Her internal issues is narcissist. Projecting like crazy. Everything she accuses his parents of doing is something she would do. She just thinks everyone is like her. She even calls OP selfish for not giving up his enjoyable job(life), and (tokens of memories) sentimental value for her, expensive Field Trip.
Red flag from the moment she called their will diabolical. It’s their assets, they get to decide who it goes to, and leaving it to the wife till she passes seems reasonable
Break up she can’t respect you or your family, she’s gaslighting you and guilt tripping you with an asset that isn’t hers. A no is a no, she’s 30 she should know that.
She actually had the nerve to call HIM selfish when she randomly decides for him to quit the job he loves and sell the home he loves just so she can run away from her problems. Not to mention screwing over her business partner too....And he's the selfish one 😑
not always, the actual beneficiaries were civil, same with my fathers' family my mothers family had some issues but still most were ok including my mom i'd say that it will ruin those who have not been raised with family vallues and a good moral background
More like, it makes people show their true colors. If everyone involved is a decent person - the inheritance process will go smoothly, like it did with my family when my grandfather died. However, if someone's shitty - the inheritance process can become a complete shitshow. My mother has a friend, who had a great relationship with her sister for 30-40 years of their life. That is, up until their mother died, and when it came down to who inherits what - shit completely hit the fan. They both wanted it ALL, so they kept dragging each other to courts for years, calling each other every name in the book and so on. Due to mother's friend being more well off on her own, she ended up just exhausting her sister financially and taking it all because the sister didn't have any money left to keep contesting. And even now, several decades later, when they have to interact (or even just mention each other) - they do it with vitriol, referring to each other strictly on an official second name basis. The same way people in my country usually refer to each other in court. Best part - it wasn't even that big of an inheritance. According to my mom, it was over two small apartments and something like $15-20k in cash. With property prices in my hometown, the entire inheritance would add up to $80-100k - and that's me being charitable. They could've just split it equally - but nah, they both had to get greedy and waste something like half a decade of their lives, while completely ruining the relationship with the ONLY remaining relative they have.
I had a grandfather and grandmother that weren't related to us, we had known them since I was 2 and they had always taken the place of my grandparents. They were both widow and widower who married later in life The grandmother, had a daughter that liked us and understood the relationship. The grandfather had 2 daughters, one a writer. The other a psychologist. They hated there fathers newer wife and us. The grandmother unfortunately had here intestines twist, it was a very slow and painful few months for her, she was on a bypass, that machine does way more harm than good, her body gave up, she died hours after telling us her last words in her sleep. I'm sorry, I won't make it to your graduation. Those where her last words to me. Immediately after the daughters removed almost any picture or references to her from there dads place. Some disappeared before her daughter even got to there house. They treated him horrible and basically gaslight him into further mental decline. He died shortly after, I was unfortunately unaware he died, they pushed us away and tried to claim my mother was seducing him. He most definitely was not. I was away at this time at basic training. I came back and he was already buried and gone. Along with him, nearly every national geographic every printed, from the time they were primarily scientific reports without pictures all the way to the month he died. He had promised me all of it, as I had listened and learned from him since I was a small child about his time in Africa and Bangladesh. I loved it and always wanted to hear his stories, his daughters were never there, ever, except Christmas. We always celebrated there birthdays, our birthdays, and there anniversary with them. But by the time I went to ask about those ng. All i got was 1, small, box. Out of the several thousand publications, and I never got an answer where any of his stuff went. Those daughters cleared him out in days.
@@DarkEinherjarnah she only wanted the money. The only reason she didn’t apologize for the money is because of her big ego, that’s what all narcissist are like
The ex wife couldn't simply take the L and apologise to the OP! Also she should seek therapy as she seen to have inferiority complex if the OP claimed is true (parent were rich but were not the bragging type)!
Property is usually one of the last things you sell when you’re really in financial trouble. And she wants him to sell it just for an extended vacation?? How stupid can she get??
Even if OP did go along with such a stupid idea, the money would only last six months. What were they going to do after those six months ended? And with no job to fall back on? OP was smart to leave his ex for her girl math logic alone.
1:52 its normal for your spouse to get everything when you die. And then after the widow dies, the inheritance gets distributed. Its actually more uncommon for a couple to give their kids 2 separate inheritances when 1 dies before the other.
I feel pride is what ultimately drove them apart. That woman was too prideful to admit wrong and accept what her husband didn’t want, so much so that she let the divorce happen without a fight. She ultimately played herself.
Signing a prenup is a rich people thing. Mindy, coming from a normal family was probably not accustomed to it. I suspect the parents did or said something during the prenup process that made her think they looked down in her or maybe they actually did do that to her secretly. We may never know. That being said, suggesting to quit job, sell house for a 6 month vacation is batshit on Mindy's part.
"Oh shit, I pushed the wealthy purse far enough to make him divorce me! Oh, I pushed him too far and can't get the purse back." I suspect that she self-sabotages herself in case she gets happy.
