One year later and this video still reeks of so much wisdom. I think what stood out for me was not marrying a man who doesn't have a clear sense of direction. A husband is primarily a leader and I sure do not want to have to lead my husband. Thank you Pastey.
Pastor has been a blessing to me personally... A liar and a flirt is a bad option.. I remembered how I used to date myself alone 🤣🤣thinking I had a partner who couldn't even make me known to her people.. She tends to look like she's still single to everyone out there and that's flirt...
Please do a youtube live on Healthy Boundaries to set while in a Dating relationship and healthy boundaries to set while Single. This video was really profound and my generation seems to like practical points.
Women that you shouldn't marry: - The one who says I'm not ready - Avoid the chronic flirt - A woman who is materialistic - The liar Men that you should not date: - Men who are married but separated - One who is not ready for a relationship but crowds you - The selfish man who isn't introspective - One who is just a dreamer but never does anything or isn't consistent with his ambitions - The emotionally unavailable man
I have a question what will you say about a lady that's not open (I mean she doesn't talk much about her self much) is it right to enter that relationship with her
@@garrickkyle6391 The nakedness of Adam and Eve in the garden is what should keep any family to thrive. In fact the moment one is naked and the other is not,it doesn't matter what name you give it, that's a door to let in the devil! When you are ready to spend your life with one other,you're going to ask God not only to be able to be open enough but to have one who is open also.
@@gaamuliyes but he’s talking about entering the relationship to begin with. I believe it depends on the kind of person he is and also pray to God about it
I remember when I thought I could date a girl. But she covers up many things even when it’s not necessary. So happy I’m a Guy that doesn’t take time to spot these things. I just had to withdraw from that friendship.
For someone trying to do marriage God’s way, it really was worth it. I figured that it’s not being picky, it’s knowing things in people that do not settle with the word.
I once had a situationship with a guy that was insecure about every thing, I could not hangout freely with my male friends without thinking about how he's going to react, he had trust issues also and it was the most emotionally draining "situationship" of my life....we were not even officially dating, so I was like oga, you for like calm down? Well long story short, I thank God for God and for saving me from such. I ran for my life.
@@amarachiekwegh it does not necessarily involve sexual intimacy per say, but when you both have feelings for each other but the relationship is not defined, that's like the concept of situationship.
@@eyuwaarieko9320 this is what I have in mind when I say it. But then someone else corrected me and I looked up the meaning, so according to pop culture, there's almost always sex involved. I think your definition can stand as well, it's just for people not to misunderstand you in the future. Cheers🤗
@@amarachiekwegh according to pop culture, relationships can not be done without Sex so I think it just depends on the context and the person saying it....
I learnt that while going into a relationship, we must keep our eyes open and reasoning intact so we are not swayed by our emotions instead we consciously decide on who we want to spend the rest of our lives with and how it should turn out.
So I’ve been with 1. The emotionally unavailable , very toxic ones and 2. The ones that just want to play, everything but not the commitment. Thank you Sir , it was all worth it a time. Learnt a lot even about myself.
@@comfytaless they don’t call , always have an excuse for not taking your calls too. They are never there when you have something to share or talk about , it doesn’t really concern them what you do with your day , infact , it’s just the title without everything else .
At the mention of the "The Materialistic" I think some persons are irked off! 😂😂 I'm watching with my friends by the way and I had to pause to drop this comment. Argument in the house.😂😂
‘Heal before you deal’ very important! Thanks Pastey for the amazing teaching. Please how can one deal with insecurity arising from broken trust in past relationship despite the fact that it’s several years after?
