I'm a TCK, and I often feel like I'm socially stumped precisely because of my background. I make friends quite quickly, but I have a hard time understanding social cues or being fully empathetic towards their feelings because I'm both consciously and subconsciously emotionally detaching myself from them the more time passes on and the time for the dreaded "goodbye" comes. Ever since I was a kid, I'd see a person and think "three years from now, I will never see you again", and the rare times where I did put in that effort to keep contact with a friend after I left a country left me later on disappointed. I'm now with a man with whom I am a 100% sure I want to spend my life with, and I'm slowly learning to be more attached to friendships. It's difficult due to my anxiety, but hopefully I'll get there someday.
I feel you strong on this one. I've recently met a girl and am learning slowly what she does to maintain strong friendships. The anxieties still there, and I can't be perfect all the time, but she loves being with a TCK. We have so much to offer, once we surpass the anxiety and hopefully find people who can help us 😉 All the best
WOW. I'm surprised there's a term for this. I can actually relate to this guy. Long story short. I was born in San Francisco. when i was 3 i moved to my dad's home country the philippines. stayed there for 3 years moved back to SF stayed here for 2 years moved back to philippines again in 1999 and stayed there until 2006. when i was 13 i finally moved back to the US. So i've gotten so used to it, that it was really easy for me to transition. BUT i kind of hated the fact that when i moved back to the US, i had no real history in the town where i supossedly grew up in. it was hard to adapt to some of the culture. because american kids were just different. with values, etc. and i just never felt at home. BUT since staying back here. i learned to appreciate my life growing up. i can understand 3 languages, and i have an advantage when it comes to meeting different people. im more accepting towards others, and who else can say they've lived in multiple parts of the world like us?
try2justbe I have to have a PowerPoint presentation to explain my origins, because that question is too complicated to answer with just a single answer
I am white and I am blending pretty good in my residential country, gi their accent and I feel more to my residential country but I still have that TCK feeling where I wanna move again after 12 years.
I'm a TCK, and I often feel like I'm socially stumped precisely because of my background. I make friends quite quickly, but I have a hard time understanding social cues or being fully empathetic towards their feelings because I'm both consciously and subconsciously emotionally detaching myself from them the more time passes on and the time for the dreaded "goodbye" comes. Ever since I was a kid, I'd see a person and think "three years from now, I will never see you again", and the rare times where I did put in that effort to keep contact with a friend after I left a country left me later on disappointed.
I'm now with a man with whom I am a 100% sure I want to spend my life with, and I'm slowly learning to be more attached to friendships. It's difficult due to my anxiety, but hopefully I'll get there someday.
Dang are you me? I have accepted the fact that I will forever be culturally homeless.
I feel you strong on this one. I've recently met a girl and am learning slowly what she does to maintain strong friendships. The anxieties still there, and I can't be perfect all the time, but she loves being with a TCK. We have so much to offer, once we surpass the anxiety and hopefully find people who can help us 😉 All the best
WOW. I'm surprised there's a term for this. I can actually relate to
this guy. Long story short. I was born in San Francisco. when i was 3 i
moved to my dad's home country the philippines. stayed there for 3 years
moved back to SF stayed here for 2 years moved back to philippines
again in 1999 and stayed there until 2006. when i was 13 i finally moved
back to the US. So i've gotten so used to it, that it was really easy
for me to transition. BUT i kind of hated the fact that when i moved
back to the US, i had no real history in the town where i supossedly
grew up in. it was hard to adapt to some of the culture. because
american kids were just different. with values, etc. and i just never
felt at home. BUT since staying back here. i learned to appreciate my
life growing up. i can understand 3 languages, and i have an advantage
when it comes to meeting different people. im more accepting towards
others, and who else can say they've lived in multiple parts of the
world like us?
Great video from Crystal, a great presentation on the struggles of TCKs and very entertaining. I'm a TCK, and (most of the time) I'm happy too. 😉 🌎 👐
Most dreadful question for me is "where do you come from"
try2justbe I have to have a PowerPoint presentation to explain my origins, because that question is too complicated to answer with just a single answer
i hate that question too.
"I am culturally homeless". I feel that so much!
Insightful talk, Crystal!!
I like the way you explain things haha its so casual but to the point and lively :)
I am white and I am blending pretty good in my residential country, gi their accent and I feel more to my residential country but I still have that TCK feeling where I wanna move again after 12 years.
I can totally relate to that.
It is awesome to be a TCK!!!!!!!!!!
Yes, but it can also be challenging.
Im TCK left my country since i was 6 months. Now at the age of 40 I still think its more challanging now than ever.
this talk was amazing.
When I moved to the US I could barely order at Starbucks, although I have a roof over my head I am homeless.