Live fully through death awareness | Jennifer James | TEDxSnoIsleLibraries
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- Опубликовано: 6 дек 2015
- This talk was given at a local TEDxSnoIsleLibraries event and produced independently of the TED Conferences. Cultural anthropologist, Jennifer James, believes embracing the awareness of our mortality is a key to fully living.
Jennifer’s lifetime of curiosity about beliefs, human behavior and the human spirit has roots in her childhood. That curiosity has underpinned her long career as a cultural and psychological anthropologist. A former professor in the University of Washington’s Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences, she has answered the complex questions inherent in contemporary living and dying.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
I’m dying of cancer but I’m living more than I ever have
She made me realize that I am living each and every day because I enjoy things that are around me that I would have never noticed before my diagnosis
Carpe Diem is my motto
Bless you, but you need not be dying.
@@carlw what do you mean?
@@cyndimoring9389 Not to give up, know that you can turn the tables on the disease with nutrition and knowledge NOT only what the doctors tell you. They only understand a small portion but they're made to think they have the quorum on medical knowledge.
Races before us knew much more than chemo and radiation. That's only to make the pharmaceutical industry rich.
You'd think after all these years of money and funding being pumped into cancer research, we'd see the results and breakthroughs. Well? Where are they?
There have been many people with the cute but they've been 'silenced'. For those current, their system cannot be used because "it doesn't meet the current standards of care". Who makes the standards? Who stands to lose?
Getting the picture?
This applies to many other facets of our societies. 100 years on gas and still 34mpg is deemed good? 100 years? A century and no breakthroughs? We have cell phones.
Fact is, we haven't needed gas or roads for over 100years. Again, if were not slaves to oil and gas, who stands to lose?
And on and on. As long as we pay our taxes, watch the news we're supposed to, eat our cheesies and watch the Kardashians or the bachelorette, then all will be ok.
@@carlw I'm sorry but I've already walked in your shoes and he died anyway. He spent the last 5 years changing his diet, converted me to a plant based, non dairy diet. I know all about society's failings and it still didn't help him. He was 70 years old, moving lava rock in his fruit garden when the hormone replacement therapy failed and it was in his bones. He studied Tony Seba, taught me about the disruption that's hopefully coming. When the pain took over he went for the chemo, the radiation and I nursed him into his skeletal, don't touch me phase. I watched him die of cancer in his bed in his home. It was the stress, the pollution and the years eating wrong that killed him. Doctors are just there to collect whatever $$ we can throw at them in desperation , but we still die of cancer just like my dad did 45 years ago. Oil is dead, but long live the oil. For what you're talking about, we'd have to do a complete reboot on all societies in the world. This will happen anyway, once our failed societies collapse and the next wave of humans (those who are left) must adapt to what's left. So don't tell people there's another way. Not in this lifetime.
@@cyndimoring9389 I'm so sorry to hear of your loss 😔 My sincerest condolences.
Yes we're currently wayyyyyyyy off course although, unfortunately, a large number of people don't see it YET!
There's really no reason for people to die of any of these ailments aside from old age and accidents or even meteors for that matter.
Again, I'm sorry for your loss and wish you all prosperity and health!.
“Try to imagine what it will be like to go to sleep and never wake up... now try to imagine what it was like to wake up having never gone to sleep.”
Alan Watts
Full death awareness itself can lead to ego death. That's how Ramana Maharshi, perhaps the most fully enlightened mystic in the last century, achieved enlightenment without any previous spiritual practice. There are actually 7 steps to go from denying death to a full awareness of death, and each step is more and more liberating. Memento Mori!
Hi bro
This is a wonderful presentation, authentic, soulful and compassionate. thank you so much. When my kids were 8 - they asked me about death. Surprised by the question, I rolled out the most child-like answer I could devise, yet remain true. " You can do so much in your life. So many wonderful things - and do them over and over. But death is the one thing we do only once, and there
s no going back, so you want to save it till the very last."
Love that
That is very profound and beautiful, almost Dr Seuss like. Just lovely
A courageous and thoughtful woman.
