one funny note is people mentioned that there was unreleased clips of The Boyfriend getting released on Netflix Japan, after watching them I cannot help think it's so funny my tangent about Dai being horny would scare Shun is SO OFF and if anything TURNED shun ON. I basically went through Netflix Japan looking at the The Boyfriend clips and praying comments translated it (which most did) but there's this one where Ryota and Shun are talking and Shun talks about how important it is to be sexually attracted to your partner and he originally didn't feel that way towards Dai. then he and ryota go on to say to in a relationship if both members are sexually attracted to each other is such a lucky thing so yeah shun was probably happy hearing dai say those things about him when watching the show LOL i still stand by feeling sus initially bc dai said those things but maybe that's bc the men i meet in real life that say those kind of things aren't dai and are ... strange creatures to say the least EDITED (let me know if there are more mistakes) Corrections as pointed out by some lovely commenters: at 1:54 I mistakenly stuck a picture of Taiki's boyfriend Noah instead of Taiki at 3:33 Gensei is 34 not 24... idk how I didn't catch this
DaiShun's relationship and growth is just so fascinating to see especially Shun's. In an interview from an article, he talked about how he really changed his perspective about love and relationships, like he said and i quote: "Meeting Dai changed my entire perspective on love. Now I strive to respect what my loved one thinks and feels while maintaining a balance of mutual love." Like UGHHH the growth???? The development??? It's just so good and im truly happy for them like they're living their best lives rn together and i wish them the very best along with the entire cast honestly🥺🥺 the show truly is amazing and it's becoming my comfort show
like literally their story is so beautiful how is this not fiction?? truly the textbook example of why a dating show can be so good. as humans we are always so stubborn to think our ways are right and Dai and Shun are just such amazing people to learn from their experiences and change for each other AHHH literal perfection.
Ok so this was a really in depth analysis and I LOVE that😂 2 tiny unimportant things I'd like to input my opinion on: I don't really see Shun's insecurities as him having low self esteem.I actually think it's the opposite,as ridiculous as it sounds.Imo,he cares about himself and his happiness so much and that's why he was so skeptical in the beginning.He wasn't willing to waste time or risk getting hurt.The fact that he's not willing to compromise easily and confirm are signs that show how much he values himself.Taehoon said the same thing,that he looked like someone that was ready to be loved cause he loved himself.And obviously,Shun himself confirmed it for us😂so there's that. The 2nd thing,I don't think Dai was interested in Shun only for his looks,even in the beginning.I mean,the first few days,SURE.They didn't know each other so that's fair I think😂but one thing that i actually love about them and that makes me think they were fated for each other(I KNOW,i sound corny as hell😂)is that on the very 1st episode, when they both talked about their ideal type,they practically described each other without even knowing one another.Shun wanted someone with a kind heart but a strong will to accept his equally strong character and Dai someone with an eccentric personality.I mean, PRETTY spot on if you ask me😂The point is, I'm sure it was just attraction on Dai's part for the first few days but I'd like to think Shun's personality played a big part on his growing "obsession"😂.It's endearing that even now,when asked about what they like most about each other their answers are still about each other's best qualities.Shun loves Dai's kindness and Dai loves how different Shun is.Like AHSHEBAHWB that's PEAK romance for me😂
super important opinions!! i love reading everyone's thoughts it honestly makes shows so much more enjoyable feel free to ignore my comment bc I ended up writing a lot but I just appreciated you taking the time to write this comment and just wanted to reciprocate
Thank youuu so much for the video Whoever is gonna call Shun toxic is speaking from a place of privilege. First of all: 1) his moves are defensive mechanism : Imagine being a baby or a kid who knows that no one will be there for him, and the only one who is going to protect him in this scary world is himself. Being an orphan is way harder than growing in bad environment.. he was alone in this world.. he basically raised himself with no role model to teach him how to express himself and regulate his emotions.. 2) He must have been surprised that some people fall in love at first sight. That's why he wanted to know if Dai was serious or if it was just a temporary feeling. He wanted to understand why Dai liked him. That's obviously because he never experienced unconditional love. He never experienced being cared for; he was abandoned. That's why, when Dai love-bombed him, he was uncomfortable and wanted space and to be just friends. It’s not his common sense-his common sense is fight or flight. 3) Shun made an incredible effort because, at first, Dai wasn't his type. (I’m pretty sure most of us have a type, and it's hard to give someone who isn't our type a chance.) He didn't want to give Dai hope that he would be with him or interested in him just because Dai had a crush on him. 3)*Let's not forget their life style before meeting each other was completely different.. dai was carefree and an adventurous person and shun was conservative and always careful ( his nervous system was always in fight or flight mode ) and can't just accept anyone in his life because he knows if he falls no one will catch him 4) He grew and became better. He was afraid because he knew that when he falls in love, he will fall hard. That's why he was stopping himself from falling in love with Dai, trying to find reasons to prove himself wrong-that he doesn't deserve love and that it was just a phase. That’s why he was testing him. 5) You can tell he is neurodivergent. For example, he gets overwhelmed by noise, which is expected because of where he grew up or how he considered not wearing a t-shirt as rejection sign or something would lead to rejection in the future. Any way let's be kind and an understanding people because we have no right to judge a person we know nothing about him or about the demons in his head especially if that person is aware of his problems and is working on himself to be better **And let's remember their is difference between some one who is toxic and some one who is afraid to take a decision and he is indecisive because he needs to make a decision during short time which is a month and half about who is gonna be his partner and the father of his kids ( his goal was having a family) Let's pray for our lovely and favorite couple to stay together forever and be grateful for the lessons they teached us ..
