When facing depression, I am always reminded by Prophet Muhammad story when he was burying his only son when he died. The prophet was shedding some tears and smiling at the same time. When asked why were you shedding tears and smiling, he said the tears for what happened to my only son, the smile is for accepting God's fate.
Absolutely incredible interview! I can’t explain how much I desperately needed to hear this Ali. I’m in a pivotal time in my life and finding it difficult to go after my dreams because I have severe depression that has all but paralyzed me most of my 43yrs of life. This is so inspiring and opened my eyes so I can see that I can choose to be happy and to move forward towards my dreams instead of continuing to tell myself I’m stuck.
May you find peace and happiness Venessa, As long as you remember you were Born and destined for Greatness. Please Heal for us. Sending you love and Joy.
The greatest gift my mother gave me was was understanding to be happy when we were poor. Appreciating the simple things. When you can achieve happiness with having very little in your life, you can gain a much happier life. My mum also would say to me "You go after money, all you get is money". Great interview Ali, I enjoyed this one.
I haven't finished the podcast but I can't wait to comment. I totally agree with this statement : "Happiness is a choice". Totally true!!! I'm often asked by people why I'm always happy and why I'm always smiling. The truth is simply because I decided to and also, I don't let anyone take happiness from me. I am also fully conscious of all the blessings I have had in my life.
Absolutely one of the most eye-opening conversations I ever listened to! Thanks, Ali for offering so much value to your audience! Very much appreciated
@@DeepDivewithAliAbdaal Good Times,Ali a very genuine question that just struck me : many people say,not just in society,but in the self-improvement sphere as well,that regret is the biggest poison....in the long term,I think yes....but I'm inclined to feel that in the short term,shame is a deeper,more potent and more progressive poison. Am I wrong to categorise shame as a poison,& what are your thoughts on this? Love+Respect Sid
... Dear, Sid, shame is the experience of feeling guilty. A self lmposed negative emotional condition that exists to be overcome. Welcome to empathy. The single most plain and truthful fact of life is that WE ARE HERE.😅ALL of us were, and are borne by, and are born into a great mystery. Welcome to the business of IS-NESS. Our LOVE is Only Ever Equal To Our Humility and Our Gratitude for the Confidence and the Prowess that will Stabilise Our LOVE ...
I had to literally pause the video halfway through to type this - absolutely love this man's positivity and outlook towards life! Thank you for putting up such amazing content!
Absolutely incredible interview! I can’t explain how much I desperately needed to hear this Ali. I’m in a pivotal time in my life and finding it difficult to go after my dreams because I have severe depression that has all but paralyzed me most of my 43yrs of life. This is so inspiring and opened my eyes so I can see that I can choose to be happy and to move forward towards my dreams instead of continuing to tell myself I’m stuck.
I’m still mulling this interview over in my head and probably should let it stew longer before making not so clarified conclusions. I don’t think Mo is saying anything new than what we’ve already have heard, it’s repackaged wisdom from thinkers, philosophers and religious/spiritual leaders of old in a modern format for modern times. Multi-faith? That comes across egotistical, could be understood any one religion is deficient - playing god here? It’s a mish mash of liberal religious ideologies to fit the modern way of life. There is a spiritual vacuum in the west and to fill the chasm adopt and cherry pick practices and beliefs from eastern religions i.e meditation, yoga etc. Mo, seems to me is doing the exact same thing, promoting liberalism with elements of religious wisdom of old. Begs the question, why not just follow a religion or way of life that is all encompassing, coherent and contains no contradictions as opposed to the fashion and trends of modern gurus born yesterday in contrast to well attested religions with a rich long tradition.
Finally it's here! I listened to the podcast on Slo Mo where Mo Gawdat was interviewing you and I have been waiting like forever for this episode to be released! I really enjoyed it Love Mo Gawdat and his book. I am reading "That Little Voice In Your Head" book - it's amazing so far.
The first time I heard Mo Gawdat was on the Elizabeth Day ‘How to Fail’ podcast and I was in awe of his wisdom. I was compelled to listen to his book Solve for Happy on audible and it was packed full of thought provoking insights that have really helped me during difficult times. Thanks Ali and Mo for a great conversation 🙏🏽
55:27 I hope that mistake was something selfish (inexcusable) bc just blaming your business partner for a startup failure is kind of a big deal to throw someone under the bus like that.
1st time on this channel and I must say exceptional conversation... About your idea of domain of the privilege, I am going to drop something I had literally written yesterday, that we hear the rich and successful and privileged people say that these metrics of success don’t make a person happy, but we don’t believe them. Or we believe that it’s just them being ungrateful, when I have all that they have, I am definitely going to be happy. It’s only after chasing goal after goal and achieving them that you realize, that they might be right. But by that time, you have people around you that wouldn’t believe you.
