my daughter was born at 36 weeks tomorrow 30 years ago .I happened to stumble on this song and first time hearing it i was in floods but I forced myself to listen again because over the years I'VE LEARNED THAT SOMETIMES YOU NEED TO SELF INDULGE AND ITS OK TO CRY
His songs are so amazing. If you haven't listened to Dark Thought I definitely recommend them. He wrote Dark Thought after Carrie Fisher died who was one of his best friends.
There is no second song that touches me like this one. I lost my twin sister and although I have never met her I still miss her. Sometimes I dream about her and wake up crying. Her name was Katharina. I have always told my parents I wanted a twin. Turns out I missed my angel twin. I hope she is happy where she is now.
James reaches into your soul, whether you’ve experienced what he’s singing about or not…you are touched deeply. His amazing songwriting and voice leaves an unforgettable mark in you. Great reaction!
Wow, how sad. It was just the other day when I was going through some of my late mother's papers and found a death certificate of a brother I would of had that never was. I knew that there were a couple of miscarriages, but to see the actual date and time and knowing I would of had an older brother hit me hard.
My son was mark my room was all set with crib clothes toys. He was 2 days old and we never got to bring him home. His tiny coffin at funeral broke me I was 18 years old he lives with our family every day.
The girl that never was, Where to start...? The theme is extremely delicate, rare in music, and interwoven with perhaps the greatest human sorrow, the loss of a child. This time, not only did James push the boundaries of writing with the text and bring an incredibly serious text full of life and thought, but the video is incredibly vivid, perfectly tuned to the music and lyrics. His voice lends itself beautifully to this elegy, as does his British accent. Now a little about the text. The text is actually about a girl who was not born. Whether it was a miscarriage or a stillborn child, I didn't understand or the songwriter left it up to the listener to decide. The text has two climaxes, both beautifully emphasized tonally. The first: "First casualty of life is a plan!" is a philosophical review of the song's theme and the very meaning of life, and the second, in my opinion, is both wonderful and creepy, sensitive and tragic: We should never picked her name, cause now she has a face, and no matter what we do no one can take her place'' is that moment that causes immediate braking of the organism, the culmination of sadness on a completely different level. Parents who had to replace all their wishes and best intentions with sadness and tragedy that they will struggle with on a daily basis. And finally, I would like to emphasize the relationship between the stanza and the chorus of the song, both textually and tonally, and visually (video). The text of the stanza, which in a subtle, lyrical manner gradually intensifies the listener's empathy and sadness, is the complete antithesis of the chorus. The chorus describes what their little girl would be like a wonderfully idealized, real princess placed on the pedestal of parenthood. The music along with the rhythm gradually accelerates from the stanza to the chorus and culminates here, which is James' way of showing that hope and love always overcome sadness and pain. Visually throughout the stanzas, James and the actress playing the role of the wife pack away unused items and wardrobe for the baby, and the chorus is visually warmer with a shot of a smiling blonde girl running freely through fields of wheat bathed in the sun. Also, great contrast that is meant to enhance the message of the text. All in all, The Girl That Never Was is one of the best musical achievements of this century, a song that breaks even the hardest hearts into pieces and puts them back together with the hope that everything will be overpassed with hope and love!! It's my humble opinion...
I'm glad you talked about how perfect the video was. It was beautifully lit and perfectly sensitive to the lyrics. I loved that the video of the girl running through the fields was imprinted on James' face showing she will always be a part of him. Kudos to the filmmaker.
Lovely reaction. This song is beauty and sadness blended perfectly. When I miscarried my son it almost broke us down, now 50 years later, from time to time I wonder what his life would have been like.
I’ve watched your reaction to this song many times because I can see the clear and strong emotions on your face. Today it hit differently though because even though I did not have a miscarriage with my daughter, I just found out that I have terminal brain cancer and will be leaving her instead. She’s only 14. No fourteen year old should have to lose the only real parent she’s ever had. And the hardest thing is that I don’t know how to help her through it. Luckily she’s had the same therapist since she was three and she is wonderful. But it tore my heart to pieces when she crawled up in my lap and cried because she had just realized that I wouldn’t be there when she gets married. Life just isn’t fair.
Nick when you said it never leaves you, my wife and I are in our mid 70s now and were never able to have children despite trying everything, and that sadness does never leave, you are so right. We have other blessings in our life but still can't help but wonder what could have been
I've had eight miscarriages but 4 live births, and those children range from ages 8 to 19. I often think about the ones we lost. It's true. Nothing can replace them. I can only hope that they could feel my love for them.
I've never heard this song.And thought that I would listen to it for the first time with you. After the first verse, I think I'm going to have to listen to this By Myself and Then come back to this. I don't know if this is where the song is going.But my daughter was still born sixteen years ago after ten years of trying to conceive.
