What It's Like Living With A Stutter
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- Опубликовано: 31 май 2023
- This week Joe and Greg have an inspiring conversation with a young man who struggles with stuttering. They discuss the struggles of growing up with a stutter and how the guest has learned to overcome their hopelessness and embarrassment. It's great advice for anyone!
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I especially appreciate that neither of you tried to finish his sentences for him while he was speaking.
People normally think that helps a stutter out when it actually makes them more anxious which makes it even harder for them to speak.
Exactly. I used to stutter when I was little also. And I don’t stutter anymore it worked itself out. And when you stutter like that it may be frustrating for the person but they want to be able to get it out themselves. From my experience being able to do it on your own is so much better than someone trying to finish your sentences for you because that would be like having someone speak for you. And they just want to speak for themselves. So I really appreciate people who don’t try to finish the sentences
@@GabrielaMeredith You are so right! I've been stuttering almost my whole life. When someone finishes a sentence for me, all that does is remind me that I have a speech disability. You know, I do that on my own every day. I don't need someone's else's help with that! 😩😡
Listening to him speak, he is clearly very intelligent and easy to comprehend, with or without the stutter. I am glad he came on and shared his story because it's important for people to understand how to feel compassion for others. He is a very genuine person that deserves the same amount of respect as anyone else
This episode means alot. I am a also someone who has stuttered my whole life, yet i have not let it affect me. Currently in pharmacy school becoming a pharmacist.
Don’t let it hold you back like it did me mate. suggest reading Lee Lovetts’ How to Stop Stuttering & Love Speaking. It tremendously improved my speech and can very well do the same for you if you work hard at it every single day.
The only difference between you is that Greg has glasses on 😂 love it
Lol, I didn't even realize they were twinning
They’re mirroring. Like a true couple😂😅
They're dating!??
Hi Nolan, I hope you’re reading this. I just wanna tell you that I’m extremely proud of you. My dad has dealt with an extreme stutter all his life but with the right training he himself is now a strategic trainer and public speaker. Thank you for coming on and speaking about it. It truly means a lot.
First time commenter btw 🎉
Being on phone calls are always my biggest nightmares. However I can confirm that embracing your stutter can really go a long way in controlling stuttering
Hi Nolan i hope you see my comment, i can 100 % relate to everything you said in this episode specially about your name, ordering food at restaurant and answering a phone call, every time i'm gonna start speak to someone i need to explain my issue before start speaking so i can like minimize the stress from my self to speak with less stutter which i'm trying to stop doing that and start to not care about others reactions or impression, btw i'm a doctor i'm dealing with patients and relatives in-spite of stuttering i'll reach my goals and i'll beat it someday.
I used to stutter as a kid. And I have friends who struggle with it. But learned early to practice speaking in front of a mirror and to pause and think before I speak. I also use a trick of speaking slowly and deliberately and that seems to help a lot. Sometimes I’ll slur my words or jumble them together but that’s as bad as it gets. I hope he can get speech training so that he’s able to go though life being made fun of. It’s one of the few disabilities where it’s socially acceptable to openly mock or be visibly annoyed by.
It’s a shame that anyone would think it’s ok to mock… and to be annoyed by anyone with a disability- disgusting.
I know that I would have my own challenges but they have nothing to do with the person stuttering, it’s that I finish everyone’s sentences and they hate it. I’m working on it, I would hate that someone who stutters would think I’m not being respectful.
i stutter too. this episode meant a lot. i related to A LOT of what he said. i’ve been stuttering since i was 2 - im 24 now. i’ve been bullied all of my life for it. through out school, i used to do my mandatory speeches on stuttering to try and spread awareness. my stutter is MUCH better than it was when i was a child but it’s still a battle sometimes. it just feels really nice to hear the perspective of someone else because i really haven’t before.
There is zero awareness on this condition, just look at the comments, everyone commenting has a stutter.
I relate so hard to this since I have a stutter too. It changes your life, you change what you eat from places, etc. I have certain sounds that I always have issues with. Usually hard consonants and some certain other ones. I definitely have it happen more for my family than I do for my friends. Stress, anxiety, being asked questions, etc. are triggers.
