☘️ Sorry If I Ever Gave You This BAD Advice 🙊
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- Опубликовано: 17 окт 2024
- ☘️ If I've ever advised you to do any of the things I talk about in this video, I can only apologise. I know better now and this is advice I will NEVER give again.
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You're one of only a few RUclipsrs I have come across who apologised when they feel they've given bad/inaccurate advice. I appreciate it.
💖 Learning as I go.
@@HowToGYST. We all are learning as we go and adjusting to life is the frog task, this idea works for me, I make a note the night before what my task is for the next day, and yet things come up and it might not happen but never bothers me if I do not get it done now that I have an energy limiting illness. ( ME/CFS).
The one bit of decluttering advice I have heard on RUclips but would caveat is "you can get rid of it, you have your memories". When you get to perimenopause or go through a period of poor mental health, sometimes you can't remember what you did earlier that day! So I will take a quick photo before decluttering some items as that will usually be sufficient to prompt the memory of the event or person it related to.
This has struck me as off as well! How good are these people's memories?! Of course there's types of reminders like photos that take less room, but I am not going to remember most things without some sort of memory prompt... And I'm not even 35 yet. When decluttering mementos it comes with acceptance that I'll likely forget the event it is connected to. Usually I don't mind forgetting it and then I can let go. But the 'your memories exist in your mind, not in your stuff' is just not true, not that black and white.
I’ve always found that doing the second most important/difficult thing first is a good warmup and dopamine boost before I tackle the hardest thing.
There is a famous lady, name's Marie K., who gave advice on tidying up. She has probably caused more nervous breakdowns than the Great Depression did... ("... put everything in one big pile...") 😂 Ouch 😂
In comparison, you should be absolutely fine 😀 with the advice you have given 👍
😂 Poor Marie! I do still love her.
Haha anyone who put every article of clothing on their bed because of her understands this!
I had so many clothes, I filled the living room floor! 😳😳😳 Now I can cover the bed, with only one or two items sliding off… 😂
I never did it bc I know I have to have clear surfaces to work well. So I do some tidying first. Then I am ready to declutter. I've decluttered my whole house this way. I get smallish piles and get them to Salvation Army right away. That is motivating!
Then again, for me it was perfectly timed, I had a ton of time and energy to spare when I got my hands on her book and the 'everything all at once' worked wonderfully for me then. I have since gotten other things to occupy my life :p so now I break the categories up in much smaller categories and fit the different strategies to my current lifestyle. I still love the strategy of collecting all like items together (just for most people at most moments it is way more feasible to do 'pens' and then 'watercolors', 'socks', 't-shirts' instead of 'all stationary, tools and miscellaneous bits and bobs' and 'all clothes including outdoor apparel' as one big ass category 😬)
Dear Laura,
NO WORRIES! Every piece of advice you have given applies to or speaks to someone. We each have to weigh which ideas appeal to us or will fit in our individual lives. Your videos are so chock full of different perspectives. Never need to apologize for anything. Love your channel, love you and love that dog!!
Wishing you every happiness this holiday season. Thanks for being you.❤
I agree with keeping the wavering thing, because for me, if I keep something I'm not sure about, I'll end up getting sick of it finally and out it goes. But I have to be ready or it gives me a lot of anxiety.
Agreed, it's much easier to declutter something later that you labelled 'maybe' before. I actually quite like combining the boxing it up idea with the maybes, put my not-sures out of the way but not out of my life yet. Then I can revisit the box later with the idea that I'll probably not want anything from it anymore, but that's all right if I change my mind to 'keep' on some of the items :)
“Eat a live frog every morning, and nothing worse will happen to you the rest of the day.” This quote is usually attributed to Mark Twain, though actually spoken by the French author Nicolas Chamfort (1741-1794). It really means (to me) that get the worst done first, not necessarily "in the morning", but rather the first thing when you are ready to get to work whatever time that might be, if you are applying it to work productivity. However, I think it also means if something bad happens to you, then the rest of the day can only get better.
Some of us need to ease ourselves in. 😉
That was my thought. “Eat the frog” is to do with getting the most detestable thing out of the way so you don’t end up doing all the other things while it slides off the day’s agenda. Still a hideous way to begin a day, though.
I know some people who will quit something the moment they “break the chain” - if they miss one day of a 365 project they’re done. You have to know yourself. I do better if I do something every day than trying to do it once a week. A variant of “eating the frog” is to realize that the dreaded task will cause you dread and distress every time you face it, so doing it right now will get the dread over and done with. Doesn’t have to be in the morning. If I need to make a difficult phone call it helps to just start dialing right now before I can think about how dread-full it will be.
The video game analogy was a really good example for the 'break the chain' point.
You just mentioning the silent to do list has been revolutionary for me , thank you ❤
More than one goal at a time! That works for me too. I usually need short goals and long goals and in between because I sometimes have a need for an accomplished goal. This gives me a boost for the other unfinished goals
Ive got fibromyalgia so i cant eat a frog first thing until i have my small flask of coffee in bed and as my grown up kids and grandchildren say until my body has defrosted so takes atleast 90 mins for me to even get dressed. A frog will be ate at some point of the day 😊
ME/CFS here, with the same defrosting period. Honestly, there are days when I choose between eating and doing the dishes because I only have the energy for one. I won’t be eating the proverbial 🐸 unless it’s a relatively energetic day.
