Exactly what I kept saying as I watched with tears. I would hope this would even go further, the abusers are reported even if this is years later. I hurt and am also pleased to see how these young ladies are moving on with theirs lives but not without a dark cloud hanging over them. For the mothers who accept the so-called help from the perpetrators, the signs are extremely obvious so stop accepting when you can clearly see the control these ugly, abusive, nasty, disgusting adults are. They can/could be your son, daughters, husbands, stepfathers, son-in-laws, deacons, pastors, priests who we are told to trust. Yes I said it, females also abuse so don't dismiss it. This is why our society is so aggressive and violent, we have no fear of God or human beings. Jamaica let's stand up for what is right and we will get back to what was a loving, fun and upright country. Ladies I take my hat off to you. Yendi, I believe this is one of the most important shows you've done to date. A subject many would not think of broaching as they expect victims would not want to address 'abuse' whether physical or emotional. Thanks and sending love to my beautiful country Jamaica. From 🇨🇦
I'm a grown woman who is still carrying scars from experiencing sexual abuse as a child. My experience was similar to Courtney's. Only I was abused by multiple people. It left me with fears that I have never been able to shake off. I was so extremely protective about my kids and now my grandkids. I lived with one of my abusers for years. I ended up running off and getting married at 18 to get away from him because I didn't see any other way to escape. Now, I talk to young women whenever I get the chance and share my story and try to guide them. It's my way to deal it.. I feel, if I can help other girls I'm at least doing something positive with my experience.
This was by far the hardest episode to unpack.Hats off to these lovely young ladies. I feel like Courtney should be elsewhere and not around her immediate family because I can only imagine how much of a trigger they are for her. It's crazy how most of our young girls are experiencing sexual abuse, fondling, incest, rape, etc and we as a society continue to look the other way as if it doesn't exist. We have failed them, both girls and boys and continue to protect the pediphiles by not speaking up.
To Ranique (hope I spelled it right) For the question, “why did you feel the need to protect him?” You were not protecting him, but rather you were protecting yourself and your family. Your abuser made himself a type of security for your family.. financially, emotionally etc. He secured your family publicly, while he hurt you in private. You were protecting that public security. As you said, groomers are very strategic, he knew exactly what he was doing. Secondly, you were protecting yourself from potentially experiencing more trauma.. meaning, telling the world that this “great” man was doing something so bad would bring about a lot of attention which could inflict some more trauma for you. There would be people who wouldn’t believe you, there would be people gossiping about it (especially in the church).. there would be people asking questions and creating their own narrative for YOUR story. Exposing sexual trauma is a lot emotionally and it can definitely traumatize you further if you’re not ready to talk about it. And in your case, you were exposing the monster in someone who’s considered a hero to others.. and that is not an easy thing to do. Telling people that the person they love and adore is actually a monster is scary… and knowing that saying something could affect other people’s lives (beyond the abuser) is a heavy burden to carry. I too was abused and I was very worried that if I said something I would cause others a lot of pain.. specifically the wife of my abuser. I did not want to feel responsible for destroying a marriage. I did not want to feel responsible for causing a woman pain and heartache. Furthermore, I knew and loved his family. I feared causing them pain and creating a riff within a family of people I love. I even feared to some extent that some of his family members would resent me for speaking my truth. But what I didn’t understand was that anything that happened as a result of me telling was HIS fault. He would’ve hurt his family. He would’ve hurt the people who love him. He would’ve caused his wife pain, he would’ve cause her heartache.. not me. I imagine you must’ve felt this way about people in your church. People who you love.. people who love your abuser.. With that being said, you were protecting the feelings and emotions of those you love. You mentioned that your father is your person. I can’t imagine how he took the news of your abuse. And I can’t imagine what it was like for you to see your dad process that his baby was hurt by a man who should’ve protected her. When those we love are hurting, we tend to carry that hurt as well. And unless you are absolutely ready to work through the massive amount of hurt and understand (both cognitively and emotionally) that none of it is your fault, telling will break you even more!! You were NOT protecting that monster. You were protecting yourself and those you love. I too had the same question asked of me in the past and it took me years to see that I wasn’t protecting him. I hope you can see that too 🤍
I cried so hard. What sweet young ladies they are!! They all are going to be very successful. I pray for healing and peace of mind. Keep your heads up young ladies your future will be AWESOME!!!!😇🙏🏿❤❤❤❤❤
I really hope these ladies get Justice. The taxi man, brother and pastor must pay for these crimes. Hope concerned members from the relevant authorities see this interview and bring them to Justice.
This makes me so angry and sad. These men should be in the jail doing some hard labour. The pain in their voices just breaks me. 💔💔💔 That's why I vow to protect my daughter with my life, my life!!
Listening to these three young ladies makes me want to even have a closer bond with my daughter where she feels comfortable to tell me anything and everything no matter how threatening she may feel by someone I want to be her save space.
@ Yendi, can you please do a program about BOYS and young MALES who have been sexually abused and exploited. This happens VERY much in Jamaica and is pretended to he secret.
Yendi happy you carried a trained person on .another thing I hope someone from the school is watching and invite her back to do history in cxc .Yendi you handled that interview extremely well and respectfull.
Treat each person with love and respect. Behind the smiles...... you never know. I pray God provides healing, strength, and genuine support for ALL the persons who have been abused.
I have been through similar situation. I feel their pain. Lots of children still going through things like this. It breaks my heart 🥺 I hope they will find healing ❤️❤️
The culture and criminal justice system are failing these young women. I wish there were safe, loving places for these young women to go. I’m pained at the thought of these young women having to return to their situations. The comment section shows a level of support that needs to be made more readily available in real life. I pray that these young women get beauty for their ashes. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I understand what you are saying however the system is there but sometimes especially family members don't want to report or victim shamed so that they don't report...the system can't go through the process until the victims are ready
Courtney needs to get out of that house, someone please assist her and also their mother's need to go to counseling Lord thank you Yendi for getting these young ladies to come forward with their story, nuff respect to alll three young ladies. Lord continue to cover them with your healing power 🙏🙏
I hope and pray that every young child and adult who is being sexually, physically and emotionally abused and blackmailed, can see this program and come out of this emotional cycle.