first off you're so right that being able to hate on shun is coming from a place of privilege! I never thought to conceptualize it this way, but it's spot on. people who have never experienced such lows think it's so easy to be a good, kind person but in reality it's tough not to lash out on the world when the world has been cruel to you. I love everything you said and it was so well worded, I can definitely take notes when I make my future analysis videos :)) just wanted to highlight your conclusion that we need to be kind to people especially when we don't know their demons and especially bc sometimes we don't know that they're working on themselves! this was truly everything and the reason I love their story so much :*) ty so much for sharing your thoughts
I have some opinions that people might not agree with but where else am I too write them. First that episode 6 and 7 are probably in my top 5 as favourite episodes. Episode 6 being that Shun was literally spiralling and gaslighting himself into believing that he wasn't jealous that Ikou and Dai were hanging out . He called it annoyance, when it was clear jealousy and what makes it funnier is Ryota going "oh i wouldn't like that if I was you" like lol Ryota adding spice to the rice. Episode 7 , the go cart is just hilarious like Shun is so funny without even trying . The faces of the other guys when he said he didn't have a wish, priceless. Which leads to my grievances of Netflix not showing us the friendship side of the show. I know Shun was cracking up and I'd be cracking up too. Next is I think Kazuto and Shun have so much in common albeit it being Shun is more upfront and direct, they both are people who prefer to observe and be with non clingy, low-key energy partners. They prefer to be the ones to make a move and not the other way around . My last opinion is that if Dai got tired of Shun and chose Ikou , I can bet you everything I have it wouldn't have lasted long outside the show. Dai fell in love or got curious about Shuns for his uniqueness and quirkiness and I'm not saying Ikou isn't that but I'm saying he doesn't have it. I also feel people wouldn't have been so interested in Dai , if he had chosen Ikou. Okay this is my last one I believe Alan till this day is into Kazuto and would jump if Kazuto asked them to try again. Also for real last one , people kept going on and on about how emotionally intelligent Dai is but kept questioning how he could like Shun so much and as someone who believes that they have an high EQ , Dai knew exactly what he was doing , knew exactly why he liked this guy(was he sexually attracted to him , well yes even Stevie Wonder would be able to see it but even with that he loved the serenity and the chase with Shun. There was definitely more beyond than him just being horny for Shun after a while). I hated how people were saying Shun changed Dai but I believe Shun let the real Dai shine through. You could tell that Dai sometimes was doing too much to compensate and be seen but when he was with Shun , he was chilled and was able to articulate himself better (after watching the vlogs and other stuff posted about them) . I really loved this show more than any other reality tv show and I've watched a lot. I believe its better than his man(pick any season) . The boyfriend has a better cast(loved that it wasn't just twinks like everyone was hot/sexy), better communication, the panelists were funny and insightful. Pacing was better and the coffee truck idea was cool I liked that . I hope we get THE GIRLFRIEND (because then I'll literally go to heaven)
i think this is a perfect place for your opinions as i love to read them :) i never saw kazuto and shun being similar, but now that you mention it i see it is true! i also agree that this dating show wouldn’t have stood out as much if it wasn’t dai and shun, like replace one and it’s not the same. i believe dai went into the relationship with shun thinking of it lightly, but as he got to know shun and fall in love he fell deeper and deeper🥹 i would consider dai to have changed even if it was just being more honest with himself (but ofc only dai knows the “real him”) also you’re the first person to mention a “the girlfriend” and i would so love to see it! i don’t think ive heard of any lesbian dating shows and hope we can see that representation soon
yeah ultimately dai isn't a player bc you can't cheat if you aren't exclusive, just in general horny men I meet in real life tend to be players & cheaters tho lol but ofc people are unique and this trend isn't true for dai
@@wendyminn he said he will never cheat or never cheated before but will have a clean break up instead.That what happened in his last relationship which happened to be a girl.He broke up with her coz he likes men more although he did love her but it's not enough. With shun he's head over heels to him,very much inlove that's why he tolerate he's princess attitude but I hope shun will try to change a little bit cause oneday Dai may get tired of him.They are both still in honeymoon stage so everything is rainbows and butterfly.
Shun said in an extra scene that Dai was the only one he saw in a sexual way. Not in the beginning but when he saw his masculinity he said he couldn’t saw him in an other way after that … so they were sexually attracted to each other not just Dai
i do not remember which extra scene and I'm wondering which content im missing out on bc I thought id seen everything at this point lol but yeah makes sense since sexual attraction is definitely important in relationships! I guess i was shocked bc Dai was saying it aloud and i was taken aback since i don't usually hear people talking like that around me haha
@@wendyminnthose are the unreleased footage being released by Netflix Japan. It's uploaded on their youtube as well but no subs 😭 fans on twitter translates them tho, and some even subbed it on their own
@@superpocchi just finished watching some LOL kindly enough some people have translated in the comments of the yt video otherwise I tried looking on twitter and could not find
2:07 He is not a Law Student 😂😭 The clownery the whole fandom pulled is hilarious af 😂 "And my major is Media and Marketing,NOT LAW" will forever haunt me 😂😭
I genuinely saw this comment and was like huh I guess I'm out of the loop, but then I see THIS EXACT LIVE ON MY TIK TOK FYP!!! WHO MADE THAT UP AND WHY DID WE ALL BELIEVE 😭😭
@@wendyminn bro it was so embarrassing when he Say NOT LAW with so much stress on it 😭 If I ever catch the person who spread the rumour i swear 🫠 So embarrassing 😭 it was even so convincing coz Dai is so good with his words or confrontation that everyone believed him to be a law student 😆
@@wendyminnI love him from the 1st episode too , being growing up by ourselves is really hard , I have that experience when my parents passed away when I was 11yo 😢, so when shun share his stories I cry & understand him more !! I’m so proud of him that he can survive in this cruel world
42:30 you are so right.I understand shun's initial concerns.dai was overly flirtatious with everyone in the beginning. How can u confess to a guy telling him u like him make him smile sheepishly and then few minutes later proceed to flirt with other men in his face.i understand why shun was skeptical at first.he didn't trust dai but secretly found him endearing
i think this is so interesting how it doesn’t get talked about enough! sure shun is flawed but so is dai and thats why i love their story even more bc in real life people aren’t perfect and that makes them more interesting and that’s why i love that dai and shun both change to become better people for each other bc that’s the hardest part
He didnt raise his hand coz theres an argument between dai allan and gensei i think , he overwhelmed and felt tired beacuse of it, i think this proves that he doesnt want negative energy.i think i understand his reason, its like your fren having argument with your bf thing. You felt frustrated.