Edit: Food is so hard since you want to order certain things but you order what you can say, I have a lot that I want to eat to this day but haven't because I don't want stutter.
I’ve definitely been there mate. I suggest reading Lee Lovetts’ How to Stop Stuttering & Love Speaking. It tremendously improved my speech and can very well do the same for you if you work hard at it every single day.
i have a stutter and it’s literally the worst thing ever, i can’t get a job because of it. i also don’t think people who don’t stutter realise that stuttering also physically hurt, it sort of feels like choking on water or the pain in ur chest u feel when u try to hold back tears
Not finding a job because of a stutter is a hard reach.
@@jinchuriki7022 i was in a job once and the manager literally told me that he wanted to promote me but wouldn’t because of my stutter .. if u haven’t lived it then don’t comment on peoples lived experiences. a lot of people with stuffers have experiences just like this. in jobs where speaking fluently/urgently is required it’s almost impossible to get hired for them when you have a stutter
I’ve definitely had similar thoughts. I suggest reading Lee Lovetts’ How to Stop Stuttering & Love Speaking. It tremendously improved my speech and can very well do the same for you if you work hard at it every single day.
@@abolacadernos7164 just ordered ! really hoping it helps me, thank you!
You want to talk about it..I'm so depressed over it..
I am a speech-language pathologist and I was lucky enough to take a course in grad school with the one and only Vivian Sisskin of Open Stutter. She has a revolutionary way of looking at stuttering and helps stutterers so much, it’s seriously very unique and there are so many people who feel more confident in themselves because of her amazing work. Thank god she exists and I really hope Nolan looks into her work or talks to her and that her way will become the norm in the upcoming years 💛💛💛
I can’t imagine stuttering during an interview. And having this effect your income.
I also doing think if people are trying to help you when you are stuck on a word, I don’t think they are belittling you. I would truly want to help. I can’t speak in front of other (public speaking) and I have had others try to help me, I am like painfully frozen.
Keep hustling bro, we win everyday we lose everyday. I relate a lot with you, I stutter till this point and I can vouch my childhood was as well a horrific one especially when I reached 7th grade, I used to request my teacher to allow me to write the answer instead of dictating it myself. In my professional life, I am looked down in my team just because of my speech shows low confidence. But I haven't given up yet and I won't ever till the end of my life. Thanks again for sharing your experience.
My close friends husband has a stutter & I really don't even notice it at all. For him, it gets "worse" when he he has talk infront of crowd a people or gets really nervous. Other than that...he's such a lovely person & doesn't let that stop him. Yeah, some people will suck, but the majority of people understand.
This man seems, so sweet. Not like 'aww precious' but like Micheal J Fox seemed sweet🖤
Stutter was a part of my life before when I was a kid. English wasn't my first language, and learning was really difficult for me that I was bullied for my stuttering and being mexican, and I got my self-esteem low cause that. Anxiety and depression were some of the cases in my stutter to get even worse, and I told myself that I wasn't good enough. I remember back in 6 grade, I got a crush on this girl, and I went up to her to ask out for homecoming, but she refused because she didn't wanted to be with someone who stutteres like a crazy kid. I would always try to make excuses not to go to school. My life changed when one of my friends defended me and until that I really didn't care what people said about me or made fun of me and I took special classes to improve my speech it helped me so much. Now i can speak so much better. I do butcher some words here and there, but its okay. I grew up from a kid who didn't like his voice to a more conference person. Want to say to anyone who is going through rough times, maybe you don't like this or that about yourself, don't give up and continue to improve/grow and slow and steady you start to love yourself more ❤💯
THANK YOU for this episode and big thanks to Nolan for coming on to share his story. I can totally relate. I'm autistic with a stutter and every time I try to speak, it's a big stress and it crushes my confidence. But I'm doing the same thing Nolan is: going to speech therapy and that includes testing yourself in situations by speaking and finding a way to gain some confidence. Thank you again for this episode (sorry I found you so late) but it means a lot to have someone who stutters come forward. A lot of us do not speak out for obvious reasons, in fact I learned ASL because it's far easier for me to have a conversation with Deaf people. Thank you guys.
