How To Be More Hopeful In A Cynical World - Dr Jamil Zaki

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  • Опубликовано: 11 ноя 2024

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  • @ChrisWillx
    @ChrisWillx  Месяц назад +10

    Hello you savages. Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - chriswillx.com/books/ Here's the timestamps:
    00:00 Why is Cynicism So Alluring?
    06:10 The Cynicism Safety Blanket
    15:11 How to Spot a Cynical Person
    22:05 Is Cynicism Contagious?
    26:58 Can Someone Be Universally Cynical?
    30:51 How Cynicism Has Grown Over Time
    37:09 Does Childhood Impact Cynicism?
    41:28 Tools to Combat Cynicism
    56:05 Why This Was Personal for Jamil
    1:03:48 Advice for People Who Want to Take More Risks
    1:07:27 Where to Find Jamil

    • @matthewgriffy
      @matthewgriffy Месяц назад

      Hello Chris,
      I recall that roughly this time last year you came to London and knocked out some killer 4K episodes. If you decide to return, here’s some recommendations for some 4K interviews:
      Dr Robert Plomin
      Dr Edward Dutton
      Ant Middleton
      Gary Stevenson (his recent video with business inside went absolutely viral).
      Dr Iain Mcgilchrist
      Dr Chris Van Tulleken
      Konstantin Kisin

    • @kungfujoe2136
      @kungfujoe2136 Месяц назад

      drugs alcohole or brain dmg wich is it?

    • @kungfujoe2136
      @kungfujoe2136 Месяц назад

      once again he doesnt understand the human condition
      there's ppl like him for who dont understand that most ppl are followers try to avoid danger and try to survive not try to win
      just get gud doesnt work for everyone

    • @vivianpadin7398
      @vivianpadin7398 Месяц назад

      Thank you for sharing this. I’m grateful for your podcast. Life changer.🎉

  • @DonaldAMisc
    @DonaldAMisc Месяц назад +54

    The sad part is many people mistake uninformed cynicism for healthy skepticism. They're not the same. 🙌

  • @surendarvijay2520
    @surendarvijay2520 Месяц назад +15

    This is the ideal podcast, due to the following reasons:
    1) Jumps straight into the content, with minimal intros
    2) Allows the guest to speak, including going on tangents.
    3) Asks intelligent questions while interrupting the guest
    4) Balance between 2) and 3). Most other podcasters sacrifice too much of one for the other, while this podcast offers the ideal balance (in my view, of course)

  • @Brand0n1337
    @Brand0n1337 Месяц назад +5

    “If you’re listening to this podcast, you’re at least a cynic in recovery.”
    Thank you Chris, that compliment was a push in the right direction.
    You, Nick Bare, Bedros keullian, The Von, Jordan Peterson are all positive male role models for us.
    I appreciate you, and I’m grateful for the content you
    Strive to create.

  • @jimmorrison903
    @jimmorrison903 Месяц назад +67

    I've noticed that there is a huge correlation between cynicism and heavy internet usage. Like I see all this cynicism on forums and comment sections, but in the real people, people are way more positive and happy.

    • @Enhancedlies
      @Enhancedlies Месяц назад +6

      pretty basic, internet usage exposes you to many issues and problems in the world you otherwise wouldn't have realised. Its a good thing to be more informed and not a negative, even if it makes you feel uneasy. The issue is not internet usage, or learning about the world but how you deal with that information.

    • @Phenn5589
      @Phenn5589 Месяц назад +1

      Or alternatively, there is a correlation between cynicism and exposure to information that infers distrust. So people that do not have access to such information are blissfully happy but ignorant.

    • @Volkbrecht
      @Volkbrecht Месяц назад

      That's because ignorance is bliss. The trick is really to keep in mind which of all the terrors and fuck-ups the world has to offer actually do affect you on a day-to-day basis. That's usually only a fraction of what you can become aware of by just reading the news every day.

    • @JJG369
      @JJG369 Месяц назад +1

      U mean masking and acting in a matter that makes social situations work more smoothly?

