“ Bf meets my Family 🫣” ha.a ndixoleleni 😂😭😭😂😂😭😭😂😭😭😂 andizokwazi. I encourage comments and thoughts if anyone has any and I will try to response on my next episodes 💕 also don't forget to share if you enjoyed the video.
You are so right, trying to get into a relationship creates a horrible habit of centering men. I HATE the position I’m in, but I do my best to surround other areas of my life with friends, family, and hobbies like you said. It’s balance that never feels 50/50 but 70/30 on some days and 20/80 on others.
Hey girl, there’s a bit of feedback from the mic. Not sure if it’s due to interference from a device nearby or from the mic being too close to your mouth. Could also just need one of those sponge covers ( can’t recall what its called). I’m not a tech guru but just thought I’d chime in on how the sound is like from this side.
The pain I hear from this conversation is Soo sore. Ayi no you are going through it. I will pray for you. Ask God to help you put Him first. Everything you do not know you need is in Him. Buhle I love you. Focus on God. You will get exactly what you need
@@BuhleLupindo The part where you said that you do not know what exactly you need but you will put yourself in situation where you try to figure it out. One thing I am learning is that it comes with time. This thing of growth is not a time thing. So forcing growth out of you not even knowing anything leads to hurting yourself. And I understand you because growing in a family where you have parents who separated creates so much unnecessary drama for the children. This is the drama. I get it
@@DEBUNKBY_REA_ART_LEHA Firstly I'm not hurt and that's never what I said. Try watching my content without projecting how I'm possibly feeling. I don't speak about anything I haven't moved on from. So no I'm not hurt. I'm extremely happy it actually scares me. Ewe I have difficult days. That's been human but overall I wouldn't have it any other way I EVEN MENTION THAT IN THE VIDEO 😂😂 switch of the idea you think you have of me and listen again.
So, have you communicated to the boys that you want a relationship? Because you said that you were also indecisive but communicated clearly. It's quite often that girls wait for boys to make the move, which nobody does for their own insecurities, like being creepy. I also have a ton of experience in relationships, especially long-term, but I stopped dating altogether. It just feels like a second job, because as a man you have to market yourself, say the right things, and everything. No feelings are involved, as you said because girls are always trying to get the best deal (which is alright, don't get me wrong). Also, you seem to have no friendly relationships with men? As you said, everything starts and ends with women when it comes to you. Maybe understanding more would make you dating life better. Right after that, you mentioned that you don't tolerate slip-ups with your stated high-level boundaries. That's okay, but a relationship is about dealing with problems; maybe you are not quite ready to embrace that. Even if you dated the best boy in the universe, problems will rise, and forgiveness is needed to a certain point. Anyway, you seem to enjoy your life and have it already full, so a romantic relationship might not be a good fit for you, as you focus (again, that's alright) only on yourself. Standard guys who will respect you and listen to you are looking for long-term, all-life relationships. I tho want to more push on the idea that men have large egos. Most guys get 0 attention from women, because the culture is made for us to chase. Suicide rates are high, depression among young men is high, economic issues trouble men more because they are supposed to provide, most prison inmates are men, and long-term loneliness is a big issue in many countries, as you probably know. Also, 60 % (and rising number of university degrees go to women. I am yet to meet someone who isn't married and yet is boasting about his relationship prospects. Just a few thoughts from me. You seem a promising strong gal, just don't count on getting into marriage later because it will get more complicated for you. In 10 years, about 40 % of all 40+ will be single (60 % 30+). Look behind the corner and pick your own way. :)
Interesting take and conclusion of who I am. I don't think a 30+ video would ever give you a full perspective of who I am when the cameras are off. Firstly again I don't care enough to just pick for the sake of picking just because 40 is around the corner, I have weighed my options enough to know that doing life alone is also not so bad. Now with that being said I have alot of male relationships outside of romantic but male thought will never be mine because we live life completely differently ( that's the whole chat ) so I can't 100% believe men, even the one I love or end up with and all they need to know or understand that my life experiences is different from his.
Literally 😂🤝. Especially as a woman who has the done the inner work ? Def not built for a man who hasn’t and doesn’t understand the value of companionship in a partners etc. until then ? I’m good 👍🏽 also I don’t like when a person has fetched you from peace only to make you an emotionally wreck and now I have to do the healing all over again nah I’m good !
“ Bf meets my Family 🫣” ha.a ndixoleleni 😂😭😭😂😂😭😭😂😭😭😂 andizokwazi.
I encourage comments and thoughts if anyone has any and I will try to response on my next episodes 💕 also don't forget to share if you enjoyed the video.
You are so right, trying to get into a relationship creates a horrible habit of centering men. I HATE the position I’m in, but I do my best to surround other areas of my life with friends, family, and hobbies like you said. It’s balance that never feels 50/50 but 70/30 on some days and 20/80 on others.
Hey girl, there’s a bit of feedback from the mic. Not sure if it’s due to interference from a device nearby or from the mic being too close to your mouth. Could also just need one of those sponge covers ( can’t recall what its called). I’m not a tech guru but just thought I’d chime in on how the sound is like from this side.
“Re-married and wabuya “😭😂
One thing about you, you'll have a personality 😂🔥 love you for that ❤
Had a good laugh😂😂😂, man you are so cool❤❤❤❤
I enjoyed this so much.♥️ You articulate the sentiments I have about dating so well! I feel so seen.😭
Looking forward to more episodes from October the Podcast. Your dynamic with Khanya gives me life ❤
Literally just subscribed and tuning in. Can’t wait too ❤
Thoroughly enjoyed listening to
Arg man this was so refreshing❤
I absolutely relate❤
Ayi chomi you kill me shame 🤞🏾🤣❤️ and we will respect your man chomi 😂😂but we need those titles please 😂😂
@@Amanda-gb7mf Asoze my F “ My boyfriend Met My Friends 🫣” 😂😂😂 ha.a andiziboni anymore.
