There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
Actually though... This kind of makes sense? I think girls want things to catch them off guard so they don't immediately have a barrier put up. Something funny or absurd directly out of the gate.
Im finally, 10 years later, starting to understand why my coworker asked me "Why do you flirt with EVERYONE?" I didn't see it, cause Im a man, and this is basically how I interact with everybody. Its because I was shy for a while and kind of awkward, but I found if I could just get people laughing and talking about their favorite subject (usually them, lol) it wasnt that hard to talk to people.
This is exactly me, man. Like my go-to is jokes and making people laugh to avoid the conversation getting awkward. And don't worry, people like it a lot, I know cause I was very shy, too.
This kind of reminds me how one of my mentors on my nursing placement (I am a male) told me to stop flirting with all the patients. I never ever saw it that way but reading your comment makes sense, I always get the female patients laughing by just doing my job and commenting on my klutzy behaviours. For example half tripping over an observation machine on wheels and just commenting "this is the 4th time and i've only been on for 20 minutes I must be wired wrong!" Brought a big smile to my face actually.
@@robmyster01 just make people laugh. It will result in you being the fun guy. Which will get you invited to more events, ending in you meeting more girls.
Craig Ferguson is just being himself so that's why he looks so relaxed. He's obviously been practicing and doing this for a long time. Best advice is keep practicing.
Craig has venus in gemini. While others can learn, this is 100% effortless for him. Gemini is a chatty, energetic, and quick-thinking zodiac sign, so when Venus is here, she loves to flirt.
@@LAWSON08 I’m a Gemini (may 22nd 1993) and I only have the quick thinking part. The chatty and energetic isn’t there. What planet is tainting me? 🤣 it can’t be Venus because I’m the most awkward flirt I know.
@@justinthompson5718 I'm assuming you are born in the US. If so you have a near exact Sun square saturn. A pretty serious aspect. You may have some shyness issues? But there's also a sun trine jupiter to help you out...very nice. Btw Probable moon in Gemini Mercury in Gemini Venus in Aries Mars in Leo
Act like him. I've been doing it with the college girls in the fast food restaurant I work at. It's insane how much positive attention I am getting from the girls.
@@xCoolzxX This all about being funny, playful, and non-threatening. Keep thinking you have to be rich and famous and see how that's going to work out. There used to be a show called "The Dating Game". A woman had to pick from three guys she couldn't see. Every so often a comedian would be one of the three. They got the girl every time.
Honestly, he sounded slightly repulsive with the repetitiveness of the 2nd point of starting the conversation in a overly fun and positive way. He's just buttering them up for whatever he wants to bring up. It's not even that realistic in the real world. Talk shows are different.
Craig also rips up the talk cards which sends a signal to the person that they are more important than the scripted conversation the network had planned and this makes the person feel very special.
One thing this entire piece is missing is that the women coming to his show have a presupposition of him and are already primed for how they are going to act to him which is generally favourably. This doesn't mean he can't offend them or turn them off, however, it does mean he is starting ahead of the game unlike doing this to a complete stranger on the street.
Exactly. And since many of the women had fun in previous shows, women come in with a bit of a guard down. This is not completely applicable to real life strangers.
Exactly. As much as I love (and miss) Craig on the Late Late Show, his charms most definitely didn't work on everyone. Watch his Christina Hendricks interview as an example.
1) Be confident 2) Have fun 3) Find something good about that person 4) Do not take anything too seriously especially yourself 6) Find something around you that you like and express it to whoever is listening including yourself! If you seek happy thoughts they will become part of your life. The universe will find ways to bless you!!!
Craig is an excellent example to pick. He was the very best talk show host ever. You genuinely laugh. And he had a cast of supporting characters equally as funny. Importantly, he was never a 'try hard' type always straining to get a laugh or reaction or hog the limelight. He just let the session run wherever it took him and his guest and team. That ability to throw out the plan and improvise brilliantly marked him out. And you are correct, that leaning away from the guest gives them space and he never seems like a predator. And that creepy Biden example would make anyone afraid.
I've always felt like a goddam alien trying to assimilate into human culture when I watch these videos but they're so practical and to the point. As corny as a lot of this stuff is to be watching and learning now, most of us need it as we weren't taught // avoided learning it growing up. SOCIAL SKILLS are so important and it may feel so damn cringy watching these videos, you're making good progress. Especially if you actually apply it...
@@oliverford5367Truth is 90% of people can't hold a conversation. And not one in a hundred women know how to flirt for sour apples. If you learn to just volley a conversation, you're going to be seen as an interesting and more chaing person. If you guys are single, be confident about flirting. If a woman doesn't like it, you just wink and move on. Other people will see you as just being fun, and see her as a snot. Let's say two of you are out watching a ball game. Maybe one of you owns a sailboat. Pick out the two prettiest girls, go say hello, start a conversation. If the girls start to ask questions, say something like: "Okay, here's the truth, but you can't tell anyone! We're actually aliens, but the good kind. We're grad students here working on our thesis, Earth Babes Are The Hottest. I mean, that's what a lot of guys around the universe think, but we're doing field research. Of course, those girls on planet Quizzes are, too. If they ask, say, "Three breasts. One on the back for dancing." You can lay the alien grad students and "field research' on thick. If they ask anything remotely related, say: Well, our ship is here, but transformed to a sailboat so it wouldn't be as much in dock fees. Hey, we're on a tight budget. Yeah, if you want to see it, we plan on going out on it tomorrow. So, you have a big bottle of suntan oil and a bikini? Hey, it needs energy to run, you know. The sexier the bikini the more energy. And we don't want anything sunburned, do we? You can usually lay it on thick and the girls will eat it up, probably show up in their skimpiest bikini and want to prove Earth Girls Are The Sexiest.
Don't feel bad. Everyday I meet people who are bad communicators. You'll probably notice it yourself when you become more natural. And most of the time they're not even self-aware!
No need to feel bad! We gotta learn somehow! I initially learned from reading books when I was 17. 32 now and I’m introverted, but great at sales and have had my fair share with the ladies.
Crazy you say that because I to AM an ALIEN and HATE the Majority of Humans and feel I have NOTHING in common with the majority of humanity so find no purpose talking to women, maybe also knowing I came from the "gutter" and that majority of girls I am attracted to are to "rich" for me and won't work out, like being from 2 different worlds
Isn’t it weird how if a girl decides she doesn’t like something you say or do, however insignificant, it alerts the whole hornet’s nest and suddenly you’re in big trouble? Yet when they make an error it’s easily permissible by everyone? Humans aren’t real
@@LinkTheHeroOfTime even incel would be a better word than simp in this case. I thought only my life has lost meaning, but it seems like every word has, too.
People are actually attracted to the louder voice most of the time. It commands the most attention. You're talking about yourself and your preferences, which doesn't align with most people. Why do you think the loudest get the most attention and popularity?
HE'S the LEAN BACK Master...leaning back in the chair has done wonders for my flirting game. It actually might be one of the biggest impacts I've made. When I'm leaning back, she's leaning in, I'm listening and formulating my reactions in a relaxed state of mind. This is an excellent video, great points, and fellas look at Craig leaning back, do that and absolutely remain upbeat with a smile, and a 'touch' louder in voice/deepen your tone...aces guys, aces
I work as a cashier and the chairs we have are terrible, except you can lean back just the perfect amount in order to be more relaxed in a conversation. I do it all the time and not just with women and it really works wonders. You relax and at a counter people won’t lean in, so you create more space between the two of you, which normally is a bad thing, but in this case it’s great, because you usually don’t have the time to get accustomed to the customer. So what you do is create more space, which subconsciously gives both of you more time to answer and because you are more relaxed by leaning back the other person/people will feel that and do the same, thus making the conversation more organic.
Consider also the way Captain Kirk in the original Star Trek sits in the captain's chair: William Shatner affects exactly the same kind of casual confidence. Always worked for me.
You know what's funny though? If you look at him in other interviews and or commercial spots. He seems kind of... humble and awkward!!! Like really humble how he professed to now be happy to be a citizen of us!? Like his new game show... Is mysterious! But he himself on that show seems awkward! Of course he's like British, so he seems dainty... with women.
0:54 1. Starts almost every conversation in a fun positive way. 1:55 2. Over-the-top teasing 4:05 3. Being playfully absurd 4:54 4. Create a safe environment for people to be flirty and sexual 10:34 Flirt with the world 11:29 Leaned back body language 12:05 get comfortable with your worst-case scenario.
I’ve done it some times now. Believe me, that’s not what happens. If you are confident and not creepy, she will either like it and continue the conversation, or don’t like it and just walk away.
'gorgeous' kind of defeats the purpose of what is said in the video, doesn't it? It's a very common word. 'Positively Noble', 'Sensational', Captivating' None of the above words are used in usual conversation or complementation and so become so much more viable than your run-of-the-mill usage of "gorgeous".
