My friend's brother was physically abused by his wife for a long time. She broke plates over his head and basically pressured him to marry her in the first place. It's definitely not one way.
In my highschool English class we had an assignment to make a persuasive essay on a subject matter (preferably one with two out spoken sides and choosing one to support). I picked the need for more awareness on male domestic abuse victims. To prepare I naturally needed to read lots of articles about abuse in general & thought pretty much the same thing you did in this video. When it was time to present I had to make it clear my topic was a serious matter and to not laugh or joke while I was talking (they actually did a great job at this). When it was time to answer questions & comments, the most immature guy in my class actually thanked me for talking about it since one of his family friends had been in an abusive relationship plus he found the stereotypes surrounding abusive relationships harmful. If a typically immature guy in a person's English class knows that stereotypes about abusers & victims are harmful, Then the people who's job it is to help them should understand that too.
AiD_0v2 just... mmos and mobas can give you the needed social interaction, pretty sure at least some grocery stores deliver and you can use your stove and/or microwave, um, youtube can be a pretty good paying job if you've got long videos that don't drive away advertisers, and you can use email and phone to talk to friends and family so if someone really really really wants you dead, you have a backup plan tho it would be wise to start a very small gaming channel that you can grow later if you need to
I saw this social experiment a while back (not a sam pepper prank, an ACTUAL social experiment) they hired a male and female actor to pretend to be in a relationship and while in a park lots of people walked by, the man would pretend to be abusing the woman, usually by shoving around and verbally berating her. Predictably, most people who walked by asked what was going on there, told him to back off, or threatened to get the police involved. They then did the EXACT same thing but with the woman abusing the man. afterward, they interviewed the people who walked by the woman on man incident, as most of them didn't do ANYTHING and one actually began silently cheering after she was out of view as she had ASSUMED the woman was "standing up to him". One of the others was an off duty POLICE OFFICER who had simply assumed he was getting what he deserved and even admitted he would've instantly stepped in if it was the man abusing the woman.
NOOOO! YOURE JUST A WOMAN HATER IF YOU SAY THAT!!1!1 WOMEN ARE WEAK!! THE PATRIARCHY IS RUINING EVERYTHING!!!!11!WOMEN DONT HAVE ANY PRIVILEGE!!!! (for geniuses who can't tell this is sarcasm)
That's really upsetting. I think a lot of this sprouts from the people's ignorance. Sexism works both ways. You can not successfully obtain equality when you are attempting to put the "past victims" where the oppressors where. You are actually doing nothing to the cause.
Yes. a million times, yes. My husband and I were both abused as children, and due to the statistics we were told that those "Break the Cycle" ads told, we were terrified of being married. We were certain he would abuse me eventually, and that was stupid. He also thinks I may kill our baby from Postpartum Depression because of those misleading ads/TV shows, making me afraid of telling him when I do feel depressed. Misinformation is a dangerous thing.
powerstar 2028 so if there’s one flaw in your SO immediately dump them I get it. Seriously though it’s possible to talk to the other person and get through and fix problems without cutting the relationship. Not saying you shouldn’t do that but it should mostly be the last resort.
Mr. Enter Thank you for telling people the truth behind issues they were ignorant of or lied to about. People need to learn that the world is not all black and white.
The problem is that people EVen when they get that,they are biased about "life sucks but not all time" and stuff. We are biased by nature and the problem is that we have to keep in mind EVERYTHING is possible and EVERYTHING IS impossible at the same time. Is just a very scary paradox in which we live and apparently the only constant in it is that it loves to prove us wrong (if we believe everyone is a bastard, we get to meet people who are almost saints, and viceverse, and so on)
This is one of your best videos. I missed how you took on serious issues with a more calm demeanor. I'm looking forward to your future Family Guy reviews.
+Aratharr Same here, can't wait for him to rip them down XD But in all seriousness, Thanks Enter, it's about time someone stated the facts without dipping into blatant lies. I think even Anita Sarkeesian MIGHT agree. (Can't garentee though, she thinks her opinion is the bloody law.)
As a feminist and a girl who has been through abuse, I really thank you for this video, it really looks at abuse from a realistic, compassionate, and inclusive lens.
Please tell me you don't mean someone on the internet criticised you, and you felt abused/harassed , Kinda like a certain someone who has followers as bad as the actual harassers
MAGDARIN i'm sorry, i guess the issues where followers of anita sarkesian have tried to get critics of her screwed over have left bad tastes in me but its still no excuse for the verification so sorry again
The fact that a Disney movie could portray an accurate example of abuse and gaslighting better than a show aimed at adults really says something. Movies like Encanto, Tangled, and Coco manage to portray a character having an abusive parent/grandparent accurately and they don’t portray the victim as anything less than a victim. Family Guy will try to tackle the problem and answer it with saying, “It’s the victim’s fault and the abuser is in the right”
Facts. See, Fecalman and Quagmire got nothing in comparison to Captain Jake as their sins are so extremely unforgivable, that even Lelouch would be disappointed at the two's Sins.
+Cody Mayo we are bound by our emotions and our emotions elevator us from mere beasts,but in our elevation we become the beast we rise to escape becoming
*looks up info on Peter-assment* "Peter decides to become a full-time member of the paparazzi after he finds success in selling footage of a celebrity he caught off guard. His boss begins hitting on him, but Peter shuts her down and he gets fired as a result. Meanwhile, Stewie gets stage fright when performing in a play." Oh just fuck off!
Why would McFarlane or the writers even THINK this was a good idea?! Why would you even consider making fun of this AT ALL?! I mean seriously?! Stage fright is no joke, people! C'MON!
+RockBandAddict666 im sick of this double standard the media has for women on men relationships for comedy, they promote a message that women can harass men but then negate it because the women hasn't had sex in a long time, it makes no sense
The whole "men can't be abused thing" reminds of Tsunderes in anime. Why am I bringing up anime? Well...Tsunderes are prone to hit the male protagonist out of anger. They verbally assault them in some cases as well. Most Tsunderes are females. No one cares that a guy is getting slapped and getting called horrible things. Now, if a male Tsundere hit a girl, everyone would flip their shit. Reminds me of society in a nutshell...
I'm glad you bring up anime, because there is an anime that's centered around bullying and abuse which expects you to take it as a comedy after shoving five minutes of bullying in your face every episode? There's one episode where literally the first scene is having a little girl walk in on her mother who's just killed herself. Like how the hell am I supposed to laugh at a joke after seeing that? Humor is humor and drama is drama. Don't show us drama and cut to the opening where you realize "wait, this is a comedy?". But at least most tsunderes are not that bad.
That's mostly because most (but not all) anime is cliché carbon copy garbage with nothing original. All original jokes got exaggerated, deconstructed, and lost in the translation over time. Also Japan has a huge sexual harassment problem in its culture but I'm not sure how much that impacts anime.
It was brought up in an episode of Call the Midwife as well. A mother blamed herself because her baby was born with spina bifida, but rather than the stereotype of trying to kill that baby in her depression, she just did everything she could to avoid even looking at him. It was really heartbreaking to watch. Far moreso than if she'd tried to kill the kid.
Sadly, because of the Andrea Yates case; we as society believe that anytime a woman who develops either Postpartum Depression or Postpartum Psychosis following the birth of a child, the mother will inevitably snap and try to kill the infant. In reality; mothers who develop either of the aforementioned postpartum mental illnesses are more likely to try and kill themselves instead of their children. This is the reason why we as society are not witnessing an epidemic of infanticide.
She was a lot smaller than my dad. A good 50lbs less than him. She was short too, much tinier than your average women. He was over 200lbs, and worked in a warehouse, making it all mostly muscle. She nearly broke his arm once and bruised him plenty. Made us all bleed at least some. He never hit back. He was afraid of her. We all were. She would threaten us with knives. She broke my bedroom door with a meat cleaver and threatened to chop his head off with it. She tried to break my neck, pulled out several chunks of my hair, almost broke my nose, and this went on until I was finally old enough to leave. It wasn't just violence though, and it wasn't obvious to anyone, even those who looked closely. She was often nicer to me than my own mother. She taught me how to straighten my hair and helped me get ready for my first date. She was the one who helped me through my first period. In one breath she would call me her precious daughter, and the next a selfish whore. I loved her and I hated her, but the bruises were almost always on the inside. He's still with her. It's never as black and white as people and the media would have you believe. I am one story of millions, many more terrifying and tragic. I have never spoken out online about this, and here I find myself compelled to do so in a youtube comment section of all places. If this can reach even one person though, even just one who is going through something outside of the "norms" of abuse; it could be from a brother or sister, it could be a spouse, a parent, a friend, family member, or a stranger. It could be verbal, physical, emotional, sexual, mental, it could be a small woman or a big man, or vice versa, it could be anyone at any time in any way, and if this reaches that one person who thinks "I am alone" than I hope this will help you see you're not. And to those that maybe never see the other side, here is one small example in a vast pool of stories you'll never hear from people who don't speak out. No one is alone, and nothing is as simple as it seems.
Holy shit, you're a fantastic writer. Seriously, you have a way with words that most authors seem to lack. You ever considered composing a memoir to tell your full story? I'd read the crap outta that.
Oh wow thanks, I'm really glad you think so :) I've never really planned on writing down my experiences, they helped shape who I am and I'm happy to have learned what I have from them, whether or not those memories are good or bad, but I don't know that they would really be that interesting. After all, everyone has a story to tell, mine no more intricate or meaningful than anyone else's. maybe someday, when I've had a chance to live more life and I can write something really meaningful down
The view you brought up about "sympathy porn" was very interesting and also important because it's a subject people usually don't talk about or question. I first came across this when I read the book "3,096 Days" which was the autobiography by Natascha Kampusch who was kidnapped in the age of ten and held in a cellar for eight years. In the last chapter she describes her life after escaping the kidnapper, and the reception she got from people actually shocked and angered me. People had this weird idea of a weak, helpless little girl who had no idea how to live in the society, which was not true in the slightest (in truth she kept a very clear and determined mind throughout and actually stood up to her kidnapper). When they realized that she didn't fit the idea of a "victim" they had, some people actually started hating her and questioning her experience (thinking the whole this must've been made up). And when she tried to understand the reasons behind her kidnappers actions, people accused her for having Stockholm syndrome. Like the idea that she might try to empathize with the person she lived with for eight years was simply unheard of. I actually recommend that people read the book, ESPECIALLY the last chapter, because it really sheds a light on an issue that isn't acknowledged enough.
