Daily Habits to Reduce Stress and Anxiety

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  • Опубликовано: 19 май 2024
  • In this video, I teach 10 essential daily habits to manage stress and anxiety. But in this video, I’m also going to explain a way of thinking about stress that can transform it from just something bad that happens to you into something that you can channel and use to be more productive.
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  • @fizzabatool8803
    @fizzabatool8803 3 года назад +2008

    Sometimes when the stress is too much to handle, I write story. I make up fictional characters, dump my problem on one of them and let there be a mentor who tries to resolve the issue. Yes it sounds crazy but it does help.

    • @ShinyaKyo
      @ShinyaKyo 2 года назад +135

      That's a pretty cool and creative way of dealing with it! Thank you for sharing with us :)

    • @capricecraigmill9926
      @capricecraigmill9926 2 года назад +99

      That doesn't SOUND crazy AT ALL....very super creative

    • @JD-uh9od
      @JD-uh9od 2 года назад +25

      Like it that’s very creative xx

    • @TJ-kz1ul
      @TJ-kz1ul 2 года назад +32

      that's amzing, thank you so much for sharing! Not crazy at all!!

    • @suicidalmemester23
      @suicidalmemester23 2 года назад +31

      Helps you treat yourself like a good friend or a mentee. Awesome!

  • @JyoSco007
    @JyoSco007 3 года назад +775

    15:39 "Stress is not the problem. Chronic unresolved stress is the problem."
    This speaks to me.

    • @AdultingShouldntSuck
      @AdultingShouldntSuck 2 года назад +4

      This 100%

    • @dakotasir9849
      @dakotasir9849 2 года назад +4

      Ya dude, this has been such a long term issue and having no clear source some of the time with clear issues at other times. If it came on once a week or every other day I'd be happier than the consistency of it

    • @dakotasir9849
      @dakotasir9849 2 года назад +4

      But I know that the way I think and approach it can greatly effect it. If I feel as tho I am doing the right things and taking the right steps, I'll feel like things are better. It is the uncertainty and lack of confidence in myself that makes it worse

    • @annm4833
      @annm4833 Год назад

      This is me. This stress just feels crushing, and I have to address it! 👍

    • @austinreed4460
      @austinreed4460 Год назад +1

      Does this mean that if I’m stressed for too long, it will cause health problems 😩

  • @LotteFlotteKarotte
    @LotteFlotteKarotte 2 года назад +116

    1. Daily exercise, cardio is best
    2. Good morning routine (cut out social media and coffee maybe)
    3. Reduce media consume, not starting day with news
    4. parasympathetic response, resolve a task to resolve problem or accept
    5. Make checklists to feel good by marking off
    6. Choosing when to carry stress and when to put it down
    7. Dont run from anxiety, go slow, dont br busy all the time, breath, do something grounding
    8.dont multitask, notice where u are, presence
    9. big picture, small picture, if there are too many Things. sort out, make priorities, write down to do lists, journal
    10. sleep enough
    11. ger better at saying no
    12. time in nature (even documentary or pictures)
    13. dont make day to full, make time for Wind down routine at night

  • @smyrnasstory
    @smyrnasstory 3 года назад +860

    “Never be anxious about the next day, for the next day will have its own anxieties.”

    • @lokeshtanwer3585
      @lokeshtanwer3585 3 года назад +22

      😂😂😂
      Cute , funny but demotivating 😛

    • @Gleyi07
      @Gleyi07 3 года назад +36

      I read something similar in the bible.

    • @Lilacs4
      @Lilacs4 3 года назад +95

      Matthew 6:34 (ESV) "Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own."

    • @Lilacs4
      @Lilacs4 3 года назад +38

      My favorite is the verses prior though, it makes a beautiful analogy of nature and makes the ironic comment about how worrying doesn't better or extend your life. :)
      Matthew 6
      25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? 26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life? 28 “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29 Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30 If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you-you of little faith? 31 So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.

    • @solonik29
      @solonik29 3 года назад +8

      I think the idea about that your fears are a lot worse that reality. I knew someone who was paranoid about his brand new car being stretched. He could sleep and was checking his parked car on the street. At some point, the local kid hit with his bike and left a small debt on the bumper. The reaction of the owner was upsetting but a lot less to what was imagined by mind

  • @jasonsands5881
    @jasonsands5881 3 года назад +896

    Sleep reduces anxiety, but anxiety won’t let me sleep

    • @nooshinsafari4493
      @nooshinsafari4493 3 года назад +12

      try melatonin

    • @jasonsands5881
      @jasonsands5881 3 года назад +5

      nooshin Safari I have

    • @lbatemon1158
      @lbatemon1158 3 года назад +49

      Melatonin doesn't work for me either. It hypes me up! I've found writing down three things that happened in the day that I enjoyed, or 3 things I'm thankful for, then in my planner I review my next day and write down anything I'm hoping to accomplish. That tends to help me quiet my mind some (though I rarely get anything on those lists done).

    • @RaZziaN1
      @RaZziaN1 3 года назад +21

      Try to take some time like 4-5 hours before sleep for like 10-15 munutes and do nothing, it will give your brain time to process stuff happened during day, after few days of doing it continously it should help immensely. Also muscle relaxation is also really good stuff.