Mindy 100% sounds like she only wanted money, like, she was upset she wasn't making the same amount of money at her new job, she was upset OP wasn't going to get his parents business they started, and she was upset OP didn't want to sell his childhood home, tried to guilt trip him into doing it, and only tried to get back with him after he was going to make money off of the home. The reason she didn't try to fight the divorce was because she knew at that point it was over and because of the prenup she wouldn't get any money out of him. Hell, I wouldn't be shocked to find out she was cheating on him and only married him for his families money.
i was think reading your post ... mindy didnt want the money, she wanted him to be poorer than her . She say it she thinking his parent look down on her because she didnt have money, she want him to quit his job because he make more money than her and want to sell the inheritance and blow it because after that he will have no more money than her ... i think she cleary have an inferiority complex over money ... his parent, op, and pretty sure the next target will be op brother .
Who do people spend so much time trying to change people? If a person refuses to apologise why do you give them that ultimatum? You’ll get nothing or an apology nobody means. If a person refuses once let it go.
The real problem isn't that the wife feels that OP's parents are looking down on her but the fact that she insults them repeately despite knowing that everything is inside her head and that this would hurt OP's feelings. If she can't respect or treasure her husband while aware that she is in the wrong then there is no way this marriage will work.
Always said this.People like her or more stingy about their money than actual rich people to think.Everyone looks down upon them when it's the opposite.She thinks every rich person's evil , but once they're money
I mean you have a prenup plus inheritance can't be contested in court so she has nothing to contest because she can't... Doubt she has the money to drag it out either. This guy is dumb...
The moment she insulted my parents and moved out of the house that would have been it. No use is wasting your time on someone who isn't willing to communicate with you. She sounds like someone that isn't in it for love. Look at how financially irresponsible she is. Geeze why would anyone want to be tied to someone like that anyway?
It's amazing that Mindy married into a family with wealth and business acumen and never once asked any of them for advice/ideas on how to properly scale a business. Heck, even if they couldn't give her advice on her specific business, I'm sure they could have put her in contact with someone with the right knowledge. Mindy had a wealth of opportunity at her fingertips and she just let it go. Mindy really let her insecurities destroy her marriage and her chance at a cushy life. Mindy is dumb y'all. Don't be like Mindy.
as man, you got to question the level of your own self respect, when you have love for someone who disrespects you... because that love is a tool to show cruelty to yourself, in exchange for giving kindness. and if anything, it just adds fuel to the fire of disrespect for not standing up for yourself... communicating the the person you love, that the have cart blanch to use your love for them as a tool to manipulate you.
Mindy was projecting hard. She spunds like the type of person who judges others based on their wealth and thought OP's parents did the same since she did. Also, spunds like she realized how badly she messed up in the end and didnt want to cause anymore problems for OP
Mindy should probably know that non-liquid assets, like the house, inherited during the marriage are considered a separate asset in pretty much every state and a spouse cannot make a claim to it during division of assets
If OP's parents did look down on Mindy it would have been well deserved OP's family comes from generational wealth where it gets passed down to ensure future generations have every opportunity to succeed Mindy has the mentality to spend all the money doesn't matter if kids have to take out student loans since momma had an awesome years holiday 2 decades ago
She just wanted to run away from her problems with the money she wanted from the house. The fact that she can't stop talking bad about the recently decreased parents right in the guy's face is a red flag. Good on him for getting the divorce finalized, & glad that she didn't even try to contest the assets in the prenup.
I have noticed that when I woman insist on talking to you or meeting you to discuss something, that’s her telling you she feels as if she can convince you to do anything!!! AND she doesn’t respect you!!!
I've met enough rich people who thought they're down to earth and didn't rub their wealth in peoples faces since they weren't on the receiving end of their behaviour. I'd wait for her side first, but as it stands sounds like she's the AH
Them acting snobby isn't even the biggest issue, the biggest issue is how she felt so aggressively entitled to having her husband sell HIS house and quit HIS job so they could go on a stupid vacation. She was just using that "you look down on me" thing as a way to desperatly make herself the victim even though that wasn't even the most pertinent issue or relevant in any way shape or form.
Imagine n-king your marriage and a lifetime of wealth because you're too proud and stubborn to own up to your actions and words... The only positive thing I can say about Mindy is that, contrary to what a lot of people are commenting, she doesn't seem like a gold digger. A gold digger would've thrown pride out the window and groveled in front of OP and his parents' graves, apologizing profusely to whoever she needed to apologize for, anything to get back in OP's good graces. Personally, I think Mindy is just a narcissist who won't take no for an answer or take accountability for anything.
Right, it definitely sounds like she was jealous and hated them just for having money when she didn’t. It really seems like she wanted nothing to do with them but stayed for the money.
If she really wanted to be a part of the bakery, why didn’t she just ask his brother? Op doesn’t have to be a part owner for her to help at the business. She could even ask her BIL for help to expand her business if they need help. She just sounds lazy. Also, no other option??? All she had to do was apologize. She can feel however she wants but that doesn’t mean she isn’t wrong and still owes him an apology for the wrong stuff she said.
