How to NOT Fall In Love With Your Friend With Benefit (FWB)

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  • Опубликовано: 18 ноя 2024

Комментарии • 174

  • @malooskitty9124
    @malooskitty9124 7 лет назад +169

    I fell in love with him cuz he started acting like something more than a hookup! I didn't intend to become more than that but he made my expectations to change from a hookup to "oh! I think he likes me!"

    • @rotsenmedina6852
      @rotsenmedina6852 6 лет назад +33

      True.. I am burned and hurt now.. Because he started it first.. He made it feel like i am more than just a fuck hole... And i feel like a shitty confused person now..

    • @kathy-leew3989
      @kathy-leew3989 5 лет назад +7

      Me too omg
      But we dont fuck tho haha

  • @daniellem578
    @daniellem578 7 лет назад +198

    Haha that's a good point. Don't add them to social media! I made that mistake. And when he likes my pics I would get all giddy. And when he posted pics of another woman I would feel a bit jealous lol. I ended up blocking him from social media. It really became toxic to watch his every move.

    • @MzCappalot
      @MzCappalot 4 года назад +1

      Butterfly Love been there

    • @kiwibobiwi
      @kiwibobiwi 4 года назад +4

      I am there right now 😭😭 I blocked him and then it drove me crazy not to see what he’s up to so I UNBLOCKED HIM 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

    • @oceejay5148
      @oceejay5148 3 года назад

      😂😂😂😂 I have him only on Snapchat ! & I use it to post stuff I want him to see 😉

    • @tina360
      @tina360 3 года назад +1

      I can do relate. I deleted him at least 20 times and each time i keep adding back 😓

  • @mariaisabel5704
    @mariaisabel5704 5 лет назад +105

    “Don’t see him everyday” little hard when we have classes everyday together and our assigned seats are next to each other.. :/

    • @it-ke9od
      @it-ke9od 3 года назад +11

      Ewwwwwwww just have sex in class

    • @LostLifetimes
      @LostLifetimes 3 года назад +8

      Me with my coworker whooops

    • @honestmama623
      @honestmama623 2 года назад

      @@it-ke9od 🤣

  • @kimberlymonroy2516
    @kimberlymonroy2516 3 года назад +67

    Not me watching this while waiting for him to get to my place 🥴🥴

  • @pheobefeather581
    @pheobefeather581 6 лет назад +132

    The guy who wanted a FWB with me defined a fwb as a relationship including dates and non-sex meet ups and every day texting... Like wtf?? So he wants relationship components, but no commitment?? His argument was cause he had no time...logic?? I was extremely confused and ended it before it even started cause I KNEW this was gonna turn out veeeery bad for me as I am always the one catching feelings.

    • @SweetMiracl3s
      @SweetMiracl3s 5 лет назад +5

      i was in the same situation but went through with it since he was transferring back to his original college and... you're right it ended badly for me since I am always the one catching feelings. i even confessed and got rejected.. he also became distant after i did that

    • @michellerichardson3090
      @michellerichardson3090 4 года назад +8

      I'm going through that now. He's pissed because I'm interested in other men. I keep having to remind him, we're not together.

    • @rhenab4158
      @rhenab4158 4 года назад +3

      I'm in this situation and thingking to end it but boy it's so hard even just thingking of it.

    • @devikaishoney6456
      @devikaishoney6456 2 года назад +1

      Smart move!

  • @staargiirl
    @staargiirl 7 лет назад +115

    Too late... I fell and when he showed up with a gf it hurt like hell (still do, but getting better one day at a time)

  • @lilaah7
    @lilaah7 7 лет назад +49

    Don't know any other 'dating coach' who'd post a video like this one... ❤ Thanks for keeping it real

  • @abycasty8590
    @abycasty8590 7 лет назад +93

    Its like saying, i like u but i dont need you 😉

  • @teanna4569
    @teanna4569 14 дней назад +1

    Somebody gonna catch feelings… it’s bound to happen

  • @TK-fm5ud
    @TK-fm5ud 2 года назад +6

    “How to deny yourself of being loved and valued whilst not having a breakdown”

  • @landriahm6161
    @landriahm6161 4 года назад +13

    I never text him. Period. I never cuddle...i avoid him as much as possible..but he always gives me a hickey wtf and try to take me out on dates!! He's always planning shit with me and I'm always disappearing on him bc I know we have good emotional connections, sexually and mentally too... so if I give in, I know I'll fall hard. After we meet up... I'll disappear for a week...