Waw that intro just hit the spot! Taking things for granted can be so easy to do in an over-stimulated world, but once we take what's essential in our lives than we have more control and likelihood of achieving happiness.
After listening to this amazing podcast, I came to the realization that everything the speaker talked about is already taught in Islam, albeit in different contexts and without any mention of God 🤔
I’ve been following Ali’s mains channel for a couple years now but this was the first time I’ve ever watched one of his podcasts and I gotta say, I’m impressed Ali. Not that I thought you would be bad but I wasn’t expecting you to be this good. The interaction is great, the feedback you give after every answer is just amazing. Keep it up my guy, I’m proud!
What an incredible episode! Awesome! I’ve just been able to listen to Ali asking the best questions, followed by the best answers. Thank you very much for providing such valuable content. Sending both of you hugs and the best vibes from Brazil. 🇧🇷✨🙏💫
Hi Ali, regarding the point that you make about rephrasing gendered terminology, I suggest you read "X+Y" by Eugenia Cheng a mathematician's manifesto for rethinking gender. Cheng creates a very interesting system of ideas to reframe how we view gender and the behaviours associated with the femminine and masculine. Keep up the amazing work, you are helping me radically change my life
It’s hard for me not to see the two sides. If I’m always looking down and seeing how good I have it, how will I be motivated to move up in life and be successful? Should I sacrifice my happiness until I achieve my goal and then switch to searching for happiness? It seems like these gurus already go through the trials of making it in life and then switching to find happiness. Can both perspectives coexist?
I struggle with this paradox myself - infact I have struggled with this for a while. I'll share how my thoughts have developed so far, maybe it'll be useful to you. Happiness cannot be the goal. Happiness is a way of being. Therefore, you must cherish what you have and be grateful for it. Through ups and downs of life, happiness must be a constant. "Will yourself" to be happy everyday. Goals are a way of providing meaning to our existence. We make goals for ourselves so that we can get up everyday and pursue something worthy. The pursuit itself will have ups and downs (what we call ups and downs of life) owing to two kinds of reasons - controllable and uncontrollable. Learn from controllable reasons and make peace with the uncontrollable ones. Therefore pursuit of a goal in life must not affect our ability to happy. In conclusion: Happiness is a way of being, goals and results are a means to learn and accept. Hence they can coexist. These ideas seem idealistic, yes. But we don't have follow them completely. The utility of these ideas starts when we start applying them imperfectly. This has helped me make sense of this paradox. My 2 cents.
I find myself constantly pausing this video, taking notes (literal and mental notes) and then playing it again. Thank you for putting this together! I loved the part where he discusses the difference between happiness and excitement. Mind-boggling!!
Really interesting interview Ali. I've only listened to the first 20 mins so far. Looking forward to hear the rest when I get home. Mo is good at formulating his perspective!
I found this an interesting interview, thank you! I just want to explain what happiness is, in my experience. I believe that the reason we even exist, is for relationship. Firstly with God, and also with other people. I know there are many different faiths and worldviews. But I follow Jesus- and having a relationship with Him, knowing Him with me all the time (whether that is when I am talking to Him (praying), or reading the Bible, or even playing computer games, or doing anything!) is such a secure and love-filled way of living. If I am worried, I tell Him. He makes me feel held, and peaceful. If I am happy? I share it with Him. He loves me through my good and bad days. He also helps me to be patient, and kind, to other people. Relationships aren't perfect in this world. I totally get that. I believe we're in a messy, messed up world. Yes there are good things and experiences in the world. But there is also a lot of suffering and pain and, ultimately, death. I believe that Jesus is the way to have eternal life, beyond death. Jesus said this: that eternal life is about relationship with Father God, and Himself. One day, those who know Jesus will live forever with Him, in a new physical (but perfect!) world, where there'll be no more tears, pain, suffering, or death. But He also wants to be with us in our down to earth, everyday lives, in the here and now! He wants to help us, as our God, but also be our friend. I just want to tell people about Jesus. Because there is hope in Him. And abundant, safe, unconditional love, even when we screw up! Man, I do so many things wrong, but He is helping me to be more loving. But He is always there for me, and will always forgive. I tell you this, you can talk to Jesus right now, wherever you are, whatever your situation. Even if you are unsure of who He is, or if He exists. You can reach out to Him at any time, and start a relationship with Him. You will find the most loving God and Friend in Him. Thank you if you took the time to read this. Just know you are loved beyond your wildest imaginings. And the Person who loves you like that wants to show you, and for you to know Him.