    • @imdanielmarques
      @imdanielmarques Месяц назад +1

      ** heavy social media usage

  • @biasedknowledge
    @biasedknowledge Месяц назад +3

    The way you broke down the cynical genius illusion was brilliant! It reminded me of someone I knew who always believed their pessimistic worldview made them more insightful than everyone else. But as you said, cynicism doesn’t make us smarter-it can actually make us blind to all the good in the world. It's easy to fall into this trap of thinking negativity equals sophistication, but as you noted, it's often just another form of bias.

  • @sheilajohnson3775
    @sheilajohnson3775 Месяц назад +31

    Turning off social media and the news is a big step in "staying sane" and keeping a "positive attitude"!!!!! ✌️😊

    • @Enhancedlies
      @Enhancedlies Месяц назад +6

      thats just the perfect example of ignorance is bliss. Terrible way to go about life.

    • @Rookr221
      @Rookr221 Месяц назад

      @@Enhancedlies Exactly why life is so messed up; in order to be happy you have to ignore all the horrible things going on in the world

    • @cblair8501
      @cblair8501 Месяц назад

      ​@Enhancedlies
      You can still keep up with news without watching TV news. It's mostly lies anyway.

  • @texasoutlook60
    @texasoutlook60 Месяц назад +2

    I think its easy enough to research what is on social media, however, research material is as valid as the people who are writing the history or story!

  • @DANJEDI
    @DANJEDI Месяц назад +2

    The psychology and sociology of Cynicism vs Optimism as a behavioral pre disposition!! Insightful 👍 Dr. Jamil

  • @user-bc5ut9et1v
    @user-bc5ut9et1v Месяц назад +3

    Man, did I need this episode. Well done.

  • @baustin11111
    @baustin11111 Месяц назад +18

    Cynicism isnt playing poker by always folding. Its realizing that life IS poker. I didnt think life would be candyland, but i did at least think it would be a team sport - I'd find my people, we'd win together or we'd lose together, but at least we would be together. And then i got screwed over again and again, until i finally realized that you're playing the game alone. That realization, that understanding that you are all you have, you are all you can count on - that is the foundation of cynicism.
    At least to me, maybe I'm using the wrong word.

    • @Sithis211
      @Sithis211 Месяц назад +2

      Same, I'm 28 and still have yet to find "my people" or group I guess. Only gets harder and harder as you get older to find friends...

    • @scottandrews5638
      @scottandrews5638 Месяц назад

      Very well said and it resonates with this exactly so it's nice to know that I am not the only one that thinks this way.

    • @canchero724
      @canchero724 Месяц назад +1

      The thing is we evolved to play the team game,.this is truly a unique time in the history of the species where the one's who artfully deceive the rest win, it's flipping our genetic programming on its head.

  • @Unoff-n3f
    @Unoff-n3f Месяц назад +2

    Hey chris, don't have words to thank you. You have given me immense courage to be myself in my really really tough time.❤

  • @TomZanetic
    @TomZanetic Месяц назад +4

    How can you NOT be cynical of government, corporate and religious leaders? Targeted cynicism can be a helpful strategy in life.

  • @polymathpark
    @polymathpark Месяц назад +5

    A highly valued discussion in a widly disoriented time.
    Many thanks to both of your efforts, keep it up!

  • @paigemcdicken7473
    @paigemcdicken7473 Месяц назад +5

    Loved this episode. Just a great shift in the day to day narrative. Thank you

  • @icedemond24
    @icedemond24 Месяц назад +1

    its because negative information requires attention and involves a problem that needs to be sorted where as neutral or positive information isn't a problem so doesn't need attention

  • @therealsagekitty
    @therealsagekitty Месяц назад +1

    I don’t believe fire fighter story. Because after strictly the policy some people leave without submitting day offs will be submitting the day off.