It takes courage to be an intellectually honest person and reject the crutch of faith.
watched this again and again, what a thorough and practical endeavour to explore death, we still have this immemse power of life, live it fully everyday 🙏🙏🙏
Lost my husband a little over a year ago. Diagnosed late January and lost him in April. This presentation hits home big time. I realize that I am living this life and looking at everything much differently. ( Death Awareness). Thank you for your wonderful insight💕
This video was posted in 2015. I only noticed it today, gave it a watch. It really moved me in a way I can't describe right at the moment you tell us to live the words; the words we want to hear last before we die. I realized my mortality and the mortality of those I loved when I was very young. young enough that I can't remember a time I didn't know it. In my early to mid twenties, I realized not only was I going to die, I was also going to get old. That's when my fear of death developed into panic attacks. I was on the wrong side of nihilism. Numbly drowning in it, and only when I thought about it did I feel cold choke of windless breath.
I tried talking about death with others, trying to work this out. People would respond with some obvious answers. They would talk of after-lives, platitudes, or my favorite, "gee, I don't know what that's like. I don't really think about it." Needless to say, not much help. my research spoke of the power of acceptance, yet I couldn't really grasp it, I thought. Otherwise, if I truly understood, I would stop having these panic attacks over death.
But these words in this video, the idea, the concept of living out or embodying what I want my last words to be, somehow reached me. I think, I just might be able to find a way to swim after all. Thank you.
this is very simmilar to Caitlyn doughty who is reaching the digital generation about the dead body..
@@annieinwonderland694 Ah yes, I have heard of Caitlyn's work. I haven't experienced it yet, thank you for reminding me. It's now on my list for future consumption.
@@Toekneebob i have panic attacks about death too. What can i do? Thanks
@@mitch5222 That's a very difficult thing to deal with. I'm not a professional or expert, so I would suggest first and foremost to consult your doctor and psychologist if you can. That said, I can tell you what I have done to help myself.
So, if I am having a panic attack, in the moment I try to focus on my immediate surroundings. I start to state aloud what objects are around, what I can see and what I can hear. This helps ground me back to reality. Then, I drink a glass of water over a ten minute period to calm me down all the way.
As for preventing them, that's a bit more work. I have reduced the frequency by facing the fears that cause them. I have spent a few years researching death, and how to cope with it. I find meditation a great effort, as well as exploring religions. I'm not saying become religious, but explore religious materials. They contain the ancient commutative knowledge of humanity of what it is, and how to find life despite it finite nature. Particularly, Hinduism and Buddhism were helpful. The most helpful texts for me personally were the Bible and the related manuscripts. When I analyzed the work as metaphoric, it opened my eyes to what I was afraid of, and understanding something makes it much less scary.
Also, if you want to see something that can entertain you and open the doors to further exploration, I would give Midnight Gospel a gander. Great quotes, and the last episode even walks you through a great, simple meditation that works.
Lastly, if you are looking for a medicine to help, I would try CBD. It can greatly reduce the anxiety level of our day to day.
I hope this helps, and remember to seek professional help (as I did) if you can as I am no expert. If you want to chat, reach out to me and we can talk about our experiences. I'd love to know how this works out.
Read spiritual warfare by jed mckenna last 2 chapter memento mori no one explain to you better than jed
What a comforting voice.
Dr. James used to have a radio talk show in the late 70s and early 80s. I absolutely adored her show, her knowledge and the wisdom she shared with us. Her voice was mesmerizing.
The body dies, but the spirit is released forever.
Whatever we did not achieve in a mortal body we will continue to learn, love and progress in the eternities. I always tell my kids that I will see them later. Thank goodness. Life is hard. Some have difficulties. Health is not garenteed. Death releases a person. Immortality is forever.
I agree. Mortal life on Earth is not easy.
This was a very elegant presentation on death awareness. Thank you Jennifer James.
