It takes hard work to maintain a healthy weight so going strictly based off that they are more likely to get the selection of men they prefer, and they are more deserving of love because they put in more work to enhance their strong asset to the opposite gender (beauty). But that's only one metric we're talking about, there are obviously other factors you consider like personality, moral character, etc
I think a lot of people misconstrue body positivity as "if you are fat, then you have to STAY fat or else" (which is why people were harassing lizzo a few years ago when she went vegan) and that's not the case at all. Body positivity exists on the same plane as pro-choice. Ie: it's your body, so do whatever tf you wanna do with it. So if you're fat and you don't want to lose weight or CAN'T lose weight, then you have every right to stay at your weight without people shaming you or pressuring you to lose said weight. Same goes if you're fat and you DO want to lose weight; you have every right to do so without people shaming you or calling you a "sellout" (like some people were doing to lizzo bc she's a body positivity icon that went vegan). It's literally just talking steps to be comfortable with your own body. That's ALL it is. But people will hear body positivity and say "oh so you're telling everyone to get fat" 💀 people and their ignorant, one dimensional thinking baffle me.
I think that any movement or stance that believes that there is no such thing as bad, wrong, or negative needs to be instantly and constantly questioned. There is such thing as a negative body. We can understand how someone got there, but that doesn’t make it a positive. Our bodies can literally show us if we are being unhealthy. You wouldn’t tell an anorexic woman that she’s fine the way she is. Some people are smaller, some people are bigger, but we know that when we eat healthy foods and workout the body naturally goes in a certain direction.
Honestly both points are valid no body should be deemed as worthless or be shamed and discriminated against because of weight however being obese is not okay and if people care and love there bodies they should want to take care of themselves and be healthy. The body positivity movement has turned into something that just allows people to validate there unhealthy lifestyles and make them complacent and okay with being overweight
1000% agree when Dee started talkin about people attaching their whole personality to one trait of them. Idk why people don't understand how complex we are as humans. We can't be defined and shouldn't define ourselves over such simple things like our weight, age, skin color or sexual preferences. I cringe when I see other black people whose whole identity is them being black, or gay people who that is their personality.. gay. Its like nigga, what you prefer in the bedroom should have very little to do with your personality. You don't have to act a certain way. I actually think people would be more accepting of things like skin color, weight and sexuality if we would just stop acting like they were major defining characteristics. There would be less of a separation in my eyes
@@jalenwinstead9981 “I cringe when I see other black people whose WHOLE identity is them being black” learn to read before you call someone slow. Being black is apart of how people identify me. A shallow part. Not my whole identity
@@greg2797the fact that you think being black and being proud of being black is shallow shows that you’re indeed slow. all pro-black people are cringe to you? why? because they love themselves and express that unapologetically? same with gay people. why can’t they be themselves without ignorant people like you trying to shame them? grow up and educate yourself
I don’t think anyone deserves love. I think you work for it. You deserve basic human respect, but not love. Even your mother only loves you because you’re her child.
It takes hard work to maintain a healthy weight so going strictly based off that they are more likely to get the selection of men they prefer, and they are more deserving of love because they put in more work to enhance their strong asset to the opposite gender (beauty). But that's only one metric we're talking about, there are obviously other factors you consider like personality, moral character, etc
People celebrate their body/skin color/sexuality because they've been made to feel ashamed abt them. That's why they make it a personality trait ma'am. We all have different life experiences, some people have had harsher times having to deal with those traits so they choose to celebrate them.
Please! I need everyone who is heavier to understand, it is ok. Please im begging you to love yourself, stop putting your self worth in what other people have to say. Be happy and do what you need to do to be healthy. I love you.
I think anyone has the right to leave for any reason they see fit. But...the reason u marry someone should not start and stop with how they look to u physically or how ur genitals feel when u see them. I think if you leave because their looks changed then u didn't love them to begin with. Because someone can get hit by a car and have their face and body irreparably disfigured. Someone could develop a hormone or health condition that makes their weight harder to control in either direction. Looks can change with age. And even after pregnancy with caring for a newborn baby and dealing with post partum depression can hinder a woman from not losing weight as quickly. It's more factors than just ..oh ur fat so ur lazy. Hurry and lose the weight or God forbid my penis won't get hard. You can leave but itd make u a dick in my personal opinion. but im just one person out of billions with an opinion right so who cares. But I also think we should all keep up with our health as best we can.