yeah you're totally right! i probably should've provided a little more context instead of just summing it as he was tired lol but yeah shun is totally relatable, i definitely have zoned out like that before
if there are more kazutos in this world I would love to see them all on a season 2 just imagine everyone getting constant love confessions from each other
I loved the cast watch where Shun said after watching he realised Dai’s affection from him was real from the start and he was glad he got to see that. 🥹 I related to Shun so much. At his age I was still healing from a very traumatic childhood also and didn’t trust others or feel safe with them. To see him slowly learn to trust Dai and open up was beautiful. So happy they are still together.
i thought it was beautiful for them to be able to see what their love looks like from an outside perspective, Dai even cries🥹 I love how both were so consistent for their feelings on the show and in the interviews, i hope the boyfriend will always remain a beautiful memory for them
@@wendyminn Dai crying got me emotional! Him watching where his feelings really grew and with the lyrics of that song overlaid… beautiful! I also loved him saying that watching it he saw how he was always trying to get close to Shun, but that he saw Shun (in his own way) was always trying to get close to him also. 🥹💕
tbh, i still couldnt choose between Dai & Shun, i really like both of them in their own way. i agree w/ your insights abt them too cuz I liked Shun more at first bcs his beliefs in romantic relationships mostly align w/ mine than Dai’s. Like his way of doing things might not be the best things, but his intent/purpose for doing them is understandable and VERY relatable lol. meanwhile I didnt like Dai much at first like u bcs of the player image u can get based on his past, which actually wasnt the case as he was actually single when he did the things that were revealed abt him. i kinda liked his headstrong personality w/ Shun too bcs the man knows what he wants and doesnt waste time. i get how it can get scary for introverts tho, like us, but it’s admirable at the same time cuz i know i cld never be the same when i like sm1 haha BUT the main reason he grew on me so much is bcs of how he persevered w/ Shun. i also do think he grew attracted w/ Shun’s visuals, but eventually fell inlove w/ his eccentric personality cuz that was dai’s type lmao it’s quite obvious how he fell deeper tho cuz u cld see how he started to adjust w/ shun’s pace. like we know how he is opinionated w/ others but he’s so obedient, patient & understanding w/ shun haha eventually he fell hard bcs of shun’s personality and honesty. like he wanted the chase, but it got to a pt where he wanted to stop too. but along the way he realized shun is worth the pain & wait, and just persisted. ultimately, i fell in love with both of their growth in the show. like man im a sucker for character developments, so seeing that in daishun was like my weakness. even with their own flaws, i couldnt get to dislike them haha shun learned to initiate more in a relationship, learned to adjust his mindset & attitudes on unexpected situations, and learned to be more sensitive to the feelings of others, esp dai 😅 dai on the other hand, mentioned how he had learned alot since he got to know abt shun. like the chase with shun really became a learning path for him lol he learned to set his pride aside for the sake of mending their relationship, to be more mindful abt his words & actions as he was pursuing a person like shun who is very sensitive & thoughtful even w/ the simplest of things, and i think in general just to be a better man for his partner, like if u can see his actions to shun in the show, it’s actually the ideal response in relationships 101 haha so u could see how he was trying his best to treat shun well. it’s just amazing to see how 2 ppl who wont have dated or even met eo if it was in the real world, fell in love & grew tgt ❤
you’re totally right about the player thing, the way dai remained loyal to shun despite ikuo’s interest and not even giving ikuo the chance BEFORE he and shun were official was one the many reasons i changed my mind about him (but also could’ve showed a changed dai bc i guess we can’t be clear what dai was originally like anyways lol) i also agree that dai’s headstrong personality with shun rlly works bc otherwise the average joe wouldn’t be able to break down shun’s walls. and i love how we saw their arc the exact same way! I am also such a sucker for character developments especially the fact that they were real people with real flaws as well, truly The Boyfriend exemplified the purpose of a dating show and i enjoyed every bit of it :)
@@wendyminn Yes! And even if he had some kind of attraction w/ the other members like Taeheon & Usak's bodies ajfjslkfks he remained completely loyal to Shun. I guess it could truly be more of a changed Dai esp when he assured Shun he was serious abt him after he saw his nude pics 🫣. And fr rewatching the show i tried to imagine what it wld be like if Dai was not showy abt his interest w/ Shun, I feel like they would just circle around eo not getting anywhere and definitely not exit the show together tbh 🤣 fr ive watched several dating shows and i was never this hooked abt a show to rewatch it again & again lmao the character development is so fascinating esp w/ DaiShun bcs of ALL the details that shows theyve changed little by little. God the boyfriend now set my standard quite high for a dating show, not only bcs of daishun but overall. I dont think id be satisfied w/ drama & romance in the usual dating shows anymore, cuz id be def watching out for the character developments w/ the casts huhu
yay I love how all the shun fans appeared in my comments section, it's so heartwarming that we can see beyond the actions and love him for the experiences that formed him :)
I am obsessed by Shundai recently. I follow their RUclips channel and watched each vlog they posted every Tuesday. Now they are really falling love with each other ❤.I really like both of them. Because of these two guys , this really show became popular. Now a lot of people are looking forward to season 2. Frankly I am not optimistic about that because there would be no second Shun and Dai. Think about it, if taking out of Shundai contents, how bored would it be of this show.
some people say season 2 is always the best season for dating shows so you never know! but like you said I think the shun dai story hits too hard for me so i also dont think anyone can top them as my favorite couple formed ever, but maybe we will have more lovelines at least in s2 which would be an improvement
yeah you’re totally right, i guess i meant to say more social hobbies like specifically hobbies he has that would put him in a place to meet people (romantically) bc if i am remembering correctly he hasn’t dated that much due to his lifestyle
If you haven't already, you should watch and review Season 1 of Netflix's The Future Diary a Japanese reality tv show (not to be confused with an anime of the same name). The show is about one couple dating for a month following a set of rules. The two participants in the show are such personable and genuine people that it's super heartwarming to root for them.
