Yes.. working on being more kind and respectful with my words, facial expressions and body language. I won't repeat the same unhealthy marriage dynamic i saw as a kid.
Wwhhhheeewww Dr. Daf you are again on point. ❤❤❤with tears in my eyes I didn't grow up with women speaking gently to their husband or even married. Married now for 5 years with a 2 year old and one on the way. My husband is so kind and gentle and some days I know he's fed up❤❤❤but thru God's grace❤❤
Wow! I need this. I'm not married yet, but this is good preparation. These are things I'm tryna work on and show my man NOW. So that he knows he's making the right choice by choosing me. ❤
I wish you would write a book with all this information down from your his crown series. I am re-watching videos just so that I can retain the information because I know it takes hearing something a few times to retain it. I’m going to take notes and go back and look over things myself but if you had a book it would be way more helpful! 💕
Hi Michelle, I’ve been so hooked on your videos in the last 2 weeks. I can’t get over your wisdom. God has sent you to remind us of these things even in our old age. I keep on wondering how a 48 year old woman like me who’s been married for 18 years know some of these basic things. You have humbled me with your teachings. Thanks once again, May God continue to give you more wisdom. Love from 🇿🇦
I don't believe in doing anything frustratingly. I believe do whatever u do with ur wholeheart and happily because we can't flee away from our daily household works that's y do it happily from inside.
Default Disposition: Bossy. I can tend to act like a mother and not a wife! Complaining about something to be honest! I like to get things done!!! I am learning so much from you! When you know better you do better! 💛
This is true. In those cases we have to seek God for wisdom in how to handle those cases and for His comfort. But ultimately you are responsible for your behaviors. It may be hindsight for you at this point but the way we choose our partners is sooooo important if we can foresee some of those behaviors before marriage 🩷
@@MorningsWithMaria MAYBE for some. for me, when I feel bitter and resentful, I acknowledge the issue and look for solutions to fix it. Being aware of bitterness and resentment, signals me of issues that I need to work on.
This is what I m talking this means that lady does not love her husband truly. A lady who truly loves her husband is never jealous of her man. She will happily try to comfort him as much as possible and she will never be jealous that her husband is relaxing, she will always be the most happy when she sees that her husband is feeling tranquil and happy from inside. A lady who truly loves her husband will happily and wholeheartedly try to do everything for her husband and his children and his family always forever. It's not that she won't complain, sometimes she may complain for wrong things but calmly she will tell that this is wrong and she will never do frustratingly anything for him and his family instead of getting frustrated she would take rest and tell him to order food online that day whenever she feels tired or not well😊😊😊😊
Those women never tend to disrespect their husbands who have seen drama in their homes because they don't want to repeat that thing in their own personal life. Those r the women who respect their husbands the most.
Just before you gave the example of Desperate Housewives, I thought of Bree and her plastic smile towards her husband. It was my favourite show too, but after watching your content for years, I realize how unkind the women were to their men. Thank you for the wisdom that you share here, your content is countercultural and unlike any other. God bless you immensely! Love from Kenya!
I find myself apologizing a lot!!! God is changing my soul day to day! Silence is key... Thank you so much James 1:19. I will practice being slow to speak and slow to anger! My homework
A work can be done both ways happily and frustratingly. But i think we have to do the work that is essential so do it happily instead of getting frustrated. It will feel good to us only if we do it happily.
I look pleasant every time I see my husband. I am more than happy to welcome him home with a beaming smile and kiss on his cheek. I take pleasure in cooking dinner for him and keeping the house tidy. My issue is that I am good with my attitude towards him but he still takes his stress out on me. When he comes home he says hi but because of him being tired after work, he doesn’t want to talk and isn’t always the kindest. He will talk to me in a tone like he is annoyed because of the day he had at work. I continuously give him my live and respect but I feel like I’m his punching bag sometimes because he knows I will continue to love him no matter what. I just don’t know what to do anymore and I don’t know if you have any advice you can give me to help me with this. I’m tired of being treated with this dull and irritated look and tone when all I do is give him my love.
I can completely see how this could make you irritated. Totally human nature to feel that way especially since you're doing his best. How often do you tell him "thank you" and show appreciation specifically for him working? If not much I would crank that up. Let him know how much you appreciate the fact that he provides for your comfort. This is something men desperately need to hear on a consistent basis. It will change his attitude over time granted there aren't any other serious issues you aren't aware of. I hope that helps.
Hi my love! I'm so grateful to know that. You can ask him questions when he does talk. Questions to get him to elaborate. Be very attentive and admire him for what he is saying. Think to yourself "why is he sharing this with me?" Then proceed to admire the thing he is hoping you will notice. If you do this consistently he will begin to talk more. I hope that made sense.
@@drmichelledaf This is what I do for my quiet man. Another tip is after I share, I prompt him with, "What do you think?" Or remembering to ask, "How do you feel about that?" Basically asking open ended questions, even if it takes him a while to answer or he doesn't say much, I treat it like gold - because it is.