My partner and I lost a wee lassie, 21 years ago, we spoke of her often and then my partner died. Together again. I kiss your photos every night. Sleep well my loves x
Something I think works SO well in this song, (and forgive me, I'm not a musician by anyone's standards, literally anyone's) but this being in a MAJOR KEY (really uncommon for sad songs), gives it that uplifting twist on something that is so horrifically low... It suits the song perfectly, but I'm just not sure why. Hopefully this gives a sense of catharsis for anyone who's gone though this trauma, if they come across his song, which unfortunately has a limited audience being from a British artist.
Initially comments I saw made me think this was his own experience, which seemed plausible considering how personal Monsters was and is, but I have since seen comments that say it was based on a friend's experience, but expressed first person for the most effective perspective. I do not have anything other than YT comments to go on though.
There are several interviews with James and articles where he attested to writing this song after his wife had a miscarriage of their baby girl. It is his personal tragedy.
James Blunt can address the worst tragedies in such a beautiful way.
I lost my daughter when I was 16... that was 28 years ago. It still hurts. She was only 4 months old and died in my arms.
I'm so sorry for your loss 💔
my daughter was born at 36 weeks tomorrow 30 years ago .I happened to stumble on this song and first time hearing it i was in floods but I forced myself to listen again because over the years I'VE LEARNED THAT SOMETIMES YOU NEED TO SELF INDULGE AND ITS OK TO CRY
My daughters name was Emily, and after 20 years, I still miss her. Thank you for your kind heart.
His songs are so amazing. If you haven't listened to Dark Thought I definitely recommend them. He wrote Dark Thought after Carrie Fisher died who was one of his best friends.
You should react to James Blunt... monsters!!
This song hit hard.. "Never should have picked out a name." My daughter's name was josilynkay..
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I love you for ur honesty, she is very proud.
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I lost a baby girl 14 years ago and the pain is still as raw as when it happened. This song has me ugly-crying every time
There is no second song that touches me like this one. I lost my twin sister and although I have never met her I still miss her. Sometimes I dream about her and wake up crying. Her name was Katharina. I have always told my parents I wanted a twin. Turns out I missed my angel twin. I hope she is happy where she is now.
So many couples can relate to this. James and his wife went through this😢beautifully written but so heartbreaking 💔 😢
No one can pull the emotions out of you like James. If this doesn't hit you hard, you are not a complete human being.💔
We went to hear our baby's heartbeat one appointment and it was gone. I'll never forget that pain. Ever
I had a miscarriage with my first baby 27 years ago when I was 14 weeks pregnant. That pain doesn't go away. 😢💔
James reaches into your soul, whether you’ve experienced what he’s singing about or not…you are touched deeply. His amazing songwriting and voice leaves an unforgettable mark in you. Great reaction!
Wow, how sad. It was just the other day when I was going through some of my late mother's papers and found a death certificate of a brother I would of had that never was. I knew that there were a couple of miscarriages, but to see the actual date and time and knowing I would of had an older brother hit me hard.
I'm so sorry to hear that John. Best wishes to you
My son was mark my room was all set with crib clothes toys. He was 2 days old and we never got to bring him home. His tiny coffin at funeral broke me I was 18 years old he lives with our family every day.
The girl that never was, Where to start...? The theme is extremely delicate, rare in music, and interwoven with perhaps the greatest human sorrow, the loss of a child. This time, not only did James push the boundaries of writing with the text and bring an incredibly serious text full of life and thought, but the video is incredibly vivid, perfectly tuned to the music and lyrics. His voice lends itself beautifully to this elegy, as does his British accent. Now a little about the text. The text is actually about a girl who was not born. Whether it was a miscarriage or a stillborn child, I didn't understand or the songwriter left it up to the listener to decide. The text has two climaxes, both beautifully emphasized tonally. The first: "First casualty of life is a plan!" is a philosophical review of the song's theme and the very meaning of life, and the second, in my opinion, is both wonderful and creepy, sensitive and tragic: We should never picked her name, cause now she has a face, and no matter what we do no one can take her place'' is that moment that causes immediate braking of the organism, the culmination of sadness on a completely different level. Parents who had to replace all their wishes and best intentions with sadness and tragedy that they will struggle with on a daily basis. And finally, I would like to emphasize the relationship between the stanza and the chorus of the song, both textually and tonally, and visually (video). The text of the stanza, which in a subtle, lyrical manner gradually intensifies the listener's empathy and sadness, is the complete antithesis of the chorus. The chorus describes what their little girl would be like a wonderfully idealized, real princess placed on the pedestal of parenthood. The music along with the rhythm gradually accelerates from the stanza to the chorus and culminates here, which is James' way of showing that hope and love always overcome sadness and pain. Visually throughout the stanzas, James and the actress playing the role of the wife pack away unused items and wardrobe for the baby, and the chorus is visually warmer with a shot of a smiling blonde girl running freely through fields of wheat bathed in the sun. Also, great contrast that is meant to enhance the message of the text. All in all, The Girl That Never Was is one of the best musical achievements of this century, a song that breaks even the hardest hearts into pieces and puts them back together with the hope that everything will be overpassed with hope and love!! It's my humble opinion...
