What to Say When You Don't Understand (and Avoid Embarrassment)

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  • Опубликовано: 20 сен 2024

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  • @benhill3098
    @benhill3098 4 года назад +5

    I am a native American English speaker but feel I can improve and learn something new from watching videos like this. I feel no embarrassment or fear when letting someone know I don't understand them, or I overcome such feelings since embarrassment and fear, though natural, are hindrances to learning. But I think your approach to emphasizing what you understand before saying what you don't understand is very sound, such as when asking someone to repeat the last part of what they said.
    There are many reasons for not understanding: the speech is slurred or mumbled, the volume of the voice is low, the vocabulary is not familiar, the reasoning is not followed, the perspectives are different, different words have different shades of meaning to people. I notice when something is not understood, often it's part or some parts of the statement that's not understood. But when the listener simply says that they didn't understand the speaker might then raise their voice or speak more slowly or use different words for restatement when maybe none of those was where the problem originated. For efficient communication, I agree it's better to first emphasize what was understood. Also, we can repeat what we heard back to the speaker.
    I'll make replies like:
    - I understand the part about . . . but what did you say about . . .?
    - I believe you said . . . is that correct?
    Thank you for this content. I know there is more I can learn from this channel so I'll be watching more videos 😊

    • @MN12warbird
      @MN12warbird 3 года назад +1

      I agree it makes some situations less awkward when you know how to approach it

  • @nestorhernandezcruz6652
    @nestorhernandezcruz6652 4 года назад +2

    I clearly notice that you think before you speak because your speech is really smooth and fluent.

  • @soniamo4139
    @soniamo4139 2 года назад +1

    Here I was thinking I speak fluent English, but no one told me about intonations, so thank you! I'll be back!

    • @Speakconfidentenglish
      @Speakconfidentenglish  2 года назад +1

      Thanks so much for watching, Sonia Mo! I appreciate it and am very glad to know you're enjoying my lessons.

  • @widyalingui6985
    @widyalingui6985 Год назад +1

    Thank you so much for your expanations. your videos have become my inspiration in teaching my students.

    • @Speakconfidentenglish
      @Speakconfidentenglish  Год назад

      You're very welcome! I’m thrilled to know my lessons are helpful to you and your students. Which lesson has been the most popular?

  • @vidaltellez5780
    @vidaltellez5780 4 года назад +3

    Thanks, your way of teaching makes me feel more confident!

  • @sawankumarjondhale897
    @sawankumarjondhale897 4 года назад +1

    I extremely love that way you teaches us

  • @anoopkumarvallabh3854
    @anoopkumarvallabh3854 4 года назад +1

    your explanation is crystal clear....i hope its the best opportunity for the learners..... thanks

  • @aparecidoferreiravais321
    @aparecidoferreiravais321 4 года назад +1

    Hey Anne Marie your classes are very important to us who are learning the English language
    Thanks a lot my dear teacher and have a great Friday 😉🇧🇷

  • @faridaz7397
    @faridaz7397 2 года назад +1

    Thanks a lot very helpful

  • @sunilkakkassery7613
    @sunilkakkassery7613 4 года назад +1

    So helpful for the people like me who are like to learn from a English teacher. Thanks ✌

  • @khinmaunggyi6319
    @khinmaunggyi6319 2 года назад

    So thank.your telling is good english for me.

  • @asghar176
    @asghar176 4 года назад +3

    This is what I need , good to hear from you Annemarie, very good lesson for me to learn from you those words. Keep going on .

  • @karinatorres4022
    @karinatorres4022 3 года назад +1

    Pretty useful this lesson. Thank you Mary

  • @ahmadmohammad6130
    @ahmadmohammad6130 4 года назад +2

    Hey, Anne Marie,
    Thank you so much for sharing this useful lesson.
    The most question I found useful from this lesson is " I want to make sure I understood you perfectly, so could you say that one more time?", " I'm not a hundred percent sure I understood everything you said, would you mind saying it once more?"
    Best regards,
    Ahmad

  • @holycoins
    @holycoins 4 года назад +1

    Thank you very much for your lessons and for sharing your knowledge with us.

  • @jeongjames6655
    @jeongjames6655 4 года назад +2

    I really appreciate your great effort and awesome teaching. I enjoy every moment of your teachings. Have a good one!

  • @yy928
    @yy928 4 года назад +4

    Thanks for the tips. I usually say: "Pardon me. Come again?" (for friends) or "Pardon me, can you run it by me again?"

  • @gaganpreetsidhu8795
    @gaganpreetsidhu8795 4 года назад

    I really appreciate your support. I liked this phrase “That was as clear as mud. Thank you so much.

    • @sspicer549
      @sspicer549 3 года назад

      I'm American and I've heard that maybe once in my life. Not common. Good luck!