+Milo Ilo That sounds like an intriguing read. I've always been interested in how a victim of those situations deals with their problem and how they move on later in life.
+sonicgamer42 Yeah, the human psyche is always a fascinating subject. It's a shame we never got to find out the kidnapper's side of the story, and what exactly was going through his head. I really would like to know.
Milo Ilo Yeah, like how do certain human brains find corpse filled furry animatronics or anthropomorphic blue hedgehogs "attractive?" These are the big questions in life.
Dude, I think you deserve some respect for this. You've definitely gotten my respect from it. I think it's amazing that your show is so much more than "haha look at this bad cartoon" and actually covers social issues when they are relevant. I think it's amazing that you don't hide from episodes of shows that require a deeper discussion and you ACTUALLY HAVE THAT DISCUSSION. You are an inspiration Mr. Enter.
I hope that while you're doing these videos you're also taking the time to rest your nerves. I imagine these aren't easy on you. This video was rather enlightening, things I didn't know about abuse I have no been made aware of, and have made me think back on a lot of things. Thank you for this video and I wish you luck on your next.
+KocoBlitz Because the schools are afraid to teach anything that parents would deem 'controversial' and try to sue the school over or get someone fired.
+Luna D (MoonlightMillennium) So basically, either the schools need to nut up or the overprotective parents need to learn that their kids need to learn this stuff.
Troll Breaker My thoughts exactly. Parents need to lighten up and stop being so overprotective, and the schools need to do their damn job and actually TEACH what we need to know for the real world.
Troll Breaker I don't think it's a charity situation. More like, the school needs to have the power to teach what kids need to know for the real world, and I don't mean algebra and science (that crap you almost never use, especially math, unless you're in a profession utilizing it). I mean health and drug knowledge, sexual education that does NOT just say "Don't have sex. Ever", and information about abuse that is valid and NOT watered down in any way. Parents need to not have the ability to sue the school or get someone fired just because they're too concerned with sheltering their kids from the outside world and complain about their kid learning anything that isn't that the world is some perfect place. Sheltering just does them more harm.
Wow, I'd almost thought Enter was going to leave out LGBT abuse. I was afraid that it wasn't going to be "important" enough to make into a short video. But seeing it talked about and addressed really means lots to me. Thanks for making the world better by drawing attention to these types of issues, Enter.
I think it's not discussed enough because people are afraid that it'll fuel the fire of homophobia, like they fear homophobes will believe that all same-sex relationships are toxic.
Which is obviously not true, but the fact of the matter remains that LGBT relationships can be just as a abusive as straight relationships depending on the situtaion.@@rogue7723
You have no idea how happy it makes me how well researched your video is! Domestic Abuse is much more complicated than how the media portrays it and it sickens me when people who claim to be for human rights still cling to the belief that it's purely male on female violence. As more people become aware of this I hope one day everyone will be able to get the help they need no matter their sex, gender or sexual orientation.
It's why I want to create a billboard about Domestic Abuse for the month of October (October is National Domestic Abuse Awareness Month) that would read as follows: "Man? Woman? Straight? Gay? Domestic abuse is NOT a one-way street!"
Even Courage the Cowardly Dog tackled abuse much more respectfully. It may not be a tell-all episode, but it showed a good amount of how it can affect people.
Bless you, sir. By whatever deity you feel like attributing that to. From someone who was in an emotionally abusive situation with a roommate. Nothing physical. no romance between us. both of us girls. still abuse.
I don't usually comment on RUclips, but as someone who came from a home with domestic abuse, I just want to thank you for this video. It makes me happy to see that actual facts can be viewed by whoever watches this. You're awesome, Mr. Enter.
Here's one you haven't heard before: I'm a straight male, I was abused by a gay woman who I thought was my friend. She bled me dry of every penny I had, and made me feel guilty when I couldn't spend money on her JUST TO FUNCTION. She punched me every time I did something she didn't like. She insulted every opinion I had. She condescended me for any question I had that was a legitimate point of confusion. She made someone who used to be my best friend hate me. She ruined my chances of dating a girl I still love who ended up in the arms of a verbally abusive guy (I suspect there's a connection between the guy and my abuser). She fucked up my mind with a collection of lies (and bitched at me for continuity errors being pointed out), which involved being a major part of my personal spiritual beliefs. I got lucky when she flat out admitted she was lying about the whole thing. I only wish I hadn't remained her friend after so much of her bullshit.
+Sidar Erdem easier said than done, sadly. It's difficult enough for men to get help with abuse - the fact that the abuser was a woman and not a romantic partner just exacerbates the problem.
+Ollie Embourne I have actually been able to cope with the the issue for the most part. Just the shout of a woman sounding angry is the only thing I can't get over if the woman is intimidating enough.
This is why I love you, John. You're not afraid to talk about real issues and call out bullshit in the media. You talk about things in a real way that most people don't want to think about but should. That's why you're the best.
A friend of mine got into a relationship with another woman mostly because she was starved for love and gave herself to the first person who offered. Well, as it turned out, the first person who offered was a compleat psyco and decided to threaten outting her to her homophobic parents if she ever left. One argument later the abusive girlfriend calls my friend's mother and give a very graphic description of the sex she had with their daughter. My friend was forced to tell her parents everything and while they don't blame her for what happened they now think that if she is ever in a relationship with another woman that it will turn out like that. She can never be accepted by her family for who she is because they now just see it as abuse.
Thank you for bringing up the fact that abusive situations can happen in the LGBT community too. As a bisexual woman who had the luck of getting out of an abusive relationship with my ex girlfriend before things escalated to physical violence, it really means a lot to see that someone else recognizes that the LGBT community is equally vulnerable to these sort of situations. Granted, I probably wouldn't have gotten out of it if my parents and best friend hadn't found out, but that was because I didn't even recognize the situation I was in. I was too busy making excuses for her and seeing only how she was when our relationship started. Safe to say I have a new girlfriend now who treats me much better, and I'm all the wiser now that I'm away from my ex. Thank you Mr. Enter, for acknowledging this and giving it the attention it deserves. Stay awesome.
Thank you so much for making this. As an aspiring writer and director you have inspired me and taught me so much. When writing I try to make things more realistic and not cliché especially in controversial subjects like this and your reviews are honestly just so well put together and informative that I know what writing mistakes to avoid and good choices to make. Thank you so much.
I caw fowl. The writers of Family Guy are ducking their responsibility to not quack up under pressure, and they're chickening out of writing anything other than cruelty. They can't sparrow the time to make good jokes, and they're robin people of the time wasted on their show. It's a cardinal sin of comedy to abuse the same jokes over and over again, but Family Guy seems pigeonholed in that unfunny style of humor. I could crow more, but I'd be raven a bit too much if I continue, so I'll bow out and leave the rest of this for the birds. "Funnier than family guy" is like "A better love story than Twilight". It's not hard to do, and you haven't accomplished much, but it's still better than nothing. Even my pile of puns is likely better comedy, as it's got more effort than most of the newer Family Guy episodes.
My mother works at a women's domestic violence shelter, i find it very difficult to talk about domestic abuse with her (or anyone for that matter) because of the preconceived notion that men are always the abusers, when i talk about how men usually make up about 40% of domestic abuse cases and 1/3 lesbian relationships are abusive i get shouted down and bullied. I took a 6 month long course about social work, it involved drug use, domestic violence, mental illness and community development and during those 6 months i was repeatedly shut down and bullied by both my female classmates and teachers, because apparently have privilege that makes my input on discussions worthless. Towards the end of the course I was suicidal and ended up getting taken to a hospital to sort my issues out. Those 6 months destroyed me as a person and has made it even harder for me than it was to form a relationship with a woman because im scarred that I will be psychologically abused again, that may make me a misogynist but at this point its something i need to do to protect myself. sorry for being a bit rambly, this video really hit home and i felt like i needed to say something.
if its privilege they were talking about chances they're radical feminists/sjws. they're basically misandrist/heterophobic white hating assholes masquerading as freedom fighters.
The Little Llama every feminist I've ever talked to has been calm, and reasonable. most of these "sjws" that people are always talking about are very rare, when they're not just trolls.
TBH the media does portray abuse in relationships HORRIBLY. I've never actually been abused, but both my mom and stepdad abused each other AND were abused. My stepdad would be all nice to people and friendly and charming with everyone. Once it was just the family he'd treat us women like servants, calls us names, control us, and often lie to and manipulate my mom to do what he wanted. No one ever helped, even though his family knew. My mom mentally scarred me and my siblings, and often used guilt tripping and gaslighting to make us fall into depression. So, you have a good point.
Are you ever going to review the episode where Chris wanted to date Jeromes black daughter but Jerome said no because he disliked white people (even though he never showed any symptoms of this during his appearances)? The Episode is called Baby got Black and by god youll be in for a real treat if you manage to stomach the entire thing.
+Stew Pidd It could be that Jerome was hiding what he really thinks about white people because he was in a public place or around Lois. It's not hard to believe that people can hide their dislike of certain categories unless they're in a given situation.
+sakuraslicer19 Well, given that in the episode, Jerome explicitly states to Lois that a black man going out with a white woman is okay, but a white man going out with a black woman is wrong, yeah there are definitely a lot of problems with that episode that are worth talking about.
GrandMasterScottay It's who's asking out who that Jerome is placing this standard. The episode does raise a point about how even the minority can be racist to the majority, when most of the time the other way around is seen in media. There is a lot of intersectionality in the episode that it provides significant value.
+sakuraslicer19 clearly thats what they were going for but like always they botched it and the PSA came out horrible and tacky.Its def not very well thought out and was executed very poorly
10:56 OMG.. O_O WTF PEOPLE? So basically the idea is to tell the girl every men will probably try beating her & the boy that he should beat women... What the hell is wrong with these People X_x
+yugoxgc it seems very doubious that the kids were actually told what were on the pictures but they are wrong on so many levels they won the game and earned all the hidden coins, a kid needs to learn that ze expreienced something rare and abnormal and that ze needs to trust not fear
Well, I was going to sleep but this is important and sheds a lot of light on domestic abuse in all shapes and sizes. Can't wait to see your next Animated Atrocity. Oh and just to put this out there, Family Guy might not last long due to low ratings of their latest season. It's coming to an end and the gates of heaven are finally opening.
sakuraslicer19 I wouldn't say they're better but more tamed than some of the earlier seasons. Though I have to say that the characters at this point sound like they don't care anymore. Some scenes feel like they drag on too long.
