Vaughn, as someone that has had mother issues, I want to hug you and tell you how strong you are. I’m glad your dad was able to show up for you. Your family is beautiful and will continue to be as it grows. Can’t wait to see your next baby!❤
Congratulations Vaughn! I’m truly happy for you. I had my 2nd daughter (who is 2 now) when I was 45. Some of my “closest” family and friends made the rudest comments regarding my age. My daughter is beautiful. I had no complications and I pray the same for you. Can’t wait to see your new bundle of joy!
I am 45 and I am pregnant with my second! I am keeping it from certain family because I will check them in the most HOLY way 😉 for their rude comments.
I’m 43 and due in 3 weeks. Got pregnant naturally and will have a 23 year gap between my children. I don’t know the gender do this little one is going to be a surprise. I can’t wait!!! 🤗
Have a 12 year old, a 3 year old and a 6 month old. The last two I was 38 and 41. Thank the Lord, all was fine with both and I’m so happy we went through with the pregnancies in spite of our fear with risks with age. God gives us what is meant to be 🙌. Excited for you guys and in awe of what great parents you are. Miss Anne is a very blessed little girl as will this next child be. God bless.
I'm not a mom, but I've been following you for yearsssssss. If I were to become pregnant now (at 41), I would for sure be, what "they" call, a geriatric pregnancy. I comment on occasion, but I want to leave this comment as an extreme appreciation for how transparent and patient you are with us all. I've learned so, so, SO much from you from natural hair, to make up & clothes to loss/grief-- now home decor, DIY and babies. Thank you so much, Ms. Vaughn. Congratulations, and I wish you and your family nothing but the best! ❤
Just want to say thank you for always being so transparent with your life in general. So excited for you, Anthony and Anne in this next chapter of your life. You deserve all the happiness in world. I also wanted to say how sorry I am that your Mother is not around, but so proud of you realizing that you needed to separate yourself for that energy. That has to be difficult--especially since she is your Mom. Also, PLEASE keep doing the research and keeping us informed about all the things. I've learned so much from you about autism through your very candid and REAL conversations about raising Anne. Every mother needs that--especially us Black Moms. . .so many taboos in our culture--I know you get it. Looking forward to more videos about your journey and respect your privacy, but can't wait to see the new cutie and find out the name!!! Thank you for sharing and I'm so thankful to have found you on RUclips!!💕💕
I work in reproductive medicine as an embryologist. We have many patients that are 40+ have that are having babies. We allow patients to have babies with their own eggs until the age of 45. After 45 they can carry the baby but they have to use donor eggs. Basically, it’s way more normal than people think to be older, pregnant, and having healthy babies. Congrats Vaughn and I wish you a continued healthy pregnancy!!
@@aleesharenea1477 Yes! Regardless of age, it’s not as easy to get pregnant as most people think. If you have been trying for six months - a year, my clinic would define that as infertility and recommended seeing a fertility specialist. However like Vaughn said, sometimes you just have to use a bunch of apps and keep trying. Also, don’t always think it has to do with the woman. If you can, get your partner a semen analysis to make sure everything is normal with them.
You have that pretty kind of pregnancy where it seems like only your stomach gained weight. It's not noticeable in your face, neck, or anywhere else detectable from a person just looking at you if your stomach is not in view. And this update was very informative and enjoyable. I'm just glad you're feeling well.
Reading everyone's age when they had a child is so encouraging. Thank you everyone. I'm 38 with no kids but I pray God blesses me one day with a happy healthy baby
I was 35 and 39 when I had my children, and they were born 30 and 60 days early respectively, but both are healthy and thriving 18/15 years later! God bless you and your family!!
Vaughn, I always admire how you gracefully establish your personal boundaries. Congratulations again on your growing family! Thank you for sharing with us 🤍🫶🏼
It was so beautiful (and quite frankly, healing) to hear you speak about the baby being a blank slate to you. I think that's a byproduct of your decision to love your child unconditionally, no matter who they are or who they grow to be. Like you already know that no matter what, the fundamentals won't change - that's your kid and you WILL stick beside 'em. Approaching raising them with curiosity and an openness and willingness to discover who they naturally are and help them become more of that...man, anyway I'm getting emotional. Loved that Vaughn.
Thank you for this update, and the importance of mental health especially as Black women we dismiss our own needs. And I completely understand your need for privacy.
Hi Vaughn, your videos are like a tv show! You are such a good storyteller. You always deliver quality content that we can follow. So happy you are well and everything is happening as it should. Best of everything to you!!
All of these women had healthy babies in their older age DaBrat 49 Kenya Morre 47 Janet Jackson 50 Mariah Carey at 42 had twins Kim Fields 44 Halle Berry 46 Nia Long 41 Tiny Harris 40 Tamron Hall 48 Garcelle Beauvais at 40 had twins
RIGHT...I wish she would have hid the camera!!! I think he held back a lil because like Vaugh said he knew she was filming!! Nevertheless, it was PRICELESS we could see he was very happy!!! 🥰
I'm 41 yo and pregnant also. Im pretty sure you and I are due within the same month or within 4 weeks of each other based on some of our experiences and timing of them. I will not share my due date in here and also waited a very long time before telling family and friends. Most of them didn't know until the recently got a shower invite😁. I pray you have a healthy rest of your pregnancy and delivery. Thank you for your transparency and sharing with us❤❤
I do not plan on a baby at 51 lmbo. However I enjoyed watching this. I'm so glad that your dad was able to support you in this experience. I hope and pray that one day if you're ready, and mom has had time to reflect and heal her own trauma that you will be able to move forward. I'm so proud of you for always standing in your truth and not wavering. Anne and Sweet Pea(new baby) and very fortunate to be surrounded by so much love and support. I have an adult autistic son, and baby it hasn't always been easy. When you find that sweet spot in caring for them and it pans out better than you expected... PURE GOLD!!! YOU GOT THIS! Anne is going to be a great big sister. Anthony's reaction was priceless.
Thank you for this video. I am 40 as well. My husband and I had our second and last lol child in April. I was already high risk due to high blood pressure that accord during my last pregnancy. We are so grateful for our family. I truly believe that having our princess later on in life has caused me to be more self aware. Im trying my best to focus on self care, healthier habits, and mental health so I can ensure I’m in a good headspace to raise whole children! Congratulations to you all! Praying for your next chapter in life to be the best chapter!