  • @yamilcarrasquillo7996
    @yamilcarrasquillo7996 Месяц назад +2

    Thank you

  • @bumpupsapp
    @bumpupsapp Месяц назад +3

    Hey Everyone 🤠
    Find the parts that interest you:
    0:10 - Defining cynicism in psychology
    3:10 - Cynicism as a worldview
    6:20 - Cynicism as a safety mechanism
    8:40 - Cynicism leads to poor health outcomes
    10:56 - Cynicism is a replacement for critical thinking
    14:12 - Defrocking cynicism in our culture
    17:16 - Struggling with cynicism in our culture
    19:10 - Cynical leadership harms organizations
    21:57 - Cynicism creates a self-fulfilling prophecy
    25:35 - Cynicism bias affects our perception of trust
    31:11 - Cynicism has been rising for 50 years
    33:11 - Inequality contributes to lower trust levels
    36:34 - Cynicism leads to inaccurate conclusions
    40:22 - Cynicism as psychological quicksand
    42:47 - Importance of stepping out of mental loops
    48:19 - Hope vs. optimism: key differences
    50:56 - Creating pathways for future success
    54:01 - Balancing media consumption for hope
    1:00:01 - Taking leaps of faith in social life
    1:02:06 - Embracing vulnerability with others
    1:05:12 - Hope as social risk-taking
    1:07:26 - Importance of taking social risks
    Recap by Bumpups ✏️

  • @incurablygroovy3639
    @incurablygroovy3639 Месяц назад +3

    I Dont mind the despair its the hope i cant stand !

  • @mcwaltertube
    @mcwaltertube Месяц назад +13

    Default pessimism mindsets are overrated. Shoutout to all the perpetual optimists out there! Life is too rad to let cynicism constantly pervade your thoughts and cognitive outlook.

  • @warrenfoster11
    @warrenfoster11 Месяц назад +1

    Chris came into this discussion with some preconceived ideas about cynics and cynicism and it was refreshing to see him be open minded and have the ability to 'think again'.

  • @JJG369
    @JJG369 Месяц назад +2

    This sounds very naive. I guess I’m a cynic. Funny thing is seeing people as untrustworthy took away my depression, cause it was hope that caused it.

  • @jazw4649
    @jazw4649 Месяц назад +2

    Helped me to fall asleep twice 😉

  • @cb73
    @cb73 Месяц назад +6

    Because of the subjective nature, you can never say whether a person is being cynical or they’re actually being alert to danger. You may think it’s foolish so you would call that person cynical but who are you to say?
    Politicians do this thing where if you don’t agree with their political agenda they will just call you cynical.

  • @beatvox7325
    @beatvox7325 Месяц назад +3

    Good work guys!

  • @chriswilfrid
    @chriswilfrid Месяц назад +4

    I love this!

  • @BoostedPastime
    @BoostedPastime Месяц назад +2

    Andrew bustamante would love to have a talk with this guy.

    • @Doddom
      @Doddom Месяц назад +2

      Robert Greene too

    • @BoostedPastime
      @BoostedPastime Месяц назад

      @@Doddom absolutely. When I see content like this I understand the concept however the REAL world is quite different than "polite society"

  • @carolspencer6915
    @carolspencer6915 Месяц назад

    Good evening Chris and Jamil
    So I very recently joined a brand new workplace/team. Took a while for me to jump ship and swim to something new. Had been treading water way too long previously.
    With no cynicism in sight, well maybe a little tiny bit given my previous sad ending to a long disastrous workplace experience. But anyways, all things considered was willing to continue trusting and start a new. Long mental story short!
    Currently can describe my new nursing post as a living nightmare, for many disturbing reasons.
    Time will reveal how right or wrong I am about our current nursing culture.
    Really thinking twenty odd years ago I learned my way into nursing and currently thinking, maybe I'm now learning my way sadly out of said career choices.
    Still need to pay the bills though, part of what is currently unfolding is my actual living nightmare. Couldn't write it! So to speak.
    Truly grateful for this today.
    Sensemaking brain gym, for sure.
    💜

  • @ignoranceisstrengthpodcast3294
    @ignoranceisstrengthpodcast3294 Месяц назад

    One minute in and I can't stand how this guy talks. I feel like I'm being talked down to.
    Going to tough it out and see what he's got to say.

  • @Reglaized
    @Reglaized Месяц назад

    The best advice is to turn cynicism into skepticism. I have learned from the past, adjusted my actions to avoid the same mistakes, and I am happy with the results. It's hard to tell someone with a rough past to tell them not to be cynical. You just have to reframe it.