Buhle! I love you. Boyfriend meets my mom😂😂😂😂
Yhooooo ndezene enye AGAIN 😂😂 ha.a my F
hahahhahhahahaha this is funny🤣🤣🤣 nah some things are a once off experience🤣🤣 honestly
As a result I'm not longer interested in dating.
ohhhh mtase i forgot how funny and amazing you are ILYSM💌❤ I enjoyed this video.
The pain I hear from this conversation is Soo sore. Ayi no you are going through it. I will pray for you. Ask God to help you put Him first. Everything you do not know you need is in Him. Buhle I love you. Focus on God. You will get exactly what you need
@@DEBUNKBY_REA_ART_LEHA 😂😂😂😂😭😭 uyagowa wena. Im so dead 😂😭😭😭
@@BuhleLupindo I love you man
@@DEBUNKBY_REA_ART_LEHA so tell me what pain are you hearing?
@@BuhleLupindo The part where you said that you do not know what exactly you need but you will put yourself in situation where you try to figure it out. One thing I am learning is that it comes with time. This thing of growth is not a time thing. So forcing growth out of you not even knowing anything leads to hurting yourself. And I understand you because growing in a family where you have parents who separated creates so much unnecessary drama for the children. This is the drama. I get it
@@DEBUNKBY_REA_ART_LEHA Firstly I'm not hurt and that's never what I said. Try watching my content without projecting how I'm possibly feeling. I don't speak about anything I haven't moved on from. So no I'm not hurt. I'm extremely happy it actually scares me. Ewe I have difficult days. That's been human but overall I wouldn't have it any other way I EVEN MENTION THAT IN THE VIDEO 😂😂 switch of the idea you think you have of me and listen again.
"kuyanyiwa aphaphandle kwii dating "REAL😂😂😂😂
Have missed you 😍😍😍😍😍🥰.
Hi hlehle welccome back ntombi ❤❤❤❤
Everything you said mntase ! Especially with being international about the women relationships we have 🫰🏾
yhooo andi early😭
Just watched your Dead radio interview 😊😊👍👍
Mina I hear you ❤
Uyadika Buhle yho " ndilauncha mna" oh boring!🤣🤣🤣🤣. Inoba bandithele nqa abantu kule ofisi🤣
I love you Buhle😂😂😂😂😂❤
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🥹❤️love this and relate sm
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Hey cutie pie
So, have you communicated to the boys that you want a relationship? Because you said that you were also indecisive but communicated clearly. It's quite often that girls wait for boys to make the move, which nobody does for their own insecurities, like being creepy. I also have a ton of experience in relationships, especially long-term, but I stopped dating altogether. It just feels like a second job, because as a man you have to market yourself, say the right things, and everything. No feelings are involved, as you said because girls are always trying to get the best deal (which is alright, don't get me wrong). Also, you seem to have no friendly relationships with men? As you said, everything starts and ends with women when it comes to you. Maybe understanding more would make you dating life better. Right after that, you mentioned that you don't tolerate slip-ups with your stated high-level boundaries. That's okay, but a relationship is about dealing with problems; maybe you are not quite ready to embrace that. Even if you dated the best boy in the universe, problems will rise, and forgiveness is needed to a certain point. Anyway, you seem to enjoy your life and have it already full, so a romantic relationship might not be a good fit for you, as you focus (again, that's alright) only on yourself. Standard guys who will respect you and listen to you are looking for long-term, all-life relationships. I tho want to more push on the idea that men have large egos. Most guys get 0 attention from women, because the culture is made for us to chase. Suicide rates are high, depression among young men is high, economic issues trouble men more because they are supposed to provide, most prison inmates are men, and long-term loneliness is a big issue in many countries, as you probably know. Also, 60 % (and rising number of university degrees go to women. I am yet to meet someone who isn't married and yet is boasting about his relationship prospects. Just a few thoughts from me. You seem a promising strong gal, just don't count on getting into marriage later because it will get more complicated for you. In 10 years, about 40 % of all 40+ will be single (60 % 30+). Look behind the corner and pick your own way. :)
Interesting take and conclusion of who I am. I don't think a 30+ video would ever give you a full perspective of who I am when the cameras are off. Firstly again I don't care enough to just pick for the sake of picking just because 40 is around the corner, I have weighed my options enough to know that doing life alone is also not so bad. Now with that being said I have alot of male relationships outside of romantic but male thought will never be mine because we live life completely differently ( that's the whole chat ) so I can't 100% believe men, even the one I love or end up with and all they need to know or understand that my life experiences is different from his.
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you fumbled the one we all knew & now u think u will get a better one !?? $hem
@@bigthangz5489 😂😂 sugowa my dear. Over strangers on the internet 😂😭😭😭😭😭😂
Bathong wena
I am fresh off a breakup mntase. I think ndi grand ngabantu of the opposite gender. 🥲
Literally 😂🤝. Especially as a woman who has the done the inner work ? Def not built for a man who hasn’t and doesn’t understand the value of companionship in a partners etc. until then ? I’m good 👍🏽 also I don’t like when a person has fetched you from peace only to make you an emotionally wreck and now I have to do the healing all over again nah I’m good !
@HisPrincess_ that's the thing. Doing inner work to then deal with a person who won't even bother trying? No thanks. 🥲