I'm so sorry for what happened to these young ladies. And it's not too late for these rapes to be charged. Hope that the police 🚔 take this up in hand ✋ and charged these wicked men.
This was a very hard watch but a very necessary one. Sadly there are many youngsters who are in this situation in Jamaica. Programs like this will help to highlight that no kind abusive behaviour should be normalised. Not sexual abuse, mental abuse, or physical abuse as it hardens the society in ways that manifest themselves negatively.
My blood boils and my heart for these beautiful young ladies. I pray they can get the right support so that they can thrive as survivors. They deserved protection and as a society we failed them. Blessings on them. Sending love. God.. what a travesty in our society that has been prevailing for so long. 😡😡
God Bless these beautiful, courageous young women ! They are survivors and I am glad that they spoke up. I am SICK and TIRED of these DISGUSTING Caribbean women, who use their daughters as a MEANS $$$$ for sick and perverted men to put a PRICE on these young girls heads. Similarly, the other little girl the mother ● protected her predator son , who was molesting her little daughter. ● I pray for HEALING for these beautiful young women. I hope they continue to HEAL and find a happy place of comfort and everlasting love...💕💕💕and PEACE .
I love shows like these. They bring awareness to what is happening to our young ladies. My only concern is that I hope when these guests leave, there is help for them outside of these shows. I also hope that psychiatrists and psychologists are involved in assessing if these ladies are mentally ready to share their stories on such a huge platform. What about their families? one young lady said no one in her family knows. After allowing them to be vulnerable, what protection do they have when they leave the show. Do we send them back into their abusive situation
Good evening… as the Executive Director, the interview was done a month or so in advance of being released, her close family members were informed of the interview and she got some time to speak with her mom. They all have been in counseling leading up to interview and their counselors were aware of the interview and have been in dialogue with them since it has been aired. Outside of that we collectively have been praying for them because not everything is physical, somethings come but for prayer and fasting. Myself and Yendi took all the measure we can possible take before recording and releasing the interview. And measures are in place to monitor their reaction and emotions as they navigate the after. All I ask is that you continue to send them encouraging words cause as you best believe it they are reading every comment and be praying for them. Thank you for your support and love. You can follow the Angelic Ladies Society Ltd on Instagram to see and participate in the work that we do. Blessings #shespeaks
Being brave and vulnerable is hard,and you young ladies have decided to share your most agonizing experiences and I lift my hat off to you because many individuals never speak of their trauma and it continues to control them for the rest of their lives. The emotional response associated with trauma and traumatic event keeps individuals in the cycle. Breaking the cycle is hard but necessary… healing is important to target shame, self blame, guilt, anger, anxiety, fear, hopeless, confusion and the numbness associated with a traumatic experience. Sexual abuse and rape is rampant in the Jamaican landscape but is not spoken about. Having these conversations are necessary and helpful to all.
More should be done as the perpetrators are around and is left to do it to someone else. They should be counseling for those men and let them know that the Authorities know what they done . They are just out there to prey on someone else if they haven't done so already and I swept under the rug because of fear.
If you girls ever see this, I want to commend you on your bravery and strength. No matter how hard some days may be always remember that you are strong. The fact that you are so young and are able to speak out about your experiences shows your strength and that your already on your way to healing. Take life one day at a time and continue being great!!!!!
Let’s facilitate MORE SPACES that allow for speaking out… too many girls and women feel like they have to suffer in silence or hide the truth because the burden of proof is on them and the man is scotch free.. roaming and touching other girls. But I pray that in my capacity that I will always be ready to assist in the healing Process of every woman I come in contact with.. you too can help normalize speaking out… let’s listen more and believe more and if anything be more informed and knowledgeable about signs…
Yendi you have taken us to a space in the ashes that is beyond beauty and the bravery of these young ladies has blown away the ashes and revealed a depth that needed to be exposed. As the tears flow I pray that they come with healing, peace, and empowerment.
I went through similar, Jamaican families can be so rigid and closed minded where expressing emotions and talking through trauma is concerned, I had no family support but I had amazing and supportive friends who helped me navigate, even following me to the planned parenthood after I told them what happened. Having a support system makes healing easier.
Omg!! I saw the topic of this episode and for several days I avoided watching it but I went back and watched today!! Lawd I cried. This bought back so much for me! These girls are sooo BRAVE! Keep holding your heads up. I will not lie. It don’t go away but it get a bit easier to live with as the years go by.
Where do I begin! I’m so hurting for these kids! How can that little girl, still be living in the same house, with her abuser, her flesh and blood, and the mother is ok with it! The mother is abusing her, in another form and needs to be jailed herself! Why aren’t any of these nast, dutty perverts, in prison! Yes this happens all over the world, but the Jamaican government is doing squat about domestic violence and child abuse!
Don't say that, the system is there but most time family of the victims or sometime the victims themselves are scared of the repercussions or societal shame
I pray to god for these ladies and also for them to forgive the offenders cause that’s where the true healing process begins. No ladies should have their innocents or childhood taken away from them just like that.
These young ladies are brave!!! Thanks Yendi for speaking to them and bringing more awareness to ongoing issue in our country. All the perpetrators need to go to jail. I pray 🙏 for healing for them!! Just keep your heads up and remember God is in control and he did not bring you this far to leave you. He will never leave or forsake you!!
Awesome show again Ms Yendi, Awesome guests too. Far too many females and males have experienced sexual assaults and then lifetime trauma it causes. It prevents many to trust or love freely. As a male, I have experienced sexual assaults as a child by older females and many males don't see it as assaults. I have seen many females about to or being assaulted and stepped in and stopped it, while many males join in. 90% of females I have dated as told stories of sexual assaults experienced sometimes by family members, these abuse create a broken world and we need to fix, but not just males abuse of females, but also females of other females and males, and males abuse on females and males.