Why is she acting like her opinion was a fact? How is “FAT PEOPLE DONT DESERVE LOVE” a fact? Like she seems like she is hurt so she wants to hurt other people.
@@RegReg02 I don't get why she cares about what a fat person thinks they deserve? If someone thinks they deserve love that has nothing to do with anyone else. It must be that she can't feel good about herself unless she's talking down on others.
I would argue it's especially worse for a guy to be overweight when it comes to who finds him attractive or not. I feel like overweight women can find an easier time getting attention from men and even have sex with them than for an overweight guy to even have a woman look his way.
Emotional healthy and mature deserve happy and fulfilling relationships ❤ deserving isn’t about how you look but how you make others feel and how you treat people. It is true though that physical appearance can limit your options if you are deemed as unattractive or less attractive
Funny enough im watching/listening to this video while working out at the gym.. I agree with everything yall said but not gonna lie, that "ew" stung a little 😂😂
The funny part is that, that man with the 6 figures is probably obsessed and "unfortunate looking" (as Dee would say), lusting over an hourglass woman. That's how fucked Societal Standards are. Staying on topic and regarding finding someone, obsessed or not, do what you got to do to attract the type of person you want (although that type may not be what you need or will end up with). Yall do you.
Her OPINION was rude just like how she feel like she had the right to voice her opinion they have the right to respond back to her almost anybody can become obese so can we please stop acting like big people aren't human and don't have feelings
See the thing is, if she wanted to talk about it she should've have said what she said when she got called out... Cause obviously feeling attracted is important, but she started to insult fat women instead of just talking critically. Nobody gon listen to you, when you just out here insulting people. Cause every point you might make automatically becomes invalid.
Sorry Dee, if someone is going out there and making comments about a community like that (a community that isn't a bother to any other group of people just for existing, i.e., overweight, people of color, people who belong to a particular religion, people of one gender or another, people in the LGBT community, etc.), demeaning comments that say you have no worth/value, and no right to experience joy and happiness - in this case, the kind of joy and happiness that can only be the product of romantic/intimate relationships... then going out there, and calling that person out through a video is absolutely warranted. Fat shaming is absolutely disgusting, and a form of bigotry and bullying. I'm not making excuses for those of "fat logic" or "fat victim" mentality, but genuine fatphobia is shameful and shouldn't tolerated. Especially when you consider that being fat is not necessarily from just overeating or being a "pig." There can be genetic issues, someone could have a slow metabolism, some people put on weight/overeat due to mental stress/issues (depression, anxiety), or as a coping mechanism. It's not just lazy, sloven, overeaters. It's fine to have concerns - and to raise such concerns - over someone's health due to weight issues, and worry about their life expectancy. We get mad at people for body shaming bulimics and anorexics except for concerns about their health... the same should apply to people that overweight. Not to mention, some people consider an average body type as overweight.
I have seen plenty of pretty fat girls but I will say being a healthy weight is always more attractive however I disagree that people can leave their partners because of weight that so shallow love and commitment should be to the person not their body both my grandparents have loved one another and stayed together through weight changed health struggles aging (they have been together since highschool) everything because they love each other as people not just the body that person comes in
"You don't deserve" who is SHE to say that??? whooo
Just being realistic
TikTok gets upset with alot things but what she said was kinda wild 😂
To say anyone deserves anything is such a weird way to think of partnering. Like that way of thinking is so fuckin weird.
It takes hard work to maintain a healthy weight so going strictly based off that they are more likely to get the selection of men they prefer, and they are more deserving of love because they put in more work to enhance their strong asset to the opposite gender (beauty). But that's only one metric we're talking about, there are obviously other factors you consider like personality, moral character, etc
The way people be treating fat people , like they ain’t humans
I think a lot of people misconstrue body positivity as "if you are fat, then you have to STAY fat or else" (which is why people were harassing lizzo a few years ago when she went vegan) and that's not the case at all. Body positivity exists on the same plane as pro-choice. Ie: it's your body, so do whatever tf you wanna do with it. So if you're fat and you don't want to lose weight or CAN'T lose weight, then you have every right to stay at your weight without people shaming you or pressuring you to lose said weight. Same goes if you're fat and you DO want to lose weight; you have every right to do so without people shaming you or calling you a "sellout" (like some people were doing to lizzo bc she's a body positivity icon that went vegan). It's literally just talking steps to be comfortable with your own body. That's ALL it is. But people will hear body positivity and say "oh so you're telling everyone to get fat" 💀 people and their ignorant, one dimensional thinking baffle me.
