For years I thought something was wrong with me because I liked to be alone. I finally realized I like to be alone. Nothing wrong with me. I just moved into a new community and plan on finding some volunteer activities once or twice a week. I do work on saying hi and good morning to people in my apartment building. Trying to be friendly to my new neighbors. Sixty and me has been a great help to me.
There is a big difference between being alone and being lonely. I personally enjoy being alone; I often find people stiflingly. I've done a lot of reading about introverts and that is exactly what I am. While I am not a "hermit" I recharge best by myself. I have people I get together with from time to time, but I'm at my best when I have space. And when I do start to feel "lonely" I find a visit to a museum or a walk through a garden snaps me out of it. We're all different with different needs. I think the first step to overcome loneliness is to learn to be comfortable with yourself. If you can't achieve that no number of friends is going to make you feel truly happy.
@joAnne I truly think you nailed it, I have a few girlfriends that are introverts I always thought maybe they don't like me because I'm the opposite and at times they just had to get away from me. Now that I have matured 68 still a work in progress I understand who I am, but better yet I understand them, I have a wonderful relationship with these women we would do anything for each other anytime, we just don't need to be in each other faces to it. I have learned so much about myself from these women they are ok, and I'm ok, our differences create a wonderful balance on how we interact.
I am friendly but a loner. I usually find someone to chat with but most of my friends have died so now joined a few clubs. Had to stop going to one as there was a nice lady but all I heard with her troubles with her husband so left the group. If I feel a bit off I go on the bus to the mall and treat myself to a gooey cake a large cup of coffee. Then I go home happy and fulfilled. Even the bus trip is a joy, to see the trees and people. Love to you ❤
What an important topic. After losing my husband/best friend at Christmas, I am trying to discern (and be mindful of) the difference between loneliness and sadness. I think I am not lonely because of the wonderful support from family and friends, accepting as many invitations of help and socialization as possible, even if I am tired; especially if I just want to crawl into pyjamas and watch mindless TV. My mother became obsessed with my father's passing, isolating herself and becoming a very unhappy person. She is in a lovely retirement home with lots of activities and groups, but chooses not to partake. I will take that as a good lesson, so that her situation is not completely wasted. Thank you for discussing this sensitive subject.
I am so sorry for your loss. A separation has the same type of emotions, but that person is still there. I know many women who have isolated themselves during a death and I am so proud of you for getting out there and replying to your invitations, keep it up, but when the sadness hits you take it in,then move on. The best to you!
Sometimes I was sad and lonely at the same time. Being with people really helps. So does time. Sorry for your loss. Stay engaged with life and when you need time to grieve take it. Good luck on the journey
Great topic, Margaret! I'm going to be 67 next month. I never met my "person", which has caused me various degrees of angst over the years. That said, I really enjoy my own company and have come to feel that home is my happy place. I know we need to connect with others, and I do so from time to time, but I'm finding that time spent with other than close friends just leaves me drained and I need to be alone again to "recharge". I would like to get to know more people, but that can be tricky. I recently met a woman for breakfast that I had come to know through an online city neighborhood group. I pretty much knew soon after meeting her that we had ZERO things in common, plus she talked really loudly (which annoys me to no end). I know my not having further contact with her has hurt her feelings, which I feel bad about. Finding friends you "click" with can be just as challenging as romantic relationships. It's no wonder so many people in their '60's and beyond tend to isolate ourselves. Especially if you're a caring person, there's no easy way to tell someone you're not interested in having a friendship with them.
I’m 60 and a widow now for 6 yrs. I have 3 grown children and we are very close and they are amazing. I fully enjoy living alone. I have a church family , I workout a lot and I just started to volunteer in a pro life organization. At the end of the day the truth is I come home to an empty house and I totally love that. I look forward to being alone and I read a lot. I have to push myself to get out and socialize. I have to be “intentional” - which is not easy at times bc as I said- I love being by myself and just read. I truly love watching and reading “60 and me”!!!!!!
Sometimes I am just lonely for my youth.... uncertainty makes me feel vulnerable. I used to be SO busy with my family for decades I really never could rap my head around being lonely. Things have have undoubtedly changed.