    • @redvelvetcakeYUM
      @redvelvetcakeYUM 3 года назад +41

      Suggestion from my psychologist:
      - Turn your phone, television off 15-30 minutes before bed.
      - Read a book or magazine before bed. It will lull you to sleep.
      - No eating before bed, your body works harder to break down food it just digested, when it should be resting and rejuvenating for the next day.
      - Listening to meditation videos at bedtime may help.
      - Drink hot calming tea. No caffeine! No coffee!
      - A simple 10 min workout to get your serotonin pumping. You will gather your thoughts before bed and focus on finishing a goal. Afterward you will feel accomplished with a small goal that is attainable to do most days of the week.
      If these do not help, journal. Write what is bothering you physically down. Describe it. Confront it on paper. Express what you felt you “shouldn’t or couldn’t” say out loud or publicly. Then rip it up, ball it up and throw it out or burn it. Just discard it. You WILL feel better afterward 😊
      Herbs that help depression & anxiety:
      Ashwagandha
      St John’s Wort
      Here is a video I found of TIAN covering this topic: ruclips.net/video/wkGWwyrCoRs/видео.html

  • @1fty
    @1fty 3 года назад +1762

    1 - exercise 4:03
    2 - morning routine 5:34
    3 - media 7:28
    4 - parasympathetic response 9:17
    5 - acknowledgment 10:47
    6 - go slow 12:46
    7 - regulate your nervous system 14:43
    8 - big picture/small picture 15:31
    9 - sleep 17:30
    10 - get better at saying NO 18:07
    11 - Nature 18:51
    bonus - Relax 19:29
    Edit: fixed a typo

    • @Travelling_with_my_dog
      @Travelling_with_my_dog 3 года назад +45

      my anxiety usually makes me freeze & become almost unable to function. i want desperately to just hide under the bed-- I almost wish anxiety made me frantically busy! My house could use a good stress-cleaning, but sometimes the thought of overcoming the mess almost overwhelms me.
      it helps me to break big jobs into smaller tasks, and to say them out loud to myself: "okay, now I'm going to do the dishes. Then I'll sort the mail on the dining room table."
      many of your ideas help with my" frozen-rabbit way" of dealing with fear.
      i find that getting out for a walk every day helps me break out of that almost-frozen state. It sometimes becomes a catalyst for other actions. It also helps me sleep better.
      Working in my garden also calms me in a way that sometimes even energizes me.
      Practicing mindfulness has really helped me in recent years; i try to be aware of what exactly it is I'm feeling in my body when I'm anxious, and then to breathe through it (I've held my breath when I'm scared since I was a little kid-- as an adult, i realized that I usually breathe "up high" and have to consciously try to fill my entire lungs with each breath. That almost always calms me down.
      it's all a process, isn't it?

    • @user-hi8rg7bl2s
      @user-hi8rg7bl2s 3 года назад +16

      :) that is helpful yet, please may I encourage others that it is really worth your time to listen to each specific tool. Emma's explanation is so much more than the list conveys, though the list is useful reminder afterward when the content is known. Yes, to take the time to watch this is a good use of your time. It is helpful with understanding how to counter the physiological stress response in practical ways. Thank you, Emma!

    • @peacelovejoyandhappiness
      @peacelovejoyandhappiness 3 года назад +7

      You are really awesome. You do such a nice job for all of us. You are doing God's work for sure. xoxo

    • @joannaoconnor9418
      @joannaoconnor9418 3 года назад +7

      Red is her colour ❤️

    • @toxicwaste920
      @toxicwaste920 3 года назад +4

      i have zero motivation to exercise!

  • @carlvalderrama1252
    @carlvalderrama1252 3 года назад +144

    I was really struggling today, chronic anxiety. Dont wanna lie down or sit up, just constant psychological pain. I went into town on the bus and walked around a bit interacting with people in shops mainly, it made me feel better. Isolation can drive us mad.

    • @andsotheadventurebegins2030
      @andsotheadventurebegins2030 3 года назад +2

      I've struggled a lot in the past month. My dad and stepmom are staying in their new house for the winter, they left in December, and my hours at work are finally letting up now that the holidays are over, so the isolation is really starting to get to me.

    • @elizabethwilk9615
      @elizabethwilk9615 3 года назад +7

      When I have anxiety getting on a bus would be impossible. I can only walk around my neighborhood

    • @puffymuffin9064
      @puffymuffin9064 3 года назад +3

      @@elizabethwilk9615 me too can't get on the bus but I can manage a walk out

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 2 года назад +4

      Carl, Heal yourself from anxiety. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 2 года назад +1

      @@elizabethwilk9615 Heal yourself from negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

  • @robertleinwebber1793
    @robertleinwebber1793 Год назад +12

    PRAYER! PRAYER! PRAYER! So terrific to hear Talking with God in 2023!

    • @anniewilkes6011
      @anniewilkes6011 2 месяца назад

      Doesn't work worth a damn. God's on vacation

  • @bay9258
    @bay9258 3 года назад +40

    Physical tasks help me so much, even if they have nothing to do with what’s causing my anxiety. Cleaning is always my go to

  • @mhafsah
    @mhafsah 3 года назад +27

    I just moved into another country 8000 miles away from home. My anxiety was killing me, I have taken appointments with a therapist and a psychiatrist. However, I am trying to actively manage myself during the rest of the week. And when I find that I have already taken some of the steps you told even before watching this video, it makes me happy that I am on the right path. Your videos are saving my life and I pray that God rewards you better in return.

  • @Alpha_7227
    @Alpha_7227 Год назад +6

    I have always suffered from anxiety my whole life, looking back on childhood as well, especially during my adult life. I have found that since owning a dog that has alleviated some of my anxieties. She is just the cutest being to come home to and wake up to. I think she just keeps me in the present and makes me use all my senses. Life is definitely better with a dog or any pet I would think.