Just wanna say this my first time watching you and I’m Hooked. Lmao. But I could understand why Dai is the way he is with Shun. dai is a Bisexual so to see a man so handsome that can cross between both. I could only imagine what Dai is feeling .
yay I'm glad I wasn't rambling too much and was actually interesting lol thank you for watching!! :) between shun and dai I generally find dai harder to understand, but one thing we agree on is about how hot shun is
Did not know he used to do kpop cover dances :O I feel like all this info is coming out post the boyfriend and I wish he talked about these things some more on the show 🥺 or if they edited it out whyd they do that :(((
@@wendyminn one of his co-worker said he stopped doing kpop covers may be to maintain his hot go-go boy image.. There are lots of his covers on tiktok.And if you scroll through his old Instagram posts from 2019-2020 you will find his artworks.he is too good.
Thanks you for your review ❤❤ In 18:07 i believe, it not that Kazuto is overwhelming with every man liking him More like Kazuto like Dai in early day, Kazuto interested in Dai first, remember when Kazuto receive anonymous letter he though it's from Dai or Shun. Kazuto also sent his letter to Dai, because he interested in him, but maybe after seeing Dai and Shun interact more he realize it not for him..
I agree and Kazuto said that he thought that Dai was I retesting in him first. That + the letter and Kazuto’s behavior with Dai right before Usak ‘s apparence (they were laughing together and betting to say who was their crush) I think too that Kazuto was really interested in Dai
Back in my hoodrat days, a couole buddies of mine had this thing they did where they would let a girl slide through photos and "accidentally" scroll past a nude
LOL i totally forgot especially bc gensei immediately moves on to liking ryota I’ve heard that 19/20 is a great show, im a little hesitant bc one of the charms of dating shows for me are the older casts who are always my favorite (minus shundai), but since you mentioned it i’ll definitely keep it in mind ty!
@@sofialuu8162it was because Shun is the only person who we don’t know who he wrote a letter to. Someone on reddit said that there was a mistranslation and Shun definitely wrote a letter to someone, but netflix didn’t show who he wrote it for. There was a speculation that they did this for the whole Gensei-Ryota misunderstanding thing
@@joycelyne26 not rude at all if anything thank you so much for mentioning it, as a creator myself I think it's so important the right person is acknowledged and I'm so glad you caught my mistake !!
I love your perspective so much. I agree that the main reason dai was drawn to shun was because of his looks. Even after the whole ikuo situation dai even said “I think I have fallen for him, he’s good looking”. If someone has said that to me, i would have mix reaction because why is it that the looks is the highlights of your feelings to me. Also what I love about shun is that it’s hard to break into his wall, it’s hard to reach 1% but after you break into that wall it’s easy for him to proceed to 50%-100%.
Same!! I would be scared away if a man was constantly talking about my looks but to each their own as shun probably loved to hear it lol we all love shun for that!! we can clearly see him full sending his relationship with dai now and I love that for him :*)
If you consider his background then him being a lil problematic or dramatic were meant to be.. Without any family guidelines and love he is pretty much better than other abandoned kids.He has a problematic past.so he just guards his heart from getting broken.
aww yay that means the world to me!! especially as someone who was once like that/can be like that, I wish the world would be a little more kind to others bc I swear all people need is a little kindness to be kind as well :)))
haha if you're bored and absolutely have nothing else to do you can come back to the video and ignore my unsolicited opinion, but if not I just wanted to let you know I end up liking dai and he's currently my second favorite after shun :)
one funny note is people mentioned that there was unreleased clips of The Boyfriend getting released on Netflix Japan, after watching them I cannot help think it's so funny my tangent about Dai being horny would scare Shun is SO OFF and if anything TURNED shun ON. I basically went through Netflix Japan looking at the The Boyfriend clips and praying comments translated it (which most did) but there's this one where Ryota and Shun are talking and Shun talks about how important it is to be sexually attracted to your partner and he originally didn't feel that way towards Dai. then he and ryota go on to say to in a relationship if both members are sexually attracted to each other is such a lucky thing so yeah shun was probably happy hearing dai say those things about him when watching the show LOL
i still stand by feeling sus initially bc dai said those things but maybe that's bc the men i meet in real life that say those kind of things aren't dai and are ... strange creatures to say the least
EDITED (let me know if there are more mistakes)
Corrections as pointed out by some lovely commenters:
at 1:54 I mistakenly stuck a picture of Taiki's boyfriend Noah instead of Taiki
at 3:33 Gensei is 34 not 24... idk how I didn't catch this
DaiShun's relationship and growth is just so fascinating to see especially Shun's. In an interview from an article, he talked about how he really changed his perspective about love and relationships, like he said and i quote: "Meeting Dai changed my entire perspective on love. Now I strive to respect what my loved one thinks and feels while maintaining a balance of mutual love." Like UGHHH the growth???? The development??? It's just so good and im truly happy for them like they're living their best lives rn together and i wish them the very best along with the entire cast honestly🥺🥺 the show truly is amazing and it's becoming my comfort show
like literally their story is so beautiful how is this not fiction?? truly the textbook example of why a dating show can be so good. as humans we are always so stubborn to think our ways are right and Dai and Shun are just such amazing people to learn from their experiences and change for each other AHHH literal perfection.
