I'm experiencing this right now. Getting divorced is probably one of the worst things that I could have gone through. It has definitely made me re-evaluate my life. I'm definitely gonna do everything I can to be a better man for my kids, my nephew & my nieces.
💯 mate my ex wife destroyed our 2 marriages for what turned out to be for nothing, guess who wanted back when I levelled up yep no thanks its not going well for her if we can get through the pain and get better physically financially us men can thrive I enjoyed having other females who knew my ex wife trying to take her place, stay strong brother all the best from the UK 🇬🇧
@@carlmarch9591 I appreciate the love my brother. I'm definitely gonna stay focused on my goals. I'm gonna do what I can to be a strong father for my kids.
@@wilfridjoseph6172 it's a slow process, but I know everything will fall into place for me. I'm gonna do what I can for myself, my nieces, my nephew & my children. I appreciate the love my brother.
fuck yeah, wife of 14 years, saved her life, wifed her. at the end she stabbed me in my back. finally I just realized that she is just a person that goes to the bathroom, nothing special.
A divorce and a failed engagement turned me into a super villain and I'm grateful for it . I realized that I'm the prize and I turned that pain in to my power.
Losing yourself in a relationship is a quite dangerous thing. I was in a horrible mental state and my best friend told me to move in with him and start a new life. I did just that and had to go to therapy and only after that my eyes where wide open and I could realize how deeply I lost myself in that relationship. Now I am back on track and I'm getting my new life ''back'' together and absolutely getting in shape. I'm not the type of guy that says ''She will regret her decision!'' but I truly believe in the ''Become the man she can't have anymore!'' motivation.
Heartbreak will make a man look deep within himself. It’ll shake you to your core seeing who you really are but that will be the never ending fuel that will propel you forward. “So embrace it with grace, the same grace shown to you by nature”
Im struggling here! after 17 years she left me. Im a year away from divorce. My kids choosed me to take care of them, I have their custody. But im feeling low yet, low on energy, and somewhat astray.... almost with no money, but i keep going. Seems like now everything is truly work, determination, even relationships. So now Im working in raising myself. I know that all good was mainly my struggle, my choice my love, not hers. Cheers to all who are fighting hard with this, be Blessed men, and never NEVER GIVE UP! NEVER SURRENDER.
women come and go, you will see that now being single but the most important thing is keeping them kids happy and showing them how strong you are, they will recognize that. Also do a lot of single parents activities with them its hella fun. Who knows you might run into someone to occupy your time. Good luck ! Been there done that !
Married for 18 years, together for 23. 3 daughters together. I did ALL the cooking, helped with cleaning, laundry, involved in kids activities, never cheated, let her go on trips to Vegas with her cousins and sister. But no matter what i did to show her i valued our Marriage as a Team, she never felt I appreciated her enough. Middle child was displaying Psychopath tendencies and when I disciplined her, it made things worse with Ex. To hear her say how I was such a Bad Husband and Father and only focus on negatives, hurt a lot. Lost my eyesight due to Glaucoma in right eye at 41 and had to have Cornea transplant and then 2 additional surgeries and go on Disability. She started to resent me not being able to provide and do all the things I use to be able to do like she was accustomed to. Left me at my worst and it's been 7 months since she filed and just found out she already has a new boyfriend of 3 months, introduced him to our 3 kids and told them not to tell me, and says she loves him and wants to move in with him. Just have to be the Best Dad I can from here on. Thanks for your Channel, it really helps us more than you know.
That’s what they’re hardwired through evolution to do. Leave you when your at your weakest for a stronger meathead. In todays world that strength they’re attracted to is also money. Men are in love and women are in business. The more we learn about them the less we can love them. I think as men we should normalize loving ourselves first.
I am experiencing this at the moment. Been with one lady from the time I was 16 years old. We were dating for 14 years and married for 7 years and I went through a tough time and she just ghosted me. I found out she wasn't respecting me and I was a loose Canon. She moved abroad for months now. Someone I saw every day and spoke to every day. I was honest and my eyes were stuck to only one. Now I am battling so many emotions and mental battles. I am working on me but its hard to get her out of my head. Its hard. I was blind. I guess I had to experience this. My first heart break.
Going through exactly the same thing Bud, I still have such strong feelings and love for her, she is seeing someone else and it hurts so bad, take care my brother, you in my thoughts and prayers, keep strong, you can do it.
Heartbreak initially was what it felt like. It hurt like hell but after allowing myself to grieve and reflect, I started to self-improve and focus mainly on myself. It get much easier as time goes by. These days you cannot pay me to get into another relationship. The red pill has awaken me from my blue pill stupor.
After Red Pilled i got Peace of my Life. For about 2 years ago. I thank God. ITS better to Focus on yourself. I bought my Dream Car, Motorbike and traveling around the World. They are too many Woman with Narcisstic or other disorders. The beautiful they are the more they are damaged. Damage are Not repairable. Anymore. RUN.
Good story, thanks for sharing. I recently got blindsided by my female too. Never would have thought she do me like that. Gave her everything I had and she threw it in trash. I was hurt at first, confused, but then I slowly got better. I realized she planed this, there nothing to fix. No conversation, no nothing. Never put a woman above yourself, she can destroy your world without explanation. And sometimes people are mentally damaged because you have given up too much to a temporary situation that you thought was permanent. Take your time, a long time ✌🏾
My bro!Amazing Video!!Heartbreaks converts BOYS to MAN!!Workhard on yrself guys...forgive her!But don't forget what she did....Work Hard and make her realise that she lost the moon in search of fucking star!!!Cheers 🤘
That heartbreak shit is no joke man. The baddest bitches could be trying to fuck you and you still wouldn’t be able to get her off your mind. It took me three years to be able to think about my ex having sex with somebody else. It’s light on the other side tho.
I felt the emotion and pain in this one. I respect how you were able to move on and set that standard that you won't date serious until you have your dream life.
I feel for you man, I went through it too, that's how I know, it takes some maturity and balls to talk about this stuff, on the positive side you probably dodged a bullet. Great content my friend
Still healing after my breakup it has been 4 months of no contact and perfect silence. There are moments where the pain comes back running back to me, but I have to understand that I am the prize and I will do my best to keep working on myself. Thanks Shuan for sharing your insight.
