The Guys' Take | What It Takes For A Man To Stay In A Bad Marriage Ft The Aleph Cafe

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  • Опубликовано: 2 окт 2024
  • You heard from us the ladies....now its the guys' turn.
    Today they're laying it all down for us: from co-parenting to side chicks to the dreaded "We need to talk", the guys are here to talk about it all.
    PS: Tonight is a good night to warm up at The Aleph Cafe with a coffee. Or a beer!
    Thanks Gaetano and Marcus for joining us today!
    Subscribe to their channel here ‪@TheLastRoundUg‬
    #AskTheGuys

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  • @bumploveug
    @bumploveug  Год назад +23

    You heard from us the ladies....now its the guys' turn.
    Today they're laying it all down for us: from co-parenting to side chicks to the dreaded "We need to talk", the guys are here to talk about it all.
    PS: Tonight is a good night to warm up at The Aleph Cafe with a coffee. Or a beer!
    Thanks Gaetano and Marcus for joining us today!
    Subscribe to their channel here @Last Round Uganda
    #AskTheGuys

  • @ruthn8991
    @ruthn8991 Год назад +20

    Most people think marriage is all about kuwooma, anfukira amazzi etc… There’re more pressing issues in marriage!!! I think everyone that wants to be in a long lasting relationship/marriage should have professional pre-marital counselling, credit check, take some time to know the person before committing, talk about things you can tolerate and not, but most importantly setting realistic expectations. Great episode ❤ Canada

  • @sophia4christ
    @sophia4christ Год назад +7

    New subscriber watching from Jamaica! 🇯🇲 Keep up the great job! 👍🏽💯⭐😁

  • @catherinekamuli7756
    @catherinekamuli7756 Год назад +27

    Hello Bump love and Lovers, i feel like you forgot to talk about finances, women kuguma because they have no where to start and they fight for their marriage because they have put in alot into that marriage to get what they have but a man goes and gets another girl and takes all what this woman has worked for or has been patiently been waiting for and he gives the best to the other girl. That is a blow to the head.

    • @peshcadipearl
      @peshcadipearl Год назад +5

      This is the number one reason for 'kuguma' honestly, men think they are tired but the woman is thrice as tired. They just have no where to start after investing their all in the marriage.
      This point is underrated but makes so much sense.

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 Год назад +4

      This is true. We'll keep this conversation for another episode. Thanks for the reminder. P

    • @ericauwimbabazi9524
      @ericauwimbabazi9524 Год назад

      I think this ladies have understand that financial life can starts any think and any where that I agree

    • @angellaUlevi
      @angellaUlevi Год назад +2

      True. Not just financial but physical as well. Women are considered more attractive the younger they are. Even more so if they haven’t had any children. So a woman who has put 10+ years into a marriage and had a couple of babies…her options on the single market are significantly lower if she leaves. So not only is it hard for her to start over financially, but it’s also a lonely path to take trying to find a companion. Women are incredibly disadvantaged in a divorce.

  • @godsfavoritechild3187
    @godsfavoritechild3187 Год назад +9

    That part where BRIAN MULONDO came in was the winner 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @OchokoruLillian-gx1rp
    @OchokoruLillian-gx1rp Год назад +2

    Hatty banange thank you for introducing me to bump love these ladies have really bright light back in my life iam just watching episode ku episode darkness in me is going slowly by slowly,I will be fine .

  • @britah-edwardstendo
    @britah-edwardstendo Год назад +17

    I like how random yet collected this episode is.
    Talking about expectations in relationships is very important indeed.👏👏👏

  • @michellebryan1777
    @michellebryan1777 Год назад +7

    That is so nice, that you're good friends with your ex wife...i was married in a relationship for 24 years...have 2 children...and we got divorced ,and i remarried and both my present husband and my ex husband get along great!! My ex husband celebrated his 60th birthday party a few months ago...and my husband and i went...its good to get along for our children and grandchildren...because our children are grown...and we have 3 grandchildren.