My dad owns his own business, and he has actually been bringing up that one of us should step up and take over…. My youngest brother and I immediately stepped back. I work IT for the company (not director haha. I just got my degree, so I work in the IT team as a regular help desk. I’m adopted and unless you’ve been in my dad’s office, you wouldn’t know we are related. Which is how I like it). My younger brother is in college and runs social media. Our middle brother actually works the job, so we all feel like he should get the company.
I'm quite shocked that both managed the divorce process in quite a mature way, also I think it's likely that she stopped loving op and some point and noticed they weren't made to be together
a non contested divorce isn't difficult. like at all. its harder to open a bag of chips then it is to go through a non con divorce. rich people problems. also inheritance by law is exempt from asset splitting unless the will that the asset came from specifically said "x and family" or "for mr and mrs x" legally speaking depending on prenup he'd get a share of her business. since it was created with (more likely) their money and not just hers.
Yeah great plan sell a mansion for bucket loads of money and throw it all away instantly by going on a dumbass around the world tour. Defo tips from someone who knows how to manage money
It’s pretty clear that she only cares about the money, but apparently one thing she cared more about was her pride, because if she had sucked it up and apologized (and she didn’t even need to be sincere, she can just put on an convincing act) she’d get what she wanted. But instead, she decides to double down and not take accountability, which costed her what she wanted. I’m not supporting her actions, I’m just saying if it wasn’t for her ego, she could’ve won, because the OP (foolishly) considered having her back and gave her that chance.
i was think after reading some comment ... mindy didnt want the money, she wanted him to be poorer than her . She say it, she thinking his parent look down on her because she didnt have money, she want him to quit his job because he make more money than her and want to sell the inheritance and blow it because after that he will have no more money than her ... i think she cleary have an inferiority complex over money ... his parent, op, and pretty sure the next target will be op brother .
I feel like a lot of people jumping to the old reliable gold-digger explanation didn't listen all the way to the end. I mean, that would've been my assumption too if I'd stopped the video a couple minutes earlier, as OP didn't say a damn word about the pre-nup until right at the end... and that she didn't even _try_ to contest it. If she's a gold-digger, she's very bad at it. That's what makes this one so nonsensical. I guess it's more about her drawing her line in the sand (in a very poorly thought-out place) and him drawing his own line in the sand, i.e. "Apologize for saying bad things about my dead parents or I'll divorce you!" and neither one willing to compromise even a little bit. Yeah, if the marriage means so little to both of you (and you're only 3 years in), then nothing of value was lost, I guess. Maybe don't be so quick to get married next time.
Wow, that title is REALLY misleading. Made me think he got some sort of revenge, and that she did some form of crawling back to him. She didn't. They just get divorced.
If money was all that mattered to Mindy, she was still sticking to her guns regarding how she was treated even knowing the marriage was heading south and she would not be sharing in the inheritance. OP may be blind to the treatment she received and not even try to see it from her point of view. Since OP never mentioned any instances that his wife said were examples of this prejudice, was it because there were none or because he didn’t view them in the same light as his wife and blew them off? OP is NTA for not selling the house but he is the AH because never once did he mention what his wife said was the treatment she received so I feel he is being dishonest in his post.
She has serious issues, she's blaming you about all the things she's thinking about. She's selfish because she wants to quit her job because she hates it, and wants OP to quit his as well even though he likes his. She's putting money over the relationship herself, because she is so caught up on how she would enjoy with the money made by selling the property compared to the sentiment
The only one putting money over the marriage is the entitled wife. That’s not her home to sell. It’s ops childhood home. The fact she can just sit there and play a pity party for herself is honestly super disgusting. She’s entitled and doesn’t deserve op.
These stories and real life experiences are making me realize you should marry and date within your tax bracket or the tax bracket you grew up in (Things happen, sometimes you go poor). It all screams jealousy
Clear underlying issues in the marriage. Mindy feels extremely insecure, making outrageous claims because of it. The OP jumping straight to divorce I thought was odd. The first thing that should have been done was couples therapy, going to a professional, not fucking reddit. Both people in the marriage didn't seem committed enough to the marriage. Should have dated longer if they were willing to let a fight cost the whole marriage. Yes what she said was bad but life altering? Was this really something that couldn't have been attempted to be worked past?
@@Demyxu I mean she got a prenup. I'd doubt she'd ever agree to marry if that's all she wanted. I feel that there were some mental issues that a professional could've identified.
He was grieving the loss of his parents and she waited until then to start talking bad about them. Not just the money, but also insulting him- as he said in the story. That's grounds for a divorce because that IS a moment that can change your perspective of your spouse forever. Plus, she stuck to her guns. Couples therapy isn't the miracle cure people think it is because it really doesn't change people, it just helps their communication. But there was no taking back her behavior at this painful time for him.
