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I wanna share here this video where a therapist and a filmmaker analyze Non-toxic masculinity through the character of Aragorn. The psychologist says he doesn’t like the term “toxic masculinity”, he prefers “limiting masculinity”. It fits perfectly with this episode. Link: ruclips.net/video/pv_KAnY5XNQ/видео.html Thank you, Dive for all the work you do. GET REAL is a need in my life now. The topics you guys speak about definitely _need_ to be shout out. I also appreciate the sense of communication “with friends” and familiarity you’ve built through all these conversations. THANK YOU 🙏🏼❤️
I agree! I grew up seeing my older brother treat his wife with such respect and love that it really raised the bar up high for my standards. Especially since he was physically really strong but also found being vulnerable to be a man's biggest strength.
True words. If you KNOW without a doubt you'll be loyal, humble, provider, and face what's required of the wedding oath for her you've got yourself a good foundation!
"start with a handshake" is actually great advice. As a woman, I feel more comfortable if a guy gives me a handshake when we meet for the first time. In my country, it´s also common to greet each other with cheek to cheek greeting. Some men might use it as advantage, but mostly it shows that they were raised good by their parents. But handshake is definitely the best way.
Agreed with the handshakes, with direct friendly and respectful eye contact. I hate when guys are shy and awkward with women because they've never been around them much. I'm from Chile and when we greet people, regardless of gender, we shake hands. Only when we know each other do we kiss once on the cheek. I think this is something that just Chile does, it seems to be different from other Latino countries.
It’s interesting to hear about what people from other cultures feel is the most comfortable way of greeting. Coming from an East Asian country, I feel like non-physical greetings are the most natural and comfortable for me. Unless I’m at a business conference or something of that nature, I won’t default to shaking hands
@@abug- nearly every original member left 24k besides changsun (who wasn't an original member either but he was the only one left + kiyong who was added shortly before the other members left) and now there's another 3 new members added. So 5 in total. They go under the group name 24k also but kinda rebranded with new logo and stuff.
This convo was great. The respect they have for strong independent women and single moms. Feel so related to Ashley. When you hang with the girls but you also have your group of guy friends. It's a good balance.
hope we can see Corbyn again but on HDIGH next time, since he’s personal friends with AleXa. I’ve been waiting to see AleXa and Corbyn together again since her debut
Around the 33:00 mark, where he talks about his aunties being strong& manly I think in the same way men don't want to feel pressured into being overtly masculine. Women who are considered independent or "strong" don't want to be seen as masculine because they can hold their own. Not sure if I'm voicing this out properly Ps I already listened to it on Spotify
I totally get what you mean. It's this whole "Superwoman/Superman" complex that we have adopted these days. And Hollywood likes to push on us especially on black women. The way I see it is at some point you have no choice but to be that " Superwoman/Superman " especially when you have nobody to count on but yourself & be considered as strong because you managed not to "kill yourself" and equating that with being strong/manly cause men are strong even thou you don't feel like taking up all that burden on yourself but if not you then who will. Hope I'm making sense.
I remember that BM once said this during pH-1 session together with Get Real but didn't expect that they brought this topic up with 28Lab. This is cool. Good job guys!
Corbyn after swearing, he goes Oop- 😳 Lxx forgetting his song's name. Lol 🤣 "What challenges you faced as a dude, Ashley?" 👀 "I like had that some feminine in me too." No wonder he is so sweet. 🥺 The podcast is so adorable. God. 😍🥺 I am so proud of my 28 laboratory boys getting the recognition they really deserve all the love. 💓🥰
@@karlarios232 Sure, you can ask me anything you like to know. Or go to IG follow their IG handles. And lot of their fans have '28lab' added to their IG username so, you can start a conversation with anyone in the comments section. 😍
Damn I can hear all about them all day long. Corbyn is so chill and fun, I likes the way he talks. And Alex seems to be a sweet guy, he has a really nice voice.
