This is soooo good. Thank you. At 60 I am healing from THREE relationships in which I was abused by a pathological narcissist. Root cause? A pathologically narcissistic mother. Yes. I am 60 and beginning my life anew. It can be done! I am healing. And it’s true. What doesn’t destroy you does make you stronger . . . with the help of these videos and by the grace of God I am healing!!!!
‘A child does not learn resilience unless they have at least 1 positive adult support.’ THIS is what I’ve been sayingggggggg. Sometimes therapists try to convince you that you can develop resilience without connection to another human being. Not possible. I wish I could talk to somebody like Tim who really knows what they’re talking about when it comes to trauma. Because some of the things I’ve intuited and observed, do not make sense to other people.
This series is helping me be more patient with myself and the healing process. I feel much more able to acknowledge the needs of my inner child. Thank you Tim!
I wrote a play about Esther. Her being chosen was such a difficult part to write. I almost skipped it completely. Then I went to maybe It wasn’t that Esther that made wonderful but God in her. I also solved a problem for the king using Scripture. I made sure that she was honest that she borrowed the story from someone else. When it wasn’t how great Esther was but Esther’s God it wrote itself in 20 minutes
THANK YOU!!! That’s what I’ve been saying for the longest time. Just because I lived through horrific things doesn’t make me resilient. I survive, but it’s not because I want to. I haven’t been taught resilience.
This is quite interesting and a lot of important information so thank you. The sad part for me is that out of the list of 15 things I had none of them growing up in particularly as a little girl so this information will add to how I have had to re-parent myself over the years. I am very fortunate to have gotten into recovery at the age of 27 and I am now 62 and been clean for 35 years a day at a time. This information is so good for me and I will work through the sadness of not having anything on that list then but I can give all of that to myself now
What kind of support do you need ? Because if you are joinning a thérapie group you will find that. If you get a coach you will find support. You can get support with friends, family, people at work. But most of all, you need to be your first support, be your best friend is supporting your ownself ! ❤
Sometimes that support is not just mental emotional support... At later stages in life there is a certain requirement or need for physical support, as in just being a helping hand and that is difficult unless you're hiring everything done.
The only time I have been able to use a new tool to deal with a challenging situation was after I had been doing daily meditation for a couple of months.
Some of these can be influenced by personality, health or genetic neurological factors (eg if someone had adhd) as well as cptsd. Often people with neurological conditions or who are highly sensitive did experience trauma as children so its sometimes hard to determine the primary cause & therefore how best to treat it.
Very true. Some of us never had a chance. Life is not fair and there is no solution aside from death. God made certain of that when he chose to bless some and not others. Weird how people still think of god as a good thing when he is clearly evil. Intentionally hurting defenseless children is not exactly a “loving” decision. Nor is starving children, maiming them, butchering them, creating disabilities for them, creating them with deformities, or abusing them in countless ways.
there’s an interesting video by patrick teahan on overlap between adhd and cptsd. there’s more and more evidence that all of these problems can be solved through cptsd approaches like reparenting. it is really tragic though, that all the innocent children had to go through this pain
I just had a nervous breakdown today, because I realized how much trauma my body is caring, it's discouriging. I don't feel resilient enough to deal with all these loses and traumas, but I must deal with it because life is not worth living otherwise. Don't know what to do...
I knew better and was able to judge and fix each person's problem like math. The good Lord wanted me to have real compassion so guess what? God taught me compassion. I was given the choice to do it the easy way or the hard way. Of course I chose the most difficult path to learn compassion. Still learning
Until you walk in another’s shoes you will not understand. That’s why you judge. Have the mindset that you are biased due to your ignorance of the other person’s life. That should bring humility to the table.
I’m 65. I just came across these videos and I sent them to my sisters. My wife died 10 years ago and in that time I have been doing this kind of work on me as I my family was incredibly dysfunctional. When you feel like you can’t keep going, just put it in your mind to Keep Going. There is healing but it takes time and all you can do is Keep Going. Just Keep Going
@@rcmarson5889 Apparently it's been a year since I commented, and I have to say, I'm feeling much better now. It does take time to untangle from the old stories and programming. Thanks for checking in. 🙃🙂
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This is soooo good. Thank you. At 60 I am healing from THREE relationships in which I was abused by a pathological narcissist. Root cause? A pathologically narcissistic mother. Yes. I am 60 and beginning my life anew. It can be done! I am healing. And it’s true. What doesn’t destroy you does make you stronger . . . with the help of these videos and by the grace of God I am healing!!!!
I can't thank you enough Tim - this series has changed my life.
‘A child does not learn resilience unless they have at least 1 positive adult support.’
THIS is what I’ve been sayingggggggg. Sometimes therapists try to convince you that you can develop resilience without connection to another human being. Not possible.
I wish I could talk to somebody like Tim who really knows what they’re talking about when it comes to trauma. Because some of the things I’ve intuited and observed, do not make sense to other people.
This is what I did wrong I was persevering and enduring instead of resilience. Thank God for you, thank you for sharing the light.
This series is helping me be more patient with myself and the healing process. I feel much more able to acknowledge the needs of my inner child. Thank you Tim!
I wrote a play about Esther.