@@notrealnamenotatall2476 She spoke ill of the dead. That is bad but grounds for divorce? Something lifelong? I don't think so, even the op said that he was hoping she would apologize, and it definitely wasn't divorce at that point. It came to a point where they were both too stubborn, that's where a marriage councilor should have come in. Yes the argument devolved into insults, however according to him his marriage and dating was going well up to this point (at least 3 years) and they had one fight the devolved into insults. I'm sorry but a fight devolving to insults shouldn't be a deal breaker either. Couples therapy isn't a miracle nor did I say it was. According to the OP the marriage was going strong until this point, I was saying that they both should have tried harder to save it. Honestly they both seemed so uncommitted, they really should've dated longer clearly.
"You won't give up your career and childhood home to give me fleeting entertainment? You're selfish!" "Sure my feelings *aren't reality* but you should respect them!"
lol the story start by her quitting her job to start a business but a 5 min we learn she "hate working" sure , entrepreneur don't work lol ... she look like a SAHW who "work" as influenceur with 200 follower lol edit so he put money over her when SHE require him to sell his childhood house, a "generation house" for her to travel around the wold ? at 30 y old after only 3 year of mariage ? that gazlight OMG
i dont really think she was after the money, i think she had an inferiority complex, and that painted a story in her head, that story put herself as cinderella. think is, people usually dont apreciate when you tell them that you view them and their parents as the evil stepmother and stepsisters that cinderella had. if you then cant apoligize for that... i mean, what you expect? is clear that there were some issues there, probably ones that could be solved with some help
yeah say the same think, it's inferiority complex here . she want him to quit his well pay job, him to blow his inheritance ... she need him to stop having more money than her like that she will not feel inferior ... she cleary need huge therapy here ... and to be like that only at 30 y after only 3 years of mariage ... i understand the divorce , hard to build somethink here before she work hard on herself .
Sounds like my family , not to this extent but u know the saying a luxury vehicle in front a middle class house is why they stay middle class? They’re the god damn textbook example for that, and I’m not saying just one vehicle 💀
Not listened at all yet, but from the title this woman takes as a personal affront any money coming in that she could not legally immediately spend, because the sensation of it burning her pocket is too much.
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Mindy is like a lottery winner who doesn’t understand how to manage wealth. They go bankrupt after a couple years
So, 99% of lottery jackpot winners?
Her internal issues is narcissist. Projecting like crazy. Everything she accuses his parents of doing is something she would do. She just thinks everyone is like her. She even calls OP selfish for not giving up his enjoyable job(life), and (tokens of memories) sentimental value for her, expensive Field Trip.
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How do you think they won the lottery?
Just put it away and live off the interest. Idk why people don't understand that.
Red flag from the moment she called their will diabolical. It’s their assets, they get to decide who it goes to, and leaving it to the wife till she passes seems reasonable
That was my thoughts. Of course everything goes to the living spouse first. You have no idea how long they would live or what they would need/want.
Agreed. Calling the will "diabolical" was a red flag for sure. It's their right to decide what to do with their assets, and their approach made sense.
Break up she can’t respect you or your family, she’s gaslighting you and guilt tripping you with an asset that isn’t hers. A no is a no, she’s 30 she should know that.
If she is just doing this for the money you should get a divorce.
Forget the if, just divorce her anyways
They should try and make it work and get marriage counselling. I don’t think you understand how hard it is to end a serious relationship
@@Afrogirrl she cleary don't have any work ethic or moral / financial understanding ...
as a formar "banker" i find it very very strange lol ...
@@Afrogirrl You forgot to put "for people like me" at the end of the sentence.
@@BERKE-no1ds for literally anyone. Especially someone you committed and planned to live the rest of your life with. It is hard
She actually had the nerve to call HIM selfish when she randomly decides for him to quit the job he loves and sell the home he loves just so she can run away from her problems. Not to mention screwing over her business partner too....And he's the selfish one 😑
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Inheritance will always bring out the worst in people
not always, the actual beneficiaries were civil, same with my fathers' family
my mothers family had some issues but still most were ok including my mom
i'd say that it will ruin those who have not been raised with family vallues and a good moral background
Especially when the person is an absolute gold digger
More like, it makes people show their true colors. If everyone involved is a decent person - the inheritance process will go smoothly, like it did with my family when my grandfather died.
However, if someone's shitty - the inheritance process can become a complete shitshow. My mother has a friend, who had a great relationship with her sister for 30-40 years of their life. That is, up until their mother died, and when it came down to who inherits what - shit completely hit the fan. They both wanted it ALL, so they kept dragging each other to courts for years, calling each other every name in the book and so on. Due to mother's friend being more well off on her own, she ended up just exhausting her sister financially and taking it all because the sister didn't have any money left to keep contesting.
And even now, several decades later, when they have to interact (or even just mention each other) - they do it with vitriol, referring to each other strictly on an official second name basis. The same way people in my country usually refer to each other in court.