Redcord CHN "Pilling Them Softly" explored new character traits and didn't do the lazy stuff like starting the episode with the TV or overly long cutaways. "Peternormal Activity" does its own twist on the horror genre with Peter and the guys being part of the horror movie while trying to make one (plus the catharsis of Stewie beating Brian for being an egomaniac in glasses). "Peter, Chris, & Brian" did go into Peter and Chris' relationship like in "Hannah Banana," and it deconstructs how the former wants to help his son become successful (I liked the joke where Peter cuts off the Conway Twitty music as a reference to how people are sick of the gag).
Some forms of abusive relationships can literally come from anywhere. A bully at school, a church mentor (mental trauma it brought me in a personal student life), stepparents, older siblings and maybe even narcissistic so called friends. People need to understand the actual word relationship. Having a relationship with someone doesn't always mean romantic, family relationships, servant master relationships, mentor student relationships. Abuse is not just parents on kids or spouses on each other. The abuser can be literally anybody you or someone being abused has some romantic or non romantic relationship with.
Finally, someone else who finds statistics to be a load of manipulating bull crap. I'd rather listen to good reason, instead of a bunch of percentages.
Heh i got the reference. But in all seriousness. I consider statistics the "necesary evil of the devil that we have to take into consideration but always distrusts because those f*¨[ers are in constant change every single nanosecond"
i really appreciate you taking even more time to address the issues with this episode. Your thoughts on more serious subjects have really given me a lot of perspective and I can't express enough how much I like hearing them. Hearing you talk about how even a positive stereotype can be hurtful, it's really true. I went to an outdoor school for troubled teens back in junior high and I remember talking to one of the counselors there about feeling like my problems were insignificant. I won't go into what I was going through, but most of the kids there were dealing with physical violence, drug abuse, and issues I'd never even seen before at that age, so I felt really out of place. I remember him telling me that every persons problems are equal, because if something is a problem and hinders you, it's still a problem. It's nonsensical to compare two peoples pain, because pain is relative. That advice not only made me feel better (like my problems were real and I deserved help just as much as anyone else), but it gave me a new level of empathy for others. Just because you are capable of handling something doesn't mean someone else is or should be. It's so important to remember that people with all levels of issues are deserving of help and compassion, and not just those in extreme situations.
This is really well done - Also, this perfectly describes why I hate family guy - teenagers watch this show, and it gives them so many wrong messages. Like seahorse seashell party - you should stay in an abusive relationship for your abusers benefit, this episode, and every other God-awful time family guy attempts to be "moral"
Clay Claymore Why, yes, I was on mobile when I commented that, and I happened to slip up. Thank you ever so much for pointing that out. Your level of insight is so high, it's positively staggering.
2:09 Anyone can make the call is complete b.s. unless you're a woman. If you're a man in an abusive relationship, either no one cares or no one believes you. I really hope this mindset changes by the time I have kids.
Radioactive Panda I believe that it is a result of sending the wrong message about abusive relationships. Instead of saying, "abuse is wrong" they want to send a message they think is more prevalent. And that is women getting abused, at least what is more known. People don't even always know that, it's just what's heard.
Or the man is made fun of like "You let a woman beat you? You wuss. Fight back!" even though that will lead to legal troubles and "He beat her!!! hes abusive!" or the man is praised if its sexual abuse like "was she hot? congrats man! you should be celebrating!"
While I do feel bad for male victims, that part involving female victims being believe can be debunked based on anyone’s story of being ignored or be called a liar and a life ruiner. Sadly, no matter what gender the victim is, they almost never win and sometimes go through the fear of being around their abusers and getting told off again for ‘lying’
Every statistic class I've ever taken has emphasized that "even the raw numbers have been cooked a little." Whether it's unintentionally by exponential variables, intentionally by manipulation, or simply logic loopholes on our part, there's always a grain of salt to be taken.
That awkward moment when you realize that Courage the Cowardly Dog handles domestic violence and abusive relationships better than Family Guy, and Courage the Cowardly Dog is a frelling kids show!!!!!!!
This worked so well and, using a trash episode of FG as a launch pad, managed to go infinitely farther into the issue than I've often seen other articles and discussion pieces that straitforward try to address the issue will go. Reading between the lines abit, I'm surprised how well you managed to cut right into the harmful gender biases associated with abuse. I can't tell you how many times I've seen people genuinely try to even justifiably entertain the reality than men can be victims of abuse, especially non-physical abuse, before their immediately accused of being an MRA, and thus, any valid point they've made and their discussion as a whole is instantly canned. I'm actually really proud that the comment section appears to avoiding that path for the most part.
Thank you for this video. Domestic abuse usually doesn't get talked about in the proper way it deserves. And good call on PETA. I'm a vegan who loves animals, and I regret *ever* having supported them.
I find it funny how The Owl House(A disney channel cartoon made for kids) handles abuse with Belos and Hunter more maturely and more respectfully than Family Guy(A cartoon made for adults).
... as some one who witnessed domestic abuse as a child.. I really needed to hear this.... I won't go into details, but my biological mother bullied my mother to point where she almost killed herself... I was too young to understand any of this as a child, and as I grew up all I had was the media to tell me about domestic abuse. It always left me concerned/confused. It also didn't get easier when people told me that because I had an abusive father, I'd grow up to be exactly like him no matter what I did which made my adolescence more difficult than it already was. But this video helped me get a better grasp of the whole thing and feel more at ease. Thank you for doing this... it really helps put things into perspective. It helps me understand more about this topic while also helping me figure out more about what I witnessed years ago.
My parents had a very...unhealthy relationship. I really appreciate how you tackled all angles of domestic abuse, be it from a man or woman, and especially from the non-violent and controlling angle. Whenever I used to think about my parent's abusive relationship and how it affected me, I always tried to tell myself that, aside from that, I had it pretty good growing up. Even though they hated each other, they loved my brother and I, and they each did what they thought was best for us. Having grown up, though, I've sort of had to come to terms with the abuse for what it really was. I don't think my parents meant for it to happen the way it did...I maintain the thought that, despite the abuse, they are good people...but man...it still really hurts to think about it...and I'm trying to grow past it. But anyway, thank you for handling this topic with such maturity, and acknowledging all the types of abuse that exist that other people don't seem to realize is there. Thank you.
You are possibly the most intellegent, thought-provoking animation critic I've come across. I have to thank you greatly for this video, as I am an aspiring cartoonist and have actually been wanting to write a cartoon covering domestic abuse for quite some time, but never knew quite how to go about it, as the only domestic abuse I've ever been exposed to is through the media, and it portrayed as a man on woman physical situation. Your videos serve as a well-structured list of dos and don'ts in animation that I have taken into heavy consideration when writing. If I ever get any of my cartoon ideas aired, I would owe it largely to your guidelines.
Mr. Enter I want like to thank you for this video, it tells people things that I've either wanted to explain and didn't know how or for the majority of it taught me things I didn't know. I've been trying to get help for ages now with things going on here at home and my depression. I hope that this video helps others escape or helps prevent similar situations from happening. To you dear sir I tip my cap. Thank you.
Thank you SO much for this, Mr. Enter. Outstanding analogies! It felt like a (very) necessary "Domestic Abuse 101" video... in the best possible way. Great job!
I think a lot of people have more sense than we give them credit for. We tend to judge them through small windows, usually because they do the same for us (ironic emphasis: statistically). This video producer asks "why" without letting the issue go. I admire that.
You know what, it might be a little cliché bringing this up that they do right what Family Guy gets wrong, but The Golden Girls have made multiple episodes on domestic abuse, and portrayed them much better. One episode, for example, showed the one woman, Blanche being in a verbally abusive relationship with a guy named Rex. And because she wasn't being hit, she didn't think she was being abused. That was a much better episode than Screams of Silence, and a much better PSA on domestic abuse. And that episode came out in the early '90s. (I think.)
I feel like your ideas come from a completely unbiased perspective regardless of how you feel you will be perceived. I have the uttermost respect for that. Thanks for these videos. I'm glad I found your channel.
This is an incredible video that asks people to really think about their world views. I am so impressed with the way you lay out a compelling discussion with many of the problems that our society deals with domestic violence. Well done!
This is so important. I particularly hate the idea that two-way abuse is somehow okay, because it was 'provoked.' If a couple is taking chunks out of each other, or screaming at each other from dusk till dawn, or destroying each other's possessions, we should not dismiss it as an 'argument,' or say it's 'none of our business.' These are two people with issues, who are clearly in a toxic situation that they need to be removed from. It's not about picking a side, or deciding who's the abuser and who's the victim, it's about making sure no one gets hurt. I'm also very grateful to you for pointing out how this sort of thing can mislead those in abusive relationships, making them believe that they are not truly suffering abuse. No one should be in the position of thinking that it is okay for their partner to call them fat, unloving, lazy, selfish, ugly, to belittle and take away the things that they love, to manipulate children and relatives in to turning against them, and to make them constantly feel as though they are failing as a husband or wife or boyfriend or girlfriend, just so long as they don't hit them. A boast of "I've never hit you!" is not something that comes out of the mouth of a good partner.
3:07 I know that this isn’t really related to domestic abuse but it immediately caught my eye. In English this year one of our units was Temple Grandin. We read a bit of the book and we watched the movie. It handled both Autism and proper animal care very well. And the thing with the chicken farm was similar to a bit of the movie that dealt with Temple trying to make the cattle farm better for the cattle so they don’t have to be stressed when they’re gonna get slaughtered. THAT is what the thing with PETA and the chicken farm should’ve been like. It’s kinda sad how someone could “fight” for stuff like this but not in a good way and that it makes everyone else who’s trying to really fight for this stuff look just as bad as them.
Wait, let me get this straight, when my mom would tell me lies about my dad that were so bad I ended up trying to cease contact with him up until a year ago... that was abuse? I know it's heavy duty manipulation but I had no idea it was abuse...
This video is amazing, and it really needs to be shared around. It shows domestic abuse in an informative and open-minded standpoint, and truly delves into both sides of the story. Thank you so much, Mr. Enter.