@Heiliger Katholik Whose normal conversation? Maybe if you are from east coast old money and born in the 1950's. But the largest recent generations hardly say words such as that (boomers, gen-x, millennials). Certainly if you'd like to prove your point, jump into the metrics on google. Or you could have some fun with it, jump onto 6-10 comedian standup when they speak about beauty/dating. And of course positively noble is two words. But positively is an adjective, which we can see Ferguson demonstrating in these clips.
@Heiliger Katholik Sorry, I'd offer Spanish but that probably wouldn't communicate what its supposed to. I can hit you in many forms of slang? The likes of which have years of efficacy confounding nearly everyone outside its applicable culture grid and while simple to me may very well seem complex to you. So let's clear it up. I do not care about your measure of what is normal, simple, or non-simple. It is clear that you are disconnected. Another thing that is clear, is that two exchanges complete and you've already tried veiled but direct insults. I guess your complex linguistic skills reveal your simple mind. No matter though, I'll get my kicks from the fact you said this publicly. Because ultimately, you are typing on a website that uses American English as its interface(by default), commenting on a video where an educated American English speaker speaks. The funniest part? The entire website is written in a computer language which reads as English and is oriented towards American English. High chances that the story is the same for the device you are using to access this website.
I do this literally ALL the time. Helps me keep things fresh so we DON'T get a deadbedroom lol. We're on 15 years together, and the chemistry is 1000% still there. In large part because I like trying new ways to flirt with her. Was an interesting conversation early in the relationship when she first found my history of, "How to flirt with women" videos on RUclips tho lmao
No!, No!, NO! You have to understand that (faux) lying to them is SEXY! She wants you to create some MYSTERY in her head, so use a name that's not so ridiculous as to be easily dismissed, but fake enough to raise some doubt in all but the certifiably brain dead. "Did he just lie to me about his name? OMG! I wonder why? Is he pulling my leg?". Admit to lying about your name too early and there's no challenge for her because you haven't awakened her curiosity. It's not about chasing women; it's about irresistibly baiting the snare!
@@Grimenoughtomaketherobotcry that’s actually a pretty nice advice, I mean my joke doesn’t really relate to it, but you’ve got me considering this a pretty nice way to start a conversation with someone to be remembered and make it fun from the beginning. Next time I’m meeting someone I’ll tell em with a serious face that my name is Bebop or Dude or smth
@@levmade Bebop Dude-Smith! Double-barreled names ALWAYS impress! And tell them your mom was a jazz musician- you were raised on the road in smokey bars. Good luck!
100% more likely to talk to a guy who's asked me how long I've been in Al Qaeda than a guy who says I'm the most gorgeous woman he's seen and he'd kick himself later for not talking to me.
@@KENNETHTXMMA it is not. if you can't talk to people and have fun in groups though you are missing out. Having a lack of social skills is blatantly bad though.
@@KENNETHTXMMA it is not. Most people are not extroverts. Introverts does not refer only to socially awkward people who don't have friends, it refers to normal people that just do not feel the need to be in the center of attention all the time or to always be surrounded by people. Being extrovert does not make you neccesarly more attractive but having social skills does. So don't try to be what you are not (works both ways). Be you and work on your social skills that's the most important.
Aah yes, the standard 3 step advice from this channel: 1. Be funny 2. Be charming 3. Be good looking (not explicitly stated, but a lot of these "techniques" heavily rely on it)
One of the best pieces of advice I've got from this channel is to "flirt with the world." Have fun in conversation with everyone around you. Guys, girls, older people, cashiers. It helps you practice and it's just more fun anyways.
I do think Craig has MORE fun trying to amuse himself, than be spontaneously flirty (which in return comes off as the perfect chemistry). He *consumes* the pressure like a vampire from the person he's talking too. Which makes interacting with this sort of personality IDEAL. Everyone likes having a friend that speaks their mind and amuses themselves, and not at someone's cost.
I know some people don't want to hear it this way, but women loves when they are being treated like children - and this video is the ultimate proof. Imagine that he is trying to talk to a kid and watch the video
To confidently flirt with women you have to develop yourself into a man with confidence and the only way to do that is to earn it. It's really a natural thing every man has to go through and isn't a list of points you need to remember
100%. You need facetime with women too. But I spent a lot of facetime with women when I wasn't confident, then I spent 2 years focusing on deep inner work and developing core confidence. After that period, women liked me waay more even though I hadn't interacted with them romantically for a long time.
Years ago, I had an older friend, 35 or so. He always had a gorgeous woman on his arm and at parties they just migrated to him. As a shy-ish 22 year-old, I asked him how he did it. He said, 'Look at me. I'm short, I'm scrawny, losing my hair. I have a big nose and crooked teeth. I know I can't compete with the hunks, so I don't bother. With me, I laugh the women into bed. They have such a great time with me, before they know it their dress is on the bedroom floor.' He was a really funny and witty guy. Everyone liked him.
Im a big flirt. Coming from a shy introvert who was physically insecure, I leaned on my humor a lot. Once i started working on my physique and attractiveness, the segue to charismatic and charming was easy. I always enjoyed making people laugh and the lines get blurred so quickly. I can definitely testify to the power of laughter. Getting other people to laugh will get even the most standoffish women open to being approached
Same. There's a reason unnatractive people aren't confident, they have no reason to be. Since building my body I've noticed the charisma is flowing easier.
If a guy can master humor with a woman, he has already done 50% of the work. It doesn't mean that she will be attracted to you physically or want to date you, but it puts you in a better starting position.
@@waynepayne9875 There's plenty of reasons for unattractive people to be confident. You have a very shallow view of people based on your comment. Also, one of the most attractive things you can do is come of as confident even if you "shouldn't be". There's a lot of chubby confident guys out there that are hooking up with the "hot chicks", cause of humor (charisma) and confidence.
I do think Graig is genuinely having fun and letting go of the outcome. He's trusting the process that if he follows his flow of fun while paying attention to the other person and inviting them in a safe way it will all be alright. Just focussing on elements of his approach is overcomplicating that core process. Sure, his techniques are pure excellence but at the core of it all is having as much fun as possible while taking care of the other person.
"How do you think I got this job?" DAMN that line was so good. You can see the guest already bust out laughing before Craig even opens his mouth because he sees the smile spread across Craig's face, he can tell whatever Craig is about to say is going to be PERFECT. That sequence was so good!
As a high functioning person on the autism spectrum who’s practiced at social interactions for years in order to fit in better, I think this video could actually be incredibly educational for socially awkward people to learn from even for just day to day interactions.
One thing I have found useful is to lean on awkwardness and say something that you know people find interesting or funny from past experience. It's more natural for socially award person to start this way, and requires less need to read social signals quickly. It's interesting to watch Craig, but understanding how a power lifter can lift 900lb, does not mean I can repeat the same.
I got on a Craig Furgeson kick about 7 years ago and he was my favorite ever since. He's like a little boy who knows he's being naughty but everyone can't help but be charmed by it.
@@wesleyhurd3574 it's actually not, you just have to add one thing at a time, week by week, until these traits become ingrained in your personality. It takes time. Rome wasn't built in a day, and neither was anyone's love life.
@@insanoibro6331 you just talk more and practice. I'm talking from experience. And that guy is absolutely right. While these kind of videos are helpful, all you really have to do is to not be boring, and interesting and unique in conversations
I used to watch his show all the time. It was amazing and he is always hilarious. I never realized women would go on the show just to be flirted with. The chemistry he created with the ladies was always flawless.
The "hey I know this is totally random but you're gorgeous, I'd be kicking myself for the rest of the day if I didn't find out more about you." Is way too much of a line and is nothing that Craig Ferguson would do. He's much more carefree with his flirting. This is a direct approach. Putting her on the spot to respond.
It's a 50/50 effort. They're actually responding and giving feedback and going along with him enthusiastically. Any guy who has spent time in the dating scene will have at least a few experiences of doing everything right, but sitting with a boring woman who has no energy, no interest, and will laugh at your jokes but not ever add anything to the conversation.
When I first started reading I thought you must have done something to turn her off but if she's laughing at your jokes than you're doing everything right.
Thats very true! But, technically thats a victory too, because any woman that has no sense of humor (or at least doesn't enjoy yours) is probably not worth a long term relationship anyway.
He is also socially accepted as a funny guy, so there is a constant feeling telling yourself "if you don't laugh with him, you are the one to blame". Aaaaaand also, they know beforehand what they are going to find when in the interviews, so there is no surprise and evaluation when he starts throwing sexual comments or things like that
That’s a good point. If you approach a girl on the street they have no idea whether you will be funny, smart, creepy, etc. so it’s harder to break the ice. With Craig, they know the kind of person he is and know what he’s going to talk about, so it’s already easier for him.