Best part - it wasn't even that big of an inheritance. According to my mom, it was over two small apartments and something like $15-20k in cash. With property prices in my hometown, the entire inheritance would add up to $80-100k - and that's me being charitable. They could've just split it equally - but nah, they both had to get greedy and waste something like half a decade of their lives, while completely ruining the relationship with the ONLY remaining relative they have.
So true. Inheritance really does bring out unexpected sides in people, and it can be ugly.
I had a grandfather and grandmother that weren't related to us, we had known them since I was 2 and they had always taken the place of my grandparents. They were both widow and widower who married later in life
The grandmother, had a daughter that liked us and understood the relationship.
The grandfather had 2 daughters, one a writer. The other a psychologist.
They hated there fathers newer wife and us.
The grandmother unfortunately had here intestines twist, it was a very slow and painful few months for her, she was on a bypass, that machine does way more harm than good, her body gave up, she died hours after telling us her last words in her sleep.
I'm sorry, I won't make it to your graduation. Those where her last words to me.
Immediately after the daughters removed almost any picture or references to her from there dads place. Some disappeared before her daughter even got to there house.
They treated him horrible and basically gaslight him into further mental decline.
He died shortly after, I was unfortunately unaware he died, they pushed us away and tried to claim my mother was seducing him. He most definitely was not. I was away at this time at basic training. I came back and he was already buried and gone.
Along with him, nearly every national geographic every printed, from the time they were primarily scientific reports without pictures all the way to the month he died. He had promised me all of it, as I had listened and learned from him since I was a small child about his time in Africa and Bangladesh. I loved it and always wanted to hear his stories, his daughters were never there, ever, except Christmas.
We always celebrated there birthdays, our birthdays, and there anniversary with them.
But by the time I went to ask about those ng. All i got was 1, small, box. Out of the several thousand publications, and I never got an answer where any of his stuff went. Those daughters cleared him out in days.
Mindy only wants the money. She doesnt care about the marriage, her husband, his family. Just the money.
I don't know... if she only cared about the money, she'd have no problem apologizing, begging, promising to be better, and so on.
@@DarkEinherjarnah she only wanted the money. The only reason she didn’t apologize for the money is because of her big ego, that’s what all narcissist are like
Like lady it's not you versus the house, it's a vacation that YOU want versus his career and childhood home.
She is a gold digger don’t walk run
The ex wife couldn't simply take the L and apologise to the OP! Also she should seek therapy as she seen to have inferiority complex if the OP claimed is true (parent were rich but were not the bragging type)!
Property is usually one of the last things you sell when you’re really in financial trouble. And she wants him to sell it just for an extended vacation?? How stupid can she get??
Even if OP did go along with such a stupid idea, the money would only last six months. What were they going to do after those six months ended? And with no job to fall back on?
OP was smart to leave his ex for her girl math logic alone.
It’s wild that she didn’t apologize, especially after insulting your family like that. You’re right to hold out until she acknowledges her mistakes!
1:52 its normal for your spouse to get everything when you die. And then after the widow dies, the inheritance gets distributed. Its actually more uncommon for a couple to give their kids 2 separate inheritances when 1 dies before the other.
Don't sell it. It's a valuable heirloom. Renovate it instead.
I like the airbnb idea. Our mortgage payment is usually covered in the summer because of our airbnb.
She's showing you who she really is. Believe her.
Any apology coming from her from now would be hollow and shouldn't be trusted
I feel pride is what ultimately drove them apart. That woman was too prideful to admit wrong and accept what her husband didn’t want, so much so that she let the divorce happen without a fight. She ultimately played herself.
Signing a prenup is a rich people thing. Mindy, coming from a normal family was probably not accustomed to it. I suspect the parents did or said something during the prenup process that made her think they looked down in her or maybe they actually did do that to her secretly. We may never know.
That being said, suggesting to quit job, sell house for a 6 month vacation is batshit on Mindy's part.
"Oh shit, I pushed the wealthy purse far enough to make him divorce me! Oh, I pushed him too far and can't get the purse back." I suspect that she self-sabotages herself in case she gets happy.
Mindy 100% sounds like she only wanted money, like, she was upset she wasn't making the same amount of money at her new job, she was upset OP wasn't going to get his parents business they started, and she was upset OP didn't want to sell his childhood home, tried to guilt trip him into doing it, and only tried to get back with him after he was going to make money off of the home. The reason she didn't try to fight the divorce was because she knew at that point it was over and because of the prenup she wouldn't get any money out of him. Hell, I wouldn't be shocked to find out she was cheating on him and only married him for his families money.
i was think reading your post ... mindy didnt want the money, she wanted him to be poorer than her .
She say it she thinking his parent look down on her because she didnt have money, she want him to quit his job because he make more money than her and want to sell the inheritance and blow it because after that he will have no more money than her ...
i think she cleary have an inferiority complex over money ... his parent, op, and pretty sure the next target will be op brother .