Yendi: oh my God - this one has me in tears 😭. I am almost 50 and to be honest no matter how much counseling I get instances in my life reverts to hurts and pains I experienced in my childhood and adult years by family members and family friends. Sometimes when things get so hard I blame myself even though I know their actions not my fault. See just like each individual I feel I was passed around but the resilience in me is surviving. Jamaica our homeland is grounded in generational trauma that has gone either unnoticed or just given a blind eye. I must honestly say some parents are so entrenched with these abuse they try to normalize it. Strength is within us to rise. Mothers please don’t allow what you experienced to continue due to temporary situations - poverty is not forever. I am a testament to that, I pray my mother would be more open and honest but it’s reality I have to heal for me
This was very hard to watch. What beautiful and brave ladies to speak up about what happened to them. I pray for their healing and hope that by sharing their stories someone will know that they too can stand up and talk out.
I feel all your pain. I am proud of each one of you to speak up. I am 29 years old and i recently find the courage to speak up about my experience. Pray that you guys will continue to to work On your healing journey. You guys going to be amazing.. #notorape
We hold space for you and we will continue to extend our prayers to include every girl, every woman who has been sexually assaulted. I pray that one day we will all be able to reach over and hold a sister and embrace her into her own healing … love and light with you as you navigate this next chapter of your life..
This is a big topic, so many people have been through so much and hide it under the smile, the laugh, the food, etc. Thanks for bringing this to the forefront, this pain last for a lifetime even if you are separated from the perpetrators. I pray that these young ladies will get the help they need so that they can heal. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I recently heard of a young lady who was lured to her neighbors, assaulted and got pregnant from it. Wouldn’t tell her parents out of fear and they kicked her out of the home once it was clear she was expecting a child. Can you imagine that??!!!
So many. This been happening for so many generations. I was 13 when I got raped. I went home that night and couldn’t tell anyone. I kept that secret for all those years. Never spoke about it until I was in my forties. I was ashamed and blamed myself.
This is so hard to watch, but I had to because it touched me. I have a daughter who is twenty and I’m so protective of her, no one can ever try to hurt her, because i have to protect her in anyway I can. I’m really sorry to go off like that. Yendi please get help for these young ladies, please follow up with them. Thanks ladies for sharing. Thanks Yendi for this space.
Yendi I have to commend you again for providing a safe space for these three young ladies to tell their stories. It is so important because others in their age group and younger/ older will see them and know that’s it’s ok to speak up. We know that many does not speak up out of fear of not being believed or who to trust.It was also important for bringing a professional to help the young ladies navigate their healing process. There is truly beauty in the ashes. Well done, this episode nearly did me in but it is so necessary and hopefully it will encourage others to know that’s it ok to come out of the shadows. Blessings to you.
What a beautiful and empowered episode! Thank you again Yendi for giving all three young ladies a safe place to share their experiences! I'm also passing about protecting other young people from men and women who prey on youth in the church... It hurts my heart to know this is still happening. God will expose everything! I pray each of the young ladies will use their stories to continue to give other women hope... they are all stronger and more beautiful than the can ever imagine ❤
Just listening to this is hurting something in my belly because even though my uncle tried to he didn't but it still had a traumatic effect on me😞. And also others follow along😞. The trigger words she said are so true 😞😞. But I'm praying and holding on to heal from this trauma and help others girls and boys and know that we all can overcome this, because it's from the pit of hell and we must have Gods strength to look the devil In the eye and tell them “Get thee behind me satan”!!!.
Thank you Yendi for doing this interview. I hope that others young girls or boys who are experiencing sexual molestation will find their voices after watching this program.
I commend these young ladies for their bravery. Speaking out is never easy, especially when you're young. I hope their stories wake us up! Sexual predators often seek out vulnerable women; those they feel aren't empowered to fight back or hold them accountable for their actions. We need to prioritize protecting the women in our communities (of all ages). We need to hear them, and like Dr. Morgan said, ask how we can help... and follow through. This was such a powerful episode, Yendi. 💗
I was anxious to finish the episode all day. This was great and ladies you are all brave. An example that support is available and possible. Yendi you are tapping into topics that are necessary. Thank you for having the professional as well. Tough episode but great. Thank you to your team.
This is so sad...as a mother to a teenage daughter I promise to always have her back...I wish these young women nothing but the best in life.. Virtual Hugs to you all...As we celebrate Child Abuse and Sexual Assault Awareness Month.
Thanks Yendi and your guest as well for giving these 3 beautiful and brave young ladies a safe space for them to share their stories!!! Post traumatic pain is not easy and I commend all of you
I’m so very proud of these beautiful young ladies. God bless you all for taking this step to share your stories. The question I always have is; Why does it sound as if none of the perpetrators are being punished for what they have done to these kids? Why does it always seem like our (West Indian/Caribben) societies find some way to make excuses for these horrible people? I pray that we can do better for our young people and show them that not only are they not at fault, but the society is there to protect them from these predators. In the words of Lila Ike “sharpen the Las dem, him can’t too hard to find” Thanks for this Yens!
The system is there but most time family members don't want to face societal shame...the system cannot work until the victims and family are willing and ready to go through the process
I hope this interview with these brave and beautiful young ladies will assist many others in opening up and speaking out. Another brilliant interview Yendi. Ladies thanks for sharing, it must have taken a lot of courage to do this.
Omg..These young girls are brave.. I am praying for their safety and healing. Thank you Yendi for your safe space and bringing their stories to light. Wishing them much success. They all have an amazing testimony..To God be the glory!
Yendi, I cried along with these 3 beautiful nubian princesses. This was very emotional and gut wrenching. I do hope they'll receive the necessary help that they need. May God help them to heal....and other young ladies in their situation 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼. Mothers, please listen to your daughters, see their pain and be aware of predators...