I'm glad you talked about how perfect the video was. It was beautifully lit and perfectly sensitive to the lyrics. I loved that the video of the girl running through the fields was imprinted on James' face showing she will always be a part of him. Kudos to the filmmaker.
First thing I said to my hubby when we were told we miscarried....I'm sorry 😢 the guilt never leaves you
Sorry to hear that :(
Love James he writes heart renching songs. He is the GOAT
God bless all James's followers. We're all here for different reasons.
I love James Blunt.❤❤
Lovely reaction. This song is beauty and sadness blended perfectly. When I miscarried my son it almost broke us down, now 50 years later, from time to time I wonder what his life would have been like.
"We never should have picked a name."
I’ve watched your reaction to this song many times because I can see the clear and strong emotions on your face. Today it hit differently though because even though I did not have a miscarriage with my daughter, I just found out that I have terminal brain cancer and will be leaving her instead. She’s only 14. No fourteen year old should have to lose the only real parent she’s ever had. And the hardest thing is that I don’t know how to help her through it. Luckily she’s had the same therapist since she was three and she is wonderful. But it tore my heart to pieces when she crawled up in my lap and cried because she had just realized that I wouldn’t be there when she gets married. Life just isn’t fair.
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I truly believe you'd love James Blunt's video Bonfire Heart. This one is definitely one of my favorites.
Nick when you said it never leaves you, my wife and I are in our mid 70s now and were never able to have children despite trying everything, and that sadness does never leave, you are so right. We have other blessings in our life but still can't help but wonder what could have been
I've had eight miscarriages but 4 live births, and those children range from ages 8 to 19. I often think about the ones we lost. It's true. Nothing can replace them. I can only hope that they could feel my love for them.
James and his wife have sons and this was the little girl that was missing in their life. So sad
I don't know how James gets through this song without crying his eyes out. I can't even sing along without crying.
This is relevant to James
They lost their baby daughter 😢 so heartbreaking 💔 James really tugs in your heartstrings 😥
Vielen Dank an James für dieses Lied 😢
He touches my soul.
Please review James Blunt No Bravery..James was in the British army when he wrote it
I've never heard this song.And thought that I would listen to it for the first time with you. After the first verse, I think I'm going to have to listen to this By Myself and Then come back to this. I don't know if this is where the song is going.But my daughter was still born sixteen years ago after ten years of trying to conceive.
I have 2 children and have no idea what it is like to lose a unborn child. But this hits so hard
This one hurt. But thanks for your reaction. I always like to see you reacting to videos and give us your point of POV.
My Wife had a miscarriage,we couldn't handle it,then got divorced...almost 30 years ago😪
Hey Nick, your Patreons are nuts for not siggesting "no bravery"! Keep up the good work
I lost 2 babies to miscarriage in the late 80's. It still hurts after 30+ years. Dads are also affected with grief.
Thanks for that one, Nick
Love James, would love to see you check out Pete Murray his entire album Feeler is just stunning, I murdered it on DVD in my car many moons ago.
You have a huge heart❤❤
Oh noooo!!😢😢
Try “ Bonfire Heart” a happier song…🙂
My partner and I lost a wee lassie, 21 years ago, we spoke of her often and then my partner died. Together again. I kiss your photos every night. Sleep well my loves x
Something I think works SO well in this song, (and forgive me, I'm not a musician by anyone's standards, literally anyone's) but this being in a MAJOR KEY (really uncommon for sad songs), gives it that uplifting twist on something that is so horrifically low... It suits the song perfectly, but I'm just not sure why.
Hopefully this gives a sense of catharsis for anyone who's gone though this trauma, if they come across his song, which unfortunately has a limited audience being from a British artist.
He was in the military aswel lad
I gave you a like, but I can't finish it. 😢
Its not just a meaningful song for the dead its the cps in your county lad
Hope everyone releases that lad
Initially comments I saw made me think this was his own experience, which seemed plausible considering how personal Monsters was and is, but I have since seen comments that say it was based on a friend's experience, but expressed first person for the most effective perspective. I do not have anything other than YT comments to go on though.
There are several interviews with James and articles where he attested to writing this song after his wife had a miscarriage of their baby girl. It is his personal tragedy.
Yeah Thomas, people making things up with no knowledge. This is James' personal experience.
We have 4 angel babies 😢-besides our 2 grown sons
I couldn't haven't children. I still morn the girl i never had
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If you want sad songs listen to Lewis Capaldi
A dog compared to a lost daughter ? Seriously ?
Some people can't have children and dogs are there family@@apatheticempathy