Wow..This is the best I have ever heard. Thanks for inviting him on the show. I didn't read the book but now I am keen and looking forward to. Thanks Ali and team!
while I agree with his statements it is very basic information. Mo is good information for people who have too much and think materialism equals the path to happiness. the indigenous people or poor people who make up most of the globe know this already .. and for those who do not have their basic needs met different measures are needed. yes people of all backgrounds are responsible for their own pain and joy. I feel overall Mo is speaking from a place of privilege. it’s not wrong information its just not so revolutionary . happiness is relative and many times conditional to each person. however what I do enjoy of his talks is his current outlook on AI. very informative. and I agree Ego and Arrogance is a very destructive force on the planet 🌎
@Deep Dive with Ali Abdaal Good Times,Ali a very genuine question that just struck me : many people say,not just in society,but in the self-improvement sphere as well,that regret is the biggest poison....in the long term,I think yes....but I'm inclined to feel that in the short term,shame is a deeper,more potent and more progressive poison. Am I wrong to categorise shame as a poison,& what are your thoughts on this? Love+Respect Sid
I think shame does cut deeper because acts of shame goes against our inclinations, our natural disposition, our moral compass - goes against being human. Repeated acts of shame (promiscuity, sex outside marriage, drunkenness, lack of morals, not fulfilling duties/responsibilities as a family member, dishonesty, cheating etc - all socially acceptable and a norm) has significantly lowered human character to the point we don’t hold ourselves to account or to a higher standard and thus we see the breakdown of families and communities and society at large.
Amazing listening from Ethiopia made me grateful for the things I have loved the concepts raised here thank you both would love to see another chat with mo if possible cheers.
Loved this interview. I thought it was interesting when somebody on social media thought they were depressed during lockdown because they sat in the park and noticed ants. No, that's not depression.
@DeepDivewithAliAbdaal Thanks a lot for such a valuable podcast. One of the best. Thanks a ton for sharing! Mo articulates how brain functions in such a simple easy to follow format. Personally liked 1. human brain being survival machine with intrinsic nature of tending to be unhappy. 2. difference between happy (serotonin) and other forms like pleasure/fun (dopamine)
Amazing interview! Thank you so much! Resonated with my thoughts on happiness. Brilliant! Wrote down 26 thoughts/lessons from the video, will think about them and will find out how it can be applied to me. ❤❤❤
Ali this is one of the best podcasts I've ever seen / listened to... thank you! On a side note, you need to ask Mo where he's getting this fantastic £5 indian food!!
That's really amazing and life changing . thank you so much for this interview, its so helpful to see how much life could be better with every day little step to the inner part of ourself and find out how to change the bad in good, even when it seems impossible. Thanks again. Love your channel, it's amazing.
I loved Mo’s points on resilience and stoicism but Ali, c’mon man, you’re a doctor; please push back against some of the pseudoscience that some of your guests have a tendency to say. The points Mo made about dopamine and serotonin are grossly simplistic and borderline nonsense in places.
It was amazing untill.. Finally, (as if you Mo were waiting for) You can be any gender you want! Is it real that you can? Or surgeries are, more or less, like wearing a silly makeup! Where you can not even wash it out later! A serious message and a gentle advice to Ali and Mohamed to delete this offensive part which is not acceptable by Allah in our Islam.
The concept that “life” pushes you in a certain direction with certain measurements as if it’s a designed test is far from truth in my opinion. What about the hundreds of people who commit suicide daily? Should we blame them for not tolerating these “precise measurements” and failing the test? Simply, these tests were beyond their limitations and they were completely broken. I believe Mo is so intelligent and articulate. I definitely agree on a lot of what he said, but I thought it’s better to make my comment on where I disagree with him since most of the comments are agreeing with his views. Great interview 😊
Ali, I am very grateful for bringing up this interview. So many insights and realizations. And by the way, you inspired me in many ways and gave some really valuable guidelines to start my own RUclips channel. So thank you very much for that!
35:49 Thank you Ali and Mo for the wonderful conversation. I’m a very “just do it” guy and it made me look back on how it might have affected people. I should definitely start appreciating feminicity more.
Ali if you want to be more happy. We should apply the Gap and the Gain formula in our. The formula is that look how far have you come from the starting point rather than looking at how far are you from the finishing point even though you are getting there little by little. Ps: It would be a great video if you invite the Author of the book The Gap and The Gain Dan Sullivan. Please invite him and I love the work you are doing to improve our life and learn so much. THANK YOU SO MUCH 💙💙💙
I really enjoyed listening to this interview. Some very interesting points mentioned. But I have one question. Sure looking down to underprivileged people than use and simulating suffering is a good way of realising how blessed we are. But when we keep doing it, after a point it becomes suffocating. Atleast for me. For ex, Whenever I am sad that today I am hurt because my parents were very unreasonable towards me, then I think yes but I am thankful I have parents. There are so many abandoned children out there. But does that mean my parents can keep doing it that way? And feeling hurt about that feels wrong. And that becomes more painful. So the cycle goes on. Does this make sense?