Thank you Yendy for having these young ladies share their stories. I'm at the beginning and I'm literally in tears. Stay strong ladies and thank you all for sharing 🙏 ❤️
Three beautiful ladies. God bless you for sharing your stories. Praying for the mothers out there who are not strong enough to protect their daughters.
It’s been such an awesome privilege watching this episode. I can connect with everything this therapist has shared and I have been sharing with my family in Jamaica that we do need a trauma informed society. I am currently trauma certified and in the process of completing my Masters in Social Work in the US. Kindly keep in touch since we have a lot of work to do.
These ladies are soooo brave❤❤👏👏👏. Is there a way to get Courtney out of her living situation. Oh my it must be so tough to be living around her perpetrator. Also how can we support Courtney's business?
Wow…. I am moved. Thanks to you all for exposing this topic. Our society needs to do whatever is necessary to raise awareness and take stronger legal stance against offenders and enablers. Girls should know that they will be heard and should yell for help the moment someone crosses ANY line!! Physically and psychologically. These acts should never be tolerated and perpetrators walking free… they will just move on to the next victim!!
I really enjoy your shows and I embrace the stories of these young ladies ...we don't usually find pleasure in sharing these stories because it's hard but ur show have allowed these ladies to grow and heal
There is a RUclips channel: white soft underbelly that tells the other side of the story. From the abuser point of view. It is way more disturbing and it stays with you.
Just my thought about the unanswered question for that lovely young lady. I don’t think she was protecting her abuser. She felt the need to provide for her family at that time, she felt that was her only way. She is a survivor and will overcome this experience. This is where we have to put ourselves first and protect our core. Big lesson! So, brave. Your greatness is on exhibition for all to see. Thanks for sharing ✨💕
To Yendi and these three beautiful young ladies, GIRLS POWER TO YOU ALL. Be brave, be strong, and you hurt we all hurt as FEMALES TOGETHER, so from one WOMAN to another WE ALL STAND TOGETHER and WE ALL FIGHT TOGETHER UNTIL THE END. ONE LOVE ONE HEART WOMEN FIGHT!!! PEACE AND LOVE TO ALL WOMEN OF THIS WORLD
Yendi, remember we are in 2022. No safe haven anywhere and we need to teach our children from young. 😍 In our days our parents turned a blind eye due to the benefits involved or think it was normal because of familiar ground. They are stronger than we think based on the coping mechanism being demonstrated by each of these intelligent young ladies.
This was so real, but a road I know well. God is a keeper and a lifter of my head. Praying for these ladies. Thanks Yendi for providing them the space!
I am so sorry and hurt for the young ladies. This had me bawling! You girls are so strong and brave, thank you for sharing there needs to be more awareness and punishment for sexual assault. Lots of love and support
Brave is an understatement.. these girls are heroines coming out into the public to talk about their experience, and pain… I pray over them that there will be no negative consequences after this … so many many more hurting sooo many more children boys and girls going through this … really really brave girls
My heart pained for the duration of this video even though I've never been a victim. Only God can heal your beautiful souls. Please continue to be so super bright spirited beauties 💕 💖
Omg these stories made me bawl. Ladies I pray for God's continued strength in your lives. I hope you can release those demons through forgiveness..this interview was hard to watch
I promise you ladies I feel your pain but you will get there , it's going to be a long road to recovery but what you just shared is your road to recovery . I wish I could give you all a hug and reassure you it's going to be ok kudos ladies more power to you.
I'm worried about Courtney, especially STILL being in that space. 🥺
Exactly what I kept saying as I watched with tears. I would hope this would even go further, the abusers are reported even if this is years later. I hurt and am also pleased to see how these young ladies are moving on with theirs lives but not without a dark cloud hanging over them. For the mothers who accept the so-called help from the perpetrators, the signs are extremely obvious so stop accepting when you can clearly see the control these ugly, abusive, nasty, disgusting adults are. They can/could be your son, daughters, husbands, stepfathers, son-in-laws, deacons, pastors, priests who we are told to trust. Yes I said it, females also abuse so don't dismiss it. This is why our society is so aggressive and violent, we have no fear of God or human beings. Jamaica let's stand up for what is right and we will get back to what was a loving, fun and upright country. Ladies I take my hat off to you. Yendi, I believe this is one of the most important shows you've done to date. A subject many would not think of broaching as they expect victims would not want to address 'abuse' whether physical or emotional. Thanks and sending love to my beautiful country Jamaica. From 🇨🇦
I am worried about her too. I hope she get out of that house soon.
As a father of a daughter.... I am enraged..this is just too tearful
I'm a grown woman who is still carrying scars from experiencing sexual abuse as a child. My experience was similar to Courtney's. Only I was abused by multiple people. It left me with fears that I have never been able to shake off. I was so extremely protective about my kids and now my grandkids. I lived with one of my abusers for years. I ended up running off and getting married at 18 to get away from him because I didn't see any other way to escape. Now, I talk to young women whenever I get the chance and share my story and try to guide them. It's my way to deal it.. I feel, if I can help other girls I'm at least doing something positive with my experience.
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I am grown woman that also carrying scars from the age of 13.
@@Brezzingtrulife69 Mine started at age 7. Really sick men out there.
@@rhondasargeant7488 so sorry u had to go through that. ❤️
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This was by far the hardest episode to unpack.Hats off to these lovely young ladies. I feel like Courtney should be elsewhere and not around her immediate family because I can only imagine how much of a trigger they are for her. It's crazy how most of our young girls are experiencing sexual abuse, fondling, incest, rape, etc and we as a society continue to look the other way as if it doesn't exist. We have failed them, both girls and boys and continue to protect the pediphiles by not speaking up.
I appreciate the way she has positioned them on a higher level than her ..giving them power in the conversation...just a positive observation ❤
To Ranique (hope I spelled it right)
For the question, “why did you feel the need to protect him?”