  • @IkamiLog
    @IkamiLog 2 месяца назад +63

    Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

    • @Jennifer-bw7ku
      @Jennifer-bw7ku 2 месяца назад

      Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

    • @elizabethwilliams6651
      @elizabethwilliams6651 2 месяца назад

      Yes, dr.sporessss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

    • @APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU
      @APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU 2 месяца назад

      I wish they were readily available in my place.
      Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
      He's constantly talking about killing someone.
      He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

    • @Jennifer-bw7ku
      @Jennifer-bw7ku 2 месяца назад

      Is he on instagram?

    • @elizabethwilliams6651
      @elizabethwilliams6651 2 месяца назад

      Yes he is. dr.sporessss

  • @calmingsounds2312
    @calmingsounds2312 2 года назад +173

    To the person reading this
    May the stresses in your life melt away and may you find complete peace. Remember to take a moment to yourself and find something to put your mind at ease. MENTAL HEALTH IS IMPORTANT AND YOU ARE IMPORTANT! May your future bring you nothing but peace and blessings! 💕

    • @amysho2192
      @amysho2192 Год назад +1

      And same to you!

    • @inatwirlingram2540
      @inatwirlingram2540 Год назад +2

      How nice
      Thank you very much
      I hope you have a good life 💓

    • @cee1164
      @cee1164 11 месяцев назад +1

      Beautiful thoughts. Blessings and peace to you as well. 🙏☮️

    • @shanniquedasouza8781
      @shanniquedasouza8781 3 месяца назад

      Thank you so much and same to you ❤❤

  • @jessedphillips
    @jessedphillips 3 года назад +212

    I also put things on my list AFTER completing them just so I can mark them off. Satisfying!

    • @donnajk4423
      @donnajk4423 3 года назад +7

      Me too with a star and big tick 👍😃

    • @nicmax444
      @nicmax444 3 года назад +4

      I was literally just wondering today if anyone else does this!

    • @medepresed5123
      @medepresed5123 3 года назад +8

      I thought I was the only one that did this 🤣 it definitely helps when I'm like "I haven't done a thing today!..... Oh wait, yeah I did. I did dishes, I prepped recipes, I took a nap, I cooked, I got dressed, I tidied my night stand..." 😊 Maybe I didn't do the laundry or clean the bathroom like I originally wrote down but I did other things that I prioritized in that moment.

    • @belindarosenheim2322
      @belindarosenheim2322 3 года назад +3

      😳I thought i was the only one!😂

    • @carolwhelihan1514
      @carolwhelihan1514 3 года назад +2

      so funny!! I do this as well! also, smiley faces and self love comments like, "nice job!" Good for you! You are awesome!

  • @alexandercook8996
    @alexandercook8996 3 года назад +96

    My mom used to read me the little house on the prairie stories. I adored them growing up and still do. You’re such a lovely person, I’m so grateful for your informative, scientific, and compassionate videos; they’ve been so incredibly helpful for my trauma healing and anxiety.

  • @rizen9457
    @rizen9457 3 года назад +19

    Love that you spend time in scripture.

  • @elainebezak7158
    @elainebezak7158 3 года назад +157

    Love Therapy in a Nutshell. You’re so calming, and natural. Just started watching. . Lots of videos for me to catch up on. Dealing with anxiety and depression plus a chronic illness in my late 60’s, sometimes feel hopeless. Thanks for the uplifting and positive videos, which gives me a ray of hope 🌟

    • @felicek797
      @felicek797 11 месяцев назад

      Agree! So easy to watch you. Just found you too

  • @svetlanama6814
    @svetlanama6814 3 года назад +63

    I rarely write comments here on youtube, but I must say that after watching this one and some of your other videos, I feel like I finally understand what was going on with me for all these years. This might just be the breaking point and I could not be more excited. Everything comes in together like a puzzle. I hope I am on my way of finding (or reclaiming) my inner peace soon and I am so thankful for your hard work! ❤️

  • @stressfreeyou6849
    @stressfreeyou6849 3 года назад +40

    My tip for sleeping is to start thinking of my Happy Place. I start daydreaming of camping in the woods. Before I know it, my day dream relaxes me so much I fall asleep real fast.

    • @MelB868
      @MelB868 Год назад

      Camping in the woods sounds miserable

  • @bettysgirl81
    @bettysgirl81 2 года назад +23

    This is the best mental health channel I’ve ever seen. Just practical, actionable real advice and you are sooooo calming. So happy I found this!

  • @heartnsoul3357
    @heartnsoul3357 2 года назад +14

    Thank you for mentioning prayer and Bible study in the mornings. Also, drinking a full glass of water first thing in the mornings has surprising abilities to wake you up. I haven't given up coffee yet, but I'm slowing learning the true power of water. Thanks for the many tips for this anxious gal.

  • @ElleAlee
    @ElleAlee 3 года назад +27

    You've helped me through a panic attack today. Thank you!

    • @solomonmartinez5550
      @solomonmartinez5550 2 года назад

      Wim Hof method breathing almost completely cured all the anxiety and depression I was experiencing! I actually started crying when I realized I no longer was at the mercy of stress! It's a beautiful thing to be free 🙂 I highly recommend you check out his beginner video with the breathing at the slower pace.

  • @southwestfloridaliving4302
    @southwestfloridaliving4302 2 года назад +28

    Great video! Our wind down routine is dimming all of the lights and nighttime yoga with hot tea. It’s really a reward to ourselves at the end of a long day.

  • @louisakeddell1628
    @louisakeddell1628 3 года назад +108

    Thank you - these tips are life-changing! I swear if another doctor tells me to drink a warm glass of milk for my crippling anxiety, I am growing a corn crop.