I've discovered that when I used to think happiness was knowledge thank happiness was not a choice I realized that my choice was that I was unhappy and I've decided that I was going to be unhappy and I decided that I was a victim so if I decided those things I could decide happiness As well that's when I knew happiness was as much a decision as being unhappy or being a victim the only difference is when you decide to be happy you're grateful I was grateful and I also decided that my ego was getting in the way of my happiness once I started caring about other people and really trying to help them and being part of their lives in a positive way my life improved exponentially
Lovely episode. I found very helpful the distinction between happiness (oxytocin - and I would say sobriety and serenity) and pleasure /excitement (dopamine - and I would say as Mo said we always want more of these things - leading to addiction).
Firstly, this guy’s verbal tick of “umm?” is annoying, condescending and patronising. Secondly, his philosophy is poppycock. He taking stuff from everywhere and mashing it all up in to one pile of shite. I did listen to the entire episode. Nonsense!
When my two favourite people come together and have a friendly chat based on curiosity and shared experiences, it is a whole symphony coming out of it. Especially at the end the discussion of masculine and feminin resonates so much with me, I cant even describe with words. Thank you guys.
in terms of your example about playing video games with your friends, I think that you have confused the joy of comradery and associated it with video games. Achieving things in real life with your best friends like building a business together or what not would in my opinion give you that same feeling. Therefore Ali I think its that feeling of comradery you're chasing and confusing it with videogames.
I don't think I've ever agreed more with anyone else before. I was listening to this podcast on my way to work a few days ago and I just kept saying YES . YES. YES. Happiness is the inner peace. And happiness is a choice. We don't always have control over events that are happening in our lives, but we always have control over how we choose to react to them / deal with them. Will be coming back to this one as a reminder. Thank you so much Mo & Ali xx
I'm at 35 mins listening to the wonderful breakdown of the happiness equation. I'd like to add: "Happiness is the difference between what is, and how you think things should be."
I am in my first year of med school And I am actually thinking about all of what you guys are talking about Really good episode explained a lot of stuff I was struggling with
I guess we are all wired different as I'd rather be useful and impactful than worry about my happiness I'd rather not lower my expectations just to be happy I'm happy when I'm striving and growing
Not Everybody needs a trauma to change thier directions in life u already lived a dream life with lots of money & fame most ppl would die for & then U Jumpstart ur second career & made money out of ur dead son Now ur saying always look down for poor people in order to make you to feel happy & content #HORSESHIT If ppl have not looked up then there is no invention of aeroplane now ur using to attend the interview!? This is some rich ppl ideologies who is living luxurious life & thinking I want to make every 1 happy
May Allah guide all of us to his path and only Allah can engineer happiness in to the person's heart, without Allah the heart will never find a peace. When we come close to Allah asking for his forgiveness it'll find a comfort.
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When facing depression, I am always reminded by Prophet Muhammad story when he was burying his only son when he died. The prophet was shedding some tears and smiling at the same time. When asked why were you shedding tears and smiling, he said the tears for what happened to my only son, the smile is for accepting God's fate.
Absolutely incredible interview! I can’t explain how much I desperately needed to hear this Ali. I’m in a pivotal time in my life and finding it difficult to go after my dreams because I have severe depression that has all but paralyzed me most of my 43yrs of life. This is so inspiring and opened my eyes so I can see that I can choose to be happy and to move forward towards my dreams instead of continuing to tell myself I’m stuck.
May you find peace and happiness Venessa, As long as you remember you were Born and destined for Greatness. Please Heal for us. Sending you love and Joy.
May God give you peace 😊
Blessings 🙏🏻💖
The greatest gift my mother gave me was was understanding to be happy when we were poor. Appreciating the simple things. When you can achieve happiness with having very little in your life, you can gain a much happier life. My mum also would say to me "You go after money, all you get is money". Great interview Ali, I enjoyed this one.
I haven't finished the podcast but I can't wait to comment. I totally agree with this statement : "Happiness is a choice". Totally true!!! I'm often asked by people why I'm always happy and why I'm always smiling. The truth is simply because I decided to and also, I don't let anyone take happiness from me. I am also fully conscious of all the blessings I have had in my life.
Absolutely one of the most eye-opening conversations I ever listened to! Thanks, Ali for offering so much value to your audience! Very much appreciated
thanks so much for listening :)
@@DeepDivewithAliAbdaal why don't you do something about the WhatsApp now scammers that are impersonating you in every video.
@@DeepDivewithAliAbdaal Good Times,Ali
a very genuine question that just struck me : many people say,not just in society,but in the self-improvement sphere as well,that regret is the biggest poison....in the long term,I think yes....but I'm inclined to feel that in the short term,shame is a deeper,more potent and more progressive poison. Am I wrong to categorise shame as a poison,& what are your thoughts on this?
