I couldn't finish listening to the lady and the realtor story, she dragged on forever 😭 but on the attraction comment , my husband doesn't really say if someone is good looking unless I ask him but he doesn't mind if I comment on a handsome guy
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I went on a first date with someone one time and we met up at a restaurant. He called me and told me that he dropped sunflower seeds in his car and he needed me to go help him pick them up and when I got to his car he had a bouquet of flowers waiting for me.
I think there is a difference between just acknowledging that someone is generally good-looking vs. admitting you are attracted to them specifically. You could watch the bachelor and acknowdlege that the season is filled w beautiful women vs saying like wow XXNAMEXX is hot or saying they are your type or something.
Oooof…….the caller’s guy was too much to start (maybe even love-bombing) and I wouldn’t trust him. Especially his mind f*ck game of twisting the story on to her (“I don’t think I can be with you….can’t trust you….”) . Stay away from anyone who needs to be fixed. A sob story early on is a red flag; he could be getting you to empathize and want to caretake. RUN!!!!!! Don’t ever look back.
Him blocking you from social media was him trying to get a reaction; he wanted you to engage. Sounds like he could be trying to get you to chase him and want him because after being all in, he pulls the plug. Sounds super manipulative. And meeting a guy at church does not exclude him from being shady. Some conmen go to places where vulnerable people are in order to take advantage.
For the military situation...sis don't do a huge move until you KNOW youre solid for no more than 2yrs. I was in the military, military family, married a military person, in relationships in the military and its not easy and the cheating is high. I hate to see women and men make these huge changes and end up starting over while the person in the military isnt as affected. Getting married is so common and quick in that environment because the living situation and benefits. If you go, set yourself up to where if you guys break up that you arent starting from the bottom and not fully dependent on him. If that isnt feasible then definitely dont do it.
To the women that think about moving. Don't do it right away. Maybe you could stay where you are and look for the job you can do it from home. Meanwhile he will settle there in new lactation. You will visit him and see how it feels to live there without completely changing your live. If it feels right and relationship is still good then revisit decision about moving there. Give yourself time to do it in the best way for you not for him. You should feel like this situation isn't about you losing everything but him. It shouldn't feel like a big sacrifice. Take a small steps in this new situation not a big one. Evaluate the situation after every single one of the change. For example: After you first visit in his new place, after you looking for a job from home, after (if you get one) starting new job, after living apart for 1-2 months. Do I miss him enough to change my life and move? and so on. Right now him telling you he doesn't want a long distance relationship is selfish on his part because he probably is scared to be there on his own. I think you could give yourself a time. Talk about a 3-6 month time frame about you staying where you are now and him going. It will give you much more information's and can give you clarity about what you should do. Right you can only speculate. With giving yourself that additional time you will have much more clear answers.
As far as commenting on the attractiveness of another person, I think it depends and theres a limit. My fiancé and I tend to do the same and have no problem mentioning it sometimes. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with either of us acknowledging the attractiveness of another person, like Nick said, especially if we both know they are. I just personally draw the line with people we have relationships with, but that’s just my insecurity. It’s hard to agree or disagree with Nick without any context.
Church girl. Run! I've been him, and you don't need all his addiction baggage and drama. He's working on his pain problems so he can't commit? He's messed up, and likely lying his ass off in many ways. Get out now, and don't look back.
Attractive comments: I think there’s a big difference between what is said and how. My husband and I are able to say “they’re conventionally attractive”, “they’re objectively good looking”, “that person is handsome/pretty/stunning” When it’s weird is when the way the person is commenting about it makes it sound like there is interest. For example we had a friend who mentioned 3-5 times in a story in front of her husband how hot her ex boyfriend was to a point where it made my husband and I uncomfortable and like she wasn’t over the person. I think it depends on the level of interest or simply how horny for the person you sound when discussing it 😂 Without more context from nick it’s hard to discern his specific conversation
To the girl who is debating on whether or not to move for this guy she is dating - she should ask herself how much ! realistically ! she can see herself staying with this guy for the rest of her life. Like are their values the same, do they want the same thing (marriage/kids/ vs not), religion, money!, etc etc all these big hard questions and sit down and talk to him and evaulate where they are and then decide. Maybe she doesn't have to move with him right away, maybe she moves in 6 months after him and then they will know what it truly feels like to to live without each other (absence makes the heart grow fonder) and know that it doesn't matter where they are in the world they are happy as long as they are together
you can like someone and absolutely not go for it bc you love your partner. why is it so weird, i never want to be scared of my lover, that would kill my friendship with my most favorite person in my life.
I personally don’t want to hear if someone is attractive or not… and I feel odd mentioning it to my boyfriend too. Unless it’s a celebrity or something like that. Attractiveness is so subjective so I don’t see it as a “fact” I see it as “it’s my opinion that their attractive” AKA “I am attracted to them” which feels a little threatening and hard to hear, even though it probably wasn’t intended to be
i think the realtor was pretty clear, he said he wasn't capable of a relationship, so just take his word for it and move on. You dont own him anything. Just because you met him at church doesn't mean he is a nice person, he seems very misleading.
Nick goes on for about 4- 5 minutes on whether u were to say people are attractive... He really rambles on so much and never gets to the essence of what he is trying to say ,,, he just from bulls and repeats & eventually it becomes nonsensical and irritating
I couldn't finish listening to the lady and the realtor story, she dragged on forever 😭 but on the attraction comment , my husband doesn't really say if someone is good looking unless I ask him but he doesn't mind if I comment on a handsome guy
MATCHMAKING YOUR LISTENERS IS THE BEST IDEA EVER! You would get so many new listeners and it would be so cool for us to get to know them before and hear about how it went after!
