How to relax when you forgot how to relax
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- Опубликовано: 12 июн 2024
- If you feel disconnected from yourself or what you used to enjoy, maybe these tips will help.
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Wow, “People dont work at the pace we think they do”, thank you for this
Apparently the average productive worker only works 3 hours a day, but for some people (aka ME) we refuse to reward ourselves unless we've worked all 8 years at full focus for several days in a row.
@@ToLiveCreatively I work for myself as a therapist and I only see four clients a day max, generally more like 3, five days a week with a bit of admin totalling probably another 30 minutes a day tops. I currently earn around the same amount of money as I did when I worked for the government working 40 hours a week. When I tell people this they are generally both shocked this is possible, and sometimes annoyed that it is. I try to point out exactly what you've just said - even those engaged in contractual labour for 40 or more hours a week are rarely productive for more than 30-50% of those hours. Our whole approach to productivity and what it means to be meaningfully occupied is both outdated and broken at this stage.
Glad to see an actual expert chiming in! Yeah thank you! The phrase "meaningfully occupied" is exactly what I was trying to get at. Nobody does 8 hours of that kind of work, but people with ADHD or anxiety or even people on the spectrum tend to blame ourselves and self-flagellate over these unachievable milestones...
I actually socialized with a friend today for the first time in 3 weeks. Before that I hadn't spoken to any of my irl friends outside of saying hello.
Listen I'm super proud of you for doing this. It's never too late. And they love hearing from you. For some people, me included, it's really hard to get the energy to socialize AND to not feel guilty about not socializing. So if no one's told you this today, I really am proud of you.
Dude, this video is perfect! The way you express yourself and your thought process is so funny and relatable! I just love seeing people talking about who pathetic societal rules really are. Thanks for posting this video, man!
That is high praise! Thank you so much! And yeah I mean right now the way things are set up is unsustainable and that's never good news for anyone.
But hey we're still here and we're still going...
I had emergency surgery and reached out to my clients to reschedule their services with less shame than I would have in previous times. I need time to heal. And that is ok. They all understood
It's the shame that'll get ya. But every small step towards your own internal recovery is progress. Huge progress even. Proud of you.
Thank you for support. I noticed that when I try to relax after hard day in uni I always blame myself, that I'm running from reality and I should be doing something more important, study more, learn new things. But now, little by little, I'll change this way of thinking and become more accepting and loving to myself.
It's super difficult to make that mental change but it's worth it! Little by little is the only way to do it as well. Be kind to yourself and remember that relaxing is not a guilty pleasure, it's a necessity!
@@ToLiveCreatively Thank you!
Yes, the dog is cute. And thank you for the video.
Thank YOU for taking the time to watch it!
Wow, Jack, I love your energy! What an incredible video! Subbed and liked, and will be watching more!
I also struggle with playing videos games these days... When I think about how game is going to require 20, 30 or 40 hours to even complete, I feel guilty, like I could have used all that time to learn something... And then I don't even start the game 😢. I do see it as a positive as well though, as I've taken up reading and journaling to fill it's place.
Thanks for the compliments! I'll take them! Which is new to me since I don't take those well but hey, we're all a work in progress!
And yeah I get that...it's hard to "reward" yourself when you think you've done nothing worthy of a reward to begin with, but try it...write down the stuff you've done today, even if "taking a shower" is one of them, and you'll see how much you've actually achieved.
Doing the thing is doing the thing, no matter how small the thing. Great stuff like always!
Imma get this tattooed. Thank you so much!
i’ve been talking to this boy for nearly 2 months now and i kinda start to have feelings for him. he is in Italy and im going to see him in 3 days :D its weird i bought the flight tickets 3 weeks ago and now i feel like he is talking a bit weird. I told him that i like him and he is like how can u im just a random guy etc. so im kinda feeling sad. I normally dont hangout alone that much but thanks to him i learned to spend time alone. i’ve been by myself for 2 months now (but that means im in love with him and dont wanna see anybody) ohh fuck i wonder whats gonna happen in Italy. I feel so scared
Learning how to be by yourself and hang out with yourself is incredibly important. Cause then you'll only allow people in your life that actually ADD to it. Instead of looking for someone to "complete" you or fill the quiet spaces.