    • @agnespenaranda4102
      @agnespenaranda4102 3 года назад

      5

    • @canoslo6126
      @canoslo6126 3 года назад +1

      I have found that establishing a short daily qi gong practice soothes me down not only in the moment but overall. I didn’t realize how much it helped me until I fell back into a negative stress pattern and stopped daily practice. Whoopsies. 🙄

    • @garethmorgan3665
      @garethmorgan3665 3 года назад

      😆😆

    • @jetstream2467
      @jetstream2467 3 года назад

      Lol 😂

    • @pinkroses135
      @pinkroses135 2 месяца назад

      👩🏻‍🌾😂

  • @RoyceDoherty
    @RoyceDoherty 3 месяца назад +4

    Wonderful advices! I also start my day with reading the scriptures from Holy Bible and prayers, made a huge difference in my day

  • @elizabethmiller4935
    @elizabethmiller4935 Год назад +6

    I am a recently retired elementary school teacher, and about a year ago I started experiencing anxiety. It has gotten progressively worse to the point where I am seeing a therapist and trying some medication. That said, this video is one of the best and most life-changing pieces of therapy I have received to date. I can’t thank you enough, Emma!

    • @iJasdeep
      @iJasdeep Год назад +2

      i hope you get better ❤

  • @elainecole9862
    @elainecole9862 2 года назад +4

    As soon as she said prayer and scriptures, I subscribed! 🙏🏾 Thanks for great content.

  • @yvanbrathwaite3787
    @yvanbrathwaite3787 3 года назад +26

    I'm new to this challenge and I must say what I love is when you say "For me what that looks like" or "For some that looks like"....bridging that gap between the idea you're sharing and reality. It's so beautiful. Thank you 👏

  • @sharongavin1425
    @sharongavin1425 3 года назад +25

    I"ll will promise not to try and read the comments and listen to your video at same time. Works much better when I listen, then read comments afterwards. Thanks for your teachings. I really enjoy them!

  • @thegirlatthefrontdesk3519
    @thegirlatthefrontdesk3519 3 года назад +22

    First off, the fact that you are reading Little House on the Prarie is dope. ♡♡ This really helps and is super relatable.

  • @noramurphy5968
    @noramurphy5968 3 года назад +13

    Thank you. I am a therapist and love your channel as it helps me not only refresh my own knowledge but also frame information for my clients. For me personally, there is nothing better than putting on some music and dancing. I realize this falls under exercise; any way we can find joy in our bodies through movement is beneficial.

    • @larabraver
      @larabraver 8 месяцев назад +1

      Same here, music and dancing make me feel joyful and carefree.

  • @arpitkumarsingh0809
    @arpitkumarsingh0809 Год назад +36

    We don't need meditation!
    Listening to you for 20 min is a meditation in itself 🥰🥰

  • @robdc4829
    @robdc4829 3 года назад +141

    This is simple, but not easy - thanks!
    Two big things for me:
    1. Stress is naturally resolved by taking a physical response.
    2. When there is too much coming at you, the brain interprets this is being in danger, and thus bringing in the anxiety response.

    • @marshellshirley8001
      @marshellshirley8001 3 года назад +2

      Too much to deal with

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 3 года назад +7

      @@marshellshirley8001 Meditation heals anxiety as it reprogrammes the mind. Watch alternate nostril breathing meditation videos on Google and do it for 5 to 10 minutes if possible twice a day. You can sit on a chair or on the ground and do it. Inhale-exhale slowly and feel the relaxation flowing through your mind and body. Negative thoughts will reduce. Shyaaam Sir, Mentor. Make meditation a daily habit.

    • @marshellshirley8001
      @marshellshirley8001 3 года назад

      Thank you

    • @nasreenakhuda
      @nasreenakhuda 3 года назад

      @@shyaaammeneen63 bro in Google it says that stress or anxiety will make face,hands,feets longer in size!! Its also called as acromegaly! And it will cause bump or frontal bossing in the temples of forehead!! Is this all true bro?? Pls reply!!

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 3 года назад

      @@nasreenakhuda Not true. Not possible. It is only in the mind.

  • @FBSANTT
    @FBSANTT 3 года назад +9

    I like that idea "get better at saying no." I have big problems with saying no to people and that has caused me to get ran over. Its all about setting boundaries. I realize that now.

  • @nazila5972
    @nazila5972 3 года назад +10

    Wonderful advices! I also start my day with reading the scriptures from Holy Bible and prayers, made a huge difference in my day 😇

  • @LavenderFieldsForever
    @LavenderFieldsForever 2 года назад +2

    I love that you mentioned prayer and scripture studying in the morning!!!! 💜

  • @SRBOMBONICA86
    @SRBOMBONICA86 3 года назад +59

    For me fast walking is the BEST exercise ,other exercises stress me out ,but walking is amazing,I also LOVE biking but there is lots of cars here where I live ugh

  • @dailydoseofmedicinee
    @dailydoseofmedicinee 3 года назад +36

    Try these when you're feeling anxious or stressed:
    👍Take a time-out.
    Eat well-balanced meals.
    Limit alcohol and caffeine, which can aggravate anxiety and trigger panic attacks.
    Get enough sleep.
    Exercise daily to help you feel good and maintain your health

  • @mrgee4030
    @mrgee4030 Год назад +1

    Your videos are great. You seem comfortable in your own skin. You come off as a very sincere, likable person.