@@emanspi im in the same spot u were a year ago, 4 months no contact and sometimes the feelings come up.. Congratulations to you for finding someone better tho, we deserve that i guess :)
@@xTheR4ven yes of course we do. Just hang in there and keep positive. If you managed to find someone before it means that you can do it again :) trust me. I know it sucks and hurts as hell, but slowly it will get better. Take care!
Thank you brother for this video. My ex fiancee was only in it for the money. Do not give your time and love to any women! They will not appreciate you. They will tell you everything you want to hear. But it's all deception and lies. Stay strong and take care of yourself.
I experienced heartbreak. Found out what crush means. Learned the lesson and now in the process of making myself and business better. I'm already better. I lost weight. I'm stronger.
Bro, you done it again!!! This is next level content. Imma be real, nobody is doing this, it’s so simple and yet so concise. Sometimes I just listen with my headphones and zone out, other times I watch you as you speak. No gimmicks, just straight real talk. I appreciate it mate. It’s making me think about my now ex wife and how I was in the streets begging her to stay and on my knees, snot bubble and all, crying and begging her to stay. For the first time ever she just looked at me and said that I was pathetic! I never forgot that! It’s been my fuel to this day bro!!! It’s been 4 years since the split and I’m one exam away from getting a qualification that will get me a job that will mean I get my own place, my own car again and my debts cleared!!! I can finally build the life I’ve always dreamed of and can focus on myself and set myself up so that I can be an asset to my future wife and kids, especially my kids who will continue my legacy. I’d fallen off a bit on my journey but this video has reminded me and reignited the fire 🔥 Mad love bro 👊🏿
Bro thank you for this, I was seeing this girl that I fell for hard…dating for 9 months. I noticed a vibe she was hiding something for a while & 5 days ago, I’ve learned she’s been still legally married this whole time going through a divorce & never said anything to me. She blocked me as soon as I confronted her like a coward. It’s been tough but it’s definitely time to level up & move on from this experience & your video is definitely helping with that.
I'm currently in the process of picking up the pieces of a 5 year relationship. I feel the changing within myself, day-by-day...slowly but surely. Going through a myriad of feelings isn't easy...it comes in waves. The memories, at times, compound the pain, yet I rely on my faith in the Most High and sheer determination to pull me through...and just keep on going. 💪⏳
Heartbreak is terrible. I have carried such heartbreak for several decades. It doesn’t consume my everyday life,but it does still occupy a small part of me. The positive from heartbreak is you realize without a doubt that when you commit to someone by telling them you love them and will love them forever, it is pure truth. You realize you understand pure love. Reality is, their loss.
33rd Labor Day Weekend Wedding Anniversary. Same My OWN Father's Family TRADITIONAL BIG BBQ Labor Day Weekend Celebration and way BEFORE I was even born. But I am embarrassed for the fact my oldest son visited me in Atlanta from her mother's house in Chicago with her finally making me feel better than ever seeing him with my younger son. But I heard him ARGUING on his cellphone and asking just divorce each other. 'mom it's BEEN YEARS now and dad trying for contact with you and you still hooking UP with ALL these RANDOM dudes???? ' Her Exact Words 'HE IS NOT !!!! random. My wife texted picture to her son nude in bed (pov knees down to her feet laying on top that RANDOM Alabama dude) the worst of all his own mother said ' Mr R TOLD ME that tell your son to grow up get a life and move on and to be REAL and to be able for your mother's life and let her behavior not be a problem ' Unfortunately his REAL NAME was used. He is not new. My son and his seeing her relationship with especially Mr R TOLD him the best place and time. Labor Day Weekend BROWN family BBQ best way for hurting me to get in touch for only myself..but I know nowadays most sad and pray for her own life that she has no interest with him at least living in Chicago and same house with no job and 30 year old BLACK MAN under his own mother. He told me to not say anything about his relationship with her. But called me last week but no message from him. Needs help only to lend money. wow he has to learn how she'll be same as all men who are involved with her jezebel spirit.
I totally agree with you , last time i sat infront of her she was quiet sure of herself dumping me , i tried vainly , the most painfull thing in all that was the beging and the tears i shed for her cause they made me unvailuable and weak in her eyes as well as unecessary ...
I been in the exact same spot I got a long 8 page Text and got blocked on all phones I beg and cried the same way am still hurt to this day I got 14 years in but I healed up but a lil hurt
I, we appreciate you sharing your story Shaun. Great advice too!.......move on and take care of yourself. I've been broken 3 times now and this last one REALLY did a trip on me! I cut her off, changed my number, moved, got a new job and told her via email "do not ever contact me again - you just wasted my time with your BS, drama and games and I DESERVE better.....and I WILL do better too"! But you're right too Shaun, in that, like it or not we ALL get burned along the way - but we learn the most FROM that experience and it toughens us up AND opens one's eyes so we hopefully don't repeat it going forward. -Rick
I’m going through this now. Engaged and I bought a whole house and not even 24 full hours of her being there she up and says she can’t do this, Hopped in cab and went 70 miles back to her parents home. Left me there hurt confused and looking stupid. She won’t take my calls, very short with me through text. I feel like a damn fool.
Dude ! This is almost my exact story with the exception of the bachelor party. Thanks for making this video. Guys, NEVER LOOK BACK AT SOMEONE THAT LEAVES YOU ! They aren't worth the dirt under your feet. God took them out if your life because they weren't good enough for you. Work on yourself and live your best life. Living well is the best revenge. Take pleasure in your new life without someone that didn't appreciate you.
I went threw almost the exact same thing a year ago and it was the best thing to happen to me. I found myself I went into beast mode I got close with God I realized I needed to spend time with myself for once. The biggest thing I learned though on the real is that EVIL is real. It was sooooo hard when we broke up but what don’t kill you makes you stronger and as the Bible says we fall 7 times and get up 8 times. Thank you Shaun you really help me listening to you far as relating and healing and a lot of good points. I’m becoming my own KING
Yes indeed Shaun heart was very devasting, I did everything right and got betrayed, i always felt how can this happen and I did everything right, it showed me the true nature of a woman ✌️✌️✌️ the only way I was able to over it was to get me another woman, if I didn't do that I would have stayed focus on her, I appreciate your video I understand, that every thing happens for a reason, what's meant to be would be, what ain't meant to be won't be ✌️✌️✌️😧😧😧
Well said my brother iv hit rock bottom trying to pull myself out of a broken marriage your y best teacher your like my counciler given me the hard truth what I need to do to protect myself keep Doing a good job at your videos each day
I’m far away from her and I was feeling that she’s cheating on me so last night I asked her to share her screen shot and she doesn’t want until like 1 hour and she wanted to share it especially on WhatsApp and which that means she’s deleting msgs, thank you brother and all who fkd up right there.