Good evening Pastor, please I’ll love if you pay attention to this sir. I received a sister since 2019 and I told her Gods mind about us 29th February this year. She gave me a yes; but that she’s not ready for a relationship, that she’s not ready for the responsibility yet, but that she’s sure I’m God’s gift to her. Up till now we’ve faced many challenges up and down and still in same circle over the months. She’s still not ready. I don’t know what to do. And she’s not even being a good friend at that. She can be away for 1 month, no chat, no calls and our house is just like 15mins walk. She doesn’t care not supporting my ministry I’m just so confused about what to do. We spoke earlier today she’s still on “I’m not ready for us”
Leave her sir focus your mind from her sir , God always give the other person a responsibility of chosen the other, if God said this is your wife if she says no then go back to God there's always a replacement and then , if you're ready and she's not ready sir based on experience leave her don't even bother her about it , she might not want you to feel bad by saying no to you directly sir , but with her attitude towards you she already gave you the answer, move on sir Go back to God sir and not to the woman,
Thank you Pastor. I have been so picky. Thank you so much. I couldn't find words to why i didn't want any of them, but now i do. This is words to my actions.
Somethings seriously NEED to come to our attention before we take defining steps in our lives.. Thank you Pastey for sharing this. The part about remembering how long you’ve already spent on this earth, then multiplying it by like 3.. and saying you want to spend that long with THAT person, without counting the cost, doing your research and deciding if that’s the path you want to walk.. Wow. I felt a shiver at that line. Thank you so much Pastor Emmanuel Iren.
Thank you Sir. Most christians do dating like people outside of the church. It's not different most times. It's unfortunate what we see in church these days. Sometimes, church people are worst than outside people. Am sorry for saying these things but that's were restoration comes by first telling the truth to ourselves. Shalom.
Thanks for shading more light on these signs. It's enlightening and helpful. I have been a victim of most points you highlighted. I wish I heard this message before now. God bless you for what you do
Many Men are married but honestly are separated and sometimes it doesn't mean he's a bad man, However even while he's a good man, He should've put away the formal person If you must consider him..
Great session Pastor❤️ I have a question, sir What are the stages that a relationship should pass through before it's ready for marriage? I want to know how advancing a relationship works, especially one with the aim of marriage.
@@pst_iren hmmm Yes Sir Pls I have a question my girlfriend find it difficult to pray with me She doesn’t want to pray with me at all I don’t knw why She always claims our beliefs contradicts
@@pst_irenplease Pastor I have a question Please there is this lady that I have met and we have been friends for about 8months now and I want to take initiative to propose to her for a relationship but whenever I try to give her a gift or try to even visit her, she tries to give excuses about the visiting and she won’t take the gift with an intention that men don’t give or do things for free but she goes on giving me gifts without me being aware of it (example money transfers etc).So please can I go on to make initiative or propose to her for a relationship?
Pastey, what's your advice on 2 believers who love each other but from different religious doctrines e.g catholic and Pentecostal. Especially when the guy is saying he'd appreciate a catholic wedding. The lady isn't in for that, yet he proclaims love. The lady sees it has a future problem
It's always good be in a relationship with someone whose spiritual values and convictions are alike. Although& such hurdles can be overcome and worked out, it's better to avoid it altogether if you can.
Good evening just getting to watch this now . If I may ask how can one deal up with a situation of a guy treating his girlfriend with silent treatment during issues then after resolving the issues he chooses to apologize.
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One year later and this video still reeks of so much wisdom.
I think what stood out for me was not marrying a man who doesn't have a clear sense of direction. A husband is primarily a leader and I sure do not want to have to lead my husband. Thank you Pastey.
2years now
Pastor has been a blessing to me personally...
A liar and a flirt is a bad option..
I remembered how I used to date myself alone 🤣🤣thinking I had a partner who couldn't even make me known to her people..
She tends to look like she's still single to everyone out there and that's flirt...
THIS VIDEO WAS BROUGHT TO YOU AND SPONSORED BY GOD; ALWAYS THINKING ABOUT HIS CHILDREN.
Please do a youtube live on Healthy Boundaries to set while in a Dating relationship and healthy boundaries to set while Single. This video was really profound and my generation seems to like practical points.
Please do
I just saw your post on Twitter regarding jobs in tech and found you here too,😂😂🤣. Good to see you here.