@@jdm8503 It's easy to tell you're an incel as well as the people who liked your comment... this dude would do pretty well with his looks, accent and personality in random night clubs and bars without any fame
Massive Respect to Craig and the medicinal effects of all that laughter he's created for everyone. The biggest thing about Craig that's not mentioned is he doesn't have an agenda in conversation. And he doesn't take himself so seriously. I've found that simply asking someone with authenticity, "How's your day going?" That's plenty enough to be off to the races with conversation. Finally, Chris Pine asking Craig if he, himself played the mouth organ, and Craig answering, "How do you think I got this job?" Laughter was echoing through my house from how that really got me. So Quick! Fun. Fun. Fun.
Craig is well known, and most women who come to his show have already seen him interact like this with other women, and they already know what they're getting themselves into, if Jimmy Fallon does the EXACT same thing as craig, it'll look unsmooth , because it'll feel very different. You can flirt with women but there are levels to it, you can't start off the interaction with 10/10 flirting, you have to throw 2 and 3 and see if she throws some back, and then slowly escalate
@@whyyeseyec Yeah 100% but you can't go all out on a new woman from the get go, right? You have to throw in some mild things to test the vibe, then you can be your natural self
If you can start a conversation with some boldness, observational humour or positive playfulness in the moment, you set yourself apart so much it's crazy. Plus that whole conversation and connection is built on an amazing foundation, so it's way more likely to be a great interaction! It's like starting your day well.
I feel like these skills people are less aquatinted with nowadays. Back in the day these daddys that somehow catch many attractive girls exist but we see few of them and might good time to exploit that scarcity.
Weaponized presence: the art of purposely making everyone uncomfortable with pure vibes. The trick is to not be so overt that they have a reason to throw you out but weird enough to make everyone on edge enough to ruin the fun. It’s quite comical.
One has to have some semblance of physical attractiveness, otherwise one IS a perpetual victim, not of their own doing. People can be cruel that way. I've yet to see someone totally unattractive make any contradictory comments.
I was in a situation where someone who I'd just met was trying to introduce me to an attractive woman. They couldn't remember my name. It was a social/professional situation, and I wasn't interested (I was taken). I just introduced myself, saying "hi, I'm Frank Sinatra". They both laughed and relaxed. It was just something spontaneous and fun that broke the ice & diffused an awkward moment.
Other words for “your looking good” enchanting, sensational, gorgeous as always, fantastic, ravishing, remarkable, terrific, fabulous, heavenly, radiant, charming, phenomenal
They don't have a script, they have talking points. They know the topics that are gonna be discussed before hand and may rehearse themselves what they're going to say. That's what I learned from Entourage anyways😆
Everytime I watch Craig I cry laughing. He EASILY had the funniest late show ever. There is endless hilarious footage. For anyone to think they can approach conversation like him is an unattainable goal if you don't already have the natural skills.
I agree with you but we can all improve our game if we practice and are not afraid to fail. If we can laugh at ourselves that helps a lot, in all aspects of life.
The whole psychology of this is absolutely intriguing! Life is meant to be fun and whimsical! Put yourself out there (the correct/moral way) and have fun!
@@gabeg9653 thanks for the update. Sounds not that fun, though. Anyways, it is better to see you don't fit really well at the beginning than drag this thing to the point where it would hurt the feelings of both of you. So don't spend too much time pondering on it. I've got smth like that last year. Went in too hasty - kissed her on the first date. We started kinda dating but lots of nonsense ensued. I don't regret having at least SOME first dating experience, but I'm having the 'don't haste' as my principle now. BTW you went on a MEETING with a girl (so, it was your first evening together). How did she learn you wanted to date her? She just guessed?
I work at restaurant and I like to entertain, share good vibes, make jokes, being sarcastic, funny sometimes with the costumers, or say interesting things, or listen to them and they love to come back, they feel good when they go out. it's good to use methods to get good vibes, learn these psychologic tricks to try them on others also.
1 Start Convo in Fun Positive Way (compliments OR “Hi my name is...”) 2 Over The Top Teasing (rhetorically be absurd Ex: You must be from the mafia then! OR Call Out Cliches & Call Out Yourself!) 3 Being Playfully Absurd (convos aren’t for info exchange but emotion exchange) 4 Create A Flirty Safe Environment (use sexual joke about someone else not them at first OR playfully misinterpret something to be sexual OR Innuendo technically innocent but could have a double meaning) 5 Flirt With The World (interact with everyone like you interact with women to make more natural and avoid creepy ness) 6Leaned Back Body Language (makes people comfortable) PS keep physical touch using high fives, shoulder touches, & hugs 7 Get Comfortable With Worst Case Social Scenarios (MakeThem Seem purposely Awkward to be funny Ex: Awkward pauses, mumbling, mess up pronunciations, talking to more people)PS don’t do 7 in excess only when necessary 8 Teasing, Absurdity, Misinterpretation, Innuendo, and more just practice what you like the most and have most fun with. Playful State Of Mind Also u can watch 10 -15 min of Craig Ferguson videos & be Comfortable in (worst case scenario) uncomfortable situations to convo prep, remember to use platonic modified versions of these techniques with friends too! Don’t forget: Convos are EMOTION EXCHANGE !! Not Info Exchange. Most importantly....USE THESE TECHNIQUES FOR YOUR OWN AMUSEMENT NOT OTHERS!!!!!
@@redgey5163 But there's so much beauty in being real and deep.....I hate this fake lughter personaloity. It just doesn't feel genuine. It's not real and I always feel weird when people around me are trying to get some kind of rise out of me.
There’s a lot of ways when a stranger is just trying to make themselves laugh they could come off as insulting assholes. These are tips for how to have playful interactions with people that don’t know you yet. And with women it’s also important you immediately demonstrate that you’re a sexual option, safe, and fun. It’s not tricks just good tips to not shoot yourself in the foot. More deep and genuine interactions can come later.
One thing I notice with Craig is the ebb and flow. He's leaned back, then he gets closer at more intimate moments, uses touch - high fives, cupping hands, hugs, then leans back again. He always plays along, if the guest wants to talk about something or do something, he takes the backseat and lets them run with it and just rides the situation. When its done, then he takes the lead again.
Thats another thing I think they missed in this, physical contact is important, weather that's a shoulder touch, high five, hug, whatever, thats really important for establishing a connection.
Really important thing that was mentioned is that Craig cracks the same types of jokes/ makes his innuendos to male guests as well! He doesn't single out the women. That is such an important thing to note here
These anecdotes, ideas and advice are great. I’m naturally confident and charismatic in social situations, HOWEVER, it’s always good to rethink your approaches. It’s fun to make people laugh and engage. Forever learning. Thank you for putting this together!
There are lots of talk show hosts, so why is it that he is the one that attracts females the most? Even though he's not that attractive, that's what makes him special and why this video was useful
Someone told me once, to open with "I can't believe you wore those shoes..." and then follow up immediately with, "I'm just messing around.....you look amazing!" - Done confidently, this arouses lots of emotions quickly which can never be a bad thing.
You guys are SO kind to be so helpful to soooooo many people that haven’t figured out what they’re missing by being afraid to engage in conversations with strangers
Striking up conversations with strangers takes practice but in time you get good at it. You got to be quick witted and always smiling. I do it a lot now, it's kind of a hobby for me and a way to brighten my day and hopefully for others. I just had several people laughing with me in the line at the grocery store the other day. ALSO I just recently bought this wild unique looking fake leather jacket at Ross and wear it whenever I am out and it's like people just want to start talking to me! It's crazy.
You see, the problem with this video is that you take “Late Night Show Interviews” as your prime example for what a good conversation should look like. But first of all, these interviews are often rehearsed or at least talked through before. So not at all like actual conversations. And secondly, they are interviews: One person usually asks the questions and the other one just tries to answer them in a humorous way. I. e. not a balanced conversation. The aim of these interviews is to make the guest celebrity look as favorable as possible. It’s not even a real conversation, it is entertainment. Pulling out all the stops, taking on a heightened personality and they stop acting like they do in real life. Because, if it was really just two people talking, a lot of people wound find that not to be enough for TV. I like your videos but I would try to steer away from actors and entertainers. They are fun and great to watch but it’s just not real, it’s a show.
I disagree here - there are plenty of solid principles here which are useful for almost any conversation. Craig Ferguson - yes while being a talk show which all tend to be edited - interviews still represent a decent organic conversation compared to other shows. Some people would actually find this style of humour and banter quite endearing.
Also, Craig, unlike other hosts, didn't rely on cards for his interviews. In fact, he often made a point of tearing them up at the beginning of the show.
It’s nkt supposed to be taken as literally though, the point of the video is to telling guys to basically be comfortable and fun when approaching women, and there are (apparently) exaggerated examples of it from Ferguson.
I started watching this channel years ago back in high school as the awkwardest of the awkward. Over time, now 20, I’ve become confident and charismatic. Even went recommending this to close friends who I thought would benefit from it. We can always improve no matter how far we’ve come so I’ll be checking out the course to see what I’m lacking.
1:52, he says to add 20% more energy than your surroundings as to not come off as monotonous and boring, instead contrasting with the boring low energy people around you
@@tahafaez1173 Nah, I have better advice: Have you ever heard the 100% rule? Be smarter, richer, taller and more handsome than the 100% of the other guys in the room and you are the boss.... This advice is exactly as practical as the 20% rule, mentioned in the video...