Going through divorce right now. Been about 4 months in. Yea at first it was the worst. Crying and blaming myself but she wanted the divorce and I wanted to fight for us but she did not. Now I feel like I need to go through this because even though it hurts it also fuels me and making me see who I really am
Wow I really needed to watch this kind of video. I went pretty much through the same situation or even worse. I spent too much on the wedding and we had two beautiful kids. Suddenly she became a monster,a devil a narcissist and kicked me out of my own house. Now I'm going through a divorce which is something I never expected in my life.im trying to pick up the broken pieces of myself though it's hard. I lost everything and starting life from zero. My kids won't get the best from me due to the law system. But hopefully I'll get on my feet one day
you have no idea how much this helps me mentally/emotionally, I loved and cared for someone dearly and she left me like I was nothing, it's going to be hard but I will get through it, just want to say thank you bro
In a way I thank god my parents (specifically my mom whom is pretty much an alpha female) have always HAMMERED in my head to focus on myself and just walk my own path. As a byproduct of that it really helped me be very self reliant in a stubborn way (working on improving this area of my life even more), independent, goal driven/oriented without a sense of neediness. People this day ask me “why don’t you have a girlfriend or why are you not married?!” And I get a little annoyed by it because it almost come across as if people think I NEED to have a girlfriend or be married. I still keep my eyes open out there but never felt the NEED to have someone, and I have the mindset of if it works cool, if not, that’s fine.
i got a breakup last week. im getting stronger right nw. slowly i can live my life. it was really tough weeks for me. just remind this to yourself. ure not alone. we can do this, stay strong everyone. ❤ u guys.
Had the woman I was dating for months (after two years of knowing her) go back to her “ex” boyfriend and get engaged after ghosting me for a month and change. I only found out through social media. They’d been together for seven years, and she dumped him and refused the proposal just months ago, but now she’s engaged to him. Clearly an emotional response to me on her part. Crushing. Lost my job the day after. Now, I’m refocusing and working to level up.
I don’t know if heartbreak is the BEST thing that can happen to a man, but I’m Ok saying that it did help me become a more mature person. I was very lucky that this happened to me when I still young (pretty sure I was 20) and we did not children. We weren’t even married, yet it hurt so bad because I would’ve probably done anything for this girlfriend. Anyway, it opened my eyes to the nature of women and I stopped believing in the fairy tales. This was a good thing in retrospect, and I think other young men could benefit from it as well.
my girl didn’t say anything to me until one week she went to another guy’s house and lied about it and ofcourse i got jealous which led to her saying we’re over and that i’ve been toxic and that she hadn’t had feelings for months. I was devastated hearing it out of nowhere and now she’s in a relationship with him, which hurts. But this video really helped me man thank you! This is what i needed to hear to get my motivation back to move on.
This is some good stuff Shaun, just found your channel the other day and it’s valuable content. I went through a breakup somewhat recently and while I was sad at first, it’s made me grow into a better man overall and made me reevaluate my priorities in life
9:28 that’s the biggest mistake dudes make. Never let anyone know anything.. at all.. because you don’t know what’s going on. Even after the fact.. still let them know nothing!!
Whoa. Just watched your channel grow exponentially this whole week. Thanks for the great advice in your videos. Really got my head back in the game regarding women exes etc. Watched all your videos. Keep growing.
I'm experiencing this for now 3 weeks. My woman dumped me 3 weeks ago after 2 and half years together, we moved into together after a year and half. Because we both wanted to take that next step. She stated she was happy 90 % of the time in the relationship. But she had a lot of baggage / trauma the emotional abuse from her mom from 8 to 18 years old. She blames me for triggering her more than any B/F she's ever been with. She told me that she loved me more than any man, but then cut me down with the you trigger me more than any b/f. I would talk to her like and adult and someone that truly loved her, but she would always take something I said which was how I was feeling and shutdown and tell me that I cut her deep. She asked me to move in with her because we both wanted to take the next step. My ex had a lot of stuff in her place almost boarder line hoarding. She told me when I moved in we would work on it together because she doesn't want to live that way, and she knows how I'm nice and neat but not OCD wise. In the 11 months of living together, we would talk about wanting to have people over friends, family. Though as time went on it seemed she was only wanting to do something if I got frustrated. In a 11 months we did pretty good, but she still wasn't ready to have people over like we both agreed and talked about. Long story short after dating for 5 - 6 months she finally allowed me over her place, she stated the reason she took so long was because she was embarrassed by how she lives compared to me. I did mention to her that I was embarrassed by how we were living after 6 months. I even told her before I said that, that I was not blaming her that I was blaming us as a couple. I always used " Us" or " We" cause I want to be adults when we talk. Was I frustrated yes, was I blaming her no and I even asked if she felt I was speaking to her to intentionally hurt her, she said no. While yes I'm partially to blame for moving in and taking her word, talk should match the walk. She broke up with me with twice in 2 months out of no where while she was giving me mixed signals. I even wrote a letter to her family 2 weeks ago telling her family thankyou for making me feel part of their family and not an outsider. Because they always talked about how happy they were that my Ex finally had a good guy, and would always tell me they can't wait till we get married. Long story short she dumped me because I was holding her accountable to what we both agreed we would do together.
For you single guys maybe! But married, breaking up a family for her selfish reasons , I wouldn't say it was the best thing at all, but I'ma have to deal with unfortunately, and move on!
I go through this process too. After five years I really sorry to had the pain for losing her! Few men have an opportunity to go through painful breakup to transform their lives. I'm really happen that I'm one of them!
Exactly what I needed. Literally. I have devoured a lot of your videos recently. Just got heartbroken and I was feeling like shit... Now I know exactly what to do. I feel like in a few years I will be grateful about what im currently going through, that this situation made me stronger than ever and pushed me to go get what I fucking deserve, and be that monster that I always though I could be. Thank you Shaun.