I mentioned to my good friend who is now 84 yrs. old that the happiest time in my life was when my kids were around. I struggled financially and then I married and had two bonus girls so my husband and I were busy with work, church, and volunteering. All of a sudden, the children grew up and left home. No more football games, gymnastics, parades, dances, church programs, etc., etc. I had hoped to spend my retirement years with my husband but he became a raging alcoholic. He died drunk and alone. That was decades ago. I am content now but not thrilled with my life. I am looking forward to traveling in the very near future. You need to have something to look forward to!
I love your videos. Thank you taking a sensitive and thoughtful look at loneliness at our age. The quarantine has exacerbated my tendency toward isolation. Luckily, I am able to teach with zoom. My dear students are my life line to the outside world.
Wow this is great info. Being lonely happens to me now and then. I find Meetups a terrific platform for meeting people in general. I think just participating is important for me. I will be 66 this month and made up my mind to live laugh love. I am NOT going to take this time for granted and Meetups gives me so many opportinities to engage with people of all ages. It is fascinating. I cant wrap my head around sitting in the senior center just yet.
thanks for being here! I just turned 70 and work with the public, so I see people everyday. I am a widow of 4 yrs with children close by but "very busy". I have made wonderful friends who are quite younger but sometimes you do kind of hide. I guess different days and situations bring different emotions and feelings We need someone to turn to, have the strength to do it, and possibly listen to something new. I love your topics and listening. AND thanks for sharing and listening Mary Ellen
Thanks for the great topic today, I also do not find it easy to make friends at this age. My husband died a bit over 2 years ago after 50 years together. I like living alone that is not the problem, but yes it sometimes is confusion, it is not that I am lonely, but it might be sadness that of course arrives at the weirdest times. But I say to myself, don,t go that route! Be grateful for the things I have and I have a lot to be thankful for.
@JoAnne Kempf mirrored my thoughts exactly. I enjoy my own company. I love being alone and I don’t feel lonely. I can reach out when I want to engage. I love my solo trips into the city (Toronto) to visit the different museums and the art gallery. When I travelled for business, I loved the opportunity to be on my own. At the moment, I do have engagement with my strong women business network and hence getting time on my own is precious. I have always maintained a small number of good friends and my friends change as they move on in a different context of life. That’s okay.
Thank you for your words! When you said that we might need to "stop hiding", it struck a chord with me. I have dealt with anxiety and depression for my whole life and I am 62. I fight it with therapy and meds but I still isolate too much. I think I am HIDING behind all the clutter and "stuff" that keeps me feeling stuck. I don't know what's on the other side of the feelings I am accustomed to. Very thought provoking.👍🏼
Good morning Margaret, I am real surprised the app didn’t work...maybe workshops? I listened to this video twice so that I could absorb your message. I guess when u get into your 50’s friendships start to shift . For me, it was losing my mom and getting divorced within months. I had so much fun with my mom going to the theartre and hanging out with her fellow singing/ acting friends. It was the same with my ex~ husband. He was a drummer and we had a great little recording studio behind our house. This brought people and music several nites a week to my home. I want to recreate this, but I haven’t figured out what kind of meet up I could start to get to know the people before inviting them to my new home. The women I know are nice , but a movie and dinner is a night out for them. I would also love to hear from the other ladies what they are doing to have a great social life. I would like to take turns throwing pot luck dinners. My poor baby grand piano needs someone to play her. ;)) Have a lovely Sunday Ana Sophia
My son just moved to another state to begin his career and I’ve been dreading this. Of course, I’m happy for him and excited to visit in the future, but I now find myself alone. I return to work in August, so that will help, but when I retire, I plan on traveling, reading, knitting, and doing whatever it is I want. Aside from the lonely part, it can also be freeing, can’t it, to wake up in the morning and plan to do whatever one wants for the rest of the day. I think this is about perception. Am I free, or am I too alone. I’m going to consider myself free.