You can check out a video on this channel “The Oludapos”. They talked about boundaries they set while dating
@@aimahbeauty 🙂
@@beforethefall_ thank you, I’d check it out
Women that you shouldn't marry:
- The one who says I'm not ready
- Avoid the chronic flirt
- A woman who is materialistic
- The liar
Men that you should not date:
- Men who are married but separated
- One who is not ready for a relationship but crowds you
- The selfish man who isn't introspective
- One who is just a dreamer but never does anything or isn't consistent with his ambitions
- The emotionally unavailable man
Insecure man or woman
I have a question what will you say about a lady that's not open (I mean she doesn't talk much about her self much) is it right to enter that relationship with her
Thank you.
@@garrickkyle6391
The nakedness of Adam and Eve in the garden is what should keep any family to thrive. In fact the moment one is naked and the other is not,it doesn't matter what name you give it, that's a door to let in the devil! When you are ready to spend your life with one other,you're going to ask God not only to be able to be open enough but to have one who is open also.
@@gaamuliyes but he’s talking about entering the relationship to begin with. I believe it depends on the kind of person he is and also pray to God about it
"Butterfly? That's running stomach. Treat that condition!" 😂👌👌👌 yassss!
Love is not for a week, neither is it for the weak, it's also not for those whose primary food is peak.
#Twos-day Motivation 😂
Bars
🤣🤣🤣
Lol. Great rhyme!
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Let’s have it😂😂😂😂
I remember when I thought I could date a girl. But she covers up many things even when it’s not necessary. So happy I’m a Guy that doesn’t take time to spot these things. I just had to withdraw from that friendship.
This is absolutely 💯....
The rocking chair,😂 made me laf😅
Hmmmm 🤔
Emotionally unavailable Men!...
Butterflys are sings of a running stomach, 😊 let them know
Even tho this video was published a year ago, it blessed my heart and gave me a better understanding. Thank you Pastey.
God has a lot of heart to take care of to be honest 🤲
❤❤❤❤ This teaching was worth my time
And I think it's okay to heal before you leap for another relationship..
For someone trying to do marriage God’s way, it really was worth it. I figured that it’s not being picky, it’s knowing things in people that do not settle with the word.
Like I’m being told now that I’m picky, listening to this message now , I know for sure that I’m not being picky. I choose God’s Standard over all.
Run from ppl who punish you with silent treatment once you have an argument, or you start seeing him with another lady in less than a week
I thank God am heartbroken from a relationship with unbeliever. She was soo chaotic and toxic
I once had a situationship with a guy that was insecure about every thing, I could not hangout freely with my male friends without thinking about how he's going to react, he had trust issues also and it was the most emotionally draining "situationship" of my life....we were not even officially dating, so I was like oga, you for like calm down? Well long story short, I thank God for God and for saving me from such. I ran for my life.
😂 you for like calm down??
I recently learned that situationships involve sexual intimacy. You might wanna change your use of words?
@@amarachiekwegh it does not necessarily involve sexual intimacy per say, but when you both have feelings for each other but the relationship is not defined, that's like the concept of situationship.
@@eyuwaarieko9320 this is what I have in mind when I say it. But then someone else corrected me and I looked up the meaning, so according to pop culture, there's almost always sex involved.
I think your definition can stand as well, it's just for people not to misunderstand you in the future.
Cheers🤗
@@amarachiekwegh according to pop culture, relationships can not be done without Sex so I think it just depends on the context and the person saying it....
I learnt that while going into a relationship, we must keep our eyes open and reasoning intact so we are not swayed by our emotions instead we consciously decide on who we want to spend the rest of our lives with and how it should turn out.
So I’ve been with 1. The emotionally unavailable , very toxic ones and 2. The ones that just want to play, everything but not the commitment. Thank you Sir , it was all worth it a time. Learnt a lot even about myself.
Please what are signs of an emotionally unavailable person?
I don’t know if I’m in one.
Same… grateful I left that situationship, it drained me
@@comfytaless they don’t call , always have an excuse for not taking your calls too. They are never there when you have something to share or talk about , it doesn’t really concern them what you do with your day , infact , it’s just the title without everything else .
