I think that allowing myself to feel all of my feelings during my losses and leaning on my support group helped me keep it together! And a healthy dose of Netflix marathons with comfort junk food :) -Meris
It is a very tough subject, but it’s so wonderful to have an emotional response to it. Your patients will appreciate having a kind and empathetic nurse! -Meris :)
I really appreciate you sharing the moments of your dad's illness and hospice care. It was difficult for me when I suddenly lost my own father, and I think the way you are presenting this matter for nursing is amazing. I'm glad to follow your page.
Thank you for always being so open about your life when teaching these topics. They stick so much in my head and I always remember them when I’m answering questions on HESI
Thank you for your openness with your experience 🩵 💕 I delivered a 1 lb baby girl who lived in the NICU. She unfortunately passed at 4 months due to low birth weight complications. I didn’t tell anyone I had given birth so early and people still thought I was pregnant. When I finally shared the news that she passed a few days after, it was a suprise because no one even knew she was born yet. It’s it’s an incredible painful experience, thank you for reminding me it’s okay to talk about her 💕💕
The grief and anger is real, but my situation is palace of care kept us in the dark about everything meeting behind our backs when we had durable power of attorney very terrible experience accused me of wanting them to euthanize him. It was the worst treatment I’ve ever heard of from palliative care towards the family of my dad who is Vietnam veteran Forced him into making different decisions in the meetings they had that they’ve still refused to disclose the health department here in Tennessee is on their ass and I’m picking up medical records this week so they won’t be able to for too much longer. It was awful, but that was university of Tennessee Medical Center in Knoxville Tennessee. They are some terrible people.
One other thing, I know it doesn’t happen often, but it did happen to us and it was just terrible the way they treated me and my mom so a lot of what you’re saying and this is true but all of my reactions which kind of went down your list was triggered and initiated by the hospital so there are occasions when people have a right to be angry
Another example of disenfranchised grief is deployments. Deployments are not understood by non-military families and encouragement is not always encouraging. Anticipatory grief is usually on the front end followed by disenfranchised for the duration of the deployment.
Would a miscarriage still be considered disenfranschised grief if the woman shared it with only her husband or one other person. Also very sorry for your losses. You're a strong lady who helps so many people (including me), so thank you.
As you mentioned the stages of grief theory is not linear and not for everyone in practice, I would like to ask what is the practical approach in real-life nursing practice?
I think that the importance of understanding grief theory is two-fold. One reason is so that you can recognize what normal grief can look like! It's important to understand that it's normal and expected for your patient to be angry or in denial or trying to bargain. And the other reason is so that you can be prepared for how to react in those situations, plus educating patients on what they may experience through the grieving process. This is where therapeutic communication becomes really important! Knowing how to ask open-ended therapeutic questions is vital, and understanding when therapeutic touch or silence may be indicated as well. This certainly comes more with time and experience than can be taught in a book, but understanding how grief can look/present can help you be prepared for that! --Meris :)
I feel like another example would be the death of an ex-spouse or girlfriend/boyfriend, especially if they are remarried!! I feel like it is extremely hard to grieve for someone in that situation publically.
Clear and precise. I can't imagine going through 8 miscarriages. What was one thing that kept you sane during your losses?
I think that allowing myself to feel all of my feelings during my losses and leaning on my support group helped me keep it together! And a healthy dose of Netflix marathons with comfort junk food :) -Meris
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This vid was deep, but thank you for being vulnerable in order for us to become better nurses.
You're so welcome; I'm always happy to share a personal story if it helps drive home the point for new and veteran nurses! --Meris :)
Thank you for sharing your story; you are appreciated greatly.
Thank you so much!
in all nursing topic this is the most emotional and makes me cry sometimes (stages of Grief)
It is a very tough subject, but it’s so wonderful to have an emotional response to it. Your patients will appreciate having a kind and empathetic nurse! -Meris :)
I really appreciate you sharing the moments of your dad's illness and hospice care. It was difficult for me when I suddenly lost my own father, and I think the way you are presenting this matter for nursing is amazing. I'm glad to follow your page.
Hello Meris, thank you for your videos. Guess what, I had a question on disenfranchised grief. I also passed my NCLEX. Thank you so much 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Congratulations on passing the NCLEX!! 🙌 We would love to send you a little something to celebrate. Please email us at support@leveluprn.com
Palliative vs hospice, thank you for that!
You are welcome!! ❤️
Thank you so much! So sorry for your losses. You are so strong to share
Thank you so much!
Someone once told me that although the pain of losing a loved one will never really go away it will fade over time!