  • @Gankajank
    @Gankajank Месяц назад

    You can always tell someone that has never seen some seriously bad shit. Because they say stupid things like "if you meet someone and you have a weird feeling, you have no evidence and you're biased." Damn right I'm biased! I got my head cracked open with aluminum baseball bats lol. I've been set up and jumped and all kinds of stuff. This is all long in my past but if I get a bad feeling I am soon to be outski. Lest I regret not listening to my gut. Some of what he said I do agree with, but it's pretty obvious in his scientific world he's never really been through the shit

  • @Angrydadtwitch
    @Angrydadtwitch Месяц назад +3

    Loving it, great speakers Chris

  • @josephjw5944
    @josephjw5944 Месяц назад

    It would be great to get the whole questionnaire just to take for myself an my own health

  • @cheeseman417
    @cheeseman417 Месяц назад

    Maybe the cynicism comes from the fact that from our governments actions, to our celebrities to our institutions are constantly involved in one major scandal after another, justice to those individuals are rarely enforced, people accused of wrongdoing simply resign, and the world moves on, so you really think the average person seeing and experiencing this over and over would logically maintain trust in anything or anyone?? that’s asking for a pretty tall order there!

  • @Rookr221
    @Rookr221 Месяц назад

    Honestly i think if you're happy and positive in this world, you're either ignorant, stupid, or have just been lucky enough to not have something happen to you that would make you realize how depressing life truly is

  • @PerspectiveLove
    @PerspectiveLove Месяц назад +4

    Would you consider having Robert Edward Grant on your podcast? His words open you up to higher dimensions. He is an expert on sacred geometry, the pyramids, and the science of spirituality.

  • @JamesT-g3l
    @JamesT-g3l 2 дня назад

    How can we have hopeful cynicism when relationships are transactional?

  • @deviwangmo
    @deviwangmo Месяц назад +2

    Chris, Please introduce speakers briefly at the start of discussion, which, importantly, can help contextualize their remarks. I don't want their CV or promotional hype - a one sentence bio would be appreciated.

    • @ChrisWillx
      @ChrisWillx  Месяц назад +7

      Check the description of any episode mate

  • @richiem7716
    @richiem7716 Месяц назад

    Had to laugh to myself whe doc gave chris his dues around the 15 min mark. He was so gleeful but underneath the glee he probably was trying to check his ego and not get carried away with it
    Tough ask.
    Its ok to buddy, accept it

  • @LachieDazdarian
    @LachieDazdarian Месяц назад +3

    Cynicism is a net negative. There's just no debate on that.

    • @junipersnow1
      @junipersnow1 Месяц назад +1

      Cynicism is the opposite of Enthusiasm, clicked for me.

    • @Yggdrasill8
      @Yggdrasill8 26 дней назад

      Cynicism helps protect people from sociopaths and psychopaths

  • @epiphaniesjuxtapozed
    @epiphaniesjuxtapozed Месяц назад

    How did the profit model send me here after the most cynical of cynical posts I made on meta last night lol?

  • @Raincat961
    @Raincat961 Месяц назад

    "But it's important to stay informed about world events!" You are addicted. You are an addict - in the most literal sense. Put the news down and start living your life.

    • @nottomclancy2439
      @nottomclancy2439 Месяц назад

      It's funny how it's "important to stay informed" and what then? What exactly changes about our lives after we've consumed the news? NOTHING.
      Call me a cynic, I don't fucking care. But fact is: The news is NOT important. What is important is what you make of your time you have on this world and I don't think that consuming the news daily or even weekly is a healthy thing to do. Especially since the news isn't objective and 99% of the time is just some proper gander.
      Absoluteley agree.

  • @epiphaniesjuxtapozed
    @epiphaniesjuxtapozed Месяц назад

    Let’s do absurdists next

  • @nico_costabel
    @nico_costabel Месяц назад

    Chris I think they are shadowbannig you. You are not appearing in my feed and I use to watch your episodes the same day you release them.
    Watch out

  • @sparky5994
    @sparky5994 Месяц назад

    How would one get onto the show Chris?