Thank you. I'm going through my own issues with abuse right now and what you said was very validating. People tend to not understand why I think the issues in our home were big things but what you said about control really hit home with me. It took me years to figure out that the way I was raised was wrong and now I have to explain it to people who should know better. Just thank you so much for seeing this.
Sadly; because of the Andrea Yates story, we as society believe that anytime a woman develops Postpartum Depression or Postpartum Psychosis after giving birth; the mother will inevitably snap and try to kill the infant. In reality; mothers who develop either of the aforementioned Postpartum mental illnesses, they are more likely to try and kill themselves instead of trying to kill their children. This is the reason why we as society are not witnessing an epidemic of infanticide or fillicide. Andrea Yates had a potent combination of both Postpartum Depression and Postpartum Psychosis. Andrea made two attempts at committing suicide in the summer of 1999. In June of 1999; Andrea made her first suicide attempt by trying to overdose on sleeping pills prescribed for her father, who had been suffering from Alzheimer's Disease (Andrea had previously worked as a nurse; so she was stressed from caring for four young children and a parent with Alzheimer's Disease.) Andrea was hospitalized for three days and diagnosed with the mental illnesses I mentioned earlier. That July; Andrea's second attempt at suicide was by trying to slit her throat with a knife. Andrea was hospitalized for three weeks and treated with the antidepressants Wellbutrin and Effexor as well as the anti-psychotic drug Haldol.
I think you should do longer reviews-- the longer the view time the more likely you'll get recommended and also you'll get more add revenue-- plus it'll be one video- just saying I love ur videos to watch a 30 min thing
(I've lost season count) the season with episodes Brian's a Bad Father, A Fistful of Meg and Life of Brian started to put me off new Family Guy. I also felt put off by episodes from the past few years like Lois Comes Out of Her Shell and goodness know what else, I felt that Family Guy is turning from bad to good. I still have fond memories of episodes like E. Peterbus Unum and The Father, The Son and The Holy Fonz, but due to how bad Family Guy has been over the past few years, I decided to stop watching new Family Guy episodes, but not without first watching The Simpsons Guy, considering I'm a huge Simpsons fan!
My dad verbelly abused my mom for years. He just stopped doing it one day. When I was younger, he would push her against the wall. My mom told me all this, I don't remember much from when I was a kid.
It's actually sad because my bf is in an abusive household. His mom has berated him, gaslit him, sometimes hit him, and it's put a huge strain on our relationship because she doesn't let me see him sometimes. He's scared to do anything like call the cops because she's known to manipulate people and worries she'll say something to the cops and have him arrested. He's actually broke down once because he was so scared to call the cops this one time she flipped out and started trashing the house and we had to leave. It's fucked how society is and that they automatically defend the woman. She's much smaller compared to him (mostly because she's bulimic) and she uses her illness to make people feel bad for her when she did it to herself. I think she also has Munchausen's. She always goes to the emergency room or doctor a lot. I hate her so much. I really do. Also it's actually his grandma. She's forced him to call her mom. She throws a fit when his sister called her grandma. And his grandma has been known to physically abuse his aunts and real mom before. If they knew this, why did they leave him and his sister with her? I think his sister got it the worst growing up because his grandma drove her absolutely insane to where she was in the hospital for a suicide attempt. I can't understand why his family would allow this crap to go on.
King of the Hill. Not a fan, have not seen too many episodes, but, there WAS an episode with Post-Partum Depression, and the character suffering from it, while she did ignore the child's cries to go hide and cry alone, she did not attempt to harm or kill it.
Hannah D. Well, yeah, but, that kind of thing would not be KotH's style. They don't go for shock humor, they go for.... umm... not particularly funny humor, most of the time.
Scrubs had a similar episode. It's not an animated show (although some of the scenes are so insane you would think you're watching a cartoon.) but it does everything about post-partum depression RIGHT.
When presented this episode, the writers expected us to: Emphathize with Brenda, who is depicted as a character with personality or will, we didn't even get to know her before this or Jerome is the new Black, what her old character would be according to Quagmire. Jeff, on the other hand, we were expected to hate the guy, given his lack of intellect... Yeah, these presentations do not help us to do react with anything other than being disgusted at how poorly they handled domestic abuse.
I agree. Like many useful words, it has been abused to the point of almost rendering it useless. It is sometimes applicable, but it's grossly misused most of the time.
One of the reasons I love your reviews so much is that you're able to talk about important topics such as these in such an educated and relieving voice. I never seem to go "ehhhhhhhhhhh" when you discuss them like I seem to do with so many other people. I seriously can't wait for your "Quagmire's Dad" review.
Speaking as someone who has been abused I can safety say that sadly sometimes you aren't aware that you are being abused. It's hard to hear I know but it's true. Some abusers know better than to outright attack their victims in public and will.use subtle threats and get into their victims' head. Abuse is bad. No matter what kind of abuse or who is being abused. It's still wrong and it always will be.
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My friend's brother was physically abused by his wife for a long time. She broke plates over his head and basically pressured him to marry her in the first place. It's definitely not one way.
Are they still married?
+Nexius Reign well thats a good sign to dump the bitch
If he shows signs of abuse you can get lawyers to help you. Men's rights is becoming a big thing now.
They divorced a few years back thankfully. He's since remarried and I believe things are going well.
+Nexius Reign AGOOD
Every time Enter says "This should be fun" it feels layered with more and more sarcasm as time goes on.
+Raymond Williams LOL
+Raymond Williams XD Yep. Because he he thinks he's seen it all, something worse appears.
Christian Arroyo It'll be funny if something beats The Drawn Together movie in like a week.
Raymond Williams XD Yep.
+Raymond Williams Well considering what he's reviewed already, he might just be a masochist. Though this is just speculation on my part.
In my highschool English class we had an assignment to make a persuasive essay on a subject matter (preferably one with two out spoken sides and choosing one to support). I picked the need for more awareness on male domestic abuse victims. To prepare I naturally needed to read lots of articles about abuse in general & thought pretty much the same thing you did in this video. When it was time to present I had to make it clear my topic was a serious matter and to not laugh or joke while I was talking (they actually did a great job at this). When it was time to answer questions & comments, the most immature guy in my class actually thanked me for talking about it since one of his family friends had been in an abusive relationship plus he found the stereotypes surrounding abusive relationships harmful. If a typically immature guy in a person's English class knows that stereotypes about abusers & victims are harmful, Then the people who's job it is to help them should understand that too.
Applause
You know what, this is more important than sleep right now
of course O.O
+Jaegar Ultima Fallout 4 would say otherwise
i thought the same thing....then i fell asleep
I never took you as a mr.enter fan.
+Emperor Frieza If Frieza says it, it is law.
"if someone in your life really, really wanted to kill you,
*you would be dead right now.*"
im scared af right now
welp, keep people who want you dead away.
AiD_0v2 just... mmos and mobas can give you the needed social interaction, pretty sure at least some grocery stores deliver and you can use your stove and/or microwave, um, youtube can be a pretty good paying job if you've got long videos that don't drive away advertisers, and you can use email and phone to talk to friends and family
so if someone really really really wants you dead, you have a backup plan
tho it would be wise to start a very small gaming channel that you can grow later if you need to
AiD_0v2 Me too, mon ami. Me too.
Get a strap bro
I saw this social experiment a while back (not a sam pepper prank, an ACTUAL social experiment) they hired a male and female actor to pretend to be in a relationship and while in a park lots of people walked by, the man would pretend to be abusing the woman, usually by shoving around and verbally berating her. Predictably, most people who walked by asked what was going on there, told him to back off, or threatened to get the police involved. They then did the EXACT same thing but with the woman abusing the man. afterward, they interviewed the people who walked by the woman on man incident, as most of them didn't do ANYTHING and one actually began silently cheering after she was out of view as she had ASSUMED the woman was "standing up to him". One of the others was an off duty POLICE OFFICER who had simply assumed he was getting what he deserved and even admitted he would've instantly stepped in if it was the man abusing the woman.
NOOOO! YOURE JUST A WOMAN HATER IF YOU SAY THAT!!1!1 WOMEN ARE WEAK!! THE PATRIARCHY IS RUINING EVERYTHING!!!!11!WOMEN DONT HAVE ANY PRIVILEGE!!!!
(for geniuses who can't tell this is sarcasm)
+Australium bacon
Messed. Up.
+Dr. Dhoom
WHAT! What did I do..?
All I said was that the social experiment showed messed up results.
Did I insult you somehow?
Your the fucking dumbest femnazi bitch ive ever seen
That's really upsetting. I think a lot of this sprouts from the people's ignorance. Sexism works both ways. You can not successfully obtain equality when you are attempting to put the "past victims" where the oppressors where. You are actually doing nothing to the cause.
Very well presented video. Fantastic job, Mr. Enter! :)
hoodo you are a fan of mr.enter ?
matt bohan Wouldn't be here otherwise! ;)
+HoodoHoodlumsRevenge oh off topics but some kid at school slapped me just because i said jeff the killer is overrated
matt bohan Well then that kid is a moron!
+HoodoHoodlumsRevenge argee also what god allow a jeff the killer movie or kids bop doing feel good inc
Yes. a million times, yes. My husband and I were both abused as children, and due to the statistics we were told that those "Break the Cycle" ads told, we were terrified of being married. We were certain he would abuse me eventually, and that was stupid.
He also thinks I may kill our baby from Postpartum Depression because of those misleading ads/TV shows, making me afraid of telling him when I do feel depressed.
Misinformation is a dangerous thing.
HeartSongPony I know this comment was made two years ago but Yes! I agree you should not rely on misleading commercials/ads.
powerstar 2028 so if there’s one flaw in your SO immediately dump them I get it. Seriously though it’s possible to talk to the other person and get through and fix problems without cutting the relationship. Not saying you shouldn’t do that but it should mostly be the last resort.
I’m so happy you both found love and hopefully are moving on and learning to cope
"This is a man.... this is a woman.... and this is a BEAR!"
+coltheawesomeable wasn't there a "sketch" where men are equated to bear that are a metaphor for rapists
+Overshitlord Yes, it was on College Humor.
+Overshitlord yeh Dr Radomercam just did a video on that.
+Overshitlord
Personally thought it sounded like propaganda. Coughstatisticscough
zachary neil 97% of Eskimos are 57% likely not to have Electricity based supperpowers.
110% of people don't know that.