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me entering the room for a job interview: LOOK AT YOU WOMAN, YOU LOOK SENSATIONAL
Nailed it
You got the job, leave your resume..
Sir this is a zoo.
I didn't lightly exhale from my nostrils reading this ; I almost choked
Your comment is absolutely enchanting
I studied this video for a few weeks and I've scored a sit down conversation with HR. Wish me luck!
Best of luck!
So, ho did it go? Did you score a second conversation at your or her place?
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Thats great 😂
Yep, that's exactly where you'd end up today!
I think the fact is Craig doesn't set out to flirt..he sets out to make sure everyone has a great time ..
yeah he's just having fun, getting girls is just an accidental bonus
He know the way to make people forget about their insecurity
Yeah I’m not really bad
yeah, flirting is not fun by default for a lot of girls
Moral of the story is just be yourself
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
Yup, that book is often shilled on youtube which makes me quite suspicious of the ones bringing it up.
I love scams
damn talking to people is like a whole science
I know, its pretty interesting though right?
What blows my mind is some people have it without even knowing what they are doing.
Between these videos and Jordan Peterson videos, I feel like I’ve actually been terribly awkward and ineffectual my whole life 😂🤷🏻♀️
Bruh
@@baileybrinker5935 IKR I'm like "no wonder most are my friends and the rest know of me but I didn't get many dates"
So walk up to girls and ask if they're in Al-Qaeda. Got it!
"Ey girl, you in Al-Qaeda? 'Cause you DA BOMB!"
I'm so sorry. I saw an opportunity and I had to take it.
Actually though... This kind of makes sense? I think girls want things to catch them off guard so they don't immediately have a barrier put up. Something funny or absurd directly out of the gate.
Instructions unclear. Got deported.
well iam middle eastern with a beard, it will sound like i am recruiting...
Now i can flirt and try these techniques in prison with bubba
That line “do you wanna do an awkward pause?”is pure genius.
Yeah I'll definitely be stealing that one for next time I feel an awkward pause coming up.
It’s a segment on the show. He literally does awkward pauses with guests as a bit
you should watch more of his videos. He does that all the time for fun.
The mouth organ doesn't go over as well. I would like to see the first guest he did that with, lol.
@@headphonic8 we know
Revandles forbidden books (thank me later)
4k likes and not a single reply
@@somethingfunnyig Cause it's a bot
I love scammers
????
Im finally, 10 years later, starting to understand why my coworker asked me "Why do you flirt with EVERYONE?"
I didn't see it, cause Im a man, and this is basically how I interact with everybody. Its because I was shy for a while and kind of awkward, but I found if I could just get people laughing and talking about their favorite subject (usually them, lol) it wasnt that hard to talk to people.
This is exactly me, man. Like my go-to is jokes and making people laugh to avoid the conversation getting awkward. And don't worry, people like it a lot, I know cause I was very shy, too.
I was a shy kid. As I got older was told I was a flirt when I was just trying to interact LOL 😂
This kind of reminds me how one of my mentors on my nursing placement (I am a male) told me to stop flirting with all the patients. I never ever saw it that way but reading your comment makes sense, I always get the female patients laughing by just doing my job and commenting on my klutzy behaviours. For example half tripping over an observation machine on wheels and just commenting "this is the 4th time and i've only been on for 20 minutes I must be wired wrong!"
Brought a big smile to my face actually.
Any tips my dude??
@@robmyster01 just make people laugh. It will result in you being the fun guy. Which will get you invited to more events, ending in you meeting more girls.
Craig Ferguson is just being himself so that's why he looks so relaxed. He's obviously been practicing and doing this for a long time. Best advice is keep practicing.
Yp
Craig has venus in gemini. While others can learn, this is 100% effortless for him.
Gemini is a chatty, energetic, and quick-thinking zodiac sign, so when Venus is here, she loves to flirt.
Exactly he’s being himself.
@@LAWSON08 I’m a Gemini (may 22nd 1993) and I only have the quick thinking part. The chatty and energetic isn’t there. What planet is tainting me? 🤣 it can’t be Venus because I’m the most awkward flirt I know.
@@justinthompson5718 I'm assuming you are born in the US. If so you have a near exact Sun square saturn. A pretty serious aspect. You may have some shyness issues? But there's also a sun trine jupiter to help you out...very nice.
Btw
Probable moon in Gemini
Mercury in Gemini
Venus in Aries
Mars in Leo
So, in summary:
"How To Create Chemistry With Anyone"
"Be Craig Ferguson"
Step 1. Be rich
Step 2. Be Famous
Got it boss!
Act like him. I've been doing it with the college girls in the fast food restaurant I work at. It's insane how much positive attention I am getting from the girls.
@@xCoolzxX This all about being funny, playful, and non-threatening. Keep thinking you have to be rich and famous and see how that's going to work out.
There used to be a show called "The Dating Game". A woman had to pick from three guys she couldn't see. Every so often a comedian would be one of the three. They got the girl every time.
Honestly, he sounded slightly repulsive with the repetitiveness of the 2nd point of starting the conversation in a overly fun and positive way. He's just buttering them up for whatever he wants to bring up. It's not even that realistic in the real world. Talk shows are different.
@@a-a-rondavis9438 You'd be surprised how a positive attitude can change the environment. But it's a skill too.
Craig also rips up the talk cards which sends a signal to the person that they are more important than the scripted conversation the network had planned and this makes the person feel very special.
And yet he does it every time so it becomes a cliché.
It’s also what makes him wanted by many with just a few things he says consistently and the way he acts throughout his shows
@@redmed10maybe on television to watch over and over sure. Still real conversations in person I think that this is good advice.
One thing this entire piece is missing is that the women coming to his show have a presupposition of him and are already primed for how they are going to act to him which is generally favourably. This doesn't mean he can't offend them or turn them off, however, it does mean he is starting ahead of the game unlike doing this to a complete stranger on the street.
This
@@aldendiaz1165 You're ahead of the game once you know how to walk into a room correctly.
Yeah its like always having the winning hand and playing poker.
Exactly. And since many of the women had fun in previous shows, women come in with a bit of a guard down. This is not completely applicable to real life strangers.
Exactly. As much as I love (and miss) Craig on the Late Late Show, his charms most definitely didn't work on everyone. Watch his Christina Hendricks interview as an example.
Guy to female co-worker: “You look sensational!”
Human Resources to guy: “We need to discuss some things with you.”
That's a fact. Craig is still hilarious.
it's always the Toby's
@@adamt9935 lighten up Francis. It’s called joking around. Read up on it.
I wish I had a coffee to drink when I read this so I could've spit take
If you say like an hungry animal that can happen yeah
I’m learning to be a human
Welcome to the club.
this comment made my day
Same bruh
Detroit: Becoming Human
Bee Boop. A fellow Hu-Man has en-tered the chat. Ha. Ha. Ha. Ha.
1) Be confident 2) Have fun 3) Find something good about that person 4) Do not take anything too seriously especially yourself 6) Find something around you that you like and express it to whoever is listening including yourself! If you seek happy thoughts they will become part of your life. The universe will find ways to bless you!!!
So basically how to confidently flirt with women:
Step 1 - be confident
Step 2 - flirt
Haha, yeah 🤣. Amazing, woman like confident alpha males? Lol. A good posture also goes a long way
Probably you have new girlfriend every day
then wait for the charges.
you forgot hot and/or rich.
You make it sound simple
*Everything feels uncomfortable at first, but over time, it will become easier*
That's what she said
@@OffCamberShow a million dollars to you sir
Hahhahahahhahahahahahh 😑
Just like with Bill Cosby
Word!
Craig Ferguson: One synonym for charisma and pure, tangible charm.
Perfect for an actor on stage. Try that in real life - good luck!
Craig is an excellent example to pick. He was the very best talk show host ever. You genuinely laugh. And he had a cast of supporting characters equally as funny.
Importantly, he was never a 'try hard' type always straining to get a laugh or reaction or hog the limelight. He just let the session run wherever it took him and his guest and team. That ability to throw out the plan and improvise brilliantly marked him out. And you are correct, that leaning away from the guest gives them space and he never seems like a predator. And that creepy Biden example would make anyone afraid.
Evidently u never watched Carson. Makes this guy look like a schlub, not funny or even entertaining. ❤
I just imagine a bunch of dudes running around talking excessively loud to random women at coffee shops lol
WOMAN YPU LOOK SENSATIONAL
@Anonymus X Hey gal, do u wanna do an awkard pause?
You haven't spend a lot of time in Italy yet huh?
“Do you blow the mouth organ?”
“Ugh, ugh do youu blow the mouth organ?”
“How do you think I got *this* job?”
I lmaoed on that
Wow. He's got responses too I really thought he was cornered in on that one
@@confirmhandle he's too quick and sought of a genius to form those responses and turning meaning of the words and also making inneuendos.