  • @floralei1223
    @floralei1223 3 года назад +2

    Notes:
    1. I didn't catch everything you said. Could you repeat that last part again?
    2. I want to make sure i understood you perfectly. So could you say that one more time?
    3. I'm not 100% sure i understood everything you said. Would you mind saying it once more?

  • @Noun613
    @Noun613 3 года назад

    Wow this is awesome ! When I don’t understand things. I usually say “I’m sorry I don’t quite understand, can you please say it again?” And I feel so stupid!

  • @jamalkhachabi2850
    @jamalkhachabi2850 4 года назад +2

    I feel happy when I see U. R the best teacher and u r stylish y hve my respect

  • @oleksandr.isakov
    @oleksandr.isakov 4 года назад +2

    This video is just what I need today. Because I have an interview tomorrow.

  • @bompy84
    @bompy84 4 года назад

    Straightforward and extremely useful information! Thank you! 🖤🖤🖤👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽

  • @Noun613
    @Noun613 3 года назад

    I recently accepted a job at a long term care as a receptionist. It’s entirely new environment and new field of work for me. I feel so stupid when I answer phone calls and I don’t understand a question.

  • @georgecortezee6091
    @georgecortezee6091 4 года назад

    I. LOVE. THIS. CLASS
    THANK. YOU. FOR. CARING
    ALL. THE. BEST
    GOD. BLESS

  • @t4u2177
    @t4u2177 4 года назад

    I just love to listen to your class, as you are giving me more confidence in speaking clearly and sound.

  • @ceciliafabre9321
    @ceciliafabre9321 4 года назад

    watch this before and Iam now using those phrases ,indeed it is really helpful.thanks a lot

  • @silviacapkovic2527
    @silviacapkovic2527 4 года назад +5

    Hello Annemarie! Thank you for a great lesson. I am still laughing about an expression: "That was as clear as mud..." I will definitely use it.

    • @Speakconfidentenglish
      @Speakconfidentenglish  4 года назад +1

      Hi Silvia, that's one of my favorites too!! Glad you've got a new idiom to use. 😊

  • @nimfadejesus7401
    @nimfadejesus7401 4 года назад

    Thank you very much for this lesson, it is definitely very helpful.

  • @nasraabdiabi5952
    @nasraabdiabi5952 4 года назад

    An ocean of thanks. Really this lesson is the best lesson I ever listened i apriciate you. Go ahead

  • @gvsarmento
    @gvsarmento 3 года назад

    I love your lessons, Annemarie! Hold on, and thank you, always.

  • @Mandy-ie8hl
    @Mandy-ie8hl 4 года назад

    your pronunciation is quite clear and easy to understand, I like it. do hope I could make improvement.
    thank you so much.

  • @ligiagonzalez233
    @ligiagonzalez233 3 года назад

    I don't know why I can understand you when you talk !!!!

  • @juangarviapastor6738
    @juangarviapastor6738 4 года назад

    Hey Annemarie!
    The expression that I liked the most and that I think I will be able to use soon is: As clear as mud.
    Thanks for the lesson.

  • @nataliabuinenko3962
    @nataliabuinenko3962 4 года назад

    The idioms were fun to know. I like that kind of expressions.

  • @sarahhill9168
    @sarahhill9168 4 года назад +3

    Hi annmarie
    Thank you for all your wonderful videos
    I hope you can make a video about job interview too :)

    • @Speakconfidentenglish
      @Speakconfidentenglish  4 года назад +1

      Hi Sarah, I'm glad to know my lessons are helpful. I have several available for job interviews, which you can find in this playlist: ruclips.net/video/nuxzL6f2SCU/видео.html

  • @saidalawady1881
    @saidalawady1881 3 года назад

    Thank you so much for your great effort to teach us.

  • @ronaldoferreiraoliveira
    @ronaldoferreiraoliveira 4 года назад

    Wow very good english teacher 👍👍👍👍👍👍👏👏👏👏

  • @VideoAsti
    @VideoAsti 3 года назад

    Thank you for some expression

  • @kimgreaux2070
    @kimgreaux2070 4 года назад +1

    Great ! a good Lesson, thank you very much An MarryI realy respect you deep in my heart, and thank you so much for helping us to learn English

  • @MrChu0807
    @MrChu0807 4 года назад

    Thank you so much my teacher. From Korea

  • @angelicavido2372
    @angelicavido2372 4 года назад

    TKks for share your knowlegde with us. It is very important to improve our learnning.