I'm facing it severely right now, I'm in deep depression, can't do anything, I'm lost in pain , crying hurts so does memories, it's been 50days still hurts like shit , it's getting worse and worse everyday , I'm losing myself,nothing is helping literally nothing, i don't know what to do how to do , it's worse than dying 😢
Thank you for sharing. Went through something similar recently and it was the worse emotional experience of my life. The choice after is simple... You die inside or you grow, you improve. Women will be there anytime you have it together and they will all eventually leave if they see weakness.
Going through exactly that but its long distance instead, she started backing away and I hit panic mode and she lost feelings, currently on day 3 of the breakup, removed her from everything and I’m gymming and working a good job and planning on graduating and putting actual effort
My wife left me and my family at 50 - to be a single mom she abused me had affair and deatoyed my family and our home … I feel lost hurt and hopeless meanwhile I took care of myself went to the gym took us to great places and had a good life for us
Sorry about that situation. And fellas I feel y’all joined the wagon once again I am about to embark on the single life journey. I’m 61 yes old all set in life . Retired . Don’t look don’t feel my age . I am ready. Cheers from Montreal
Great video with valuable information. Please can you make a video on how to approach women. I'm having trouble approaching women, spark up a conversation and getting her number. Thanks for the information you are giving men out here 💯🔥.
Tbh honest, I don’t think it’s about villanizing one person over the other. Him/Her, doesn’t really matter, breakups happen for a reason, usually because something isn’t working. If anything, it is an opportunity to do better. But I agree, nobody should be simping for nobody. People just gotta be in the mindset of grinding and working on themselves.
That was painful to hear, because I've been there. Being divorced took a lot out of me, but your right be the best version of yourself. Things are slowly getting better. Thanks for the advice.
I really appreciated this vid.I went through the same type of situation in a 10 year marriage.Everything this guy said was right.Im now in the process of rebuilding myself.But them crazy emotions will never happen to me again when a relationship breaks up.
You can say that again... I will never allow another woman to get the best of me ever again... Trust me when the woman you love Walk out on you... You feel like you are going to die... I'm very happy I stood the test by being there for my children.. To all of the brothers out there.. who are going through some form of break up I say stay strong and focus you guys you will be fine just do not do anything stupid
Thank you so much for your honesty when telling us your testimony! I really appreciate that bro it let's all of us know its not just us and we are not alone and that is a very powerful thing!
If you dont learn from your trauma, if you cant get past it your mind is weak. A weak mind makes a weak man. Mfs that make excuse ie. My dad beat me, my mom was abusive, i was raped bla bla bla now im a drug addict, whos losing? Keepem comin brother. Thank you
I went through the same sh*t when i was joining college ... now I'm in my third year and life changed drastically ..... it was the best thing coz right now I'm focusing on my career .....
I felt this in my soul. I’m in the monstrous “Beast Mode” he refers too now after one month of separation. I am becoming the best version of myself regardless so I’m glad this happened. Thank you for your inspiration, motivation and sharing your story.
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Heartbreak from a woman is like a modern day passage to manhood from boy to man. The boy dies and the man is born.
Say that again bruh!!!
What? This is the best quote this year.
@@WhoIsThisMan287 say it for the bros in the back
Well said!
Thats a quote.
Being in panic mode while dealing with a woman is mentally exhausting n draining. Being single is peaceful.
I'm experiencing this right now. Getting divorced is probably one of the worst things that I could have gone through. It has definitely made me re-evaluate my life. I'm definitely gonna do everything I can to be a better man for my kids, my nephew & my nieces.
You got this bro, keep ya head up for real
things will get better bro me n my ex been seperated from Sept last year. My life has become phenomenally better and hers is becoming worst.
💯 mate my ex wife destroyed our 2 marriages for what turned out to be for nothing, guess who wanted back when I levelled up yep no thanks its not going well for her if we can get through the pain and get better physically financially us men can thrive I enjoyed having other females who knew my ex wife trying to take her place, stay strong brother all the best from the UK 🇬🇧
@@carlmarch9591 I appreciate the love my brother. I'm definitely gonna stay focused on my goals. I'm gonna do what I can to be a strong father for my kids.
@@wilfridjoseph6172 it's a slow process, but I know everything will fall into place for me. I'm gonna do what I can for myself, my nieces, my nephew & my children. I appreciate the love my brother.
fuck yeah, wife of 14 years, saved her life, wifed her. at the end she stabbed me in my back. finally I just realized that she is just a person that goes to the bathroom, nothing special.
A divorce and a failed engagement turned me into a super villain and I'm grateful for it . I realized that I'm the prize and I turned that pain in to my power.
Proverbs 31:3
3 Do not give your strength to women,
Nor your ways to that which destroys kings.
💯 preach fam
@@ShaunZachary bro u won't believe how much the Bible speaks against these women. Its unbelievable.. Check it out when u get a chance
Losing yourself in a relationship is a quite dangerous thing. I was in a horrible mental state and my best friend told me to move in with him and start a new life. I did just that and had to go to therapy and only after that my eyes where wide open and I could realize how deeply I lost myself in that relationship.
Now I am back on track and I'm getting my new life ''back'' together and absolutely getting in shape. I'm not the type of guy that says ''She will regret her decision!'' but I truly believe in the ''Become the man she can't have anymore!'' motivation.
Thankyou for being so real. Heartbreak is the worst but it turns us into men. I’m still getting through mine. She’s gonna regret it one day. ☝🏾
Stay strong ma man
@@MrBlackBase doing my best God is good thanks bro
Appreciate it man- Keep doing your thang and stay focused on the goal
They always do but stay strong and stay in ur lane that's my MoTTo!
Probably already has, she'll never let you know it though. Don't wait for confirmation, it's a fools game, and it shows you not really over her.
Heartbreak will make a man look deep within himself. It’ll shake you to your core seeing who you really are but that will be the never ending fuel that will propel you forward. “So embrace it with grace, the same grace shown to you by nature”
Im struggling here! after 17 years she left me. Im a year away from divorce. My kids choosed me to take care of them, I have their custody. But im feeling low yet, low on energy, and somewhat astray.... almost with no money, but i keep going. Seems like now everything is truly work, determination, even relationships. So now Im working in raising myself. I know that all good was mainly my struggle, my choice my love, not hers. Cheers to all who are fighting hard with this, be Blessed men, and never NEVER GIVE UP! NEVER SURRENDER.