Music school it is!
Do awkward stares and nostril flaring count as flirting?
They work if you acknowledge them..😉
ITS THE TWILIGHT REFERENCE FOR MEEEEE
hey .......... how you doing ??
It works on me! :P
Just kidding, I'm a trucker. The only flirting I get is from my truck >.>
Only if you're Mr. Darcy.
I've always felt like a goddam alien trying to assimilate into human culture when I watch these videos but they're so practical and to the point. As corny as a lot of this stuff is to be watching and learning now, most of us need it as we weren't taught // avoided learning it growing up. SOCIAL SKILLS are so important and it may feel so damn cringy watching these videos, you're making good progress. Especially if you actually apply it...
It's kind of embarrassing to have to watch hours of tutorials on being human, but I'm glad I did!
@@oliverford5367Truth is 90% of people can't hold a conversation. And not one in a hundred women know how to flirt for sour apples.
If you learn to just volley a conversation, you're going to be seen as an interesting and more chaing person.
If you guys are single, be confident about flirting. If a woman doesn't like it, you just wink and move on. Other people will see you as just being fun, and see her as a snot.
Let's say two of you are out watching a ball game. Maybe one of you owns a sailboat. Pick out the two prettiest girls, go say hello, start a conversation.
If the girls start to ask questions, say something like:
"Okay, here's the truth, but you can't tell anyone! We're actually aliens, but the good kind. We're grad students here working on our thesis, Earth Babes Are The Hottest.
I mean, that's what a lot of guys around the universe think, but we're doing field research. Of course, those girls on planet Quizzes are, too.
If they ask, say, "Three breasts. One on the back for dancing."
You can lay the alien grad students and "field research' on thick. If they ask anything remotely related, say:
Well, our ship is here, but transformed to a sailboat so it wouldn't be as much in dock fees. Hey, we're on a tight budget.
Yeah, if you want to see it, we plan on going out on it tomorrow. So, you have a big bottle of suntan oil and a bikini?
Hey, it needs energy to run, you know. The sexier the bikini the more energy. And we don't want anything sunburned, do we?
You can usually lay it on thick and the girls will eat it up, probably show up in their skimpiest bikini and want to prove Earth Girls Are The Sexiest.
Don't feel bad. Everyday I meet people who are bad communicators. You'll probably notice it yourself when you become more natural. And most of the time they're not even self-aware!
No need to feel bad! We gotta learn somehow! I initially learned from reading books when I was 17. 32 now and I’m introverted, but great at sales and have had my fair share with the ladies.
Crazy you say that because I to AM an ALIEN and HATE the Majority of Humans and feel I have NOTHING in common with the majority of humanity so find no purpose talking to women, maybe also knowing I came from the "gutter" and that majority of girls I am attracted to are to "rich" for me and won't work out, like being from 2 different worlds
This guy is like a pick up artist disguised enough that mainstream doesn't get offended
Well not really. Cuz what pick up is basically faking traits of a valuable man. He actually has high social value
PUAs are god damn nerds tho
The likes of Craig is what PUA nerds try to imitate and refer to as the naturals.
@@argop4518 but those are the old PUA nerds it has evolved now
He is pickup.
Every Craig Ferguson interview should have a "DO NOT TRY THIS AT HOME" warning
Isn’t it weird how if a girl decides she doesn’t like something you say or do, however insignificant, it alerts the whole hornet’s nest and suddenly you’re in big trouble?
Yet when they make an error it’s easily permissible by everyone?
Humans aren’t real
@@honkhonk5181 Okay incel
@@LinkTheHeroOfTime even incel would be a better word than simp in this case. I thought only my life has lost meaning, but it seems like every word has, too.
@@danielbodovs1195 You're right. Incel is a better term
@@LinkTheHeroOfTime oh, you responded. Honestly I thought I was screaming into the void there. Sorry if my reply seemed rude.
“Speaking 20% louder than most people there”
You mean be the guy that everybody hates the most? Lol
People are actually attracted to the louder voice most of the time. It commands the most attention. You're talking about yourself and your preferences, which doesn't align with most people. Why do you think the loudest get the most attention and popularity?
@@TheGeorgeD13 it definitely does align with most people. But okay.
@@TheGeorgeD13 the loudest do not always get the most attention and popularity lmao!
@@chasepotter2376 Studies definitely show it to be true. There's too much evidence for us to know it to be true.
Americans are already about 20% louder than every other nationality.
Craig is amazing to watch and I think his being quick witted allows for all of his attractive habits to flow.
HE'S the LEAN BACK Master...leaning back in the chair has done wonders for my flirting game. It actually might be one of the biggest impacts I've made. When I'm leaning back, she's leaning in, I'm listening and formulating my reactions in a relaxed state of mind. This is an excellent video, great points, and fellas look at Craig leaning back, do that and absolutely remain upbeat with a smile, and a 'touch' louder in voice/deepen your tone...aces guys, aces
Exactly, that laid back posture is disarming I've found and just makes things flow much easier.
In the words of Gordon Ramsey: just a touch
@hppxx You gotta think about things. In an ideal world it would all flow naturally but in reality you've got to learn
I work as a cashier and the chairs we have are terrible, except you can lean back just the perfect amount in order to be more relaxed in a conversation. I do it all the time and not just with women and it really works wonders. You relax and at a counter people won’t lean in, so you create more space between the two of you, which normally is a bad thing, but in this case it’s great, because you usually don’t have the time to get accustomed to the customer. So what you do is create more space, which subconsciously gives both of you more time to answer and because you are more relaxed by leaning back the other person/people will feel that and do the same, thus making the conversation more organic.
Consider also the way Captain Kirk in the original Star Trek sits in the captain's chair: William Shatner affects exactly the same kind of casual confidence. Always worked for me.
remember tried “u looked enchanting” then immediately contemplate why did i chose that word...
You needed a Scottish accent
It's not what you say is how you say it & what u do
That would be fine if you said it the right way it probably got awkward when you questioned yourself adter
Like that could possibly work but you’d really have to own it
It actually worked for me but depends on how you do it. Made my crush blush calling her that since I worked it in organically
Craig is by far the best talk show host. Im so glad all his interviews are on youtube now.
Conan is quality as well
@@highestrockslemontree5083 Fax
Yeah him and Conan
He's THE best. Conan and Letterman are close.
You know what's funny though? If you look at him in other interviews and or commercial spots. He seems kind of... humble and awkward!!! Like really humble how he professed to now be happy to be a citizen of us!? Like his new game show... Is mysterious! But he himself on that show seems awkward! Of course he's like British, so he seems dainty... with women.
Craig is the master of late night talk. I wish his show was still going.
0:54 1. Starts almost every conversation in a fun positive way.
1:55 2. Over-the-top teasing
4:05 3. Being playfully absurd
4:54 4. Create a safe environment for people to be flirty and sexual
10:34 Flirt with the world
11:29 Leaned back body language
12:05 get comfortable with your worst-case scenario.
Great summary.
U are a lifesaver
Thank you
Thanks this guys talks too much
0:00 Be the attractive wealthy popular host of your own TV show
0:01 Invite attractive women to be on your show
me, convo starter: "hey.. you are absolutely gorgeous.."
her - reaching for the pepper spray in her bag.
"Aaarrrgggghhh, I'm a bear!!" (while she's pepper-spraying you)
*being playfully absurd
I’ve done it some times now. Believe me, that’s not what happens. If you are confident and not creepy, she will either like it and continue the conversation, or don’t like it and just walk away.
'gorgeous' kind of defeats the purpose of what is said in the video, doesn't it?
It's a very common word.
'Positively Noble', 'Sensational', Captivating'
None of the above words are used in usual conversation or complementation and so become so much more viable than
your run-of-the-mill usage of "gorgeous".
@Heiliger Katholik Whose normal conversation?
Maybe if you are from east coast old money and born in the 1950's.
But the largest recent generations hardly say words such as that (boomers, gen-x, millennials).
Certainly if you'd like to prove your point, jump into the metrics on google.
Or you could have some fun with it, jump onto 6-10 comedian standup when they speak about beauty/dating.
And of course positively noble is two words. But positively is an adjective, which we can see Ferguson demonstrating in these clips.
@Heiliger Katholik Sorry, I'd offer Spanish but that probably wouldn't communicate what its supposed to.
I can hit you in many forms of slang? The likes of which have years of efficacy confounding nearly everyone outside its applicable culture grid and while simple to me may very well seem complex to you.
So let's clear it up.
I do not care about your measure of what is normal, simple, or non-simple. It is clear that you are disconnected.
Another thing that is clear, is that two exchanges complete and you've already tried veiled but direct insults.
I guess your complex linguistic skills reveal your simple mind.
No matter though, I'll get my kicks from the fact you said this publicly.
Because ultimately, you are typing on a website that uses American English as its interface(by default), commenting on a video where an educated American English speaker speaks.
The funniest part?
The entire website is written in a computer language which reads as English and is oriented towards American English.