  • @nansysherry
    @nansysherry Год назад +1

    The truth the male version of kuguma,is getting a side chick panadol

  • @pitlycaevents9
    @pitlycaevents9 Год назад +6

    I believe I’ll be a good mother in future because of this channel 😘💪 big up ladies

  • @anonnona6433
    @anonnona6433 Год назад +7

    So, the BIG discovery is that men do not kuguma 😳😲 because they know the mother will take care of the children 🙆‍♂️

  • @doradoreen2557
    @doradoreen2557 Год назад +8

    For some men, they don’t need to be unhappy at home to get side chics. It’s a few of them that get side chic as last resort

  • @pambaatimunghono9677
    @pambaatimunghono9677 Год назад +7

    Good to see Gaetano of Big Brother Africa 2003 from Uganda👏. I am from Namibia🇳🇦 and enjoying every show of Bumb Love🤣

  • @elizabethpromise86
    @elizabethpromise86 Год назад +46

    I like the way Racheal always brings back the conversation to the centre of gravity with her questions. Also kudos to Marcus for contextualizing the topic with your personal story.. please write that book

  • @rachelnaigaga6634
    @rachelnaigaga6634 Год назад +5

    This episode was really fun with very realistic and candid conversations. Marcus' experience brought the point on co-parenting home! I really love Angie's mature submissions!

  • @sarahapio6887
    @sarahapio6887 Год назад +7

    Bump love ,this is so good, also invite Salvado and Mathew Nabwiso to hear from them too on any dad edition, or else their wives

  • @mwebazacharity1240
    @mwebazacharity1240 Год назад +5

    This was one of my favorite episodes ....it's good to know guys talk deeply too! Those co-parenting stories were a shocker. Great show ladies fun & informative ! I love Manuela's dress!

  • @kemigishajesicca8332
    @kemigishajesicca8332 Год назад +5

    The expectation conversation....very important 👌👌👌👌thank you Marcus for pointing it out. I wish every couple could embrace it instead of relying on assumptions.

    • @linetkamau658
      @linetkamau658 Год назад +1

      From experience, most people have it but it’s forgotten and often no written evidence AND dating is often like an interview, people ‘pretend’ or are flexible to agree because they want the job .

  • @imeidamoraa3966
    @imeidamoraa3966 Год назад +1

    Those are Kenyan Women, and I'm a Kenyan Woman heavily pregnant carrying a Ugandan Child....lol

  • @MAN-yq9yi
    @MAN-yq9yi Год назад +5

    Most men, even when you discuss things & agree on a way forward . And then later it happens again - they will STILL throw in “the don’t bring it up again” line. They don’t seem to appreciate that the ONLY reason you bring up something again is because it’s happening AGAIN!! May be Not the same exact incident but the same principle is still at play. Eg of not communicating, or not sticking to the agreed plan…or something ..… and then Nolemwa…🙆🏾‍♀️😩.

    • @anonnona6433
      @anonnona6433 Год назад +1

      That gender. 😂😂😂😂Some use it as an escape and to silence a woman. Any effort to discuss or have a difficult conversation is labelled nagging 😳

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 Год назад +1

      Then they call us nagging! Banange. Olemwa! P

  • @bernadettegomez8382
    @bernadettegomez8382 Год назад +3

    She is right sex after 40 is the boom; am in my early 40s and boy o boy am I having the sex of my life ❤❤❤❤ only if you know!!! and I pray we all live to experience it🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @prutebemberwa
    @prutebemberwa Год назад +5

    When Rachael's brain had a glitch at 34:43 while processing that scenario 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣

  • @theerinahshow2077
    @theerinahshow2077 Год назад +8

    These topics are everything for the young generation. We are dealing with things older than us, and this, is a guide! Thank you'll

  • @Racheal_Aye
    @Racheal_Aye Год назад +23

    It's been 2yrs since I landed on this channel. It gets better everytime. My baby will b two soon n I my parenting is top notch 🥰 I feel it. Tho my friends tell me too

  • @sharonkomugisha9328
    @sharonkomugisha9328 10 дней назад

    You have made my evening! Thank you guys! Talking from experience!

  • @ms.t6051
    @ms.t6051 Год назад +4

    Please do a part 2. What a beautiful episode! I have laughed so hard and so silly...thanks guys! You are just getting better everyday ❤️❤️❤️

  • @anonnona6433
    @anonnona6433 Год назад +2

    Marcus, how will serious conversations be had when people are just sexing, sexting, and texting 😂🤣🤣People underestimate the way sex can blind you. The focus is on sexual compatibility sijui butterflies. Ask couples if they went for Genetic tests. Very few. You could both be sickle cell carriers. Some don't even go for HIV tests. Finances, personal career goals,...The focus is on the mikolo and kusamba gown( festivities). Mbu love conquers all🤭🤭🤭

  • @selphaadweya
    @selphaadweya Год назад +1

    I dated a ugandan(muganda) it didn't work... dating from another country isn't easy 🇰🇪

  • @yvonneayesige2007
    @yvonneayesige2007 Год назад +5

    This was so lit. Marcus and Gae just fired up the conversation . Well done Bump love thus episode was amazing

  • @raymondmakola5858
    @raymondmakola5858 Год назад +1

    I like this conversation. I have an ask, what is kuguma?
    By the way i'm from South Africa.