Hope we can see AB6IX's Daehwi on Get Real one day. Daehwi has outstanding speaking talent and i believe that he can do well in English, too (he lived in LA for 6 years)
Lol I was going to write that down after watching a few videos. Matthew does remind me of will smith, voice, 😂, etc. We all need a homeboy like Matthew. 👌❤️
*Please have them back, i really love them. Pretty chill and funny with substance too. Corbyn is pretty dope too. Love them. Ashley has pretty dope friends, waiting for the day my bias rosé appears here cos she's pretty close with her too. Fighting,!!*
the ice cube convo nonsense got me 💀💀💀 we need more guys like them to exist :)) I hope Corbyn and LXX comes back for another podcast they seem chill and good at talkin
Omg I fell in love with this guys, I so wanna be Ashley to have such great guy friends!!! I love how Dive listened to us and did this topic, so cute🤧🤧🤧🤧💖
I remember the first time I fully realized the danger of toxic masculinity was when I was 13 years old and a friend of mine was mad or sad (I don’t really remember why) and so I told him “go cry about it and then feel better” and he said “hell nah I aint a bitch and crying makes sh*t worse” and then proceeded to punch a hole in his wall and really mess up his hand destroying his closet doors in an extrem rage. I remember in my head just being like “damn, yeah, that’s not it.” He was also super abusive, no surprise really seeing his behavior and we don’t talk anymore.
This was so interesting!! I’d like to suggest u guys talking about being Korean American and maybe the racism that u may have faced in America or the differences and cultural barriers u felt in Korea esp to do with like pale skin being preferred in Korea versus America preferring tan skin.
I feel like that 'testosterone' excuse gets used a lot when it's convenient for the guy though. I get it, but even if it's true, I think we've evolved enough to know when to separate unhealthy and healthy competition.
10:29 True ! My sister and I were only raised my our mother and she did everything and worked so hard for us. I'm so thanful I grew up with such a strong female model
I’m from Portland and when I checked to see where Corbyn was from it also said Portland so that’s hell cool!! Never thought that he would be from Portland out of all the cities in Oregon
i really love their group of friends, along with peniel, joan, tina, coco, jae, bernard, etc. i wish there more male-female friendships like theirs in the korean entertainment industry.
woah wait hol up, last week i was just having this dilemma of understanding men’s perspective and wanting so much to write about it on my blog but i keep getting confused. my guy friend goes like “em not soft” when we were talking something serious and emotional, whilst my other guy friend was more of expressive and emotional and honest about his emotions.. so i got confused which of them posesses real “manliness.” i know man have varied personalities but i as a woman, i prefer the expressive male friend because that way we can learn and relate to one another in more deeper sense, but then again i cant judge men who doesnt show much emotions because i respect how they handle it. so yea, all in all, this episode taught me things... definitely.
Just a question and something to think about, because this came up a few times here. What is a "strong" woman? Are you strong when you are able to beat men at work? Are you strong if you are scary? I always find it kind of uncomfortable when people say that some women are strong, because they are scary to them or because they are able to work at a job, where there are mainly male workers. Just wanna hear other people's opinions on this.
People say that strong women are scary because they tend to think they have to be like society " says ", and when a woman knows her rights and imposes herself on certain issues, she is "different"...And we well know that human being odd everything that is different or escapes the "norm", so they are usually associated as scary.
when I heard about that the standards towards men and women changes, I feel like my country just stays in place and I'm sick of it. because whenever people try to explain that girls don't need to be this and guys don't need to be that, people will just say 'the heck are you talking about, you have to be like this, if you're different then there's something wrong with you'
i hope they can come again! this was a great conversation, very chill, intelligent, and great to listen to. i'd love to hear more from them! (of course ash and bm too!)
I feel like PENIEL should have been there for this conversation. We miss you PENIEL. GET REAL is my favourite podcast. I love how they talk about the hard important topics that society would normally dodge around. Ps. I have a girl crush on Ashley.
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I literally love watching you guys I love you guys🔥❤️🔥❤️
I wanna share here this video where a therapist and a filmmaker analyze Non-toxic masculinity through the character of Aragorn. The psychologist says he doesn’t like the term “toxic masculinity”, he prefers “limiting masculinity”. It fits perfectly with this episode. Link: ruclips.net/video/pv_KAnY5XNQ/видео.html
Thank you, Dive for all the work you do. GET REAL is a need in my life now. The topics you guys speak about definitely _need_ to be shout out. I also appreciate the sense of communication “with friends” and familiarity you’ve built through all these conversations. THANK YOU 🙏🏼❤️
Hell yeah! I did... This is seriously my favorit podcast
After listening to this..i miss all my guy friends... I see myself..can relate to the topic becozz I'm only one girl in the guy gang..🙂🙂🙂...