I appreciate you doing this. Im TTC and it’s hard to find black women who speak candidly about their experience. I’ve experienced miscarriages unfortunately but I’m still hopeful even over 40. Sis you have no idea how happy your pregnancy makes some of the people in your community. Blessings to you all 🙏🏾
I am a success story after 15 yrs of infertility I gave birth to my first biological child at the age of 38. Both my husband and I had issues. I gave birth to my second at age 40. We also have two adopted kids. I've had 5 miscarriages. Both pregnancies had scares, but the babies were healthy. My last just graduated high school with honors. May God answer your prayers.
When you first shared your reveal on Instagram I screamed in excitement for you and your family!! Literally soooo happy for you. As an OG follower since the evolution of the Monroe Sisters to now, this is so special. I’m sadden to hear of your moms reaction, but I am praying that God mends that. I’m glad that you are focusing on your mental health to understand space is needed. Most won’t because of the parent title, but we have to protect our peace at all costs. Best wishes and positive vibes on this journey!! I can’t wait to see the bond AnnieBoo will have with the baby 🥰🥰
Congratulations to you, Anthony, and Little Anne! I had my last child at 44! She was not planned. Yes, privacy and processing room is necessary. I had HD with all 4 of my pregnancies as well. My daughter has a autism diagnosis. She is now 6 and the light of the family. Educating ourselves and our family was key. Any child with or without a diagnosis is a challenge, therefore we just don’t stress. It’s one day at a time. You’ve helped me for years in the journey! You look amazing! Many blessings ahead!! Enjoy!
Congratulations! Here for hiring live-in support. When my husband and I bought our home, we purchased a floor plan that could comfortably accommodate my grandmother, who now cares for my two children throughout the day. She's so so good with them and hardly ever uses screen time. It's also a plus for date nights! 10 out of 10 recommend!
This video made my heart happy for you and your family. As for the moment in the video that made me tear up😢, I know first hand how that feels. Blessings to you on your mental well being journey😊 Im 46 and I started my journey into my mental well being at 38. The best decision I ever made. 😊
Congrats Vaughn! I had my youngest son at 39, BEST pregnancy out of my two and he’s now a healthy 9 yr old. Gods blessings on you through this pregnancy and delivery of your new baby. Thank you for sharing your life with us! 🙏🏾❤️
I recommend the book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents . It really helped me to cope with my mother's hurtful behaviour toward me since I was young.
I love how your dad is so concerned and willing to learn. It’s so sweet 😊 because I just think of men and not touching pregnancy questions with a 10ft pole as long as you’re good. Of course not all men but you know they’re like “we’ll leave that to the women” lol
What’s going on between you and your MOM is just that, between you and your Mom. You owe no one an explanation, take care of you. Give your mom a little grace, she might be afraid of losing another daughter, I don’t know, just know that God is with and everything will be alright.
That's a good perspective about the "autism cloud." My son is 4 and I'm pregnant again and I truly don't feel like I'm walking around tense and worried and what if-ing myself to death. Who this child will be, will be and we'll love them either way. And yeeeaahhhh trying to get pregnant and randomly getting pregnant is completely different! Glad ya'll could get through that awkward phase.
Vaughn, I am so excited for you! Thank you for sharing this pregnancy journey with us. I’m sorry to hear about your mom’s reaction. I am thinking of you all and sending lots of love! 💗
I’m so happy for you and your family’s new addition. I’m so sorry about your mom and wish things were different but am praying for a safe and healthy arrival of your baby. 🖤
I’m so happy for you! Thanks for sharing. All of my friends and I had geriatric pregnancies so it feels weird when people make a big deal of it. I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well!
I very rarely comment but wanted to say I could listen to you talk all day I love how articulate and educated you are and how you take the time to research and gain the knowledge you need and making the decision that works for your beautiful family. Much prayer for you and you family and your journey in this season of your life. I'm a mental health professional and I love that you validate the work that is so needed. I love that you are allowing yourself to do the self work and taking care of your mental health! You seem very proactive in many areas of your life and that's inspiring. Thanks for sharing and for sure look forward to listening to more of your journey.
Hey Vaughn! I'm 40 and pregnant with baby number 2 also. This video really helped me put things in perspective and you gave me some great tips I definitely plan to apply. Thank you for sharing! I wish you nothing but the best! 💖
Vaughn…girl…you are my fave vlogger. I truly appreciate the way you balance privacy and transparency. Just about every question I would’ve asked, you answered. I think I remember peeping the water at your bday, but I think I probably attributed it you maybe going off alcohol again. Hoping for a safe delivery and healthy baby.
Vaughn I so appreciate and respect your transparency. I love the way you show up in this space, you maintain your privacy while still including us in some of the most special moments in your life. As a fellow Autism Mom I love that you address the questions surrounding family planning. Thank you! I could not be more happy for you, Anthony, and sweet Annie!!!!
You may not get to see this comment but I am so so so happy for you and Anthony ❤ If it wasn’t for your autism videos, I would have not known as soon as I did about my own son and he was diagnosed and in therapy by 18 months. He’s almost 5 now. We also have an almost 3 year old and family planning was and has been different for sure.
Congratulations 🎉 to you and your family Vaughn! 🌻 I’m so overjoyed for you all! 🥰 I can totally understand and relate to the autism aspect…as I am too a fellow autism mama. Our first born was actually diagnosed with autism at age 2 in a half while I was pregnant with baby #2 , so as you can imagine…we had a lot to process and work through at once. I actually had a made a response video to you a few years ago when you had started making autism videos (I’ve since made those videos private, but you’ve inspired me to start sharing more about our experiences as an autism family when led) where I shared some of our experience. 💙 I just want you to know you are not alone, and that there are other families walking in similar shoes. ❤️ I will definitely be sharing more in upcoming videos as I see that there are others who can benefit from these conversations. ❤️ Thank you for opening up. It’s so appreciated and valued. You look absolutely beautiful and I pray you continue to have a healthy and joyful pregnancy and baby! God bless you and your family!🥰❤️🌻
You are such an amazing communicator. The way you tactfully, directly, and thoroughly address questions is always so appropriate. Thank you for sharing your journey.