Margaret love listening to all of your stories love the one about the loneliness. I enjoy the topics you bring up it reminds us of things that we already knew perhaps but just never tried or did.Don't let things get us down we get knocked down we get back up. Thank you for all your inspiration, will never be lonely long as we have you to listen too , Sweet Lady xoxo❤
I just stumbled across this and while it addresses my situation, it doesn't help me figure life out lol. I'm a 62 year old male. I just got divorced 5 years ago after 35 years together. I am happy by myself most of the time, but oh do I get lonely for female companionship sometimes. I avoid dating because I think I'd rather be alone than be in a bad relationship. I really wish I could find love again, it was so nice. I think, well at least I got to experience love once and some people never do. I wish more women would be brave and more assertive. It seems most women are just as jaded as I am. At this rate I'll be alone forever. I wish I could find a woman that feels the same. You know I love my independence most of the time but sure would like to have a partner for when I want to share life. I guess that's not fair to expect that from a partner, hence I'm still alone. Love your videos and warm smile.
I have just watched three of your videos and your inspiration and ideas are wonderful. I am actually a 52-year-old single man and former activities director and tour director. Thank you and I look forward to tuning into more of your knowledge 🙏
I think making friends means taking risks, too. You may fear the risk of someone, a new friend, taking too much space up in your life. We have become comfortable in our routines and fear anyone causing you to change. You have to make room for friends.
I belong two different senior centers located in two different towns. These senior centers offer sage classes. I am presently taking English literature and Improv acting. Going to the senior center gave me the opportunity to meet new people since I had relocated from a different state I knew no one. Once a week I also join a group of ladies for self awareness discussions. Occasionally I invite my neighbor for brunch or we go out to lunch. If you don’t have senior centers where you live look into colleges that offer adults or sage classes. I also keep in touch with selected people where I use to live. I remember their birthday and mail them birthday cards. I personally feel you need to make the first move and be the friend you would like to have. And there is always charity work that always need volunteers. With the grace of God I plan to live my senior years with joy. At first is scary, but in the end the results are grand. PS people in walkers and wheel chairs also attend. (No judgement). Thank you
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I found going to somewhere like Wetherspoons helpful when I lived alone. I used to go around 6pm - before it got too rowdy - and it didn’t feel uncomfortable. Also, being out with a dog - someone always stops to say hello. Church was another place people say hello - if it’s a good church, and there”s usually groups as well. I actually enjoyed being alone a lot of the time. X
I am 76 and lost my love of 42 years Dec 29, 2020 and my only son in April of 021 , so I am still wondering where and what I should do , I am a huge crafter, but the mistake I made in life is just living taking care of dh and not really getting friends and here I sit alone. Love listening to you channel. Thank you
Hi Margaret, I enjoyed your chat, Thank You. I lost my partner 3 years ago, I miss him. But I'm alive and make the most of my life. I love going out, I belong to, two groups,, singles group and a meetup group, I have lots of fun. Travelling as well. Just go out there and do it. Love the cards,how can I buy them ? Maureen from NZ x
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You are absolutely right on this subject! I could go into detail, but it’s out there if we want it! We choose what we want! Thanks for saying this so honestly! I hope it helps someone!!!!
Such a good topic. I think people can mistake loneliness for mourning of a loss of family members ( through death) and or perhaps the way one’s relationships have changed over time because of age. I think these are different than being lonely. Doing things to live in the present, not in the past helps.
Wow you are amazing, like you are in my mind. Yes as you may recall I have put my life together but I am lonely. Some friends have left due to sickness and for a reason I hate is my separation. My friends were his friends and now they are gone. I don't understand that. I am so sorry that your project of matching friends did not work , that would have been great. Thank goodness I have a sister that goes along with me on spontaneous adventures.Loneliness is very hard especially at night.
Thank you Margaret. You have interesting topics and ideas/suggestions. Yes, I do exp. loneliness, and I've even had some tell me to 'stop hiding'. I'm not sure I'm in the best location. Although I love the altitude & atmosphere with forest & abundance of trees; I do find 'connecting' a bit of a problem. Political climate isn't friendly, bottom line: I find it's a different world than it once was. I don't appreciate the rudeness, hate & anger expressed nor do I find people appreciative of the 'elder age'. Yes, college town. I've started a Meditation group, FREE, and kept it going for 9 mos. but with lack of interest and people brought politics into it; I just shut it down. I started a "Conscious Living" group; but with low attendance, for whatever reasons, I stopped doing it after 6 months. A couple of groups I've joined did the same thing; closed because of lack of attendance. ?? I sorta think it's a sign of the times. Still looking, I Trust the Univ. Open to ideas and suggestions. That's why I'm entertaining the idea of relocating. I like the country for all the clean living; but not easy to find PEOPLE. I'm on numerous on line chats, etx. (Never thought I'd do that) but it's where I find like minded people. Just would prefer to BE IN PERSON. The energy is changing, I think this will be GREAT.