  • @FaithGainspersonaltraining
    @FaithGainspersonaltraining 5 лет назад +79

    Damn I'm a guy and I got caught up in my emotions smh

    • @daniellem578
      @daniellem578 4 года назад +6

      CGetsGains awww guys get caught up too. It’s hurtful I still think about my FWB and I let him go years ago smh

    • @ib961
      @ib961 4 года назад +8

      Please explain how😭 I never understand how guys fall in love with their FWB

    • @reydamaster3
      @reydamaster3 2 года назад +5

      @@ib961 I was in a fwb situation where I think at the end I did ended having feelings for her. Our whole time together lasted 6 months. In the beginning we both said that we were just friends. If we ever met someone else we would talk about ending our fwb. But over time we went out had sex whenever one of us wanted it. I guess that feelings started growing even if we didn't want them. We stopped talking for 3 weeks and when we talked again she said she was talking to someone else. I guess what I'm trying to say is that seeing her happy with someone else made me miss her and realized that some feelings developed. I hope she is happy and she deserves that. So answering your question men do catch feelings too

  • @bastianreichborn-bjrneklet5390
    @bastianreichborn-bjrneklet5390 6 лет назад +36

    But it often develops into something more. It’s like it’s not even interesting if it’s devoid of emotion. I’m not good at assuming that role

    • @Carolina3788
      @Carolina3788 6 лет назад +11

      Bastian Reichborn-Bjørneklett I agree because after a while you don’t feel attraction anymore and if there is no love why fuck anymore ?

  • @sharebear9165
    @sharebear9165 4 года назад +52

    I’m reading a lot of these comments and everyone’s complaining about the same thing that they walked into a fwb not thinking much about it but then the guy does “relationship” things and it gets us confused.
    Like I recently started hooking up with this guy, and I’ve had f*ck buddies before but usually the guy just a comes over, we smash, and we never talk about anything more than just casual. But this new guy is like wrapping a blanket over me, giving me sweet kisses and likes to cuddle, asking me about my life and personal affairs. Like what?? Let’s just bang bro, why are you getting me all in my feelings?

    • @rosalia5089
      @rosalia5089 3 года назад +7

      my dude did the same thing. a lot of kisses and cuddling and wrapping me in the blanket, etc. i definitely did not expect all of that going into it. and of course i caught feelings cause i was being treated like a girlfriend instead of just a fwb. i never catch feelings when i have hookups but now that i have i feel so much pain.

  • @Music-qt6bn
    @Music-qt6bn 5 лет назад +21

    It’s not just women sweetheart. Men are the ones who fall in love mostly.

    • @MissEbo1985
      @MissEbo1985 4 года назад +1

      @Dark Caesar not always true I've been there. The friend was low key into me, try to deny it, get jealous when I talk/date other men. Hell the dude trusted me more than the women he dated. He was a commitment phobe forreal. But it was cool, he's a good friend, but not bf/husband material. It was fun while it last.

  • @magnus9944
    @magnus9944 2 года назад +2

    When I have a new F.Buddy the first thing I do is go on social medias, find them and block them

  • @sachawalton8617
    @sachawalton8617 7 лет назад +26

    I wished you posted this last month. Lol... i was doing good for a while, until i focused on things i liked with him. Lol didn't fall in love, but had an increased desire for him.... need to play this game a little better. Lol but i pulled away before it got too deep

  • @zinzin307
    @zinzin307 6 лет назад +19

    It's too late. I all already in the deep hole of emotions & feelings. He said he has feelings for me too. Now it's just awkward coz we both don't want relationship. But can't go on like before because we already like each other too much

  • @whitneykell
    @whitneykell 3 года назад +6

    I can’t do this I will leave it to those who have control of their emotions

  • @allisonbennett9209
    @allisonbennett9209 3 года назад +7

    Ok. So my fb calling me during my lunch break for an hour is a red flag?
    And him talking to me about his hopes and dreams is another red flag?
    Him noticing stuff about my personality..?
    This is Bad!