I wish you luck in Italy. And if it doesn't work out with him, remember...it's Italy. There's a thousand things to see more interesting than boys 😁
My personal favorite is the stray cat shelter beneath the ruins of the site where they stabbed Julius Caesar. Torre Argentina I believe it's called, look it up if you're going to Rome!
This is great, love the down-to-earth production and valuable messages, I needed to hear this as a creative who's constantly weighted by my own perfectionistic, people-pleasing, and self critical voices.
Oof yeah I can relate to all of this honestly...I've been needing to hear it myself for years, so I figured I'd just say it to other people instead.
Shout-out to la ligne une du métro ! :)
Loved the video and will follow your advice of rewarding oneself.
A friend told me about a helpful thought for dealing with guilt and pressure to perform: "Allow yourself to mess up (at least) one thing per day".
It's okay to burn that dish you were cooking, to not answer that email just yet, to have an awkward public moment, or vehemently affirm something that turns out to be wrong information later...
Mistakes are fine. They're okay, you're okay.
Thank you, and enjoy those video games !!
Ligne une is my life line and also it's grève-proof...mostly :D
Mistakes are absolutely fine! Sometimes they're even necessary! I actually talk about this a little bit in the video that's gonna drop in...3 minutes ;)
Great video man, really needed this after this week.
Thank you! And I'm glad it helped in some way...
Thank you so much for this video. I've been going to therapy and trying to get help for all the shit I've been through, and hearing "Even I am amazed by everything you've been through" made me sob lol. I will keep this video with me and keep watching it again and again until I finally can relax
Thank YOU for leaving such a heartfelt comment. I'm proud of you for going to therapy. I'm proud of you even if all you did this morning was wake up. There's a lot of pressure out there but we got this 🫶🏻
Brand new to this channel, just got to say your thumbnail game is on point
Hahahaha thank you so much! It was really hard to learn how to levitate 5 things at once
Puff the dlc was amazing
This video was genuienly so comforting for me and so well put together. Thank you for what you said, because someone needed to say it.
Thank you so much for this comment. I really needed that myself. It's good to know this stuff resonates with someone out there 🫶🏻
I've only gotten past the first part and this videos already helped me. Thank you.
Nah thank YOU. It means a lot to hear it's resonating with people!
YESSS I needed to see this video!
Oh wow thank you! I really hope it helps even if just a little bit ☺️
Never clicked on a video faster lol it's comforting to know we all feel the same :)
Thank you so much! And yeah apparently we're all on the same boat...and it's taking a lot of water
Amazing technique to write the achievements of the week, just did and it is really powerful
I'm not lying man it really works 😁
I did the dishes and completed some fieldworkours to become a BCaBA I also called my university to talk about next semester! And on top of all that I went to work yesterday!
That sounds like several completed goals to me! That's amazing! You can relax till 2032 give or take
learned the hard way to slow down... got carpal tunnel syndrome from working too much and now i'm stuck with it as a reminder to not overwork. yay for character development.... i guess? lol
Anything that builds character sucks hard. Learned that from Calvin and Hobbes.
Sorry to hear about the carpal tunnel syndrome...we're being pushed to our literal physical limits with how things are set up these days
Was this made specifically for me?? Thank you ❤
I mean certain parts maybe 😁
I achieved organizing part of my office. It's been a monster staring at me daily for the past year.
Perfect now it's time for that reward system to kick in
@@ToLiveCreatively that's what Palworld is for :) I maaaaay have a bit of a hyper-focus problem with it
Lovely yt algorithm thx for advices
Thanks for watching 😊
u are welcome brother u deserve more then u think 😁@@ToLiveCreatively
excellent video!
Thank you so much!
Amazing video as always 😊
Thank you so much ☺️
The algorithm is getting more precise lol
I cooked a meal today. Its has been 1 month since I turned the stove to cook something
That's incredible...that must've taken a lot of energy to do and look at that...you did it
Good RUclips Algorithm. Instant sub!
Thank you so much! I hope to not disappoint ✌🏻
I have adhd and it makes me feel like a piece of shish
I mean same...but forgiving yourself is a long process. And also comparing yourself to other "more productive" people in order to give yourself permission to relax never works cause...well...they don't work as much as your brain thinks they do.