High chances that the story is the same for the device you are using to access this website.
I watched this so I can flirt with my wife. Mental warfare activated
😂😂
Lol 😆 good for u! Please update us on the results lol
DEADBEDROOM Detected
she would be mind-blown, like WTH is he doing?
I do this literally ALL the time. Helps me keep things fresh so we DON'T get a deadbedroom lol. We're on 15 years together, and the chemistry is 1000% still there. In large part because I like trying new ways to flirt with her.
Was an interesting conversation early in the relationship when she first found my history of, "How to flirt with women" videos on RUclips tho lmao
Lord, I miss his hosting the Late, Late Show. He was just as brilliant with the male guests. Wherever he is, I wish him the absolute best!
- Hey I think I’ve never met you, I’m Ben
- Hi Ben, I’m Karen
- Oh im not actually Ben, that’s just my starter phrase
Well when your name is Nasty, you gotta have SOME kind of backup >.>
No!, No!, NO! You have to understand that (faux) lying to them is SEXY! She wants you to create some MYSTERY in her head, so use a name that's not so ridiculous as to be easily dismissed, but fake enough to raise some doubt in all but the certifiably brain dead. "Did he just lie to me about his name? OMG! I wonder why? Is he pulling my leg?". Admit to lying about your name too early and there's no challenge for her because you haven't awakened her curiosity. It's not about chasing women; it's about irresistibly baiting the snare!
@@Grimenoughtomaketherobotcry that’s actually a pretty nice advice, I mean my joke doesn’t really relate to it, but you’ve got me considering this a pretty nice way to start a conversation with someone to be remembered and make it fun from the beginning. Next time I’m meeting someone I’ll tell em with a serious face that my name is Bebop or Dude or smth
@@levmade Bebop Dude-Smith! Double-barreled names ALWAYS impress! And tell them your mom was a jazz musician- you were raised on the road in smokey bars. Good luck!
Good opener, a good follow up would be, instead of "my starter phrase", say "That's my pickup line (pause) ya it needs work."
"Make sure your question is obviously absurd like being in Al-Quaeda."
Me: *laughs awkwardly*
FBI OPEN UP
100% more likely to talk to a guy who's asked me how long I've been in Al Qaeda than a guy who says I'm the most gorgeous woman he's seen and he'd kick himself later for not talking to me.
Doesnt work in Afganistan
@@LednacekZ lolol
@@LAGallerina literally if someone said that to me, I'd tell him to go and f himself lolol. Even if just to mess with him, for my own amusement :')
*Here we go boys, introverts no more*
*socially anxious no more, you meant
nothing here for girls :-(
@Gray Jedi social skills are still very important at least if you want a lasting relationship.
@@KENNETHTXMMA it is not. if you can't talk to people and have fun in groups though you are missing out. Having a lack of social skills is blatantly bad though.
@@KENNETHTXMMA it is not. Most people are not extroverts. Introverts does not refer only to socially awkward people who don't have friends, it refers to normal people that just do not feel the need to be in the center of attention all the time or to always be surrounded by people. Being extrovert does not make you neccesarly more attractive but having social skills does. So don't try to be what you are not (works both ways). Be you and work on your social skills that's the most important.
Aah yes, the standard 3 step advice from this channel:
1. Be funny
2. Be charming
3. Be good looking (not explicitly stated, but a lot of these "techniques" heavily rely on it)
One of the best pieces of advice I've got from this channel is to "flirt with the world." Have fun in conversation with everyone around you. Guys, girls, older people, cashiers. It helps you practice and it's just more fun anyways.
Totally agree! Practice the art of charm and flirting and eventually you have women giving you hugs for no apparent reason.
So true
I do think Craig has MORE fun trying to amuse himself, than be spontaneously flirty (which in return comes off as the perfect chemistry). He *consumes* the pressure like a vampire from the person he's talking too. Which makes interacting with this sort of personality IDEAL. Everyone likes having a friend that speaks their mind and amuses themselves, and not at someone's cost.
5:42 "If I ask for it nicely." I'm not even a woman and I'm literally crying over this line!
I know some people don't want to hear it this way, but women loves when they are being treated like children - and this video is the ultimate proof. Imagine that he is trying to talk to a kid and watch the video
Charisma on demand. Answering the questions no one wants to ask.
Dude. I see you everywhere😮
@@nathashaxavier6850 fanboy
@@nathashaxavier6850
I’m a bot 🤖
@@CaseyBurnsInvesting Lol🤣
On command*
To confidently flirt with women you have to develop yourself into a man with confidence and the only way to do that is to earn it. It's really a natural thing every man has to go through and isn't a list of points you need to remember
100%. You need facetime with women too. But I spent a lot of facetime with women when I wasn't confident, then I spent 2 years focusing on deep inner work and developing core confidence. After that period, women liked me waay more even though I hadn't interacted with them romantically for a long time.
Years ago, I had an older friend, 35 or so. He always had a gorgeous woman on his arm and at parties they just migrated to him. As a shy-ish 22 year-old, I asked him how he did it. He said, 'Look at me. I'm short, I'm scrawny, losing my hair. I have a big nose and crooked teeth. I know I can't compete with the hunks, so I don't bother. With me, I laugh the women into bed. They have such a great time with me, before they know it their dress is on the bedroom floor.' He was a really funny and witty guy. Everyone liked him.
@@karl2405 what u did to develop confidence bro?
But you absolutely also need good social skills, and if you don’t have them, you need to train
@@terencejay8845 what did he lace the weed with? He clearly used drugs to make the women giddy.
Im a big flirt. Coming from a shy introvert who was physically insecure, I leaned on my humor a lot. Once i started working on my physique and attractiveness, the segue to charismatic and charming was easy. I always enjoyed making people laugh and the lines get blurred so quickly. I can definitely testify to the power of laughter. Getting other people to laugh will get even the most standoffish women open to being approached
Same. There's a reason unnatractive people aren't confident, they have no reason to be. Since building my body I've noticed the charisma is flowing easier.
If a guy can master humor with a woman, he has already done 50% of the work. It doesn't mean that she will be attracted to you physically or want to date you, but it puts you in a better starting position.
@@waynepayne9875 There's plenty of reasons for unattractive people to be confident. You have a very shallow view of people based on your comment.
Also, one of the most attractive things you can do is come of as confident even if you "shouldn't be". There's a lot of chubby confident guys out there that are hooking up with the "hot chicks", cause of humor (charisma) and confidence.
They're probably chubby and handsome. No one is completely unnattractive and pulling hot chicks unless its a financial thing.
@@waynepayne9875 Not handsome, just not ugly
I do think Graig is genuinely having fun and letting go of the outcome. He's trusting the process that if he follows his flow of fun while paying attention to the other person and inviting them in a safe way it will all be alright. Just focussing on elements of his approach is overcomplicating that core process. Sure, his techniques are pure excellence but at the core of it all is having as much fun as possible while taking care of the other person.
"How do you think I got this job?"
DAMN that line was so good. You can see the guest already bust out laughing before Craig even opens his mouth because he sees the smile spread across Craig's face, he can tell whatever Craig is about to say is going to be PERFECT. That sequence was so good!
Craig has a LOT of great lines and comebacks. Still that is absolute number one.
9:39
What makes it brilliant is how fast he got it 😂
I misheard "How do you think I got this young [looking]?" and got a bit confused.
I have always loved Craig Ferguson he's just one of the funniest talk show host out there
As a high functioning person on the autism spectrum who’s practiced at social interactions for years in order to fit in better, I think this video could actually be incredibly educational for socially awkward people to learn from even for just day to day interactions.
💯💯💯
I dont think so dude. I think its better for yourself seeking tips to A PSYCHOLOGIST or a therapist instead of using PUA videos.
As an autistic this video would be useless because you can't read social signals.
One thing I have found useful is to lean on awkwardness and say something that you know people find interesting or funny from past experience. It's more natural for socially award person to start this way, and requires less need to read social signals quickly. It's interesting to watch Craig, but understanding how a power lifter can lift 900lb, does not mean I can repeat the same.
@@zaftra you can learn it dummy
Being handsome, rich and having a cool accent probably helps a lot too.
stop looking for excuses
Its the most important factor
@@danielbrawner3677 nah confidence is the most important factor
How do you think he got the job if not being comfortable in his skin, funny and confident.
you sound like an insecure incel
Fantastic video. I think the most amazing takeaway for me is how some people just do this naturally. No thinking. No trying. Just being. Wonderful.
I got on a Craig Furgeson kick about 7 years ago and he was my favorite ever since. He's like a little boy who knows he's being naughty but everyone can't help but be charmed by it.
Same!
And watched him till the end...
And reading that piece about him coming to that bridge & the end.....I can relate.....
No wonder I'm single, this sounds like a lot of work.
Seems nearly impossible.