Shun is also my favorite. If you get him you get him🤣
same 😆🤣
he's just too relatable and adorable
Sameee 😂😂😂
Same 😌
Ok so this was a really in depth analysis and I LOVE that😂
2 tiny unimportant things I'd like to input my opinion on:
I don't really see Shun's insecurities as him having low self esteem.I actually think it's the opposite,as ridiculous as it sounds.Imo,he cares about himself and his happiness so much and that's why he was so skeptical in the beginning.He wasn't willing to waste time or risk getting hurt.The fact that he's not willing to compromise easily and confirm are signs that show how much he values himself.Taehoon said the same thing,that he looked like someone that was ready to be loved cause he loved himself.And obviously,Shun himself confirmed it for us😂so there's that.
The 2nd thing,I don't think Dai was interested in Shun only for his looks,even in the beginning.I mean,the first few days,SURE.They didn't know each other so that's fair I think😂but one thing that i actually love about them and that makes me think they were fated for each other(I KNOW,i sound corny as hell😂)is that on the very 1st episode, when they both talked about their ideal type,they practically described each other without even knowing one another.Shun wanted someone with a kind heart but a strong will to accept his equally strong character and Dai someone with an eccentric personality.I mean, PRETTY spot on if you ask me😂The point is, I'm sure it was just attraction on Dai's part for the first few days but I'd like to think Shun's personality played a big part on his growing "obsession"😂.It's endearing that even now,when asked about what they like most about each other their answers are still about each other's best qualities.Shun loves Dai's kindness and Dai loves how different Shun is.Like AHSHEBAHWB that's PEAK romance for me😂
super important opinions!! i love reading everyone's thoughts it honestly makes shows so much more enjoyable
feel free to ignore my comment bc I ended up writing a lot but I just appreciated you taking the time to write this comment and just wanted to reciprocate
Thank youuu so much for the video
Whoever is gonna call Shun toxic is speaking from a place of privilege. First of all:
1) his moves are defensive mechanism : Imagine being a baby or a kid who knows that no one will be there for him, and the only one who is going to protect him in this scary world is himself. Being an orphan is way harder than growing in bad environment.. he was alone in this world.. he basically raised himself with no role model to teach him how to express himself and regulate his emotions..
2) He must have been surprised that some people fall in love at first sight. That's why he wanted to know if Dai was serious or if it was just a temporary feeling. He wanted to understand why Dai liked him. That's obviously because he never experienced unconditional love. He never experienced being cared for; he was abandoned. That's why, when Dai love-bombed him, he was uncomfortable and wanted space and to be just friends. It’s not his common sense-his common sense is fight or flight.
3) Shun made an incredible effort because, at first, Dai wasn't his type. (I’m pretty sure most of us have a type, and it's hard to give someone who isn't our type a chance.) He didn't want to give Dai hope that he would be with him or interested in him just because Dai had a crush on him.
3)*Let's not forget their life style before meeting each other was completely different.. dai was carefree and an adventurous person and shun was conservative and always careful ( his nervous system was always in fight or flight mode ) and can't just accept anyone in his life because he knows if he falls no one will catch him
4) He grew and became better. He was afraid because he knew that when he falls in love, he will fall hard. That's why he was stopping himself from falling in love with Dai, trying to find reasons to prove himself wrong-that he doesn't deserve love and that it was just a phase. That’s why he was testing him.
5) You can tell he is neurodivergent. For example, he gets overwhelmed by noise, which is expected because of where he grew up or how he considered not wearing a t-shirt as rejection sign or something would lead to rejection in the future. Any way let's be kind and an understanding people because we have no right to judge a person we know nothing about him or about the demons in his head especially if that person is aware of his problems and is working on himself to be better
**And let's remember their is difference between some one who is toxic and some one who is afraid to take a decision and he is indecisive because he needs to make a decision during short time which is a month and half about who is gonna be his partner and the father of his kids ( his goal was having a family)
Let's pray for our lovely and favorite couple to stay together forever and be grateful for the lessons they teached us ..
first off you're so right that being able to hate on shun is coming from a place of privilege! I never thought to conceptualize it this way, but it's spot on. people who have never experienced such lows think it's so easy to be a good, kind person but in reality it's tough not to lash out on the world when the world has been cruel to you.
I love everything you said and it was so well worded, I can definitely take notes when I make my future analysis videos :)) just wanted to highlight your conclusion that we need to be kind to people especially when we don't know their demons and especially bc sometimes we don't know that they're working on themselves! this was truly everything and the reason I love their story so much :*) ty so much for sharing your thoughts
I have the same thought like you do, thanks for sharing louder
I have some opinions that people might not agree with but where else am I too write them. First that episode 6 and 7 are probably in my top 5 as favourite episodes. Episode 6 being that Shun was literally spiralling and gaslighting himself into believing that he wasn't jealous that Ikou and Dai were hanging out . He called it annoyance, when it was clear jealousy and what makes it funnier is Ryota going "oh i wouldn't like that if I was you" like lol Ryota adding spice to the rice. Episode 7 , the go cart is just hilarious like Shun is so funny without even trying . The faces of the other guys when he said he didn't have a wish, priceless. Which leads to my grievances of Netflix not showing us the friendship side of the show. I know Shun was cracking up and I'd be cracking up too. Next is I think Kazuto and Shun have so much in common albeit it being Shun is more upfront and direct, they both are people who prefer to observe and be with non clingy, low-key energy partners. They prefer to be the ones to make a move and not the other way around . My last opinion is that if Dai got tired of Shun and chose Ikou , I can bet you everything I have it wouldn't have lasted long outside the show. Dai fell in love or got curious about Shuns for his uniqueness and quirkiness and I'm not saying Ikou isn't that but I'm saying he doesn't have it. I also feel people wouldn't have been so interested in Dai , if he had chosen Ikou. Okay this is my last one I believe Alan till this day is into Kazuto and would jump if Kazuto asked them to try again. Also for real last one , people kept going on and on about how emotionally intelligent Dai is but kept questioning how he could like Shun so much and as someone who believes that they have an high EQ , Dai knew exactly what he was doing , knew exactly why he liked this guy(was he sexually attracted to him , well yes even Stevie Wonder would be able to see it but even with that he loved the serenity and the chase with Shun. There was definitely more beyond than him just being horny for Shun after a while). I hated how people were saying Shun changed Dai but I believe Shun let the real Dai shine through. You could tell that Dai sometimes was doing too much to compensate and be seen but when he was with Shun , he was chilled and was able to articulate himself better (after watching the vlogs and other stuff posted about them) . I really loved this show more than any other reality tv show and I've watched a lot. I believe its better than his man(pick any season) . The boyfriend has a better cast(loved that it wasn't just twinks like everyone was hot/sexy), better communication, the panelists were funny and insightful. Pacing was better and the coffee truck idea was cool I liked that . I hope we get THE GIRLFRIEND (because then I'll literally go to heaven)
i think this is a perfect place for your opinions as i love to read them :)
i never saw kazuto and shun being similar, but now that you mention it i see it is true! i also agree that this dating show wouldn’t have stood out as much if it wasn’t dai and shun, like replace one and it’s not the same. i believe dai went into the relationship with shun thinking of it lightly, but as he got to know shun and fall in love he fell deeper and deeper🥹 i would consider dai to have changed even if it was just being more honest with himself (but ofc only dai knows the “real him”)
also you’re the first person to mention a “the girlfriend” and i would so love to see it! i don’t think ive heard of any lesbian dating shows and hope we can see that representation soon
I'm with you on that I really hope we get the girlfriend soon. We need lesbian dating shows
To understand ShunDai - Shun is cat and Dai is golden retriever ❤
totally didn't think about it but you're so right! they're definitely black cat and golden retriever coded
Dai is a law student maybe thats why he understands shuns pov.