I loved this episode so much. I've lived with a stutter myself so I related to sooo many of the points he made it was really encouraging to hear someone else share experiences even though I dont know them personally. It's hard because alot of people do not understand it, know how to navigate it etc. I really like the point he made about how people assume you are not competent or smart just because you stutter. That point hit home. ❤
Long time stutterer here. I can tell you that having a stutter (or speech disability as it’s also known), is something I would not wish on anyone. It’s one of those disabilities that people think is still okay to laugh at. Those people couldn’t be more wrong. Not only is it wrong to laugh at any person with a disability, it’s immoral. Lastly, I absolutely cannot stand it when a person says they “understand.” If you weren’t a stutterer in the past, or you don’t stutter today, how could you possibly understand what I go through every day? How could you understand what I struggle every day to do what so many can do without fail? If you haven’t stuttered a day in your life, please stop saying you understand when you never will.
I just find it weird that the majority are actually able to say what they want when they want
Lee Lovetts’ “How to Stop Stuttering & Love Speaking” can greatly helped you as it did me. I suffered with stuttering for 15 years and nothing helped me besides that book. Diligently immerse yourself in the authors methods and program and you can improve your speech. I hope this can help anyone struggling out there.
I have a stutter since I was 6..7 years old as a result of traumatic experience...my life has been weirdly affected by this issue I always had which has resulted with chronic anxiety..even depression ..but even though my stutter now is severe cause I am in a stressful period of my life I still no matter I had this issue have achieved a lot in my life and I am proud of myself for that...I still haven't find the way to get my stutter better,but I'm still ok .. Person's like Nolan even though they are younger are inspiring me ..well done Nolan
I've had a stutter all my life (was able to control it for a time between middle and high school). Apparently, it was so bad that when I was 4 or 5, I outright refused to say a word for over 6 months according to my parents. I did speech therapy as a kid for a few years, and it helped, but recently, my stutter has returned in full force and has gotten really bad.
Thanks for this episode guys, it really hit home. I was burned by acid at 10 and shortly after coming into contact with people again, I developed a really bad stutter. Other traumatic things have happened since including the loss of a step dad, brother and nephew. My dad being an alcoholic and giving me a hard time for my burns and stutter made it worse. Growing up in extreme poverty made it worse. Unfortunately the list goes on and I sadly don’t have my positive things to say. But I will say, be kind to one another. Don’t judge introverted people. They’re often going through a war you couldn’t fathom.
Thank you guys for posting a video like this, I have something similar to this throughout my life up until now, I feel like it has gotten worse for me, where like he said where he get really stuck with a word to a point where it feels like you can’t breathe. Whenever I get stuck while having a conversation, I just use my notes app in my phone to say what I want to say to them. I do feel embarrassed whenever I meet someone new and I try talking with them and they ask if I’m alright.
I’ve definitely relate. I suggest reading Lee Lovetts’ How to Stop Stuttering & Love Speaking. It tremendously improved my speech and can very well do the same for you if you work hard at it every single day.
My stutter use to be really bad. So bad i stopped speaking in school completely.now that im 27 and I only stutter on S and M words mostly.
How to stop stuttering?
I wonder if training children to say they have 'x speech impediment' confidently, when they're called on, to speak or read from very small it would help them own their space, better?
I can imagine when they get older there is more chagrin but since I've been a child, I think setting a scene might help alleviate some shame, or awkwardness.
People can become more patient and understanding when they're told, a thing.
I think this would especially help, with a child owning, their particulars. I also wonder if boys and girls are taught how to have & use boundaries, with friends.
My first thought was how articulate he is
I stutter too but I try to slow or relax when speaking but yes in anxiety scenarios or stressful situations worried angry situations can be bad
I stuttered a lot when I was a child, and now it get a lot better but still stutter or stuck when the word begins with a vowel. But even for me I will laugh out loud when I hear myself or other people stuttering, how can these two don’t laugh😂
Strangely I am a language lover, i can speak Chinese, English, French “fluently” with stutter, B1 level Persian and now I am studying Egyptian Arabic.