Thank you for sharing sister Michelle. Since you’re in Southern California would you ever host a conference there? I’d love to attend & I think it’d be very fruitful in our area. 💗☺️
Those women r the worst who has not seen anything bad in their homes, who have just enjoyed on their father's money without thinking once that they need to help him in earning. Those r the ladies who enjoy on their husband's money also like that, they don't really love them because they don't even think of helping her husband that how hard he is earning. True love is when u know hard the person is doing to get u in ur present well status. Those r the most vulnerable women
What about if you are not married and just in a relationship? Should you still be so gentle and forgiving even if that’s not how you really feel? Sometimes I can’t tell if certain things should be reserved for your husband only, not a bf. (Bc maybe the bf is just not for you..?)
Yes certain things should be reserved for your husband only. Forgiveness and gentleness are necessary in any relationship. BUT if you're dating you must watch out for red flags. There is no obligation to deal with poor treatment. There is no binding commitment.
Thank you for this great blessing of encouragement and motivation that I pray God moves all women and men to action in the behaviors that you spoke about today, Ahhhmen.
Ma’am! You are all up in my business 😂 I’ve rolled my eyes 5 times like ‘dang it! She’s right’ lol 😭❤️
Me too on her toher video too "showing kindness in your marriage". I'm defensive and being softer now😂❤❤we got this!!
Yes.. working on being more kind and respectful with my words, facial expressions and body language. I won't repeat the same unhealthy marriage dynamic i saw as a kid.
That is wonderful darling 🩷
Wwhhhheeewww Dr. Daf you are again on point. ❤❤❤with tears in my eyes I didn't grow up with women speaking gently to their husband or even married. Married now for 5 years with a 2 year old and one on the way. My husband is so kind and gentle and some days I know he's fed up❤❤❤but thru God's grace❤❤
Wow! I need this.
I'm not married yet, but this is good preparation. These are things I'm tryna work on and show my man NOW. So that he knows he's making the right choice by choosing me. ❤
That is beautiful 🩷
I’m trying to do the same
@@amorerobinson4140 love it! ❤️
I wish you would write a book with all this information down from your his crown series. I am re-watching videos just so that I can retain the information because I know it takes hearing something a few times to retain it. I’m going to take notes and go back and look over things myself but if you had a book it would be way more helpful! 💕
I agree. I’d buy it
Being soft and loving is so truly intimate and beautiful . This grows me close to my husband in amazing ways
It really is! Thank you for sharing love
Hi Michelle, I’ve been so hooked on your videos in the last 2 weeks. I can’t get over your wisdom. God has sent you to remind us of these things even in our old age. I keep on wondering how a 48 year old woman like me who’s been married for 18 years know some of these basic things.
You have humbled me with your teachings.
Thanks once again, May God continue to give you more wisdom.
Love from 🇿🇦
48 is young.
The way you just got me all the way together 😩😭 Thank you ma'am!
Michelle you have been hitting the nail with each video, I have so much to improve on as a wife but you make me confident that I can do all things
That is so wonderful honey. It's great that you are striving towards that. We all are! 🩷
YOU ARE SO WISE! YOU ARE SAVNG SO MANY MARRIAGES!
All of this is spot on and great reminders. I am always working on being a better wife. My husband knows and appreciates it.
Glory be to God for these videos! Like you said SHUT UP AND LISTEN 😂❤❤❤
I don't believe in doing anything frustratingly. I believe do whatever u do with ur wholeheart and happily because we can't flee away from our daily household works that's y do it happily from inside.
I needed to hear this, you deliver the truth yourself in a gentle feminine way Thank you Dr. Michelle Daf ❤
Golden Advice 😊 💖 Ty!
This series is incredible! You’re really getting into the nitty gritty of marriage. Love this!
Default Disposition: Bossy. I can tend to act like a mother and not a wife! Complaining about something to be honest! I like to get things done!!! I am learning so much from you! When you know better you do better! 💛
Thank you, this is the message I needed to hear and understand. I appreciate you for this TY ❤
You are so welcome honey 🩷 Thank you for watching ✨✨
I understand women should be gentle but some men are horrible partners which can make women bitter and resentful.
Men can't make women resentful and bitter. How we feel is always a choice
This is true. In those cases we have to seek God for wisdom in how to handle those cases and for His comfort. But ultimately you are responsible for your behaviors. It may be hindsight for you at this point but the way we choose our partners is sooooo important if we can foresee some of those behaviors before marriage 🩷
being bitter and resentful hurts us the most, not the other person
TRUTH
@@MorningsWithMaria MAYBE for some. for me, when I feel bitter and resentful, I acknowledge the issue and look for solutions to fix it. Being aware of bitterness and resentment, signals me of issues that I need to work on.
You are so real! Thank you for the tactical guide on what steps to take toward becoming more gentle.
This is what I m talking this means that lady does not love her husband truly. A lady who truly loves her husband is never jealous of her man. She will happily try to comfort him as much as possible and she will never be jealous that her husband is relaxing, she will always be the most happy when she sees that her husband is feeling tranquil and happy from inside. A lady who truly loves her husband will happily and wholeheartedly try to do everything for her husband and his children and his family always forever. It's not that she won't complain, sometimes she may complain for wrong things but calmly she will tell that this is wrong and she will never do frustratingly anything for him and his family instead of getting frustrated she would take rest and tell him to order food online that day whenever she feels tired or not well😊😊😊😊
Another wise message from Michelle 🎉
Thank you for watching honey 🩷
The timing of this wow thank you universe and dr daf
Thank you for your videos ❤ I am not married but I would like to be one day God willing.