    • @anitakomukama
      @anitakomukama Год назад

      Loosely translated “be strong” “harden up”….

    • @nansysherry
      @nansysherry Год назад

      Being patient in the marriage

  • @paulturyamureeba5196
    @paulturyamureeba5196 3 месяца назад

    this conversation, ur talking about marriage and really last week we talked about divorce and were in plans of it. plz pray for.

  • @alicealice4426
    @alicealice4426 Год назад +3

    What i took home from this amazing, yet hilarious episode was:
    Be honest from the get go.
    Talk about what are your expectations as a couple and of each other.
    Level up on your maturity. 🇰🇪

  • @niwaherezaphionah8823
    @niwaherezaphionah8823 Год назад +4

    Best show ive watched in a while. Kudos to you guys. Ive learned so much.

  • @umarfarihoods2874
    @umarfarihoods2874 Год назад

    A broke man wil stay because of good life the woman is providing, so you would think of where you going to stay yet your team " bakuwasa" so you wil definitely stay.

  • @NashHkville
    @NashHkville Год назад

    I do not know why I dint know abt bump love😮 it's my second month now following u guys, & am getting addicted that I have gone thru all yo shows in the past, good job ladies

  • @gyaviiralwesabula3714
    @gyaviiralwesabula3714 11 месяцев назад

    Am one of the men who doesn't go to the bar!!!Pumla... knows we do exist...as well...

  • @MuhumuzaKagoro
    @MuhumuzaKagoro Год назад

    But the only problem I see here is that your all generalizing everyone. Me I think people are all different and a woman should understand their man. Some men go to the bar others don't, some enjoy angry sex others don't soo it's a matter of individuality.

  • @francofon5301
    @francofon5301 11 месяцев назад

    The guys came of a little shallow on this issue, Reasonable men don't just run off the way you put it. As a matter of fact most women would leave before the man even thinks of it!

  • @natukwatsalucky1628
    @natukwatsalucky1628 Год назад +3

    Wow my ladies have come let me prepare ma self

  • @Odondo23
    @Odondo23 Год назад +2

    Thank y’all for having this conversation. It’s going to sit with me for a while…believe me you have fueled me for a lifetime. Merci 🍻

  • @AtuheireShallon-kg2vm
    @AtuheireShallon-kg2vm 7 месяцев назад

    I think I should watch again, thanks so much men. Come back another day

  • @mwesigwapeter8007
    @mwesigwapeter8007 Год назад

    this is totally not on topic. can something better be done about the sound quality and recording quality. its not bad, perfectionist speaking

  • @effect9180
    @effect9180 Год назад

    Wait Angie what? I feel like if it was a mistake having a child with a married man, then one should stop at that, heal, and then find someone else and consider proper background check

  • @nyakatojulietsheila8930
    @nyakatojulietsheila8930 Год назад +6

    The way Brian walks in 🤣🤣🤣

  • @christinenakazzi280
    @christinenakazzi280 Год назад +3

    Finally yay I kept checking this channel since I woke up at 8:00 😍😍.

  • @segawaivan5238
    @segawaivan5238 Год назад +1

    Am Ugandan working in Rwanda Kigali, who always thought am far away from home, I have just watched just two episodes, I feel just close to home, thanks Pumla, your my favorite, mbagalanyo mwe❤

  • @evelynkabahuma7035
    @evelynkabahuma7035 Год назад +4

    It's always good to have the guys' perspective on these issues!

  • @aureliakamwija4269
    @aureliakamwija4269 Год назад +4

    I felt the another round element in there with the" ( angry sex)"convoy.This episode was totally different in a sense that it brought out a different side of the girls.iam rolling on the floor.