  • @Isalukich
    @Isalukich 5 лет назад +16

    My FWB seems to be the 1 getting attatched strangely enough! He wants to talk and sext daily, he gets jealous when I go on dates with other guys and he wants to hookup every time he's available to do so. Luckily we've got a period of 2 weeks coming up where neither of us is available so I'm hoping that'll sort things out.
    But this ain't normal, right? I never had a hookup who just helped himself to so much of my time and attention.

  • @maddiemay3847
    @maddiemay3847 7 лет назад +11

    I swear I love your advice so much it got me through alot

  • @cherydenmoberly5657
    @cherydenmoberly5657 3 года назад +7

    GENIUSSS DUDE. The way you used the Coke as a metaphor as you spoke about ensuring space between you and a fwb. To quench your thirst only on occasions hehehehe

  • @pamelatrrs9
    @pamelatrrs9 6 лет назад +6

    I think i really like this guy cant stop thinking about him or is just my hormone. He is younger then me and the sex is amazing. We have been seeing each other almost every day and talking on the phone. He just got out of a relationship . I hope I'm not falling for him. I dont want to get hurt.

    • @baddiezone
      @baddiezone 5 лет назад +2

      Don't see them everyday that's relationship thangs.

  • @anawonka
    @anawonka 6 лет назад +2

    can i just say who is this beautigu man omg, never seen a dark hair guy this gorgeous before wow, perfection, there u go

  • @ikssipsilon1003
    @ikssipsilon1003 7 лет назад +3

    I needed this video five months ago, everything I should've done is said. Too bad it's too late and I'm getting hurt. I tried to fuck him off multiple times but he always comes back and creates this illusion that he cares but he doesn't. I dont know what to do!

  • @sharebear9165
    @sharebear9165 4 года назад +6

    This was actually solid advice

  • @harlemantoinetterisingfrom4639
    @harlemantoinetterisingfrom4639 6 лет назад +27

    It’s too late (because he was sending mixed signals).......can you make a video how to fall out of love and walk away smh

  • @thesilllypotato
    @thesilllypotato 6 лет назад +22

    The adding them on SM and asking about their relationships. But we haven't even had sex yet we just sextext. And the attachment is there because he text me EVERYDAY like we're in a relationship. "Good morning beautiful" checking up on me like a boyfriend would. And now that I like him he dont do it no more and NOW I am paranoid and pissed

    • @marihayward3234
      @marihayward3234 5 лет назад +2

      Jennifer Tilly omggggg why is this the exact same thing with me??? He texts me every day with “good morning beautiful” and “I miss you sexy” but doesn’t want a relationship.

    • @sufiyasulthana5635
      @sufiyasulthana5635 4 года назад +1

      I feel you more than anything

  • @bastianreichborn-bjrneklet5390
    @bastianreichborn-bjrneklet5390 6 лет назад +2

    I’ve had people tell me to behave like an adult or say that I should have stayed married. And I’m clearly an adult. And the last time I was single I was 19. I don’t know anything about casual

  • @billie-ocean8286
    @billie-ocean8286 3 года назад +9

    How can I stop yourself from falling in love we don't choose to it just happens

  • @miriambarco8832
    @miriambarco8832 3 года назад +4

    Messy... men catch feelings, don't know how to handle it.... spook themselves the run. Mad that you won't chase !!!

  • @Princess-xoox
    @Princess-xoox 6 лет назад +14

    Well I got pregnant by my fwb just told him he said he's shocked and he said what I wanna do ik what I am going to do I just want to see where his head at

    • @finolamoore3937
      @finolamoore3937 5 лет назад +3

      What happened with things since 4 months ago?

    • @finolamoore3937
      @finolamoore3937 5 лет назад

      @Char Denise good!! Glad you moved on and feeling better!