  • @janibekkhalmurzaev5906
    @janibekkhalmurzaev5906 4 года назад +1

    Thank you very much Annemaria! This is video exactly what i needed 'coz English it's my second language and sometimes i have these situations in my job, Now i know how to avoid akward moments))) You are great!!! Keep up the good work;)

    • @Speakconfidentenglish
      @Speakconfidentenglish  4 года назад

      So glad to know it was helpful! Those moments happen to all of us. 😊

  • @marialaura7326
    @marialaura7326 4 года назад +1

    Thank you so much for this useful lesson

  • @brahimaksasse2577
    @brahimaksasse2577 4 года назад

    Scuse me, but I catch all what you say in this video. Thanks a lot. It helps a lot

  • @senthamarair8339
    @senthamarair8339 4 года назад

    Thank you so mucho. Your video as clear as water..

    • @Speakconfidentenglish
      @Speakconfidentenglish  4 года назад

      Oh, love that example of figurative language - as clear as water. 🙌

  • @NidhiSingh-vj2xq
    @NidhiSingh-vj2xq 4 года назад

    Thank you so much ma'am for online classes it's really helpful..😊😊 In this session I like the most is - I'm not 100% sure I understood everything you said, would you mind saying it once more? And idioms as well .... I guess we can also say - "I'm totaly puzzled what you said, would you mind repeating once again?"

  • @jannie6969
    @jannie6969 3 года назад

    I have tryed everything to understand and I still the same now I left school when I was 14 years old that's why I have a keyworker who helps me out and talks on my behalf as I don't get it and it gets me in a mood bad and my anxiety go higher but thanks for the video it might help people out but not me i be like it from day one

  • @Oyamafit24
    @Oyamafit24 3 года назад

    I think are wires are crossed! Definitely going to use that going forward 😌

  • @vidyavijayan7400
    @vidyavijayan7400 4 года назад

    Much awaited and much needed video ✌ Thank you Ann Marie

  • @tonysroomchat4827
    @tonysroomchat4827 4 года назад +1

    Nice tips. I do that all the time. But when I don't understand someone's speech, I answer them by saying, could you repeat that please..

  • @Noneedtoreply123
    @Noneedtoreply123 2 года назад

    Really appreciate your lessons and these are just what I need. My question is " does it make sense? or do you understand what I meant? " When I was saying these sentences, is that the polite way to say? Thank you very much.

    • @Speakconfidentenglish
      @Speakconfidentenglish  2 года назад

      Thanks for the comment. I'm glad my lessons are helpful. Both can certainly be polite. They are casual or informal but still often used. If you'd like to use more than a yes/no question, you could also say, "Let me pause here to make sure everything is clear. What would you like me to clarify?"

  • @luperubio2263
    @luperubio2263 4 года назад

    This is a good lesson thank you

  • @abdiqanishekhibarhim2172
    @abdiqanishekhibarhim2172 4 года назад

    Thnks our teacher

  • @claudiobaneiro6288
    @claudiobaneiro6288 4 года назад

    You are incredible teacher and so beautiful too !

  • @binodrpl1752
    @binodrpl1752 4 года назад +1

    start to watch from Nepal🇳🇵

  • @olesiadeeva9865
    @olesiadeeva9865 4 года назад +1

    Thank you for your video! I love it!!!

  • @yenlove3739
    @yenlove3739 4 года назад

    Thank you so much... 😊

  • @livebyfaith4994
    @livebyfaith4994 4 года назад

    thank you very much.

  • @sheetalnegi1662
    @sheetalnegi1662 4 года назад

    Your teaching style amazing mam I got it what you say

  • @congthanhhuynh1471
    @congthanhhuynh1471 4 года назад

    Thanks a lot!

  • @pedrodomingos5250
    @pedrodomingos5250 4 года назад

    My favorite is sorry. Now I know when I stress the end it means I did understand nothing. So the oposite means I apologize for something

  • @ДжокерВеликолепный
    @ДжокерВеликолепный 4 года назад +1

    Awesome 👏👏

  • @MDRASEL-wc9vt
    @MDRASEL-wc9vt 4 года назад

    Thanks my dear madam

  • @anisioteixeira1108
    @anisioteixeira1108 4 года назад

    Awesome !!!

  • @leonardyreynosob.2505
    @leonardyreynosob.2505 2 года назад

    Hi, Suppose that this kind can be used at any situation, I mean bussines , at home, family meetings AND More.

  • @madhavi1918
    @madhavi1918 4 года назад

    Thanks for sharing your wonderful videos. They are very helpful. It may be an out of context request..but could you please tell me the brand of the top you are wearing in this video. You are looking so elegant and sophisticated.

  • @mahams7220
    @mahams7220 4 года назад

    Thankyou!!

  • @carusopelluso5909
    @carusopelluso5909 4 года назад

    excellent.........