The last words I want to hear before I die are "I love you"
Look I thought I saw his finger move!
people say that if they had 6 months to live that they would do everything that the wished to do but i think if you truly had only 6 months to live you just would sit and stare
Isaac Gomez in ICU stuffed with tubes I suppose
Oh lord
Thats What i would do. Sitvstare and think and meditate and pray
yes!......likely a little of both, but i have sat and stared a good bit this past year....i find it pleasant, feel my breath, and it seems to slow down time.....
There was a poet in Brazil called Mario Quintana. He died in 1994. If you visit his grave you will read on the tombstone: "I am not here."
i'm scared for when death comes to my family because not only will i go on without them, i also think that they'd die with no good memories of me. i'm scared for when death comes to me, i think that they won't have good memories of me and... and i'm scared of not being in the world anymore while it keeps going and changing. i'm scared of forgetting and being forgotten
I had the same fears. No one will remember me, care about the fact that I'm gone or even bother coming to my funeral. But then I realized this: when I'm gone, why will it even matter? 😌
I love this. Memento mori. So much gratitude.
Memento mori.. remember you must die
"we always want more time" yes, yes. though i've only been alive in a short time (20s) i feel like i've wasted it already and i'll keep wasting it
I lost my mom when I was 8. Being in foster care during her death process I had a bestest boy friend. We walked down to the cow pasture every day and had such fun. One day he couldn't come and play. He had a brain tumor. My Uncle owned a funeral home with 2 chapels that I always played in. One day we picked up a baby in a yellow opaque bucket. Unfortunately, for me, without guidance, my take was to have as many experiences in life as possible. I wasn't going to waste living by sitting in college classrooms. I couldn't stay in long-term relationships because...?? "Is that all there is?'
Very smooth drop of the necklace at 1.21!
Was praying she didn’t trip
As Achilles said in the movie Troy
The Gods are envious of us because any moment may be our last
Everything is more beautiful because we are doomed
You will never be more lovelier than you are now, and we will never be here again
Although this was just lines in a movie
I believe those words have so much meaning in how we view life
Beautiful! Thank you. 💕🙏
Such a fantastic speaker
Thank you
A great speaker.
Life over flows from you spills out all over the stage and even radiates out to the screen of the IPad in my hands……💫
Thank you ;)
Imagine own death n make changes now to min regrets later....
Touch death and experience it, face it as reality
Have ur own obituary, know your last words...
Greattttt
Tremendous
Thank you . I will die one day . I will be gone physically from this world. In some way I will love and live on . My sons and d their families know this.
Love is the essence of life.
To know That Love is to connect with dying .
We have to let go .
But the LOVE LIVES ON .
FOR MY SONS IF YOU NEED XX hsc Mumx
one of the Buddhist exercises is to visualize your death in different ways, so you'll remember how close it is always.
Swear i though i hear we all have a chicken in our back pocket at first
Same😂
Maybe that’s what she meant by you’re never alone.
Im terrified of suffocation ie euthanasia and due to catholic indoctrination that keeps resurfacing tho i no longer practice cos i cant stand its teachings bur i still fear them. I cant tolerate pain of my body no more. I feel trapped.
Very inspirational, however any realist know’s there’s things in this world that hold you down and there’s nothing you can do about it. NOTHING.
Well it didnt shock me because my other non life threatening painful conditions stopped me living. I was half hoping my cancer was terminal.
Jump cuts are for underdeveloped minds. Sadly, all of the youth of today.
Hi Than1025
Too gòod
What if you suffer from chronic pain.
To feel death' just touch your phone when there is no connexion.
Firget touching humans or animals.
Death Awareness Yeah Open IT up ASAP
Watching this in 2021, second day of the covid19 pandemic.
Sounds like she's talking about mushrooms. Eat 7 grams of some toad stools and see if you don't experience ego death. It's liberating.
We don't have free will. good bye
True, but we can develop it.
This is a wonderful presentation, authentic, soulful and compassionate. thank you so much. When my kids were 8 - they asked me about death. Surprised by the question, I rolled out the most child-like answer I could devise, yet remain true. " You can do so much in your life. So many wonderful things - and do them over and over. But death is the one thing we do only once, and there
s no going back, so you want to save it till the very last."
Thank you