  • @earthpearl3790
    @earthpearl3790 3 года назад +6

    I once heard someone refer to the drive to consume news, as“The lust to know!” I think you could say the same holds true for social media! You are so right about pausing when you wake up, taking time to connect to the body and avoid stimulating / upsetting news and activity. 🔆

  • @marciodossantos9625
    @marciodossantos9625 3 года назад +24

    Ok no coffee today 😉 and I will go for walk before my daily routine..
    You are helping me a lot .
    With All the videos.
    God bless you.
    Thank you

    • @debbiehinds7535
      @debbiehinds7535 3 года назад

      Thank you 4 ur tips.... love from UK Liverpool x I sufferer from anxiety and depression....

  • @mallorivogelpohl2939
    @mallorivogelpohl2939 3 года назад +6

    Girl, you are just awesome! I refer all my clients to your channel and LOVE that you have shared your faith. I hope your hubby won the contest so you can keep this amazing channel going!

  • @terk6856
    @terk6856 2 года назад +2

    I am a psychologist too and I am a Christian. I feel so blessed to find your channel. I have watch few of your videos & I love when you share about your faith and your connection with God apart from the psychological knowledge. You inspire me .

  • @lynnebenn4919
    @lynnebenn4919 3 года назад +18

    I love her relaxed soothing voice. It’s very calming, it helps a lot especially when you are hype. 🙏

  • @judithlighthall2000
    @judithlighthall2000 3 года назад +7

    All of her videos helped me tremendously especially and going through the year that we have been going through and other issues I would highly recommend her videos for anyone and she is so good at them.

  • @yohannoble311
    @yohannoble311 3 года назад +40

    Thanks Emma.. you've been one of the most practical counselors I have ever come across.You are doing a great job.Just the fact that you share your life in small ways, your videos become amazingly relatable.

  • @mylifesmeditations8802
    @mylifesmeditations8802 3 года назад +5

    I love this. you mentioned a lot of different tips which can sometimes get overwhelming if we have no idea where to start but I love how you said that this isn't going to be a quick fix and that we should focus more on making small sustainable changes. It kinda goes back to the whole idea of breaking a challenge/fear down into smaller steps. I've used that technique in so many areas of my life and it's transformative!

  • @NikiMcNally
    @NikiMcNally Год назад +2

    My life has significantly improved since I found your channel. Thank you. You're an incredibly talented and compassionate human. I actually have hope again! 💯

  • @Helen0523
    @Helen0523 3 года назад +13

    Thanks Emma! I find a lot of these steps have similarities to the ones that I’m taking, I feel more reassured now! Also I think its also important to remind ourselves to not manage others’ emotional needs before we have dealt with our own first.

  • @colenugget1620
    @colenugget1620 3 года назад +13

    These videos are genuinely helpful. Before watching this video, I saw stress as something to push back against or get rid off. Now I see stress has a purpose, a biological purpose, which may sometimes be ill suited in the modern environment and so need to be appropriately managed. Somehow seeing stress and anxiety like this makes it seem a little less menacing.

  • @rachellawton9809
    @rachellawton9809 2 года назад +2

    Hi Emma! I have been watching your videos for a while now and wanted to say thank you for making this information available and being so generous with it and with your time. I feel I am in a safe space when I listen to you! Thank you ☺️

  • @Bigjamez2011
    @Bigjamez2011 3 года назад +1

    I’m in tears literally your video makes so much sense ! I wish I could hug you and thank you for this video it literally changes my outlook on life and from here forward so many things I didn’t know . I feel better literally so much better and I’m only half way through this video ! Thank you so much .

  • @nadineswift1852
    @nadineswift1852 3 года назад +7

    “Don’t forget to breath” 💜. Thank you

  • @christinechapman9764
    @christinechapman9764 Год назад +4

    I found myself a really helpful question to ask myself in pressured moments "what here (if anything) is high stakes."
    I realised I was responding to trivial things as if they were "high stakes" when anxious. Sometimes this even caused me to ignore things that were actually high stakes. When I feel myself amping up or shutting down I plan to remember this question.

  • @carlab.1225
    @carlab.1225 3 года назад

    You're entire mental health series is INCREDIBLY helpful! Thank you!

  • @mindbody1083
    @mindbody1083 Год назад +1

    You have such a calm, grounding presence. I can't say how much I appreciate this video. Brilliant job unpacking and personalizing the research into actionable chunks!

  • @Deba7777
    @Deba7777 3 года назад +3

    Makes so much sense. Helps to think I can just do 1 thing when overwhelmed. Thank you for this. Love the background, as I love green and plants! God bless you and your family!

  • @christophergonzalez5772
    @christophergonzalez5772 3 года назад +4

    Thank you! Lately I have been dealing with stress and anxiety. I believe I reached my breaking point and I needed help. Watching/listening to your video was relaxing and the tips you gave are things I want to try.

  • @nirelmar
    @nirelmar 3 года назад +1

    The way you describe our inability to physically deal with modern stressors really resonates. I have been thinking & talking about anxiety in this way for awhile, and it is refreshing to find a professional talking about it in this way, too. Also appreciate putting a positive spin on anxiety & stress - I try to think about them in this way, too. Thank you!

  • @sherujii
    @sherujii Год назад +25

    Emma you’re honestly amazing.. I’m going through the toughest time in my life and I’ve developed the worst anxiety and now dpdr and I have been living everyday terrified and your videos and tips are so useful. I am starting to feel hopeful again and happy that I have somewhere to go to if I need help since I don’t have anyone. Just thank you so much is there any way to better support than just subscribing? I am truly so grateful thank you so much.