Mr. Enter
Thank you for telling people the truth behind issues they were ignorant of or lied to about. People need to learn that the world is not all black and white.
The problem is that people EVen when they get that,they are biased about "life sucks but not all time" and stuff. We are biased by nature and the problem is that we have to keep in mind EVERYTHING is possible and EVERYTHING IS impossible at the same time. Is just a very scary paradox in which we live and apparently the only constant in it is that it loves to prove us wrong (if we believe everyone is a bastard, we get to meet people who are almost saints, and viceverse, and so on)
Quickman may win no, it’s also Hispanic, Asian, etc.
@@Suckmynards9000 explain
This is one of your best videos. I missed how you took on serious issues with a more calm demeanor. I'm looking forward to your future Family Guy reviews.
+Aratharr Same here, can't wait for him to rip them down XD
But in all seriousness, Thanks Enter, it's about time someone stated the facts without dipping into blatant lies. I think even Anita Sarkeesian MIGHT agree. (Can't garentee though, she thinks her opinion is the bloody law.)
It probably won't happen since fox Is worse then Viacom when it comes to criticism.
It wouldn't really matter whether she'd agree, and she most likely wouldn't. She's basically sexist to the extreme.
+Lewis Young (YungBlud) The only thing in the universe who's opinion is law is Tyr, because he *IS* the law.
As a feminist and a girl who has been through abuse, I really thank you for this video, it really looks at abuse from a realistic, compassionate, and inclusive lens.
Please tell me you don't mean someone on the internet criticised you, and you felt abused/harassed ,
Kinda like a certain someone who has followers as bad as the actual harassers
+thecommenter67 that's a really tactless thing to say to someone
+MAGDARIN I'm sorry you went through such an ordeal. I hope things are better.
+thecommenter67 So do you normally ask all victims of traumatic events to verify their 'real victim' status? What the fuck is wrong with you?
MAGDARIN i'm sorry,
i guess the issues where followers of anita sarkesian have tried to get critics of her screwed over have left bad tastes in me
but its still no excuse for the verification
so sorry again
The fact that a Disney movie could portray an accurate example of abuse and gaslighting better than a show aimed at adults really says something. Movies like Encanto, Tangled, and Coco manage to portray a character having an abusive parent/grandparent accurately and they don’t portray the victim as anything less than a victim. Family Guy will try to tackle the problem and answer it with saying, “It’s the victim’s fault and the abuser is in the right”
Facts. See, Fecalman and Quagmire got nothing in comparison to Captain Jake as their sins are so extremely unforgivable, that even Lelouch would be disappointed at the two's Sins.
Hell, even Hunchback of Notre Dame got this right.
@@davidtimmer596 my mate, facts. I can imagine Alexis Tipton as Lala rage quitting on watching Screams of Silence too.
@@davidtimmer596 Cinderella also dealt with it I think.
@@davidtimmer596Damn, how’d I forget that one?
New idea, let's all just be nice to each other.
+Sousabird Uh... Don't you realize you're on the internet?
+Sousabird
RECENT NEWS: *world peace has been declared*
Freezing Popo Obviously, that's why it's a new idea ;)
***** It would probably be a great one if you actually tried it.
+Cody Mayo we are bound by our emotions and our emotions elevator us from mere beasts,but in our elevation we become the beast we rise to escape becoming
*looks up info on Peter-assment*
"Peter decides to become a full-time member of the paparazzi after he finds success in selling footage of a celebrity he caught off guard. His boss begins hitting on him, but Peter shuts her down and he gets fired as a result. Meanwhile, Stewie gets stage fright when performing in a play."
Oh just fuck off!
What will he think about the Terii Schiavo joke at the beginning?
Why would McFarlane or the writers even THINK this was a good idea?! Why would you even consider making fun of this AT ALL?! I mean seriously?!
Stage fright is no joke, people! C'MON!
+RockBandAddict666 im sick of this double standard the media has for women on men relationships for comedy, they promote a message that women can harass men but then negate it because the women hasn't had sex in a long time, it makes no sense
It's just as bad as this cyberbullying crap that's happening lately!
+Sephiroth Scout I don't like these episodes either, but you guys take Family Guy WAY too seriously.
The whole "men can't be abused thing" reminds of Tsunderes in anime.
Why am I bringing up anime? Well...Tsunderes are prone to hit the male protagonist out of anger. They verbally assault them in some cases as well. Most Tsunderes are females. No one cares that a guy is getting slapped and getting called horrible things. Now, if a male Tsundere hit a girl, everyone would flip their shit.
Reminds me of society in a nutshell...
I'm glad you bring up anime, because there is an anime that's centered around bullying and abuse which expects you to take it as a comedy after shoving five minutes of bullying in your face every episode? There's one episode where literally the first scene is having a little girl walk in on her mother who's just killed herself. Like how the hell am I supposed to laugh at a joke after seeing that? Humor is humor and drama is drama. Don't show us drama and cut to the opening where you realize "wait, this is a comedy?". But at least most tsunderes are not that bad.
@@LaineMann what anime are you talking about?
@@S1lliest_Beanz Kotoura San
@@LaineMann Never heard of that anime.
That's mostly because most (but not all) anime is cliché carbon copy garbage with nothing original. All original jokes got exaggerated, deconstructed, and lost in the translation over time.
Also Japan has a huge sexual harassment problem in its culture but I'm not sure how much that impacts anime.
In King of the Hill, Deedee gets ppd and she doesn't hurt the baby. I just wanted to remind everyone of that one time.
It was brought up in an episode of Call the Midwife as well. A mother blamed herself because her baby was born with spina bifida, but rather than the stereotype of trying to kill that baby in her depression, she just did everything she could to avoid even looking at him. It was really heartbreaking to watch. Far moreso than if she'd tried to kill the kid.
powerstar 2028 Dint worry Liberal, plenty of them do.
@powerstar 2028 Careful with the edgyness there, bub. I almost cut myself reading this post.
Sadly, because of the Andrea Yates case; we as society believe that anytime a woman who develops either Postpartum Depression or Postpartum Psychosis following the birth of a child, the mother will inevitably snap and try to kill the infant. In reality; mothers who develop either of the aforementioned postpartum mental illnesses are more likely to try and kill themselves instead of their children. This is the reason why we as society are not witnessing an epidemic of infanticide.
I don't even know that moment.
Beautifully done, Mr. Enter.
+kaza12345678 true, then again the Rocket Monkeys was a request and he himself said that requests turn out way worse than shows that he knows about
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+Matthew Bridges hey thas not true he's is so trying so to hard just it doesn't right out but if it could you'd really no.
+Matthew Bridges Did you understand this guy
Cause
Cause I didn't.
+digitivortex Apparently they don't teach grammar at school anymore....
She was a lot smaller than my dad. A good 50lbs less than him. She was short too, much tinier than your average women. He was over 200lbs, and worked in a warehouse, making it all mostly muscle.
She nearly broke his arm once and bruised him plenty. Made us all bleed at least some. He never hit back. He was afraid of her. We all were. She would threaten us with knives. She broke my bedroom door with a meat cleaver and threatened to chop his head off with it. She tried to break my neck, pulled out several chunks of my hair, almost broke my nose, and this went on until I was finally old enough to leave.
It wasn't just violence though, and it wasn't obvious to anyone, even those who looked closely. She was often nicer to me than my own mother. She taught me how to straighten my hair and helped me get ready for my first date. She was the one who helped me through my first period. In one breath she would call me her precious daughter, and the next a selfish whore. I loved her and I hated her, but the bruises were almost always on the inside. He's still with her.
It's never as black and white as people and the media would have you believe. I am one story of millions, many more terrifying and tragic. I have never spoken out online about this, and here I find myself compelled to do so in a youtube comment section of all places. If this can reach even one person though, even just one who is going through something outside of the "norms" of abuse; it could be from a brother or sister, it could be a spouse, a parent, a friend, family member, or a stranger. It could be verbal, physical, emotional, sexual, mental, it could be a small woman or a big man, or vice versa, it could be anyone at any time in any way, and if this reaches that one person who thinks "I am alone" than I hope this will help you see you're not. And to those that maybe never see the other side, here is one small example in a vast pool of stories you'll never hear from people who don't speak out. No one is alone, and nothing is as simple as it seems.
Holy shit, you're a fantastic writer. Seriously, you have a way with words that most authors seem to lack. You ever considered composing a memoir to tell your full story? I'd read the crap outta that.
Oh wow thanks, I'm really glad you think so :)
I've never really planned on writing down my experiences, they helped shape who I am and I'm happy to have learned what I have from them, whether or not those memories are good or bad, but I don't know that they would really be that interesting. After all, everyone has a story to tell, mine no more intricate or meaningful than anyone else's. maybe someday, when I've had a chance to live more life and I can write something really meaningful down
It's not just your story, it's your writing style. It's poetic and beautiful, even tough your talking about something horrific.
Ivory The Elephant Wow, well thank you so much, it really means a lot. I just try my best, but maybe I will write a book someday :)
@@shannonshea6668 any more news on this woman? Has she gotten better or has your father left her?
The view you brought up about "sympathy porn" was very interesting and also important because it's a subject people usually don't talk about or question. I first came across this when I read the book "3,096 Days" which was the autobiography by Natascha Kampusch who was kidnapped in the age of ten and held in a cellar for eight years. In the last chapter she describes her life after escaping the kidnapper, and the reception she got from people actually shocked and angered me. People had this weird idea of a weak, helpless little girl who had no idea how to live in the society, which was not true in the slightest (in truth she kept a very clear and determined mind throughout and actually stood up to her kidnapper). When they realized that she didn't fit the idea of a "victim" they had, some people actually started hating her and questioning her experience (thinking the whole this must've been made up). And when she tried to understand the reasons behind her kidnappers actions, people accused her for having Stockholm syndrome. Like the idea that she might try to empathize with the person she lived with for eight years was simply unheard of. I actually recommend that people read the book, ESPECIALLY the last chapter, because it really sheds a light on an issue that isn't acknowledged enough.
+Milo Ilo I realize this was a little off the subject but I felt it was relevant enough to be brought up in the context of this video.
+Milo Ilo
I didn't find it off subject at all.
Thanks for the input.
+Milo Ilo That sounds like an intriguing read. I've always been interested in how a victim of those situations deals with their problem and how they move on later in life.