  • @ColinGarner-h1t
    @ColinGarner-h1t Месяц назад +7

    The older you get the more cynical you become.

    • @jimmorrison903
      @jimmorrison903 Месяц назад +5

      Thats BS. There are many old people who are way more optimistic that the average Gen Z who scrolls and watches doomer content all day.

    • @ColinGarner-h1t
      @ColinGarner-h1t Месяц назад

      @@rebeccamcclellan5284 no I’m not .

  • @Jacktraven80
    @Jacktraven80 Месяц назад +1

    6 minutes in, self realised mind blowing going on here.

  • @matthewgriffy
    @matthewgriffy Месяц назад

    Hello Chris,
    I recall that roughly this time last year you came to London and knocked out some killer 4K episodes. If you decide to return, here’s some recommendations for some 4K interviews:
    Dr Robert Plomin
    Dr Edward Dutton
    Ant Middleton
    Gary Stevenson (his recent video with business insider went absolutely viral).
    Dr Iain McGilchrist
    Dr Chris Van Tulleken
    Konstantin Kisin

  • @yamilcarrasquillo7996
    @yamilcarrasquillo7996 Месяц назад

    We have the same name

  • @Liam-n6v1w
    @Liam-n6v1w Месяц назад +2

    We all need to be hopemaxxing

  • @Not_sure_why
    @Not_sure_why Месяц назад +2

    I’m a cynic and I don’t like this person

  • @Pedroaghyu
    @Pedroaghyu Месяц назад

    People have lots trust in all aspects of governments and media because this organization have shown there true colors over the last 5 years

  • @eleodel1
    @eleodel1 Месяц назад +1

    I'm from Paris. You're describing my culture to a T

  • @EkurhuleniBusiness
    @EkurhuleniBusiness Месяц назад +2

    FIRST ONE TO COMMENT... LETS GO

  • @melissachinnici
    @melissachinnici Месяц назад

    Just in time.

  • @kwyatt261
    @kwyatt261 Месяц назад +2

    I'm sorry man, but 15 sick days is more than enough. It's for when you're SICK, not when you feel bad and don't want to come to work. Now, I'm completely in agreement if your argument is that the rigid, timed work week needs to be reevaluated. I think you're just confusing people's intentions in the current system we have.

  • @jimmyjamessac7171
    @jimmyjamessac7171 Месяц назад

    It's going to far into the idea which is back setting.....he made it clear...cynicism is naive....or in the same spectrum or space....whatever the correct word of categorizing sorry am not perfect in explaining...and naive is immature without.....I mean some would say innocent maybe ..
    .it's definitely a mistake.....
    .rock well the other way....yea r tho this is absolutely roasting adults who are cynical and yea they are stupid....
    I know so many....mother

  • @siyabongamkhize6478
    @siyabongamkhize6478 Месяц назад +1

    A lot of cynics do not understand and do not even know that they are cynics. They might be trapped in their negativity.

  • @windstormstrike
    @windstormstrike Месяц назад

    Chris: “How can people cultivate more hope?”
    Ted Lasso: “BELIEVE!”

  • @GHT_Raphael
    @GHT_Raphael Месяц назад +2

    Could you consider having Andrew tate on your podcast

    • @degzi
      @degzi Месяц назад +1

      considering the hot water tate is in right now i should imagine it wouldn't be a good move

  • @Sharpy7562
    @Sharpy7562 Месяц назад

    Seriously don’t care about anything but family welfare . Don’t watch news or read newspapers. Always set future travel goals and continue express opinion without fear of what others think .

  • @cb73
    @cb73 Месяц назад +2

    I’ll be called a cynic for this but we need to start a drinking game for every time a guest starts every assertion with “It turns out…”. Every time I hear that I’m almost certain they are BSing.

  • @normaemanuel4975
    @normaemanuel4975 Месяц назад +1

    Lol.

  • @flash3403
    @flash3403 Месяц назад

    Day 16 of asking Mr. Chris Williamson about his turgid, tediously pompous or bombastic, and aspiring trophy husband forearms routine.

  • @rtgray7
    @rtgray7 Месяц назад

    Duh...

  • @sylus121
    @sylus121 Месяц назад

    6:18