You were not protecting him, but rather you were protecting yourself and your family. Your abuser made himself a type of security for your family.. financially, emotionally etc. He secured your family publicly, while he hurt you in private. You were protecting that public security. As you said, groomers are very strategic, he knew exactly what he was doing.
Secondly, you were protecting yourself from potentially experiencing more trauma.. meaning, telling the world that this “great” man was doing something so bad would bring about a lot of attention which could inflict some more trauma for you. There would be people who wouldn’t believe you, there would be people gossiping about it (especially in the church).. there would be people asking questions and creating their own narrative for YOUR story. Exposing sexual trauma is a lot emotionally and it can definitely traumatize you further if you’re not ready to talk about it. And in your case, you were exposing the monster in someone who’s considered a hero to others.. and that is not an easy thing to do. Telling people that the person they love and adore is actually a monster is scary… and knowing that saying something could affect other people’s lives (beyond the abuser) is a heavy burden to carry. I too was abused and I was very worried that if I said something I would cause others a lot of pain.. specifically the wife of my abuser. I did not want to feel responsible for destroying a marriage. I did not want to feel responsible for causing a woman pain and heartache. Furthermore, I knew and loved his family. I feared causing them pain and creating a riff within a family of people I love. I even feared to some extent that some of his family members would resent me for speaking my truth.
But what I didn’t understand was that anything that happened as a result of me telling was HIS fault. He would’ve hurt his family. He would’ve hurt the people who love him. He would’ve caused his wife pain, he would’ve cause her heartache.. not me.
I imagine you must’ve felt this way about people in your church. People who you love.. people who love your abuser..
With that being said, you were protecting the feelings and emotions of those you love. You mentioned that your father is your person. I can’t imagine how he took the news of your abuse. And I can’t imagine what it was like for you to see your dad process that his baby was hurt by a man who should’ve protected her. When those we love are hurting, we tend to carry that hurt as well. And unless you are absolutely ready to work through the massive amount of hurt and understand (both cognitively and emotionally) that none of it is your fault, telling will break you even more!!
You were NOT protecting that monster. You were protecting yourself and those you love.
I too had the same question asked of me in the past and it took me years to see that I wasn’t protecting him. I hope you can see that too 🤍
Not the hardest question to answer: she was protecting everyone but herself. Painful. Poverty is indeed a curse!
What an insightful response, thanks for sharing and may you continue to heal and grow through this life!
I cried so hard. What sweet young ladies they are!! They all are going to be very successful. I pray for healing and peace of mind. Keep your heads up young ladies your future will be AWESOME!!!!😇🙏🏿❤❤❤❤❤
Generations of abuse. I hope this generation of women can help to protect our girls. Our mothers too have been scarred, and thier mothers.. 😭
I really hope these ladies get Justice. The taxi man, brother and pastor must pay for these crimes. Hope concerned members from the relevant authorities see this interview and bring them to Justice.
Yes!! Yes!! I hope so 🙏
😭😭😭Our children faces lot of abuse in their homes and for some strange reasons there mother's live in denials. It's rough on the for real.
Yendi should highlight this to the police. Psychologist needs to come on board. This episode is not for views but further etc
I feel the same way too. I think there need to be accountability. These men should be punished for what they have done, because they will do it again.
This sounds like my story 😂
"Dutty Man Dutty Man, leave the people pickney dem alone"...Romane Virgo...
NONE OF THESE MOLESTERS SHOULD BE WALKING AROUND FREE...THEY ALL SHOULD BE HELD RESPONSIBLE...I'M SO FRIGGIN MAD RIGHT NOW 🤬🤬🤬😠 😡
This makes me so angry and sad. These men should be in the jail doing some hard labour. The pain in their voices just breaks me. 💔💔💔 That's why I vow to protect my daughter with my life, my life!!
The pain in their voices just hurt my soul.
Listening to these three young ladies makes me want to even have a closer bond with my daughter where she feels comfortable to tell me anything and everything no matter how threatening she may feel by someone I want to be her save space.
Please do
Brave young ladies ,these bastards needs to be brought to justice
nuff love ladies respect
@ Yendi, can you please do a program about BOYS and young MALES who have been sexually abused and exploited.
This happens VERY much in Jamaica and is pretended to he secret.
Yendi happy you carried a trained person on .another thing I hope someone from the school is watching and invite her back to do history in cxc .Yendi you handled that interview extremely well and respectfull.
Treat each person with love and respect. Behind the smiles...... you never know. I pray God provides healing, strength, and genuine support for ALL the persons who have been abused.
I have been through similar situation. I feel their pain. Lots of children still going through things like this. It breaks my heart 🥺 I hope they will find healing ❤️❤️
The culture and criminal justice system are failing these young women. I wish there were safe, loving places for these young women to go. I’m pained at the thought of these young women having to return to their situations. The comment section shows a level of support that needs to be made more readily available in real life. I pray that these young women get beauty for their ashes. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I understand what you are saying however the system is there but sometimes especially family members don't want to report or victim shamed so that they don't report...the system can't go through the process until the victims are ready
Courtney needs to get out of that house, someone please assist her and also their mother's need to go to counseling Lord thank you Yendi for getting these young ladies to come forward with their story, nuff respect to alll three young ladies. Lord continue to cover them with your healing power 🙏🙏
I am praying for some help for her she should not be there.Her mother need counseling also🙏🏾🙏🏾
Well said 💯❤️❤️❤️
That Mom needs to be in prison and her son as well
Praying for these young ladies 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Wow...this is heavy. We need to have these perverts punished. #thebravehearted
I hope and pray that every young child and adult who is being sexually, physically and emotionally abused and blackmailed, can see this program and come out of this emotional cycle.
These mothers needs to do better damn it! This pisses me off so much!
I'm so sorry for what happened to these young ladies. And it's not too late for these rapes to be charged. Hope that the police 🚔 take this up in hand ✋ and charged these wicked men.
This made me feel heavy.