    • @OrangeElephant25
      @OrangeElephant25 Год назад +4

      Hiii, I’m sorry to hear you’re having a tough time right now. This time last year I had the worst anxiety of my life and first real experience with DPDR. It was terrifying for me and I never thought I’d feel normal again. Now I don’t experience it at all anymore! No joke. I heard other people say they fully recovered but never believed them, now here I am!
      A HUGE part of my recovery was educating myself on DPDR using Shaun O’Connor’s eBook and watching his RUclips videos. If you’re looking for other resources to help, try him out!
      Just wanted to let you know you’re not alone and it really does get better. Again, people say this all the time but I’m telling you the truth. One day you’ll be sharing your story with someone else like I am with you.
      Remember, these are just thoughts and sensations and neither can hurt you. It’s just anxiety. Stay strong 💜

    • @amenhotep7704
      @amenhotep7704 Год назад +3

      You have God with you, and i feel you when you say "worst anxiety"... shooting thru the roof

    • @amenhotep7704
      @amenhotep7704 Год назад +2

      Know that i totally understand what you are going thru

    • @naturoclips
      @naturoclips Год назад +1

      I'm so glad you are feeling hopeful, keep it up you are stronger than you can imagine. This video is amazing, Emma hit the nail on the head with these tips

    • @user-vk3by7et5r
      @user-vk3by7et5r Год назад

      Try this this is what I do when things start to get to me. When I wake up in the morning each day I tell myself that regardless of what happens in this world nothing really matters because we are only here temporarily anyway. And try to keep that frame of mind through out the day. If something happens just say so what it doesn't matter one day I'll be gone anyway and my soul will go to the next level nothing in this world really matters.

  • @Jasmine-lx9kt
    @Jasmine-lx9kt 3 года назад +3

    I am so grateful to have found your channel. I find these videos really helpful and your advice very doable and straightforward. Thank you so much for sharing your gifts :)

  • @sebastian8280
    @sebastian8280 3 года назад +3

    thank you so much! this isn't for winding down but I intend to start my days off by reading in an effort to set the tone for knowledge seeking for the day.

  • @elizabeththomson5013
    @elizabeththomson5013 3 года назад +1

    What a lovely person you are! Thank you for your brilliant advice.

  • @grainnegrau
    @grainnegrau 2 года назад +1

    I still go back and read the Little House books. Laura is one of my biggest heroes as a pioneer, a lover of nature, a can-do person, a volunteer within her community, and of course an author of classic, beautiful books based on her early life. There's something in her writing that's calming in itself. So reading something not overly stressful, being in a relaxed position - outside on my hammock is my favorite spot, and making sure to breathe and notice my surroundings once in a while. That's one of my happy places.

  • @blazemordly9746
    @blazemordly9746 3 года назад +64

    I see Emma post a video, 2 things happen: 1. i click on the video
    2. I click like

  • @ares395
    @ares395 2 года назад +4

    Your channel is super helpful, you give great advice and I'll try to give it to people who are close to me. I've made myself a method of writing things I've done throughout the day as a way of fighting with my depression and taking myself down all the time but now I see this technique can be super powerful with a lot of different things. I hate lists normally but it just feels nice to look at things you've done and have a proof that you are not useless. I think I might also start noting things that I've not done that day that are bad, like bad thoughts or excessive drinking etc.

  • @lmmcintires
    @lmmcintires 3 года назад

    Thank you for being so practical and down-to-earth.

  • @try2bu459
    @try2bu459 Год назад +2

    I find this to be so helpful, personally. It's so important to really look after ourselves. I appreciate how she explained not only the medical benefits of releasing stress but also the psychological ones. I actually do some of these already. I'm going to implement the other parts in my life using the steps she talked about - not doing it all at once. I'm hoping it will help with my cPTSD, anxiety and stress.

  • @rosesommers6227
    @rosesommers6227 Год назад +7

    Thank you for doing this. I am so impressed you do these sessions free. I believe they have been helpful to many and and will continue. I have listened to several and they have been very freeing to my mind. Answer to prayer. 🙏❤ Again thank you so much. Blessings to you and your family.

  • @trentgray2109
    @trentgray2109 3 года назад +6

    I am a counselor and I can feel the benefit when I practice these things that you are sharing or learning to manage and control the unnecessary anxiety-producing activities in my life.

    • @mohdizad3538
      @mohdizad3538 3 года назад

      Don't forget pray for me when u got find The God of Allah😉

  • @gloria-verasiess8295
    @gloria-verasiess8295 3 года назад

    Awesome!! I have bouts of PTSD and I can relate to everything you discussed. Brilliant work, warmly executed! BRAVO

  • @christinechapman9764
    @christinechapman9764 Год назад

    I love that "leaving work prayer". I'm leaving them in your hands, such a perfect way to release resistance in that moment.

  • @phileagle8432
    @phileagle8432 3 года назад +3

    Great video - thank you so much! I’m actually doing some of these already but it’s great to understand why they are helpful! It almost reenforces them somehow and encourages me to keep to a sensible routine 🙂

  • @whiterabbit3618
    @whiterabbit3618 3 года назад +17

    I can’t explain how magical it has been for me finding your YT channel! Everything you say really speaks to me and I have just ordered the Healing Trauma book that you recommended by Peter Levine. I love your polytunnel, is that asparagus on the left? love to garden too and my tunnel is my favourite place. Thank you so much for sharing this wisdom and these skills with us all. I’ve been finding your videos really helpful. Blessings to you and your family from the UK x

  • @elainegranillo3367
    @elainegranillo3367 3 года назад

    I'm so glad I found this video. It's exactly what I needed. Now I'm going to binge watch your other ones. You have the most calming voice. I actually could feel myself starting to relax. Thank you!!