This was such a great pregnancy update! I felt that "prenatal privacy" because I decided to wait until 8 months to tell anyone in our family.. As a married couple with an 8 year gap since our first, we just needed time to breathe and enjoy us just knowing.. We also told our parents and they all were DRY 😫 or upset about how far I was.. I didn't record their reactions because I was afraid they would act the way they did!🥺 From someone who gets it, I'm sorry darling!🥺 It sucks and it has a lingering sting!😭 You got this and I am so happy for you and the Fam!😁
@@gabrielacortez4893 Our families live about 25 miles from us, so I would try to stay out the city as much as possible.. I'm a "spit-ter" during pregnancy(HATE IT!😑) and it's one of my 1st symptoms.. My husband would load my purse up with crackers, snacks, juice boxes to prevent me from needing to spit. My mom would have picked up on it if I did it just once in front of her. I started to show really fast, although it was only my second pregnancy, so I had to get creative!🤣 I would wear looser shirts and if I couldn't, I would wear a hoodie and act like I'm freezing in the air conditioning!😫 My mom's dog was doing so many weird things(intentionally laying on belly, sniffing me alot, stalking me through the house etc.) and I would push her off and OVER treat her to make her knock it off!🤣😭 Once I hit 6 months I couldn't hide my belly anymore, so I would stay away or come over and immediately sit down and then take my jacket off and never stand up until it was time to leave with my jacket on. That 7 month I stayed away for the full month and only showed my face on facetime!🤣 Congrats!🎉🎉 May you get the peace and privacy you deserve! Safe delivery to you and baby!🙏🏾
@@Avastylist thank you for the tips and well wishes. I'm only 10 weeks in and purged half of my closet with clothes that don't fit. I kept some of the looser fitting ones but I'm going to grow out of them soon. It's hard when you have an 8-5 job and your work clothes aren't fitting anymore but I'm trying to conceal as much as I can for as long as I can. For me it's just easier not to tell people.
@@gabrielacortez4893 I totally understand it being easier to maintain your privacy. Remember this is YOUR pregnancy, so it's YOUR experience.. Don't feel pressure to overshare what's happening in your life and in your body.. If your job is a casual job I would recommend tying a sweater around your waist when clothes get too tight. If your job is business attire, I recommend you buying knee length skirts (even from thrift store) they are so forgiving and can go all the way over your belly. Be kind to yourself and take in your beautiful moment.🙂 We plan on getting pregnant next summer with our 3rd and final and we won't be telling any of our family until SHE (🙏🏾) arrives. Just know a stranger is rooting for you and would LOVE an update, NO PRESSURE!🤣😭😭😭
I LOVE how absolutely intentional you are about EVERYTHING. You leave no stones unturned & it is so inspiring to be a part of. You truly are an example of SELF- love which extends to your family & friends, many BLISSings to you & yours☀️
Congratulations on the new Baby! Please, remember that parents are not perfect and will not be here forever, your Mother is doing the best that she knows how to do at this time in her life. Prayers for Mother and Daughter healing, soon.✌️🙏🙏🙏
I’m praying for your healing with your Mom! But most importantly is your mental & spiritual health/growth. Congratulations Vaughn, Anthony on growing your family & Miss Anne & your bonus son on becoming siblings.
Congratulations 🎉 I'm so happy to hear you are doing well. And I appreciated, the portion of the video where you spoke about your mom. You were respectful and still tried to honor your mom, eventhough you didn't get the response you expected. Looking forward to more videos as you progress and meeting your new bundle of joy.
Thanks for your openness about your pregnancy. Completely understand wanting to be private so you and your husband can enjoy the experience with people who know you best and to cut down on the opinions. Does Anne receive respite? Another RUclipsr I follow has one for her daughter that gives parents rest and time for her daughter to have a friend to play/ learn with. Anyways I’m learning so much from you and I pray your pregnancy continues to be safe happy and healthy ❤️
I actually enjoyed really this chatty blog format. It's very listenable, and lovely to have you "around" while I'm doing the dishes.😊❤ So happy you're prioritizing your mental health. It's challenging to set boundaries with moms sometimes because we love them very much, and we know that they love us the best they can. However, we must do so, and sometimes it's really the most loving thing we can do. Many a relationship has been preserved but just taking some time apart. Hugs and support.
Thank you so so much for this video!!! I’m an Autism Mom and hubby and I are wanting to expand our family as well. Our son is 2 1/2 years old and I’m about to be 38 do this is helpful ❤
Congrats 🎉 I had my daughter at 40. So happy for you guys! You’re absolutely right about having a blank slate. My son is on the spectrum and when I got pregnant with my daughter I did not worry about that… I just wanted my baby to be healthy and relished in the moment. You’re a great mommy❤
Thank you so much for sharing. My son is 9 and on the spectrum and we’ve been considering a second child. You’re so right, not enough autism mamas talk about this. Praying for a healthy labor and delivery! God bless!
I just want to say Congrats again and I feel so happy that we get to go along this journey with you and Anthony, Anne and Sansa!!!!!!! You look beautiful and Your pregnancy gives me something to look forward to.....I LOVE your family.........God Bless
Really enjoyed this...thanks for taking the time to explain and answer questions. I don't have any questions just enjoying whatever you decide to share. I found your channel this past August when searching for autism mom vlogs. So I've been here almost a year now...I love it here lol
Vaughn you look amazing. Thank you for sharing this journey with us. You and Anthony are amazing parents to Ann and I know she will Love her sibling. God's got y'all 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Vaugh ur relationship with ur dad is EVERYTHING...it makes me miss my dad!! He is ALWAYS right there for you & it's BEAUTIFUL!!! Also the way u put this video together was GENIUS!! To be able to answer questions by telling a story that just flowed was sooo amazing to watch!!! So happy for u & Anthony...Annie burger will be a great big sister can't wait to see her reaction to her new sibling!! BLESSSING!!! 🙏🥰
I will be 50 in October, so I HAVE NO PLANS of getting pregnant, lol, but I enjoyed watching and listening to your answers. I love your dad's concern, and I'm glad he is checking on you. Congratulations to you, Anthony, and Anne.