Her being chosen was such a difficult part to write. I almost skipped it completely. Then I went to maybe It wasn’t that Esther that made wonderful but God in her. I also solved a problem for the king using Scripture. I made sure that she was honest that she borrowed the story from someone else. When it wasn’t how great Esther was but Esther’s God it wrote itself in 20 minutes
The evaluation shows that I should be resilient. Great.
THANK YOU!!! That’s what I’ve been saying for the longest time. Just because I lived through horrific things doesn’t make me resilient. I survive, but it’s not because I want to. I haven’t been taught resilience.
This is quite interesting and a lot of important information so thank you. The sad part for me is that out of the list of 15 things I had none of them growing up in particularly as a little girl so this information will add to how I have had to re-parent myself over the years. I am very fortunate to have gotten into recovery at the age of 27 and I am now 62 and been clean for 35 years a day at a time. This information is so good for me and I will work through the sadness of not having anything on that list then but I can give all of that to myself now
Thanks Tim. You are changing the world one video view at a time - the unpacking and affirmation you give in your every talk has helped me tonnes.
Thank you so much for this reparenting series Tim.
this education is so important. It is a shame we did not get it when we were children, but even now, still extremely useful. Thank you!!!!
Another home run of a video. Such good content. God bless you.
I love your channel. this is my biggest struggle. even at 50 i still get frustrated by small things
Thank you 🙏🏽
Thank you for your wisdom , teaching
Excellent breakdown. Ty 💖✨
A lot of this sounds great except for the assumption that adults have support. How do we build resilience as adults if we don't have support?
Reach out and get support. Period. You may want to start with a 12 step group. They are free, and often meet on Zoom.
What kind of support do you need ? Because if you are joinning a thérapie group you will find that. If you get a coach you will find support. You can get support with friends, family, people at work. But most of all, you need to be your first support, be your best friend is supporting your ownself ! ❤
Great question
That’s the challenge my friend.
Sometimes that support is not just mental emotional support... At later stages in life there is a certain requirement or need for physical support, as in just being a helping hand and that is difficult unless you're hiring everything done.
Without Trust there is No Intimacy
Hurt people hurt people
Happy Resurrection Sunday Tim and Thank you
The only time I have been able to use a new tool to deal with a challenging situation was after I had been doing daily meditation for a couple of months.
That was amazing!
Thank you so much .
Thanks!
I like your purple shirt Tim
Some of these can be influenced by personality, health or genetic neurological factors (eg if someone had adhd) as well as cptsd. Often people with neurological conditions or who are highly sensitive did experience trauma as children so its sometimes hard to determine the primary cause & therefore how best to treat it.
Very true. Some of us never had a chance. Life is not fair and there is no solution aside from death. God made certain of that when he chose to bless some and not others. Weird how people still think of god as a good thing when he is clearly evil. Intentionally hurting defenseless children is not exactly a “loving” decision. Nor is starving children, maiming them, butchering them, creating disabilities for them, creating them with deformities, or abusing them in countless ways.
there’s an interesting video by patrick teahan on overlap between adhd and cptsd. there’s more and more evidence that all of these problems can be solved through cptsd approaches like reparenting. it is really tragic though, that all the innocent children had to go through this pain
Are parts 15, 16 and 17 going to be uploaded as well?
LE: it may be that they're already uploaded but missing from the Re-Parenting playlist.
Good talk in first 34 mins
I just had a nervous breakdown today, because I realized how much trauma my body is caring, it's discouriging. I don't feel resilient enough to deal with all these loses and traumas, but I must deal with it because life is not worth living otherwise. Don't know what to do...
Don’t think about it; just persevere! And continue with the program.
Do you like music? I find dancing really helps me.
I got better now, trust in process
I can choose whom is safe
Finally understand why my mind 100% always goes to worst case scenario
Until you walk in someone’s shoes you don’t judge
I knew better and was able to judge and fix each person's problem like math. The good Lord wanted me to have real compassion so guess what? God taught me compassion.
I was given the choice to do it the easy way or the hard way. Of course I chose the most difficult path to learn compassion. Still learning
@@Exodus26.13Pi Codependency
Until you walk in another’s shoes you will not understand. That’s why you judge. Have the mindset that you are biased due to your ignorance of the other person’s life. That should bring humility to the table.
Tim I wish you could re-parent me 👀
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I don't even have the resilience to listen to this talk without being knocked down into a depressed state. Ugh.
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I’m 65. I just came across these videos and I sent them to my sisters. My wife died 10 years ago and in that time I have been doing this kind of work on me as I my family was incredibly dysfunctional. When you feel like you can’t keep going, just put it in your mind to Keep Going. There is healing but it takes time and all you can do is Keep Going. Just Keep Going
@@rcmarson5889 Apparently it's been a year since I commented, and I have to say, I'm feeling much better now. It does take time to untangle from the old stories and programming. Thanks for checking in. 🙃🙂
So good to hear! Be well
Ester did not go through Betrayal Trauma
Betrayal Trauma. Boy, that’s triggering.
@@olgakim4848 Not to mention the financial betrayal of a Hugh loan hidden from me for two years and legal paperwork withheld from me! I feel Spent
@@tearthangel373 Yikes.
She did.
He looks 15 years younger! Did he lose weight or haircut?