Inheritance isn't marital property. He doesn't have to give Mindy one dusty penny.
And yet, windfalls like this tend to bring greed out.
Who do people spend so much time trying to change people? If a person refuses to apologise why do you give them that ultimatum? You’ll get nothing or an apology nobody means. If a person refuses once let it go.
The real problem isn't that the wife feels that OP's parents are looking down on her but the fact that she insults them repeately despite knowing that everything is inside her head and that this would hurt OP's feelings. If she can't respect or treasure her husband while aware that she is in the wrong then there is no way this marriage will work.
Always said this.People like her or more stingy about their money than actual rich people to think.Everyone looks down upon them when it's the opposite.She thinks every rich person's evil , but once they're money
If shes that obsessed over money. Run.
I mean you have a prenup plus inheritance can't be contested in court so she has nothing to contest because she can't... Doubt she has the money to drag it out either. This guy is dumb...
She’s deffo a gold digger. Once she realized she wouldn’t be able to mine that good. She gave up and is looking for another mine
The moment she insulted my parents and moved out of the house that would have been it. No use is wasting your time on someone who isn't willing to communicate with you. She sounds like someone that isn't in it for love. Look at how financially irresponsible she is. Geeze why would anyone want to be tied to someone like that anyway?
It's amazing that Mindy married into a family with wealth and business acumen and never once asked any of them for advice/ideas on how to properly scale a business. Heck, even if they couldn't give her advice on her specific business, I'm sure they could have put her in contact with someone with the right knowledge. Mindy had a wealth of opportunity at her fingertips and she just let it go.
Mindy really let her insecurities destroy her marriage and her chance at a cushy life. Mindy is dumb y'all. Don't be like Mindy.
as man, you got to question the level of your own self respect, when you have love for someone who disrespects you... because that love is a tool to show cruelty to yourself, in exchange for giving kindness. and if anything, it just adds fuel to the fire of disrespect for not standing up for yourself... communicating the the person you love, that the have cart blanch to use your love for them as a tool to manipulate you.
Mindy was projecting hard. She spunds like the type of person who judges others based on their wealth and thought OP's parents did the same since she did.
Also, spunds like she realized how badly she messed up in the end and didnt want to cause anymore problems for OP
That's a major gold digger move right there. Good on you, op find a better girl.
Mindy should probably know that non-liquid assets, like the house, inherited during the marriage are considered a separate asset in pretty much every state and a spouse cannot make a claim to it during division of assets
If op got the business he would 100% gave it to his brother since its not fair since the brother spend his time knowing and op has no experience
If OP's parents did look down on Mindy it would have been well deserved
OP's family comes from generational wealth where it gets passed down to ensure future generations have every opportunity to succeed
Mindy has the mentality to spend all the money doesn't matter if kids have to take out student loans since momma had an awesome years holiday 2 decades ago
She wants their money but dislikes them! She’s foul!
She just wanted to run away from her problems with the money she wanted from the house. The fact that she can't stop talking bad about the recently decreased parents right in the guy's face is a red flag. Good on him for getting the divorce finalized, & glad that she didn't even try to contest the assets in the prenup.
The house can’t be gotten. Inheritance is non marital assets
@@axinhedgelion8417 Kind of why she was trying to force the OP to sell the house, since she otherwise can't touch it.
She sounds very much like a narcissist. I wish I'd had the clarity to handle my narcissistic ex like this. It saves so much inevitable trouble.
Imagine if OP told his wife to sell her parents home and send them to nursing home so she can gift OP a fancy watch.
She really said "Putting wealth over her and our marriage"
No, ma'am, that is you to OP
I have noticed that when I woman insist on talking to you or meeting you to discuss something, that’s her telling you she feels as if she can convince you to do anything!!! AND she doesn’t respect you!!!
Remember OP all this is an inheritance and Mindy is not entitled to any of it. Get rid of her and her gold digging ways.
I've met enough rich people who thought they're down to earth and didn't rub their wealth in peoples faces since they weren't on the receiving end of their behaviour. I'd wait for her side first, but as it stands sounds like she's the AH
Them acting snobby isn't even the biggest issue, the biggest issue is how she felt so aggressively entitled to having her husband sell HIS house and quit HIS job so they could go on a stupid vacation. She was just using that "you look down on me" thing as a way to desperatly make herself the victim even though that wasn't even the most pertinent issue or relevant in any way shape or form.
@@kossettereaditte7552not just any house, his CHILDHOOD HOME
Inheritance is like you using magic to bring out people’s true colors
"If we can talk, you'll understand my side and forgive me"
In other words, "I am right to trash your parents and I'll prove it."
Absolute red flag, lord have mercy for the OP.
Mindy is the type if wealth is dumped on her she'll definitely be showing it off.
I swear all these reddit stories have me baffled about how lucky I am with my wife 💀
Don't give up you're family home.