You are not alone same situation may God help us all and bless every man out there
Kids choosing you is a sign she was the weak link. Go man. For the kids.
women come and go, you will see that now being single but the most important thing is keeping them kids happy and showing them how strong you are, they will recognize that. Also do a lot of single parents activities with them its hella fun. Who knows you might run into someone to occupy your time. Good luck ! Been there done that !
This video is 100% facts a break up makes you miserable or a monster. To be bitter or the best version of yourself.
There’s never a more motivated man then one that just got dumped/ rejected.
Married for 18 years, together for 23. 3 daughters together. I did ALL the cooking, helped with cleaning, laundry, involved in kids activities, never cheated, let her go on trips to Vegas with her cousins and sister. But no matter what i did to show her i valued our Marriage as a Team, she never felt I appreciated her enough. Middle child was displaying Psychopath tendencies and when I disciplined her, it made things worse with Ex. To hear her say how I was such a Bad Husband and Father and only focus on negatives, hurt a lot. Lost my eyesight due to Glaucoma in right eye at 41 and had to have Cornea transplant and then 2 additional surgeries and go on Disability. She started to resent me not being able to provide and do all the things I use to be able to do like she was accustomed to. Left me at my worst and it's been 7 months since she filed and just found out she already has a new boyfriend of 3 months, introduced him to our 3 kids and told them not to tell me, and says she loves him and wants to move in with him. Just have to be the Best Dad I can from here on. Thanks for your Channel, it really helps us more than you know.
Stay up brother 🤜🏼🤛🏼
Sheesh, she’s evil
Wtf
Sorry to hear this. Eventually this too will pass.
That’s what they’re hardwired through evolution to do. Leave you when your at your weakest for a stronger meathead. In todays world that strength they’re attracted to is also money. Men are in love and women are in business. The more we learn about them the less we can love them. I think as men we should normalize loving ourselves first.
I am experiencing this at the moment. Been with one lady from the time I was 16 years old. We were dating for 14 years and married for 7 years and I went through a tough time and she just ghosted me. I found out she wasn't respecting me and I was a loose Canon. She moved abroad for months now. Someone I saw every day and spoke to every day. I was honest and my eyes were stuck to only one. Now I am battling so many emotions and mental battles. I am working on me but its hard to get her out of my head. Its hard. I was blind. I guess I had to experience this. My first heart break.
I'm experiencing the same thing right now. The best thing you can do is hit the gym. Also go to a therapist & take care of your mental health.
Keep ya head up bro
Going through exactly the same thing Bud, I still have such strong feelings and love for her, she is seeing someone else and it hurts so bad, take care my brother, you in my thoughts and prayers, keep strong, you can do it.
Be strong bro, you are gonna learn a lot from this. A huge hug.
Are you doing better now?
How similar your breakup story to mine !!
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Guys dont take those chicks so seriously!
And watch her actions, not her words!!
Heartbreak initially was what it felt like. It hurt like hell but after allowing myself to grieve and reflect, I started to self-improve and focus mainly on myself. It get much easier as time goes by. These days you cannot pay me to get into another relationship. The red pill has awaken me from my blue pill stupor.
She let a real one go
💯💯💯
After Red Pilled i got Peace of my Life. For about 2 years ago. I thank God. ITS better to Focus on yourself. I bought my Dream Car, Motorbike and traveling around the World. They are too many Woman with Narcisstic or other disorders. The beautiful they are the more they are damaged. Damage are Not repairable. Anymore. RUN.
What doesn’t hurt you certainly makes you stronger.
what doesn't kill you*
Good story, thanks for sharing. I recently got blindsided by my female too. Never would have thought she do me like that. Gave her everything I had and she threw it in trash. I was hurt at first, confused, but then I slowly got better. I realized she planed this, there nothing to fix. No conversation, no nothing. Never put a woman above yourself, she can destroy your world without explanation. And sometimes people are mentally damaged because you have given up too much to a temporary situation that you thought was permanent. Take your time, a long time ✌🏾
To the heartbroken guys out there, it's good to realize you need to still work on yourself but don't slip into darkness. Trust God, stay blessed
My bro!Amazing Video!!Heartbreaks converts BOYS to MAN!!Workhard on yrself guys...forgive her!But don't forget what she did....Work Hard and make her realise that she lost the moon in search of fucking star!!!Cheers 🤘
Facts bro
That heartbreak shit is no joke man. The baddest bitches could be trying to fuck you and you still wouldn’t be able to get her off your mind. It took me three years to be able to think about my ex having sex with somebody else. It’s light on the other side tho.
I felt the emotion and pain in this one. I respect how you were able to move on and set that standard that you won't date serious until you have your dream life.
A man I like this guy.
I feel for you man, I went through it too, that's how I know, it takes some maturity and balls to talk about this stuff, on the positive side you probably dodged a bullet. Great content my friend
Appreciate you bro
Still healing after my breakup it has been 4 months of no contact and perfect silence. There are moments where the pain comes back running back to me, but I have to understand that I am the prize and I will do my best to keep working on myself. Thanks Shuan for sharing your insight.
Did she come back?
@@fireblade8905 nope. But im with someone else now and more than happy :)
@@emanspi im in the same spot u were a year ago, 4 months no contact and sometimes the feelings come up.. Congratulations to you for finding someone better tho, we deserve that i guess :)
@@xTheR4ven yes of course we do. Just hang in there and keep positive. If you managed to find someone before it means that you can do it again :) trust me. I know it sucks and hurts as hell, but slowly it will get better. Take care!
Thank you brother for this video. My ex fiancee was only in it for the money. Do not give your time and love to any women! They will not appreciate you. They will tell you everything you want to hear. But it's all deception and lies. Stay strong and take care of yourself.
I experienced heartbreak. Found out what crush means. Learned the lesson and now in the process of making myself and business better. I'm already better. I lost weight. I'm stronger.