    • @finolamoore3937
      @finolamoore3937 5 лет назад

      @Char Denise Amen!!!

    • @it-ke9od
      @it-ke9od 3 года назад +2

      Her baby is 1 year now. Hi baby

  • @stephaniebailey6567
    @stephaniebailey6567 4 года назад +11

    this is sad that we have to resort to this type of measure....it is the complete opposite of Gods natural design of intimacy....The sad truth of this world

    • @thepokergod1980
      @thepokergod1980 3 года назад +4

      Which causes the problems most ppl here are having. Sex isn’t a toy. Men and women “break” their ability to have healthy, meaningful, long term committed sexual relationships (marriage, etc) and don’t even have knowledge of how it happened.
      No judgment at all. Ppl can do as they please. Our behaviors have rewards as well as consequences. ✌🏿

    • @SharlenesJourney
      @SharlenesJourney 2 года назад

      Right 😔

  • @CarissasWorld
    @CarissasWorld 7 лет назад +14

    I needed this 1

  • @rosemanti5000
    @rosemanti5000 4 года назад +4

    Meditation is keeeeeeeyy

  • @cicyzoe9755
    @cicyzoe9755 5 лет назад +4

    I've had to be in a benefits kind of thing, but always came out and let the men coming down on me. Men can equally fall in love for something they initially created to be a fuck buddy kinda thing.
    I used to be completely against benefits kinda thing until the first guy dealt me a blow in 2 months space of something I woke up from one morning and saw his profile picture of his girlfriend he'd told me he didn't have.
    I took that on other guys and haven't had conscience letting them taste how I felt.
    Along the way, I've learnt one thing, if you're in it for the benefits, spell it out strictly and keep it low, keep it so , keep it on your terms, and discrete, respectful!
    That way, no one ends up getting hurt.
    I'm in a fuc k buddy thing at the moment and he's getting clingy and I don't want it, coz he stated it, and i'mma keep it strictly so.

  • @umarahmed8994
    @umarahmed8994 6 лет назад +9

    Why tf are you so funny 😂😂😭

  • @BadamosiYusra
    @BadamosiYusra 3 года назад +2

    I needed this video urgently😁😁

  • @jillianjillian5493
    @jillianjillian5493 4 года назад

    Calm down and stay on track.

  • @reginastevens7673
    @reginastevens7673 7 лет назад +3

    So the guy that I’m dating now deleting
    me from his FB page. Lol great

  • @kathy-leew3989
    @kathy-leew3989 5 лет назад +2

    I see my fwb 4x a year (no joke) and he has the worst social media presence so there isn't that. Suprisingly we have been going like this for 6 years. (We were best friends since 2nd grade) We dont have benefits (only cuddles/kisses/jokes/humping) but I hate it that I am developing feelings for him. I hate this the most since I myself thought "we don't see eachother often so there is enough space" but when we see eachother, nowadays I need to recover almost a week. It sucks. I even talk about other people I am seeing/meeting/kissing just to turn him off away (some men don't like when women don't want to be exlusive) and he still hangs tight. Damn

  • @AGirlNamedVan
    @AGirlNamedVan 4 года назад +2

    I think it's just hard to be that... And not fall for the person. What would be best? Rather write it off? It makes me sad sometimes. But he is just not making any moves in the direction I'd hope. 😔I suppose I should count my losses and move along

  • @kaneejehp6450
    @kaneejehp6450 4 года назад

    Like I said I love your attitude and the way you present it

  • @sinamorx
    @sinamorx 4 года назад +2

    I feel cheated on lied to this shit hurt so bad

  • @69Fabulosity
    @69Fabulosity 3 месяца назад

    Maybe its a Libra thing but i rather not bc im either all in or not...i dislike superficial relationships. I rather a relationship with substance than just lust. I like relationships and i know i will end up catching feelings then hurt afterwards..Friends with benefits can only work with for someone void of emotions that view sex as lust and only care about themselves💯

  • @mesidye
    @mesidye 2 года назад +1

    He’s so out of my life that sometimes I forget we are f buddies. 😂😬

  • @nesssssa23
    @nesssssa23 3 года назад +3

    this guy who i really liked 2 years ago asked me to be fwb with him a few days ago. he just got out of a long relationship and we’re currently in lockdown in sydney (we live 2 streets away). i said no bc of my past feelings for him even though i’m over him now, i’m scared that if i started it with him, they would come back and ruin it because i’m very good at not telling people my feelings but hurting by myself. did i make the right decision??