I belong to a wonderful organization for women that sing. It’s called Sweet Adelines International. We sing acapella harmony. It’s made up of many chorus’ all Over America and in Australia, Canada, England, Finland, Germany, Ireland, Japan, New Zealand, Scotland, Sweden, Wales and the Netherlands. It’s a wonderful way to make friends and improve musically and to keep active. My chorus of 96 women is like a family to me. Our youngest member is 24 and our oldest is 80. We sing and dance and a lot is required of us but it keeps us young. If you move to another state or country and you join another Sweet Adelines chorus you’ll have an instant family. By the way, I’m a tea drinker too!
Thanks so much Nancy for joining the conversation. You are a perfect example of someone who took the time to get to know what really made YOU happy - and then found a group to nourish that passion. So happy you shared your story - thank you!
Whether you enjoy being alone or feel angry at your (new?) Isolation, having no reliable friends in your life when you're older can be extremely inconvenient, even dangerous. Where I live, if you need even in - office surgery, doctors mandate that you have a personal friend wait for you and take you home--no cabs allowed! This is for such things as dentistry or eye exams! There's actually institutional prejudice against being on your own nowadays. This has actually floored me? and makes me quite anxious.
I'm an introvert so I prefer a few close friends as opposed to lots of people in my life. When my best friend died it left me feeling pretty lost for a while. I've done a couple things that have been effective at keeping me in touch with people. One, I joined Meetup.org online and, through it, I've found a couple good groups of people to hang out with that share my interests. Two, I'm a writer so I hang out in my local coffee shop to write a few times a week. It's a small independent shop that tends to have a lot of friendly people from the neighborhood. Over time I've met and made friends with several interesting people.
When I feel lonely I leap on a Flixbus and do a city trip, Munich, Vienna, Zurich, Heidelberg... city tour hop on hop off, a good exhibition, a good Café. Hope you’re well, Margaret.
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Hi Margaret, I really love watching your videos.You really are an inspiration. I wanted to ask you a question,as you always look so vibrant with your makeup colours and bright tops. Would you tell me what colour and make your eyeshadow is you are wearing in this video.I have the same hair colour as yours and am fair skinned and at sixty seven next month have only just started wearing eye shadow again. I am happily married but don't really bother about making new friends.Love and hugs Gloria uk
For years I thought something was wrong with me because I liked to be alone. I finally realized I like to be alone. Nothing wrong with me. I just moved into a new community and plan on finding some volunteer activities once or twice a week. I do work on saying hi and good morning to people in my apartment building. Trying to be friendly to my new neighbors. Sixty and me has been a great help to me.
There is a big difference between being alone and being lonely. I personally enjoy being alone; I often find people stiflingly. I've done a lot of reading about introverts and that is exactly what I am. While I am not a "hermit" I recharge best by myself. I have people I get together with from time to time, but I'm at my best when I have space. And when I do start to feel "lonely" I find a visit to a museum or a walk through a garden snaps me out of it. We're all different with different needs. I think the first step to overcome loneliness is to learn to be comfortable with yourself. If you can't achieve that no number of friends is going to make you feel truly happy.
J
@joAnne I truly think you nailed it, I have a few girlfriends that are introverts I always thought maybe they don't like me because I'm the opposite and at times they just had to get away from me. Now that I have matured 68 still a work in progress I understand who I am, but better yet I understand them, I have a wonderful relationship with these women we would do anything for each other anytime, we just don't need to be in each other faces to it.
I have learned so much about myself from these women they are ok, and I'm ok, our differences create a wonderful balance on how we interact.
I completely agree with what you wrote. I couldn't have said it better!