Thank you for these wonderful pointers Pastey✨
..."you don't have the right to fall in love" took me out 🤣🤣🤣
First time listening to you. You sir make a lot of sense
At the mention of the "The Materialistic" I think some persons are irked off! 😂😂
I'm watching with my friends by the way and I had to pause to drop this comment. Argument in the house.😂😂
‘Heal before you deal’ very important!
Thanks Pastey for the amazing teaching.
Please how can one deal with insecurity arising from broken trust in past relationship despite the fact that it’s several years after?
We don't need labels 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
Pasteyyyyy! Shebi we will not do this RUclips live every two days?
So much wisdom.
Thank you for lifting up my sense of human
I'm glad I'm here.... it's not too late
Worth my time...
Sincerely, this is a blessing.
I would always return to this video every once in a while.
you right on point sir... pastor Iren is a blessing honestly 🙇🙇🙇🙇....I acknowledge his wisdom
Thank you pastey for this
You did not just shake some tables, you shattered them 😂
Thank you, Pastey. 🎉
Thank you sir
This is insightful...
I'm glad I came across a video a very good friend sent to me
Now I just want to keep growing❤
Hmmmm
Singles get in here. Thank you Pastey
It was worth my time. Thank you so much, sir.😊
Jesus Christ loves you
Grabs popcorn 🍿 becauseeee
Heal before you deal
Good evening Pastor, please I’ll love if you pay attention to this sir. I received a sister since 2019 and I told her Gods mind about us 29th February this year. She gave me a yes; but that she’s not ready for a relationship, that she’s not ready for the responsibility yet, but that she’s sure I’m God’s gift to her. Up till now we’ve faced many challenges up and down and still in same circle over the months. She’s still not ready. I don’t know what to do. And she’s not even being a good friend at that.
She can be away for 1 month, no chat, no calls and our house is just like 15mins walk. She doesn’t care not supporting my ministry I’m just so confused about what to do. We spoke earlier today she’s still on “I’m not ready for us”
Leave her sir focus your mind from her sir , God always give the other person a responsibility of chosen the other, if God said this is your wife if she says no then go back to God there's always a replacement and then , if you're ready and she's not ready sir based on experience leave her don't even bother her about it , she might not want you to feel bad by saying no to you directly sir , but with her attitude towards you she already gave you the answer, move on sir Go back to God sir and not to the woman,
Please quit it . !
Thank you Pastor.
I have been so picky. Thank you so much. I couldn't find words to why i didn't want any of them, but now i do. This is words to my actions.
Somethings seriously NEED to come to our attention before we take defining steps in our lives..
Thank you Pastey for sharing this.
The part about remembering how long you’ve already spent on this earth, then multiplying it by like 3.. and saying you want to spend that long with THAT person, without counting the cost, doing your research and deciding if that’s the path you want to walk..
Wow. I felt a shiver at that line.
Thank you so much Pastor Emmanuel Iren.
I’ve taken your counsel to heart. I’ve been consecrated for too long to miss it now.
Thank You Jesus 🙇🏽♀️
This was definitely worth the time sir.
Learnt alot and what to consider and watch out for.
Listening from East Africa
Marriage deserves ALL the seriousness.📌
❤️❤️❤️🔥💯
The video is worth my time, data and attention. Thanks for sharing value.
Learnt a lot and the lessons validated a tough decision I had to make. I'm going to wait for God's Best and I won't be settling for less.
Congratulations sis. I wish you the best
Thank you Sir.
Most christians do dating like people outside of the church. It's not different most times. It's unfortunate what we see in church these days. Sometimes, church people are worst than outside people. Am sorry for saying these things but that's were restoration comes by first telling the truth to ourselves. Shalom.
Thanks for shading more light on these signs.
It's enlightening and helpful. I have been a victim of most points you highlighted. I wish I heard this message before now. God bless you for what you do
Many Men are married but honestly are separated and sometimes it doesn't mean he's a bad man,
However even while he's a good man,
He should've put away the formal person If you must consider him..
"butterflies are running stomach"🤣😂 Sir, duly noted.