I hope to never be as blind as these mothers when my child is going through something traumatic.
Very painful… all tragic stories.
The deacon should go to prison… right now.
I applaud these young ladies for being so strong and brave to share their stories.
Simply to say thank you Yendi for giving these young women a platform to share their stories.
This was a very hard watch but a very necessary one. Sadly there are many youngsters who are in this situation in Jamaica. Programs like this will help to highlight that no kind abusive behaviour should be normalised. Not sexual abuse, mental abuse, or physical abuse as it hardens the society in ways that manifest themselves negatively.
For Courtney they need to get family therapy or for the brother to find somewhere else where he's not in her space so much
Who about Jail!
My blood boils and my heart for these beautiful young ladies. I pray they can get the right support so that they can thrive as survivors. They deserved protection and as a society we failed them. Blessings on them. Sending love.
God.. what a travesty in our society that has been prevailing for so long. 😡😡
God Bless these beautiful, courageous young women ! They are survivors and I am glad that they spoke up.
I am SICK and TIRED of these DISGUSTING Caribbean women, who use their daughters as a MEANS $$$$ for sick and perverted men to put a PRICE on these young girls heads.
Similarly, the other little girl the mother ● protected her predator son , who was molesting her little daughter. ●
I pray for HEALING for these beautiful young women. I hope they continue to HEAL and find a happy place of comfort and everlasting love...💕💕💕and PEACE .
I love shows like these. They bring awareness to what is happening to our young ladies. My only concern is that I hope when these guests leave, there is help for them outside of these shows. I also hope that psychiatrists and psychologists are involved in assessing if these ladies are mentally ready to share their stories on such a huge platform. What about their families? one young lady said no one in her family knows. After allowing them to be vulnerable, what protection do they have when they leave the show. Do we send them back into their abusive situation
True, was thinking along that line too...
Good evening… as the Executive Director, the interview was done a month or so in advance of being released, her close family members were informed of the interview and she got some time to speak with her mom. They all have been in counseling leading up to interview and their counselors were aware of the interview and have been in dialogue with them since it has been aired. Outside of that we collectively have been praying for them because not everything is physical, somethings come but for prayer and fasting. Myself and Yendi took all the measure we can possible take before recording and releasing the interview. And measures are in place to monitor their reaction and emotions as they navigate the after. All I ask is that you continue to send them encouraging words cause as you best believe it they are reading every comment and be praying for them. Thank you for your support and love. You can follow the Angelic Ladies Society Ltd on Instagram to see and participate in the work that we do. Blessings #shespeaks
Happy Sunday Y’all, This Is A Hard Episode To Unpack. Let’s Still Find The Beauty In The Ashes ❤️
Three beautiful brave Princesses. Healing to you all and sorry you had to endure this horrible pain.
Beauty in the Ashes... I applaud their strength. I felt every pain, every tear. They are so articulate. I love how they are all thriving too .
Being brave and vulnerable is hard,and you young ladies have decided to share your most agonizing experiences and I lift my hat off to you because many individuals never speak of their trauma and it continues to control them for the rest of their lives. The emotional response associated with trauma and traumatic event keeps individuals in the cycle. Breaking the cycle is hard but necessary… healing is important to target shame, self blame, guilt, anger, anxiety, fear, hopeless, confusion and the numbness associated with a traumatic experience.
Sexual abuse and rape is rampant in the Jamaican landscape but is not spoken about. Having these conversations are necessary and helpful to all.
More should be done as the perpetrators are around and is left to do it to someone else. They should be counseling for those men and let them know that the Authorities know what they done . They are just out there to prey on someone else if they haven't done so already and I swept under the rug because of fear.
This has been happening for many many years. The cycle needs to be stopped. Stricter penalties need to be put into law
We really need sex offenders list in Jamaica!! Name them! I am so sorry these girls had to experience this..breaks my heart
Love ❤️ love these young ladies:
Love the responses:
I’m not a victim I’m victorious, this does not define me, I’m a survivor 👏🏽🙏👏🏽❤️❤️❤️
If you girls ever see this, I want to commend you on your bravery and strength. No matter how hard some days may be always remember that you are strong. The fact that you are so young and are able to speak out about your experiences shows your strength and that your already on your way to healing. Take life one day at a time and continue being great!!!!!
Let’s normalize speaking out.
Let’s facilitate MORE SPACES that allow for speaking out… too many girls and women feel like they have to suffer in silence or hide the truth because the burden of proof is on them and the man is scotch free.. roaming and touching other girls. But I pray that in my capacity that I will always be ready to assist in the healing Process of every woman I come in contact with.. you too can help normalize speaking out… let’s listen more and believe more and if anything be more informed and knowledgeable about signs…
Thanks Yendi for give these beautiful young ladies a space to be vulnerable and a platform to speak.
Yendi you have taken us to a space in the ashes that is beyond beauty and the bravery of these young ladies has blown away the ashes and revealed a depth that needed to be exposed. As the tears flow I pray that they come with healing, peace, and empowerment.
I went through similar, Jamaican families can be so rigid and closed minded where expressing emotions and talking through trauma is concerned, I had no family support but I had amazing and supportive friends who helped me navigate, even following me to the planned parenthood after I told them what happened. Having a support system makes healing easier.
Really applaud these young ladies for their bravery! Just so heartbreaking!
Trigging is an understatement. Road to healing is very hard and you ladies are doing it with such grace and humility.
Omg!! I saw the topic of this episode and for several days I avoided watching it but I went back and watched today!! Lawd I cried. This bought back so much for me! These girls are sooo BRAVE! Keep holding your heads up. I will not lie. It don’t go away but it get a bit easier to live with as the years go by.
This episode is sooooo hard 😭😢 #braveYoungLadies I am proud of them❤️
Where do I begin! I’m so hurting for these kids! How can that little girl, still be living in the same house, with her abuser, her flesh and blood, and the mother is ok with it! The mother is abusing her, in another form and needs to be jailed herself! Why aren’t any of these nast, dutty perverts, in prison! Yes this happens all over the world, but the Jamaican government is doing squat about domestic violence and child abuse!