I likethe look of beard guy
Ashley is one of the boys now
Yup she is one of the bois
No, she’s one of the bois now
Bois sleepover now
she a homie
I want Ashley to be my homegirl
BM: "There's nothing more manly than being a good man to your significant other"
awwww 너무 사랑해요 비엠
I agree! I grew up seeing my older brother treat his wife with such respect and love that it really raised the bar up high for my standards. Especially since he was physically really strong but also found being vulnerable to be a man's biggest strength.
💯
True words. If you KNOW without a doubt you'll be loyal, humble, provider, and face what's required of the wedding oath for her you've got yourself a good foundation!
17:10 BM should've asked,
What's the "Ladies' Code?"
this is genius.
@@power9725 Ty.
ahhh good one
That's exactly what I thought lol
YES
This conversation should have been like 3hrs long!
I feel you
Like pretty much every episode.
I agree
facts
8:12 "cause you're one of the stronger figures in my life" man that's so sweet
RIGHT??????????? 🥺😭
I was looking for this comment🥺🥺🥺
BM is that guy friend everybody needs..like everybody!
HE PANICKED AFTER CURSING OMG HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAH
Maureen Liamme what time ?
@@amandalamarche8702 2:57
Haha😀😀😀
@@rahmachairunnisa1935 LMAOO
"start with a handshake" is actually great advice. As a woman, I feel more comfortable if a guy gives me a handshake when we meet for the first time. In my country, it´s also common to greet each other with cheek to cheek greeting. Some men might use it as advantage, but mostly it shows that they were raised good by their parents. But handshake is definitely the best way.
R u french or from a European country ?
@@marieperin96 France is in Europe. But yes I'm european, just not from France
Agreed with the handshakes, with direct friendly and respectful eye contact. I hate when guys are shy and awkward with women because they've never been around them much.
I'm from Chile and when we greet people, regardless of gender, we shake hands. Only when we know each other do we kiss once on the cheek. I think this is something that just Chile does, it seems to be different from other Latino countries.
It’s interesting to hear about what people from other cultures feel is the most comfortable way of greeting. Coming from an East Asian country, I feel like non-physical greetings are the most natural and comfortable for me. Unless I’m at a business conference or something of that nature, I won’t default to shaking hands
Mathew is my last hope in men :)
Facts if I can’t get someone who’s like Mathew my hope is gone
SAME
He sets the standard pretty high tbh
Hahahahahah
Seriously I wish most men could match up to him
corbyn is so chill and laidback, i could listen to him talking for 6 hours straight
i feel like he's way more relaxed than when he was with 24k
right! he needs a podcast or something 😩
what's 24k
@@ardencho662 it was the kpop group name he was apart of
omg that's cory from 24k??? i didn't know he left.in 2016 i was big fan of them.what happened to the group?
@@abug- nearly every original member left 24k besides changsun (who wasn't an original member either but he was the only one left + kiyong who was added shortly before the other members left) and now there's another 3 new members added. So 5 in total. They go under the group name 24k also but kinda rebranded with new logo and stuff.
This convo was great. The respect they have for strong independent women and single moms. Feel so related to Ashley. When you hang with the girls but you also have your group of guy friends. It's a good balance.
hope we can see Corbyn again but on HDIGH next time, since he’s personal friends with AleXa. I’ve been waiting to see AleXa and Corbyn together again since her debut
Oh I didn't know ! Since when do they know each others?
@@varia2xg since around 2015-ish. I don’t remember exactly when but he was still in 24K at the time
@@very_cherryx Corbyn is from 24K? 😱
@@beishere6261 yes. he used to go by Cory and he was the leader of 24K
So your telling me that these handsome guest are over the age of 28...why are hot guys so much older than me😩😩😩
I'm not sure exactly how old they are or you are, but when you get older you'll realize that an 8-10 year (?) difference isn't really that crazy.