Love+Respect
Sid
... Dear, Sid, shame is the experience of feeling guilty. A self lmposed negative emotional condition that exists to be overcome. Welcome to empathy.
The single most plain and truthful fact of life is that WE ARE HERE.😅ALL of us were, and are borne by, and are born into a great mystery. Welcome to the business of IS-NESS.
Our LOVE is Only Ever Equal To Our Humility and Our Gratitude for the Confidence and the Prowess that will Stabilise Our LOVE ...
I had to literally pause the video halfway through to type this - absolutely love this man's positivity and outlook towards life!
Thank you for putting up such amazing content!
Absolutely incredible interview! I can’t explain how much I desperately needed to hear this Ali. I’m in a pivotal time in my life and finding it difficult to go after my dreams because I have severe depression that has all but paralyzed me most of my 43yrs of life. This is so inspiring and opened my eyes so I can see that I can choose to be happy and to move forward towards my dreams instead of continuing to tell myself I’m stuck.
By far my favourite episode so far. Life either teaches you a lesson, or a change in direction.
I’m still mulling this interview over in my head and probably should let it stew longer before making not so clarified conclusions. I don’t think Mo is saying anything new than what we’ve already have heard, it’s repackaged wisdom from thinkers, philosophers and religious/spiritual leaders of old in a modern format for modern times. Multi-faith? That comes across egotistical, could be understood any one religion is deficient - playing god here? It’s a mish mash of liberal religious ideologies to fit the modern way of life. There is a spiritual vacuum in the west and to fill the chasm adopt and cherry pick practices and beliefs from eastern religions i.e meditation, yoga etc. Mo, seems to me is doing the exact same thing, promoting liberalism with elements of religious wisdom of old. Begs the question, why not just follow a religion or way of life that is all encompassing, coherent and contains no contradictions as opposed to the fashion and trends of modern gurus born yesterday in contrast to well attested religions with a rich long tradition.
Finally it's here! I listened to the podcast on Slo Mo where Mo Gawdat was interviewing you and I have been waiting like forever for this episode to be released! I really enjoyed it
Love Mo Gawdat and his book. I am reading "That Little Voice In Your Head" book - it's amazing so far.
This is one of the best podcast I've ever listened too
The first time I heard Mo Gawdat was on the Elizabeth Day ‘How to Fail’ podcast and I was in awe of his wisdom. I was compelled to listen to his book Solve for Happy on audible and it was packed full of thought provoking insights that have really helped me during difficult times. Thanks Ali and Mo for a great conversation 🙏🏽
Thank you for this Ali! This is my new favorite episode from your podcast🥰
This was so valuable! I enjoyed this episode deeply. So many new insights!! Thanks so much to both of you 🙏❤️
So wise and beautiful talk. Thank you for keeping the messages fresh.
55:27 I hope that mistake was something selfish (inexcusable) bc just blaming your business partner for a startup failure is kind of a big deal to throw someone under the bus like that.
I love the way mo explining that "hapiness is a choice "
this is my new fav episode
thank you Ali
When Mo called Ali in a non-white way he did the Arabic prononcuation of it it made me really happy :)
1st time on this channel and I must say exceptional conversation...
About your idea of domain of the privilege, I am going to drop something I had literally written yesterday, that we hear the rich and successful and privileged people say that these metrics of success don’t make a person happy, but we don’t believe them. Or we believe that it’s just them being ungrateful, when I have all that they have, I am definitely going to be happy. It’s only after chasing goal after goal and achieving them that you realize, that they might be right. But by that time, you have people around you that wouldn’t believe you.
MO, I appreciate your podcast. I would like to know how exactly you are going to make a billion people happy.
Waw that intro just hit the spot! Taking things for granted can be
so easy to do in an over-stimulated world, but once we take what's essential in our lives
than we have more control and likelihood of achieving happiness.
Thank you so much for this Ali 💫 and Mo , sir you are remarkable ❤️
After listening to this amazing podcast, I came to the realization that everything the speaker talked about is already taught in Islam, albeit in different contexts and without any mention of God 🤔
Not gonna lie this podcast absolutrely changed my life in a way I had not expected.
I’ve been following Ali’s mains channel for a couple years now but this was the first time I’ve ever watched one of his podcasts and I gotta say, I’m impressed Ali. Not that I thought you would be bad but I wasn’t expecting you to be this good. The interaction is great, the feedback you give after every answer is just amazing. Keep it up my guy, I’m proud!
Since when did the words "masculine" and "feminine" become such bad words? Nice point to touch on though - was not expecting it.
Do you know how did I find ur channel?
From your interview with Mrwhosetheboss, on this channel.