Bro, you done it again!!! This is next level content. Imma be real, nobody is doing this, it’s so simple and yet so concise. Sometimes I just listen with my headphones and zone out, other times I watch you as you speak. No gimmicks, just straight real talk. I appreciate it mate. It’s making me think about my now ex wife and how I was in the streets begging her to stay and on my knees, snot bubble and all, crying and begging her to stay. For the first time ever she just looked at me and said that I was pathetic! I never forgot that! It’s been my fuel to this day bro!!! It’s been 4 years since the split and I’m one exam away from getting a qualification that will get me a job that will mean I get my own place, my own car again and my debts cleared!!! I can finally build the life I’ve always dreamed of and can focus on myself and set myself up so that I can be an asset to my future wife and kids, especially my kids who will continue my legacy. I’d fallen off a bit on my journey but this video has reminded me and reignited the fire 🔥 Mad love bro 👊🏿
PS: Could you do a video on whether to date and be in relationships with single mums or not? Thanks
@@aldogg1987 Thank you bro! And I am going to stay away from the single mom topic for now. Maybe in the future though..
Bro. I know you posted this a long time ago. But these words came from the heart. I hope you're still focused on your journey, and God Bless fam 🙏🏾
Bro thank you for this, I was seeing this girl that I fell for hard…dating for 9 months. I noticed a vibe she was hiding something for a while & 5 days ago, I’ve learned she’s been still legally married this whole time going through a divorce & never said anything to me. She blocked me as soon as I confronted her like a coward. It’s been tough but it’s definitely time to level up & move on from this experience & your video is definitely helping with that.
No doubt bro 👊🏼
I'm currently in the process of picking up the pieces of a 5 year relationship. I feel the changing within myself, day-by-day...slowly but surely. Going through a myriad of feelings isn't easy...it comes in waves. The memories, at times, compound the pain, yet I rely on my faith in the Most High and sheer determination to pull me through...and just keep on going. 💪⏳
3 years I’m not even gonna throw in the half
Going through the same thing currently
Heartbreak is terrible. I have carried such heartbreak for several decades. It doesn’t consume my everyday life,but it does still occupy a small part of me. The positive from heartbreak is you realize without a doubt that when you commit to someone by telling them you love them and will love them forever, it is pure truth. You realize you understand pure love. Reality is, their loss.
He about to BLOW UP RUclips!!! keep them coming bro
Will do, bro appreciate you
Im in process of divorce after 15 years of marriage. She just lost it over night. Im totaly focked up. And the kids, the kids are in the mix...
33rd Labor Day Weekend Wedding Anniversary. Same My OWN Father's Family TRADITIONAL BIG BBQ Labor Day Weekend Celebration and way BEFORE I was even born. But I am embarrassed for the fact my oldest son visited me in Atlanta from her mother's house in Chicago with her finally making me feel better than ever seeing him with my younger son. But I heard him ARGUING on his cellphone and asking just divorce each other. 'mom it's BEEN YEARS now and dad trying for contact with you and you still hooking UP with ALL these RANDOM dudes???? ' Her Exact Words 'HE IS NOT !!!! random. My wife texted picture to her son nude in bed (pov knees down to her feet laying on top that RANDOM Alabama dude) the worst of all his own mother said ' Mr R TOLD ME that tell your son to grow up get a life and move on and to be REAL and to be able for your mother's life and let her behavior not be a problem ' Unfortunately his REAL NAME was used. He is not new. My son and his seeing her relationship with especially Mr R TOLD him the best place and time. Labor Day Weekend BROWN family BBQ best way for hurting me to get in touch for only myself..but I know nowadays most sad and pray for her own life that she has no interest with him at least living in Chicago and same house with no job and 30 year old BLACK MAN under his own mother. He told me to not say anything about his relationship with her. But called me last week but no message from him. Needs help only to lend money. wow he has to learn how she'll be same as all men who are involved with her jezebel spirit.
My Brother… You have told my exact EXACT same story.. I’m 50 and just went through it..4yrs down the drain.. But man oh man…YOUR STORY IS IDENTICAL!!!
Stay up ⬆️ bro
Brother hearing your story is a relief because i am in rock bottom too
Thanks man very good content
I totally agree with you , last time i sat infront of her she was quiet sure of herself dumping me , i tried vainly , the most painfull thing in all that was the beging and the tears i shed for her cause they made me unvailuable and weak in her eyes as well as unecessary ...
I been in the exact same spot I got a long 8 page Text and got blocked on all phones I beg and cried the same way am still hurt to this day I got 14 years in but I healed up but a lil hurt
I, we appreciate you sharing your story Shaun. Great advice too!.......move on and take care of yourself. I've been broken 3 times now and this last one REALLY did a trip on me! I cut her off, changed my number, moved, got a new job and told her via email "do not ever contact me again - you just wasted my time with your BS, drama and games and I DESERVE better.....and I WILL do better too"!
But you're right too Shaun, in that, like it or not we ALL get burned along the way - but we learn the most FROM that experience and it toughens us up AND opens one's eyes so we hopefully don't repeat it going forward.
-Rick
Yessir bro 💪🏼
I’m going through this now. Engaged and I bought a whole house and not even 24 full hours of her being there she up and says she can’t do this, Hopped in cab and went 70 miles back to her parents home. Left me there hurt confused and looking stupid. She won’t take my calls, very short with me through text. I feel like a damn fool.
Dude ! This is almost my exact story with the exception of the bachelor party. Thanks for making this video. Guys, NEVER LOOK BACK AT SOMEONE THAT LEAVES YOU ! They aren't worth the dirt under your feet. God took them out if your life because they weren't good enough for you. Work on yourself and live your best life. Living well is the best revenge. Take pleasure in your new life without someone that didn't appreciate you.