I have to tell u ,I started following u right before u got your veneers, & I'm truly happy you're having another baby. If u believe in God ,u got this , women in the bible were older than u having kids. Stay safe, enjoy the pregnancy & have a great 2023 🎉 🥳
Great video, tfs ♥️ I am a 47 yo mom w/19 yo twin sons w/ASD & I also have a 9 yo daughter. My in-laws were my stressors throughout my pregnancy w concerns to ASD. I could write a book lol. You’re doing right by staying mentally/physically healthy & focusing on your immediate family ✨
First, congratulations! I’m so happy for you, Anthony, Anne, and Sansa girl! Second, thank you for sharing your pregnancy journey and for having boundaries! I discovered you “back in the day” of natural hair videos and u had that “it” factor then and NOW. Third (not me counting down, lol!) thank you for sharing your mental health journey. I am currently (at 49yrs old) pursuing my masters in clinical mental health. Having a safe space to share, heal and be vulnerable is essential to a content, happy life. U r a gift to the “influencer” space now, just as you were back in the natural hair days. Praying you continue to have a safe, peace-filled pregnancy and delivery. P. S. I’m also a HUGE fan of your cooking and hosting family and friends get togethers! Be well! ❤
Congratulations Vaughn! I just had my second at 37 and I definitely had to keep my dad updated on everything. I’m sorry mom didn’t have the best reaction but we’re all so happy!
I’m so happy you mentioned baby bliss & Postpartum depression ❤ With my first I hit anxiety and depression so hard I became obsessed with him (he had breathing issues ONTOP of everything else) while I just gave birth to my baby girl I really am obsessed with both of my kids 😊 Annie-Bananie is about to be a big sister ❤ love this !
First off I’m so happy that you and your baby and family are healthy and doing well! I can’t thank you enough for sharing your journey. I am pregnant with my first right now and relate so much to you. I have been following you for some time now and I always appreciate your candor and thoughtfulness in and around what you share and how you share it. You have brought so much peace and reassurance to me during this time. Wishing you a very healthy and safe delivery. Thank you Ms Vaughn 🙏🏾🤍✨
I also just turned 40 and am pregnant with baby #3. I can totally relate regarding prioritizing mental health. I too will be making sure I don't get lost just being a mom and feeling like that title is primary to allthe other hats I wear. Congrats on your new blessing❤
You, Anthony and Ann are the best! I hope the baby has Anthony’s smile. His smile lights up the room. Absolutely love your interactions with Ann. She is so cute! Love Sasha! You can tell she loves you as well. Wishing you and your family the best of the best!❤
I figured by now if you hadn’t given us a gender, due date, or name you didn’t want to. I’m excited about two videos and excited that you’re doing well. Forge ahead.
❤️First of all Congratulations!! My dad who has passed had a mental illness. He was a hand full during random years of my childhood and adulthood. I think back and are hard on myself because of the breaks I needed to take from him. The last break was during my pregnancy. I just mentally could not deal with both. I was a stay at home mom of two while being pregnant. I’m married and was juggling way too much on top of his antics. But hearing your situation with your mom helps me breath. I breath and tell myself that taking a break from a parent with a mental illness is normal. Of course I have a brother and sister and my brother was more in contact with him before his death. Thanks for sharing your situation with us. You actually do not have to. But it makes sense. Glad we don’t see your mom as much anymore. I’m actually sorry for you because I know how you broke your back to help her with the house. Let alone all the other things you have helped her with. I am so very sorry. Been there done that. I will say a prayer. God is bigger than all of our situations always know that! You and Anthony or fabulous beautiful parents that are doing a great job! Keep on keeping on I love your vlogs!!❤❤❤❤❤
I seriously love MsVaughn! Such an inspiration! You can see the work she is doing with her mental and physical health. I love this series and am grateful she is sharing her journey with us.🥰
Just wanted to tell you how much I appreciate your realness, transparency and intellect. Also that make-up is flawless hun!!! Congrats to the family and I’m here for this blessed journey you’ve been granted to embark on.
This was great! Thank you for your transparency and willingness draw us in as you reflect and look ahead related to your pregnancy. Congrats again to you and your family!
I am so happy for the great news and the present to your husband. I also think what you are going through with your Mother I am going through with my older brother. Unlike you, I kept the recording/video of one of his mental episodes so that I can share with legal and get guardianship. I need to be sure I take care of him and not leave him out there to be taken advantage of. Thank you and Congrats....
Congratulations mama! I was blessed with spontaneous triplets at 39.
Wow ❤❤❤
Wow congrats!!!!
Wow that is beautiful! Congratulations! 🎉
That’s great.
@@receecake 😊
Vaughn, as someone that has had mother issues, I want to hug you and tell you how strong you are. I’m glad your dad was able to show up for you.
Your family is beautiful and will continue to be as it grows. Can’t wait to see your next baby!❤
Congratulations Vaughn! I’m truly happy for you.
I had my 2nd daughter (who is 2 now) when I was 45. Some of my “closest” family and friends made the rudest comments regarding my age.
My daughter is beautiful. I had no complications and I pray the same for you. Can’t wait to see your new bundle of joy!
I know someone who avoided family until her children were born just because of such comments.
You just gave me hope. I’m about to be 42 and still hopeful ❤
I am 45 and I am pregnant with my second! I am keeping it from certain family because I will check them in the most HOLY way 😉 for their rude comments.
I’m 43 and due in 3 weeks. Got pregnant naturally and will have a 23 year gap between my children. I don’t know the gender do this little one is going to be a surprise. I can’t wait!!! 🤗
Have a 12 year old, a 3 year old and a 6 month old. The last two I was 38 and 41. Thank the Lord, all was fine with both and I’m so happy we went through with the pregnancies in spite of our fear with risks with age. God gives us what is meant to be 🙌. Excited for you guys and in awe of what great parents you are. Miss Anne is a very blessed little girl as will this next child be. God bless.
Thanks Vaughn for recognizing us women that are unable to conceive - your empathy touched me!
I agree! I didn’t get the opportunity to be a mom, but I’m so happy for everyone else!
I'm not a mom, but I've been following you for yearsssssss. If I were to become pregnant now (at 41), I would for sure be, what "they" call, a geriatric pregnancy.
I comment on occasion, but I want to leave this comment as an extreme appreciation for how transparent and patient you are with us all. I've learned so, so, SO much from you from natural hair, to make up & clothes to loss/grief-- now home decor, DIY and babies. Thank you so much, Ms. Vaughn.