Don't say that, the system is there but most time family of the victims or sometime the victims themselves are scared of the repercussions or societal shame
I pray to god for these ladies and also for them to forgive the offenders cause that’s where the true healing process begins. No ladies should have their innocents or childhood taken away from them just like that.
These young ladies are brave!!! Thanks Yendi for speaking to them and bringing more awareness to ongoing issue in our country. All the perpetrators need to go to jail. I pray 🙏 for healing for them!! Just keep your heads up and remember God is in control and he did not bring you this far to leave you. He will never leave or forsake you!!
Awesome show again Ms Yendi, Awesome guests too. Far too many females and males have experienced sexual assaults and then lifetime trauma it causes. It prevents many to trust or love freely. As a male, I have experienced sexual assaults as a child by older females and many males don't see it as assaults. I have seen many females about to or being assaulted and stepped in and stopped it, while many males join in. 90% of females I have dated as told stories of sexual assaults experienced sometimes by family members, these abuse create a broken world and we need to fix, but not just males abuse of females, but also females of other females and males, and males abuse on females and males.
So true
Well said....!!
Yendi: oh my God - this one has me in tears 😭. I am almost 50 and to be honest no matter how much counseling I get instances in my life reverts to hurts and pains I experienced in my childhood and adult years by family members and family friends. Sometimes when things get so hard I blame myself even though I know their actions not my fault. See just like each individual I feel I was passed around but the resilience in me is surviving. Jamaica our homeland is grounded in generational trauma that has gone either unnoticed or just given a blind eye. I must honestly say some parents are so entrenched with these abuse they try to normalize it. Strength is within us to rise. Mothers please don’t allow what you experienced to continue due to temporary situations - poverty is not forever. I am a testament to that, I pray my mother would be more open and honest but it’s reality I have to heal for me
This was very hard to watch. What beautiful and brave ladies to speak up about what happened to them. I pray for their healing and hope that by sharing their stories someone will know that they too can stand up and talk out.
I feel all your pain. I am proud of each one of you to speak up. I am 29 years old and i recently find the courage to speak up about my experience. Pray that you guys will continue to to work On your healing journey. You guys going to be amazing.. #notorape
We hold space for you and we will continue to extend our prayers to include every girl, every woman who has been sexually assaulted. I pray that one day we will all be able to reach over and hold a sister and embrace her into her own healing … love and light with you as you navigate this next chapter of your life..
This is a big topic, so many people have been through so much and hide it under the smile, the laugh, the food, etc. Thanks for bringing this to the forefront, this pain last for a lifetime even if you are separated from the perpetrators. I pray that these young ladies will get the help they need so that they can heal. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I recently heard of a young lady who was lured to her neighbors, assaulted and got pregnant from it. Wouldn’t tell her parents out of fear and they kicked her out of the home once it was clear she was expecting a child. Can you imagine that??!!!
Can you imagine how many other young girls out there going through this, my heart hurts so bad..
So many. This been happening for so many generations. I was 13 when I got raped. I went home that night and couldn’t tell anyone. I kept that secret for all those years. Never spoke about it until I was in my forties. I was ashamed and blamed myself.
This is so hard to watch, but I had to because it touched me. I have a daughter who is twenty and I’m so protective of her, no one can ever try to hurt her, because i have to protect her in anyway I can. I’m really sorry to go off like that.
Yendi please get help for these young ladies, please follow up with them. Thanks ladies for sharing. Thanks Yendi for this space.
Yendi I have to commend you again for providing a safe space for these three young ladies to tell their stories. It is so important because others in their age group and younger/ older will see them and know that’s it’s ok to speak up. We know that many does not speak up out of fear of not being believed or who to trust.It was also important for bringing a professional to help the young ladies navigate their healing process. There is truly beauty in the ashes. Well done, this episode nearly did me in but it is so necessary and hopefully it will encourage others to know that’s it ok to come out of the shadows. Blessings to you.
What a beautiful and empowered episode! Thank you again Yendi for giving all three young ladies a safe place to share their experiences! I'm also passing about protecting other young people from men and women who prey on youth in the church... It hurts my heart to know this is still happening. God will expose everything! I pray each of the young ladies will use their stories to continue to give other women hope... they are all stronger and more beautiful than the can ever imagine ❤
God I pray for healing, protection and provision for these young ladies and all the others going through it 🙏
Just listening to this is hurting something in my belly because even though my uncle tried to he didn't but it still had a traumatic effect on me😞. And also others follow along😞. The trigger words she said are so true 😞😞. But I'm praying and holding on to heal from this trauma and help others girls and boys and know that we all can overcome this, because it's from the pit of hell and we must have Gods strength to look the devil In the eye and tell them “Get thee behind me satan”!!!.
This was a hard one to watch. My heart goes out to these young women and any one who has gone through this.
Thank you Yendi for doing this interview. I hope that others young girls or boys who are experiencing sexual molestation will find their voices after watching this program.
I commend these young ladies for their bravery. Speaking out is never easy, especially when you're young. I hope their stories wake us up! Sexual predators often seek out vulnerable women; those they feel aren't empowered to fight back or hold them accountable for their actions. We need to prioritize protecting the women in our communities (of all ages). We need to hear them, and like Dr. Morgan said, ask how we can help... and follow through. This was such a powerful episode, Yendi. 💗
I was anxious to finish the episode all day. This was great and ladies you are all brave. An example that support is available and possible. Yendi you are tapping into topics that are necessary. Thank you for having the professional as well. Tough episode but great. Thank you to your team.
It's so unfortunate that these young ladies had such a traumatic experience. I pray they will eventually find some level of healing.
This is so sad...as a mother to a teenage daughter I promise to always have her back...I wish these young women nothing but the best in life.. Virtual Hugs to you all...As we celebrate Child Abuse and Sexual Assault Awareness Month.