@@wesleyhurd3574 it's actually not, you just have to add one thing at a time, week by week, until these traits become ingrained in your personality. It takes time. Rome wasn't built in a day, and neither was anyone's love life.
just be yourself. the only thing you can't be when talking to a girl is boring, the rest comes by gaining experience
@@MagnoMartinez what if you are or are being boring
@@insanoibro6331 you just talk more and practice. I'm talking from experience. And that guy is absolutely right. While these kind of videos are helpful, all you really have to do is to not be boring, and interesting and unique in conversations
I used to watch his show all the time. It was amazing and he is always hilarious. I never realized women would go on the show just to be flirted with. The chemistry he created with the ladies was always flawless.
The "hey I know this is totally random but you're gorgeous, I'd be kicking myself for the rest of the day if I didn't find out more about you." Is way too much of a line and is nothing that Craig Ferguson would do. He's much more carefree with his flirting. This is a direct approach. Putting her on the spot to respond.
It's a 50/50 effort. They're actually responding and giving feedback and going along with him enthusiastically. Any guy who has spent time in the dating scene will have at least a few experiences of doing everything right, but sitting with a boring woman who has no energy, no interest, and will laugh at your jokes but not ever add anything to the conversation.
Then why bother with them 🤷♂️
That's when you've got a serious bathroom issue and need to leave immediately, so sorry. Lovely to meet you. Take care.
When I first started reading I thought you must have done something to turn her off but if she's laughing at your jokes than you're doing everything right.
and then when both go to your homes she wonders why you didn't kiss her.
Thats very true! But, technically thats a victory too, because any woman that has no sense of humor (or at least doesn't enjoy yours) is probably not worth a long term relationship anyway.
*2020:* Lock down.😷🔐
*Me:* Time to brush up on some social skills! 🙈😂💃
Oof you definitely need to work on being funny 😐😬
🤣🤣🤣 yup me too
That htc mindset always growing!!
You practice now, so when/if the world opens back up you're ready
@@xitcix8360 OOP ANAHAGWGWG
He is also socially accepted as a funny guy, so there is a constant feeling telling yourself "if you don't laugh with him, you are the one to blame". Aaaaaand also, they know beforehand what they are going to find when in the interviews, so there is no surprise and evaluation when he starts throwing sexual comments or things like that
good observation w/ your first sentence.
That’s a good point. If you approach a girl on the street they have no idea whether you will be funny, smart, creepy, etc. so it’s harder to break the ice. With Craig, they know the kind of person he is and know what he’s going to talk about, so it’s already easier for him.
This! Let's be honest...most of his jokes wouldn't work if he didn't have his own show or labeled as a comedian.
@@jdm8503 It's easy to tell you're an incel as well as the people who liked your comment... this dude would do pretty well with his looks, accent and personality in random night clubs and bars without any fame
Massive Respect to Craig and the medicinal effects of all that laughter he's created for everyone.
The biggest thing about Craig that's not mentioned is he doesn't have an agenda in conversation.
And he doesn't take himself so seriously.
I've found that simply asking someone with authenticity, "How's your day going?"
That's plenty enough to be off to the races with conversation.
Finally, Chris Pine asking Craig if he, himself played the mouth organ, and Craig answering, "How do you think I got this job?"
Laughter was echoing through my house from how that really got me. So Quick! Fun. Fun. Fun.
The accent also helps a lot. I have a Scottish accent and I find getting women outside of Scotland a lot easier... despite my chat being crap
That’s the Jamie Fraser effect.
@@etinkhamJ exactly
the combination of the accent and being in the black watch makes me the luckiest bastard in the world. the women just queue up 😂😂
@@etinkhamJ I guess thats why Claire got so in love
TRUTH
Craig is well known, and most women who come to his show have already seen him interact like this with other women, and they already know what they're getting themselves into, if Jimmy Fallon does the EXACT same thing as craig, it'll look unsmooth , because it'll feel very different. You can flirt with women but there are levels to it, you can't start off the interaction with 10/10 flirting, you have to throw 2 and 3 and see if she throws some back, and then slowly escalate
💯💯💯💯
Also, it really helps to be naturally witty like Craig. He comes up with great lines very quickly.
@@whyyeseyec Yeah 100% but you can't go all out on a new woman from the get go, right? You have to throw in some mild things to test the vibe, then you can be your natural self
Truth
@@whyyeseyec comes up? Bro this is LIVE television, these things are scripted
If you can start a conversation with some boldness, observational humour or positive playfulness in the moment, you set yourself apart so much it's crazy. Plus that whole conversation and connection is built on an amazing foundation, so it's way more likely to be a great interaction! It's like starting your day well.
I feel like these skills people are less aquatinted with nowadays. Back in the day these daddys that somehow catch many attractive girls exist but we see few of them and might good time to exploit that scarcity.
I tried this and I went from being ignored, to getting a strong reaction.
Anyway, I'll update you all and let you know when I'm due in court.
Flirting is the art of being intimate with a women from a distance. You do that right, she lets you in physically closer to be truly intimate.
Nice.
No it's not, you're all just a pile of godamn losers...
@@grilleFire *You're
Weaponized presence: the art of purposely making everyone uncomfortable with pure vibes.
The trick is to not be so overt that they have a reason to throw you out but weird enough to make everyone on edge enough to ruin the fun. It’s quite comical.
Hahahaha alot more too it than that sweetheart
Don't forget the most important thing. As Robert Smigl once pointed out, "Be attractive. Don't be unattractive."
Hes bot attractive bro lol....
Or simply be manipulative, being genuine gets you nowhere, right?
One has to have some semblance of physical attractiveness, otherwise one IS a perpetual victim, not of their own doing. People can be cruel that way. I've yet to see someone totally unattractive make any contradictory comments.
Dont be ugly and dont be broke - its that simple if you are a guy :D Some could say chicks got it even easier, bcs nobody cares if they are broke :D
yes being manipulative and fake is the nr 1 rule@@lifeisagift.cherisheverymoment
Just being funny and smiling makes anyone instantly more fun and attractive
I was in a situation where someone who I'd just met was trying to introduce me to an attractive woman. They couldn't remember my name. It was a social/professional situation, and I wasn't interested (I was taken). I just introduced myself, saying "hi, I'm Frank Sinatra". They both laughed and relaxed. It was just something spontaneous and fun that broke the ice & diffused an awkward moment.
That’s a good one! Super funny.
Noone cares.
Are u Frank sinatra?
Other words for “your looking good” enchanting, sensational, gorgeous as always, fantastic, ravishing, remarkable, terrific, fabulous, heavenly, radiant, charming, phenomenal
Or use the most overused adjective of the 21st century - amazing.
Or pair it with the most overused adverb of the 21st century - absolutely amazing.
Does tasty work? 🤔
or mess up and say the look terrifying
"If you are watching this video, then you probably interested in meeting someone..." NO.... i'm watching because it is CRAIG Ferguson
So ur not interested in meeting anyone?
@@giacomocasanova2418 romance is overrated. What we really want is REAL ESTATE
@@dianeaishamonday9125 and that's a fact in a perspective
Fun fact, almost all late night shows are followed by a strict script. Craigs show is completely improvised which makes this all the better.
They don't have a script, they have talking points. They know the topics that are gonna be discussed before hand and may rehearse themselves what they're going to say. That's what I learned from Entourage anyways😆
Everytime I watch Craig I cry laughing. He EASILY had the funniest late show ever. There is endless hilarious footage. For anyone to think they can approach conversation like him is an unattainable goal if you don't already have the natural skills.
Craig's interactions with Robin Williams are otherworldly
I agree with you but we can all improve our game if we practice and are not afraid to fail. If we can laugh at ourselves that helps a lot, in all aspects of life.
@@free2roam674 Facts.
The whole psychology of this is absolutely intriguing! Life is meant to be fun and whimsical! Put yourself out there (the correct/moral way) and have fun!
Damn up until that last part I was ready to go out there and commit tax fraud. Now you made it all boring with "correct/moral way."
@@lastmanstanding7155 taxation is theft. Take your money back!!!!
Craig is a master. The body language of his female guests is off the charts. They melt in his presence.
Correct, Craig is an Actor and not the average Joe.
Prepping for a meeting with a girl. This is harder than studying for a test.
@G N went okay. We did some stuff...
But she didnt wanna date and now we don't talk😂
@@gabeg9653 thanks for the update. Sounds not that fun, though. Anyways, it is better to see you don't fit really well at the beginning than drag this thing to the point where it would hurt the feelings of both of you. So don't spend too much time pondering on it.
I've got smth like that last year. Went in too hasty - kissed her on the first date. We started kinda dating but lots of nonsense ensued. I don't regret having at least SOME first dating experience, but I'm having the 'don't haste' as my principle now.
BTW you went on a MEETING with a girl (so, it was your first evening together). How did she learn you wanted to date her? She just guessed?
@@gabeg9653 that means it went poorly
Yep😂
Maybe because u was preparing too hard 4 it... DOn`t work like that.
I work at restaurant and I like to entertain, share good vibes, make jokes, being sarcastic, funny sometimes with the costumers, or say interesting things, or listen to them and they love to come back, they feel good when they go out. it's good to use methods to get good vibes, learn these psychologic tricks to try them on others also.