    • @anonnona6433
      @anonnona6433 Год назад

      They are not talking as moms today but as lovers ❤ 😂

  • @aidahal1482
    @aidahal1482 Год назад +2

    When my husband goes on for another woman I first check myself before talking to him then after I talk to him at night

  • @Actually-riam
    @Actually-riam Год назад

    My man friend just said he will kuguma because it’s hard to find girls to wife 😅

  • @clarenimusiima187
    @clarenimusiima187 Год назад +1

    Next episode should be on how Men prefer being in "safe place" bar even when everything is fine back home. Like coming home late being their lifestyle. Otherwise m enjoying the episode

  • @sophia4christ
    @sophia4christ Год назад +1

    Nope! No exes in the matrimonial home. There is absolutely no need to fraternize with any exes. They should only talk together about their under-18 children. Let's not give room to the devil. God bless. 🙏🏽

  • @babyline595
    @babyline595 3 месяца назад

    I just love you Nabachwa❤❤❤

  • @nabatanzijosephine2205
    @nabatanzijosephine2205 Год назад

    Please one day host the Presenter of Marital bliss of UBC

  • @LindaTinahTV
    @LindaTinahTV Год назад +4

    I am like Pumla. I have never understood angry sex. Sex is so spiritual for me that if my heart is not in the right place my body won't respond very well either.

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 Год назад

      Riiiiiiiiigggggghhhhhhhhhttttttttt!!!!! P

    • @LindaTinahTV
      @LindaTinahTV Год назад

      @@pumlanabachwa8668 in all episodes I myself a lot in you and you in me. Virtual sisters❤️

  • @kobusingelyne6045
    @kobusingelyne6045 Год назад +2

    I wish I can meet Marcus in person!! his love and divorce story is more like mine

  • @robinahrevens9575
    @robinahrevens9575 Год назад +3

    PUMLA is so beautiful

  • @karene_B
    @karene_B Год назад +2

    Loved this episode big time big time laughter and lessons....kudos 🎉😂😂

  • @asiimwemarygorreti4095
    @asiimwemarygorreti4095 11 месяцев назад

    Best case sido haha. But men have Sidoz even when there is nothing.

  • @ruthndagire1542
    @ruthndagire1542 Год назад

    But sidos in most cases are the ones that cause marriage problems. Why has it come at the bottom.

  • @alanzoscar9853
    @alanzoscar9853 Год назад

    Marc😮us please stop lying ex can don that .

  • @rachaelnankya4025
    @rachaelnankya4025 Год назад +1

    Bump love ladies are my Ssengaz 😂😂😂😂this show makes my day

  • @nanyomoleticia7133
    @nanyomoleticia7133 Год назад +1

    Money and influential family ties are usually the only reasons why men stay in bad marriages. It is hard for a man to leave a lady from a wealthy and influential family. Otherwise men don't KUGUMA

  • @Avellino256
    @Avellino256 Год назад +3

    I didnt want this show to end.......Damn Marcus...we need a movie and a book

  • @carolinemayende7917
    @carolinemayende7917 Год назад +2

    Ahhhh this is now oba one of my best episode of bump love, Marcus is a rare version....
    Ladies this was sp insightful and beautiful

  • @ankundaaudrey6602
    @ankundaaudrey6602 Год назад

    Marcus noo😢 life is real
    How u b out with your ex

  • @lydiahjrgensen5412
    @lydiahjrgensen5412 Год назад +1

    Thank you beautiful ladies for such an amazing show. I have loved this topic. Well thank you Marcus for being yourself and above all being good friends with your ex wife and co-parenting and big thanks to your wife for doing an amazing job, because most step moms in Uganda are not easy at all.

  • @nabaweesisylivia9188
    @nabaweesisylivia9188 9 месяцев назад

    thank you so much we appreciate

  • @shemsebbowa866
    @shemsebbowa866 Год назад +1

    Pumla and Angie I like the maturity 👌

  • @Eva-db5lw
    @Eva-db5lw Год назад +1

    Truth is if you're truly done with with someone you're done. People who fight after devorce are not over each other. Also Marcus needs to make sure his current wife is truly in love with him. Because when women don't care it means they don't even give a fuck who you talk to or go out with. Just opinion

  • @mandelalawrence8267
    @mandelalawrence8267 Год назад

    Wen i saw Gaetano......... Bbbasi... Twende

  • @nuwasiimagloria2625
    @nuwasiimagloria2625 Год назад +1

    Divorce united club 🤣🤣🤣Pumla. I enjoyed this episode.

  • @prossieprona3258
    @prossieprona3258 Год назад

    I need some lessons from Marcus's wife

  • @pat1998
    @pat1998 Год назад +1

    Angie always looks good…I hope I can get to look even just have as good when I’m older

  • @lydiakisakye4779
    @lydiakisakye4779 Год назад +3

    This was a beautiful episode…. Thx for bringing those gentlemen. My take home is, being ready to have the uncomfortable conversations n also managing expectations in marriage or relationships.

