The flow state isn't actually something you have to draw out It's there by default but the ego impedes it. meditation and not judging yourself when out does wonders
I was very shy talking to girls. I researched n researched. The whole problem is on the inside. Don't look for how you can talk to girls or how you can be more attractive or am i enough. The fact that you are human makes you enough to get whatever you wish for in life. Just work on yourself. Raise your self esteem. Everything else will follow.
Yeah I realized I need to get my shit together. I still can’t talk to girls and say what I intend to say. I know my looks are at least a 8/10 but that doesn’t mean shit if I can’t make moves.
Exactly what I need now.. went out a few nights ago and wasn’t feeling it, got into a mini argument with some random dude and left my friends and the club
I was the centre of attention in the flow state until I kissed some guys girlfriend, he was on edge because his cousin died. I bought him a drink, added his male friend on insta, moved on to the next girl this time more than just a kiss, got her number and insta but she was too drunk to remember anything about me.
People tend to be clichey They come bar lounges with their friends and stick within their own group. They’ll chat with your to be polite but that’s about it. That’s what I tend to see . It’s mainly the tourist and newcomers that are open to chatting up strangers
Man, I can't tell you how many times I've gone out, looking good, feeling good, light up like the 4th of July as soon as I arrive at the venue (I'm an extrovert). I'll spend the next few hours going around talking to my friends, the bartenders and bouncers I know, sometimes the owner will be there who knows me by name. When I arrive I know 20% of the people there, by the end of the night I know 50% of the people there. I'm having fun, talking to tons of people, having people pull me into their group and tell me "you look like so and so celebrity!" I'll hit the dance floor, light it up, go back to meeting and talking to people. Then, at the end of the night, end up going home alone...for the 167th night in a row. Guys, you can be ultra charismatic, energetic, get people magnetically drawn to you, but it doesn't mean you'll attract a girl. I can't tell you how many times I've been talking to a girl in a bar I frequent, and as we're talking I'm constantly interrupted by people trying to say hi or talk to me, which you would think would be MASSIVE social proof, only to have her be completely disinterested in me. Being the life of the party is fun, but it doesn't guarantee results. Just keep that in mind. Of course, if you operate by normal rules of the universe, it probably will be very different for you lol.
If you really want to get into the flow state and be comfy and relaxed around others you have to prepare mentally through meditation etc and get out there and do it, I'll repeat GET OUT THERE AND DO IT it's not enough to think that you'll be comfy and in the zone every time you're gonna go to a loud and crowded social setting you have to do it enough times to the point where it doesn't register in your mind as a place of danger but a place of excitement and relaxation, when you do it enough times you start to get comfortable and you don't have to spend days working up your social skills, looking up youtube videos, or working up some type of alter ego to feel comfortable.
Hey man, Few questions- 1. How much money you have spent going out/dates/ all those resources that help you? 2.Have you ever had a girl put a restraining order on you? 3.Also have you or a p.u.a you know get a chick pregnant? Just wondering, peace.
Lol I don't know how I came across this video, but I decided to click on it because I'm curious about what advice men give to other men on the dating scene. It's pretty interesting being on the other side of this because as a chick, I always ignore the guy in the center of attention and find the introverted quiet dude that has an interesting world inside of him.
Hey bro, hope you see this but basically I am a pretty shy guy. When you talk of merging sets that scares me haha what would you suggest to someone who is very shy to get into the flow state. I have approach anxiety.
The flow state isn't actually something you have to draw out
It's there by default but the ego impedes it. meditation and not judging yourself when out does wonders
Just saying don't judge yourself isn't enough for most people
I was very shy talking to girls. I researched n researched. The whole problem is on the inside. Don't look for how you can talk to girls or how you can be more attractive or am i enough. The fact that you are human makes you enough to get whatever you wish for in life. Just work on yourself. Raise your self esteem. Everything else will follow.
Humans have a universe within them you can't understand them. Just understand yourself and you will understand the whole universe.
Yeah I realized I need to get my shit together. I still can’t talk to girls and say what I intend to say. I know my looks are at least a 8/10 but that doesn’t mean shit if I can’t make moves.