I went on a first date with someone one time and we met up at a restaurant. He called me and told me that he dropped sunflower seeds in his car and he needed me to go help him pick them up and when I got to his car he had a bouquet of flowers waiting for me.
I think there is a difference between just acknowledging that someone is generally good-looking vs. admitting you are attracted to them specifically. You could watch the bachelor and acknowdlege that the season is filled w beautiful women vs saying like wow XXNAMEXX is hot or saying they are your type or something.
So true come to think of it chemistry I’ve been attracted / connected to some perhaps not visibly as attractive but their heart was gold 💓
Oooof…….the caller’s guy was too much to start (maybe even love-bombing) and I wouldn’t trust him. Especially his mind f*ck game of twisting the story on to her (“I don’t think I can be with you….can’t trust you….”) . Stay away from anyone who needs to be fixed. A sob story early on is a red flag; he could be getting you to empathize and want to caretake. RUN!!!!!! Don’t ever look back.
Him blocking you from social media was him trying to get a reaction; he wanted you to engage. Sounds like he could be trying to get you to chase him and want him because after being all in, he pulls the plug. Sounds super manipulative. And meeting a guy at church does not exclude him from being shady. Some conmen go to places where vulnerable people are in order to take advantage.
For the military situation...sis don't do a huge move until you KNOW youre solid for no more than 2yrs. I was in the military, military family, married a military person, in relationships in the military and its not easy and the cheating is high. I hate to see women and men make these huge changes and end up starting over while the person in the military isnt as affected. Getting married is so common and quick in that environment because the living situation and benefits. If you go, set yourself up to where if you guys break up that you arent starting from the bottom and not fully dependent on him. If that isnt feasible then definitely dont do it.
To the women that think about moving. Don't do it right away. Maybe you could stay where you are and look for the job you can do it from home. Meanwhile he will settle there in new lactation. You will visit him and see how it feels to live there without completely changing your live. If it feels right and relationship is still good then revisit decision about moving there. Give yourself time to do it in the best way for you not for him. You should feel like this situation isn't about you losing everything but him. It shouldn't feel like a big sacrifice. Take a small steps in this new situation not a big one. Evaluate the situation after every single one of the change. For example: After you first visit in his new place, after you looking for a job from home, after (if you get one) starting new job, after living apart for 1-2 months. Do I miss him enough to change my life and move? and so on. Right now him telling you he doesn't want a long distance relationship is selfish on his part because he probably is scared to be there on his own. I think you could give yourself a time. Talk about a 3-6 month time frame about you staying where you are now and him going. It will give you much more information's and can give you clarity about what you should do. Right you can only speculate. With giving yourself that additional time you will have much more clear answers.
As far as commenting on the attractiveness of another person, I think it depends and theres a limit. My fiancé and I tend to do the same and have no problem mentioning it sometimes. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with either of us acknowledging the attractiveness of another person, like Nick said, especially if we both know they are. I just personally draw the line with people we have relationships with, but that’s just my insecurity. It’s hard to agree or disagree with Nick without any context.
Church girl. Run! I've been him, and you don't need all his addiction baggage and drama. He's working on his pain problems so he can't commit? He's messed up, and likely lying his ass off in many ways. Get out now, and don't look back.
Attractive comments: I think there’s a big difference between what is said and how. My husband and I are able to say “they’re conventionally attractive”, “they’re objectively good looking”, “that person is handsome/pretty/stunning”
When it’s weird is when the way the person is commenting about it makes it sound like there is interest. For example we had a friend who mentioned 3-5 times in a story in front of her husband how hot her ex boyfriend was to a point where it made my husband and I uncomfortable and like she wasn’t over the person. I think it depends on the level of interest or simply how horny for the person you sound when discussing it 😂
Without more context from nick it’s hard to discern his specific conversation
I’ve never had issues with a guy pointing out someone is attractive. I use that context often as well
To the girl who is debating on whether or not to move for this guy she is dating - she should ask herself how much ! realistically ! she can see herself staying with this guy for the rest of her life. Like are their values the same, do they want the same thing (marriage/kids/ vs not), religion, money!, etc etc all these big hard questions and sit down and talk to him and evaulate where they are and then decide. Maybe she doesn't have to move with him right away, maybe she moves in 6 months after him and then they will know what it truly feels like to to live without each other (absence makes the heart grow fonder) and know that it doesn't matter where they are in the world they are happy as long as they are together
you can like someone and absolutely not go for it bc you love your partner. why is it so weird, i never want to be scared of my lover, that would kill my friendship with my most favorite person in my life.
OMG - sometimes I wonder what planet your callers are from.
I dont think thats a fair comment - dating in this climate is incredibly difficult and people shouldn't be judged for the experiences they go through.
I personally don’t want to hear if someone is attractive or not… and I feel odd mentioning it to my boyfriend too. Unless it’s a celebrity or something like that. Attractiveness is so subjective so I don’t see it as a “fact” I see it as “it’s my opinion that their attractive” AKA “I am attracted to them” which feels a little threatening and hard to hear, even though it probably wasn’t intended to be
it was a celebrity
Lmfao the cat food thing. I can't!
i think the realtor was pretty clear, he said he wasn't capable of a relationship, so just take his word for it and move on. You dont own him anything. Just because you met him at church doesn't mean he is a nice person, he seems very misleading.
It’s like I love the ask questions episodes but Jesus does he talk over them. The last two women he just wouldn’t let them finish a sentence
In Nick's defense some of the callers do waffle on.
Good Lord this first story is never ending. Get to the point lol
Muscle relaxants are not opiates- totally fine to give to patients with a history of substance abuse - #coming from a pain specialist
Nick goes on for about 4- 5 minutes on whether u were to say people are attractive... He really rambles on so much and never gets to the essence of what he is trying to say ,,, he just from bulls and repeats & eventually it becomes nonsensical and irritating