  • @onigonzalez5054
    @onigonzalez5054 4 года назад

    Thanks

  • @abuhuraira3685
    @abuhuraira3685 4 года назад +5

    FRIEND I didn't catch what you said, repeat that again
    ME Don't try to understand everything
    Sometimes it's not meant to be understood
    Just accepted

    • @MN12warbird
      @MN12warbird 3 года назад

      Lol i find ppl in this country think out loud too much lol they can never just decide. They need 100 opinions 1st lol

  • @noonecares3213
    @noonecares3213 4 года назад

    thanks youu so much teacher .. I hope u can do us a favor and make a video about how to enrich our speaking with words like " like, I mean, literally, basically, so ..." Hopefully u got what I 'm trying to say. thaaanks

  • @azammousazadeh240
    @azammousazadeh240 4 года назад +1

    you are great

  • @MN12warbird
    @MN12warbird 3 года назад

    Some advanced contactions... some recent faves... Wayment?! Wayyyment wayyment =wait a minute and yeeeeen even ,= you didn't even... a contraction of an existing contraction. Lol 😆 believe me when I say I have had a fun time learning English as a first generation filipino in America. But ive learned to grow and lobe my pilipino- chitown american accent and hybrid vocabulary lol

  • @tamizhazhagan-jaishreekris2199
    @tamizhazhagan-jaishreekris2199 3 года назад

    Awesome

  • @Charie51
    @Charie51 3 года назад

    Thanks again!! And what do you say when you need to pass between two persons talking_

  • @ramazanbakhtyari2221
    @ramazanbakhtyari2221 4 года назад +1

    Good

  • @JuanSanchez-jf9fo
    @JuanSanchez-jf9fo 4 года назад

    always I Will love your voice tone.

  • @marcoaureliosacramento7675
    @marcoaureliosacramento7675 4 года назад

    Hey, Annemarie. Thanks for the excellent teachings and generosity on sharing your experiences to improve our comprehension. At the beginning it was difficult to me cause brazilian portuguese and english are quite differents and at the moment they are getting more helpful and clear as time goes by.

  • @TheMelo617
    @TheMelo617 4 года назад +2

    By the way, you're awesome! Thank you!

  • @oleksandr.isakov
    @oleksandr.isakov 4 года назад

    You 're smart.

  • @vernoontriple2364
    @vernoontriple2364 4 года назад

    super nice mentor anyway how to answer the questions " what is your short term goal & long term goal?

    • @sspicer549
      @sspicer549 3 года назад

      Short term goals are things you plan to do in say months or a year, such as finishing your degree, take a class or running a 5K or . Long term goals are things you plan to do over perhaps 3 or 5 or even 10 years, such as get your PhD, running a marathon, writing a book or learning a language.

  • @mohammadidrees357
    @mohammadidrees357 3 года назад

    Anne Marie, you are an array of sun shine !

  • @osamaqaroot5940
    @osamaqaroot5940 4 года назад

    I am not a 100% sure that I got everything you said , would you repeat that part

  • @zizok6795
    @zizok6795 4 года назад

    I think our wires are crossed is the easiest one! :)

  • @osamaqaroot5940
    @osamaqaroot5940 4 года назад

    I learnt from other videos of yours that you do have a broadcast for listening. Can you provide me with the link? Thank you

  • @narbhuwangdi2969
    @narbhuwangdi2969 2 года назад

    Will speak hindi ,any problem?

  • @sheetalnegi1662
    @sheetalnegi1662 4 года назад

    I want to make sure I understand you perfectly so could you say that one more time

  • @jerryeats4995
    @jerryeats4995 4 года назад

    Hello maam I don't speak English well 😥

  • @TheMelo617
    @TheMelo617 4 года назад +2

    I think I didn't catch everything what you've just said. Could you say it again, please?

  • @thilakasirispathiranage9981
    @thilakasirispathiranage9981 4 года назад

    I think my wires are crossed. Everything I said is just a word salad. That was as clear as mud!

  • @muhammadraxa3764
    @muhammadraxa3764 4 года назад

    Salad one

  • @Loque123
    @Loque123 4 года назад

    Could you repeat that, please?. Is ones of my usuals

  • @jannie6969
    @jannie6969 3 года назад

    And I just say yes to everything because I don't understand at all

  • @user-pc2dc5lc9d
    @user-pc2dc5lc9d 4 года назад

    Can I say?, I'm afraid I didn't get that.

  • @mohammadidrees357
    @mohammadidrees357 3 года назад

    Pardon me !

  • @sspicer549
    @sspicer549 3 года назад

    Clear as mud is not commonly heard in the eastern US. Just FYI.

  • @savanpatel4672
    @savanpatel4672 4 года назад

    What did you say?
    Scuse me
    You are as clear as mud

  • @beppobarrendero74
    @beppobarrendero74 4 года назад

    I'm sorry, I've lost

  • @insafbba5979
    @insafbba5979 4 года назад

    Thanks