@@Shetooktothewoods sounds like your energy level is worse than mine so must be so hard for you. I can normally function for about 3 to 4 hours a day but come 1 in afternoon my day is done and can be showered and back in bed by 3ish. I've learnt that I have to have a somewhat easy meal at lunch time as just can't do it later then I'd just snack on junk. Decluttering my whole home has been a godsend 😊
I love how real you are!!! All those absolutes that some RUclipsrs utter are ridiculous! You will unravel the RUclips decluttering world. AWESOME!🎉🎉🎉🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉
I think the question is it a definte yes, otherwise its a no is a great question when buying things. Stopping things coming in to the house.
Its not a bad question when the items in your house. I still ask the question,as someone, motivated with a strong decluttering tendancy, if i feel myself wanting to keep it i give myself grace.
It can be a helpful indicator, especially when shopping, like you said. I just think there's too much margin for error to recommend it as a hard and fast rule when decluttering.
I love the marbles in the jar concept. I've never heard it before and a lot of your inspiring ideas in your videos, I've never heard before. It is good to review things but I think the concepts in your videos are always worth trying out to see if they work individually because you have a great way of thinking outside the box.
Ps. I love the story where you found those shoes in the charity shop. I thought that was really cool.
YAY! Thanks, Michael! Still can't believe I found the shoes after all these years! 😳
We love change!
I usually get up at the Crack of NOON!😅😂🤣
😂 Good for you!
I felt bad because I had weeks of "doing nothing." Getting started seems so hard. The analogy of the marbles helped. I know how to do it I need to trust I will get there.
Kathy B
Love your sweater! Definitely we are all different and we react in different ways. I like Cas from cluttering, I am a butterfly, that is why the standard organization doesn't work for me. Baskets,hooks and such help me be more organized - not boxes, closets and drawers (although I do use them too.)😊
Butterfly here, too! I agree with you. Different personality types respond to different techniques.
Love,love,love this video! You're such a refreshing and beautiful person!❤🤗
The BEST ADVICE I ever got from you was...
"Dress comfortably and have snacks on hand." 😁
Advice I stand by forever. 😂
Now I must see "THE SHOES"
😂 They're not even a fancy, expensive pair of shoes, just a plain ol' cheap wedge sandal. I showed them at the end of the original video: ruclips.net/video/HYkgeUFzdkQ/видео.html
Such a calm and sweet video. I used to struggle lots with feeling there was something wrong with me when I couldn't follow this kind of common productivity advice (not necessarily from this channel). I did eventually manage to come around to the idea that if it doesn't work for me, it's not for me, but something else is. It was a tough time, especially since I hadn't yet known about my adhd and chronic conditions then. Thank you for spreading the word and saving others some grief ❤❤❤
I agree with all your points! Thanks for being honest about your regrets. The story of the sandals has become legendary 😂. I like your rainbow blouse 🌈
I will say that this video made me feel super wise. 😉 I have definitely learned over the years what works best for me and what doesn't. What you said about not everything can work for every person is spot on. We all need to figure out what works best for us. And those things can change over the years as can our mental and physical energy or busy lives. I always appreciate your videos and encouragement and strategies you have shared. And what has worked and what hasn't and the continued growth and reflection on things. Life changes.... And so do we. We get wiser or what used to matter maybe doesn't anymore.
And I am always still learning and am always a work in progress. There isn't a finish line. It's all improvement and growth.
Thank you so much for highlighting the issues with the eat your frog advice! I need to eat my frogs late at night when the world is quiet and my mind is awake.
Yes, we all work in different cycles. I'm definitely not one that can dive into a big task first thing in the morning.
All of these things... YES!! I 100% agree with everything you've said!! Except Sonic the Hedgehog.... it was Galaga for me. 😊 i love that you are continually learning and revising your advice to share with us. Its so freshing and helps us to grow right along with you. Thank you, Laura, from those of us who are too good at beating ourselves up for things that dont work for us either. ❤
LOVED Galaga. I might even still have it. 😂
Great topic!!
I always ignore the frog advice. The thing is to have a time when you do focus on the important issues. Also don’t like the memory of dissecting frogs in high school biology.
Yes, it's not the most appealing visual. 😂
💯 It's not really been good advice for me. No matter what kind of schedule I've had, I need that slower morning and then little wins before the big frog. If I don't chain the little wins (within the day is different for me vs that day after day streak thing) I don't get that dopamine or whatever.
Thank you for doing this video 💕
Thank YOUUU for watching. 🥰
13:22 This. I'm in the process of going through all of my basement stuff to get it out of boxes and bins and either in a new home or in a clear bin or shelved. If it's not a holiday wreath or a small thing of sentimentals it's terrible for me.
I really like what you said about the eat the frog thing. Time when you have most energy and also energizing with fun and easy accomplishments etc. I do like to set a date with myself with anything that I feel is weighing on me, so it doesn’t drain energy without me actually doing it 😊
I have always planned to tackle cleaning or a declutter task for in the morning and i set myself up for failure every time.
Gotta build up to it. 😊
I’ve always understood “eating the frog” to mean to do the least desired task, like me and my grading.
I think all of these tips are great. But they should all come with a caveat. You don't have to do all the things all the time and they don't all work for everyone. But just like marbles in a jar, the advice isn't bad, it just needs care taken.
Exactly! The real issue is with the "one size fits all" assumption.
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