@@djokawari1 ********AS LONG AS YOU'RE OF AGE*********
********AS LONG AS YOU'RE OF AGE********
Omg yeah Corbyn is 30
Why are hot guys so far from me 😫😫😫
Also ashley talking about her father crying in the shower was so cute :(
I didn't know that Alex finished his military service
I really like how everyone is being honest!
when did he talk about it?
I'm a single mom of 3 boys & this episode really help give me a second pov about how boys think. Thanks guys & Ashley. Love this podcast ❤
Around the 33:00 mark, where he talks about his aunties being strong& manly I think in the same way men don't want to feel pressured into being overtly masculine. Women who are considered independent or "strong" don't want to be seen as masculine because they can hold their own. Not sure if I'm voicing this out properly
Ps I already listened to it on Spotify
Your right!!
I totally get what you mean. It's this whole "Superwoman/Superman" complex that we have adopted these days. And Hollywood likes to push on us especially on black women. The way I see it is at some point you have no choice but to be that
" Superwoman/Superman " especially when you have nobody to count on but yourself & be considered as strong because you managed not to "kill yourself" and equating that with being strong/manly cause men are strong even thou you don't feel like taking up all that burden on yourself but if not you then who will.
Hope I'm making sense.
@@sailorfan86 you're definitely making sense. Thanks for clarifying that for me
@@ThePammyone OK GREAT
why the ps? is the content different on spotify?
Oh god I died when Corbyn said "where the suga mommas at?" lmfao
What time?
@@nainasingh2863 I know it’s late but here 10:56
i hope we get to see ph-1 back here again
he's coming back :)
@@망고-p1l Not soon enough
They already confirmed in instagram he'll be back
yes omg i miss ph1
@@almariaghern1876 seriously? who posted?
I remember that BM once said this during pH-1 session together with Get Real but didn't expect that they brought this topic up with 28Lab. This is cool. Good job guys!
Corbyn after swearing, he goes Oop- 😳
Lxx forgetting his song's name. Lol 🤣
"What challenges you faced as a dude, Ashley?" 👀
"I like had that some feminine in me too." No wonder he is so sweet. 🥺
The podcast is so adorable. God. 😍🥺
I am so proud of my 28 laboratory boys getting the recognition they really deserve all the love. 💓🥰
Can I get more info on them? It’s the first time I hear about 28 labs
@@karlarios232 Sure, you can ask me anything you like to know. Or go to IG follow their IG handles. And lot of their fans have '28lab' added to their IG username so, you can start a conversation with anyone in the comments section. 😍
@@hohosbae2954 are both of them 24k members??
@@sionropheca6473 No no. Only Corbyn was a 24K member, whereas Lxx was a High4 member.
Alex is trying his hardest not make eye contact with Ashley 🤣
Ikr I noticed it too lol
😂
Amazing conversation, I was tuned in thee entire time lol **ashley, you have some handsome friends gurl lol!!
Damn I can hear all about them all day long. Corbyn is so chill and fun, I likes the way he talks. And Alex seems to be a sweet guy, he has a really nice voice.
It seems like Corbyn and Ashley are really close. :) it’s good to have friendships like this.
PLEASE CALL WOOSUNG FROM THE ROSE
I second this! 👋
Ikr and the fact that he’s friends with everyone of them
YASSS PLEASE
PLEAAASSSEEEEE
YES
BM and Ashley are so real in talking about any topic! Love love this podcast! Peace ✌🏻
The lesbian in me fades away with Matthew :') and comes again with Ashley :)
sounds confusing
hmm.. now that's a mood😂😂
@@kean6577 it is :')
The great thing about being bi is just getting to enjoy the view xD
@@wluna6455 THE WAY YOU WORDED IT IS ON POINTTTTTT
Hope we can see AB6IX's Daehwi on Get Real one day. Daehwi has outstanding speaking talent and i believe that he can do well in English, too (he lived in LA for 6 years)
Woah for real though, if they can get to invite Daehwi here it would be amazing, their vibes would be so synchronizing
Yeah
7:57 Oh my, Ashley's laugh is too cute. I love her
Ashley is so luckyyy. I wish i have a guy friends like this 😩🤍
Me too
BMs laugh gives me so much joy in life honestly
8:50 - 10:26
learning about ashley's family is one of my favorite things about her.
