”If the person is not on the same wave lengths as you let the person go with compassion. And take care of your own needs.” This message is so freeing. I have always been ”the good girl” so many times i force myself to spend time and even help people that don’t share the same interests or values with me. And neither I nor they actually enjoy each others’ company. I have your book and these videos make the content even clearer. Thank you!
Everything you are saying is so true and thank you for presenting the material because we can never afford a therapist and most do not give radical tools to heal trauma. We all need a teacher like you in our lives🙏💕👏💫🌈😇🌟🤩
When others don’t care for my happiness, how they expect my care towards them? I find so many lies being told to suit their own narrative. My so called role models never communicate and don’t mind telling lies. But you’re right, it’s no ones fault. We just have to learn and keep growing towards our own happiness and well being.
I’ve been working on my own self. I’ve been a widow for several years, so I’ve been working through pandemic and it’s nice not having to deal with all the caregiver needs. For a people pleaser my heartache is crazy, but I need to rise from those ashes and realize I can fly. I have freedom, and it is bizarre to say the least. I lost a lot of family and friends, seeing all the disfunctions and waking up is hard. And also being more self reliant because the freedom is great. I don’t have to wait to do something. I can be selfish, I can say no or yes. I love how honest you are. The truth is the truth for all, I love it. Because all of us need to do this. We get distracted by busyness, we get distracted by all our urgent problems. It’s a human condition
I’m waiting for my book to arrive, I keep blaming my husband for not helping me with our children when they are little , even when I get really unwell he just kept shouting how I can be tired and unwell all the time( for 5 years my longest undisrupted sleep was 3hours) I’m beating myself now for letting that happen as now I’m suffering from total burnout, anxiety and depression and my child is been diagnosed with life illness and my husband is saying that I can’t leave now , I feel so lost and confused, no friends or family understand that, they think how can’t you be happy as you have everything and more than them, what would be your advice, how to find my peace xx
I completely understand what you are going through. I was a successful doctor and realized the healthcare establishment exists only to profit off of the sick and suffering. My life coach and my two biggest role models died in 2019. Now I have nobody that understands me or I can relate to except one friend who is a practicing Hindu from India. I tried to make a failed marriage work for 3 more years and it nearly killed me. You need to find a safe place to move to, even if it means moving to the other side of the world. Only then will your children understand who you are and appreciate you. As long as you stay in that home you will be bullied by the narcissist and your children will suffer. I'm a retired pediatrician and I only started realizing this recently. Follow your heart, follow your Spirit.
Dr Shefali, Somtimes the person you are dealing with has done his inner work and is so complete in themselves. We have not done our work and we keep on bearing heartaches... to some people it comes so naturally and to some all their knots are related to their inner work... and we need to fill ourselves, our holes... we know it all but every day we try to be a warrior having an courage to slay our known demons.... I know them...I observe them...I know they encompass myself... but i am responsible for my own growth and happiness... you are doing good job as slowly i doing every day effort to work on myself... Thanks a lot for enlightenment...
I haven't had a paycheck in 2 years otherwise I would have bought this book a long time ago. That is where my path has led me and all I can tell you is that Awakening is the most painful thing I have experienced, but, apparently I am experiencing this for a reason.
Wow it seems so obvious and easy but the decision making that comes from this knowledge is so hard and painful not only for yourself but those close to you as well. Think I need to get the book for understanding what o could have done better in dealing with the aftermath!
”If the person is not on the same wave lengths as you let the person go with compassion. And take care of your own needs.” This message is so freeing. I have always been ”the good girl” so many times i force myself to spend time and even help people that don’t share the same interests or values with me. And neither I nor they actually enjoy each others’ company. I have your book and these videos make the content even clearer. Thank you!
Everything you are saying is so true and thank you for presenting the material because we can never afford a therapist and most do not give radical tools to heal trauma.
We all need a teacher like you in our lives🙏💕👏💫🌈😇🌟🤩
thank you so much dr Shefali, so right, you explained to me my tortured relationships with so many key people in my life!
When others don’t care for my happiness, how they expect my care towards them?
I find so many lies being told to suit their own narrative. My so called role models never communicate and don’t mind telling lies.
But you’re right, it’s no ones fault. We just have to learn and keep growing towards our own happiness and well being.
I’ve been working on my own self. I’ve been a widow for several years, so I’ve been working through pandemic and it’s nice not having to deal with all the caregiver needs. For a people pleaser my heartache is crazy, but I need to rise from those ashes and realize I can fly. I have freedom, and it is bizarre to say the least. I lost a lot of family and friends, seeing all the disfunctions and waking up is hard. And also being more self reliant because the freedom is great. I don’t have to wait to do something. I can be selfish, I can say no or yes. I love how honest you are. The truth is the truth for all, I love it. Because all of us need to do this. We get distracted by busyness, we get distracted by all our urgent problems. It’s a human condition
I’m waiting for my book to arrive, I keep blaming my husband for not helping me with our children when they are little , even when I get really unwell he just kept shouting how I can be tired and unwell all the time( for 5 years my longest undisrupted sleep was 3hours) I’m beating myself now for letting that happen as now I’m suffering from total burnout, anxiety and depression and my child is been diagnosed with life illness and my husband is saying that I can’t leave now , I feel so lost and confused, no friends or family understand that, they think how can’t you be happy as you have everything and more than them, what would be your advice, how to find my peace xx
I completely understand what you are going through. I was a successful doctor and realized the healthcare establishment exists only to profit off of the sick and suffering. My life coach and my two biggest role models died in 2019. Now I have nobody that understands me or I can relate to except one friend who is a practicing Hindu from India. I tried to make a failed marriage work for 3 more years and it nearly killed me. You need to find a safe place to move to, even if it means moving to the other side of the world. Only then will your children understand who you are and appreciate you. As long as you stay in that home you will be bullied by the narcissist and your children will suffer. I'm a retired pediatrician and I only started realizing this recently. Follow your heart, follow your Spirit.
I connect being DF and have carried along my journey the characteristics given from my dear mother.
Dr Shefali, Somtimes the person you are dealing with has done his inner work and is so complete in themselves. We have not done our work and we keep on bearing heartaches... to some people it comes so naturally and to some all their knots are related to their inner work... and we need to fill ourselves, our holes... we know it all but every day we try to be a warrior having an courage to slay our known demons.... I know them...I observe them...I know they encompass myself... but i am responsible for my own growth and happiness... you are doing good job as slowly i doing every day effort to work on myself... Thanks a lot for enlightenment...
❤️❤️🙏🙏
I'm a shield that keeps people connection from me
By just going to the facts not to the feelings
Really true
Thank you M/s Shefali ji
Amazing. You speak my heart
I so resonate
I haven't had a paycheck in 2 years otherwise I would have bought this book a long time ago. That is where my path has led me and all I can tell you is that Awakening is the most painful thing I have experienced, but, apparently I am experiencing this for a reason.
Love 💖 this
Wow it seems so obvious and easy but the decision making that comes from this knowledge is so hard and painful not only for yourself but those close to you as well. Think I need to get the book for understanding what o could have done better in dealing with the aftermath!