  • @harribo54321
    @harribo54321 3 года назад +10

    Thank you for your informative videos. You have a very compassionate nature that comes across and the videos on anxiety have helped me a lot! I do breathing exercises daily using an app on my phone after watching your video on square breathing.
    Some good ideas here too, I really liked how you explained that urge to go faster at work when the anxiety comes. I do that and being more aware of it now will hopefully help me to slow down.
    I find it is very important for me to get out in nature every day and exercise.
    Something I’ve also found that helps me, is having a set lunch I have each day. I just have different sandwiches with salad but it helps me to have that planned in advance. Also, having food in the freezer for dinner means I am prepared for those days when I’m not feeling functional enough to cook. Thanks again for your videos. They have helped me a lot 😊❤️

  • @mariarooney6262
    @mariarooney6262 2 года назад +3

    These videos are a tremendous help to me and I share them with my adult children and hopefully they take time out of their busy schedules to listen. You are doing God’s work. Even though if feels overwhelming, His yoke is easy and His burden light. If we couldn’t handle it, He wouldn’t have entrusted us to the work. Just keep on keeping on. He doesn’t allow us to see many things He just wants us to trust and obey. It seems like a long journey, and you might have a long way to go because you are so young, but your future might not be as expected. You are a truly blessed person and only because of God. Otherwise you wouldn’t be blessed. Look around, I know you do. ❤️😘

  • @houndmother2398
    @houndmother2398 8 месяцев назад

    Thank you. After years of anxiety I need to implement these. Past month in particular has been rough.

  • @MarvelousSara
    @MarvelousSara 3 года назад

    Thank you so much for creating this channel. I find it often brings me back into a solution based self nurturing and helps me avoid my more destructive habits like freezing in my anger or self pity. Thank you for your help.

  • @turisteandoentexas
    @turisteandoentexas 3 года назад +6

    Thank you for the recommendation on the affordable counseling 🙂. What a great talk. Its definedly an eye opener to see anxiety as a positive way to help you get moved to get things done. That has happened to me and Honestly that's when I have solved the most amazing things that happened in my life !

  • @grainnegrau
    @grainnegrau 2 года назад +4

    And thank you so much for your wonderful videos. I'm working through a mindbody syndrome right now for chronic pain that's last and disabled me for nearly 17 years. It did begin with an actual running injury, but it spiraled into something so much worse. And it hit me at a time of both good stresses and bad - you could substitute the word anxieties. Through my mindbody work, I realize that though most people would describe me as a laid back person, I used to be an anxiety junkie, getting as much done in a day as I dared to do, always pushing myself to the limit. But it took its toll over time. And even now, especially because for now I still can't exercise at the levels I used to, I have a lot of anxiety beneath the surface that often registers as MBS symptoms.
    I thank you so much for your videos which have given me so many new skills for managing stressors/triggers and my anxiety level. Using them and doing some other practices has already yielded promising improvement in my symptoms. So from the bottom of my heart, thanks so very much! You have made a positive difference in my life, and I'm sharing your channel with others in the hope that their lives improve as well from engaging in your knowledge and wisdom. Thanks again and God bless!

  • @Vk-sm2hg
    @Vk-sm2hg 2 года назад +1

    ❤ this. Just listening to you break it down in a simple way, really helps.
    There's also something so genuine and calming about you when you speak.
    Many thanks and many blessings. 🙏🏼🌼

  • @funky_moose
    @funky_moose 3 года назад

    I love the videos filmed in your garden! Your voice is so soothing and I always feel so calm after listening to you. Thank you for everything you do and for sharing your wisdom.
    Would you be open to doing more videos that involve your faith?

  • @jaimetan
    @jaimetan 3 года назад +5

    Really great tips here! Sleep for sure is definitely one of the key factors for helping me reduce stress... and if I can't sleep or if anxiety levels run high, Yoga Nidra is definitely a practice I turn to - even during the day, to help me get a souped up nap during the day. 15 - 30 minutes of Yoga Nidra can help me feel refreshed, like I've had 2 - 3 hours of deep sleep. As you've laid out here, it's never just the ONE thing you do, but the compounded results of layering all of these things you've touched on. Thank you!

  • @miglage
    @miglage 2 года назад +3

    Very grateful for the valuable content of this video. I have been watching many of your videos over the last weeks to try to solve my desperate situation with anxiety, but while I was watching this video in particular, focusing my attention to your explanations, I felt as if a light were lit in my consciousness and suddenly I could have a much better insight and understanding of my problem. What you mention about the effect of obsessive watching news if specially revealing to me. I had come to the same conclussion long ago, but now I understand better how our mind-body works. Again, most grateful for this excellent video. Kind regards from Spain

  • @lynettesauer9890
    @lynettesauer9890 3 года назад +1

    Love your videos. I especially appreciate the tone and quality of your voice. Very real and soothing.

  • @yayahermosa8310
    @yayahermosa8310 3 года назад +1

    You have helped me in many ways with me dealing with stress. My God keep blessing and keeping you.

  • @arifabeh-afarin6748
    @arifabeh-afarin6748 3 года назад +6

    Thank you for making this video! Also, your voice is so calming :)

  • @Books_Makeup
    @Books_Makeup 3 года назад +3

    I practice breathing deeply. This video is a helpful reminder. Thank-you for saying that there isn't a magic bullet.

  • @abigailsoto9600
    @abigailsoto9600 2 года назад

    You are such a blessing and have saved me from multiple breakdowns. So grateful for your life.

  • @robertasalas8661
    @robertasalas8661 2 года назад

    Thank you so much for sharing your time and professionalism with me/others to help us try and help ourselves to be aware of our emotions and bring them to a different level of calmness. Anxiety and depression are very challenging but I'm willing to do my part to help myself and your videos have been very helpful. May God continue to us you and bless you. 🙏🏽🕊🙏🏽

  • @sincerelystone9878
    @sincerelystone9878 2 года назад +9

    Yes to prayer and scripture every morning - it sets the course of your day ;) All tips given are so helpful - Thank you so much for this!