I went threw almost the exact same thing a year ago and it was the best thing to happen to me. I found myself I went into beast mode I got close with God I realized I needed to spend time with myself for once. The biggest thing I learned though on the real is that EVIL is real. It was sooooo hard when we broke up but what don’t kill you makes you stronger and as the Bible says we fall 7 times and get up 8 times. Thank you Shaun you really help me listening to you far as relating and healing and a lot of good points. I’m becoming my own KING
Yes indeed Shaun heart was very devasting, I did everything right and got betrayed, i always felt how can this happen and I did everything right, it showed me the true nature of a woman ✌️✌️✌️ the only way I was able to over it was to get me another woman, if I didn't do that I would have stayed focus on her, I appreciate your video I understand, that every thing happens for a reason, what's meant to be would be, what ain't meant to be won't be ✌️✌️✌️😧😧😧
Well said my brother iv hit rock bottom trying to pull myself out of a broken marriage your y best teacher your like my counciler given me the hard truth what I need to do to protect myself keep Doing a good job at your videos each day
I’m far away from her and I was feeling that she’s cheating on me so last night I asked her to share her screen shot and she doesn’t want until like 1 hour and she wanted to share it especially on WhatsApp and which that means she’s deleting msgs, thank you brother and all who fkd up right there.
Going through divorce right now. Been about 4 months in. Yea at first it was the worst. Crying and blaming myself but she wanted the divorce and I wanted to fight for us but she did not. Now I feel like I need to go through this because even though it hurts it also fuels me and making me see who I really am
Knowing that after getting break up from my girl seems it made me more stronger than ever
Wow I really needed to watch this kind of video. I went pretty much through the same situation or even worse. I spent too much on the wedding and we had two beautiful kids. Suddenly she became a monster,a devil a narcissist and kicked me out of my own house. Now I'm going through a divorce which is something I never expected in my life.im trying to pick up the broken pieces of myself though it's hard. I lost everything and starting life from zero. My kids won't get the best from me due to the law system. But hopefully I'll get on my feet one day
Same for me bro but we will bounce back
This video hit me at just the right time. Currently at rock bottom after a breakup, but fighting every day to get back up. Thank you bro 🙏
I'm in the same boat as you brother. Just broke off my engagement recently. We will get stronger daily. Believe it bro 🙏
Bro is out here saving mf’s lives! You synthesized how you can take heartbreak and turn it into MASSIVE SUCCESS!
Facts bro that’s the goal. Appreciate you
Loved her for 35 years, since the 6th grade. All about herself and her feelings though. Still hurts
Same my man…..same. They have no control over their behavior when they get emotional.
you have no idea how much this helps me mentally/emotionally, I loved and cared for someone dearly and she left me like I was nothing, it's going to be hard but I will get through it, just want to say thank you bro
No doubt bro 🤜🏼 🤛🏼
In a way I thank god my parents (specifically my mom whom is pretty much an alpha female) have always HAMMERED in my head to focus on myself and just walk my own path. As a byproduct of that it really helped me be very self reliant in a stubborn way (working on improving this area of my life even more), independent, goal driven/oriented without a sense of neediness. People this day ask me “why don’t you have a girlfriend or why are you not married?!” And I get a little annoyed by it because it almost come across as if people think I NEED to have a girlfriend or be married. I still keep my eyes open out there but never felt the NEED to have someone, and I have the mindset of if it works cool, if not, that’s fine.
i got a breakup last week. im getting stronger right nw. slowly i can live my life. it was really tough weeks for me. just remind this to yourself. ure not alone. we can do this, stay strong everyone.
❤ u guys.
YOU'RE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR OWN HAPPINESS THAN SOMEONE ELSE IF YOU CHOSE TOO
Had the woman I was dating for months (after two years of knowing her) go back to her “ex” boyfriend and get engaged after ghosting me for a month and change. I only found out through social media. They’d been together for seven years, and she dumped him and refused the proposal just months ago, but now she’s engaged to him. Clearly an emotional response to me on her part. Crushing. Lost my job the day after. Now, I’m refocusing and working to level up.
You got this brodie ✊🏼
I like how honest you are man rare to see these days mate.
Thanks my guy
I don’t know if heartbreak is the BEST thing that can happen to a man, but I’m Ok saying that it did help me become a more mature person.
I was very lucky that this happened to me when I still young (pretty sure I was 20) and we did not children. We weren’t even married, yet it hurt so bad because I would’ve probably done anything for this girlfriend. Anyway, it opened my eyes to the nature of women and I stopped believing in the fairy tales. This was a good thing in retrospect, and I think other young men could benefit from it as well.
Man you're a true philosopher in this domain. Speaking literal facts and reality, ideal thoughts. Much needed. Respect sir, subscribed. What A King!
My man 🤜🏼🤛🏼 💯💯
my girl didn’t say anything to me until one week she went to another guy’s house and lied about it and ofcourse i got jealous which led to her saying we’re over and that i’ve been toxic and that she hadn’t had feelings for months. I was devastated hearing it out of nowhere and now she’s in a relationship with him, which hurts. But this video really helped me man thank you! This is what i needed to hear to get my motivation back to move on.
No doubt bro. Keep pushing forward 💪🏼
This is some good stuff Shaun, just found your channel the other day and it’s valuable content. I went through a breakup somewhat recently and while I was sad at first, it’s made me grow into a better man overall and made me reevaluate my priorities in life
Thanks, Julius. Keep ya head up fam
Going through that now
I lost who I was when this started
Hang in there bro, stay on your grind. It'll all work out in the end
I know the feeling brother. Stay strong!
This channel deserves million viewers
Respect bro✊
9:28 that’s the biggest mistake dudes make. Never let anyone know anything.. at all.. because you don’t know what’s going on. Even after the fact.. still let them know nothing!!
Thanks man for being too honest to tell us these things that clearly shows how u moved on like a beast and being the beast itself, keep it up 👍
This make my heart overcome the pain i endure since my girlfriend cheated on me. Thank you sir 💪
Didn’t know this Failed engagement B.S was a thing . Jesus Christ this vid is spot on
Whoa. Just watched your channel grow exponentially this whole week.
Thanks for the great advice in your videos. Really got my head back in the game regarding women exes etc.
Watched all your videos. Keep growing.
Thanks, Earl ✊🏼
I'm experiencing this for now 3 weeks. My woman dumped me 3 weeks ago after 2 and half years together, we moved into together after a year and half. Because we both wanted to take that next step. She stated she was happy 90 % of the time in the relationship. But she had a lot of baggage / trauma the emotional abuse from her mom from 8 to 18 years old. She blames me for triggering her more than any B/F she's ever been with. She told me that she loved me more than any man, but then cut me down with the you trigger me more than any b/f. I would talk to her like and adult and someone that truly loved her, but she would always take something I said which was how I was feeling and shutdown and tell me that I cut her deep. She asked me to move in with her because we both wanted to take the next step. My ex had a lot of stuff in her place almost boarder line hoarding. She told me when I moved in we would work on it together because she doesn't want to live that way, and she knows how I'm nice and neat but not OCD wise. In the 11 months of living together, we would talk about wanting to have people over friends, family. Though as time went on it seemed she was only wanting to do something if I got frustrated. In a 11 months we did pretty good, but she still wasn't ready to have people over like we both agreed and talked about.