Big Red Flag. Shes all about the money
Hahaha, he's waiting for her to apologize and admit what she said re: his family was wrong?! yeah - good luck
Imagine n-king your marriage and a lifetime of wealth because you're too proud and stubborn to own up to your actions and words...
The only positive thing I can say about Mindy is that, contrary to what a lot of people are commenting, she doesn't seem like a gold digger. A gold digger would've thrown pride out the window and groveled in front of OP and his parents' graves, apologizing profusely to whoever she needed to apologize for, anything to get back in OP's good graces.
Personally, I think Mindy is just a narcissist who won't take no for an answer or take accountability for anything.
She literally hates him and his family.
Right, it definitely sounds like she was jealous and hated them just for having money when she didn’t. It really seems like she wanted nothing to do with them but stayed for the money.
I can tell OP is British
As a former diaper shitting toddler, I can understand the wife's frustration.
If she really wanted to be a part of the bakery, why didn’t she just ask his brother? Op doesn’t have to be a part owner for her to help at the business. She could even ask her BIL for help to expand her business if they need help. She just sounds lazy.
Also, no other option??? All she had to do was apologize. She can feel however she wants but that doesn’t mean she isn’t wrong and still owes him an apology for the wrong stuff she said.
My dad owns his own business, and he has actually been bringing up that one of us should step up and take over…. My youngest brother and I immediately stepped back. I work IT for the company (not director haha. I just got my degree, so I work in the IT team as a regular help desk. I’m adopted and unless you’ve been in my dad’s office, you wouldn’t know we are related. Which is how I like it). My younger brother is in college and runs social media. Our middle brother actually works the job, so we all feel like he should get the company.
I'm quite shocked that both managed the divorce process in quite a mature way, also I think it's likely that she stopped loving op and some point and noticed they weren't made to be together
a non contested divorce isn't difficult. like at all. its harder to open a bag of chips then it is to go through a non con divorce. rich people problems. also inheritance by law is exempt from asset splitting unless the will that the asset came from specifically said "x and family" or "for mr and mrs x" legally speaking depending on prenup he'd get a share of her business. since it was created with (more likely) their money and not just hers.
Im surprised she didnt cry abuse or claim the silver bullet in divorce to get all of his stuff
That attitude towards his parents is a major red flag to me
She'll be back. At the very least, she'll be blaming OP.
divorce her, she is a gold digger because you wont take her on a vacation
Yeah great plan sell a mansion for bucket loads of money and throw it all away instantly by going on a dumbass around the world tour. Defo tips from someone who knows how to manage money
6 month vacation is an impossible ask, so that she can justfiy cheating or something else
It’s pretty clear that she only cares about the money, but apparently one thing she cared more about was her pride, because if she had sucked it up and apologized (and she didn’t even need to be sincere, she can just put on an convincing act) she’d get what she wanted. But instead, she decides to double down and not take accountability, which costed her what she wanted. I’m not supporting her actions, I’m just saying if it wasn’t for her ego, she could’ve won, because the OP (foolishly) considered having her back and gave her that chance.
Now I ain’t sayin she a gold digger, but she ain’t messing w no broke -
Trash cleaned itself.
"I ain't sayin' she's a gold....."
Wait. Sorry. I AM saying she's a golddigger.
Dude she is a golddigger,best course of action is to divorce.
She will be your ruin if this continue.
“Pushing wealth over marriage”😂
Every time op says apologize. I do 1 push up
i was think after reading some comment ... mindy didnt want the money, she wanted him to be poorer than her .
She say it, she thinking his parent look down on her because she didnt have money, she want him to quit his job because he make more money than her and want to sell the inheritance and blow it because after that he will have no more money than her ...
i think she cleary have an inferiority complex over money ... his parent, op, and pretty sure the next target will be op brother .
All she had to do was apologize bruh
I feel like a lot of people jumping to the old reliable gold-digger explanation didn't listen all the way to the end. I mean, that would've been my assumption too if I'd stopped the video a couple minutes earlier, as OP didn't say a damn word about the pre-nup until right at the end... and that she didn't even _try_ to contest it. If she's a gold-digger, she's very bad at it. That's what makes this one so nonsensical.
I guess it's more about her drawing her line in the sand (in a very poorly thought-out place) and him drawing his own line in the sand, i.e. "Apologize for saying bad things about my dead parents or I'll divorce you!" and neither one willing to compromise even a little bit. Yeah, if the marriage means so little to both of you (and you're only 3 years in), then nothing of value was lost, I guess. Maybe don't be so quick to get married next time.
She is a gold digger. She wanted OP to give up his life, the career he loved, and his family home to prove his loyalty and obedience to her.
Wow, that title is REALLY misleading. Made me think he got some sort of revenge, and that she did some form of crawling back to him. She didn't. They just get divorced.
This woman saw dollar signs and just ran for it like a bull
get a divorce she is a gold digger whether you can see it or not
Mindy runs the finances of her business? No wonder it’s not doing well.