I am friendly but a loner. I usually find someone to chat with but most of my friends have died so now joined a few clubs. Had to stop going to one as there was a nice lady but all I heard with her troubles with her husband so left the group. If I feel a bit off I go on the bus to the mall and treat myself to a gooey cake a large cup of coffee. Then I go home happy and fulfilled. Even the bus trip is a joy, to see the trees and people. Love to you ❤
What an important topic. After losing my husband/best friend at Christmas, I am trying to discern (and be mindful of) the difference between loneliness and sadness. I think I am not lonely because of the wonderful support from family and friends, accepting as many invitations of help and socialization as possible, even if I am tired; especially if I just want to crawl into pyjamas and watch mindless TV. My mother became obsessed with my father's passing, isolating herself and becoming a very unhappy person. She is in a lovely retirement home with lots of activities and groups, but chooses not to partake. I will take that as a good lesson, so that her situation is not completely wasted. Thank you for discussing this sensitive subject.
I am so sorry for your loss. A separation has the same type of emotions, but that person is still there. I know many women who have isolated themselves during a death and I am so proud of you for getting out there and replying to your invitations, keep it up, but when the sadness hits you take it in,then move on. The best to you!
Sometimes I was sad and lonely at the same time. Being with people really helps. So does time. Sorry for your loss. Stay engaged with life and when you need time to grieve take it. Good luck on the journey
Say "I am not lonely" 1000X...... get a pet dog and take her/him for a walk; or do something...
Rely on self!
Great topic, Margaret! I'm going to be 67 next month. I never met my "person", which has caused me various degrees of angst over the years. That said, I really enjoy my own company and have come to feel that home is my happy place. I know we need to connect with others, and I do so from time to time, but I'm finding that time spent with other than close friends just leaves me drained and I need to be alone again to "recharge".
I would like to get to know more people, but that can be tricky. I recently met a woman for breakfast that I had come to know through an online city neighborhood group. I pretty much knew soon after meeting her that we had ZERO things in common, plus she talked really loudly (which annoys me to no end). I know my not having further contact with her has hurt her feelings, which I feel bad about. Finding friends you "click" with can be just as challenging as romantic relationships. It's no wonder so many people in their '60's and beyond tend to isolate ourselves. Especially if you're a caring person, there's no easy way to tell someone you're not interested in having a friendship with them.
I’m 60 and a widow now for 6 yrs. I have 3 grown children and we are very close and they are amazing. I fully enjoy living alone. I have a church family , I workout a lot and I just started to volunteer in a pro life organization. At the end of the day the truth is I come home to an empty house and I totally love that. I look forward to being alone and I read a lot. I have to push myself to get out and socialize. I have to be “intentional” - which is not easy at times bc as I said- I love being by myself and just read.
I truly love watching and reading “60 and me”!!!!!!
Thanks Maria for joining the conversation!
I’m learning how to swim at 63. I take a weekly class and practice at the public pool twice a week.
That pink is a great color for you, Margaret, and I really like that necklace!
Sometimes I am just lonely for my youth.... uncertainty makes me feel vulnerable. I used to be SO busy with my family for decades I really never could rap my head around being lonely. Things have have undoubtedly changed.
I mentioned to my good friend who is now 84 yrs. old that the happiest time in my life was when my kids were around. I struggled financially and then I married and had two bonus girls so my husband and I were busy with work, church, and volunteering. All of a sudden, the children grew up and left home. No more football games, gymnastics, parades, dances, church programs, etc., etc. I had hoped to spend my retirement years with my husband but he became a raging alcoholic. He died drunk and alone. That was decades ago. I am content now but not thrilled with my life. I am looking forward to traveling in the very near future. You need to have something to look forward to!
I love your videos. Thank you taking a sensitive and thoughtful look at loneliness at our age. The quarantine has exacerbated my tendency toward isolation. Luckily, I am able to teach with zoom. My dear students are my life line to the outside world.