+sonicgamer42 Yeah, the human psyche is always a fascinating subject. It's a shame we never got to find out the kidnapper's side of the story, and what exactly was going through his head. I really would like to know.
Milo Ilo Yeah, like how do certain human brains find corpse filled furry animatronics or anthropomorphic blue hedgehogs "attractive?"
These are the big questions in life.
Dude, I think you deserve some respect for this. You've definitely gotten my respect from it. I think it's amazing that your show is so much more than "haha look at this bad cartoon" and actually covers social issues when they are relevant. I think it's amazing that you don't hide from episodes of shows that require a deeper discussion and you ACTUALLY HAVE THAT DISCUSSION. You are an inspiration Mr. Enter.
I hope that while you're doing these videos you're also taking the time to rest your nerves. I imagine these aren't easy on you. This video was rather enlightening, things I didn't know about abuse I have no been made aware of, and have made me think back on a lot of things. Thank you for this video and I wish you luck on your next.
why is this more educational than anything im taught in school -_-
+KocoBlitz Because the schools are afraid to teach anything that parents would deem 'controversial' and try to sue the school over or get someone fired.
+Luna D (MoonlightMillennium) So basically, either the schools need to nut up or the overprotective parents need to learn that their kids need to learn this stuff.
Troll Breaker My thoughts exactly. Parents need to lighten up and stop being so overprotective, and the schools need to do their damn job and actually TEACH what we need to know for the real world.
Luna D I would suggest someone start a charity to help that happen, but it'll probably end up becoming corrupted and will start using propaganda.
Troll Breaker I don't think it's a charity situation. More like, the school needs to have the power to teach what kids need to know for the real world, and I don't mean algebra and science (that crap you almost never use, especially math, unless you're in a profession utilizing it). I mean health and drug knowledge, sexual education that does NOT just say "Don't have sex. Ever", and information about abuse that is valid and NOT watered down in any way. Parents need to not have the ability to sue the school or get someone fired just because they're too concerned with sheltering their kids from the outside world and complain about their kid learning anything that isn't that the world is some perfect place. Sheltering just does them more harm.
Wow, I'd almost thought Enter was going to leave out LGBT abuse. I was afraid that it wasn't going to be "important" enough to make into a short video. But seeing it talked about and addressed really means lots to me.
Thanks for making the world better by drawing attention to these types of issues, Enter.
I think it's not discussed enough because people are afraid that it'll fuel the fire of homophobia, like they fear homophobes will believe that all same-sex relationships are toxic.
Which is obviously not true, but the fact of the matter remains that LGBT relationships can be just as a abusive as straight relationships depending on the situtaion.@@rogue7723
You have no idea how happy it makes me how well researched your video is!
Domestic Abuse is much more complicated than how the media portrays it and it sickens me when people who claim to be for human rights still cling to the belief that it's purely male on female violence. As more people become aware of this I hope one day everyone will be able to get the help they need no matter their sex, gender or sexual orientation.
It's why I want to create a billboard about Domestic Abuse for the month of October (October is National Domestic Abuse Awareness Month) that would read as follows: "Man? Woman? Straight? Gay? Domestic abuse is NOT a one-way street!"
Even Courage the Cowardly Dog tackled abuse much more respectfully. It may not be a tell-all episode, but it showed a good amount of how it can affect people.
Bless you, sir. By whatever deity you feel like attributing that to.
From someone who was in an emotionally abusive situation with a roommate. Nothing physical. no romance between us. both of us girls. still abuse.
You covered everything about abuse. You're one of the smartest RUclipsrs I've seen.
I don't usually comment on RUclips, but as someone who came from a home with domestic abuse, I just want to thank you for this video. It makes me happy to see that actual facts can be viewed by whoever watches this. You're awesome, Mr. Enter.
Here's one you haven't heard before: I'm a straight male, I was abused by a gay woman who I thought was my friend.
She bled me dry of every penny I had, and made me feel guilty when I couldn't spend money on her JUST TO FUNCTION. She punched me every time I did something she didn't like. She insulted every opinion I had. She condescended me for any question I had that was a legitimate point of confusion. She made someone who used to be my best friend hate me. She ruined my chances of dating a girl I still love who ended up in the arms of a verbally abusive guy (I suspect there's a connection between the guy and my abuser). She fucked up my mind with a collection of lies (and bitched at me for continuity errors being pointed out), which involved being a major part of my personal spiritual beliefs.
I got lucky when she flat out admitted she was lying about the whole thing. I only wish I hadn't remained her friend after so much of her bullshit.
+Sidar Erdem easier said than done, sadly. It's difficult enough for men to get help with abuse - the fact that the abuser was a woman and not a romantic partner just exacerbates the problem.
+Ollie Embourne I have actually been able to cope with the the issue for the most part. Just the shout of a woman sounding angry is the only thing I can't get over if the woman is intimidating enough.
holy shit.
Well my father doesn't punch me but that pretty much describes him.
hope your okay I dont know you but I hope your okay
This is why I love you, John. You're not afraid to talk about real issues and call out bullshit in the media. You talk about things in a real way that most people don't want to think about but should. That's why you're the best.
Not to mention Mr. Enter may take things seriously more than normal, but it doesn’t often cross any lines, that’s also why he’s my favorite.
I love you forever for making this video. This is honestly what a lot of people need right now.
A friend of mine got into a relationship with another woman mostly because she was starved for love and gave herself to the first person who offered. Well, as it turned out, the first person who offered was a compleat psyco and decided to threaten outting her to her homophobic parents if she ever left. One argument later the abusive girlfriend calls my friend's mother and give a very graphic description of the sex she had with their daughter. My friend was forced to tell her parents everything and while they don't blame her for what happened they now think that if she is ever in a relationship with another woman that it will turn out like that. She can never be accepted by her family for who she is because they now just see it as abuse.
+LenAndRen9898 That's so sad. :(
SamanthaJones your friend should just leave that family behind because they are not a true family
Tell your friend to ditch her family. They don't deserve her.
Thank you for bringing up the fact that abusive situations can happen in the LGBT community too. As a bisexual woman who had the luck of getting out of an abusive relationship with my ex girlfriend before things escalated to physical violence, it really means a lot to see that someone else recognizes that the LGBT community is equally vulnerable to these sort of situations. Granted, I probably wouldn't have gotten out of it if my parents and best friend hadn't found out, but that was because I didn't even recognize the situation I was in. I was too busy making excuses for her and seeing only how she was when our relationship started. Safe to say I have a new girlfriend now who treats me much better, and I'm all the wiser now that I'm away from my ex. Thank you Mr. Enter, for acknowledging this and giving it the attention it deserves. Stay awesome.
Watch this get removed from FOX.
+AnimatronicPony It's already been out for a few years. It airs more on Adult Swim than Fox since Fox doesn't air shit for animated series.
+Siknik64 he's talking about this review
wouldn't put it past them.
+AnimatronicPony more likly this will be false flagged by social justice warriors painting enter as an MRA or soemthing.
+AnimatronicPony I don't think they remove still images. It's only a problem when you use footage.
Thank you so much for making this. As an aspiring writer and director you have inspired me and taught me so much. When writing I try to make things more realistic and not cliché especially in controversial subjects like this and your reviews are honestly just so well put together and informative that I know what writing mistakes to avoid and good choices to make. Thank you so much.
The moment where you subtly brought up bear-hunting was funnier than most Family Guy episodes.
I caw fowl. The writers of Family Guy are ducking their responsibility to not quack up under pressure, and they're chickening out of writing anything other than cruelty. They can't sparrow the time to make good jokes, and they're robin people of the time wasted on their show. It's a cardinal sin of comedy to abuse the same jokes over and over again, but Family Guy seems pigeonholed in that unfunny style of humor. I could crow more, but I'd be raven a bit too much if I continue, so I'll bow out and leave the rest of this for the birds.
"Funnier than family guy" is like "A better love story than Twilight". It's not hard to do, and you haven't accomplished much, but it's still better than nothing.
Even my pile of puns is likely better comedy, as it's got more effort than most of the newer Family Guy episodes.
@Herman Cillo
(slow clap)
Your "pile of puns" is actually quite brilliant. Color me impressed.
@@hariman7727 Your pile of puns is way underrated.
@@KeybladeMasterAndy , Tammra Evans , Thank you both!
My mother works at a women's domestic violence shelter, i find it very difficult to talk about domestic abuse with her (or anyone for that matter) because of the preconceived notion that men are always the abusers, when i talk about how men usually make up about 40% of domestic abuse cases and 1/3 lesbian relationships are abusive i get shouted down and bullied. I took a 6 month long course about social work, it involved drug use, domestic violence, mental illness and community development and during those 6 months i was repeatedly shut down and bullied by both my female classmates and teachers, because apparently have privilege that makes my input on discussions worthless. Towards the end of the course I was suicidal and ended up getting taken to a hospital to sort my issues out. Those 6 months destroyed me as a person and has made it even harder for me than it was to form a relationship with a woman because im scarred that I will be psychologically abused again, that may make me a misogynist but at this point its something i need to do to protect myself.
sorry for being a bit rambly, this video really hit home and i felt like i needed to say something.
if its privilege they were talking about chances they're radical feminists/sjws. they're basically misandrist/heterophobic white hating assholes masquerading as freedom fighters.
Australium bacon most feminists aren't like that, though.
Keyboardstalker not anymore. At least not in America.
The Little Llama every feminist I've ever talked to has been calm, and reasonable. most of these "sjws" that people are always talking about are very rare, when they're not just trolls.
Keyboardstalker I've run into a good few.
TBH the media does portray abuse in relationships HORRIBLY. I've never actually been abused, but both my mom and stepdad abused each other AND were abused. My stepdad would be all nice to people and friendly and charming with everyone. Once it was just the family he'd treat us women like servants, calls us names, control us, and often lie to and manipulate my mom to do what he wanted. No one ever helped, even though his family knew. My mom mentally scarred me and my siblings, and often used guilt tripping and gaslighting to make us fall into depression. So, you have a good point.
"I've never actually been abused", and then you tell about how your parents abused you.
Are you ever going to review the episode where Chris wanted to date Jeromes black daughter but Jerome said no because he disliked white people (even though he never showed any symptoms of this during his appearances)?
The Episode is called Baby got Black and by god youll be in for a real treat if you manage to stomach the entire thing.