Thankfully my parents sent me to a good private school in China where I spend about most of my time before going for study in France at 18, my classmates were really well educated and really nice to me.
First of all, Thank you, Joe and Greg, for a respectful and compassionate interview. Second, Nolan, you are #PureAwesomeness . I truly love the vulnerability, the courage, and raising awareness of this important issue. Stuttering is so individualistic, although we all have a journey, and I believe that there is healing in sharing. I have a podcast where I speak to PWS (People Who Stutter) from all over the world, and we share our challenges and our triumphs. Thank you again for this OUTSTANDING interview, and Nolan, you are a bright light in our community.
I can relate to this! I have had a stutter since I could speak...
I suggest reading Lee Lovetts’ How to Stop Stuttering & Love Speaking. It tremendously improved my speech and can very well do the same for you if you work hard at it every single day.
This episode was awesome, thank you for making it
This an awesome interview. I appreciate you guys.
this was really good
One of the 5 greatest people to ever walk on the earth (Moses/Musa) was a person who had a stutter.
He's awesome
How do I connect with the guest? He did an stupendous job 🎉
Missed opl so much 😭
Imsomnia is more tolerable with opl. 🖤
it’s so crazy to think that even scientists and medical professionals don’t actually know what causes a stutter and what part of the brain cause it. there are theories but no one actually knows .. i rlly hope that one day soon people figure it out and maybe offer an operation to cure it because it’s such a hard thing to live with and it affects literally every single aspect of a persons life
Because no funding goes into stuttering research because no one cares cause its an invisible disability. There's no publicity on the topic people that don't have one think its a joke
i know a girl who used to have a really bad stutter. i haven't heard her stutter in years bc she started putting on a fake voice.
Fake voice?
I have a severe stutter if you want to interview me. Lol.
I suggest reading Lee Lovetts’ How to Stop Stuttering & Love Speaking. It tremendously improved my speech and can very well do the same for you if you work hard at it every single day.
One can stop stuttering, turrets, ruminating, looking away, etc. If you WANT to. I could go back to stuttering like a light switch if I allow it, but I dont. Slow down don't do it, and don't take that hit of dopamine being offered.
Its definitely possible, i did it too. Its a paradigm shift.
How to stop stuttering? :-)
I have a stutter. A fairly bad one. I faced bullying because of it for my entire secondary school years.
Im now 19, still have a stutter. I have no friends, never been in a relationship and honestly I feel like I am going to be alone for the rest of my life and never accomplish anything.
Facing embarrasment daily is just horrible. Everyone around you ridicules you or looks uncomfortable around you.
And who can really blame them, no one has to be patient with you. No one has to talk you if they dont want to.
Story of my life
It doesn’t have to be. I suggest reading Lee Lovetts’ How to Stop Stuttering & Love Speaking. It tremendously improved my speech and can very well do the same for you if you work hard at it every single day.
@@abolacadernos7164 I have this book right now and I'm skeptical about if it will actually work. Ironically enough, the more I focus on my stutter (even now that I'm actively trying to improve it) I feel like the worse it gets. I'm going to try it out though, but the book is huge so it's overwhelming me
Lol I read this as have a stutter as a roommate, like what is a stutter?? bit of a brain fart.
Looks like joe wants to bust out laughing
I can 100 percent relate. I've had a stutter my whole life.
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His stutter is barely there. You should do someone with a more severe one to better emphasize the fact of how having one goes, like I go through...
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I have a stutter as well and I get where you're coming from, but stuttering sounds different for everyone. Mine is very similar to his, mild-moderate, and somedays I stutter a lot more than others, it really just depends on if I'm stressed or tired or insecure. I think all stories and all voices matter, including his... and yours. You could definitely go on the podcast if you want to :)
He kind of gives a false impression of stuttering. His stuttering is quite mild. He was able to converse decently for 5 minutes minimum at a time. It would take me around 5 minutes just to say a sentence properly
Stuttering is so individualistic and there is no cookie cutter way to describe it. Every person has a different journey, a different severity but what remains is that we are here taking space and making our voices be heard. Raising awareness is what it's all about.
I heard there was a dog. I want to SEE said dog 👀
Try talking for five minutes without saying “like “ .