Wow this is great info. Being lonely happens to me now and then. I find Meetups a terrific platform for meeting people in general. I think just participating is important for me. I will be 66 this month and made up my mind to live laugh love. I am NOT going to take this time for granted and Meetups gives me so many opportinities to engage with people of all ages. It is fascinating. I cant wrap my head around sitting in the senior center just yet.
thanks for being here! I just turned 70 and work with the public, so I see people everyday. I am a widow of 4 yrs with children close by but "very busy". I have made wonderful friends who are quite younger but sometimes you do kind of hide. I guess different days and situations bring different emotions and feelings
We need someone to turn to, have the strength to do it, and possibly listen to something new. I love your topics and listening. AND thanks for sharing and listening
Mary Ellen
Thanks for the great topic today, I also do not find it easy to make friends at this age. My husband died a bit over 2 years ago after 50 years together. I like living alone that is not the problem, but yes it sometimes is confusion, it is not that I am lonely, but it might be sadness that of course arrives at the weirdest times. But I say to myself, don,t go that route! Be grateful for the things I have and I have a lot to be thankful for.
@JoAnne Kempf mirrored my thoughts exactly. I enjoy my own company. I love being alone and I don’t feel lonely. I can reach out when I want to engage. I love my solo trips into the city (Toronto) to visit the different museums and the art gallery. When I travelled for business, I loved the opportunity to be on my own. At the moment, I do have engagement with my strong women business network and hence getting time on my own is precious. I have always maintained a small number of good friends and my friends change as they move on in a different context of life. That’s okay.
Thank you for your words! When you said that we might need to "stop hiding", it struck a chord with me. I have dealt with anxiety and depression for my whole life and I am 62. I fight it with therapy and meds but I still isolate too much. I think I am HIDING behind all the clutter and "stuff" that keeps me feeling stuck. I don't know what's on the other side of the feelings I am accustomed to. Very thought provoking.👍🏼
Good morning Margaret,
I am real surprised the app didn’t work...maybe workshops?
I listened to this video twice so that I could absorb your message.
I guess when u get into your 50’s friendships start to shift .
For me, it was losing my mom and getting divorced within months. I had so much fun with my mom going to the theartre and hanging out with her fellow singing/ acting friends.
It was the same with my ex~ husband.
He was a drummer and we had a great little recording studio behind our house.
This brought people and music several nites a week to my home.
I want to recreate this, but I haven’t figured out what kind of meet up I could start to get to know the people before inviting them to my new home.
The women I know are nice , but a movie and dinner is a night out for them.
I would also love to hear from the other ladies what they are doing to have a great social life. I would like to take turns throwing pot luck dinners. My poor baby grand piano needs someone to play her. ;))
Have a lovely Sunday
Ana Sophia
My son just moved to another state to begin his career and I’ve been dreading this. Of course, I’m happy for him and excited to visit in the future, but I now find myself alone. I return to work in August, so that will help, but when I retire, I plan on traveling, reading, knitting, and doing whatever it is I want. Aside from the lonely part, it can also be freeing, can’t it, to wake up in the morning and plan to do whatever one wants for the rest of the day. I think this is about perception. Am I free, or am I too alone. I’m going to consider myself free.
Margaret love listening to all of your stories love the one about the loneliness. I enjoy the topics you bring up it reminds us of things that we already knew perhaps but just never tried or did.Don't let things get us down we get knocked down we get back up. Thank you for all your inspiration, will never be lonely long as we have you to listen too , Sweet Lady xoxo❤
Hello, Pamela. your comment really got to me, and has really being helpful. Would really be nice to meet you or at least text you someday.
Excellent content. Loneliness is real and there are many of us experiencing this.
I just stumbled across this and while it addresses my situation, it doesn't help me figure life out lol. I'm a 62 year old male. I just got divorced 5 years ago after 35 years together. I am happy by myself most of the time, but oh do I get lonely for female companionship sometimes. I avoid dating because I think I'd rather be alone than be in a bad relationship. I really wish I could find love again, it was so nice. I think, well at least I got to experience love once and some people never do. I wish more women would be brave and more assertive. It seems most women are just as jaded as I am. At this rate I'll be alone forever. I wish I could find a woman that feels the same. You know I love my independence most of the time but sure would like to have a partner for when I want to share life. I guess that's not fair to expect that from a partner, hence I'm still alone. Love your videos and warm smile.