Dai is not a player or cheater but admits that he hook up a lot while being single
yeah ultimately dai isn't a player bc you can't cheat if you aren't exclusive, just in general horny men I meet in real life tend to be players & cheaters tho lol
but ofc people are unique and this trend isn't true for dai
@@wendyminn he said he will never cheat or never cheated before but will have a clean break up instead.That what happened in his last relationship which happened to be a girl.He broke up with her coz he likes men more although he did love her but it's not enough. With shun he's head over heels to him,very much inlove that's why he tolerate he's princess attitude but I hope shun will try to change a little bit cause oneday Dai may get tired of him.They are both still in honeymoon stage so everything is rainbows and butterfly.
They moved out of Dai’s parents house and now they are living together. Awww I miss so happy
I know!! the small detail I loved hearing
Shun said in an extra scene that Dai was the only one he saw in a sexual way. Not in the beginning but when he saw his masculinity he said he couldn’t saw him in an other way after that … so they were sexually attracted to each other not just Dai
i do not remember which extra scene and I'm wondering which content im missing out on bc I thought id seen everything at this point lol
but yeah makes sense since sexual attraction is definitely important in relationships! I guess i was shocked bc Dai was saying it aloud and i was taken aback since i don't usually hear people talking like that around me haha
@@wendyminn this one
ruclips.net/video/00r5lKc2J_w/видео.htmlsi=mvbSJOjvayE2Ve7k
@@wendyminnthose are the unreleased footage being released by Netflix Japan. It's uploaded on their youtube as well but no subs 😭 fans on twitter translates them tho, and some even subbed it on their own
@@superpocchi just finished watching some LOL kindly enough some people have translated in the comments of the yt video otherwise I tried looking on twitter and could not find
I love how you summed up Shun. He's my favourite too.
yay im glad i wasn’t too ramble-y ty for watching
I love DAI.
but shun is also my fav ...it's like it's All or NOTHING for him always ..abd he is weird and sassy which is what attracts Dai😂
he's so weird it's endearing !! like him winning that go cart race and not wanting his wish makes me cackle
@@wendyminnomg yeah hahaha I’m be like okay boy I get it 😂😂😂😂
im so inlove with daishun omg i can't wait for their first vlog😊
i'm in love with how in love they are !! i would if they did a q&a, i just love hearing them talk and express their emotions :)))
@@wendyminn 🥰
Kazuro was slaving inside this food truck during almost all this show, if he wasn't choosed by the productio, he was choosed by his suitors 🤣🤣
LOL you're so right what a shame I totally forgot to mention this arc the poor man working his outside job and working on the show
2:07 He is not a Law Student 😂😭 The clownery the whole fandom pulled is hilarious af 😂 "And my major is Media and Marketing,NOT LAW" will forever haunt me 😂😭
I genuinely saw this comment and was like huh I guess I'm out of the loop, but then I see THIS EXACT LIVE ON MY TIK TOK FYP!!! WHO MADE THAT UP AND WHY DID WE ALL BELIEVE 😭😭
@@wendyminn bro it was so embarrassing when he Say NOT LAW with so much stress on it 😭 If I ever catch the person who spread the rumour i swear 🫠 So embarrassing 😭 it was even so convincing coz Dai is so good with his words or confrontation that everyone believed him to be a law student 😆
Shun was my favourite as well, I could relate to him a lot 😂
the cat people in solidarity with shun 🤝🏻
@@wendyminnI love him from the 1st episode too , being growing up by ourselves is really hard , I have that experience when my parents passed away when I was 11yo 😢, so when shun share his stories I cry & understand him more !! I’m so proud of him that he can survive in this cruel world
42:30 you are so right.I understand shun's initial concerns.dai was overly flirtatious with everyone in the beginning. How can u confess to a guy telling him u like him make him smile sheepishly and then few minutes later proceed to flirt with other men in his face.i understand why shun was skeptical at first.he didn't trust dai but secretly found him endearing
i think this is so interesting how it doesn’t get talked about enough! sure shun is flawed but so is dai and thats why i love their story even more bc in real life people aren’t perfect and that makes them more interesting and that’s why i love that dai and shun both change to become better people for each other bc that’s the hardest part
Dai also hook up with Allan and they went "all the way". He's telling that while shun is beside him.