  • @mweshyhaufiku2210
    @mweshyhaufiku2210 Год назад +1

    i loved this episode so very much, hearing from the guy persperctive helped me fix my behaivours toward my partner,thanks guys very much

  • @rushoslen7082
    @rushoslen7082 Год назад +1

    Am always checking wheather you have uploaded a new episode 🤩

  • @cafeloy7790
    @cafeloy7790 Год назад +1

    Marcus's wife should be a Target or someone like her next on the talk about cooperating this is so different to hear I saw y'all wow I did too....like how how how does she do that????
    So much to learn here@ Bump love

  • @anitakomukama
    @anitakomukama Год назад +1

    This is profound and a great revelation that men do talk to their guys and in depth
    👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @justineroy8881
    @justineroy8881 Год назад +1

    How I have enjoyed this episode I kept reversing back and forth 😊 this is wonderful...but Marcus ur the limit 🙌

  • @perezmacdonald5720
    @perezmacdonald5720 9 месяцев назад

    IT Feels so natural i like this show

  • @kisakyejustine2196
    @kisakyejustine2196 Год назад

    Buh Pumla, 😂so outspoken.gwe manuela ne mulondo

  • @preciouspamellah5306
    @preciouspamellah5306 Год назад +1

    Bump Love yo inspirational keep it up ladies I Love you all❤️

  • @kevinnalule2027
    @kevinnalule2027 Год назад +1

    This all show made me cry, sad and informative I wish my ex husband could watch this

  • @josephwasswa2364
    @josephwasswa2364 Год назад

    Where do Muslim men go ??😅

  • @racheallenga9444
    @racheallenga9444 Год назад +1

    You guys made me laugh...🤣🤣start to finish! The gents were amazing 👏 keep bringing these interesting collaboz!!!

  • @IreneNtaleNtalemusic
    @IreneNtaleNtalemusic Год назад

    I’m not even married yet but the bar is not a safe place ! Period

  • @flaviakiggundu6361
    @flaviakiggundu6361 Год назад +1

    Please get Marcus a dwink whenever he returns on the expectation point 👌👌👌

  • @godsfavoritechild3187
    @godsfavoritechild3187 Год назад +4

    Marcus raises a very vital aspect that’s usually ignored & down played by most couples before marriage; THE EXPECTATIONS CONVERSATION.📌👏🏽👍🏽

    • @anonnona6433
      @anonnona6433 Год назад

      Anti the butterflies and wedding preparations take precedence. Honey have you eaten, honey can we meet up for some iig jig.....banange my gown....then it's all about sexual compatibility. What about ALL the other compatibilities that are needed in a long term relationship 😂😂😂

    • @sharifanabachwa
      @sharifanabachwa Год назад

      @@anonnona6433 okitegera 😂

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 Год назад

      And yet it's really the most important aspect. We do need to have more of these conversations. P

    • @godsfavoritechild3187
      @godsfavoritechild3187 Год назад

      @@pumlanabachwa8668 couldn’t agree more.👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • @ritahnyangoma285
    @ritahnyangoma285 Год назад +1

    Malaria after can we talk phrase..🤣🤣🤣

  • @helengracenamulwana2858
    @helengracenamulwana2858 Год назад +1

    This was a beautiful episode. Absolutely beautiful! Never have I seen the Mars Vs Venus notion come so true. Thank you Marcus for sharing your life with us. Very inspiring. It is possible to co-parent.

  • @jemimahnakasanje9409
    @jemimahnakasanje9409 Год назад +2

    Keep the guys coming they make the show better

  • @doreengift458
    @doreengift458 Год назад +2

    Oh ladies! People raise their children well! Thank you for sharing this eye opener to mature difficult lessons!💕

  • @nassalijamillah8288
    @nassalijamillah8288 Год назад

    some earrings bestie Angie😇

  • @peruthmwenkanya2508
    @peruthmwenkanya2508 Год назад +2

    Beautiful episode 🥰.. thank you guys

  • @kiconconyamwire6900
    @kiconconyamwire6900 Год назад +2

    I really enjoyed and learned, more episodes please,

  • @ritahmaryivy4706
    @ritahmaryivy4706 Год назад

    Kindly host ko lucky mbabazi kanyomozi especially on the topic concerning relationship and sex

  • @joantwinomujuni5022
    @joantwinomujuni5022 Год назад +1

    Bump love I am a huggeee fan...Racheal...I love you you are my sister in my head..

  • @babralanyero4928
    @babralanyero4928 Год назад

    Have laughed till de end wow

  • @estherkessie
    @estherkessie Год назад +1

    I hear the hottest guys in Kampala, alright let them represent others.....