This video was very impactful to me to be honest
Thank you so much sir for these wise teachings🤍🙏🏽
Yeah yeah, I learnt a whole lot. I was greatly blessed
Thank you Pastor Iren
Hello sir, I'm favour onyema thanks for sharing this
A very timely message. Thank you so much, Pastor Iren for sharing
Am blessed with this message.... God ll continue to uphold u sir 🙏🙏 I ll be happy 🤣😁 if u can help us with More of this sir
Thank you Sir for this teachings.
Great session Pastor❤️
I have a question, sir
What are the stages that a relationship should pass through before it's ready for marriage?
I want to know how advancing a relationship works, especially one with the aim of marriage.
Friendship dating courtship marriage
Thank you, Pasteyyy
This just popped up on my feed right when i needed this
Always a pleasure to listen to you, Sir.
Oh wow. Saw this and started laughing 😂. Had a discussion with a friend on this 😂. Yaay! Time to watch !
Kai, this blessed me big time, thank you so much Pst Iren.
This was definitely worth it, Pops.
Thank you sir
❤
Pastey😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️ I love you daddy
"You don't have the right to fall in love" 😂😂
Thank you sir for your time and thank you sir for the truth
Thank you Pastor, always a blessing to connect
Thank you Pastor sir ❤️
Very much Worth my time
God bless you sir for this can’t wait for the next videos
If she's serious with you, she'll be honest with you
#ladiesyoushouldnotdate
❤❤❤
Insightful 🙏
Just got to the emotionally unavailable 😂😂😂😂thank you Pastey 🙏🏻
Learnt so much from this. God bless u pastor
Lovely
Thank you sirr! I learnt so much from this😊. God bless you!
How do you know when you’ve healed from a relationship hurt?
VERY INSIGHTFUL SIR, GOD BLESS YOU
Thanks pastey for this... Always insightful and helpful
Thanks Pastor! God bless you!
Thank you sir 😊
Thank you Pastey for emphasizing this.
Thank you pastor
I have a question, Pastor. Can two believers be “unequally yoked?”
Well yes. Even though the original context of unequal yoking was qualify as being “with unbelievers”.
@@pst_iren hmmm Yes Sir
Pls I have a question my girlfriend find it difficult to pray with me
She doesn’t want to pray with me at all I don’t knw why
She always claims our beliefs contradicts
@@SuperiorClothing001 If she doesn’t want to pray with you ‘at all’ that’s serious. Spiritual compatibility is a thing o
@@SuperiorClothing001 Bro, God has just spoken to you in clear terms ,with loud speakers ,you are a lucky guy
@@pst_irenplease Pastor I have a question
Please there is this lady that I have met and we have been friends for about 8months now and I want to take initiative to propose to her for a relationship but whenever I try to give her a gift or try to even visit her, she tries to give excuses about the visiting and she won’t take the gift with an intention that men don’t give or do things for free but she goes on giving me gifts without me being aware of it (example money transfers etc).So please can I go on to make initiative or propose to her for a relationship?
Thank you Pastey🙏🙏
Thank you sir. So insightful
So much Learnt!! Thank you Pasteyy
Thank you Dad❤️
Thank you so much Pastor...God bless you
Pastey, what's your advice on 2 believers who love each other but from different religious doctrines e.g catholic and Pentecostal. Especially when the guy is saying he'd appreciate a catholic wedding. The lady isn't in for that, yet he proclaims love. The lady sees it has a future problem
It's always good be in a relationship with someone whose spiritual values and convictions are alike. Although& such hurdles can be overcome and worked out, it's better to avoid it altogether if you can.
It was worth my time 💃🏽
Thank you pastey!!❤️
You don’t have the right to fall in love😂😂
Thank you, Pastey❤️
Last person in your village to join🤣🤣🤣🤣
Good evening just getting to watch this now .
If I may ask how can one deal up with a situation of a guy treating his girlfriend with silent treatment during issues then after resolving the issues he chooses to apologize.
"All those butterflies, that's running stomach" 🤣🤣🤣