@@danyo5509 truethat.
Learn by doing.. Always works.
@@Suspect333 I like this response
So basically having an ULTRA INSTINCT in socializing and flirting ; )
this ultra instinct sounds cool
yes
This honestly is one of the most helpful vids ive ever seen
Exactly what I need now.. went out a few nights ago and wasn’t feeling it, got into a mini argument with some random dude and left my friends and the club
Yeah man getting angry at night will only hurt yourself
I was the centre of attention in the flow state until I kissed some guys girlfriend, he was on edge because his cousin died.
I bought him a drink, added his male friend on insta, moved on to the next girl this time more than just a kiss, got her number and insta but she was too drunk to remember anything about me.
Your eyebrows are magnificent!!
haha thanks
The bit at the start is genuis. Meet 3 people then introduce them to each other, as long as they don't leave you behind.
One of my fav RUclipsrs man.. great video
People tend to be clichey
They come bar lounges with their friends and stick within their own group. They’ll chat with your to be polite but that’s about it.
That’s what I tend to see .
It’s mainly the tourist and newcomers that are open to chatting up strangers
yeah I find that too
Man, I can't tell you how many times I've gone out, looking good, feeling good, light up like the 4th of July as soon as I arrive at the venue (I'm an extrovert). I'll spend the next few hours going around talking to my friends, the bartenders and bouncers I know, sometimes the owner will be there who knows me by name. When I arrive I know 20% of the people there, by the end of the night I know 50% of the people there.
I'm having fun, talking to tons of people, having people pull me into their group and tell me "you look like so and so celebrity!" I'll hit the dance floor, light it up, go back to meeting and talking to people. Then, at the end of the night, end up going home alone...for the 167th night in a row.
Guys, you can be ultra charismatic, energetic, get people magnetically drawn to you, but it doesn't mean you'll attract a girl. I can't tell you how many times I've been talking to a girl in a bar I frequent, and as we're talking I'm constantly interrupted by people trying to say hi or talk to me, which you would think would be MASSIVE social proof, only to have her be completely disinterested in me.
Being the life of the party is fun, but it doesn't guarantee results. Just keep that in mind. Of course, if you operate by normal rules of the universe, it probably will be very different for you lol.
its all about timing my friend. u probably didnt say or do the right thing that was expected off of you by her :)
This was really helpful, didn't think it about this
If you really want to get into the flow state and be comfy and relaxed around others you have to prepare mentally through meditation etc and get out there and do it, I'll repeat GET OUT THERE AND DO IT it's not enough to think that you'll be comfy and in the zone every time you're gonna go to a loud and crowded social setting you have to do it enough times to the point where it doesn't register in your mind as a place of danger but a place of excitement and relaxation, when you do it enough times you start to get comfortable and you don't have to spend days working up your social skills, looking up youtube videos, or working up some type of alter ego to feel comfortable.
I'm a dancer. Moving around is great! Flow!
People just treat me like I'm annoying.
Thank you!!
you're welcome!
This guy just made 3 friends in 3 minutes.
How can you upload almost everyday😱? I’m not complaining tho. Good shit. Do a dancing video!
I'm not going out quite as much as I used to
TheSingleGuy keep up with your flow man 🤪 shits been hard for me too right now
Just smash a few shots you be flowing pretty god
It doesn't seem like the local bars (dive/sports) I've been going to are good environments conducive to this technique.
Hey man, Few questions-
1. How much money you have spent going out/dates/ all those resources that help you?
2.Have you ever had a girl put a restraining order on you?
3.Also have you or a p.u.a you know get a chick pregnant? Just wondering, peace.
Lol I don't know how I came across this video, but I decided to click on it because I'm curious about what advice men give to other men on the dating scene. It's pretty interesting being on the other side of this because as a chick, I always ignore the guy in the center of attention and find the introverted quiet dude that has an interesting world inside of him.
But most of us guys are not going to have the success with women we want being reserved and closed off.
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Nice jacket my man 👌🏼
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Hey bro, hope you see this but basically I am a pretty shy guy. When you talk of merging sets that scares me haha what would you suggest to someone who is very shy to get into the flow state. I have approach anxiety.