    • @karinaz.9182
      @karinaz.9182 3 года назад +3

      Yes, it seems you did make the right choice because like you said, your feelings may come back and you’ll end up getting hurt.

  • @maria7610
    @maria7610 7 лет назад +1

    Very much needed, thanks 😬

  • @Ltise1980
    @Ltise1980 2 года назад +1

    What if your fuck buddy works with you?!😬 Asking for a friend! Lol

  • @justynahasiak6801
    @justynahasiak6801 7 лет назад

    "Relax, watch my videos, SUBSCRIBE" lmao

  • @lg8806
    @lg8806 7 лет назад +15

    Aleeexxxxxx
    How to fall in love with a good guy? 😁 I'm always end up with the bad ones, but now I meet a guy That he's a sweet heart, but I feel weird 😂

  • @lkshaw1
    @lkshaw1 4 года назад +1

    One every two weeks is better

  • @OItsSasha
    @OItsSasha 4 года назад +1

    That's all good and ish. But what I really wanna know is how many people sleep in that room at a time? Lol

  • @rockangel4772
    @rockangel4772 5 лет назад +3

    I wish I watched this before I fell with my fwb. We started going out everyday before we had sex. What to do now? We haven't seen each other for two weeks after we got into a fight

  • @chandreyeedasgupta2627
    @chandreyeedasgupta2627 6 лет назад +2

    My fuck buddy wants to see me every week but sometimes i stay busy so when i tell him that may be i won't be able to see u this week he gets upset sometimes our meetings gets cancelled due to different reasons i rly don't feel bothered by it but he is like damn i wanted to see u so badly ,i try to keep my space but sometimes it gets so tough because he keeps insisting so is this a red flag ????

    • @emf9398
      @emf9398 5 лет назад +1

      Yes he loves you

  • @wilfmax1730
    @wilfmax1730 7 лет назад +3

    Dalexis, has UPS delivered your new card 💳? Hope you are good to go 🚀🌟

  • @CelestialChannel333
    @CelestialChannel333 5 лет назад

    No No no F buddies. I need to not fall in love period.

  • @bastianreichborn-bjrneklet5390
    @bastianreichborn-bjrneklet5390 6 лет назад

    Yes it’s exactly what happened

  • @jeffguzman6497
    @jeffguzman6497 6 лет назад +4

    Me(23M) have Been dating a girl(20F) for about a month. She was supposed to come sleep at a hotel with me but she wanted to party for a few hours.
    She got really wasted and sat on guys laps, and flirted etc with everyone and I took her outside and broke it off. She started crying and apologizing / kissing me. She blamed it on being wasted and didn’t realize she fucked up.
    Then she threw up the whole night (alcohol poisoning) and I had to babysit her, she threw up on me. I had to carry her up to the hotel. She made me shower with her. I took care of her up until when I dropped her off.
    People were saying I should just block and ignore her but I like her a lot... what should I do?
    (She’s also dating a few other guys besides me)
    TL;DR: girl was being a hoe at party, broke it off, she cried. What do I do

    • @it-ke9od
      @it-ke9od 3 года назад

      Fuck her and leave

  • @rhythmf.4460
    @rhythmf.4460 5 лет назад +1

    Fuck dude I got a bad case

  • @kimberlywilson3104
    @kimberlywilson3104 4 года назад +1

    Do you take friends with benefits on on a dinner date?

  • @gwenfreeman5415
    @gwenfreeman5415 7 лет назад +4

    You are so cute! I'm 54 too!

  • @bcvc3365
    @bcvc3365 6 лет назад

    great advice :)

  • @lisamyrie5490
    @lisamyrie5490 5 лет назад +1

    Hi, Hi, Alex.