Great channels you have 👍🏻
welcome :)
What an incredible episode! Awesome! I’ve just been able to listen to Ali asking the best questions, followed by the best answers. Thank you very much for providing such valuable content. Sending both of you hugs and the best vibes from Brazil. 🇧🇷✨🙏💫
Hi Ali, regarding the point that you make about rephrasing gendered terminology, I suggest you read "X+Y" by Eugenia Cheng a mathematician's manifesto for rethinking gender. Cheng creates a very interesting system of ideas to reframe how we view gender and the behaviours associated with the femminine and masculine. Keep up the amazing work, you are helping me radically change my life
Very interesting listening to him, a tragedy that no parent should have to experience
Is this ma. Egyptian or what can they speak Arabic 😅
It’s hard for me not to see the two sides. If I’m always looking down and seeing how good I have it, how will I be motivated to move up in life and be successful? Should I sacrifice my happiness until I achieve my goal and then switch to searching for happiness? It seems like these gurus already go through the trials of making it in life and then switching to find happiness. Can both perspectives coexist?
I struggle with this paradox myself - infact I have struggled with this for a while. I'll share how my thoughts have developed so far, maybe it'll be useful to you.
Happiness cannot be the goal. Happiness is a way of being. Therefore, you must cherish what you have and be grateful for it. Through ups and downs of life, happiness must be a constant. "Will yourself" to be happy everyday.
Goals are a way of providing meaning to our existence. We make goals for ourselves so that we can get up everyday and pursue something worthy. The pursuit itself will have ups and downs (what we call ups and downs of life) owing to two kinds of reasons - controllable and uncontrollable. Learn from controllable reasons and make peace with the uncontrollable ones. Therefore pursuit of a goal in life must not affect our ability to happy.
In conclusion: Happiness is a way of being, goals and results are a means to learn and accept. Hence they can coexist.
These ideas seem idealistic, yes. But we don't have follow them completely. The utility of these ideas starts when we start applying them imperfectly. This has helped me make sense of this paradox.
My 2 cents.
I find myself constantly pausing this video, taking notes (literal and mental notes) and then playing it again. Thank you for putting this together! I loved the part where he discusses the difference between happiness and excitement. Mind-boggling!!
Thank you Ali for hosting such incredible people.. hope you get more interesting people here on the podcast ❤️❤️❤️
I can't thank you enough bro, really it was amazing episode. God bless you.
Really interesting interview Ali. I've only listened to the first 20 mins so far. Looking forward to hear the rest when I get home. Mo is good at formulating his perspective!
I enjoyed this deep dive podcast ☺️ you are both Amazing thank you Ali and mr mo ❤️
I found this an interesting interview, thank you! I just want to explain what happiness is, in my experience. I believe that the reason we even exist, is for relationship. Firstly with God, and also with other people. I know there are many different faiths and worldviews. But I follow Jesus- and having a relationship with Him, knowing Him with me all the time (whether that is when I am talking to Him (praying), or reading the Bible, or even playing computer games, or doing anything!) is such a secure and love-filled way of living. If I am worried, I tell Him. He makes me feel held, and peaceful. If I am happy? I share it with Him. He loves me through my good and bad days.
He also helps me to be patient, and kind, to other people. Relationships aren't perfect in this world. I totally get that. I believe we're in a messy, messed up world. Yes there are good things and experiences in the world. But there is also a lot of suffering and pain and, ultimately, death. I believe that Jesus is the way to have eternal life, beyond death. Jesus said this: that eternal life is about relationship with Father God, and Himself. One day, those who know Jesus will live forever with Him, in a new physical (but perfect!) world, where there'll be no more tears, pain, suffering, or death. But He also wants to be with us in our down to earth, everyday lives, in the here and now! He wants to help us, as our God, but also be our friend.
I just want to tell people about Jesus. Because there is hope in Him. And abundant, safe, unconditional love, even when we screw up! Man, I do so many things wrong, but He is helping me to be more loving. But He is always there for me, and will always forgive. I tell you this, you can talk to Jesus right now, wherever you are, whatever your situation. Even if you are unsure of who He is, or if He exists. You can reach out to Him at any time, and start a relationship with Him. You will find the most loving God and Friend in Him.
Thank you if you took the time to read this. Just know you are loved beyond your wildest imaginings. And the Person who loves you like that wants to show you, and for you to know Him.
Wow..This is the best I have ever heard. Thanks for inviting him on the show. I didn't read the book but now I am keen and looking forward to. Thanks Ali and team!
while I agree with his statements
it is very basic information. Mo is
good information for people who have too much and think materialism equals the path to happiness. the indigenous people or poor people who make up most of the globe know this already .. and for those who do not have their basic needs met different measures are needed. yes people
of all backgrounds are responsible
for their own pain and joy. I feel overall Mo is speaking from a place of privilege. it’s not wrong information its just not so revolutionary . happiness is relative and many times conditional to each person. however what I do enjoy of his talks is his current outlook on AI.
very informative. and I agree Ego and Arrogance is a very destructive force on the planet 🌎
Wonderful interview. The balance of masculine and feminine qualities is Ardhnareshwar swaroop of God Shiva in Hinduism.