Those women never tend to disrespect their husbands who have seen drama in their homes because they don't want to repeat that thing in their own personal life. Those r the women who respect their husbands the most.
Girl , you have been molding me! I love you 🩷✨
Just before you gave the example of Desperate Housewives, I thought of Bree and her plastic smile towards her husband. It was my favourite show too, but after watching your content for years, I realize how unkind the women were to their men.
Thank you for the wisdom that you share here, your content is countercultural and unlike any other. God bless you immensely! Love from Kenya!
Yes!! Her smile was classic lol truly awful. I'm so thankful that you appreciate my content and so grateful for your kind words love. 🩷
Love the background music
I find myself apologizing a lot!!! God is changing my soul day to day! Silence is key... Thank you so much James 1:19. I will practice being slow to speak and slow to anger! My homework
A work can be done both ways happily and frustratingly. But i think we have to do the work that is essential so do it happily instead of getting frustrated. It will feel good to us only if we do it happily.
You are such an inspiration. Keep up the great work; so many of us need to hear this.🌷🌹♥
I look pleasant every time I see my husband. I am more than happy to welcome him home with a beaming smile and kiss on his cheek. I take pleasure in cooking dinner for him and keeping the house tidy. My issue is that I am good with my attitude towards him but he still takes his stress out on me. When he comes home he says hi but because of him being tired after work, he doesn’t want to talk and isn’t always the kindest. He will talk to me in a tone like he is annoyed because of the day he had at work. I continuously give him my live and respect but I feel like I’m his punching bag sometimes because he knows I will continue to love him no matter what. I just don’t know what to do anymore and I don’t know if you have any advice you can give me to help me with this. I’m tired of being treated with this dull and irritated look and tone when all I do is give him my love.
I can completely see how this could make you irritated. Totally human nature to feel that way especially since you're doing his best. How often do you tell him "thank you" and show appreciation specifically for him working? If not much I would crank that up. Let him know how much you appreciate the fact that he provides for your comfort. This is something men desperately need to hear on a consistent basis. It will change his attitude over time granted there aren't any other serious issues you aren't aware of. I hope that helps.
Ask the Lord how to handle this. God will answer. If your husband isn't in Christ, it will be quite challenging.
This was sooooo good. You are definitely in your purpose making this video. ❤️❤️❤️❤️ thank you!
Thank you for this video.
Superb teaching
Ty Michelle 💕
Hello sister
Love love your work
I donno where would i be without your channel
How do i talk to my husband who doesn’t talk much?
Hi my love! I'm so grateful to know that. You can ask him questions when he does talk. Questions to get him to elaborate. Be very attentive and admire him for what he is saying. Think to yourself "why is he sharing this with me?" Then proceed to admire the thing he is hoping you will notice. If you do this consistently he will begin to talk more. I hope that made sense.
@@drmichelledaf This is what I do for my quiet man. Another tip is after I share, I prompt him with, "What do you think?" Or remembering to ask, "How do you feel about that?" Basically asking open ended questions, even if it takes him a while to answer or he doesn't say much, I treat it like gold - because it is.
Thank you for sharing sister Michelle. Since you’re in Southern California would you ever host a conference there? I’d love to attend & I think it’d be very fruitful in our area. 💗☺️
Thank ❤you love this was so informative and much needed
Wow this is truly informative thanks 🙏🏾 😊
You're so welcome love 🩷
I remember that show!!! So good
You have a new subbie ❤
I m all down for him
Would you mind sharing where your dress or top is from?
Those women r the worst who has not seen anything bad in their homes, who have just enjoyed on their father's money without thinking once that they need to help him in earning. Those r the ladies who enjoy on their husband's money also like that, they don't really love them because they don't even think of helping her husband that how hard he is earning. True love is when u know hard the person is doing to get u in ur present well status. Those r the most vulnerable women
i love your videos 🥰
What about if you are not married and just in a relationship? Should you still be so gentle and forgiving even if that’s not how you really feel? Sometimes I can’t tell if certain things should be reserved for your husband only, not a bf. (Bc maybe the bf is just not for you..?)
Yes certain things should be reserved for your husband only. Forgiveness and gentleness are necessary in any relationship. BUT if you're dating you must watch out for red flags. There is no obligation to deal with poor treatment. There is no binding commitment.
AMEN 🙏🏾
Thank you
You're welcome love!
He said that on 19 may he will get married but everything was a lie
Thank you for this great blessing of encouragement and motivation that I pray God moves all women and men to action in the behaviors that you spoke about today, Ahhhmen.
You are so welcome. Amen!🩷
Firsttttt ❤
Love❤
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I don't love him anymore, he lost everything.
I’ve been trying to work on being gentle, he always complains I’m not calm, and now he’s finally leaving 😢