He didnt raise his hand coz theres an argument between dai allan and gensei i think , he overwhelmed and felt tired beacuse of it, i think this proves that he doesnt want negative energy.i think i understand his reason, its like your fren having argument with your bf thing. You felt frustrated.
yeah you're totally right! i probably should've provided a little more context instead of just summing it as he was tired lol but yeah shun is totally relatable, i definitely have zoned out like that before
Shun is literally one of a kind 😂❤❤
he really is 🥹
I remember Shun(?) saying Kazuto was the typical handsome Japanese gay he was expecting in the show … 🤷🏻♀️
if there are more kazutos in this world I would love to see them all on a season 2 just imagine everyone getting constant love confessions from each other
I loved the cast watch where Shun said after watching he realised Dai’s affection from him was real from the start and he was glad he got to see that. 🥹
I related to Shun so much. At his age I was still healing from a very traumatic childhood also and didn’t trust others or feel safe with them. To see him slowly learn to trust Dai and open up was beautiful. So happy they are still together.
i thought it was beautiful for them to be able to see what their love looks like from an outside perspective, Dai even cries🥹 I love how both were so consistent for their feelings on the show and in the interviews, i hope the boyfriend will always remain a beautiful memory for them
@@wendyminn Dai crying got me emotional! Him watching where his feelings really grew and with the lyrics of that song overlaid… beautiful! I also loved him saying that watching it he saw how he was always trying to get close to Shun, but that he saw Shun (in his own way) was always trying to get close to him also. 🥹💕
tbh, i still couldnt choose between Dai & Shun, i really like both of them in their own way. i agree w/ your insights abt them too cuz I liked Shun more at first bcs his beliefs in romantic relationships mostly align w/ mine than Dai’s. Like his way of doing things might not be the best things, but his intent/purpose for doing them is understandable and VERY relatable lol.
meanwhile I didnt like Dai much at first like u bcs of the player image u can get based on his past, which actually wasnt the case as he was actually single when he did the things that were revealed abt him. i kinda liked his headstrong personality w/ Shun too bcs the man knows what he wants and doesnt waste time. i get how it can get scary for introverts tho, like us, but it’s admirable at the same time cuz i know i cld never be the same when i like sm1 haha BUT the main reason he grew on me so much is bcs of how he persevered w/ Shun. i also do think he grew attracted w/ Shun’s visuals, but eventually fell inlove w/ his eccentric personality cuz that was dai’s type lmao it’s quite obvious how he fell deeper tho cuz u cld see how he started to adjust w/ shun’s pace. like we know how he is opinionated w/ others but he’s so obedient, patient & understanding w/ shun haha eventually he fell hard bcs of shun’s personality and honesty. like he wanted the chase, but it got to a pt where he wanted to stop too. but along the way he realized shun is worth the pain & wait, and just persisted.
ultimately, i fell in love with both of their growth in the show. like man im a sucker for character developments, so seeing that in daishun was like my weakness. even with their own flaws, i couldnt get to dislike them haha shun learned to initiate more in a relationship, learned to adjust his mindset & attitudes on unexpected situations, and learned to be more sensitive to the feelings of others, esp dai 😅 dai on the other hand, mentioned how he had learned alot since he got to know abt shun. like the chase with shun really became a learning path for him lol he learned to set his pride aside for the sake of mending their relationship, to be more mindful abt his words & actions as he was pursuing a person like shun who is very sensitive & thoughtful even w/ the simplest of things, and i think in general just to be a better man for his partner, like if u can see his actions to shun in the show, it’s actually the ideal response in relationships 101 haha so u could see how he was trying his best to treat shun well.
it’s just amazing to see how 2 ppl who wont have dated or even met eo if it was in the real world, fell in love & grew tgt ❤
you’re totally right about the player thing, the way dai remained loyal to shun despite ikuo’s interest and not even giving ikuo the chance BEFORE he and shun were official was one the many reasons i changed my mind about him (but also could’ve showed a changed dai bc i guess we can’t be clear what dai was originally like anyways lol) i also agree that dai’s headstrong personality with shun rlly works bc otherwise the average joe wouldn’t be able to break down shun’s walls. and i love how we saw their arc the exact same way! I am also such a sucker for character developments especially the fact that they were real people with real flaws as well, truly The Boyfriend exemplified the purpose of a dating show and i enjoyed every bit of it :)
@@wendyminn Yes! And even if he had some kind of attraction w/ the other members like Taeheon & Usak's bodies ajfjslkfks he remained completely loyal to Shun. I guess it could truly be more of a changed Dai esp when he assured Shun he was serious abt him after he saw his nude pics 🫣. And fr rewatching the show i tried to imagine what it wld be like if Dai was not showy abt his interest w/ Shun, I feel like they would just circle around eo not getting anywhere and definitely not exit the show together tbh 🤣 fr ive watched several dating shows and i was never this hooked abt a show to rewatch it again & again lmao the character development is so fascinating esp w/ DaiShun bcs of ALL the details that shows theyve changed little by little. God the boyfriend now set my standard quite high for a dating show, not only bcs of daishun but overall. I dont think id be satisfied w/ drama & romance in the usual dating shows anymore, cuz id be def watching out for the character developments w/ the casts huhu
It's me, shun and his pimple patches against the world
LOL this is funny I haven’t even noticed him wearing pimple patches
Shun is my favourite too ❤
yay I love how all the shun fans appeared in my comments section, it's so heartwarming that we can see beyond the actions and love him for the experiences that formed him :)
@@wendyminnhe is my favourite too ❤
I am obsessed by Shundai recently. I follow their RUclips channel and watched each vlog they posted every Tuesday. Now they are really falling love with each other ❤.I really like both of them. Because of these two guys , this really show became popular. Now a lot of people are looking forward to season 2. Frankly I am not optimistic about that because there would be no second Shun and Dai. Think about it, if taking out of Shundai contents, how bored would it be of this show.
some people say season 2 is always the best season for dating shows so you never know! but like you said I think the shun dai story hits too hard for me so i also dont think anyone can top them as my favorite couple formed ever, but maybe we will have more lovelines at least in s2 which would be an improvement
Usak is a great illustrator so he does have other hobbies too
yeah you’re totally right, i guess i meant to say more social hobbies like specifically hobbies he has that would put him in a place to meet people (romantically) bc if i am remembering correctly he hasn’t dated that much due to his lifestyle
Rewatching The Boyfriend because of these two beauts can't get enough. DS perfect ❤❤❤
If you haven't already, you should watch and review Season 1 of Netflix's The Future Diary a Japanese reality tv show (not to be confused with an anime of the same name). The show is about one couple dating for a month following a set of rules. The two participants in the show are such personable and genuine people that it's super heartwarming to root for them.
