Satan Is Using Idolatry to Keep You Unmarried If . . .
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- Is the devil keeping you single? If so, how can Satan keep you unmarried? Here are 4 signs Satan may be using idolatry to keep you unmarried.
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Also Satan uses Fantasy or an imaginary person. For example, focusing on the physical aspects over connection and Godly relationship.
True.
#1 and #4 really affected my 20's and I fantasied A LOT about the perfect person and their perfect reactions to me. I had crippling FEAR that was overwhelming with a lot of shyness. A large part of my life I feared about not being perfect and exposing that I was broken. I feared the idea of being rejected. Also, I was controlled and abused as a kid (spiritual abuse so it was very "works based condemnation) so I didn't have healthy relationships with grown men/boys in general. In my late 20s/ early 30s I really worked on myself in counseling and "getting out there." in a healthy way. I met a lot of people and really grew in the Lord. I met men who weren't the right people for me - which is ok! (The Lord revealed that with his confirmation). By my late 30s Covid hit (and changed a lot of society being social) and now I'm in my early 40s at 42 years old. I feel bummed sometimes, since I want kids., but God is good and would still love to still be married. :) I have accepted my imperfections as well as others I pray that I meet someone great really soon! :)
I'm praying for you sister in Christ!
Dear sister that's exactly why i'm 35 and still single. I wanted simplicity but someone else wanted to complicate things all the time. Girls at my church are mostly like: He needs to be: Point 1. point 2. point 3. .... "10 or 15 points i want in my future husband." And also most of girls are very focused on appearance.. He needs to look like Brad Pitt.. It's so hard to find a woman that is mostly focused on your heart, on your relationship with the Lord...
That sounds hard god bless you I’ve been struggling a lot with putting relationships over god, but I think I need to let go and give it to god because I may never have a wife but I will always have my lord 🙏
4 signs that might mean that Satan is using idolatry to keep you unmarried:
1.- Satan is using idolatry to keep you single if you're completely avoiding the opposite sex because you care too much about what they think of you. (Out of fear). *Matthew 10:28
2.- If you given up on ever meeting someone you could marry because you believe " the one got away." That's a sign you are unmarried because Satan is using idolatry.
*Matthew 7:7
3.- If you put too much pressure on people and this push them away. (Early on the relationship).
* 1 Timothy 6:17
4.- If you believe your person will be marked by stress free relationship connection with them.
Thank you!
Merci 😊
Thanks bro
Idolatry can be EXTREME avoidance! Woah. Thats a WORD there
Never really thought of idolatry like that really. Thank you for your teachings be blessed in Jesus Name 🙏
Number 1 hit me like a ton of bricks. That was me in my teens and early 20’s. Still working on it.
This is so strange. I was literally praying about how in the first two months of my following Christ, I began to idolize marriage. Ever since I’ve been scared to pray for a husband. And then this pops up this morning… none of the issues really rang out to me. I’m introverted, have social anxiety and trust issues with men, so I don’t tend to socialize much.
And I want to engage in a biblical courtship, not the “Christian dating” trash.
So that and the base necessities (Godly man, politics, dietary, etc.) and I think I might be waiting awhile. 😅
God can bring him!
Thank you...I really, really needed to hear that.
Some parts really did hit home....I never looked at it this way....
Oh wow, I've been avoidant for awhile, thanks for calling me out! Going to work on making space in my life for a Christian man. I've been rejected many times in the past, think I'm ready to open it again.
On point #4, I think we need to reexamine how the church creates the narrative that if someone is for you, everything is supposed to fall in place, and that they would be super for you and into you... The church makes it seem like your person will be hassle free and everything will just fit.
Dang, that cut...I'm Cameron from Ferris Beuller and my divorce wrecked me.
So very sorry. God bless i hope you are able to heal 🙏 p.s. I love that movie
Mark… all of the above apply to me and I need prayers badly to shake off this grave sin I confess to God as it’s bleeds into all other things of my life especially the fear aspect and putting too much pressure on things like work and jobs.
Hi Mark! Thank you so much for this video, it was super helpful. Any advice on how to guard your heart & mind from putting on the rose colored glasses so as not to live in this fairytale mindset & push them away? I’ve just met someone that approached me at church & I’m aware I can be this way in the beginning when things are new & exciting, but just need practical tips on how to prevent this other than just “ignore the thoughts” or “guard yourself” because a lot of the thoughts seem to be intrusive & appear as temptations & I feel like just telling someone to simply “guard themselves” is vague.