I wish this podcast was longer! Please bring back Alex and Corbyn as guests again 😊🙌
28:20 that "oops" cracked me up
Its so addictive lol
Alex' smile is EVERYTHING ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Matthew kinda reminds me of Will Smith. Something in the way he talks, his mimics and behaviour.
Lol I was going to write that down after watching a few videos. Matthew does remind me of will smith, voice, 😂, etc.
We all need a homeboy like Matthew. 👌❤️
I think Alex understood the topic really well!
*Please have them back, i really love them. Pretty chill and funny with substance too. Corbyn is pretty dope too. Love them. Ashley has pretty dope friends, waiting for the day my bias rosé appears here cos she's pretty close with her too. Fighting,!!*
the ice cube convo nonsense got me 💀💀💀 we need more guys like them to exist :)) I hope Corbyn and LXX comes back for another podcast they seem chill and good at talkin
This podcast makes me feel less lonely in my first year of college at home.
Same 😭
I really love it whenever the guest is their close friend. They’re all so chill. 🥺
Alex has a voice made for podcast, it’s really drawing you in
Omg I fell in love with this guys, I so wanna be Ashley to have such great guy friends!!! I love how Dive listened to us and did this topic, so cute🤧🤧🤧🤧💖
i lowkey get giggly when corbyn talks and looks at ashley ;)
Here I am laughing at this at 3 am and watching Ashley be like a 4 wheel in man talk
I remember the first time I fully realized the danger of toxic masculinity was when I was 13 years old and a friend of mine was mad or sad (I don’t really remember why) and so I told him “go cry about it and then feel better” and he said “hell nah I aint a bitch and crying makes sh*t worse” and then proceeded to punch a hole in his wall and really mess up his hand destroying his closet doors in an extrem rage. I remember in my head just being like “damn, yeah, that’s not it.” He was also super abusive, no surprise really seeing his behavior and we don’t talk anymore.
LOVE this convo! please have a part 2 with corbyn & LXX they good GOOD 👏🏼
BM : I had a little feminine in me too
Me : 👁️👄👁️
BM’s advice to the guy looking for female friends “Start with a 🤝”.....COVID looking around like 😈😂😂jk.
I need a home girl like Ashley.
thanks to DIVE discovered new artists!!!!
I’m very happy with the energy created in this video
2:57 corbyn can't stop cursing even for 3 minutes i live for that
Yooo Alex representing Rockland County!! I was like " Ayoo what he say?? Did he deadass say Nyack!? NOBODY knows about Nyack! "
I KNOW
I can't help but notice that Corbyn's outfit is fitting the background. Cool episode btw.
Lxx is so cute. And corbyn is so cool always engaging Ashley asking her opinions haha
I've bee curious about these stuffs and topics but don't have close guy friends to talk to. Hahaha enjoyed this topic so much. 😊
Wait isn’t that Alex from High4? Omg I haven’t kept up with them in so long. I used to listen to their songs in the past. What a nice surprise 💚
This was so interesting!! I’d like to suggest u guys talking about being Korean American and maybe the racism that u may have faced in America or the differences and cultural barriers u felt in Korea esp to do with like pale skin being preferred in Korea versus America preferring tan skin.
i was in peace, but the title OMG- I LOVE IT IN HERE
Why do get real eps end so fast 😭 I love this podcast
I am not even exaggerating...this is my third time here already
31:02 lol
I feel like that 'testosterone' excuse gets used a lot when it's convenient for the guy though. I get it, but even if it's true, I think we've evolved enough to know when to separate unhealthy and healthy competition.
10:29 True ! My sister and I were only raised my our mother and she did everything and worked so hard for us. I'm so thanful I grew up with such a strong female model
this is like subsequently one of my top favorites podcasts.
Where can i get myself a Mathew in my life i need a guy like him so bad, lover or just friend doesn't matter i neeeeeedddd a human being like him!!
BM is my ideal type. I like clean shaven men too. He's so open minded and I love his personality.
Same.
"It's hard to deal with people" hell yeah...