Maybe I'll have to take a look!! I love the key words personable and genuine bc that sounds like my kind of show
Just wanna say this my first time watching you and I’m
Hooked. Lmao. But I could understand why Dai is the way he is with Shun. dai is a
Bisexual so to see a man so handsome that can cross between both. I could only imagine what Dai is feeling .
yay I'm glad I wasn't rambling too much and was actually interesting lol thank you for watching!! :)
between shun and dai I generally find dai harder to understand, but one thing we agree on is about how hot shun is
@@wendyminn agreed. He a beautiful guy
5:18 Usak is an artist too.he is a very good artist.his drawings are super good and he is a very good dancer too.He used to be a kpop cover dancer.
Did not know he used to do kpop cover dances :O I feel like all this info is coming out post the boyfriend and I wish he talked about these things some more on the show 🥺 or if they edited it out whyd they do that :(((
@@wendyminn one of his co-worker said he stopped doing kpop covers may be to maintain his hot go-go boy image.. There are lots of his covers on tiktok.And if you scroll through his old Instagram posts from 2019-2020 you will find his artworks.he is too good.
Thanks you for your review ❤❤
In 18:07 i believe, it not that Kazuto is overwhelming with every man liking him
More like Kazuto like Dai in early day, Kazuto interested in Dai first, remember when Kazuto receive anonymous letter he though it's from Dai or Shun.
Kazuto also sent his letter to Dai, because he interested in him, but maybe after seeing Dai and Shun interact more he realize it not for him..
thank you for watching
I agree and Kazuto said that he thought that Dai was I retesting in him first. That + the letter and Kazuto’s behavior with Dai right before Usak ‘s apparence (they were laughing together and betting to say who was their crush) I think too that Kazuto was really interested in Dai
Back in my hoodrat days, a couole buddies of mine had this thing they did where they would let a girl slide through photos and "accidentally" scroll past a nude
omg that's so crazy imagine if that's what dai did and it backfired haha (i would like to believe it wasn't on purpose tho)
Fun fact: the person who send Gensei a letter is Shun
Also show recommendation: 19/20 on Netflix
LOL i totally forgot especially bc gensei immediately moves on to liking ryota
I’ve heard that 19/20 is a great show, im a little hesitant bc one of the charms of dating shows for me are the older casts who are always my favorite (minus shundai), but since you mentioned it i’ll definitely keep it in mind ty!
Wait, really?😂I would've NEVER guessed that.Sorry for asking, I'm not doubting you, I'm just curious,but where did you hear this from?
@@sofialuu8162it was because Shun is the only person who we don’t know who he wrote a letter to. Someone on reddit said that there was a mistranslation and Shun definitely wrote a letter to someone, but netflix didn’t show who he wrote it for. There was a speculation that they did this for the whole Gensei-Ryota misunderstanding thing
I go hard for my boo shun ❤
i go crazy too like every edit i see of shun instant squeals of adoration coming out my mouth
Your review 👌🩷
yay ty for watching
Also just a small change... Gensei is 34 and not 24
ahhhh ty for letting me know I do not know how i rewatched this video a million times and did not find it strange that gensei is 24
4:01 Taeheon my love ❤
❤❤
That is not a picture of Taiki but his boyfriends Noah's picture 1:54
SHOOT thank you for that correction I genuinely could not tell bc he only has pictures with his boyfriend ahhhh
@@wendyminn it okay, I follow them on RUclips so when I saw the pictures and oh that not him. Sorry if I was rude 🙂
@@joycelyne26 not rude at all if anything thank you so much for mentioning it, as a creator myself I think it's so important the right person is acknowledged and I'm so glad you caught my mistake !!
I love your perspective so much. I agree that the main reason dai was drawn to shun was because of his looks. Even after the whole ikuo situation dai even said “I think I have fallen for him, he’s good looking”. If someone has said that to me, i would have mix reaction because why is it that the looks is the highlights of your feelings to me. Also what I love about shun is that it’s hard to break into his wall, it’s hard to reach 1% but after you break into that wall it’s easy for him to proceed to 50%-100%.
Same!! I would be scared away if a man was constantly talking about my looks but to each their own as shun probably loved to hear it lol
we all love shun for that!! we can clearly see him full sending his relationship with dai now and I love that for him :*)
It's interesting to see your perspective on Shun. I still think he's problematic AF, but I think I can give him a little more grace.
If you consider his background then him being a lil problematic or dramatic were meant to be.. Without any family guidelines and love he is pretty much better than other abandoned kids.He has a problematic past.so he just guards his heart from getting broken.
aww yay that means the world to me!! especially as someone who was once like that/can be like that, I wish the world would be a little more kind to others bc I swear all people need is a little kindness to be kind as well :)))
you really one of those people who wears acne really well. like its makes you so hot, no shade
lol ty, i am actually trying to clear it up 💀💀 but hopefully i will be hotter once it’s gone 🫡
@@wendyminn lol, forsure, don't even stress you do ts effortlessly 🤗
You lost me at " i don't like Dai"
haha if you're bored and absolutely have nothing else to do you can come back to the video and ignore my unsolicited opinion, but if not I just wanted to let you know I end up liking dai and he's currently my second favorite after shun :)
Did you all watched the same show as I ? Shun was toxic !
it's definitely crazy how perspective influences our understanding and i can see why you think that!