@Deep Dive with Ali Abdaal Good Times,Ali
a very genuine question that just struck me : many people say,not just in society,but in the self-improvement sphere as well,that regret is the biggest poison....in the long term,I think yes....but I'm inclined to feel that in the short term,shame is a deeper,more potent and more progressive poison. Am I wrong to categorise shame as a poison,& what are your thoughts on this?
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I think shame does cut deeper because acts of shame goes against our inclinations, our natural disposition, our moral compass - goes against being human. Repeated acts of shame (promiscuity, sex outside marriage, drunkenness, lack of morals, not fulfilling duties/responsibilities as a family member, dishonesty, cheating etc - all socially acceptable and a norm) has significantly lowered human character to the point we don’t hold ourselves to account or to a higher standard and thus we see the breakdown of families and communities and society at large.
@@makstar7062 it's a really elaborate,and I feel,a really fitting reply...thanks!
Amazing listening from Ethiopia made me grateful for the things I have loved the concepts raised here thank you both would love to see another chat with mo if possible cheers.
Loved this interview. I thought it was interesting when somebody on social media thought they were depressed during lockdown because they sat in the park and noticed ants. No, that's not depression.
Tell Mo he made me happier, congrats to him for getting closer to his target 🎉
Thank you so much for having this conversation with Mo! I've learned so much, you've asked such good questions Ali. So happy I watched this.
Unbelievable insights! Just started reading The Little Voice in Your Head and I cannot wait to read the rest. Thank you, Mo! You are incredible.🤩
@DeepDivewithAliAbdaal Thanks a lot for such a valuable podcast. One of the best. Thanks a ton for sharing!
Mo articulates how brain functions in such a simple easy to follow format. Personally liked 1. human brain being survival machine with intrinsic nature of tending to be unhappy. 2. difference between happy (serotonin) and other forms like pleasure/fun (dopamine)
Love this interview ❤️❤️❤️! Absolutely amazing! I've learn so many things....! Thanks to you both for this masterpiece 🎁
Amazing interview! Thank you so much! Resonated with my thoughts on happiness. Brilliant! Wrote down 26 thoughts/lessons from the video, will think about them and will find out how it can be applied to me. ❤❤❤
Ali this is one of the best podcasts I've ever seen / listened to... thank you!
On a side note, you need to ask Mo where he's getting this fantastic £5 indian food!!
That's really amazing and life changing . thank you so much for this interview, its so helpful to see how much life could be better with every day little step to the inner part of ourself and find out how to change the bad in good, even when it seems impossible. Thanks again. Love your channel, it's amazing.
I loved Mo’s points on resilience and stoicism but Ali, c’mon man, you’re a doctor; please push back against some of the pseudoscience that some of your guests have a tendency to say. The points Mo made about dopamine and serotonin are grossly simplistic and borderline nonsense in places.
Explain more please?
It was amazing untill.. Finally, (as if you Mo were waiting for) You can be any gender you want! Is it real that you can? Or surgeries are, more or less, like wearing a silly makeup! Where you can not even wash it out later! A serious message and a gentle advice to Ali and Mohamed to delete this offensive part which is not acceptable by Allah in our Islam.
This is the best thing I have ever heard. Thank you.
Wow this Man 👏🏻
Thank you
The concept that “life” pushes you in a certain direction with certain measurements as if it’s a designed test is far from truth in my opinion. What about the hundreds of people who commit suicide daily? Should we blame them for not tolerating these “precise measurements” and failing the test? Simply, these tests were beyond their limitations and they were completely broken. I believe Mo is so intelligent and articulate. I definitely agree on a lot of what he said, but I thought it’s better to make my comment on where I disagree with him since most of the comments are agreeing with his views. Great interview 😊
This is your best episode yet Ali. Love it.
This is so powerful!
Hey.... I need help, I'm poor in verbal communication. Can someone guide me to become a professional one!
Happieness and endless joy is not the same thing . Happy come and go but joy can last forever 💯
I lost my son, too. الحمد الله على كل حال My life has been better ever since 😊
So good!!!
Probably the best interview I have seen in a while.
Ali, I am very grateful for bringing up this interview. So many insights and realizations. And by the way, you inspired me in many ways and gave some really valuable guidelines to start my own RUclips channel. So thank you very much for that!
35:49 Thank you Ali and Mo for the wonderful conversation.
I’m a very “just do it” guy and it made me look back on how it might have affected people. I should definitely start appreciating feminicity more.
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I've listened to almost every Deep Dive and this was my favourite so far!