Congratulations, and I wish you and your family nothing but the best! ❤
It’s hurt my heart that we have to go no contact with parents just to protect ourselves and family
Currently dealing with this and honestly…I don’t even know how to deal 😭 So hard but needed
Vaughn 40 is young!!! You are blessed and beautiful!! So excited for your growing family.
Just want to say thank you for always being so transparent with your life in general. So excited for you, Anthony and Anne in this next chapter of your life. You deserve all the happiness in world. I also wanted to say how sorry I am that your Mother is not around, but so proud of you realizing that you needed to separate yourself for that energy. That has to be difficult--especially since she is your Mom. Also, PLEASE keep doing the research and keeping us informed about all the things. I've learned so much from you about autism through your very candid and REAL conversations about raising Anne. Every mother needs that--especially us Black Moms. . .so many taboos in our culture--I know you get it. Looking forward to more videos about your journey and respect your privacy, but can't wait to see the new cutie and find out the name!!! Thank you for sharing and I'm so thankful to have found you on RUclips!!💕💕
I'm sorry to hear about your Mom's reaction to your pregnancy. We're all excited & happy for y'all!!❤❤❤
I work in reproductive medicine as an embryologist. We have many patients that are 40+ have that are having babies. We allow patients to have babies with their own eggs until the age of 45. After 45 they can carry the baby but they have to use donor eggs. Basically, it’s way more normal than people think to be older, pregnant, and having healthy babies. Congrats Vaughn and I wish you a continued healthy pregnancy!!
Wow. That's good to know I'm 25 is it normal to take months or longer to get pregnant naturally ?
@@aleesharenea1477 Yes! Regardless of age, it’s not as easy to get pregnant as most people think. If you have been trying for six months - a year, my clinic would define that as infertility and recommended seeing a fertility specialist. However like Vaughn said, sometimes you just have to use a bunch of apps and keep trying. Also, don’t always think it has to do with the woman. If you can, get your partner a semen analysis to make sure everything is normal with them.
Gives me hope 38 single and wanting a family
I cried tears of joy watching Anthony open the gift! Vaughn you are so amazing!
Anthony's reaction was the absolute sweetest.
Congratulations Vaughn. I can’t wait for the new baby. I was surprised at 41 with twins. You got this girl!
You have that pretty kind of pregnancy where it seems like only your stomach gained weight. It's not noticeable in your face, neck, or anywhere else detectable from a person just looking at you if your stomach is not in view. And this update was very informative and enjoyable. I'm just glad you're feeling well.
Reading everyone's age when they had a child is so encouraging. Thank you everyone. I'm 38 with no kids but I pray God blesses me one day with a happy healthy baby
I will keep your mom in my prayers
I was 35 and 39 when I had my children, and they were born 30 and 60 days early respectively, but both are healthy and thriving 18/15 years later! God bless you and your family!!
I truly respect how you are handling your pregnancy, family, and especially your mental health. 💛🙏🏾
Vaughn, I always admire how you gracefully establish your personal boundaries. Congratulations again on your growing family! Thank you for sharing with us 🤍🫶🏼
It was so beautiful (and quite frankly, healing) to hear you speak about the baby being a blank slate to you. I think that's a byproduct of your decision to love your child unconditionally, no matter who they are or who they grow to be. Like you already know that no matter what, the fundamentals won't change - that's your kid and you WILL stick beside 'em. Approaching raising them with curiosity and an openness and willingness to discover who they naturally are and help them become more of that...man, anyway I'm getting emotional. Loved that Vaughn.
Yaaaasssss, that part. Needing privacy and time to process. BOUNDARIES are so underrated
Thank you for this update, and the importance of mental health especially as Black women we dismiss our own needs. And I completely understand your need for privacy.
Hi Vaughn, your videos are like a tv show! You are such a good storyteller. You always deliver quality content that we can follow. So happy you are well and everything is happening as it should. Best of everything to you!!
I love that your Dad was concerned for you as his daughter. Knowing he wants the best for his daughter and new little grandbaby.
I noticed it too and i love it for them
Yes, me too. I love her dad....love when he's in the vlogs. The type of dad I wish to have had. Loving, handy Nd supportive❤
All of these women had healthy babies in their older age DaBrat 49 Kenya Morre 47 Janet Jackson 50 Mariah Carey at 42 had twins Kim Fields 44 Halle Berry 46 Nia Long 41 Tiny Harris 40 Tamron Hall 48 Garcelle Beauvais at 40 had twins
🤰🏽💯🥰🙏🏽 Yaaassss !!! Because GOD IS SO SOOO GOOD 🙌🏽😍
I enjoyed this Q&A Vaughn. Thank you for doing this. Anthony’s reaction to you being pregnant was priceless!😊
RIGHT...I wish she would have hid the camera!!! I think he held back a lil because like Vaugh said he knew she was filming!! Nevertheless, it was PRICELESS we could see he was very happy!!! 🥰
I'm 41 yo and pregnant also. Im pretty sure you and I are due within the same month or within 4 weeks of each other based on some of our experiences and timing of them. I will not share my due date in here and also waited a very long time before telling family and friends. Most of them didn't know until the recently got a shower invite😁. I pray you have a healthy rest of your pregnancy and delivery. Thank you for your transparency and sharing with us❤❤
I do not plan on a baby at 51 lmbo. However I enjoyed watching this. I'm so glad that your dad was able to support you in this experience. I hope and pray that one day if you're ready, and mom has had time to reflect and heal her own trauma that you will be able to move forward. I'm so proud of you for always standing in your truth and not wavering. Anne and Sweet Pea(new baby) and very fortunate to be surrounded by so much love and support. I have an adult autistic son, and baby it hasn't always been easy. When you find that sweet spot in caring for them and it pans out better than you expected... PURE GOLD!!! YOU GOT THIS! Anne is going to be a great big sister. Anthony's reaction was priceless.
Thank you for this video. I am 40 as well. My husband and I had our second and last lol child in April. I was already high risk due to high blood pressure that accord during my last pregnancy. We are so grateful for our family. I truly believe that having our princess later on in life has caused me to be more self aware. Im trying my best to focus on self care, healthier habits, and mental health so I can ensure I’m in a good headspace to raise whole children! Congratulations to you all! Praying for your next chapter in life to be the best chapter!