I think that any movement or stance that believes that there is no such thing as bad, wrong, or negative needs to be instantly and constantly questioned. There is such thing as a negative body. We can understand how someone got there, but that doesn’t make it a positive. Our bodies can literally show us if we are being unhealthy. You wouldn’t tell an anorexic woman that she’s fine the way she is. Some people are smaller, some people are bigger, but we know that when we eat healthy foods and workout the body naturally goes in a certain direction.
Honestly both points are valid no body should be deemed as worthless or be shamed and discriminated against because of weight however being obese is not okay and if people care and love there bodies they should want to take care of themselves and be healthy. The body positivity movement has turned into something that just allows people to validate there unhealthy lifestyles and make them complacent and okay with being overweight
1000% agree when Dee started talkin about people attaching their whole personality to one trait of them. Idk why people don't understand how complex we are as humans. We can't be defined and shouldn't define ourselves over such simple things like our weight, age, skin color or sexual preferences. I cringe when I see other black people whose whole identity is them being black, or gay people who that is their personality.. gay. Its like nigga, what you prefer in the bedroom should have very little to do with your personality. You don't have to act a certain way. I actually think people would be more accepting of things like skin color, weight and sexuality if we would just stop acting like they were major defining characteristics. There would be less of a separation in my eyes
Being black is our identity, how can you not be black anymore? Do you know how slow that sounds?
@@jalenwinstead9981 “I cringe when I see other black people whose WHOLE identity is them being black” learn to read before you call someone slow. Being black is apart of how people identify me. A shallow part. Not my whole identity
@@greg2797the fact that you think being black and being proud of being black is shallow shows that you’re indeed slow. all pro-black people are cringe to you? why? because they love themselves and express that unapologetically? same with gay people. why can’t they be themselves without ignorant people like you trying to shame them? grow up and educate yourself
I’m so glad I attached my personality to my character and mental state because those are the factors that have the biggest influence on personality
@@jalenwinstead9981 they meant identity as an individual not as apart of a group
I don’t think anyone deserves love. I think you work for it. You deserve basic human respect, but not love. Even your mother only loves you because you’re her child.
It takes hard work to maintain a healthy weight so going strictly based off that they are more likely to get the selection of men they prefer, and they are more deserving of love because they put in more work to enhance their strong asset to the opposite gender (beauty). But that's only one metric we're talking about, there are obviously other factors you consider like personality, moral character, etc
Imagine ur mom loving ulmao
@@shanicedeslandes7686 uhhh you okay?
@@NoRockinMansLand ppl don't put hard work in their bodies bc they want other's love let's be real
Imagine telling someone you don't get my love you better work for it AND YOURE REFERRING TO HER WEIGHT 💀
People celebrate their body/skin color/sexuality because they've been made to feel ashamed abt them. That's why they make it a personality trait ma'am. We all have different life experiences, some people have had harsher times having to deal with those traits so they choose to celebrate them.
You can still celebrate and appreciate parts of yourself without making it your whole personality trait tho
Please! I need everyone who is heavier to understand, it is ok. Please im begging you to love yourself, stop putting your self worth in what other people have to say. Be happy and do what you need to do to be healthy. I love you.
Glad Dee made that point at 8:45 thats the problem with society right now. it creates narratives.
I think anyone has the right to leave for any reason they see fit. But...the reason u marry someone should not start and stop with how they look to u physically or how ur genitals feel when u see them. I think if you leave because their looks changed then u didn't love them to begin with. Because someone can get hit by a car and have their face and body irreparably disfigured. Someone could develop a hormone or health condition that makes their weight harder to control in either direction. Looks can change with age. And even after pregnancy with caring for a newborn baby and dealing with post partum depression can hinder a woman from not losing weight as quickly. It's more factors than just
..oh ur fat so ur lazy. Hurry and lose the weight or God forbid my penis won't get hard. You can leave but itd make u a dick in my personal opinion. but im just one person out of billions with an opinion right so who cares. But I also think we should all keep up with our health as best we can.
Why is she acting like her opinion was a fact? How is “FAT PEOPLE DONT DESERVE LOVE” a fact? Like she seems like she is hurt so she wants to hurt other people.
@@RegReg02 I don't get why she cares about what a fat person thinks they deserve? If someone thinks they deserve love that has nothing to do with anyone else. It must be that she can't feel good about herself unless she's talking down on others.