Not sure if Mark responded yet, but I would suggest after being approached by someone to pray to The Holy Spirit is this someone I should proceed with? & if yes take your time to observe their fruit❣️
“Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves. You will know them by their fruits...every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot bear bad fruit (Gal 5:19), nor can a bad tree bear good fruit (Gal 5:22). Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. Therefore by their fruits you will know them” -Matthew 7:15-20 NKJV
Do you both bear good fruit: “But the fruit of the Spirit [the result of His presence within us] is love [unselfish concern for others], joy [inner], peace, patience [not the ability to wait, but how we act while waiting], kindness,goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such things there is no law” -Galatians 5:22-23 AMP
A lot of times our fairytales and infatuations come from false assumptions of good fruit and/or physical attraction, but it takes time to really get to know someone & their fruit (good or bad). So remembering to slow down & asking Holy Spirit to reveal their fruit helps a lot. I hope this was helpful❣️
Well done Mark.
Thank you so much. I’ve never seen it that way.
I used to worry aboht what people thought of me. Sure i would love to be a father, and have a woman who loves me not just for looks, personality, etc. But for my faith and my love for the Lord. My main point is, if a woman isn't interested in me, or doesn't find me attractive and so forth, I just move on because I know God has someone out there for me who He wants me to be with.
Also, to add to this sometimes even the “good” guy or girl that we loved won’t be the one because our flaws can highlight their weakness and vice versa, resulting in stagnation. After all, Iron sharpens iron.
GOOD VIDEO
Glad you enjoyed it, all glory to God!
Number 3 me currently! Is it possible for this person to come back after separation to heal my idolatry that caused much pressure… focusing on idolising god only 🙏🏽
Thank you!
Amen 🙏💙🙏🕊️✝️🌿
God bless!
Thats the thing about me...unless they are a virign or childess and never mairred i hestate and about justvstart shying awya from thebwoman
Idolatry is loving singleness? This is new to me. I do not understand.
Satan is using hot fries to keep me obese
1 one was definitely one before I got sick. now i cant meet men or friends or family... so. no choice
Something i was thinking about before watching this....never put a person/people on a pedestal....it won't work you or them or those around you and them.....the onlywho is to be put on a pedestal is Jesus
I don't care what women think. Once i figured out I was operating off old data I completely changed my attitude towards the twat I was into. Refusing to get a marriage license might be some type of idolatry also. But for me most Christian women I ignore because I don't care for a relationship right now. Maybe I will find someone maybe not. I'll definitely be looking outside the country though not inside.
...maybe a person is avoiding the opposite sex because they are healing from abuse; not idolatry 🤔
You lost weight...?
Hey Mark. Great take on an important aspect of life. In my case, I don’t avoid the opposite sex because I am afraid of rejection. This may sound weird, but I am actually not looking for a wife and don’t feel ready for a marriage commitment. I am actually just trying to build a happy life as a single man without having to depend on a woman for happiness. I am more afraid of getting in a relationship than getting rejected.
Yes, however, it's still a fear based motive. You don't need to avoid women to overcome your fears about women hurting you. You have to address the fears rather than abandoning the other good parts mixed in there. In other words, don't rely on a woman for happiness and seek contentment in Christ; but that doesn't have anything to do with pursuing a woman. You can be content in Christ and secure in him and pursue a woman. It's not one or the other. You may need to fast from dating for a few weeks or months, but eventually God wants you to pursue good things from good motives. If you want to be married, it's okay to pursue that with a healthy motive to glorify the Lord. This relates: applygodsword.com/4-signs-god-wants-you-to-overcome-a-relationship-idol-by-pursuing-a-relationship-with-pure-motives/
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger thank you mark. I love your videos and topics on certain things. They are very helpful. I will do my best to overcome fear. I do think deep down I am not in that season of marriage nor dating yet.
I am trying to get myself together these days. I don't think a good man wants a hot mess and I am a mess!❤❤❤
Read 1 Corinthians Chapter 7
Looks like a fearful-avoidant attachment style. Try to read about it.
Number 3 is my Achilles heel🙏🏾Pray for me
Its mine also.
Agree with your balanced teaching on this.
God bless!
Great video. I can relate to some of these. I definitely “idolized” marriage before But am much more realistic now. Thank you. Girls fantasize too much about marriage and Satan knows this. Thanks for the video!
Expect adversity, embrace adversity and realness between two people. The key, imo, to a successful relationship and marriage is to be equally yoked, and to equally love God more than each other, but to genuinely love each other. Prior to my re-conversion to Christianity, had little faith in marriage. Little desire to be a husband or a father. But, after becoming a new Man in this faith, I do want to marry and experience the joy and the trials and the love of children, as well. Whatever happens, is within God's will. But, I will absolutely do my part. Great vid, bro.
Thank you, Mark. This was so helpful for me to hear.
😂You nailed me to the wall. Especially the last one, I don’t do NO Stress from nobody. I will move, quit my job, switch churches, and hop states over stress😮💨🤦🏽♀️ I throw people away from quickly🥴 Wow! Very eye opening🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thank you. I needed this today, God knows I did!! Some points really hit hard. God Bless Mark 🙏🏽
I can relate to #3 but I’m more likely to end things early bc I’m scared to like them too much. I’ve been learning about attachment styles & a lot of it makes sense. I want love but scared of it at the same time so I tend to self sabotage by cutting things off prematurely. I’ve been praying more about guarding my heart so I don’t continue to do this.