God has his own kids like this gentleman, God bless you !
You are the best ❤ thank you for sharing!
Thank you for always being so open about your life when teaching these topics. They stick so much in my head and I always remember them when I’m answering questions on HESI
Very welcome! 😊
Thank you for teaching and sharing your experiences.
You are so very welcome! Thank you for your kind comment! --Meris :)
you basically answered my question thankyou so much! i cant wait to buy the flashcards
I'm so glad!
Very helpful.... thank you!!
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you for your openness with your experience 🩵 💕 I delivered a 1 lb baby girl who lived in the NICU. She unfortunately passed at 4 months due to low birth weight complications. I didn’t tell anyone I had given birth so early and people still thought I was pregnant. When I finally shared the news that she passed a few days after, it was a suprise because no one even knew she was born yet. It’s it’s an incredible painful experience, thank you for reminding me it’s okay to talk about her 💕💕
I am so incredibly sorry to hear of your loss. It is absolutely okay to talk about her! Sending you love ♥️ -Meris
Thank you so much! I have my finals this Wednesday 💪👍🏻 and these videos have been very helpful ❤️
Good luck!!😊
For disenfranchised grief another example could be for an ex spouse for a person who is remarried. Great video!
Thank you for sharing, your videos are super helpful!
You are so welcome!
Aww I also lost my dad from pancreatic cancer last and I was thinking about throughout your whole video
I’m so sorry that we have this in common! Sending you love! -Meris
@@LevelUpRN thank you ❤️
Meris you doing an amazing work in the nursing world,,God bless
Thank you so much!
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Thanks!
great video
Thank you so much!😊
i love it ,
thanks for the video!
Our pleasure!
Love u sis❤
The grief and anger is real, but my situation is palace of care kept us in the dark about everything meeting behind our backs when we had durable power of attorney very terrible experience accused me of wanting them to euthanize him. It was the worst treatment I’ve ever heard of from palliative care towards the family of my dad who is Vietnam veteran Forced him into making different decisions in the meetings they had that they’ve still refused to disclose the health department here in Tennessee is on their ass and I’m picking up medical records this week so they won’t be able to for too much longer. It was awful, but that was university of Tennessee Medical Center in Knoxville Tennessee. They are some terrible people.
One other thing, I know it doesn’t happen often, but it did happen to us and it was just terrible the way they treated me and my mom so a lot of what you’re saying and this is true but all of my reactions which kind of went down your list was triggered and initiated by the hospital so there are occasions when people have a right to be angry
Love this
Thank you!
Had to send my primy child to the gods today. I really hope comfort care helped him.
My best friend, my ex sister in law passed away and I believe I suffered in silence to protect my kids.
I'm so sorry for your loss
Another example of disenfranchised grief is deployments. Deployments are not understood by non-military families and encouragement is not always encouraging. Anticipatory grief is usually on the front end followed by disenfranchised for the duration of the deployment.
Would a miscarriage still be considered disenfranschised grief if the woman shared it with only her husband or one other person. Also very sorry for your losses. You're a strong lady who helps so many people (including me), so thank you.
Hmm… I watched another nursing video and the slide said that you must be DNR for hospice. Now I’m confused ☹️
As you mentioned the stages of grief theory is not linear and not for everyone in practice, I would like to ask what is the practical approach in real-life nursing practice?
Personally, when each time it feels like the grief wants to peek I feel in safe hands reading Irvin Yalom.
I think that the importance of understanding grief theory is two-fold. One reason is so that you can recognize what normal grief can look like! It's important to understand that it's normal and expected for your patient to be angry or in denial or trying to bargain. And the other reason is so that you can be prepared for how to react in those situations, plus educating patients on what they may experience through the grieving process. This is where therapeutic communication becomes really important! Knowing how to ask open-ended therapeutic questions is vital, and understanding when therapeutic touch or silence may be indicated as well. This certainly comes more with time and experience than can be taught in a book, but understanding how grief can look/present can help you be prepared for that! --Meris :)
I feel like another example would be the death of an ex-spouse or girlfriend/boyfriend, especially if they are remarried!! I feel like it is extremely hard to grieve for someone in that situation publically.
What are the Terminal illness stages ma'am
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everyone has to go through these stages of grief while preparing for NCLEX!!!! LOL
eg of disfranchise grief would be death of a pet
thank you very much meris
Stephen King said "Grief is like a drunk relative that keeps coming back to say goodbye over and over" 😝
Yes!!! Not linear at all ♥️ -Meris
another example of disenfranchised could be the death of an LGBT partner