I appreciate you doing this. Im TTC and it’s hard to find black women who speak candidly about their experience. I’ve experienced miscarriages unfortunately but I’m still hopeful even over 40. Sis you have no idea how happy your pregnancy makes some of the people in your community. Blessings to you all 🙏🏾
I am a success story after 15 yrs of infertility I gave birth to my first biological child at the age of 38. Both my husband and I had issues. I gave birth to my second at age 40. We also have two adopted kids. I've had 5 miscarriages. Both pregnancies had scares, but the babies were healthy. My last just graduated high school with honors. May God answer your prayers.
When you first shared your reveal on Instagram I screamed in excitement for you and your family!! Literally soooo happy for you. As an OG follower since the evolution of the Monroe Sisters to now, this is so special. I’m sadden to hear of your moms reaction, but I am praying that God mends that. I’m glad that you are focusing on your mental health to understand space is needed. Most won’t because of the parent title, but we have to protect our peace at all costs. Best wishes and positive vibes on this journey!! I can’t wait to see the bond AnnieBoo will have with the baby 🥰🥰
Congratulations to you, Anthony, and Little Anne! I had my last child at 44! She was not planned. Yes, privacy and processing room is necessary. I had HD with all 4 of my pregnancies as well. My daughter has a autism diagnosis. She is now 6 and the light of the family. Educating ourselves and our family was key. Any child with or without a diagnosis is a challenge, therefore we just don’t stress. It’s one day at a time. You’ve helped me for years in the journey! You look amazing!
Many blessings ahead!! Enjoy!
Congratulations! Here for hiring live-in support. When my husband and I bought our home, we purchased a floor plan that could comfortably accommodate my grandmother, who now cares for my two children throughout the day. She's so so good with them and hardly ever uses screen time. It's also a plus for date nights! 10 out of 10 recommend!
Lol Anthony absolutely bypassed reading the outside of the can 🤣.
This video made my heart happy for you and your family. As for the moment in the video that made me tear up😢, I know first hand how that feels. Blessings to you on your mental well being journey😊
Im 46 and I started my journey into my mental well being at 38. The best decision I ever made. 😊
Congrats Vaughn! I had my youngest son at 39, BEST pregnancy out of my two and he’s now a healthy 9 yr old. Gods blessings on you through this pregnancy and delivery of your new baby. Thank you for sharing your life with us! 🙏🏾❤️
I'm so happy you're doing well mentally and physically. I loved Anthony's reaction. He's normally so chill so from our perspective he gave a lot. lol
Your transparency is amazing. Pregnancies are so different. Your advocacy for maternal health is so appreciated ✊🏾
My mom had me at the age of 40. I will be 59 Sept. 1st. God is good.🙏🏾
I hope things will get better between you and your mom. You deserve to have a supportive family ❤
I recommend the book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents . It really helped me to cope with my mother's hurtful behaviour toward me since I was young.
I love how your dad is so concerned and willing to learn. It’s so sweet 😊 because I just think of men and not touching pregnancy questions with a 10ft pole as long as you’re good. Of course not all men but you know they’re like “we’ll leave that to the women” lol
What’s going on between you and your MOM is just that, between you and your Mom. You owe no one an explanation, take care of you. Give your mom a little grace, she might be afraid of losing another daughter, I don’t know, just know that God is with and everything will be alright.
That's a good perspective about the "autism cloud." My son is 4 and I'm pregnant again and I truly don't feel like I'm walking around tense and worried and what if-ing myself to death. Who this child will be, will be and we'll love them either way.
And yeeeaahhhh trying to get pregnant and randomly getting pregnant is completely different! Glad ya'll could get through that awkward phase.
Vaughn, I am so excited for you! Thank you for sharing this pregnancy journey with us. I’m sorry to hear about your mom’s reaction. I am thinking of you all and sending lots of love! 💗
I’m so happy for you and your family’s new addition. I’m so sorry about your mom and wish things were different but am praying for a safe and healthy arrival of your baby. 🖤
I’m so happy for you! Thanks for sharing. All of my friends and I had geriatric pregnancies so it feels weird when people make a big deal of it. I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well!
You speak so well. Congratulations to you and your husband. Thank you Jesus for a healthy mama and baby.❤
I very rarely comment but wanted to say I could listen to you talk all day I love how articulate and educated you are and how you take the time to research and gain the knowledge you need and making the decision that works for your beautiful family. Much prayer for you and you family and your journey in this season of your life. I'm a mental health professional and I love that you validate the work that is so needed. I love that you are allowing yourself to do the self work and taking care of your mental health! You seem very proactive in many areas of your life and that's inspiring. Thanks for sharing and for sure look forward to listening to more of your journey.
Hey Vaughn! I'm 40 and pregnant with baby number 2 also. This video really helped me put things in perspective and you gave me some great tips I definitely plan to apply. Thank you for sharing! I wish you nothing but the best! 💖
Vaughn…girl…you are my fave vlogger. I truly appreciate the way you balance privacy and transparency. Just about every question I would’ve asked, you answered. I think I remember peeping the water at your bday, but I think I probably attributed it you maybe going off alcohol again. Hoping for a safe delivery and healthy baby.
Vaughn I so appreciate and respect your transparency. I love the way you show up in this space, you maintain your privacy while still including us in some of the most special moments in your life. As a fellow Autism Mom I love that you address the questions surrounding family planning. Thank you! I could not be more happy for you, Anthony, and sweet Annie!!!!
You may not get to see this comment but I am so so so happy for you and Anthony ❤ If it wasn’t for your autism videos, I would have not known as soon as I did about my own son and he was diagnosed and in therapy by 18 months. He’s almost 5 now. We also have an almost 3 year old and family planning was and has been different for sure.
Congratulations 🎉 to you and your family Vaughn! 🌻 I’m so overjoyed for you all! 🥰 I can totally understand and relate to the autism aspect…as I am too a fellow autism mama. Our first born was actually diagnosed with autism at age 2 in a half while I was pregnant with baby #2 , so as you can imagine…we had a lot to process and work through at once.