  • @shobhas8729
    @shobhas8729 3 года назад +82

    I already feel relaxed at the end of you vedio . I needed to hear your comforting advice , thank you

    • @TherapyinaNutshell
      @TherapyinaNutshell  3 года назад +9

      Glad it was helpful!

    • @mr.e7541
      @mr.e7541 3 года назад +2

      Your E and O are reversed in vEdIo. Video

    • @fervcorsica3358
      @fervcorsica3358 3 года назад +4

      Her voice is so soothing

    • @Sharonjrainey
      @Sharonjrainey 3 года назад +1

      Thanks Emma, emotion can be constructive when used well and your insights are fuel to enable positive changes, fire up healthy choices and make more satisfying lives within reach. Go well, Judith

    • @deplaya5815
      @deplaya5815 3 года назад

      Not certain about the points made but ,if anyone else wants to learn about best ways to overcome shyness try Megarno Shyness Magician (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? Ive heard some super things about it and my partner got amazing results with it.

  • @gobblefunkingsnozzcumbers8636
    @gobblefunkingsnozzcumbers8636 3 года назад +2

    I've been struggling with Anxiety Disorder since I was a kid. Finally taking therapy and getting medical help. Your videos help calm me down so much. And make me want to keep working towards getting better. They make me hopeful. Thank you. I'm not a religious person, but if I were I'd send a million prayers for you. ❤️ Thank you again ❤️

  • @sandylynn366
    @sandylynn366 3 года назад

    This video helps me build on work I've recently done in therapy to end some bad habits and replace them with healthy practices. THANK YOU!

  • @mandeepkaurbrar1303
    @mandeepkaurbrar1303 3 года назад +4

    Your voice is so calming❤️

  • @McCetera
    @McCetera 3 года назад +20

    The problem with mid roll ads: an ad about coronavirus interrupts a video on how to deal with stress. Perfect.

    • @danlanphear
      @danlanphear 3 года назад +2

      And all the election ads you can't skip. It's so jarring. But that's what RUclips wants so you'll pay them to stop.

    • @pascaledominique170
      @pascaledominique170 3 года назад

      Download AdBlockPlus. Works to block all ads, even on RUclips

    • @The_New_Abnormal_World_Order
      @The_New_Abnormal_World_Order 3 года назад

      I gave in and paid for RUclips premium. I couldn't deal with the ads.

  • @ahouidaccord
    @ahouidaccord 3 года назад +1

    I discovered you 3 days ago. I'm completely fond of your voice and work.

  • @jimjames2516
    @jimjames2516 Год назад +1

    Thank you for the positive videos!!! Also I agree your morning routine includes prayer and scripture this helps me a lot!!! God bless you!!

  • @Getting.Better
    @Getting.Better 3 года назад +33

    Dear Emma, learning that our brains were evolved to release chemicals in a physical way was awesome. Yes the coping skills and shortcuts won't resolve things. Love your work.

    • @lakshmipillai9090
      @lakshmipillai9090 3 года назад +2

      It's not meant to be a replacement to therapy....only an addition....

    • @jackdarby2168
      @jackdarby2168 3 года назад +3

      Belief in "Evolution" is not normal for humans. Only after Darwin did anyone took Evolution seriously? Befote that, the whole of human kind, always thought God created humans for a purpose. I mean how did the people in the distant past think about these things. It's not a Scientific position to believe in "Evolution"(or random mutation aiding survival of species) but a Philosophical and Metaphysical way of looking at the world. Instead of imagining your fear and stress as "accidental", it's possible to realise that these are not accidental at all rather they are given per individual to individual as "crosses to bear", so that we become more humble; So we can develop the Virtues ( you know the Seven virtues)

    • @Getting.Better
      @Getting.Better 3 года назад

      @@lakshmipillai9090 I never said that. May be your interpretation is different.

    • @Getting.Better
      @Getting.Better 3 года назад +1

      @@jackdarby2168 Learning about evolution makes us understand some things. If you can learn why giraffe neck is long you understand that repeated practice grows organs. Even some brain cells in case of neuroplasticity. I didn't know seven virtues earlier. Just read them. And I believe that so called crosses to bear are not needed to achieve them. Sure heart break increase our spiritual growth. But how many of us have facilities to cross such barriers. Ask people abused at home how their life's go on then you can understand reality.

    • @jackdarby2168
      @jackdarby2168 3 года назад +1

      @@Getting.Better They say
      "Love the sinner, not the sin"
      Nobody said life was or is ever ment to be easy.
      The Creator of gods and men alike, him we call Father, Brahma or Allah, is it possible that he could have ever made a mistake, even in the life of a single individual creature of his? Was he slacking off in his job? Common opinion of people is that this is impossible.
      In other words everything has purpose. Now purpose implies direction ( so it's more like a Vector than a Scalar), this means everything that is has purpose is going somewhere. In other words everything slowly but surely is trying to go back into the principle from which it was created, is sustained, and for which it is destroyed namely God.
      Since everything will finally "meet one's maker", why don't we skip a couple of steps and get to know him already ( you're Hindu, right? Isn't this the real meaning of "Yoga", Union of the created creature back into the Creator)
      This is why they (the Scholastics) decided to put Theological Virtues in a class above the Cardinal Virtues, because the former are said to be closer to God. ("Theo" means something that has to do with God and you know that we use "logy", for anything concerning knowledge)