The Reality Behind Online Facades and Authentic Relationships | Kier and Noémie
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- Опубликовано: 19 окт 2024
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My why for listening to yall is I’m an unmarried guy who didn’t grow up with married parents. I’m just trying to stay married when the day comes
There’s actually so many things I love about the Sit DownTalk.
1. Personal development
2. Realistic and helpful ways for conflict resolution that apply to all relationships, romantic or platonic
3. Hearing the duality of being married and parents.
4. Refreshing to hear honest conversations.
5. Everything about this podcast is approachable. Opinions and thoughts said here, don’t feel condescending or “better than thou”. It feels like things learned through lived experiences or things you’ve seen in REAL life.
6. Not redundant! I’m so happy yall don’t just talk about masculinity/femininity, who should pay, 50/50 like most with a mic do.
7. Y’all are hilarious 😂
All of this! Their conversations are insightful and refreshing.
Next sit down talk: Tell us how/why Noemie balance being seemingly traditional but modern wife and mother. I have an issue with letting go of control and being domineering and that looks like one of the changes you made since E. You seem lite and fluffy about life again and i want that
The newborn stuff real. My wife thought I wasn’t there at all. Like she forgot I was there. Gotta give grace. lol
Noemi your standards/expectations do NOT sound bad! We're SUPPOSED to have healthy expectations. I think too many women are TOO IMPRESSED by the bare minimum. So I LOVE IT. And I had to do some inner work to come out of the energy of being ok with bare minimum. So shout out to your parents because it definitely starts there.
My name is Marine Green and I’m a licensed therapist working with people with trauma and relationships. I adore you guys! You are both very insightful, mature, and changing the culture of the relational world. So proud of you two. You remind me of my husband and I a lot! Keep doing
What you’re doing! People should hear what you have to say!
You are baaaaaaaaccckk. Stop everything we are doing, let's get some snacks and let's watch.❤❤
I’m definitely a repeat offender. I watch because I like the dialogue between you two. And you make sure people know marriage is work
My favorite thing about listening to y'all is the fact that y'all are different yet the same in how y'all see what works for y'all
Yaayyyy my faves are back!! Also yes camera quality and setup!!!
Completely agree w/ Kier about Valentine's Day.😂
I'm watching this because I am a therapist and I'm always interested in other therapists' views on relationships among other topics. Also the fact that ya'll are not smug in your approach with these topics. Everything is not all proper like some people expect therapists to be.
PREACH. Thank you for openness with us. AND...YALL are RIGHT. Social media is NOT a safe space. Thank you for sharing what you are comfortable sharing.
I listen to you guys because I enjoy hearing your perspectives on different things , I like your personalities honestly..that’s WHY I watch.
What I enjoy about the sit down talk, is ya'll ability to talk with out beefing. Holding space to be free.
I’m glad y’all are back!! My “why” for watching is because it gives me hope that one day I’ll meet my person and have better tools to navigate a healthy relationship! Y’all are really genuine!
I can’t believe it!!!!! I’m crying!!!! 😢 lol I am the repeat offender!!!! Surprise surprise!!!!! I saw you two on my screen and said NO! WHAT?!!! Love it! Happy you two are BACK BABY!!!!!!🫶🏽
My fave thing about the sit down talk is seeing black couples be authentic in every sense of Naomi’s definition! The world needs to see us!
Yay, glad you guys are back!
I enjoy watching/listening to real talk honestly, no fluff, no cut cards lol yall keep it a stack and it's appreciated in this social media realm of fake/overly curated relationship/marriage content.
This is the second episode I’ve watched of you two. The authenticity and grace you provide to each other is admirable. I don’t watch relationship sit down talks /podcasts either because often times I can sense the inauthenticity. Or it’s just simply too surface level for me. The way you two hold space for each other emotionally and mentally is something I desire to learn to do for myself first before getting into a relationship ☺️🙌🏾
They would have hit you with the “He’s a good man Savannah” 😂😂
My 57 year old behind absolutely love you guys! No one does it quite like you all! When I say, not 1 romantic relationship do I have however, I learn so much about ME from tuning in. Thank you so very much! ❤❤
Thanks for being here 🙏🏿
Married to a therapist not an enabler! As a therapist I felt that! Love it ❤and lol at Noemie what is your why that’s definitely how I speak I can’t help it either all the inner work 😂
I absolutely love the sit down talk because you two seem genuine, you’re not just putting out content to put it out there’s a purpose. I aspire to have a healthy relationship someday (fingers crossed) and I feel like you two have that and constantly work to maintain it based on what’s availible for me to see anyways. This channel has been a vibe forever idc what y’all post, I’m watching! 🤝🏾
I wish I could talk with y'all, not to give opinions on y'all life, but share the perspective of someone watching that's also hyper aware of self.
Just like, Kier, you said you like hearing different perspectives on love and such, I'm watching y'all for the same reason. The difference from some people is that I understand it's just a small part of one perspective- to me it's like duh?! I don't y'all are sittin down philosophizing all day!