I actually had a made a response video to you a few years ago when you had started making autism videos (I’ve since made those videos private, but you’ve inspired me to start sharing more about our experiences as an autism family when led) where I shared some of our experience. 💙
I just want you to know you are not alone, and that there are other families walking in similar shoes. ❤️ I will definitely be sharing more in upcoming videos as I see that there are others who can benefit from these conversations. ❤️ Thank you for opening up. It’s so appreciated and valued. You look absolutely beautiful and I pray you continue to have a healthy and joyful pregnancy and baby! God bless you and your family!🥰❤️🌻
You are such an amazing communicator. The way you tactfully, directly, and thoroughly address questions is always so appropriate. Thank you for sharing your journey.
I loved this! It felt like a chat with a girlfriend. So happy this pregnancy is going well for you!
This was such a great pregnancy update! I felt that "prenatal privacy" because I decided to wait until 8 months to tell anyone in our family.. As a married couple with an 8 year gap since our first, we just needed time to breathe and enjoy us just knowing.. We also told our parents and they all were DRY 😫 or upset about how far I was.. I didn't record their reactions because I was afraid they would act the way they did!🥺 From someone who gets it, I'm sorry darling!🥺 It sucks and it has a lingering sting!😭 You got this and I am so happy for you and the Fam!😁
How were you able to hide it for so long? I want privacy too but it's getting harder to hide as the belly grows.
@@gabrielacortez4893 Our families live about 25 miles from us, so I would try to stay out the city as much as possible.. I'm a "spit-ter" during pregnancy(HATE IT!😑) and it's one of my 1st symptoms.. My husband would load my purse up with crackers, snacks, juice boxes to prevent me from needing to spit. My mom would have picked up on it if I did it just once in front of her. I started to show really fast, although it was only my second pregnancy, so I had to get creative!🤣 I would wear looser shirts and if I couldn't, I would wear a hoodie and act like I'm freezing in the air conditioning!😫 My mom's dog was doing so many weird things(intentionally laying on belly, sniffing me alot, stalking me through the house etc.) and I would push her off and OVER treat her to make her knock it off!🤣😭 Once I hit 6 months I couldn't hide my belly anymore, so I would stay away or come over and immediately sit down and then take my jacket off and never stand up until it was time to leave with my jacket on. That 7 month I stayed away for the full month and only showed my face on facetime!🤣 Congrats!🎉🎉 May you get the peace and privacy you deserve! Safe delivery to you and baby!🙏🏾
@@Avastylist thank you for the tips and well wishes. I'm only 10 weeks in and purged half of my closet with clothes that don't fit. I kept some of the looser fitting ones but I'm going to grow out of them soon. It's hard when you have an 8-5 job and your work clothes aren't fitting anymore but I'm trying to conceal as much as I can for as long as I can. For me it's just easier not to tell people.
@@gabrielacortez4893 I totally understand it being easier to maintain your privacy. Remember this is YOUR pregnancy, so it's YOUR experience.. Don't feel pressure to overshare what's happening in your life and in your body.. If your job is a casual job I would recommend tying a sweater around your waist when clothes get too tight. If your job is business attire, I recommend you buying knee length skirts (even from thrift store) they are so forgiving and can go all the way over your belly. Be kind to yourself and take in your beautiful moment.🙂 We plan on getting pregnant next summer with our 3rd and final and we won't be telling any of our family until SHE (🙏🏾) arrives. Just know a stranger is rooting for you and would LOVE an update, NO PRESSURE!🤣😭😭😭
I LOVE how absolutely intentional you are about EVERYTHING. You leave no stones unturned & it is so inspiring to be a part of. You truly are an example of SELF- love which extends to your family & friends, many BLISSings to you & yours☀️
Congratulations on the new Baby! Please, remember that parents are not perfect and will not be here forever, your Mother is doing the best that she knows how to do at this time in her life. Prayers for Mother and Daughter healing, soon.✌️🙏🙏🙏
I’m praying for your healing with your Mom! But most importantly is your mental & spiritual health/growth. Congratulations Vaughn, Anthony on growing your family & Miss Anne & your bonus son on becoming siblings.
Congratulations 🎉 I'm so happy to hear you are doing well. And I appreciated, the portion of the video where you spoke about your mom. You were respectful and still tried to honor your mom, eventhough you didn't get the response you expected.
Looking forward to more videos as you progress and meeting your new bundle of joy.
Thanks for your openness about your pregnancy. Completely understand wanting to be private so you and your husband can enjoy the experience with people who know you best and to cut down on the opinions. Does Anne receive respite? Another RUclipsr I follow has one for her daughter that gives parents rest and time for her daughter to have a friend to play/ learn with. Anyways I’m learning so much from you and I pray your pregnancy continues to be safe happy and healthy ❤️
I actually enjoyed really this chatty blog format. It's very listenable, and lovely to have you "around" while I'm doing the dishes.😊❤ So happy you're prioritizing your mental health. It's challenging to set boundaries with moms sometimes because we love them very much, and we know that they love us the best they can. However, we must do so, and sometimes it's really the most loving thing we can do. Many a relationship has been preserved but just taking some time apart. Hugs and support.
Hi Vaughn- Glad that you are doing well physically and mentally. Thanks for sharing the update, glad that you have a support system.
Thank you so so much for this video!!! I’m an Autism Mom and hubby and I are wanting to expand our family as well. Our son is 2 1/2 years old and I’m about to be 38 do this is helpful ❤
It's sad that your mom didn't share in your joy. I am happy for you and your family. Can't wait to see the baby!
Congrats 🎉 I had my daughter at 40. So happy for you guys! You’re absolutely right about having a blank slate. My son is on the spectrum and when I got pregnant with my daughter I did not worry about that… I just wanted my baby to be healthy and relished in the moment. You’re a great mommy❤
Thank you so much for sharing. My son is 9 and on the spectrum and we’ve been considering a second child. You’re so right, not enough autism mamas talk about this. Praying for a healthy labor and delivery! God bless!
I just want to say Congrats again and I feel so happy that we get to go along this journey with you and Anthony, Anne and Sansa!!!!!!! You look beautiful and Your pregnancy gives me something to look forward to.....I LOVE your family.........God Bless
Im so disappointed your mother cant be part of this beautiful event in your life but, your mental health and family is your top priority 😊
Really enjoyed this...thanks for taking the time to explain and answer questions. I don't have any questions just enjoying whatever you decide to share. I found your channel this past August when searching for autism mom vlogs. So I've been here almost a year now...I love it here lol
Thank you so much for answering my question!! We’re all so excited for you guys!!🎉💜
Great vlog and you look amazing!