  • @hkvideos9674
    @hkvideos9674 6 лет назад +1

    What do you talk about with your FWB? Do you talk about other men with your FWB?

  • @justme-so2en
    @justme-so2en 3 года назад

    The girl I’m seeing says she wants to go slow and just let love come to her, I’m fine with that but she’s calling me more and more after she’s even said she’s feeling a connection. Yes she still talks to other guys but she’s trying to make dates with me in two months ahead and even said she talks to me more then any one else. Is she falling for me and gonna be wanting a relationship ?

  • @daniellestaley9432
    @daniellestaley9432 5 лет назад +5

    Awesome advice and holy smokes, you're a cutie.

  • @Airendeau2095
    @Airendeau2095 3 месяца назад

    4:58 😂😂😂

  • @islamhassan7337
    @islamhassan7337 5 лет назад

    Your eyes man
    Your eyes

  • @lizvalenzuela4396
    @lizvalenzuela4396 5 лет назад

    Love it ❤️

  • @Anna-ew8nn
    @Anna-ew8nn 7 лет назад +2

    You reade my mind😑😻

  • @jennifers5718
    @jennifers5718 6 лет назад +2

    But what if my fwb is my coworker ...who I see every single day .....!!

    • @PhotoJeticPoet
      @PhotoJeticPoet 6 лет назад +11

      First mistake was fucking someone you work with.

    • @chrystal790
      @chrystal790 6 лет назад +2

      Same here mine is coworker and we jus ended now it’s mad awkward and sad cuz I like him so much and I get mad jealous and hurt when I see him talk to other girls or jus see him in general

  • @ac777ac
    @ac777ac 4 года назад

    Scream at the anti coke plug hahahahaha

  • @sonias9722
    @sonias9722 7 лет назад +2

    Where the hell are you :o

  • @MissSaraJan3
    @MissSaraJan3 2 года назад +1

    I disagree with who they’re seeing. But make it respectful and about you. Not your emotions. Ask if they’re seeing anyone else for sti safety and to inform you if it changes do you can stay healthy and safe. Bcus fck condoms lol 😂

  • @lilianamateies7930
    @lilianamateies7930 5 лет назад +2

    hahahaha you re late to the party :')

  • @bigenergy3880
    @bigenergy3880 2 года назад

    i already did with her she dont feel same way but seemed like she did.

  • @Prettylilvibe
    @Prettylilvibe 2 года назад

    See I was saying we shouldnt see EA everyday & they brushes it off bc thats what they were used to now .. im suffering bc Ik I get attached easy which Im workin on.. but I did all these things wrongly but now I want to be tg..& they dont rn so I just gotta do me & if they come around later cool but I cant wait around

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  • @mathewlarrigan2723
    @mathewlarrigan2723 6 лет назад

    Thankyou

  • @nilsabenitez2774
    @nilsabenitez2774 6 лет назад

    What to do if is your ex hubby and now he want to be my fuck buddy, but i dont want it to be him any more and besides he's dom/virgo, help Alex you know what i should do.

  • @rayarene4772
    @rayarene4772 5 лет назад +1

    What if they are unresponsive when you are trying to link

    • @jaysedits9492
      @jaysedits9492 5 лет назад

      Rachel Smith im in the same boat here

  • @allaboardthegravytrain5987
    @allaboardthegravytrain5987 3 месяца назад

    Dang

  • @globalreggaepromotio
    @globalreggaepromotio 7 лет назад +3

    your stuff is sometimes confusing

  • @MindfulAttraction2.0
    @MindfulAttraction2.0  5 лет назад +2

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  • @xmswayzemx
    @xmswayzemx 4 года назад +15

    Alex: Just do it for fun
    Me: I did! Then 6 months later...BOOM! All these emotions popped up out of NOWHERE and I caved into them...I became attached and by the time I told the dude it was too late. He had a girlfriend by then. Seeing pictures of them on his socials kills me T-T

  • @meerakolangi
    @meerakolangi 2 года назад +1

    Me trying not to concentrate on “fuck buddy” 🥲🥲🥲🥲