I have just watched three of your videos and your inspiration and ideas are wonderful. I am actually a 52-year-old single man and former activities director and tour director. Thank you and I look forward to tuning into more of your knowledge 🙏
I think making friends means taking risks, too. You may fear the risk of someone, a new friend, taking too much space up in your life. We have become comfortable in our routines and fear anyone causing you to change. You have to make room for friends.
Not really Kay..
Join a charitable club like the Elks or Moose clubs. If you don’t trust people, get a pet like a dog or cat. That helps.
I belong two different senior centers located in two different towns. These senior centers offer sage classes. I am presently taking English literature and Improv acting. Going to the senior center gave me the opportunity to meet new people since I had relocated from a different state I knew no one. Once a week I also join a group of ladies for self awareness discussions. Occasionally I invite my neighbor for brunch or we go out to lunch. If you don’t have senior centers where you live look into colleges that offer adults or sage classes. I also keep in touch with selected people where I use to live. I remember their birthday and mail them birthday cards. I personally feel you need to make the first move and be the friend you would like to have. And there is always charity work that always need volunteers. With the grace of God I plan to live my senior years with joy. At first is scary, but in the end the results are grand.
PS people in walkers and wheel chairs also attend. (No judgement). Thank you
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I found going to somewhere like Wetherspoons helpful when I lived alone. I used to go around 6pm - before it got too rowdy - and it didn’t feel uncomfortable. Also, being out with a dog - someone always stops to say hello. Church was another place people say hello - if it’s a good church, and there”s usually groups as well. I actually enjoyed being alone a lot of the time. X
I am 76 and lost my love of 42 years Dec 29, 2020 and my only son in April of 021 , so I am still wondering where and what I should do , I am a huge crafter, but the mistake I made in life is just living taking care of dh and not really getting friends and here I sit alone. Love listening to you channel. Thank you
Hi Margaret, I enjoyed your chat, Thank You.
I lost my partner 3 years ago, I miss him.
But I'm alive and make the most of my life.
I love going out, I belong to, two groups,, singles group and a meetup group, I have lots of fun. Travelling as well.
Just go out there and do it.
Love the cards,how can I buy them ?
Maureen from NZ x
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Hello beautiful lady 😊! Hope that you have a wonderful day. ❤️☕️
You hit the nail on the head with this video Margaret
Thanks Trish! Have a wonderful rest of your weekend! :-) x
I am usually loving being home.I get out and chat at my reg. thrift store,grocery.Miss my kids.So,its a day by day process!
You are absolutely right on this subject! I could go into detail, but it’s out there if we want it! We choose what we want! Thanks for saying this so honestly! I hope it helps someone!!!!
I love coffee in the morning and green tea in he afternoon, camomile at night. From NC, USA.
This applies to men also who don’t usually have the same kind of network that women seem to have.
Thank you for telling me about Patreon! I really enjoy your videos 😊
Such a good topic. I think people can mistake loneliness for mourning of a loss of family members ( through death) and or perhaps the way one’s relationships have changed over time because of age. I think these are different than being lonely. Doing things to live in the present, not in the past helps.
Join your local U3A in the UK. If they have a drop-in centre it is a good place to have a cup of tea and a chat.
Hi, Here in Ontario Canada, we have Meetups, so many to choose from.
Wow you are amazing, like you are in my mind. Yes as you may recall I have put my life together but I am lonely. Some friends have left due to sickness and for a reason I hate is my separation. My friends were his friends and now they are gone. I don't understand that. I am so sorry that your project of matching friends did not work , that would have been great. Thank goodness I have a sister that goes along with me on spontaneous adventures.Loneliness is very hard especially at night.
I agree about how my friends have disappeared since my separation I too find it difficult to understand!
I have met some very nice people at the local senior center.
Thank you Margaret. You have interesting topics and ideas/suggestions. Yes, I do exp. loneliness, and I've even had some tell me to 'stop hiding'. I'm not sure I'm in the best location. Although I love the altitude & atmosphere with forest & abundance of trees; I do find 'connecting' a bit of a problem. Political climate isn't friendly, bottom line: I find it's a different world than it once was. I don't appreciate the rudeness, hate & anger expressed nor do I find people appreciative of the 'elder age'. Yes, college town. I've started a Meditation group, FREE, and kept it going for 9 mos. but with lack of interest and people brought politics into it; I just shut it down. I started a "Conscious Living" group; but with low attendance, for whatever reasons, I stopped doing it after 6 months. A couple of groups I've joined did the same thing; closed because of lack of attendance. ?? I sorta think it's a sign of the times. Still looking, I Trust the Univ. Open to ideas and suggestions. That's why I'm entertaining the idea of relocating. I like the country for all the clean living; but not easy to find PEOPLE. I'm on numerous on line chats, etx. (Never thought I'd do that) but it's where I find like minded people. Just would prefer to BE IN PERSON. The energy is changing, I think this will be GREAT.