VAUGHN, you are a beautiful pregnant woman. I wish I had looked that good.
Thank you Vaughn! Gods blessings to you as you go through your pregnancy!
Vaughn you look amazing. Thank you for sharing this journey with us. You and Anthony are amazing parents to Ann and I know she will Love her sibling. God's got y'all 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Vaugh ur relationship with ur dad is EVERYTHING...it makes me miss my dad!! He is ALWAYS right there for you & it's BEAUTIFUL!!! Also the way u put this video together was GENIUS!! To be able to answer questions by telling a story that just flowed was sooo amazing to watch!!! So happy for u & Anthony...Annie burger will be a great big sister can't wait to see her reaction to her new sibling!! BLESSSING!!! 🙏🥰
I will be 50 in October, so I HAVE NO PLANS of getting pregnant, lol, but I enjoyed watching and listening to your answers. I love your dad's concern, and I'm glad he is checking on you. Congratulations to you, Anthony, and Anne.
I have to tell u ,I started following u right before u got your veneers, & I'm truly happy you're having another baby. If u believe in God ,u got this , women in the bible were older than u having kids. Stay safe, enjoy the pregnancy & have a great 2023 🎉 🥳
I am so excited to hear the updates baby news!!! So happy for you guys!!! 😢🎉🎊👩🏾🍼🙏🏾💙💓
Have a Healthy pregnancy and delivery.
I love how you set clear boundaries on your channel
Great video, tfs ♥️ I am a 47 yo mom w/19 yo twin sons w/ASD & I also have a 9 yo daughter. My in-laws were my stressors throughout my pregnancy w concerns to ASD. I could write a book lol. You’re doing right by staying mentally/physically healthy & focusing on your immediate family ✨
First, congratulations! I’m so happy for you, Anthony, Anne, and Sansa girl!
Second, thank you for sharing your pregnancy journey and for having boundaries!
I discovered you “back in the day” of natural hair videos and u had that “it” factor then and NOW.
Third (not me counting down, lol!) thank you for sharing your mental health journey. I am currently (at 49yrs old) pursuing my masters in clinical mental health. Having a safe space to share, heal and be vulnerable is essential to a content, happy life.
U r a gift to the “influencer” space now, just as you were back in the natural hair days.
Praying you continue to have a safe, peace-filled pregnancy and delivery.
P. S. I’m also a HUGE fan of your cooking and hosting family and friends get togethers!
Be well! ❤
FORTY?!!!!!!! I’ve watched Vaughn for years and I had absolutely no idea. YASSSSSS LOOKING AMAZING. 🤍
Congratulations Vaughn!
I just had my second at 37 and I definitely had to keep my dad updated on everything. I’m sorry mom didn’t have the best reaction but we’re all so happy!
Congratulations to your on new addition to your family member
I’m so happy you mentioned baby bliss & Postpartum depression ❤ With my first I hit anxiety and depression so hard I became obsessed with him (he had breathing issues ONTOP of everything else) while I just gave birth to my baby girl I really am obsessed with both of my kids 😊 Annie-Bananie is about to be a big sister ❤ love this !
First off I’m so happy that you and your baby and family are healthy and doing well! I can’t thank you enough for sharing your journey. I am pregnant with my first right now and relate so much to you. I have been following you for some time now and I always appreciate your candor and thoughtfulness in and around what you share and how you share it. You have brought so much peace and reassurance to me during this time. Wishing you a very healthy and safe delivery.
Thank you Ms Vaughn 🙏🏾🤍✨
I also just turned 40 and am pregnant with baby #3. I can totally relate regarding prioritizing mental health. I too will be making sure I don't get lost just being a mom and feeling like that title is primary to allthe other hats I wear. Congrats on your new blessing❤
You, Anthony and Ann are the best! I hope the baby has Anthony’s smile. His smile lights up the room. Absolutely love your interactions with Ann. She is so cute! Love Sasha! You can tell she loves you as well. Wishing you and your family the best of the
best!❤
I figured by now if you hadn’t given us a gender, due date, or name you didn’t want to. I’m excited about two videos and excited that you’re doing well. Forge ahead.
❤️First of all Congratulations!! My dad who has passed had a mental illness. He was a hand full during random years of my childhood and adulthood. I think back and are hard on myself because of the breaks I needed to take from him. The last break was during my pregnancy. I just mentally could not deal with both. I was a stay at home mom of two while being pregnant. I’m married and was juggling way too much on top of his antics.
But hearing your situation with your mom helps me breath. I breath and tell myself that taking a break from a parent with a mental illness is normal. Of course I have a brother and sister and my brother was more in contact with him before his death.
Thanks for sharing your situation with us. You actually do not have to. But it makes sense. Glad we don’t see your mom as much anymore. I’m actually sorry for you because I know how you broke your back to help her with the house. Let alone all the other things you have helped her with. I am so very sorry. Been there done that. I will say a prayer. God is bigger than all of our situations always know that! You and Anthony or fabulous beautiful parents that are doing a great job! Keep on keeping on I love your vlogs!!❤❤❤❤❤
“ if you worry , don’t pray, and if you pray don’t worry “.
God is able, he blessed Sarah in her 80’s with a healthy baby boy!
So happy you decided to have more babies no matter what,Ann is so cute an precious! Also you’re taking care of yourself an take help if needed ❤️🙏
I seriously love MsVaughn! Such an inspiration! You can see the work she is doing with her mental and physical health. I love this series and am grateful she is sharing her journey with us.🥰
Praying for healing for you and your Mom. Love your Dad's concern.
Prayers for your mom and everyone in the family.
Just wanted to tell you how much I appreciate your realness, transparency and intellect. Also that make-up is flawless hun!!! Congrats to the family and I’m here for this blessed journey you’ve been granted to embark on.
This was great! Thank you for your transparency and willingness draw us in as you reflect and look ahead related to your pregnancy. Congrats again to you and your family!
I am so happy for the great news and the present to your husband. I also think what you are going through with your Mother I am going through with my older brother. Unlike you, I kept the recording/video of one of his mental episodes so that I can share with legal and get guardianship. I need to be sure I take care of him and not leave him out there to be taken advantage of. Thank you and Congrats....