I don’t believe in the concept of “the one”. I believe any God fearing man or woman can figure out a way to live with each other, given that they are aware of their roles in a relationship and respect them. Saying that everyone has a predestined partner can put a lot of stress on a person as they fear they’ll “miss the one” or they are afraid to talk to anyone romantically because they fear they’ll contradict Gods will and somehow Mary the wrong person. Go out and talk to people, you’ll never know if you don’t try.
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Not all people need Marriage to be happy.
Some people are happy from being single .
Being single has lots of benefits such as
1. having the ability to make life decision without consulting your partner . 😊
Cap! Promiscuity, chastity make no difference. Knew a woman who had 4 abortions, including the one she married. Cheated, left for year. Came back, he bought her a new house and car. Divorced him and remarried in less than a year. Another woman, college friend, her husband was the second man she slept with, proposed at graduation, had three kids. Divorced after the 3rd. There is no formula.
What do you do when you’ve been told for years you’ll get married by your partner and then doesn’t?
It's ok to move on, because there's truth in it's better to be alone then being with the wrong person...
@@RFCM24 so I’m only just born again. I have children with this guy and he refuses to go to Christ but myself and my children are now baptised in Christ. I told him in order for us to make this work we need to get married and he’s refusing. So my heart appears to be shattered, but clearly God has another plan for me. Thank you 🥰
When confused, it's always wise to come back to the basics of the Bible. Just obeying God in the day to day is the right place to start. Proverbs 3:5-6. Making the right choices will lead you the right destination eventually. It sounds like trying to stay with this man who doesn't love the Lord is not God's path from a biblical standpoint
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger thank you!!!! 🥰
Kick your own butt for being 'taken' when you knew better than to move-in in the first place! Then forgive yourself and him, move on, and don't be stupid next time.
Of course there are also spiritual explanations. But many of us are also marked by childhood traumas that make us codependent (codependency makes you put people on a pedestal, depend on others for validation etc) or with an unhealthy attachment style.
We all have a certain attachment style, for example the person with avoidant attachment style runs away from relationships, the person with fearful avoidant style would like a connection, but is afraid of rejection, failure, etc.
The person with anxious style sticks to others like metal objects to magnets. Is not a fun place to be. But it can be changed.
It is very important to know our attachment style, traumas and the language of love.
God is the our healer, but psychology is also a kind of "ultrasound" that helps us see our shortcomings as people.
Moreover, demons work through these traumas and attack us precisely through our weaknesses. "On top of my wounds they added wounds".
Traumas are open doors through which evil forces enter and attack us.
Codependency is a gate through which idolatry enters etc. Please read about codependency as well as attachment styles. If you want.
Codependency is a serious problem and it greatly affects the relationship with God and with people.
#1 if I like a guy I will not speak to them and pretend they are not there. They end up thinking I’m a bitch I guess
this make sense to me so much…😭 oh, lord😢❤
Maybe it's not idolatry, maybe it's the fact women idolize a specific type of man who doesn't exist, and there are guys who'll never commit in the first place yet they want those types of men. Can you make this make sense? Plus why bother talking about marriage? In the west divorce is at a 50% chance for first marriages. If you divorce, more than likely the man if he earns more pays alimony. And if child support is there all the more money. Most women here are just single older women wanting to find a marriage material man after hook-up culture. Enough of this information is around. Lets not forget the hidden infidelities that happen, even in CHRISTIAN marriages. Is this the life you want in this country?
To me a "perfect" relationship is something that includes all the stress and frustration. How are you supposed to love the other person like God loves you if you don't know their flaws? And vice versa. A big part (if not the biggest part) of marriage is helping each other grow in God and going above and beyond for each other. Even if you don't do either perfectly.
All *good* love stories have some kind of conflict between the characters that makes the whole thing interesting and satisfying to experience for the audience. It'd be boring and unsatisfying if the guy and girl live happily ever after without watching them suffer a little first.
Thanks for explaining in such a clear way!
Am i single because of satan?😮
I hope the content in this video helps you answer that
Or maybe nobody wants you or you're not putting in effort to get a decent guy? Are your standards also too high?
Well i don't have any of these signs
I also escaped a Narcissist 😮😢😊
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#1 until my 50's. how stupid is that. wish I would have thought of it like this and I would have changed it immediately. i always thought there was a block or invisibility around me because I never got married. that maybe I was cursed. or that I had violated God's law somehow that he has withheld it from me. now I'm 62. i have no family that is close and am totally alone. praying for rapture...
My mom got married at age 50 last year. So it’s never too late for you or God❣️🫂
“Do not be anxious or worried about anything, but in everything [every circumstance and situation] by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, continue to make your [specific] requests known to God” -Phil 4:6
“Delight yourself in the Lord,
And He will give you the desires and petitions of your heart” -Psalm 37:4
God help us to let go and let GOD
And to follow his will through our actions :)