Thanks Yendi and your guest as well for giving these 3 beautiful and brave young ladies a safe space for them to share their stories!!! Post traumatic pain is not easy and I commend all of you
I’m so very proud of these beautiful young ladies. God bless you all for taking this step to share your stories. The question I always have is; Why does it sound as if none of the perpetrators are being punished for what they have done to these kids? Why does it always seem like our (West Indian/Caribben) societies find some way to make excuses for these horrible people? I pray that we can do better for our young people and show them that not only are they not at fault, but the society is there to protect them from these predators. In the words of Lila Ike “sharpen the Las dem, him can’t too hard to find” Thanks for this Yens!
The system is there but most time family members don't want to face societal shame...the system cannot work until the victims and family are willing and ready to go through the process
I hope this interview with these brave and beautiful young ladies will assist many others in opening up and speaking out. Another brilliant interview Yendi. Ladies thanks for sharing, it must have taken a lot of courage to do this.
Omg..These young girls are brave..
I am praying for their safety and healing.
Thank you Yendi for your safe space and bringing their stories to light.
Wishing them much success. They all have an amazing testimony..To God be the glory!
Yendi, I cried along with these 3 beautiful nubian princesses. This was very emotional and gut wrenching. I do hope they'll receive the necessary help that they need. May God help them to heal....and other young ladies in their situation 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼. Mothers, please listen to your daughters, see their pain and be aware of predators...
Thanks, Yendi for giving young women a platform to discuss the sad reality of sexual abuse and rape in Jamaica.
Yendi this had me crying I know exactly what they are talking about
Thank you Yendy for having these young ladies share their stories. I'm at the beginning and I'm literally in tears. Stay strong ladies and thank you all for sharing 🙏 ❤️
Three beautiful ladies. God bless you for sharing your stories. Praying for the mothers out there who are not strong enough to protect their daughters.
😭😭Hats off to these beautiful and strong young ladies.I pray you all find peace and happiness some day 🙏🙏❤❤❤
It’s been such an awesome privilege watching this episode. I can connect with everything this therapist has shared and I have been sharing with my family in Jamaica that we do need a trauma informed society. I am currently trauma certified and in the process of completing my Masters in Social Work in the US. Kindly keep in touch since we have a lot of work to do.
These ladies are soooo brave❤❤👏👏👏. Is there a way to get Courtney out of her living situation. Oh my it must be so tough to be living around her perpetrator. Also how can we support Courtney's business?
Wow…. I am moved. Thanks to you all for exposing this topic. Our society needs to do whatever is necessary to raise awareness and take stronger legal stance against offenders and enablers. Girls should know that they will be heard and should yell for help the moment someone crosses ANY line!! Physically and psychologically. These acts should never be tolerated and perpetrators walking free… they will just move on to the next victim!!
This happened to me by people i trusted and looked up to. I hate them for it😭😭😭
Well done ladies for being so brave and vulnerable. I know Courtney and Ronique. I met them at Youth Camp. So proud of them.
This is hard. I can’t imagine how difficult this must be. I pray you girls heal from all this. ❤️
Oh yes..... 'always laughing and smiling ' is masking the hurt. It's evident that they are still deeply hurt, because there are many unresolved issues
So proud of those young ladies.. it time to start outing these predators.
I applaud these beautiful young ladies for sharing their brutal experience. I pray that you all get the healing you deserve. ❤❤😢😢😘😘
I really enjoy your shows and I embrace the stories of these young ladies ...we don't usually find pleasure in sharing these stories because it's hard but ur show have allowed these ladies to grow and heal
We are so hurt as a society. I want hear from the men as well. On this topic.
There is a RUclips channel: white soft underbelly that tells the other side of the story. From the abuser point of view. It is way more disturbing and it stays with you.
Just my thought about the unanswered question for that lovely young lady. I don’t think she was protecting her abuser. She felt the need to provide for her family at that time, she felt that was her only way. She is a survivor and will overcome this experience. This is where we have to put ourselves first and protect our core. Big lesson! So, brave. Your greatness is on exhibition for all to see. Thanks for sharing ✨💕
Omg! I cried like a baby...Omg
Thank you Yendi for giving these young ladies the platform to share their story! This is powerful.
To Yendi and these three beautiful young ladies, GIRLS POWER TO YOU ALL. Be brave, be strong, and you hurt we all hurt as FEMALES TOGETHER, so from one WOMAN to another WE ALL STAND TOGETHER and WE ALL FIGHT TOGETHER UNTIL THE END. ONE LOVE ONE HEART WOMEN FIGHT!!! PEACE AND LOVE TO ALL WOMEN OF THIS WORLD
Yendi, remember we are in 2022. No safe haven anywhere and we need to teach our children from young. 😍
In our days our parents turned a blind eye due to the benefits involved or think it was normal because of familiar ground.
They are stronger than we think based on the coping mechanism being demonstrated by each of these intelligent young ladies.
This was so real, but a road I know well. God is a keeper and a lifter of my head. Praying for these ladies. Thanks Yendi for providing them the space!
I am so sorry and hurt for the young ladies. This had me bawling! You girls are so strong and brave, thank you for sharing there needs to be more awareness and punishment for sexual assault. Lots of love and support
Brave is an understatement.. these girls are heroines coming out into the public to talk about their experience, and pain… I pray over them that there will be no negative consequences after this … so many many more hurting sooo many more children boys and girls going through this … really really brave girls
My heart pained for the duration of this video even though I've never been a victim. Only God can heal your beautiful souls. Please continue to be so super bright spirited beauties 💕 💖
Omg these stories made me bawl. Ladies I pray for God's continued strength in your lives. I hope you can release those demons through forgiveness..this interview was hard to watch
I promise you ladies I feel your pain but you will get there , it's going to be a long road to recovery but what you just shared is your road to recovery .
I wish I could give you all a hug and reassure you it's going to be ok kudos ladies more power to you.