1 Start Convo in Fun Positive Way (compliments OR “Hi my name is...”)
2 Over The Top Teasing (rhetorically be absurd Ex: You must be from the mafia then! OR Call Out Cliches & Call Out Yourself!)
3 Being Playfully Absurd (convos aren’t for info exchange but emotion exchange)
4 Create A Flirty Safe Environment (use sexual joke about someone else not them at first OR playfully misinterpret something to be sexual OR Innuendo technically innocent but could have a double meaning)
5 Flirt With The World (interact with everyone like you interact with women to make more natural and avoid creepy ness)
6Leaned Back Body Language (makes people comfortable)
PS keep physical touch using high fives, shoulder touches, & hugs
7 Get Comfortable With Worst Case Social Scenarios (MakeThem Seem purposely Awkward to be funny Ex: Awkward pauses, mumbling, mess up pronunciations, talking to more people)PS don’t do 7 in excess only when necessary
8 Teasing, Absurdity, Misinterpretation, Innuendo, and more just practice what you like the most and have most fun with. Playful State Of Mind
Also u can watch 10 -15 min of Craig Ferguson videos & be Comfortable in (worst case scenario) uncomfortable situations to convo prep, remember to use platonic modified versions of these techniques with friends too! Don’t forget: Convos are EMOTION EXCHANGE !! Not Info Exchange. Most importantly....USE THESE TECHNIQUES FOR YOUR OWN AMUSEMENT NOT OTHERS!!!!!
You rock!!!!
This could all be simplified into “the more you try to make yourself laugh, the easier it is to make others laugh”
Really? I can laugh at how awkward the other person is feeling in a situation that I probably make it awkard.
"Laugh and the world laughs with you. Weep and you weep alone" - Someone from history ...i think
@@redgey5163 I guess so. I mean I’m sure there are plenty of sad people that like being around sad people
@@redgey5163 But there's so much beauty in being real and deep.....I hate this fake lughter personaloity. It just doesn't feel genuine. It's not real and I always feel weird when people around me are trying to get some kind of rise out of me.
There’s a lot of ways when a stranger is just trying to make themselves laugh they could come off as insulting assholes. These are tips for how to have playful interactions with people that don’t know you yet. And with women it’s also important you immediately demonstrate that you’re a sexual option, safe, and fun. It’s not tricks just good tips to not shoot yourself in the foot. More deep and genuine interactions can come later.
One thing I notice with Craig is the ebb and flow. He's leaned back, then he gets closer at more intimate moments, uses touch - high fives, cupping hands, hugs, then leans back again. He always plays along, if the guest wants to talk about something or do something, he takes the backseat and lets them run with it and just rides the situation. When its done, then he takes the lead again.
Thats another thing I think they missed in this, physical contact is important, weather that's a shoulder touch, high five, hug, whatever, thats really important for establishing a connection.
Craig is wicked smart and so quick on his feet, takes a lot of smarts to pull that off
11:30 That Joe Biden clip is ✨uncomfortable ✨
Creepy joe 😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬
Creepy af
Dude thats like the least hes done there
I don't know if "uncomfortable" is a strong enough phrase...
downright creepy and cringey
Craig's the man. Fun fact everyone probably already knows: Craig was in a Punk band with Peter Capaldi (The Doctor)
I never knew that. Cool!
It's his Scottish Accent.. imagine an Indian Accent dude saying those things
Call the cops 😂
😂😂😂😂😂
His accent is part of his charisma. No offence to our fellow indians.
Disagree. I've definitely seen an indian dude charm the pants off of women before.
Funny, but not necessarily... Met lots of charming Indians
Craig is flirting in front of 20 million viewers . He is already known and trusted. You do what he's doing in a bar with a stranger ...
Craig was THE BEST talk show host ever. I faithfully watched his show!
same
He doesn't drink either, none of his charm is reliant on it!
You must be very young to make this statement
hardly
Sorry to break the news to you ... but it was Johnny Carson.
Really important thing that was mentioned is that Craig cracks the same types of jokes/ makes his innuendos to male guests as well! He doesn't single out the women. That is such an important thing to note here
12:47 "If you're watching this video, then you're probably interested in meeting someone"
I'm just here to enjoy some random Craig Ferguson okay?
Piss off, okay? Thanks.
Look at you, you made it to 12:47?? ‘If youre still watching this video, then you must be desperate’.
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Make me :)
@@pot_kivach160
I don't understand what you are trying to say, but if I say "Yes", will that appease you?
These anecdotes, ideas and advice are great. I’m naturally confident and charismatic in social situations, HOWEVER, it’s always good to rethink your approaches. It’s fun to make people laugh and engage. Forever learning. Thank you for putting this together!
That Biden clip caught me off guard. That's hilarious and so creepy.
Yeah me too. Isn’t that his granddaughter ?
That's Biden for ya 🤣
@@joshhaney9769 He’s not supposed to talk to his granddaughter?
@@11BusStop theres several videos of him doing that lol
lets go brandon !!
I think Craig is the only talk show host ever. He just sit there and talk. Best show on the planet.
now remember folks, craig is a talk show host and you're a normal joe
Excuses, excuses.
There are lots of talk show hosts, so why is it that he is the one that attracts females the most? Even though he's not that attractive, that's what makes him special and why this video was useful
also the daily life is full of normal janes, whats your point?
Valid point. Its his frame and they're visitors in it. The rest is almost automatic.
I'll take your Joe... and raise you a Schmoe.
Someone told me once, to open with "I can't believe you wore those shoes..." and then follow up immediately with, "I'm just messing around.....you look amazing!" - Done confidently, this arouses lots of emotions quickly which can never be a bad thing.
You guys are SO kind to be so helpful to soooooo many people that haven’t figured out what they’re missing by being afraid to engage in conversations with strangers
Striking up conversations with strangers takes practice but in time you get good at it. You got to be quick witted and always smiling. I do it a lot now, it's kind of a hobby for me and a way to brighten my day and hopefully for others. I just had several people laughing with me in the line at the grocery store the other day. ALSO I just recently bought this wild unique looking fake leather jacket at Ross and wear it whenever I am out and it's like people just want to start talking to me! It's crazy.
+W zlo
You would like Jordan Peterson's lectures
Dude made Chris Pine giggle like a school girl. That end-level game.
You see, the problem with this video is that you take “Late Night Show Interviews” as your prime example for what a good conversation should look like. But first of all, these interviews are often rehearsed or at least talked through before. So not at all like actual conversations.
And secondly, they are interviews: One person usually asks the questions and the other one just tries to answer them in a humorous way. I. e. not a balanced conversation.
The aim of these interviews is to make the guest celebrity look as favorable as possible. It’s not even a real conversation, it is entertainment.
Pulling out all the stops, taking on a heightened personality and they stop acting like they do in real life. Because, if it was really just two people talking, a lot of people wound find that not to be enough for TV.
I like your videos but I would try to steer away from actors and entertainers. They are fun and great to watch but it’s just not real, it’s a show.
But can something be learned there, whether rehearsed or not, can there be takeaways?
You’re supposed to do a bit of work. You have to learn through imperfect examples. The principles still apply - as to how you use them is intuitive
I disagree here - there are plenty of solid principles here which are useful for almost any conversation. Craig Ferguson - yes while being a talk show which all tend to be edited - interviews still represent a decent organic conversation compared to other shows. Some people would actually find this style of humour and banter quite endearing.
Also, Craig, unlike other hosts, didn't rely on cards for his interviews. In fact, he often made a point of tearing them up at the beginning of the show.
It’s nkt supposed to be taken as literally though, the point of the video is to telling guys to basically be comfortable and fun when approaching women, and there are (apparently) exaggerated examples of it from Ferguson.
Craig Ferguson is one funny dude...and I wish he had a talk show instead of those on late night these days....
His personality is awesome. But nobody can do exactly what he does cause he’s being himself.
nah i just realized why he often cheats on his ex wives...
Try to be yourself. Everyone else is already taken.
I started watching this channel years ago back in high school as the awkwardest of the awkward. Over time, now 20, I’ve become confident and charismatic. Even went recommending this to close friends who I thought would benefit from it. We can always improve no matter how far we’ve come so I’ll be checking out the course to see what I’m lacking.
I love how he puts "THE %20 RULE" in the thumbnail even though he never refers to any such rule at any point in the video.
1:52, he says to add 20% more energy than your surroundings as to not come off as monotonous and boring, instead contrasting with the boring low energy people around you
@@tahafaez1173 Nah, I have better advice: Have you ever heard the 100% rule? Be smarter, richer, taller and more handsome than the 100% of the other guys in the room and you are the boss.... This advice is exactly as practical as the 20% rule, mentioned in the video...
@@tcfs what can you do, people love numbers
@@tcfs Hahahaha
Cowpoke
9:43 - is just perfect line, perfect timing, love to see it