Hi! Good to find you here! I've just started vlogging too. The cards look beautiful and encouraging
My tea is everything! Need those cards. Blessings from Michigan!
Hi Pam - here is the link iu161.infusionsoft.app/app/orderForms/Aging-Beautifully-A-46-Card-Deck :-) Enjoy your tea!
I feel that there isn't enough said that some of us don't make enough money to keep up with what others in our age group can do.
I belong to a wonderful organization for women that sing. It’s called Sweet Adelines International. We sing acapella harmony. It’s made up of many chorus’ all Over America and in Australia, Canada, England, Finland, Germany, Ireland, Japan, New Zealand, Scotland, Sweden, Wales and the Netherlands. It’s a wonderful way to make friends and improve musically and to keep active. My chorus of 96 women is like a family to me. Our youngest member is 24 and our oldest is 80. We sing and dance and a lot is required of us but it keeps us young. If you move to another state or country and you join another Sweet Adelines chorus you’ll have an instant family. By the way, I’m a tea drinker too!
Thanks so much Nancy for joining the conversation. You are a perfect example of someone who took the time to get to know what really made YOU happy - and then found a group to nourish that passion. So happy you shared your story - thank you!
Sixty and Me Thanks, Margaret. I posted this because i wanted to make women aware of SAI as a place to meet others and grow and just have fun!
Good video. Thank you.
I wish there were a lot of group to join but, what with a pandemic followed by a cost of living crisis not much is avalible locally.
Whether you enjoy being alone or feel angry at your (new?) Isolation, having no reliable friends in your life when you're older can be extremely inconvenient, even dangerous. Where I live, if you need even in - office surgery, doctors mandate that you have a personal friend wait for you and take you home--no cabs allowed! This is for such things as dentistry or eye exams! There's actually institutional prejudice against being on your own nowadays. This has actually floored me? and makes me quite anxious.
I'm an introvert so I prefer a few close friends as opposed to lots of people in my life. When my best friend died it left me feeling pretty lost for a while. I've done a couple things that have been effective at keeping me in touch with people. One, I joined Meetup.org online and, through it, I've found a couple good groups of people to hang out with that share my interests. Two, I'm a writer so I hang out in my local coffee shop to write a few times a week. It's a small independent shop that tends to have a lot of friendly people from the neighborhood. Over time I've met and made friends with several interesting people.
For me ,I am applying for part time work. Friends I have are just a p.i.a. Tired of hearing people whine!
When I feel lonely I leap on a Flixbus and do a city trip, Munich, Vienna, Zurich, Heidelberg... city tour hop on hop off, a good exhibition, a good Café. Hope you’re well, Margaret.
Great idea Verena - let me know the next time you are in Zurich :-)
Count on it, Margaret!
Hello! Found your videos interesting.
The cards are very pretty. Are they still available?
Unfortunately they sold out - thanks for asking :-)
Best regards!
In my loneliness I think of people who are married and why I’m not
Hi margaret how do i get the aging beautifully cards? I'm interested on get in them,thank you so much.
Hi Virginia, here is the link iu161.infusionsoft.app/app/orderForms/Aging-Beautifully-A-46-Card-Deck Thanks so much for your interest! Have a lovely Sunday x
Hi Margaret, I really love watching your videos.You really are an inspiration. I wanted to ask you a question,as you always look so vibrant with your makeup colours and bright tops. Would you tell me what colour and make your eyeshadow is you are wearing in this video.I have the same hair colour as yours and am fair skinned and at sixty seven next month have only just started wearing eye shadow again. I am happily married but don't really bother about making new friends.Love and hugs Gloria uk
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