I’m from Portland and when I checked to see where Corbyn was from it also said Portland so that’s hell cool!! Never thought that he would be from Portland out of all the cities in Oregon
this is ma fav episode they all so comfortable and cheerful together
the way these guys express their respect for women is something else!!!!
I want a second part of this...not the same topic necessarily but the same people
man I haven't seen Alex since HIGH4 era, I'm glad he's making music again \o/
I’m assuming they disbanded?
3:34 Corbyn thought it's "and why" and laughed bcs it sounded like matthew was asking why was lxx born in new york (NY) 😂
BRING CORBYN BACK ESPECIALLY WITH ERIC NAM I CAN HEAR HIM TALK ALL DAY!!!!
Really enjoyed this episode a lot! It's good to hear the perspectives from all sides!
10:42 shout out to Dr. Grandma and her momma Dr.SingleMotherGreatGrandma, working hard and hustling in the British India
i really love their group of friends, along with peniel, joan, tina, coco, jae, bernard, etc. i wish there more male-female friendships like theirs in the korean entertainment industry.
Dude Portland here! I was so happy I’m definitely gonna check him out soon
I get Taeyang vibes whenever Corbyn smiles. Here I am with another episode of Dive Studios making me fall in love with Get Real's special guests.
BM's giggle is the best thing in this existence
Corbyn and LXX are so cute, It was pleasure to listen to them
woah wait hol up, last week i was just having this dilemma of understanding men’s perspective and wanting so much to write about it on my blog but i keep getting confused. my guy friend goes like “em not soft” when we were talking something serious and emotional, whilst my other guy friend was more of expressive and emotional and honest about his emotions.. so i got confused which of them posesses real “manliness.” i know man have varied personalities but i as a woman, i prefer the expressive male friend because that way we can learn and relate to one another in more deeper sense, but then again i cant judge men who doesnt show much emotions because i respect how they handle it. so yea, all in all, this episode taught me things... definitely.
Mathew is a real men :')
Thank you for the single mother's shutout.
Just a question and something to think about, because this came up a few times here.
What is a "strong" woman? Are you strong when you are able to beat men at work? Are you strong if you are scary? I always find it kind of uncomfortable when people say that some women are strong, because they are scary to them or because they are able to work at a job, where there are mainly male workers.
Just wanna hear other people's opinions on this.
People say that strong women are scary because they tend to think they have to be like society " says ", and when a woman knows her rights and imposes herself on certain issues, she is "different"...And we well know that human being odd everything that is different or escapes the "norm", so they are usually associated as scary.
when I heard about that the standards towards men and women changes, I feel like my country just stays in place and I'm sick of it. because whenever people try to explain that girls don't need to be this and guys don't need to be that, people will just say 'the heck are you talking about, you have to be like this, if you're different then there's something wrong with you'
Alternative title: Corbyn flirting with Ashley for 41 minutes straight
Nah, they are just really really really really close friends.
I mean, they'd be cute af together tho
Lol I thought I was just being silly when I noticed that too
but I guess they just have that kind of good friendship
They're all good homies and hangout a lot if you see them on Joan's or Christine's vlogs 😊
more like Alex avoiding direct eye contact with Ashley for 41 minutes straight.
THIS EP SHOULD BE ENTITLED " 41 MINS OF CORBYN BEING SO FUCKING HOT "
he's so cool!!!!
I know I'm very late, but it's nice to see someone finally from Oregon 🙂
23:00 as a woman with PCOS: mood. also drop the kpop stubble/shadow make up tricks. the struggle is real
i hope they can come again! this was a great conversation, very chill, intelligent, and great to listen to. i'd love to hear more from them! (of course ash and bm too!)
this is SERIOUSLY one of the best pods episode ever!!!!
Corbyn is...extra chill and I love it!
What an amazing episode! 😀 a much-needed conversation!
Absolutely LOVED this Episode!! I LAUGHED so much!!
Thank you for making me laugh so much! I loved the topics and talks! I’m excited for more ☺️
I feel like PENIEL should have been there for this conversation. We miss you PENIEL.
GET REAL is my favourite podcast.
I love how they talk about the hard important topics that society would normally dodge around.
Ps. I have a girl crush on Ashley.
When Corbyn said "DAY ONES BABY" I fell for that just right there and I don't even knew him before this interview