+Stew Pidd It could be that Jerome was hiding what he really thinks about white people because he was in a public place or around Lois. It's not hard to believe that people can hide their dislike of certain categories unless they're in a given situation.
+sakuraslicer19 Well, given that in the episode, Jerome explicitly states to Lois that a black man going out with a white woman is okay, but a white man going out with a black woman is wrong, yeah there are definitely a lot of problems with that episode that are worth talking about.
GrandMasterScottay It's who's asking out who that Jerome is placing this standard. The episode does raise a point about how even the minority can be racist to the majority, when most of the time the other way around is seen in media. There is a lot of intersectionality in the episode that it provides significant value.
+sakuraslicer19 clearly thats what they were going for but like always they botched it and the PSA came out horrible and tacky.Its def not very well thought out and was executed very poorly
Yep.
10:56 OMG.. O_O WTF PEOPLE? So basically the idea is to tell the girl every men will probably try beating her & the boy that he should beat women... What the hell is wrong with these People X_x
+yugoxgc I'm not really that surprised. Ads can be so unintentionally messed-up when people try to make a point and rely on stereotypes.
+yugoxgc it seems very doubious that the kids were actually told what were on the pictures but they are wrong on so many levels they won the game and earned all the hidden coins, a kid needs to learn that ze expreienced something rare and abnormal and that ze needs to trust not fear
+Grizz, Pan-Pan, and Ice Bear why do you say ze.
Ze and zer are the gender neutral pronouns of he/she and him/her
Grizz, Pan-Pan, and Ice Bear We already have a word for that in English. It's they/their.
Well, I was going to sleep but this is important and sheds a lot of light on domestic abuse in all shapes and sizes. Can't wait to see your next Animated Atrocity.
Oh and just to put this out there, Family Guy might not last long due to low ratings of their latest season. It's coming to an end and the gates of heaven are finally opening.
+Redcord CHN Yet Adult Swim is announcing they're making new episodes of the show.
+Redcord CHN The episodes of the current season are better.
sakuraslicer19
I wouldn't say they're better but more tamed than some of the earlier seasons. Though I have to say that the characters at this point sound like they don't care anymore. Some scenes feel like they drag on too long.
+Duck Overlord What? Where did you hear about that?
Redcord CHN "Pilling Them Softly" explored new character traits and didn't do the lazy stuff like starting the episode with the TV or overly long cutaways. "Peternormal Activity" does its own twist on the horror genre with Peter and the guys being part of the horror movie while trying to make one (plus the catharsis of Stewie beating Brian for being an egomaniac in glasses). "Peter, Chris, & Brian" did go into Peter and Chris' relationship like in "Hannah Banana," and it deconstructs how the former wants to help his son become successful (I liked the joke where Peter cuts off the Conway Twitty music as a reference to how people are sick of the gag).
Some forms of abusive relationships can literally come from anywhere. A bully at school, a church mentor (mental trauma it brought me in a personal student life), stepparents, older siblings and maybe even narcissistic so called friends. People need to understand the actual word relationship. Having a relationship with someone doesn't always mean romantic, family relationships, servant master relationships, mentor student relationships. Abuse is not just parents on kids or spouses on each other. The abuser can be literally anybody you or someone being abused has some romantic or non romantic relationship with.
This has to be one of my favorite videos you've done in a long time. I'd love to hear you talk about issues like this more.
That story of the Australian woman. Holy heck that is insane.
+ThunderFlarz Trust me, that's just a footnote compared to the other shit she did in her lifetime...
Finally, someone else who finds statistics to be a load of manipulating bull crap. I'd rather listen to good reason, instead of a bunch of percentages.
SpongicX but the charts says...
Heh i got the reference.
But in all seriousness. I consider statistics the "necesary evil of the devil that we have to take into consideration but always distrusts because those f*¨[ers are in constant change every single nanosecond"
Same
i really appreciate you taking even more time to address the issues with this episode. Your thoughts on more serious subjects have really given me a lot of perspective and I can't express enough how much I like hearing them. Hearing you talk about how even a positive stereotype can be hurtful, it's really true. I went to an outdoor school for troubled teens back in junior high and I remember talking to one of the counselors there about feeling like my problems were insignificant. I won't go into what I was going through, but most of the kids there were dealing with physical violence, drug abuse, and issues I'd never even seen before at that age, so I felt really out of place. I remember him telling me that every persons problems are equal, because if something is a problem and hinders you, it's still a problem. It's nonsensical to compare two peoples pain, because pain is relative. That advice not only made me feel better (like my problems were real and I deserved help just as much as anyone else), but it gave me a new level of empathy for others. Just because you are capable of handling something doesn't mean someone else is or should be. It's so important to remember that people with all levels of issues are deserving of help and compassion, and not just those in extreme situations.
This is really well done -
Also, this perfectly describes why I hate family guy - teenagers watch this show, and it gives them so many wrong messages. Like seahorse seashell party - you should stay in an abusive relationship for your abusers benefit, this episode, and every other God-awful time family guy attempts to be "moral"
Hey, Enter, I just thought I would say that was you're doing here is really important. Keep that in mind, okay?
Clay Claymore Why, yes, I was on mobile when I commented that, and I happened to slip up. Thank you ever so much for pointing that out. Your level of insight is so high, it's positively staggering.
2:09
Anyone can make the call is complete b.s. unless you're a woman. If you're a man in an abusive relationship, either no one cares or no one believes you. I really hope this mindset changes by the time I have kids.
not unless we speak up.
Radioactive Panda
I believe that it is a result of sending the wrong message about abusive relationships. Instead of saying, "abuse is wrong" they want to send a message they think is more prevalent. And that is women getting abused, at least what is more known. People don't even always know that, it's just what's heard.
Radioactive Panda
Fortunately, some people, like you, recognize both sides of it, even if women abuse is more heard of.
Or the man is made fun of like "You let a woman beat you? You wuss. Fight back!" even though that will lead to legal troubles and "He beat her!!! hes abusive!" or the man is praised if its sexual abuse like "was she hot? congrats man! you should be celebrating!"
While I do feel bad for male victims, that part involving female victims being believe can be debunked based on anyone’s story of being ignored or be called a liar and a life ruiner.
Sadly, no matter what gender the victim is, they almost never win and sometimes go through the fear of being around their abusers and getting told off again for ‘lying’
Every statistic class I've ever taken has emphasized that "even the raw numbers have been cooked a little." Whether it's unintentionally by exponential variables, intentionally by manipulation, or simply logic loopholes on our part, there's always a grain of salt to be taken.
I definitely learned something today. Good job, Mr. Enter!
You're honestly one of the most intelligent youtubers on this site.
That awkward moment when you realize that Courage the Cowardly Dog handles domestic violence and abusive relationships better than Family Guy, and Courage the Cowardly Dog is a frelling kids show!!!!!!!
Amazingly done, Mr.Enter! You presented the information in the way its meant to be shown (in reality). Cannot wait for the next Animated Atrocity!
THIS. You knocked it out of the park. Liked, and finally subscribed.
This worked so well and, using a trash episode of FG as a launch pad, managed to go infinitely farther into the issue than I've often seen other articles and discussion pieces that straitforward try to address the issue will go.
Reading between the lines abit, I'm surprised how well you managed to cut right into the harmful gender biases associated with abuse. I can't tell you how many times I've seen people genuinely try to even justifiably entertain the reality than men can be victims of abuse, especially non-physical abuse, before their immediately accused of being an MRA, and thus, any valid point they've made and their discussion as a whole is instantly canned. I'm actually really proud that the comment section appears to avoiding that path for the most part.
Thank you for this video. Domestic abuse usually doesn't get talked about in the proper way it deserves.
And good call on PETA. I'm a vegan who loves animals, and I regret *ever* having supported them.
I find it funny how The Owl House(A disney channel cartoon made for kids) handles abuse with Belos and Hunter more maturely and more respectfully than Family Guy(A cartoon made for adults).
Oh, don't forget the Blights. Odalia is emotionally abusive.
... as some one who witnessed domestic abuse as a child.. I really needed to hear this.... I won't go into details, but my biological mother bullied my mother to point where she almost killed herself...
I was too young to understand any of this as a child, and as I grew up all I had was the media to tell me about domestic abuse. It always left me concerned/confused. It also didn't get easier when people told me that because I had an abusive father, I'd grow up to be exactly like him no matter what I did which made my adolescence more difficult than it already was.
But this video helped me get a better grasp of the whole thing and feel more at ease. Thank you for doing this... it really helps put things into perspective. It helps me understand more about this topic while also helping me figure out more about what I witnessed years ago.
Dude, I am blown away by how informative and well thought out this video is. Great job!
Yayyyyy, I was going to go to bed but fuck that.
as someone who has been emotionally abused, I'm so glad you talked about this, I hope it can educate a lot of people
Eh. I have school off tomorrow. Fuck sleep. A new Mr. Enter vid is more important than this.
+Pizza Joe You have school on veteran's day? HAH sucker
RotatingMagnetGuy I have school off tomorrow.
Assuming you're American, you will have a day of on Wednesday for veterans day?
Tree Blade Yes.
I'm American, but vets day isn't a day off.
It's bullshit.
you know I think the Batman the animated seres episode Mad Love had a better message on domestic abuse then any life time movie could even hope for.
My parents had a very...unhealthy relationship. I really appreciate how you tackled all angles of domestic abuse, be it from a man or woman, and especially from the non-violent and controlling angle. Whenever I used to think about my parent's abusive relationship and how it affected me, I always tried to tell myself that, aside from that, I had it pretty good growing up. Even though they hated each other, they loved my brother and I, and they each did what they thought was best for us. Having grown up, though, I've sort of had to come to terms with the abuse for what it really was. I don't think my parents meant for it to happen the way it did...I maintain the thought that, despite the abuse, they are good people...but man...it still really hurts to think about it...and I'm trying to grow past it. But anyway, thank you for handling this topic with such maturity, and acknowledging all the types of abuse that exist that other people don't seem to realize is there. Thank you.
You are possibly the most intellegent, thought-provoking animation critic I've come across. I have to thank you greatly for this video, as I am an aspiring cartoonist and have actually been wanting to write a cartoon covering domestic abuse for quite some time, but never knew quite how to go about it, as the only domestic abuse I've ever been exposed to is through the media, and it portrayed as a man on woman physical situation.
Your videos serve as a well-structured list of dos and don'ts in animation that I have taken into heavy consideration when writing. If I ever get any of my cartoon ideas aired, I would owe it largely to your guidelines.