If money was all that mattered to Mindy, she was still sticking to her guns regarding how she was treated even knowing the marriage was heading south and she would not be sharing in the inheritance. OP may be blind to the treatment she received and not even try to see it from her point of view. Since OP never mentioned any instances that his wife said were examples of this prejudice, was it because there were none or because he didn’t view them in the same light as his wife and blew them off? OP is NTA for not selling the house but he is the AH because never once did he mention what his wife said was the treatment she received so I feel he is being dishonest in his post.
She has serious issues, she's blaming you about all the things she's thinking about. She's selfish because she wants to quit her job because she hates it, and wants OP to quit his as well even though he likes his. She's putting money over the relationship herself, because she is so caught up on how she would enjoy with the money made by selling the property compared to the sentiment
She wanted to meet him in person to “explain her side” because she can’t manipulate him through sex over the phone.
Money Money Money, Mindy is just in it for the money
I really do wonder how these men find these awful women. Jesus…
She only cares about the money why would you keep her
Mindys greed knows no bounds
The only one putting money over the marriage is the entitled wife. That’s not her home to sell. It’s ops childhood home. The fact she can just sit there and play a pity party for herself is honestly super disgusting. She’s entitled and doesn’t deserve op.
you cant forgive someone who never apologized.
These stories and real life experiences are making me realize you should marry and date within your tax bracket or the tax bracket you grew up in (Things happen, sometimes you go poor). It all screams jealousy
Zero fucking accountability whatsoever
Mindy was definitely cheating
Clear underlying issues in the marriage. Mindy feels extremely insecure, making outrageous claims because of it. The OP jumping straight to divorce I thought was odd. The first thing that should have been done was couples therapy, going to a professional, not fucking reddit. Both people in the marriage didn't seem committed enough to the marriage. Should have dated longer if they were willing to let a fight cost the whole marriage. Yes what she said was bad but life altering? Was this really something that couldn't have been attempted to be worked past?
I'd divorce someone if I found out that they were a severe gold digger and were only obsessed about getting my money.
@@Demyxu I mean she got a prenup. I'd doubt she'd ever agree to marry if that's all she wanted. I feel that there were some mental issues that a professional could've identified.
He was grieving the loss of his parents and she waited until then to start talking bad about them. Not just the money, but also insulting him- as he said in the story. That's grounds for a divorce because that IS a moment that can change your perspective of your spouse forever. Plus, she stuck to her guns.
Couples therapy isn't the miracle cure people think it is because it really doesn't change people, it just helps their communication. But there was no taking back her behavior at this painful time for him.
@@notrealnamenotatall2476 She spoke ill of the dead. That is bad but grounds for divorce? Something lifelong? I don't think so, even the op said that he was hoping she would apologize, and it definitely wasn't divorce at that point. It came to a point where they were both too stubborn, that's where a marriage councilor should have come in.
Yes the argument devolved into insults, however according to him his marriage and dating was going well up to this point (at least 3 years) and they had one fight the devolved into insults. I'm sorry but a fight devolving to insults shouldn't be a deal breaker either.
Couples therapy isn't a miracle nor did I say it was. According to the OP the marriage was going strong until this point, I was saying that they both should have tried harder to save it. Honestly they both seemed so uncommitted, they really should've dated longer clearly.
@@catneedslogic9836inheritance is non marital assets
"You won't give up your career and childhood home to give me fleeting entertainment? You're selfish!"
"Sure my feelings *aren't reality* but you should respect them!"
lol the story start by her quitting her job to start a business but a 5 min we learn she "hate working"
sure , entrepreneur don't work lol ... she look like a SAHW who "work" as influenceur with 200 follower lol
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so he put money over her when SHE require him to sell his childhood house, a "generation house" for her to travel around the wold ? at 30 y old after only 3 year of mariage ?
that gazlight OMG
i dont really think she was after the money, i think she had an inferiority complex, and that painted a story in her head, that story put herself as cinderella. think is, people usually dont apreciate when you tell them that you view them and their parents as the evil stepmother and stepsisters that cinderella had.
if you then cant apoligize for that... i mean, what you expect? is clear that there were some issues there, probably ones that could be solved with some help
yeah say the same think, it's inferiority complex here .
she want him to quit his well pay job, him to blow his inheritance ... she need him to stop having more money than her like that she will not feel inferior ...
she cleary need huge therapy here ... and to be like that only at 30 y after only 3 years of mariage ... i understand the divorce , hard to build somethink here before she work hard on herself .
Glad he divorced her. She's a gold digger
She leaves you after insulting you, but your wrong for not being her piggyp bank she wants your money not you
Sounds like my family , not to this extent but u know the saying a luxury vehicle in front a middle class house is why they stay middle class? They’re the god damn textbook example for that, and I’m not saying just one vehicle 💀
Mindy is definitely money hungry, I wouldn't be surprised if she were a golddigger.
A banking goblins love story
Not listened at all yet, but from the title this woman takes as a personal affront any money coming in that she could not legally immediately spend, because the sensation of it burning her pocket is too much.