The blond lady is all over the place. She said on the other episode "When I'm done with someone I'm done"!!! Now it's not ok for her friend to date her ex.🤔🤔🤔
Please of all people in the planet it has to be your friends ex? Thats not a friend. Peace out both. 😞
it only matters if they were in love or is your friend were tryna be serious
Evelyn don’t know what she talking about. After she went out with her friends ex. *cough cough* Tami’s Ex.
It depends on several factors
my best friend left me recently to date my only ex girlfriend and he is currently still dating her. plus they go to my work to try and make me jealous and it really sucks.
Now they’re having a baby
make it two babies now!!
Horrible screw them
U don’t date friends ex’s. If you my friend n you wanna date my ex then you won’t be my friend no more.
1:32-2:00 50%
You're gonna have leftovers regardless. It becomes a dead issue unless you're not over that person. If you're moving stop looking back, cause that hinders your progress
That part ! I would never date my friends ex . But my so called best friend dated someone that I dated . SMH 🤦🏽♀️
What that Kimberly said didn’t make sense, because that’s how you miss out on love ,closing people off. And if it doesn’t work out with so and so that has nothing to do with you. Doesn’t matter how close you are she’s your friend not your twin.
If he wealthy they all game ......they be lying they ass off its all about what he working with....yall telling TV truths too look good......smdh
It's definitely a no for me because how are we all able to hangout with each other knowing you s certain person was sexually intimate
Don't see how that would affect anything
Evelyn Lozada is nice.
I wouldn't date my friend's ex. But if her friend had an ex, I would probably date him, because I don't know her.
Women with no moral compass will think its ok...... Until its done to them!! Real Women know otherwise! Love
I think it would depend on the situation. For instance, if he cheated on her, I think that is the loop hole which makes it okay.
One caveat is were they in love or is she loved him and talked about her feelings with you... in that case probably it is a no go zone
Evelyn is gorgeous💎💎💎
Unless your friend is okay with you dating someone they know. I'd advise against it.
Not only that. But, if you have a falling out (which is quite likely). You could lose more than just the partner you had. But, also your friend/s.
I agree with Mr. Harvey.. you was in the cut looks… and I’ll never approve 🙄 but one thing for sure and I said for sure YOU’LL NEVER BE ME 🤣🤣🤣
That psrt!
I think 99% of men would date a friend’s ex.
Didn't Evelyn sleep with Shaunie's ex husband and Tammi's husband while they were still married ?
never in life
Once I know ur gf, even if she not my friend, immediately I start seeing them like my brother. I've never understood this, it just happens automatically. Not to talk of my friend. Hell no. I won't even feel nothing
I'm with Steve, and the two Ladies who are against it! Hell no and no way! Absolutely NOT My Friend. You mean Foe...