I'm also in a really good relationship, so others who are not might not have seen that in great relationships, they still hurt you, get on your nerves, have to grow, etc. But the reason why I like listening to yall is because I can tell that's the message your sharing. A real perspective can change people's lives, and I like listening to people who are doing it.
Stay blessed yall
My first time here. When she said, “What is your why?” And he dropped his head, I felt that 😂
😂😂"moist" is MY cringe word too!😂😂
MY WHY is you 2 are ACTUALLY giving other people/couples a “starting - middle point to WORK with via Communication” that MIGHT not EXIST this minute , this second, this week, this moment. IJS
Transitional “Relationship” begins with a Friendship BUT that’s just my VIEW 👊🏽 👏👏👏👏
Okay, to keep it real: I appreciate the dialogue y’all share with each other. I also like seeing y’all think aloud in unison.
I swear, I prematurely got triggered and offended so many times for both of y’all before I realized I was misjudging your delivery and your words too quickly 😂. I also had to sit back and think about how this dynamic( vlogging and sit-down talks) is only a piece of fraction of insight into your marriage and relationship no matter how much you are comfortable sharing, we the audience still don’t know everything, nor do we need to. It made me consider how much I have to learn and unlearn in regards to relationships, roles, and personal developments as well as managing perspectives and expectations.
almost dropped my phone when I saw you guys post.😩 welcome back guys 🥳my notifications were on and I wasn’t even notified you guys dropped a video ☹️
Thank you both for sharing the "tender" video. Kier, thank you for being open about your reservations on revisiting the topic and how it might make you look. It is people like you two being vulnerable and expressing real-life, relatable experiences that keep the OGs coming back to your videos. We do believe you and Noemie are great parents and spouses.
*Me clicking like before I even get past the intro because I'm just happy y'all are back and I already KNOW this is going to be good!!!*
Glad yall are back. I clicked on this so fast.😊
Her smile drew me in, I’m subscribing after hearing the content ❤
I honestly was super excited seeing a new episode.
I like when you go in the rabbit holes because the conversation is real and it is refreshing to see semi-real processing between you two.
Only my 2nd episode but I enjoy watching you 2 interact. As an advisor, I also think Kier is wise to be so "young", so it's refreshing to see this young black man share his knowledge. And NOW I enjoy watching his adorable "Divine counterpart" who seems to perfectly MIRROR his intellect. So it's a cool environment all around.
The rabbit holess aree everythingg lol
We've missed yall!!! Thank you for coming back and congrats on all the success!!!
I love the openness ❤ DROP THE LIST😂😂😂
Well well well look at what we have here!!! WELCOME THE HEYLL BACK!! 👏🏾👏🏾
You guys have been missed round these parts! 😃🥰🙏🏾😃
WELCOME BACK!!! #RepeatOffenders
This is my first episode. But I like seeing a healthy black couple that's really doing the work. Gives me hope.
No real talk, I miss y’all for real for real
I’m a low light ‘poster’ in general and everything around me makes it feel awkward and wrong but it’s my way to connect! Ima stop connecting 😂 and i say my man has to be like Kier all the time but granted it’s Noemie who i admire! I see who moves the pieces around using my oldest daughter radar
My why is bc I’m a hopeless romantic that likes to be reminded that i matter. It’s pseudo but i have a connection to y’all my first therapist before i hired one! And also y’all are just lovely and funny and entertaining. It’s been years, at this point we gotta make it to fry baby graduation!
Y’all look amazing but Miss No ain’t playing with em today 🥰😂 yes ma’am but the offenders are here to repeat!!! I’m excited we’re backkkk
Dope conversation! Welcome back
Damn, Kier. You really got me thinking about the way my I navigate relationships. I give way too much energy way too soon before even knowing, where the journey is taking me with that person. Would you two talk more about dating and your past experiences? Love the channel ❤️
That's such a good episode idea. I'll pitch it to Noemie. Brilliant! Thank you.
Yeah I love it here. Yall are like my virtual older cousins that always drops gems.
Calling me out while I’m on my lunch break was uncalled for 😂😂 Glad to have yall back!!
😭😭😭
I think you guys are very gracious in your thoughts on why some content creators keep it a little too real online. I hate to be the cynic, but I'll say it 😂unfortunately negative sells and I think some folks purposefully show these tense/raw scenarios throwing their romantic partners under the bus is because they want to increase and monetize their engagement. It's gross. I agree that people want models and want guidance on how to navigate their relationships, but it feels like those folks are either in the minority or drowned out by the rage bait. For me, that's partially why your content is so refreshing - because mental wellness is priority and you're not doing things just for shock value. I'm forever behind on watching, but I'm a repeat offender because it's awesome to see an old classmate doing well, your girls are adorable, and, as a newlywed, I appreciate your perspectives on balancing personal development and relationship dynamics. Welcome back!!
Please do this again ❤️
Die hard repeat offender no matter how long the breaks are. Im here because I love the healthy model that you two provide. I think for me it's about learning good ways to communicate things that aren't always easy. There are a lot of people who don't have good models that's why I enjoy this kind of content. I am also going to be a therapist one day so.. Yeah big appreciation.