15:48 creepy to hear this today at exact point when I started listening yesterday. How this related to life at the right point.
honestly at the end of the podcast i felt so dissapointed at what he said. i dunno maybe he wanted to reach more audiance
I know where I'm spending my Audible credit :)
Does meeting you remind Mo Gawdat of his son? since you have the same name
Lo ve Mo henhas such Bwealthnof information❤
This is my favorite and by far the best podcast u have ever done
Ali if you want to be more happy. We should apply the Gap and the Gain formula in our. The formula is that look how far have you come from the starting point rather than looking at how far are you from the finishing point even though you are getting there little by little.
Ps: It would be a great video if you invite the Author of the book The Gap and The Gain Dan Sullivan. Please invite him and I love the work you are doing to improve our life and learn so much. THANK YOU SO MUCH 💙💙💙
Spirituality is so in
This is incredible podcast....life changing.
Let's all identify as chair so we don't need pay taxes
Mo has helped me so much to move on and enjoy life❤
I really enjoyed listening to this interview. Some very interesting points mentioned.
But I have one question.
Sure looking down to underprivileged people than use and simulating suffering is a good way of realising how blessed we are.
But when we keep doing it, after a point it becomes suffocating. Atleast for me.
For ex, Whenever I am sad that today I am hurt because my parents were very unreasonable towards me, then I think yes but I am thankful I have parents. There are so many abandoned children out there.
But does that mean my parents can keep doing it that way? And feeling hurt about that feels wrong. And that becomes more painful. So the cycle goes on.
Does this make sense?
It's the best podcast I have ever listened to ❤️
It was an absolute joy listening to this!
I've discovered that when I used to think happiness was knowledge thank happiness was not a choice I realized that my choice was that I was unhappy and I've decided that I was going to be unhappy and I decided that I was a victim so if I decided those things I could decide happiness As well that's when I knew happiness was as much a decision as being unhappy or being a victim the only difference is when you decide to be happy you're grateful I was grateful and I also decided that my ego was getting in the way of my happiness once I started caring about other people and really trying to help them and being part of their lives in a positive way my life improved exponentially
Lovely episode. I found very helpful the distinction between happiness (oxytocin - and I would say sobriety and serenity) and pleasure /excitement (dopamine - and I would say as Mo said we always want more of these things - leading to addiction).
Firstly, this guy’s verbal tick of “umm?” is annoying, condescending and patronising.
Secondly, his philosophy is poppycock. He taking stuff from everywhere and mashing it all up in to one pile of shite.
I did listen to the entire episode. Nonsense!
When my two favourite people come together and have a friendly chat based on curiosity and shared experiences, it is a whole symphony coming out of it. Especially at the end the discussion of masculine and feminin resonates so much with me, I cant even describe with words. Thank you guys.
Why "Mo Gawdat" and not "Mohammad Gawdat"?
in terms of your example about playing video games with your friends, I think that you have confused the joy of comradery and associated it with video games. Achieving things in real life with your best friends like building a business together or what not would in my opinion give you that same feeling. Therefore Ali I think its that feeling of comradery you're chasing and confusing it with videogames.
I don't think I've ever agreed more with anyone else before. I was listening to this podcast on my way to work a few days ago and I just kept saying YES . YES. YES. Happiness is the inner peace. And happiness is a choice. We don't always have control over events that are happening in our lives, but we always have control over how we choose to react to them / deal with them. Will be coming back to this one as a reminder. Thank you so much Mo & Ali xx
I'm at 35 mins listening to the wonderful breakdown of the happiness equation. I'd like to add: "Happiness is the difference between what is, and how you think things should be."
Excellent this guy is awesome ❤
Currently listening to the audiobook. Thanks for the amazing recommendation. Solve for happy is GOLD!
Ali the question about depression, abuse and PTSD and the answer 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻
I am in my first year of med school
And I am actually thinking about all of what you guys are talking about
Really good episode explained a lot of stuff I was struggling with
This..was...AMAZING!
I guess we are all wired different as I'd rather be useful and impactful than worry about my happiness I'd rather not lower my expectations just to be happy I'm happy when I'm striving and growing
Oh wow!!!!! Mohammad Gawdat from my lovely country Egypt ,l am so proud of you ❤❤❤❤
Not Everybody needs a trauma to change thier directions in life u already lived a dream life with lots of money & fame most ppl would die for & then
U Jumpstart ur second career & made money out of ur dead son
Now ur saying always look down for poor people in order to make you to feel happy & content #HORSESHIT
If ppl have not looked up then there is no invention of aeroplane now ur using to attend the interview!?
This is some rich ppl ideologies who is living luxurious life & thinking I want to make every 1 happy
May Allah guide all of us to his path and only Allah can engineer happiness in to the person's heart, without Allah the heart will never find a peace. When we come close to Allah asking for his forgiveness it'll find a comfort.