Long story short after dating for 5 - 6 months she finally allowed me over her place, she stated the reason she took so long was because she was embarrassed by how she lives compared to me. I did mention to her that I was embarrassed by how we were living after 6 months. I even told her before I said that, that I was not blaming her that I was blaming us as a couple. I always used " Us" or " We" cause I want to be adults when we talk. Was I frustrated yes, was I blaming her no and I even asked if she felt I was speaking to her to intentionally hurt her, she said no. While yes I'm partially to blame for moving in and taking her word, talk should match the walk. She broke up with me with twice in 2 months out of no where while she was giving me mixed signals. I even wrote a letter to her family 2 weeks ago telling her family thankyou for making me feel part of their family and not an outsider. Because they always talked about how happy they were that my Ex finally had a good guy, and would always tell me they can't wait till we get married. Long story short she dumped me because I was holding her accountable to what we both agreed we would do together.
I fucked up my relationship and she left. Now I’m trying to build myself up. Great video!
Did she come back?
@@fireblade8905 fuck no
I did as well, it gets better
For you single guys maybe! But married, breaking up a family for her selfish reasons , I wouldn't say it was the best thing at all, but I'ma have to deal with unfortunately, and move on!
"I didn't have any one in my life giving this lesson" Salut
Thanks bro I'm going through it right now gave her everything I had, we were engaged and we have a son.
In time men need to learn that pain is a choice.
This happened to me this past Saturday and I def has to wake up because I sounded and looked weak for trynna convince someone to stay
I go through this process too. After five years I really sorry to had the pain for losing her!
Few men have an opportunity to go through painful breakup to transform their lives. I'm really happen that I'm one of them!
Only after your heart is broken, can you love as a courageous decision.
Jordan Peterson
Yes the pain is something else , I’ve struggled to .
Exactly what I needed. Literally. I have devoured a lot of your videos recently. Just got heartbroken and I was feeling like shit... Now I know exactly what to do. I feel like in a few years I will be grateful about what im currently going through, that this situation made me stronger than ever and pushed me to go get what I fucking deserve, and be that monster that I always though I could be. Thank you Shaun.
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I'm facing it severely right now, I'm in deep depression, can't do anything, I'm lost in pain , crying hurts so does memories, it's been 50days still hurts like shit , it's getting worse and worse everyday , I'm losing myself,nothing is helping literally nothing, i don't know what to do how to do , it's worse than dying 😢
This was well timed
Thank you for sharing. Went through something similar recently and it was the worse emotional experience of my life. The choice after is simple... You die inside or you grow, you improve. Women will be there anytime you have it together and they will all eventually leave if they see weakness.
Going through exactly that but its long distance instead, she started backing away and I hit panic mode and she lost feelings, currently on day 3 of the breakup, removed her from everything and I’m gymming and working a good job and planning on graduating and putting actual effort
My wife left me and my family at 50 - to be a single mom she abused me had affair and deatoyed my family and our home … I feel lost hurt and hopeless meanwhile I took care of myself went to the gym took us to great places and had a good life for us
Sorry about that situation. And fellas I feel y’all joined the wagon once again I am about to embark on the single life journey. I’m 61 yes old all set in life . Retired . Don’t look don’t feel my age . I am ready. Cheers from Montreal
Great video with valuable information. Please can you make a video on how to approach women. I'm having trouble approaching women, spark up a conversation and getting her number. Thanks for the information you are giving men out here 💯🔥.
Tbh honest, I don’t think it’s about villanizing one person over the other. Him/Her, doesn’t really matter, breakups happen for a reason, usually because something isn’t working. If anything, it is an opportunity to do better. But I agree, nobody should be simping for nobody. People just gotta be in the mindset of grinding and working on themselves.
That was painful to hear, because I've been there. Being divorced took a lot out of me, but your right be the best version of yourself. Things are slowly getting better. Thanks for the advice.
I really appreciated this vid.I went through the same type of situation in a 10 year marriage.Everything this guy said was right.Im now in the process of rebuilding myself.But them crazy emotions will never happen to me again when a relationship breaks up.
You can say that again... I will never allow another woman to get the best of me ever again... Trust me when the woman you love Walk out on you... You feel like you are going to die... I'm very happy I stood the test by being there for my children.. To all of the brothers out there.. who are going through some form of break up I say stay strong and focus you guys you will be fine just do not do anything stupid
Love your channel bro. Greetings from Cyprus 🇨🇾
Yessir welcome bro
Thank you so much for your honesty when telling us your testimony! I really appreciate that bro it let's all of us know its not just us and we are not alone and that is a very powerful thing!
Much love bro 🤜🏼🤛🏼
If you dont learn from your trauma, if you cant get past it your mind is weak. A weak mind makes a weak man. Mfs that make excuse ie. My dad beat me, my mom was abusive, i was raped bla bla bla now im a drug addict, whos losing? Keepem comin brother. Thank you
Facts bro, we’ve all got something to overcome.
Man that is horrific. Thanks for sharing.
Now she's another guys problem.
I went through the same sh*t when i was joining college ... now I'm in my third year and life changed drastically ..... it was the best thing coz right now I'm focusing on my career
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Damn Brother, thanks for sharing. The greater the pain leaving our body, shows how deep that weakness was buried. I'm subscribing!
Respect bro ✊🏼
I had mine. When I look back on it I feel extreme pride for what a hard mf I was to get thru that, it turned me into an unbreakable savage.
Going Thru the same thing u explained. Love the info and the knowledge bro ! Good info!
God bless you brother.. thank you so much.
I felt this in my soul. I’m in the monstrous “Beast Mode” he refers too now after one month of separation. I am becoming the best version of myself regardless so I’m glad this happened. Thank you for your inspiration, motivation and sharing your story.
Thank you for watching 🙏🏻