🥹 stop it
I love the sit down because it promotes personal development and growth and how resolve issues
A vibe every time. ❤😎
So glad to see y’all back 🎉
In all honesty I'm not quite sure why I enjoy watching yall I guess both your energies are warm and inspiring and as much as we only see 10% of your true selves that's still enough for me to be like "OK well I really like these elements of wat I can see from you both individually and your relationship combined" it's hard for most people to be even this open and vulnerable I really respect that .much love from jolly old England
Yeahhhhhhhh boyyyyyyyy!!!!!!👏🏾
I know Kier hates astrology but I see yalls signs so much lol. Especially after saying Noemie isn’t easily impressed. That’s some fire sign shit for sure lol.
lol, I don't know if I hate astrology... I'm just not into it at all 😭
I love both of your personality, together ❤️
First of all I’m a repeat offender and just so happened to be on RUclips and y’all popped up on the screen and I was like hollup Noemie’s hair is cut so this is new new!! lol so glad to see y’all back 🎉🎉🎉
I show up to the sit down talk because am a lover of perspective… especially when it comes to black love and marriage and kids!!!! I enjoy the male perspective as it gives so many aha moments regarding the conversations had with my husband.
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Yes please share your “LIST”
My why is knowing that I’m not alone. I want to live the rest of my life with my husband !
Drop the list please! My first time listening to an episode. I enjoy your content that’s why I’m here.
This is the first time I watched the podcast but I’ve been following Kier on IG. I am a therapist and Haitian so just being similar to each of you sparked my interest.😊
Welcome... you are repeat offender eligible after the next video
Very happy you are back😂🎉
I watch your sit down because you guys are very intentional and logical in the way you approach your relationship. Your approach is very similar to what mine would have been if I was in a relationship so it’s just a way for me to check with myself and Learn some stuff along the way.
I also feel seen because I was also raised in a Haitian household with a lot of care and intention so I relate to her a lot.
Love the wrap up of this conversation.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾✊🏾
Welcome back y'all. I know the video just started but I had to say it. I missed y'all over this way
Thank you so much!! We're so glad to be back! 💗
Your family is so beautiful.
"What do you like about watching the podcast?"
Neomie, I love your personality!
Kier, I like love your personality!
I love what you have been able to achieve individually; things such as graduating law school. Mainly because it's such an accomplishment and also because it's not the path I chose for myself (individuality) I love the conversations that are had as Kier has the ability to exspress emotions with non threating verbage, that in turn helps me exspand. I appreciate that you both are choosing to grow together...
And continueing
Hi guys good to see you.
The tone and pace of this conversation made it super relatable. Please keep going. 💪🏾🖤
We byke!!!!
YES Mrs Gaines You’re HUMAN 👏👏👏👏👏👏
Welcome back... My why is a place that you share authenticity and honesty about your life and ideals that people can relate to.
Welcome back my favorite couple, I am happy to see you guys, I miss your videos
I’m a repeat offender! So glad you guys are back!
I missed y’all so much! 💜
I like watching your videos because the conversation always comes off wholesome and genuine, vulnerable if you will. I’ve been working a lot on myself and moving mountains with God by my side, the past few years. It’s very relatable real content to me. I haven’t watched very many of your videos over the years. But it’s nice to see things that I can relate to. I don’t find too much of that on social media. So thank you for that to you both.
I'm digging the cut and color Noemie!
I love listening to y’all because you share how you work through real life situations. I’m working on myself and I want to show up in my relationship with tools to maneuver
I ADORE your HONESTY 😂😂
Yay definitely glad to have the sit down talk back. The sit down talk to me has always been very refreshing to see how couples hash things out to see what healthy communication looks like, what healthy relationships look like or even the evolution of relationships and how two people come together and do life together, that is my why for watching and listening to the Sit Down talk just preparing myself for my future because it was not always exhibited in my household. Yay Noemi would definitely love to see that list!!!
I'm so happy you're back! You guys are so refreshing!! I liked the video before I started watching it!! LOL, I know it's gonna be good!
Yay !!! Welcome back !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!😍😍😍🩵🩵
It's good to see y'all💜. Yo I feel both of y'all regarding. Trusting your discernment. And not giving into the pressure of allowing past partners & people in general. To over step y'all personal space.
Happy you guys are back 🫶🏾
Opps they did it again!! Miss you peeps...how are my girllllllzzzz❤❤❤❤❤
🍿 welcome buck guys
Love the conversation. 🙏
Omggggg we missed yall! ❤😩
Yessss I love to see that the sit down is back 🎉
Drop the list sis!
Glad you 2 are back! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I missed yall. Looking forward to this episode.
I’m so happy y’all are back!!!!!
Glad to you all back and well 🤎 I feel like I need to debrief this episode with the book club 😂 there’s so much. What’s wild is that earlier in my marriage I used to consume a lot of relationship content (right around when the Black Love series was starting up). These days, you all are probably the only relationship content I consume, but what I enjoy is that it’s personal but it’s also sociological. We get the whole funnel over here!
Welcome back I miss you guys
How is baby girl doing?
So happy y'all are back!