There are times where domestic abuse can get pretty violent
Mr. Enter I want like to thank you for this video, it tells people things that I've either wanted to explain and didn't know how or for the majority of it taught me things I didn't know. I've been trying to get help for ages now with things going on here at home and my depression. I hope that this video helps others escape or helps prevent similar situations from happening. To you dear sir I tip my cap. Thank you.
Thank you SO much for this, Mr. Enter. Outstanding analogies! It felt like a (very) necessary "Domestic Abuse 101" video... in the best possible way. Great job!
You are the only person who seems to possess any form of common, rational sense these days.
one of the few
Zanmaru only?
Jacki Fed Yeah one of the few
Zanmaru not the only, one of few
but at least there are a few
I think a lot of people have more sense than we give them credit for. We tend to judge them through small windows, usually because they do the same for us (ironic emphasis: statistically). This video producer asks "why" without letting the issue go. I admire that.
You know what, it might be a little cliché bringing this up that they do right what Family Guy gets wrong, but The Golden Girls have made multiple episodes on domestic abuse, and portrayed them much better. One episode, for example, showed the one woman, Blanche being in a verbally abusive relationship with a guy named Rex. And because she wasn't being hit, she didn't think she was being abused. That was a much better episode than Screams of Silence, and a much better PSA on domestic abuse. And that episode came out in the early '90s. (I think.)
I feel like your ideas come from a completely unbiased perspective regardless of how you feel you will be perceived. I have the uttermost respect for that. Thanks for these videos. I'm glad I found your channel.
This is an incredible video that asks people to really think about their world views. I am so impressed with the way you lay out a compelling discussion with many of the problems that our society deals with domestic violence. Well done!
This is so important. I particularly hate the idea that two-way abuse is somehow okay, because it was 'provoked.' If a couple is taking chunks out of each other, or screaming at each other from dusk till dawn, or destroying each other's possessions, we should not dismiss it as an 'argument,' or say it's 'none of our business.' These are two people with issues, who are clearly in a toxic situation that they need to be removed from. It's not about picking a side, or deciding who's the abuser and who's the victim, it's about making sure no one gets hurt.
I'm also very grateful to you for pointing out how this sort of thing can mislead those in abusive relationships, making them believe that they are not truly suffering abuse. No one should be in the position of thinking that it is okay for their partner to call them fat, unloving, lazy, selfish, ugly, to belittle and take away the things that they love, to manipulate children and relatives in to turning against them, and to make them constantly feel as though they are failing as a husband or wife or boyfriend or girlfriend, just so long as they don't hit them. A boast of "I've never hit you!" is not something that comes out of the mouth of a good partner.
3:07 I know that this isn’t really related to domestic abuse but it immediately caught my eye. In English this year one of our units was Temple Grandin. We read a bit of the book and we watched the movie. It handled both Autism and proper animal care very well. And the thing with the chicken farm was similar to a bit of the movie that dealt with Temple trying to make the cattle farm better for the cattle so they don’t have to be stressed when they’re gonna get slaughtered. THAT is what the thing with PETA and the chicken farm should’ve been like. It’s kinda sad how someone could “fight” for stuff like this but not in a good way and that it makes everyone else who’s trying to really fight for this stuff look just as bad as them.
I'm proud of Temple for being able to become a professor of Animal Studies at Colorado State University in Fort Collins.
Wait, let me get this straight, when my mom would tell me lies about my dad that were so bad I ended up trying to cease contact with him up until a year ago... that was abuse? I know it's heavy duty manipulation but I had no idea it was abuse...
+Sunshine Espeon If you manipulate your partner or child for the sake of harming and/or spiting them, you are abusing them. It goes hand in hand.
This video is amazing, and it really needs to be shared around. It shows domestic abuse in an informative and open-minded standpoint, and truly delves into both sides of the story. Thank you so much, Mr. Enter.
Thank you. I'm going through my own issues with abuse right now and what you said was very validating. People tend to not understand why I think the issues in our home were big things but what you said about control really hit home with me. It took me years to figure out that the way I was raised was wrong and now I have to explain it to people who should know better.
Just thank you so much for seeing this.
Just two days ago I imagined you were reviewing Peterassment and now you are actually gonna do it, awesome.
Mr enter, you are a genius, keep making the world better! you have my full support.
Starfur Of thunderclan mine as well
Dee Dee in KOTH had postpartum depression and didn't try to kill GH, but they did kind of gloss over the whole thing.
Sadly; because of the Andrea Yates story, we as society believe that anytime a woman develops Postpartum Depression or Postpartum Psychosis after giving birth; the mother will inevitably snap and try to kill the infant. In reality; mothers who develop either of the aforementioned Postpartum mental illnesses, they are more likely to try and kill themselves instead of trying to kill their children. This is the reason why we as society are not witnessing an epidemic of infanticide or fillicide. Andrea Yates had a potent combination of both Postpartum Depression and Postpartum Psychosis. Andrea made two attempts at committing suicide in the summer of 1999. In June of 1999; Andrea made her first suicide attempt by trying to overdose on sleeping pills prescribed for her father, who had been suffering from Alzheimer's Disease (Andrea had previously worked as a nurse; so she was stressed from caring for four young children and a parent with Alzheimer's Disease.) Andrea was hospitalized for three days and diagnosed with the mental illnesses I mentioned earlier. That July; Andrea's second attempt at suicide was by trying to slit her throat with a knife. Andrea was hospitalized for three weeks and treated with the antidepressants Wellbutrin and Effexor as well as the anti-psychotic drug Haldol.
MrEnters video's always make my night
Really happy to hear this topic talked about and you did it very well.
God this video is a blessing. Like, my God. How are you *not* a teacher.
I think you should do longer reviews-- the longer the view time the more likely you'll get recommended and also you'll get more add revenue-- plus it'll be one video- just saying I love ur videos to watch a 30 min thing
I think this has to be one of your best videos. Nice job, Mr Enter! :)
Great Job Mr. Enter! Everyone in the world should watch this video.
Seahorse Seashell Party, the episode that made me stop watching Family Guy
+TheSpawnfan for me it was Herpe the love sore
(I've lost season count) the season with episodes Brian's a Bad Father, A Fistful of Meg and Life of Brian started to put me off new Family Guy. I also felt put off by episodes from the past few years like Lois Comes Out of Her Shell and goodness know what else, I felt that Family Guy is turning from bad to good. I still have fond memories of episodes like E. Peterbus Unum and The Father, The Son and The Holy Fonz, but due to how bad Family Guy has been over the past few years, I decided to stop watching new Family Guy episodes, but not without first watching The Simpsons Guy, considering I'm a huge Simpsons fan!
adultmoshifan87 Wached The Simpsons Guy out of curiosity, now, i hate Lisa Simpson
Someone who's balanced talking about these things? OH. MY. GOODNESS.
Great job, and thanks for being a balanced voice in the matter of abuse.
Don't forget that verbal abuse is a thing, too. At that point, physical strenght is irrelevant.
My dad verbelly abused my mom for years. He just stopped doing it one day. When I was younger, he would push her against the wall. My mom told me all this, I don't remember much from when I was a kid.
I'm Autistic but I am still a functional member of society.
Thank you for taking the time to talk more about this stuff, This world is in desperate need for people as wise as you.
Honestly it's scary how many people could stand to hear this message. And so I shall dedicate my time towards spreading it more.
It's actually sad because my bf is in an abusive household. His mom has berated him, gaslit him, sometimes hit him, and it's put a huge strain on our relationship because she doesn't let me see him sometimes. He's scared to do anything like call the cops because she's known to manipulate people and worries she'll say something to the cops and have him arrested. He's actually broke down once because he was so scared to call the cops this one time she flipped out and started trashing the house and we had to leave. It's fucked how society is and that they automatically defend the woman. She's much smaller compared to him (mostly because she's bulimic) and she uses her illness to make people feel bad for her when she did it to herself. I think she also has Munchausen's. She always goes to the emergency room or doctor a lot. I hate her so much. I really do. Also it's actually his grandma. She's forced him to call her mom. She throws a fit when his sister called her grandma. And his grandma has been known to physically abuse his aunts and real mom before. If they knew this, why did they leave him and his sister with her? I think his sister got it the worst growing up because his grandma drove her absolutely insane to where she was in the hospital for a suicide attempt. I can't understand why his family would allow this crap to go on.
King of the Hill. Not a fan, have not seen too many episodes, but, there WAS an episode with Post-Partum Depression, and the character suffering from it, while she did ignore the child's cries to go hide and cry alone, she did not attempt to harm or kill it.
+OreWaUsopp You have to give them props for that.
Hannah D.
Well, yeah, but, that kind of thing would not be KotH's style. They don't go for shock humor, they go for.... umm... not particularly funny humor, most of the time.
Subtle humor.
Hannah D.
That's a better word. I make cracks about it, but, I will openly admit some of the jokes and writing really is good for a smile and chuckle.
Scrubs had a similar episode. It's not an animated show (although some of the scenes are so insane you would think you're watching a cartoon.) but it does everything about post-partum depression RIGHT.
When presented this episode, the writers expected us to:
Emphathize with Brenda, who is depicted as a character with personality or will, we didn't even get to know her before this or Jerome is the new Black, what her old character would be according to Quagmire.
Jeff, on the other hand, we were expected to hate the guy, given his lack of intellect...
Yeah, these presentations do not help us to do react with anything other than being disgusted at how poorly they handled domestic abuse.
"Objectification" as a term is pretty popular for trying to shut down people you're jealous of.
I agree. Like many useful words, it has been abused to the point of almost rendering it useless. It is sometimes applicable, but it's grossly misused most of the time.
+Broderick Siz Same for the words "misogyny" and "rape"
One of the reasons I love your reviews so much is that you're able to talk about important topics such as these in such an educated and relieving voice. I never seem to go "ehhhhhhhhhhh" when you discuss them like I seem to do with so many other people. I seriously can't wait for your "Quagmire's Dad" review.
Speaking as someone who has been abused I can safety say that sadly sometimes you aren't aware that you are being abused. It's hard to hear I know but it's true. Some abusers know better than to outright attack their victims in public and will.use subtle threats and get into their victims' head. Abuse is bad. No matter what kind of abuse or who is being abused. It's still wrong and it always will be.