In my opinion why tf is she worried about other peoples lives 😂🤦🏾♀️
16:21
she literally did though 🤣 but yeah i think something else came out of her mouth when she meant to SAY something different.
how about lose weight for yourself and your health, period
Facts
lol If you’ve seen her before she has
Not Dee saying she busted under her breath at 9:48 😭😭😭
She actually says no one deserves love she believes it's entitlement.
That discussion was just focused on fat people.
Exactly, she believes you earn love instead of deserve it.
I would argue it's especially worse for a guy to be overweight when it comes to who finds him attractive or not. I feel like overweight women can find an easier time getting attention from men and even have sex with them than for an overweight guy to even have a woman look his way.
Emotional healthy and mature deserve happy and fulfilling relationships ❤ deserving isn’t about how you look but how you make others feel and how you treat people. It is true though that physical appearance can limit your options if you are deemed as unattractive or less attractive
I think a lot of fat people make being fat part of their personality so that other people can’t use their weight as an insult
She doesn't mean what she said. She turned itaround. She meant what she said when she said fat people don't deserve love. Simple.
Funny enough im watching/listening to this video while working out at the gym.. I agree with everything yall said but not gonna lie, that "ew" stung a little 😂😂
The funny part is that, that man with the 6 figures is probably obsessed and "unfortunate looking" (as Dee would say), lusting over an hourglass woman. That's how fucked Societal Standards are. Staying on topic and regarding finding someone, obsessed or not, do what you got to do to attract the type of person you want (although that type may not be what you need or will end up with). Yall do you.
Whats wrong with men with 6 figures looking for hourglass women? Thats their choice.
@@InvestaTO Nothing wrong with it, hence "do what you got to do to attract the type of person you want. do you"
@@RegReg02 your opinion. if you misunderstood what you read, say that. I'll gladly clarify.
obese*
@@Scorpy1106 its the other way around, women are lusting over men with 6 figures
Her OPINION was rude just like how she feel like she had the right to voice her opinion they have the right to respond back to her almost anybody can become obese so can we please stop acting like big people aren't human and don't have feelings
Im obese and scared ima stay like this
See the thing is, if she wanted to talk about it she should've have said what she said when she got called out... Cause obviously feeling attracted is important, but she started to insult fat women instead of just talking critically. Nobody gon listen to you, when you just out here insulting people. Cause every point you might make automatically becomes invalid.
Sorry Dee, if someone is going out there and making comments about a community like that (a community that isn't a bother to any other group of people just for existing, i.e., overweight, people of color, people who belong to a particular religion, people of one gender or another, people in the LGBT community, etc.), demeaning comments that say you have no worth/value, and no right to experience joy and happiness - in this case, the kind of joy and happiness that can only be the product of romantic/intimate relationships... then going out there, and calling that person out through a video is absolutely warranted. Fat shaming is absolutely disgusting, and a form of bigotry and bullying. I'm not making excuses for those of "fat logic" or "fat victim" mentality, but genuine fatphobia is shameful and shouldn't tolerated. Especially when you consider that being fat is not necessarily from just overeating or being a "pig." There can be genetic issues, someone could have a slow metabolism, some people put on weight/overeat due to mental stress/issues (depression, anxiety), or as a coping mechanism. It's not just lazy, sloven, overeaters. It's fine to have concerns - and to raise such concerns - over someone's health due to weight issues, and worry about their life expectancy. We get mad at people for body shaming bulimics and anorexics except for concerns about their health... the same should apply to people that overweight. Not to mention, some people consider an average body type as overweight.
You are bothering everyone, taking up sapce and alot of tax dollars and you dont provide to society cus of this. Lose weight or stfu.
Fat shaming is necessary to an extent
Marcel said she's big because she's 5 foot 11. She hella big
Nobody deserves anything in this world its earned.
I understand her reasonings, but saying someone doesn’t deserve live is wold
that’s crazy coming from low considering the fact he’s fat as well.😂
"fat community" lmao
"body positive whales"... WOW
I have seen plenty of pretty fat girls but I will say being a healthy weight is always more attractive however I disagree that people can leave their partners because of weight that so shallow love and commitment should be to the person not their body both my grandparents have loved one another and stayed together through weight changed health struggles aging (they have been together since highschool) everything because they love each other as people not just the body that person comes in
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Pearly is a star.
lol
@@ivory8492 You hella fat or sumthin?
L simp
@@etherealsunny You simpin for fat biches?